A CO sues her husband PPO and maintenance , So He will be...

[oldboy69]

Hi dear bros, Please advice my friend that his CO sued him PPO and maintenance issue, so he had fought back on family court and applied divorce.

1, couple both is blue IC chinese nation, woman filed case later 2006 ( ppo AND ms), family court : PPO dismissed and MS 550sgd/m in mid 2007
2, he filed divoce her Feb 2007, many many round conselling, mediations, dragged more than 2 yrs ,latest hearing on Apr 2009, still going... not ending:(
3, He fully supporting his only child studying oversea abt 30,000sgd annual since 2007 not mor saving
4,although they were staying one roof, he had not sex with his OC since 2003, but his OC told Court different storey-still had sex with him b4 Apr 2008.my friend moved out house since mid 2007

It is very appeciate if bros give some ideas to help him to off the suffering.

may he complaints Goverment-"LOL" Family Court had dragging his case so so long?Please.

Thank You Very Much

[Robinhood688]

Hi bro,

I think this is the practice. The court would order a "monitoring" period, hopefully in this period the couple would reconcile. Patience is the word. But if his wife is pushing so hard, it may be wise to engage a lawyer to represent him.

[surbana]

PRC woman are very scheming too. Sad to say that spore rules does protect woman. Your friend need to engage a very good lawyer to fight the case.

[oldboy69]

thanks for contributing ideas, bro. actually he engaged lawyer since end 2006 to fight PPO and divorce, but still not enough?
:confused::confused::confused:

[ahtas]

thanks for contributing ideas, bro. actually he engaged lawyer since end 2006 to fight PPO and divorce, but still not enough?
:confused::confused::confused:
Get a better lawyer then.

[Longitude]

Based on what you've posted it is patently clear that the marriage had broken down irretrievably. For that matter, baring all unforeseen events, your friend is likely to get his divorce. As to the duration, a wait of 2 to 3 years for contested divorce proceedings is not long. It can even take 5 to 6 years to resolve. No use complaining to the authorities. Dont take your friend's solicitor had delayed the matter inordinately.

[sleaguepunter]

He is SCREW. until his wife sign on the dotted line to become ex wife, he will have to continue to endure all this nonsense. The woman charter protect them only.

[Juss]

Hi,

Just to give my 2 cents worth of comments:

I think this woman is not easy to handle and she is really out to dig all the money that she can get.

The law only protect woman in Singapore. I think what you friend could do is to try and negotiate for a lower maintainence and it's quite common for divorce case in Singapore to drag. Usually because both parties disagreed on terms.

It will be easy if one end does not contest on the terms given by the other, then the process will be faster.

Just my 2 cents worth of comments. :)

[Dahu]

Maintenance is never the main issue in divorce proceedings. There are other issues and the distribution of matrimonial assets if substantial may be the stumbling block if the woman has been scorned by the man.

[crashalot]

If his lawyer is doing a good job, let him be. Now that he had moved out the PPO is no longer an issue. The maintenance also can carry on.

The marriage is a short one? If so then the division the man will not be hit too badly. Your fren got a lawyer already, make the lawyer work for it. Different if your friend has no confidence in the lawyer.

[oldboy69]

very simple. get a girlfriend, get your own PI to take photos and send to the wife. quit your job and get the divorce straight. before that if you have private property, in your name transfer to your parents first. HDB then say all the while you paying for it.

say now finance v jialat. then get a maintaince order for $1. kid is "studying overseas" so probably old already. no child maintainence aleady.

finish, end of story.

whos photos will be sent to his wife?what's the purpose? please

if he quited his job, how does he support his son?

[prudent]

very simple. get a girlfriend, get your own PI to take photos and send to the wife. quit your job and get the divorce straight. before that if you have private property, in your name transfer to your parents first. HDB then say all the while you paying for it.

say now finance v jialat. then get a maintaince order for $1. kid is "studying overseas" so probably old already. no child maintainence aleady.

finish, end of story.

A man is under a duty to maintain his child. This is so even if he is broke and unemployed. There is no such thing as a $1/- maintenance order for the child. Its utter rubbish. If you dont know anything, dont give rubbish advice here.

[Longitude]

very simple. get a girlfriend, get your own PI to take photos and send to the wife. quit your job and get the divorce straight. before that if you have private property, in your name transfer to your parents first. HDB then say all the while you paying for it.

say now finance v jialat. then get a maintaince order for $1. kid is "studying overseas" so probably old already. no child maintainence aleady.

finish, end of story.

What kind of advice is this? Havent you heard the saying "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorn"? If the court were to hear this case it will never order a $1.00 maintenance for the child.

[sekkin]

What kind of advice is this? Havent you heard the saying "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorn"? If the court were to hear this case it will never order a $1.00 maintenance for the child.

Ya, I think tat's true. as already said, the courts is on the woman side. Juz hv to play within the perimeters of the rules if u do not want to be on the wrong side of the courts' decision.

[oldboy69]

Ya, I think tat's true. as already said, the courts is on the woman side. Juz hv to play within the perimeters of the rules if u do not want to be on the wrong side of the courts' decision.

dear bros, how?:confused:

[Benefit]

I think what bro sekkin is saying is to refrain from incurring the wrath of the judges by labouring on a point that will not get anywhere.

[Soh1973]

If I recall correctly, the only way to get an immediate divorce or for the courts to issue a decree nesi, or something like that, is for both parties to sign on the dotted lines.

Otherwise, the only way is to file for separation, which is something like two or three years. Upon completion of the separation period, either party can file for divorce.

However, if I am not wrong, during the separation period, both parties cannot stay together. If either party can show concrete evidence that the two parties have not been staying together for more than 2 or 3 years, then that may be grounds to hasten the process. On the other hand, since your friend has been staying together, it may not be counted as separation.

Please take my above with a huge pinch of salt as I'm not a trained lawyer but merely had many friends who went through the same shit.

[oldboy69]

If I recall correctly, the only way to get an immediate divorce or for the courts to issue a decree nesi, or something like that, is for both parties to sign on the dotted lines.

Otherwise, the only way is to file for separation, which is something like two or three years. Upon completion of the separation period, either party can file for divorce.

However, if I am not wrong, during the separation period, both parties cannot stay together. If either party can show concrete evidence that the two parties have not been staying together for more than 2 or 3 years, then that may be grounds to hasten the process. On the other hand, since your friend has been staying together, it may not be counted as separation.

Please take my above with a huge pinch of salt as I'm not a trained lawyer but merely had many friends who went through the same shit.

Thank you very much for your impotant advice. my friend have filed divorve in Feb 07 already and moved out of house Aug 07.the 2 round of hearing will be next week. hope he can get divorce then. thanks a lot, bro.

[oldboy69]

If I recall correctly, the only way to get an immediate divorce or for the courts to issue a decree nesi, or something like that, is for both parties to sign on the dotted lines.

Otherwise, the only way is to file for separation, which is something like two or three years. Upon completion of the separation period, either party can file for divorce.

However, if I am not wrong, during the separation period, both parties cannot stay together. If either party can show concrete evidence that the two parties have not been staying together for more than 2 or 3 years, then that may be grounds to hasten the process. On the other hand, since your friend has been staying together, it may not be counted as separation.

Please take my above with a huge pinch of salt as I'm not a trained lawyer but merely had many friends who went through the same shit.

very appreciate for your support and ideas. Big thanks our bro, my friend got justice --finally he got divoce today after 2nd round hearing.:p,thanks god!

[oldboy69]

the judge announced that divorce officially effective after 3 months,so what 's does it meaning?
1.can he married to his girl now or after 3 month?
2. for property(share the HDB Housing) fight one more round on Family Court again, what's the usual ?50%male, female%.
3. kinds no issue bcz above 21yo.

thanks