Need some views

[t123]

Following my previous thread on OC, this afternoon, I had a chat on phone with a female friend. After more than 10 years of marriage, she discovered her hubby have been having affair since marriage.

They never done it at all, she only lost her V to her ex colleague after 11 years. Her hubby though a management staff, frequent flyer, still asked her for allowances even he earned 7 - 10K/month. He never spend a single cent on family and expect her to do so. He indulge in his PS3 or X Box and Mahjung.

Most of the time, she caught him banging the bolster in their room.

Now she saw his smses with a lady. She just feel numb after so many years of sacrifices. She is also waiting for her career to stabilise and probably ask him to initiate the divorce.

Whats the take from you guys and gals?

[lightning]

It is a failed marriage after all:o

[Compassion]

Following my previous thread on OC, this afternoon, I had a chat on phone with a female friend. After more than 10 years of marriage, she discovered her hubby have been having affair since marriage.

They never done it at all, ........................................

Most of the time, she caught him banging the bolster in their room.



"They never done it at all" meaning they never had sex after 10 years of marriage? What were the reasons?

"banging the bolster" - care to explain the meaning?

[Roman city]

Annulment of marriage is possible since they have not consummated :eek:

Banging the bolster rather than his wife is pretty extraordinary:)

[LentorGarden]

I think both parties will be mutual to a separation. Marriage as it stands, can only work 2 ways as everybody knows. So if its not one way, it must be the other. No point having 2 unhappy people together in a marriage. It will fail sooner or later. Thats just my 2cents worth of views, no offence. Cheers!

[whitegals]

banging the bolster

Wah lau, if he would rather bang the bolster ah, I dunno what to think of his wife....Sorry ah, TS, no offence intended, but to drive a man to go and bang the bolster rather than to have sex with his wife ah, I think he must have been driven to an extreme distance to have to resort to that lor. :o

[Unrepented]

Earn 7 to 10K a month and still ask the wife for money..... dump the SOB.

[GeMiNiZzzzZzz]

家家有本难念的经
We do not know what goes behind this family, what actually push the husband to do that, so how can we pint-point directly to the guy ?
TS only hear from this lady only, so its unfair to blame the man ..
If you want to give suggestion, give a neutralise & generalise one rather than on 1 person itself lah :rolleyes:

[audisingapore]

Hi TS,
don't believe the crab the lady tell you.
Married for 10 years and did not have sex and you believe her.
Since he bonk the bolster mean he is not gay at least not the
one that get bonk.
She is justing trying to hook you up and giving you all the crab.

[gilagila100]

家家有本难念的经
We do not know what goes behind this family, what actually push the husband to do that, so how can we pint-point directly to the guy ?
TS only hear from this lady only, so its unfair to blame the man ..
If you want to give suggestion, give a neutralise & generalise one rather than on 1 person itself lah :rolleyes:

Agree !!! Sometin is plain wrong on both sides or one of them cld be very wrong ... Hard to know for sure

[Big Sexy]

you probably have to ask them why were they married at first.
Alot of things gets sorted out on its own after that...


Whats the take from you guys and gals?

[lglg666]

家家有本难念的经
We do not know what goes behind this family, what actually push the husband to do that, so how can we pint-point directly to the guy ?
TS only hear from this lady only, so its unfair to blame the man ..
If you want to give suggestion, give a neutralise & generalise one rather than on 1 person itself lah :rolleyes:

Agreed with bro GeMiNi's view.....anyway maybe this lady is trying to get on to you. If that is her intention...then just play along with her hor and "Enjoy
the ride", cheers!

[naturegreen]

Hearing the story from just one side is being unfair to the other. Anyway 10 years without any sex........ :rolleyes:. Is their marriage pre-arranged like those in the olden days?

[JanJan1979]

Really wonder why and how come they got married in the 1st place..
And how she managed to "survive" these 10 years with such a marriage..

Weird...:confused:

[GeMiNiZzzzZzz]

Hearing the story from just one side is being unfair to the other. Anyway 10 years without any sex........ :rolleyes:. Is their marriage pre-arranged like those in the olden days?

Wow, thats corny, hehe
Anyhow, still have to see what updates TS giving us lor.
Like some bros here alrdy mentioned several possibilities as for the lady telling him that.
So many why's :confused:

[block11]

They never done it at all....
..
Now she saw his smses with a lady...
..
Whats the take from you guys and gals?

not much info for us to comment... maybe the hubby is gay and those sms are from a guy? :p

[newyorker88]

Following my previous thread on OC, this afternoon, I had a chat on phone with a female friend. After more than 10 years of marriage, she discovered her hubby have been having affair since marriage.

They never done it at all, she only lost her V to her ex colleague after 11 years. ?

She never bedded by hubby? You can believe such a story?

[t123]

At first, she also thot that he is a gay, because he spends more than with friends in Boys Brigade, and he also went hiking with lesbian friends. My friend norm looking, not that bad. Just that she is near to depression when she found out he has a woman outside, but, I suspect maybe a man who send flirty smses and used a woman's name to cover. I am not taking sides just that yesterday chat feels like kenna Gong by a gong.

[t123]

She never bedded by hubby? You can believe such a story?

Hmm, so far I believe from the way she describe her sex knowledge is thru books. One of other friend (Besides her colleague) also up her, said she like no experience at all.

Bang the bolster, she told me she initiate but hubby rather sleep in his game room.

[HCKing]

i think the guy not only doesnt love his wife but also gt huge resentment towards her. spending most of his time with ps3 and pc games are just excuses to avoid communication with her.

[naturegreen]

If a married woman ever sms or tell me she and her husband never have sex before or they do not have sex anymore, I'd most likely take it as a hint she is initiating something with me. ;)

[lightning]

Hmm, so far I believe from the way she describe her sex knowledge is thru books. One of other friend (Besides her colleague) also up her, said she like no experience at all.

Bang the bolster, she told me she initiate but hubby rather sleep in his game room.

BTW wat is ur latest updates:D

[Yyzen]

i think the guy not only doesnt love his wife but also gt huge resentment towards her. spending most of his time with ps3 and pc games are just excuses to avoid communication with her.


ya.. this is so sad.. i would play together with him , if i have hubby like this... ;) and *teh teh* abit :P :o:o

[t123]

BTW wat is ur latest updates:D

She sounded sad, determined to stabilised her career and then go for the split. Now she is juggling 2,3 jobs to pay for her in laws who are staying with her, her own family and sometimes use the money to support his expenses fromt ime to time.

[t123]

not much info for us to comment... maybe the hubby is gay and those sms are from a guy? :p

She did suspect him as gay before, but she now suspect those intimate smses are from a lady.

[GeMiNiZzzzZzz]

All the best.

It not easy to maintain a relationship let alone a marriage when both parties live together.
Singapore got so many divorce cases, its quite sad to always hear that..but sometimes..what to do leh :o