What decision should be make ?

[lonelly]

My GuyFriend-A already ROM with a malaysian girl for 2years ( she got PR liao )

Recently, he get involved with a viet girl and keep sending her money every month because her family really very poor ( Father pass away, mother not working and brother studying )

On another hand, the malaysian girl keep asking my friend-A to get marry

With my GuyFriend-A income, he can only support one ger

What should he do ?

I do not know how to help him

:eek:

[whitegals]

You really want to help? Can, here's a suggestion.

Advise your friend to marry the malaysian gal. It is the honourable thing to do. And based on his income he can only support one gal, so rightfully, he will support his wife, which is his duty as a man.

And you my fren, as his fren, wanting to help him, can send money to the viet gal. Simple? :D

[AhYe]

marry the msia gal...

from wat i read, he is probably hooked on via KC.
go the read the Matters of The Heart part of this forum and u know wat i mean.

[Unrepented]

By the way, "already ROM" means married liao. Your GuyFriend don't have to marry the same malaysian girl twice. Problem solved.:D

Just one malaysian girl in the whole issue, right?

My GuyFriend-A already ROM with a malaysian girl for 2years ( she got PR liao )

Recently, he get involved with a viet girl and keep sending her money every month because her family really very poor ( Father pass away, mother not working and brother studying )

On another hand, the malaysian girl keep asking my friend-A to get marry

With my GuyFriend-A income, he can only support one ger

What should he do ?

I do not know how to help him

:eek:

[Flying Wing]

Think the smarter choice is to stick with the Malaysian gal and if possible, loose the Viet.

The way I see it, the only real solution here for the Viet gal is to take her entire family into yours or out of her environment and into another. But then, even that may not solve the problem.

Sending money over also not say a perm or solid solution. Coz you end up burning a hole in your wallet. Which may eventually become another problem considering how fas inflation moves about these days.

To bluntly put it. Its just not our war, coz the quality and standard of life/living is still not considered to be very similiar. The best option is to go for as normal as possible to your current social enviornment/setting.

Sorry if i'm being too blunt. :(

[BMW Lover]

By the way, "already ROM" means married liao. Your GuyFriend don't have to marry the same malaysian girl twice. Problem solved.:D

Just one malaysian girl in the whole issue, right?

Agreed.


Bro lonelly

Your situation is quite similar to this bro:-

http://www.sammyboyforum.com/adult-discussions-about-sex/149858-xtramarital-affair-anyone-advice.html#post4179608



By the way, how you conversed to the Viet gal. Is it in Vietnamese?

[thaivisitor]

My GuyFriend-A already ROM with a malaysian girl for 2years ( she got PR liao )

Recently, he get involved with a viet girl and keep sending her money every month because her family really very poor ( Father pass away, mother not working and brother studying )

On another hand, the malaysian girl keep asking my friend-A to get marry

With my GuyFriend-A income, he can only support one ger

What should he do ?

I do not know how to help him

:eek:

Did your friend ask you to seek advice on how to help him or not? Did he tells you he cannot cope? Did he tell you that he will leave his Malaysian wife and marry the Viet girl? Are you in a position to tell him what to do which means he will say "OK, since you say do this, I'll do this"? Or does he have a mind of his own and make his own decisions?

If he did not seek help or makes his own decisions, then you better mind your own business.

My 2 baht worth.
Tee Vee

[lglg666]

On another hand, the malaysian girl keep asking my friend-A to get marry.
With my GuyFriend-A income, he can only support one ger
What should he do ?
I do not know how to help him
:eek:

Hello...lonelly,
Don't do a thing...that is my advice to you. He has to learn to take the right path for himself. Btw it is a no-brainer....a stable GF vs a Viet FL???? Yes....so sad that there are lots of FLs having money problem back at home but I can find very few FLs who want to be a "FL" to make their clients happy in return for love.

My 2 cents worth. He won't be thankful to you becoz he may have to lose one girl in the end. He may then blame you for this.

[lglg666]

Or does he have a mind of his own and make his own decisions?

If he did not seek help or makes his own decisions, then you better mind your own business.


Agreed. Yes....this is the best advice by a sn bro!!! This is a "no-win" situation, best to stay out so that when your friend "woke-up" from his nightmare then be there to help him stand up again as a good friend.

[JanJan1979]

How come recently S'pore guys are so "into" Viet gers?

Sending money over every month will not be a permanent solution, whereas it will only burden your friend's expenses even more and how long more can he "tahan" supporting the Viet ger & her family?? :confused:

[skycock]

Tell him that the answer lies within the deepest vault of his heart and to which only he alone holds the key.

[whitegals]

Tell him that the answer lies within the deepest vault of his heart and to which only he alone holds the key.

Wah lau eh, sibei cheeem ah. What does that mean in English ah? :D

[thaivisitor]

Wah lau eh, sibei cheeem ah. What does that mean in English ah? :D

LOL!:D:D:D

Tee Vee

[naturegreen]

..............

Seems to me he sympathises with the Viet girl more then anything else. Do you marry someone just because you sympathise with her? It will not work out in the long run :p

[Urgent26]

recently read a funny book titled money number one. it details the experience of an ang mo in thailand. he recounts how different girls would all tell the same buffalo story ie, the prized animal at home is sick and brother needs school money etc.

somehow i think ts is talking about himself. and i think if ts or friend decides to wake up, they'll probably decide to shoot the buffalo and go hom

[alvinlsk]

R.O.M means REALLY ONLY ME n dats wat every girl wans it from their guys..n as 4 FL means F**K N LEAVE..R.O.M u can save $ n have sex,FL's u can't save $ n hav sexperience..but stil its up 2 ur fren deh 2 decides wats good 4 himself..n as 4 u my fren,its safe 2 MYOB!no offense,just its better b safe den sorry..gudluck!

[lovetorn]

you already have the answer, don't you? and obviously when you posted the question here, somewhere in your mind, you already knew that bros here are going to advise you to get your friend to choose his malaysian gf. it's common sense. noone in the right mind will advice your friend to choose the viet girl. simply because there's no commitment between your friend and that viet girl. how long do they know each other? sex involved already? and in what position is she to get him to send money back to her hometown?

anyway, i believe your friend is old enough to make his own decisions. and if he's thinking straight, he will go back to his gf. offer your friend your own opinions, if he ever ask you for it, but never make the decision for him or influence him to make one.

[lightning]

looks like TS's frd kanna gong tao of kc from the viet, he is not thinking right. so many ppl to help nowadays, y her? Once hooked on feelings that guy must be not thinking straight or rather his brain goes to his dick:D Betterask him to concentrate on his proper GF instead besides this money cannot be earned back once thrown out. We must let our investment to return, not goes into the drain:p

lesson no.1 never develope feelings for FLs as the most of the time the reality is that there is no happy future.

[Big Sexy]

tell him he is a tw@t.. ...

if he is already married.
he should be loyal to his wife.
if there is no love between them anymore..
then ask him to do what a decent man should do and
divorce the wife.
Give her what she rightfully is entitled to.....
half of all his asset and a monthly maintenance fee.

He should then marry the vietnam girl and provide for her..


My GuyFriend-A already ROM with a malaysian girl for 2years ( she got PR liao )What should he do ?