Wanted: R/S advices

[Johnston]

Arite lets get it out of the way, i is no schboi on sch holiday , and this is no shite :rolleyes:

I am currently pursuing this particular uni undergrad gal, so far so good, but there is one fucking problems. I AM TOO FUCKING NICE and im not aggresive enough ,and she thinks im too much of a wuss to be a nice bf or what-have-you.

How the hell do i turn myself from being TOO NICE to not-so-nice? RaR! And yes, i tried several times but i just cannot be nasty. :mad:

[unsung80]

Dun sound like a sissy? Be a man, do what a man suppose to say. How nice are you to this girl, can state some examples?

[Johnston]

And no, i cannot and will not become like Peter CHao

YouTube - Chinese Guy bitches out his Girlfriend (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HsicEIpFBVU&feature=SeriesPlayList&p=0A9D8880B6A6EC2A)

So any hints to become something a bit less than that is very helpful :D

[Bangster]

Oh man Bro Johnston...

you are a lao-cheow leh!! And you've dispense so much advice to the others but here you're asking for our help?? A bit weird leh..

[Johnston]

I am extremely forgiving, i think the world hangs on her every word, and she'll do no wrong and can do no wrong. In short theres aint no fucking way im gonna be nasty and its right now being counterproductive. very counterproductive.

[Johnston]

Even Minster and President needs to seek help sometimes okay.... :rolleyes:
Yes, i need help on this point because I CANNOT BE NASTY to a girl. Call it upbringing, training or whatever else, i cannot be the alpha or beta male she requires.

[Ansel]

When you are too nice to her, she will take you for granted. Unless she is not interested in you if not i don't see anything wrong for being nice. Maybe you should try not contacting her in any form for a few days and see how she react or maybe she likes the "bad boy" factor well anyway good luck in your pursuit then cheers.

[S.B.Y]

Even Minster and President needs to seek help sometimes okay.... :rolleyes:
Yes, i need help on this point .

I hear someone calling me name ;)

Halo Mas Johnston

I second that. Yes being Presiden of Indo Bonk Land also not easy heheheh

[Lancerlord75]

Hi bro,

Wat do u mean by u're too nice??
so she wants a bad-boy kinda guy to be her bf?
in my opinion, just ask her out for a dinner & drinks thereafter.
get her tipsy & make ur move!
What ever happens, if you bonk her.....good for you.
If u dun....and only got around to some lighter stuffs....still....u got her.
After that, pretend nothing ever happened.

[S.B.Y]

Wat do u mean by u're too nice??
.

Halo Mas Lancerlord75

FYI Mas Johnston is a very seasoned campaigner here therefore if he is in a fix now he is definitely asking for sound advis from fellow Mas

Do check out his respectectable posts to fellow Mas with his sound advis

[turbo_slk200]

Yo TS

I dont think you need to be nasty at all....
Nasty is too heavy a word.........

I would think that you just have to be firm and assertive on the things that matters to you. You must have your own character, that will allow other girls to differentiate you from the crowd and be attracted to you.

Things dun change overnight, so dun expect quick-fixes...

As what bro Putra80 said, "True relationship is all about accepting the other party for who they are and if she ain't gonna give two hoots about you, why bother?" , this is the crux of the matter. Even if you cant or dunt change... this person does not deserve your love at all .....

cheers and good luck !

[turbo_slk200]

Bro TS:

Re: Wanted: R/S advices

"Advice" is a non countable noun; you do not add an "s" to make it plural.

"Advice" is like "Rice". You say... "Please pass me the Rice." You don't say "Please pass me the rices" because "Rice", like "advice", is a non countable noun.

There are many other examples. To test your knowledge of non countable nouns, go to English Language Quiz - Countable or Non-countable Nouns (I-TESL-J) and take the test

[Red_Wolf]

Just remain nice. With time she will take you as you are and will even like you for that.

[Savanna]

You could always watch HK Traid movies and learn from there!!!

[cumfast]

I think no girl will want her bf to treat her in a "nasty" way...

[luvuass]

Bro - the bottom line is she wants u to bonk her n thats it

[Johnston]

Yes yes yes dont start tha Advise/Advice/Advices schtick here alrigt?
If you want to get all proper about terms, i should have asked for Relationship pointers and such ok? :rolleyes: Damn whisky. I do not require the services of an English Tutor. :D

1) I do not wish to bang her
2) Her previous Bfs are all the usual sort, i love u, u no fuck me, i piss off and find anoter .
3)there is just somethng one cannot put one finger on. u either love her or not. cant be quantified.

i no longer eat dinner till late, i park myself in front of the computer for hours, i write poems and shite, and everytime the "XXX is typing a message", my heart sortof go on hold till she's done writing.
To illustrate how serious this stuff is, she is not even an singaporean, she's study abroad, and im making plans to go and be a backpacker when i dislike immensely the idea of living like field camp when theres hotels.

In front of her (virtually), i am the perfect Olde Ynglysh Geenteelman, and its all Yes, mdm, no mdm, 3 bags full mdm, would u like a side of lamb and tea on the boil, kindly? Oh, no? Will madam have a snifter of stolichnaya vodka and some canapes? still no? I am at your service.

*mutter.

[KINGor75]

Bro TS:

Re: Wanted: R/S advices

"Advice" is a non countable noun; you do not add an "s" to make it plural.


u sound like someone!!! or u act like someone??

[Johnston]

what what? simi tai chi?
:confused: *takes another drink of whisky.

[mrribena]

TS, did u try feeding back to her best fren about all ur unhappiness? purposely tell the best friend don't tell gf...(but actually will cfm tell ur gf one) so its settle...then KO her...

[Johnston]

Bro from my view i dun think theres no need to be nasty or what.. whats wrong being a nice guy to someone u interested in? who knows maybe tats the point she like about u :confused: just carry on be a nice person and treat her well.. if she does not appreciate it den just carry on in life no point changing yourself for someone who rather u treat her like crap

Didnt you read my first post where i said stuf like TOO NICE doesnt work with thie particular gal in question. To put in another context, right now im acting like Romeo or that Gay Vampire in Twilight (i heard he's gay, i never watch twilght myself).

I understand fully some girls require to be hit or shit like that and thrive on pain, but that's fully the other end of the scale already and i need something in between.

I could start a long rambling post about love and stuff, but we'll confine ourselves to saying this: Humans do not normally seek partners based on completely physical attractiveness, but rather it is something you cant really put your finger on.

It could be the way she cocks her head quizzically, the smile, the way she brushes her hair back or even perhaps how she sits. How she speaks, carries herself, what she knows, how she acts, etc etc. Get the picture?

Shit man today the whisky consumption is fucking higher than normal thats what its is :eek:

[Eclectic]

Is there any public activity that you are really intense or take a lot of pleasure in ? Bring her with you to it and let her see another side of yourself. I once had bout roughly the same sort of episode as yours. Can't help it, just become like so upright and caring understanding type when I met up with this gal.

Did not change my tactics, she did not change her mind either so it was no go. I remember thinking instead of me spending time with her, wouldn't it be better if she spent some time with me doing the things I like so she can see a different me.

It's too late for me now, maybe you can give it a go ?

Hope it help

[Johnston]

*rams hand into the wall, i fucking know that. Dont i? I know i need to be nasty but I JUST CANNOT.

Its like i know these cancer sticks and happy liquids are killing me slowly and surely but I Cant Stop!

THe best part is , the rest of the guys left of their own accord and im the only one left, and the one thing is that im just too nice and i cant be aggressive. thats the barrier to stuff proceeedding.

[Johnston]

One of the reasons why i am so fucking headahce now is because arnt gerls supposed to like the sweet lovng guy and shite? Shouldnt the ideal bf be Romeo or who's that guy from the Butterfly lovers? I made myself into that, now, whether by chance or design, i don't know and let's not go there.

Its getting a very serious problem and its affecting my daily life and lets not even say how much extra whisky and ciggys i is using these days.

[S.B.Y]

Mas Johnston at this juncture I believe its best you recoup momentarily and return with a bang later. :)

[Johnston]

How in hell am i to recoup? Come now, tell me and we'll see what is what. There is not a single word, gesture or text from the particular person in several hours now and the liquor/tobacco consumption is rising at an correspondingly higher rate.

[cmelater]

Be cool man. I was in the same position. Blardy whore was one who was done by at least 4 over guys before, excluding one case where she was raped, after she got drunk.

Her ex did her and took videos. Somemore, she was pregnant, before being asked to go for abortion.

I also wanted to be a hero. Help her get back on her feet. End of the day, no fuck, no touch, no nothing. I end up hurting myself. I also thought the same. Nevermind if no fark, but the gal must reciprocate with her heart....

Ask yourself if its really what you want. We are no immortals. You cannot keep giving, without receiving. Sure will tired, until want to stop trying.

For me, what happened was, after everything..... I got nothing out of the "relationship". It was really farked up. If you want to persist, you will prob end up being like me. Spent months and get back nothing. Its a sucky feeling.

I gave her up, but the whore want to meet still. The response I gave her was.... "fark you". People make decisions. You can't change how people behave, but you can do stuff to protect yourself. Dun hurt yourself over someone... undeserving of your unconditional love. You only have 70 years to live. Why waste your precious life on people who dont bother to reciprocate? Money spent can earn back. But, your life spent... you cannot buy back.

The almighty upstairs v fair one. If the gal is a whore, there is such a thing called retribution. Cheer up.

[S.B.Y]

How in hell am i to recoup? Come now, tell me and we'll see what is what. .

Well Mas Johnston Excuse me for posting in your thread

[BlackerKnighter]

There is not a single word, gesture or text from the particular person in several hours now and the liquor/tobacco consumption is rising at an correspondingly higher rate.

Bro, don't mind me making some honest comment hor. May be you think not muzik to ears but no offense intended so dun take any leh.

Always enjoy the humor of ur posts so just wondering how cum you wind up so tsialat over this one tsabor.. Since you never supply any much details oso realli abit hard to say lar so just bear with my observation and personal account.

Anyway put to you bluntly you just sound like you are OBSESSED with tis person. Definitely not very healthy. Worse still machiam like you completely tio KC liao..and not even coz she put KC trap for you but you totally self-KC urself!!

Also sounds like you attempting a long distance (possibly only virtual level only even..which is like ahem ahermmmmm.. ) r/s. this kind tricky and never easy and depend on many circumstance to make it work. Whatever it is oredi can consider major stumbling block liao. Dont know the exact nature of how you two initially make acquaintance but suffice to say such details CAN BE very indicative of the potential health or trajectory of the r/s.

Don't know you and don't know about you (other than ur posts here) but while I think there might be such a thing as unconditional love, I prefer to think that love of the romantic sort between two consenting adults has to have some degree of mutual agreement to be called 'love' oso mah. Put simply : Takes two hands to clap. Possessiveness, obsessiveness, expectation etc may be part of a r/s but alone oso cannot define love tio bo?

I have no idea why she feels you too nice or what kinda 'bad boy' she wants you to be. Just more 'masculine', confident, assertive and aggro or really bad-assed, naughty, attitudinal and edgy? Is she a so-call 'bad girl' herself?? Is that the image why you attracted to her initially? Would make a diff and explain some shit I think.

When I was much younger BAD GIRLZ ~ killer chicks, indecent vampires, slutty zombies were the sort that seriously attracted me right from when I was a young teenage boy. Somehow I always gravitate towards the freaks and fiercesome outcast type. Despite not quite being an out and out 'bad fella. Hehee Even today decent regular gals just do not turn my head if looking for semi-serious stuff lor. Too boring. Maybe thatz why still single hahaha.

Started with alt indie rocker chick and the damaged serious clubber party animal type.Ang kong seows, self mutilating piercing addicts, minah rokkker motor lians etc. Even older started working etc seems I always managed to get involved as BFF, BF, FB etc of seriously wacko gals. Coz got many thing in common so always easy to talk to and at ease with them. Even the pretty outwardly professional (even half decent sort) yuppy oso turn out to be like serious junkie or have sex addiction, serial cheating whore mentality (even like to keep up her pro-choice credential with regular practical visit to abortion clinic and secretly proud of being so damaged kind leh), troubled childhood, anger management issue etc..tsktsk... itz ugly lah. I never regret (hey less than a handful I realy realy love oso lor) but it kinda scars you too..

Bad Girl? Femme Fatale? Hmph, just an image and identity issue end of day lah. They are hot and edgy I agree and wouldnt want to trade my experience for anything else. But they oso burn. And bite leh..

But nevertheless hor I always still try to be nice guy to them lah. Fact that most of them seem not to like so call normal decent guys or appreciate 'nicceness' did not seem particularly impt to me. And my nice Not in the cliched romantic sense of buying loud flowers and serenading them with bad poetry and cheesy unplugged guitar strumming kind oso la but just try to accommodate n understand their whims and nonsense. Lend them ur ears and share ur honest thoughts and feelings without any expectation gd nuff to begin. Aint no bad boy meself but definitely not a so-called decent gentleman, half-gay metrosexual SNAG who can lao bak sai at 'romantic comedies' (never ever even watch one before EVER..but I cried watching 'Seven Samurai' and 'Braveheart..guess that doesnt count), tua lum par alpha male or smooth talk casanova type oso.

But trust me on this one lah, with a seow tsa bor, you WILL learn eventually to become a seow ta por coz the psychosis is just infectious lor, even if not all the time surely sometimes some day will BURST one lor. You want bad I can oso be BAD. Push me into the corner and just keep push push push what you think will happen, bitch?? But until the trade blow with my swiss army knife vs her kitchen cleaver I is experience before I tell you I oso wish on no one lor. And thatz not counting watching out for their OD, cut wrist, trips to A&E etc. Is the make up sex worth it? You think leh?!!? Living on the edge? Bloody (literally) overrated lor!!! KNN think back oso amazed wor..

If it worked for a while (and it always did and only that) then itz coz I still kept my sanity and kept up my own brand of 'niceness'. Being urself is not a crime in a r/s or friendship if it is to work. And while my nice might not be very nice to some I think it is not nasty at all and definitely nice enough haha. Which oso meant understanding that they need their own space to vent, that they have their own separate inner lives, that they ultimately will say one day dump you for some random angmor (not a racist remark at all but real history) they pick up in a club or some BS 'better' opportunity that comes along etc. Nice nuff haha? Niceness don't mean I was gonna condone their convenient lies or excessive junkie cravings or emo blackmail or no meaning violence. But oso dont mean beat them up, morally condemn them or walk away at first sign of trouble. Just try to reach a balance lor even if it never cums. Its about process and substance involved trying to get there not necessarily the outcome. But still hor ultimately got to know when to make grand exit or quiet retreat la. Ultimately her life is still her life and ur life yours. However much you can love a person you can't make her the only pivot or focus in your life lor. Otherwise who the fuck are you?

Obsession? Tried, done, tested. Dun wanna go there. Its the worst. In the end no point one lah.

Just be yourself. If you cant make and cement a connection with someone else being yourself what is the point, right anot? Change is sometimes good. But to change urself drastic and unilaterally for no other bettah reason than to accommodate the shifting whim of another person is too much to ask of anyone wether the request cum fm u yourself or her lor.

Even if you can make cosmetic changes is it real? And like say a pseudo-'r/s' with a whore, fake thing cannot last one la...one day reality will still crash back one. So why ever be a fake? Why compromise your own sense of self and identity for something that actually depend large part on your honesty, transparncy and sincerity? So again there is really no point. Unless you are into mindfuck games etc but no sound like TS you oso le.. if either side cannot accept the truth of the other really is just illusion left lor no matter how obsess you can be. And illusions are worthless.

Whatever it is that happen, I think you oso ought to relak and try to learn not to be so obsessed and take things a bit easily. Worshipping someone else like machiam deity is a no-no in long term terms.Such obsessive behavior are quite a turn-off and will eventually backfire (unless she's a psycho who gets kicks from such stuff).. Learn to play it a bit cool and perhaps you'd find the situation improve liao lor!

..

Ask yourself if its really what you want. We are no immortals. You cannot keep giving, without receiving. Sure will tired, until want to stop trying.

For me, what happened was, after everything..... I got nothing out of the "relationship". It was really farked up. If you want to persist, you will prob end up being like me. Spent months and get back nothing. Its a sucky feeling.

..People make decisions. You can't change how people behave, but you can do stuff to protect yourself. Dun hurt yourself over someone... undeserving of your unconditional love. You only have 70 years to live. Why waste your precious life on people who dont bother to reciprocate? Money spent can earn back. But, your life spent... you cannot buy back.

HaHa Bro I can so totally understand where you coming from lah. Kana played out and around too many times and not just because I was 'nice' (or not). But for me past is past water under bridge lesson learnt and if got good times despite bad still something valuable to keep. And if all bad taste.....well....still a valuable lesson tio boh?

Anyway it is true that time and tide wait for no one. If some one wants to waste his or her time no point you join in wasting despite knowing very well that outcome is sure tio dissapoint and betray one lah! In life there will be people who take advantage of you and take you for a ride. No point even feeling hate or revenge after it all. Otherwise those smug cunts would have won liao lor thinking they so goddamn great until can leave you affect with such distatste.

[Johnston]

There comes a time when a dying man must die, as a sleepy man must sleep and he knows that it is
wrong
as well as useless
to resist.

There has been no word and if there is no further word im throwing in this particular towel.

[valent]

Arite lets get it out of the way, i is no schboi on sch holiday , and this is no shite :rolleyes:

I am currently pursuing this particular uni undergrad gal, so far so good, but there is one fucking problems. I AM TOO FUCKING NICE and im not aggresive enough ,and she thinks im too much of a wuss to be a nice bf or what-have-you.

How the hell do i turn myself from being TOO NICE to not-so-nice? RaR! And yes, i tried several times but i just cannot be nasty. :mad:

Go get a tattoo on your arm , go pierce your nipple, ear etc etc and get a think silver bangle..that will make u more garang..(haha..just joking..but it works)

[Evetan86]

Arite lets get it out of the way, i is no schboi on sch holiday , and this is no shite :rolleyes:

I am currently pursuing this particular uni undergrad gal, so far so good, but there is one fucking problems. I AM TOO FUCKING NICE and im not aggresive enough ,and she thinks im too much of a wuss to be a nice bf or what-have-you.

How the hell do i turn myself from being TOO NICE to not-so-nice? RaR! And yes, i tried several times but i just cannot be nasty. :mad:

Johnston gege u r just too nice 2 get urself bully by ur gf. If i have a bf like u, i will treat him nicier more than myself.:)

[Johnston]

There is no encouraging word, text, or gesture and the finality of it is Morte!!

I cannot breath one other sigh, to move,
Nor can elicit another tear to fall.
And all my treasures, which should purchase you,
Sighs, Tears, and Oaths, and letters i have spent.


Let's blow this fucking pop stand and head for the bar! Barkeep, a double whisky, keep it coming! :(

[Girl_18]

haha. u r just like my bf which is too kind...but sometimes a girl would rather be friends with such kind ppl instead of going into a r/s imo...

[orangeapples]

Arite lets get it out of the way, i is no schboi on sch holiday , and this is no shite :rolleyes:

I am currently pursuing this particular uni undergrad gal, so far so good, but there is one fucking problems. I AM TOO FUCKING NICE and im not aggresive enough ,and she thinks im too much of a wuss to be a nice bf or what-have-you.

How the hell do i turn myself from being TOO NICE to not-so-nice? RaR! And yes, i tried several times but i just cannot be nasty. :mad:

hmm.. girls generally go through a cycle (albeit there are exceptions and outliers) and have two frames of mind:

When they are younger (generally below 25), they feel that they are young, they can play abit more before settling down. Therefore the profile of the guys that they are looking for are more likely to be the more outgoing, interesting, possibly leaning towards "dangerous" type.

When they are older (generally above 25), had their hearts broken a few times, want to settle down and look for a guy to be with for a couple of years then get married. Typically, they will look for guys who are more financially stable, mature etc, leaning towards "stability"

You may have met her when shes still in the earlier frame of mind. The problem is that its hard to wash away the impressions she has of you. You cant change into a "bad boy" overnight, that will seem fake.

Normally, if you hit it wrongly with a girl, the only way to fix it (that is if you are really determined, I normally just give up and go for another girl) is to give it a period of absence (at least 1 year) then start it on a fresh note all over again. Then again, u will have to profile her mindset correctly and plan the right approach.

Typically, girls want what they can't get. The more it seems too impossible to get, the more they desire it. How you can manage your identity to protray what they want in a guy then manage your interactions (to invoke attraction). These interactions happens along the following cycle: through conversation, you develop chemistry and over time, develop comfort with each other.

I can't explain the fundamentals about girls in one post. If you are interested, you can drop me a pm and I will be happy to share my experiences with you.

[bunnyrabbit]

男人不坏，女人不爱！

[Johnston]

Here we go again with the GUy no bad, Girl no like.
Well answer me this, why then do you girls go crying and other stuff when the Bad Guy starts hitting you, cheating on you, and treating you like a free flipino maid? Yea yea, accept it when your husband comes home and tells you, WAH CCB, LIMBEI JUST HAVE a 3P Sxxsion with 2 x SYT prettier than u , you lao cb! CB biatch, why dont u go and make me a 5 course meal now??? :mad:

I have spoken at length to this particular disdainful dame and there is an end to all this carrying on. Non, nein, BU YAO, etc etc.

[bunnyrabbit]

bro relax lah...i not a gal but very easy to explain lor..
use your buttock think also can..

cos the gals 犯贱 lor..haha...

aiyah this tree cannot find another tree lah..must be so 烦 and be as 犯贱 as them meh..so 死缠烂打?

[yohooo]

Here we go again with the GUy no bad, Girl no like.
Well answer me this, why then do you girls go crying and other stuff when the Bad Guy starts hitting you, cheating on you, and treating you like a free flipino maid? Yea yea, accept it when your husband comes home and tells you, WAH CCB, LIMBEI JUST HAVE a 3P Sxxsion with 2 x SYT prettier than u , you lao cb! CB biatch, why dont u go and make me a 5 course meal now??? :mad:

I have spoken at length to this particular disdainful dame and there is an end to all this carrying on. Non, nein, BU YAO, etc etc.

bro, the bad guy need not hit or cheat on the girl to be 'bad'. i think the girl has taken u for granted. like when she needs u, u are always there, when she dont need u, u are still there. i suggest MIA for 1-2 days once in a while(it hurts not to talk to someone u like, but u just got to do it for the better). must let the relationship undergo some testing.

if u are always there for her, it might not be good. u said she's studying overseas, so chances are she's very independent. so i think she might find u being there for her sometimes a nuisance. this is what a friend of mine having his girlfriend overseas. when she need u, u are there(sometimes not there to let her know u're irreplaceable), when she dont need u, occasionally be there for her to let her know u care for her.

[Silver5]

Yes yes yes dont start tha Advise/Advice/Advices schtick here alrigt?
If you want to get all proper about terms, i should have asked for Relationship pointers and such ok? :rolleyes: Damn whisky. I do not require the services of an English Tutor. :D

1) I do not wish to bang her
2) Her previous Bfs are all the usual sort, i love u, u no fuck me, i piss off and find anoter .
3)there is just somethng one cannot put one finger on. u either love her or not. cant be quantified.

i no longer eat dinner till late, i park myself in front of the computer for hours, i write poems and shite, and everytime the "XXX is typing a message", my heart sortof go on hold till she's done writing.
To illustrate how serious this stuff is, she is not even an singaporean, she's study abroad, and im making plans to go and be a backpacker when i dislike immensely the idea of living like field camp when theres hotels.

In front of her (virtually), i am the perfect Olde Ynglysh Geenteelman, and its all Yes, mdm, no mdm, 3 bags full mdm, would u like a side of lamb and tea on the boil, kindly? Oh, no? Will madam have a snifter of stolichnaya vodka and some canapes? still no? I am at your service.

*mutter.

What's up with that man? how come u're being weird to the extent that u actually really felt weird doing that? You should be doing things that will constantly keep you into her mind all day~
Give her a chance to miss you~ Let her say where is 'HE'? He's not around here to make me feel good~(am i missing him?)
Is he with another woman!!?? if she ever start thinking that way, u've conquer her heart already~ Since u care not about fulfilling ur own lust with her body, i think that u'll be better off disappearing for a few days.
Spend more time on yourself than on her, even other ladies(let her know~ :P)
Let me tell you, you'll be treated much better than you're feeling now~

[Johnston]

bro, the bad guy need not hit or cheat on the girl to be 'bad'. i think the girl has taken u for granted. like when she needs u, u are always there, when she dont need u, u are still there. i suggest MIA for 1-2 days once in a while(it hurts not to talk to someone u like, but u just got to do it for the better).
if u are always there for her, it might not be good. u said she's studying overseas, so chances are she's very independent. so i think she might find u being there for her sometimes a nuisance. .

Hey, you know what, that's a pretty good idea. Im always here waiting on perm standby, the thing that can be had straightaway, we'll esteem it of less value than what we dont. :cool:

*hums john waite - missing you. No, i ain't missing you at all, since you've been gone away...

By the way Mr Bunnyrabbit, i do not speaker the Chinese so well. WHat u mean ahh???? I do not subscribe to the idea that treating women bad = long relationship yes. If so, why are there so many divorce case/?? Right.... hubby, u just screw 10 women this week, never mind, come home got food to eat k? I take care of your baby for u today, tommorow u want any pointer to chase tat office intern? RIGHT.... this kind of shite happens...... i believe....

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Bro Johnston, Sober up ! Didn't post for past few days and was kind of shocked after reading about you downing glasses after glasses of whisky!

Me think you’re crazy about her and you’re starting to really fall for her. Nothing wrong with you. You just trying to treat her nice and respect her while hoping that you don’t get screwed for being a Nice guy. Hahaha…..Urban myth has it that nice guys = boring guy (the reason why women leave them) = finish last and girls love to be treated like crap. Now, I am sure all of us certainly don’t like being treated like crap. We have too much respect for ourselves to tolerate that. Same goes for girls. IMHO, it really depends on the person. Be yourself is most important. A girl will like you just the way you are, though the best is a little of both – Nice and Not-So-Nice (Not Nasty!). The MAIN reason behind “nice guys finish last” is when a guy SIMPLY thinks that being nice is all they have to do. Wahahahaha :p

Hey man! From what I read about your previous postings in other threads, you’ve got an active life and an old bird here. So I will cut it short: Girls/Women nowadays like to be treated like we’ve got something going for us other than "her." We need to only let them comprises a "small portion" of our life, 30-35% rather than 50% or more, then chances are we’ll be able to be a nice guy and she won’t look down on us. If we seem desperate or as though she’s worth more than we are, she’s going to abandon us in no time!!!

Be "nice" but don’t be a faggot or let any girl walk on us, keep our self respect and KNOW that there are tons of girls’ out there. Talk like she is special and treat her like she isn’t but work on being a "Good" man, not necessarily a "Nice" man. Be Respectful and Polite. Be Confident, Secure, Autonomous, In Control of Our Life aka MANLY!!. Don’t make your world revolve around her, and you will be fine. Good luck and a Cong Xi Fatt Chai to you :)

[bunnyrabbit]

By the way Mr Bunnyrabbit, i do not speaker the Chinese so well. WHat u mean ahh???? I do not subscribe to the idea that treating women bad = long relationship yes. If so, why are there so many divorce case/?? Right.... hubby, u just screw 10 women this week, never mind, come home got food to eat k? I take care of your baby for u today, tommorow u want any pointer to chase tat office intern? RIGHT.... this kind of shite happens...... i believe....

Well johnston san..always believe what goes around come around..well to explain my sentence to you in english..

dun be a fool by waiting for them..if they want to be a slut then let tehm be..you do not need to go to their level k..

understand now?? :D

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

What Bro bunnyrabbit meant was:

犯贱 = Lowly or Cheapo
死缠烂打 = Ingratiation

Just like we sometimes tell a girl off: 你别死缠着我，人家不愿意嘛 - Don't keep pestering me, I don't want you :)

Not hitting any girls :)

[bunnyrabbit]

What Bro bunnyrabbit meant was:

犯贱 = Lowly or Cheapo
死缠烂打 = Ingratiation

Just like we sometimes tell a girl off: 你别死缠着我，人家不愿意嘛 - Don't keep pestering me, I don't want you :)

Not hitting any girls :)
wah bro ichigo..your ang mo VERY GOOD!!

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Bro bunnyrabbit, thanks. I was just trying to make sure no misinterpretation of messages & meanings :)

[Johnston]

hai, hai, honto des, wakarimasen. Arigato gozaimasu, kurosaki-san.

There's an end to it when there is no reply for a godawful long time. Mutter.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

.....There's an end to it when there is no reply for a godawful long time. Mutter.

Just hang in there, bro. It's only few days no reply. It's won't do any justice to all the downed whisky and hangovers if stop now. :)

[BlackerKnighter]

hai, hai, honto des, wakarimasen. Arigato gozaimasu, kurosaki-san.

There's an end to it when there is no reply for a godawful long time. Mutter.

Haha may be wrong but think you meant in tis context 'wakarimashita' or 'wakarimasu' and not 'wakarimasen' si boh?

Aiyah, tsa bor dunch have can find back one. But lose urself, ur selfhood, ur self-respect, self-esteem, self-belief, self-image and self-identity wat u want to use to buy them back??? Cannot is cannot one..

I see some of my buay kan esp married acquaintance trade any sense of their previous self to keep up with the doting hubby zealously devoted father image is oso kinda sad. Not that there is anything bad with putting ur family 1st but until got to kill ALL that is ur previous self si mi point leh?

See them becum robot and zombie and template by the boring book stereotype oso cheo ka peng. Not even talking about fucking whores or having multiple partners (coz think like dat oso damn loser oso lor) but is THAT all there is to life? Whoa might as well close shop early?!

Anyway u oso never supply many details but I suspect the 'r/s' is may be more in ur head than anything.. so fuck it lah. Next time juz be a bit more relak kao liao. Like the shinigami bro said be urself and autonomous. Your partner is not and can not be the only central focus of your life. Obsession isnt love, just an immature, selfish and childish need to possess. Keep the channels open but dun keep waiting for something that may never come oso lah. Chillax..

[Cheonging101]

Bro TS, you sound drunk. :rolleyes:

As for your question on why women still pine after their BFs/Husbands treat them like shit, I would also like to ask you why you still pine after this chabor after she treat you like shit?

What makes you any different from them?

Everyone is unique, so we cannot give you advice that would definitely work. Come to think of it, why do you want someone who cannot appreciate you? If you like to deprive some other woman who is more deserving of you, I also got nothing to say.

[bunnyrabbit]

Bro TS, you sound drunk. :rolleyes:

As for your question on why women still pine after their BFs/Husbands treat them like shit, I would also like to ask you why you still pine after this chabor after she treat you like shit?
Everyone is unique, so we cannot give you advice that would definitely work. Come to think of it, why do you want someone who cannot appreciate you? If you like to deprive some other woman who is more deserving of you, I also got nothing to say.

bro fully agree with wat u said! find someone more deserving!

[HumpBackOak]

go out, fuck a few other women first.

then when you come back, see if you think she's still as good, as the pedestal you put her on.

the rule is simple, never be obsessed about a girl unless you're already sleeping with her.

if she's already getting what she wants from you and your company without having a relationship with you. why would she want to make you her bf to begin with?

[Johnston]

Bro TS, you sound drunk. :rolleyes:

As for your question on why women still pine after their BFs/Husbands treat them like shit, I would also like to ask you why you still pine after this chabor after she treat you like shit?

What makes you any different from them?

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*rams hand into the wall again. BECAUSE. I still love her goddamnit.
There are a dozen songs, words, and other such i can submit for her perusal, but they shall have no effect on HER because she has not spoken for a full day and more and at this rate i shall perish of cirrhosis of the liver soon.

Yes, i am fucking drunk now. Im downing E-33 and im switching to Amsterdam 8.4 ABV and later for shit and giggles 11.4 ABV. The good old whisky is on standby and it's Chivas Regal today.

I have the ability to type coherently even when im half drunk. ;)

[HumpBackOak]

*rams hand into the wall again. BECAUSE. I still love her goddamnit.
There are a dozen songs, words, and other such i can submit for her perusal, but they shall have no effect on HER because she has not spoken for a full day and more and at this rate i shall perish of cirrhosis of the liver soon.

Yes, i am fucking drunk now. Im downing E-33 and im switching to Amsterdam 8.4 ABV and later for shit and giggles 11.4 ABV. The good old whisky is on standby and it's Chivas Regal today.

I have the ability to type coherently even when im half drunk. ;)

women and men are alike, we respond to what we are used to responding to.

the question is not whether you are true to her or not but whether you are able to get her attention first.

get her first, then show her you are different from the others, so she will stay.

NEVER show her you are different first and hopes that she responds. because people never do.

by sucking up to her and hanging on, you are lowering your value to her eyes.

never let someone be the priority when you are just an option to fall back on.

show that you have social value, that you are having fun in life without her, that you have your own life and she must want to be part of it. A lifestyle she wants to be part of.

I'm sharing my own experience, in fact bad experience. I'm pretty sure short of not being able to get pregnant (cos i'm a guy), and catching STD/AIDS. I've got a truck load of bad experiences. Wasted years of my life being zombified cos of women.

I don't want people to go down the same path as i did in the past. ;)

[Johnston]

Haha may be wrong but think you meant in tis context 'wakarimashita' or 'wakarimasu' and not 'wakarimasen' si boh?

Aiyah, tsa bor dunch have can find back one. But lose urself, ur selfhood, ur self-respect, self-esteem, self-belief, self-image and self-identity wat u want to use to buy them back??? Cannot is cannot one..

..

My signature does not include "Ability to type romanji, katakana, kanji" :D
*rams hand into wall again.
IT WASNT TOO FUCKING LONG AGO we spoke online for hours at times, and other such. Look, she comments on this picture! Look, she's a friend of this person now! She writes on this wall, she likes this picture, she has new chickens , she has so many other stuff!

BUT!
She has no time. For ME.
There's an end to all this, the longing, the want, all the others. I am done with her.

[BlackerKnighter]

I'm sharing my own experience, in fact bad experience. I'm pretty sure short of not being able to get pregnant (cos i'm a guy), and catching STD/AIDS. I've got a truck load of bad experiences. Wasted years of my life being zombified cos of women.

I don't want people to go down the same path as i did in the past

Hahaha..second that totally as I have been there much the same.

In the end, what the fuck for lah? Nothing to do with tsa bor being women per se but just that some people irregardless of sex are just nutty, manipulative, scheming, dishonest, cruel, sadistic and lot more!

You can give so much and even if you not expecting something similar back, a little decency, transparaency and consideration ONCE IN A WHILE oso like beyond them kind. Yes you zombified so what..you think will move their hearts or minds arh? In the end not useful not novel they will throw you aside without second thought like machiam u worst than dirt hor! If cum back only is to use somemore and then sandpaper your wound somemore!!You think you becum alcoholic or schizofuck or end up hospital they care meh? Only to the extent that they can boast to themselves how great they are at destruction lor..pweee!!

Valuable lesson..thatz all there is to it all lah... Hate, revenge bitterness oso no meaning one in the long run.

Anyway from what little TS say I doubt he and his friend are at that kind of level yet. All obsessions are destructive but worst ones are the ones you doing to yourself and other party is happy laughing while abetting you to your doom. Bro Johnston donch think you near that at all yet but just be careful hor.

[bunnyrabbit]

this is what we call a one sided love..."dan lian" lah...
always got a bad ending to it...get over it and move on bro!