What will u do if yr gf working freelance???

[primero]

My gf is working freelance,i'm sad that she did this to me? I've to swallow it & pretend dat nothing happen. She will get angry & frustrated when we talk abt this. The more she angry,the more she want to work. We love each other deeply,she said not i cannot buy her everything. She will not regret that she choose this line,but why she dosen't feel how i feel??? Its very hurtfull,what if she will me??? Can someone advise me wat to do????

[sun814]

My gf is working freelance,i'm sad that she did this to me? I've to swallow it & pretend dat nothing happen. She will get angry & frustrated when we talk abt this. The more she angry,the more she want to work. We love each other deeply,she said not i cannot buy her everything. She will not regret that she choose this line,but why she dosen't feel how i feel??? Its very hurtfull,what if she will me??? Can someone advise me wat to do????

maybe u did not give her enough assurance, love and patience to make her have enough sense of security for her to leave this line of work. that's my view n my personal experience as my wife is an ex-fl, i need to put in double, 3-times and even 4-times the effort than in a normal gf-bf relationship to give her this kind of assurance and security. she can get quite paranoid at times and thus short-temper, but i have all the patience, tolerance and good-temper (i think not many men has all that) although i sometimes really feel mentally stressed and tired. so if u think she is the one for me, u have to be mentally prepared to face them even in the long-term.

[kindguy]

hi bro,

u mentioned ur gf say not bcos u can't give her everything, then means wad? u know the reason why she go into this line? from there maybe u can see how or wad to do to persuade her not to go into this line... but i do surprise u say ur gf will not regret to go into this line.. why so? u may wan to find out the reason behind all these.. and see wad to do next..

but on my own personal view, no offence to you or anyone.. u think abt the below qns,
1. you say u all deeply in love with each other.. i believe u r but u think ur gf really deeply in love with u.. if so why she really must choose to go into fl,.. and somemore can say will not regret to go into fl?
2. will u mind ur gf or maybe become wife in future.. that ur gf do with a lot and all kind of guys?
3. if she do fl with diff kinds of guys... will she be "safe" enough for u? i mean in future get any kinds of disease..

the above are just my own personal view.. no offence to anyone... if offend anyone.. i apologise here...

[sun814]

hi bro,

u mentioned ur gf say not bcos u can't give her everything, then means wad? u know the reason why she go into this line? from there maybe u can see how or wad to do to persuade her not to go into this line... but i do surprise u say ur gf will not regret to go into this line.. why so? u may wan to find out the reason behind all these.. and see wad to do next..

but on my own personal view, no offence to you or anyone.. u think abt the below qns,
1. you say u all deeply in love with each other.. i believe u r but u think ur gf really deeply in love with u.. if so why she really must choose to go into fl,.. and somemore can say will not regret to go into fl?
2. will u mind ur gf or maybe become wife in future.. that ur gf do with a lot and all kind of guys?
3. if she do fl with diff kinds of guys... will she be "safe" enough for u? i mean in future get any kinds of disease..

the above are just my own personal view.. no offence to anyone... if offend anyone.. i apologise here...

no doubt what u said maybe very valid, but she may have said all those out of anger. of course u have to accept her past if u were to accept her as ur gf/wife (of course on the condition that she will leave this line). so TS, how long have u been knowing each other?

[Joea]

Can someone advise me wat to do????

You know what you should do, you just want to know if others will do the same thing in your shoes.

Do what has to be done.

[sbftiankon]

We love each other deeply,she said not i cannot buy her everything.


Bro sorry to ask, how you confirm your love each other deeply?

I think most important is find out the true reason first before any advice. :rolleyes:

[liberatte]

love can't turn into rice to eat and will definately not turn into prada or gucci. Do you earn enough to give her those? Imho, she is materialistic and if you can't take it, then move on.

[alphacrimson]

Hi bro,

I had the similar experience, where true really change my gal, however effort is being put in for both party to understand each other feeling. whereby the "will not regret" situation also happened before. I never blamed her or being nasty, however a nice talk with understand and gentleness might help.

wish you all the best

Just my comment.

[TheGreatOne]

My gf is working freelance,i'm sad that she did this to me? I've to swallow it & pretend dat nothing happen. She will get angry & frustrated when we talk abt this. The more she angry,the more she want to work. We love each other deeply,she said not i cannot buy her everything. She will not regret that she choose this line,but why she dosen't feel how i feel??? Its very hurtfull,what if she will me??? Can someone advise me wat to do????

TS, have you asked her the reason of her doing this line?

If she cite more money as a her reason then you have to self check, are you able to provide her the same luxurious lifestyle if she is to quit for you?

If you can, then go ahead save her from her 'misery'.

If you can't then don't bother persuading her because you're only blocking her 'cai lu'. (not GIRO hor)

[chucky69]

I guess you must be in your 20's and suffering from one of your first love.

My advice - DUMP HER and MOVE oN. There are millions of fishes in the ocean.

Secondly, you can go out and pay for another FL in this forum and f...k her stupid and tell your gf you enjoyed it.
Also there are lots of local girls wanting a dick every nite, so what are you waiting for.

A bit of growing for you, my friend.

[Xgenre]

Who is this mean girl? How can she talk like that to you and hurt you this way? Let me know who she is and i'll go talk to her for you. Then I will write an honest FR on her for you to read.

Maybe after that, you will wake up to reality and move on. She clearly loves money more than you. What will I do if my gf is a FL? I will move on.

[monstar]

ask her to quit if not move on man....she doesnt love you at all....

[tigerprawn]

TS, just curious how you found out that your "gf" is working as FL? Also, how did you meet this gf? Is she a PRC you met at night club or studying here on student pass? All these answers will provide a lot of insight into your matter. From your short post it is apparent there is more than meets the eye. Maybe she is already in this FL line for some time already before you met her. As opposed to a scenario where you are dating a local Singapore young girl who was not a FL when she became your gf but suddenly decided to work as a FL. You need to provide more facts bro. :)

[jasper10]

Bro, dont mind... Break off! Alot of flower outside...

[dromedary]

There is no right or wrong thing to do. The answer to your problem lies in a vault in your heart to which you alone holds the key. Always note that only the wearer knows where the shoe pinches.

[Furion]

If I encounter your situation, can only break off. I think no matter how hard I try to accept and continue on, will end up be a lost cause so no point delaying the inevitable. For me that is.

[primero]

tks all bros for all yr comments. i greatly appreciate. de reason she decided to work fl is she wanted to hav lots of money but i tink she dun need dat.her family at her hometown all quite rich,each of them hav their own car,hse & shop. so she wan to follow thier footstep,her family kept asking her to go back.they can provided her anything,even her mum told me dat she wan to rent a shop for her to let her do her own things n buy her a car for her but she dun wan. she wants to b independent,she told me dat even if she leaves here,at least she must hav 1 of those 3 dat earn by herself w/o any help. she told me dat i cant gif her wat she wants. i admitted dat i cant fulfill her wish at de moment,i only earn 1k+ to 2k+ . she oso dun wan me to spent a lot of money on her,she told me to save for our future. she will said money hard to earn,but she should noe how i feeled when she do dat thing wif other guys. its so painful,sometimes i really cant take it. i need to swallow it n pretend nothing has happen. i noe her fr fl as well,she jus started fl less den a mth b4 we met. i tot she'll quit if we were together. we only noe each other ard 2mths but we love n care each other a lot. she would said dat i should get prepared since i noe her fr fl. but who would like to b in tis line? no one likes too unless they really in need of money. but i dun understand y she said dat she wun regret since she choose tis path????? she only earn 1k+ a mth,room 500 left not much oso + she got a lots of cosmetic. i hope 1 day,she kanna caught by av,banned her fr enterin singapore. den my mind can rest. how i wish y i dun met her earlier??? if i met her 1mth earlier mayb everything will changed.....

[Erasure]

tks all bros for all yr comments. i greatly appreciate. de reason she decided to work fl is she wanted to hav lots of money but i tink she dun need dat.her......... i tot she'll quit if we were together. we only noe each other ard 2mths but we love n care each other a lot. she would said dat i should get prepared since i noe her fr fl. but who would like to b in tis line? ................kanna caught by av,banned her fr enterin singapore. den my mind can rest. how i wish y i dun met her earlier??? if i met her 1mth earlier mayb everything will changed.....

I think u need to wake up ur idea bro...wat the hell are u doing with a whore? Wat future do u have when she talks trash like tat? Are you in love or simply lonely...if u are afraid to be alone and wish to have a partner, there is another way for u to purchase real love...the legal way.....go matchmake agency look for proper Vietnam / Filippino / China brides.....got alot of good gals out there to be matchmake....some even virgins....although cost quite abit for a start...it is a worthwhile and long-term investment...better anytime with the whore that u are having right now.

[mr_missile]

de reason she decided to work fl is she wanted to hav lots of money but i tink she dun need dat.her family at her hometown all quite rich,each of them hav their own car,hse & shop. so she wan to follow thier footstep,her family kept asking her to go back.they can provided her anything,even her mum told me dat she wan to rent a shop for her to let her do her own things n buy her a car for her but she dun wan. she wants to b independent,

but she should noe how i feeled when she do dat thing wif other guys. its so painful,sometimes i really cant take it. i need to swallow it n pretend nothing has happen.
i noe her fr fl as well,she jus started fl less den a mth b4 we met. i tot she'll quit if we were together. we only noe each other ard 2mths but we love n care each other a lot. she would said dat i should get prepared since i noe her fr fl. but who would like to b in tis line? no one likes too unless they really in need of money.

if i met her 1mth earlier mayb everything will changed.....

Dear TS, what I am going to say may hurt you. It's my honest opinion.

I think you should wake up from your dream. She is obviously not caring enough of your feelings. Money is the world to her now. She came from a well-to-do background. She does not need to do FL. Yet?

Heck, how can she say she loves you and then go screw other men, and countless men at that? Where does she put you?

I believe love does happen anywhere. And you do sound to be in love with her. But how sure are you of her feelings for you? I believe she will quit if she has found love with you. Like you said, there is no reason for her to continue as she does not need the money, and she 'loves' you.

So TS, time to wake up liao.

[sbftiankon]

TS, just curious how you found out that your "gf" is working as FL? Also, how did you meet this gf? Is she a PRC you met at night club or studying here on student pass? All these answers will provide a lot of insight into your matter. From your short post it is apparent there is more than meets the eye. Maybe she is already in this FL line for some time already before you met her. As opposed to a scenario where you are dating a local Singapore young girl who was not a FL when she became your gf but suddenly decided to work as a FL. You need to provide more facts bro. :)

Bro you very correct bring up the point.
World cup win alot? :D

Dear TS, what I am going to say may hurt you. It's my honest opinion.

I think you should wake up from your dream. She is obviously not caring enough of your feelings. Money is the world to her now. She came from a well-to-do background. She does not need to do FL. Yet?
So TS, time to wake up liao.

Bro well say !! strong agree to you ;)

TS just enjoy with her as spare gf and don't put your KC.

[shark89]

how i wish y i dun met her earlier??? if i met her 1mth earlier mayb everything will changed.....

But sad to say, fate is playing a cruel trick on you.
I personally hope that she will leave FL. However, looking at how determined she is to make money, it is unlikely she will quit.
I don't know how you can pretend nothing is happening. I for one cannot accept. :(

[alan0338]

TS aka TM, good luck... :D

[ttrax]

Good advice from all the senior bros out there!!
Have to agreed with them. Money makes the world goes round!! :)

Option 1.
Workhard and girls will come to you. (For ur money or your love, u decide)

Option 2.
Pray hard on Wed, Sat & Sun for ur 4D number. Or u can go for the toto. :)

Life is all about perspective. Move on and u may find a better gf.. (Maybe from china :D )

[tigerprawn]

TS, let me try to get the facts straight here.

Are you saying you patronised a FL (assumably a PRC), paid her money to have sex with her, then from that commercial transaction you decided that you had fallen in love with her and both of you became bf/gf? I am really curious what is your definition of bf/gf here? You continue patronising her (meaning you become a regular customer)? Or you getting free sex now with her and spends quality time with her outside of bedroom doing normal things which bf/gf do together?

Based on what are you making the statement that she considers you as her REAL boyfriend and not just a "good" customer? Just trying to figure out what is your REAL status in her eyes to even begin trying to make sense of this entire matter.

Is this your first FL?

One thing almost certain, she does not really love you. She may like you but not love you. Or she may even love you a little but not sufficient. Woman, FL or not, if and when they really fall in love fall in love madly and will be willing to anything for the man she loves. Based on her decisions, however you try to justify why she is doing it, she obviously does not reciprocate your level of love.

Sorry to burst your bubble bro, but she is not your soul mate.

[1128138]

simple,just get as many free fxxk before she go back home town,so you can save a lot of $$ to get(buy) a real gf.:D

[alanthegreat]

My gf is working freelance,i'm sad that she did this to me? I've to swallow it & pretend dat nothing happen. She will get angry & frustrated when we talk abt this. The more she angry,the more she want to work. We love each other deeply,she said not i cannot buy her everything. She will not regret that she choose this line,but why she dosen't feel how i feel??? Its very hurtfull,what if she will me??? Can someone advise me wat to do????

she is materialistic. dump her.

[Razzer]

Her reason for going into FL is really lame. Sound like something cooked up.

If you still want her but cannot accept her fl, then tell her to look for you when she is done with it. Try not to do it this way tho, make it a clean break.

[sbftiankon]

simple,just get as many free fxxk before she go back home town,so you can save a lot of $$ to get(buy) a real gf.:D

Enjoy Enjoy Enjoy and Enjoy :D:D:D

[Eager2enter]

TS, let me try to get the facts straight here.

Are you saying you patronised a FL (assumably a PRC), paid her money to have sex with her, then from that commercial transaction you decided that you had fallen in love with her and both of you became bf/gf? I am really curious what is your definition of bf/gf here? You continue patronising her (meaning you become a regular customer)? Or you getting free sex now with her and spends quality time with her outside of bedroom doing normal things which bf/gf do together?

Based on what are you making the statement that she considers you as her REAL boyfriend and not just a "good" customer? Just trying to figure out what is your REAL status in her eyes to even begin trying to make sense of this entire matter.

Is this your first FL?

One thing almost certain, she does not really love you. She may like you but not love you. Or she may even love you a little but not sufficient. Woman, FL or not, if and when they really fall in love fall in love madly and will be willing to anything for the man she loves. Based on her decisions, however you try to justify why she is doing it, she obviously does not reciprocate your level of love.

Sorry to burst your bubble bro, but she is not your soul mate.


TS bro, Bro tigerprawn made some very good points.

u should really reassess ur status with your "gf".

[my_preek]

Thanks for sharing / seeking advise TS.

I want to let you know we feel for you. However much advise you will get from this thread will not help, unless you help yourself. LONG PAIN WHY NOT SHORT PAIN.

Good luck.

[tatata21]

nothing, because she won't be my gf as soon as I know it...

[topcook1]

Break off lar....she is materialistic ...anyway how did u found out?

[ADT007]

You went into a relationship with a FL and you expect it to be a normal one ? :rolleyes:

She is just treating you as an emotional pillar only i think.

Downgrade her from gf to fb. This way you can enjoy free bonks and laugh at the others who had to pay to bonk her. :D

[JumpinJackFlash]

Dear TS,
There really is a serious problem here between you and your gf. Like Bro sun said, accepting a spouse's past requires great conviction and forgiveness. That's the past!!! But we are taliking about the present circumstances.

Man, you are dealing with someone you profess to truly love and yet she's wants to continue doing FL. Like many bros before me this relationship is certainly one way. I have not personally heard of a woman becoming and continue to be a chicken when she's in a serious relationship with another man unless....... struck by some serious economic problems or complete bf sexual impotence.

If lovestruck, people don't think straight. Please rationalise what you are going thru and make a wise choice of a life partner.

[sonny]

I don't think many guys can accept this. Why don't you ask her if she can accept you being a gigolo?

[newbieboy]

which FL is this, i first one to boycott and not give her business! :cool:

(unless you're one of the carrot heads every FL i'm friends with tell me about... :rolleyes:)

[esys_d]

Bro, sorry to hear that man...It must be hurting you and making you feel down. Anyway bro, you said that you guys are deeply in love. If a couple is deeply in Love they will surely not do anything to hurt the other party. Well I guess she is hurting you and by what she is doing do you think she loves you??? Question yourself. If I were in your shoes, I will for sure leave her. In the start you will feel sad and down but after sometime you will be fine. If you prolong this it is going to be a torture to you. Suffer once and for all. Also if she really loves you she will come back to you when you leave her. My advice leave her and move on like other bros said lots of fishes in the sea....Well love is about sacrifice and if she loves you a lot she will sacrifice for you! Think about that bro and good luck!

[richie_rich]

Anyway bro, you said that you guys are deeply in love. If a couple is deeply in Love they will surely not do anything to hurt the other party.
Well I guess she is hurting you and by what she is doing do you think she loves you???
Well love is about sacrifice and if she loves you a lot she will sacrifice for you!

If she truly loves you, she will stop. Are you then willing to let her past be the past?

I find it difficult to understand why she does not want to stop since she is not really in dire financial straits and yet she claims to love you.

Then again, even if she is in financial need, there is always a way out, especially the 2 of you are 'deeply' in love.

You have to convince her of your unwavering love for her. And that you will be there for her always. Be ever ready to give her your full support. Be prepared to work very hard for your future. Should not be a problem for you if you truly love her. Right?

[shchen]

Just let her goes; do not waste the time on her. 长痛不如短痛, 这是无言的结局.

[goodpartner]

I've gfs who were fl then left the scene because of "love" for me. Most will bill out on money matters (great litmus test for playing with FLs).

The most serious one had the relationship going for YEARS, she's still dependent on me for livelihood with no sign of her wanting to do FL again... but logic tells me she has no way to survive without income if I ever break off with her. FL usually have no skills, lazy to work, etc.

During one of the heated quarrels, the hero me made her vowed she'll never do FL ever again in her life-time, even if I'm no longer with her in future. In fact, all hell will break loose whenever I mention her past now.

As in all wannabe saviors, If our ex-FL gf go back working as FL, we'll feel like a damn big failure, as we're supposed to be that prince in shinning armor on horse back who saved her from her life misery - LoL...in my case only to land her in another misery waiting indefinitely for me... or else. :rolleyes:

So now I L-L have to keep her around, knowing that if I dump her, she "may" end up back in the trade or suffer the consequence of that very poison vow/swear. (She's very religious)

To answer TS question; What can I do? Make sure she don't have an excuse to do FL again; perhaps by ensuring that I can continue to keep such expenses very affordable and hope that one day she'll grow out of it or find another prince to save her (from me). :D

[Floss]

TS,

There are plenty of ways to earn a living. Why did your "gf" choose to do FL in the first place??...

My guess is:
1) She's lazy.
2) She's a sex-addict.

Sorry if I sound harsh...but my advice like many bros here: MOVE ON.;)

[sun814]

:DI've gfs who were fl then left the scene because of "love" for me. Most will bill out on money matters (great litmus test for playing with FLs).

The most serious one had the relationship going for YEARS, she's still dependent on me for livelihood with no sign of her wanting to do FL again... but logic tells me she has no way to survive without income if I ever break off with her. FL usually have no skills, lazy to work, etc.

During one of the heated quarrels, the hero me made her vowed she'll never do FL ever again in her life-time, even if I'm no longer with her in future. In fact, all hell will break loose whenever I mention her past now.

As in all wannabe saviors, If our ex-FL gf go back working as FL, we'll feel like a damn big failure, as we're supposed to be that prince in shinning armor on horse back who saved her from her life misery - LoL...in my case only to land her in another misery waiting indefinitely for me... or else. :rolleyes:

So now I L-L have to keep her around, knowing that if I dump her, she "may" end up back in the trade or suffer the consequence of that very poison vow/swear. (She's very religious)

To answer TS question; What can I do? Make sure she don't have an excuse to do FL again; perhaps by ensuring that I can continue to keep such expenses very affordable and hope that one day she'll grow out of it or find another prince to save her (from me). :D

walau, u sounds like a great charitable organisation for the FLs. should call out to all FLs who wants to leave the trade to look for u.

[my_preek]

hi TS please keep us posted of your decision. Hope you made a wise choice.

[Rated-R]

TS,

There are plenty of ways to earn a living. Why did your "gf" choose to do FL in the first place??...

My guess is:
1) She's lazy.
2) She's a sex-addict.

Sorry if I sound harsh...but my advice like many bros here: MOVE ON.;)


I totally agree...move on. There are plenty of other girls around.

[primero]

bros,tks for all yr advice. she not lazy as she hav a full time job here,mayb she tink tis is easy money & can earn a lot,but i dun tink tis is easy money. all tis money is '
"dirty",u need to face so many diff guys & hav to use yr naked body to exchange & hav to do dat things wif diff guys dat u dun like. she told me dat all no feelin cos she jus workin,i dunno when she will stop. money does wonder but hav dat "dirty" money will u feel veri happy? Y cant she tink of other way to earn money?? Will she b happy when she do dat wif diff guys?? i dun tink most of de fl will b happy.

[goodpartner]

:D

walau, u sounds like a great charitable organisation for the FLs. should call out to all FLs who wants to leave the trade to look for u.

Bro, I won't say it's about charity although that could be a common excuse or illusion most "saviors" like to have so as to feel good about such deeds. As I just mentioned in another thread, this is just another kind of commercial sex transaction (or rather: contract).

BTW, ya I'll be very busy if all such FL cums to me, but then due to limited budget and time, I'm entitled to have my picks too ;)

So unless it's an ang-pai SYT FL who like to be sponsored exclusively, please don't look for me. :D

[mr_missile]

bros,tks for all yr advice. she not lazy as she hav a full time job here,mayb she tink tis is easy money & can earn a lot,

but i dun tink tis is easy money. all tis money is "dirty", u need to face so many diff guys & hav to use yr naked body to exchange & hav to do dat things wif diff guys dat u dun like.

she told me dat all no feelin cos she jus workin,i dunno when she will stop. money does wonder but hav dat "dirty" money will u feel veri happy?

Y cant she tink of other way to earn money?? Will she b happy when she do dat wif diff guys?? i dun tink most of de fl will b happy.

Let me summarise what you have said above :

1. She is not lazy. But she thinks doing FL is easy money.
2. She thinks is 'no feeling' cos it's 'work'.
3. She can't think of other ways to earn the extra money.
4. Is she happy having sex with countless guys (when she is supposed to be in love with you????)

IMHO, I think she's got a screw loose somewhere. She's in love with you but yet she's willingly fucking other men for money.

She is not stopping even after you have asked her.

I believe also you have given her enough time to change. But she still insists on doing it for the 'easy' money without a care for you or how you feel as her 'boyfriend'.

Time to move on bro.

[Floss]

bros,tks for all yr advice. she not lazy as she hav a full time job here,mayb she tink tis is easy money & can earn a lot,but i dun tink tis is easy money. all tis money is '
"dirty",u need to face so many diff guys & hav to use yr naked body to exchange & hav to do dat things wif diff guys dat u dun like. she told me dat all no feelin cos she jus workin,i dunno when she will stop. money does wonder but hav dat "dirty" money will u feel veri happy? Y cant she tink of other way to earn money?? Will she b happy when she do dat wif diff guys?? i dun tink most of de fl will b happy.

Point 1: She's not even in urgent need of money right? So why the need for such extreme course of action ==> FL?

Point 2: Even IF she really has "no feelings" about it, ....let's face it: Can you close 1 eye about it? People humping your girl? ;)

Point 3: Exactly my point.

Bro. Seriously...you need to move on. I believe you are beginning to see where this is going now... :(

[jesgirl]

Do her a favour, dump her go tell her parents about it at least they can try to bring her back.

If she wake up and come back to u, accept her otherwise u did a good deed by helping someone else daughter too.

[Alter.Ego]

TS, please take note of the following facts:

- foreigners come to sillypore with the sole purpose of making money not to paktor, whether as a work permit holder or as a FL.

- your gf was a FL when you know her and her reasons are materialistic reasons ie wanna buy LV, gucci, car...etc, even if it's because she needs to support family etc, and you cannot give her those...what makes you think you have the right to stop her from being a FL.

- from the mouth of afew PRC (both legal and illegal) that i know, they would rather date a poor PRC guy working here then a local man. If they like you (note not love), they probably date you as a fb. If they don't like you, then it's only for the money.

From what you described, it seems like your gf loves money more than she loves you. Not everyone can play the kam cheng game without getting burned so my advise is to take it easy. You can continue the relationship but as some bro mentioned, just treat her as a fuck buddy and you'll find that you suddenly become alot happier.

p.s Although there are a few minority but for the majority Fls you can take the girl out of the FL game, but you can never take the FL out of the girl.