troubled desperate n lost

[dreamerz]

bro n sis, below is some question from my friend. need advice.

me n my bf is currently 24 have been together for 7yrs already. things turning sour regarding some lying here n there which make it hard to trust in him.

problem

i am worried that he might break up with mi as i donno how to move on from there.

he took my V which is very important to mi and told me that he will take care of me. but i cant let my parents about this if we dun wrk out

my parents wan mi to brk up wit him cos we are nt suitable or sth i guess

so i guess nw is in a situation of i duno if i sld brk up wit him despite wad happened or sld i juz tel my parents abt the real truth.

i am very worried that he will betray me one day

i would like to hear what will u do if u were me thank u.

[Vous]

Not a single time was 'love' mentioned in anyway. A subconscious indication ?

[middleday]

if you dont trust him and worry he will betray you one day, you will not ever get married to him, unless he do something that convince you otherwise...

did you talk to him before posting your worries here?

communication is very important, if the 2 of you dont share your thoughts & worries, difficult to endure long leh.

7 yrs is a long time, if you feel its a waste of the 7 years, dont be, you are 24, still ok if 34 then maybe can worry more la.

talk to him la, since he got lying here and there, only u know how serious it is, we wont know and its subjective to each person.

about the V, dont worry, only he and you know, thats all...no one else business also, not even for your parents.
i am sure if there is new guy in future... he really love you shd not matter that much coz the heart is more impt

just sharing my humble opinion

[aczeta76]

errhh.. this is not a gay club lerh...

Unless u sharing accounts with your BF.

[middleday]

walan, i dint check...

aczeta u good, after read your post i check the dreamer post hisotry,

seems like is a guy!

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

bro n sis, below is some question from my friend. need advice..

Allo! Allo!

Why don't you ask your friend to post? It's okay if you are a gay, we do not discrimination Gays.

Just that, we might have some difficulties to advise you due to some technicality differences in point of entry.

Also please practise safe sex and stop asking for FL/WL/FB ctc in all your postings cos I think most girls would not feel well..you know....what I mean?

Btw, when you referred to your boyfriend taking your "V" , you are referring to the AV (Ass Virgin), correct? :D

Given your case, breaking up might be a blessing in disguise to straighten you out. :p

[alan0338]

if happy then be together, not happy force to be together will still end up seperated :)

[aczeta76]

Allo! Allo!

Why don't you ask your friend to post? It's okay if you are a gay, we do not discrimination Gays.

Just that, we might have some difficulties to advise you due to some technicality differences in point of entry.

Also please practise safe sex and stop asking for FL/WL/FB ctc in all your postings cos I think most girls would not feel well..you know....what I mean?

Btw, when you referred to your boyfriend taking your "V" , you are referring to the AV (Ass Virgin), correct? :D

Given your case, breaking up might be a blessing in disguise to straighten you out. :p

hahaha... yupz..

TS, someone can counsel you while we counsel your friend.

Afterall, u sure u want your frds to know u post her/his issues on SBF?

[HCKing]

many a time the girl blames the guy for lying and not telling her the truth but the problem is, can she handles the truth? if u ask me i am not gonna take the risk.:p

[geckoSG]

1. Wat the hell is Virgin nowsaday? Treat it so important then shouldn't
give in first place until married. Since give liao then dun mind so much
about it.
2. Since no trust anymore, sure break off sooner or later. Break now rather
than later. Be mentally prepared, ur RS will go no where. Cfm one.
3. Can't walk out of this RS? Please, only immature thinking will think that, I
guess u should be old enough to walk out of it gracefully.
4. He WILL BETRAY U one day... So walk out of it now, dun need to tell
parents about your Virginity lah, what you expect them to do? Built it
back for you meh? Why worry them with such not necessary to tell
information?
5. Grow Up please... U are 24 y.o. already...

:o

[GridLock]

Wait, wait, wait....

So you and your bf sharing same account for SBF ? And you are cool with him asking for FL contacts here ? Then I really don't see how have trust issues, I mean after all, you and your bf did look for another girl for 3 some too ?

http://sammyboyforum.com/showthread.php?p=4787534#post4787534

[dreamerz]

I am a guy. See my profile n post. The friend need advice. I am posting in here n sgforum. As said. I am asking on behalf of a friend. She wan to hear from general. She is a nice ger. Of Coz I don wan to expose her from ti ko like what is comming in my in box. Well thanks for ur feed back for those who are genuine. One again thank u.

[goodpartner]

bro n sis, below is some question from my friend. need advice.
:
:
i would like to hear what will u do if u were me thank u.

Tell your friend this:

"If I were you, I would break off with him. But as in any break-offs, it'll be difficult especially with 7 years of r/s. So I'll first need to find someone to rebound on first, someone who is showing interest in me, someone whom I can share such personal problems with, someone who care for me enough to eh... help solve my r/s problems by asking around in forums... Someone who don't mind that I'm no longer a V."

Then u'll score :D

[Offline]

Just to mention a statistic that I once saw.

Most couples are married within 5 years of their relationship.
The chances that a couple will get married after more than 5 years together decreases dramatically from the sixth year onwrads.
There are couples that get married after more than 10 yrs together, but those are a rarity. So, just thought to mention it.

[superbeat]

my thoughts

should you and him be together,
or should you part with him and disappear,
if he is not in your life will you shed a tear,
you must make your decision without fear. ;)

[waiwaiz]

真是伤-脑-筋哦:(

[BscBMD997]

i am sure if there is new guy in future... he really love you shd not matter that much coz the heart is more impt

THATS RIGHT! ALL MASS ORGY! WHY KEEP? JUST DO IT!:D

Just kidding.

I agree with your saying above but would like to add that...

for those who has never done it before. Try not to do it. Because the responsibility is high.

The statement quoted is only for people who have done it so there is no reversing.

What kind of responsibility? eg. Physical = probability of having babies and mentality = stress, fear, worry. Just like the thread starter saying she lost her V to him and it is very important to her. Afraid of losing him etc etc.

As for the thread starter,

I think you should straighten things out with your bf. Find out what he intent to do. You may also want to hear out from your parents about their opinion of your bf. Your parents wont lie to you. They are on your side. But "Chong yan ni er". So be prepared for it.

[GridLock]

I am a guy. See my profile n post. The friend need advice. I am posting in here n sgforum. As said. I am asking on behalf of a friend. She wan to hear from general. She is a nice ger. Of Coz I don wan to expose her from ti ko like what is comming in my in box. Well thanks for ur feed back for those who are genuine. One again thank u.

Sorry, my bad, did not read carefully.

But it is going to hard to communicate with her through a 3rd party on matters like this. Wish her all the best no matter what.

[tattoofetish22]

*** PEACE ***

ask urself 1st.... 7yrs of relationship u reali love him or it's juz a habit of seeing on a regular basis...... if u can answer this quest then u knw wat u wan actually.....


*** PEACE ***

[see see only]

i am very worried that he will betray me one day


Sad to say ... even a pet we have for years can still bite us when its mood is not right :eek:

So who can say who would not betray who in future. ---- even get married also no gurantee will have children :rolleyes: ... . :D


But somehow this is life :) ............ forget about all the fairy-tale you read last time, and get ready for the real world with a smile ..... tell that to your friend

[makemecum]

folo the heart
nobody can predict the future...

[dreamerz]

k la... i think we have said enuf le. i agree with most of ur advice. its up to my friend to decide what she wan. fyi. till now she is still with that ass hole.

seriously i still feel she is in denial. but well, its her life and we can never feel what she is feeling.

once again. thank u people for ur reply and advice.

[HCKing]

k la... i think we have said enuf le. i agree with most of ur advice. its up to my friend to decide what she wan. fyi. till now she is still with that ass hole.

seriously i still feel she is in denial. but well, its her life and we can never feel what she is feeling.

once again. thank u people for ur reply and advice.

will be tough 4 her to give it up. esp so if she has put in too much heart and effort thru the whole 7 yrs of relationship.