得不到的真的是最怀念的吗?????

[tattoofetish22]

like wat's stated in e thread.... do u agree tt be it whether is in r/s or watever tt u wanted so much to have/get but cant get/have it n e tot of it keeps running ard in ur mind???? normally u can't concentrate in doing ur daily routine s per norm cos u been pondering over it??? can sumbody pls advice???? cos I'm encountering some of tis kinda problems n I'm gg bonkers soon!!!!

[tattoofetish22]

tired is e only word I can tink of nw!!!! Lost of interest in doin my daily routines!!!!! Omfg...... tis is sibei unlike me!!!!!shit!!!! I tink it's reali bothering me!!!! been a wk n been tryin 2 make myself nt tink of him but juz dunno y it's runnin ard in my mind!!!! WTF is wrong w me???

你要结束我还想要付出，能不能最后的吻，能不能幸福没有伤痕。爱你爱到恨了你，恨你让我如此爱你，我恨你， 我恨你但是我更爱你。

[tattoofetish22]

我的離開 對你卻是自在
就算沒有她 你說結局也是分開
能不能捲土重來 能不能我等你回來
你的孤獨 對我卻是酸楚
愛走到末路 你要結束我還想付出
能不能最後的吻 能不能幸福沒有傷痕
愛你愛到恨了你 恨你讓我如此愛
我恨你 我恨你 但是我更愛你
愛你愛到恨了你 恨你讓我如此愛
不恨你 不恨你 那是不夠愛你
最愛最恨都是你 最愛最恨都是你


e above lyrics describe my feeling for him nw even though thr's no 3rd party at all

[boyzilian]

girl , let and let die . time will dilute the yearning , lust and love .

[magical]

This kind of feeling can last for years, i can understand cos i hv been thru. Everytime i go somewhere, i start looking into the crowd hoping to see her face.

And the worst thing i had done is looking for a galfren who looks like her to replace what i missed. And i found out later in life that although she resembles her, there is alot more missing other than resemblance. Nothing can replaced.

Either you do what u hv to do now to be with him, otherwise u will end up just like me, always looking for a replacement to fill up the empty void left behind.

[tattoofetish22]

This kind of feeling can last for years, i can understand cos i hv been thru. Everytime i go somewhere, i start looking into the crowd hoping to see her face.

And the worst thing i had done is looking for a galfren who looks like her to replace what i missed. And i found out later in life that although she resembles her, there is alot more missing other than resemblance. Nothing can replaced.

Either you do what u hv to do now to be with him, otherwise u will end up just like me, always looking for a replacement to fill up the empty void left behind.

Looking for replacements wil nvr b fair for both parties!!!!!
juz dunno y I juz can't let go!!!!

[5ilver]

you can let go. and you will. go no contact and make yourself busy with other things.
the more you pine over him, the more you clingy and unattractive you will seem to him and the only end result is that you will push him away further.

going no contact, you will gradually think of him less and will help you heal yourself, and is your best chance to get his attention (in a good way). it's not a guarantee, but it's your best chance to get him. and if not, it won't matter because by then you'd not care at all. i know, because i was in the same boat. you'll get through this! i'm with you in spirit! remove everything about him from your life and find yourself!

[magical]

It happen more than twenty years ago, every now n then, i playback the events on my mind. If i can turn the clock backwards, i will never let her leave. It was pride, arrogant, dignity and i was young then and my world was so big, i totally ignored her. Yes now i have my regrets. I even took the trouble to find out where she lives n work but i hv no guts to approach her n anyway she is divorced with 2 kids. Sometimes when i m down, i drive all the way near her house just to catch a glimpse of her from far. And how i know she divorced from facebook lor.

I think u r just like me. It will come back n haunt u every now n then.

[keke]

Looking for replacements wil nvr b fair for both parties!!!!!
juz dunno y I juz can't let go!!!!

You are still too young, after several years you will notice it is just a trivial, a experience, and not important at all

[Pilot Preceda]

It happen more than twenty years ago, every now n then, i playback the events on my mind. If i can turn the clock backwards, i will never let her leave. It was pride, arrogant, dignity and i was young then and my world was so big, i totally ignored her. Yes now i have my regrets. I even took the trouble to find out where she lives n work but i hv no guts to approach her n anyway she is divorced with 2 kids. Sometimes when i m down, i drive all the way near her house just to catch a glimpse of her from far. And how i know she divorced from facebook lor.

I think u r just like me. It will come back n haunt u every now n then.

Actually i got attracted by the title "得不到的真的是最怀念的吗?"
For my situation, it was "得到了又不会珍惜最怀念的，最遗憾的。"

My first love was the perfect girl (attitude, behaviour, face, figure)...
But during that time I was looking for greener pasture as I thought I could find a better one (was young and dumb that time)...
Then after the breakup (which I initiated), immediately i felt a sharp pain in my heart and she left with face full of tears (i think she must be 5 or 10 times more painful than me)...
Yes and now years on, i still feel the pain in me, although i have a wife now and she is good but still no where near her...
And like bro magical said, I drove to the place she works to catch a glimpse of her but no guts to approach her...
One most agonizing moment was when I just stood 2 meters away from her back while she was carrying a heavy load and I have no guts to offer to help her, just stood there and tears poured down my eyes...
5 years past and until now she still remained single and no bf after me...
I think I've ruined her life...

But i think time is still the best remedy...
Somehow human beings need to learn, either the hard way or the soft way...
I learned the hard way and my advice for those bros who always like to flirt and look around........PLEASE CHERISH THE ONE BESIDE YOU NOW!!!

[tattoofetish22]

"得到了又不会珍惜
5 years past and until now she still remained single and no bf after me...
I think I've ruined her life...

But i think time is still the best remedy...
Somehow human beings need to learn, either the hard way or the soft way...
I learned the hard way and my advice for those bros who always like to flirt and look around........PLEASE CHERISH THE ONE BESIDE YOU NOW!!!

yes.....珍惜眼前人肯定没错的。否则会后悔莫及。

tt's I tink it's rather true than u cherish watever u have nw!!!!! cos u nvr knw when is e next moment u gonna lose e person/thing.
ppl always say I'm nt thinking rational enuff when it comes to things like tt.... I dun deny e fact tt i'll put in more effort than anybody when it comes to emotional....is tt bcos I'm lack of self confi??? I always ask myself y m I always at e losing end??? cos I'm a lady? NO!!!!! I'm losing cos I'm investing too much emotions!!!! maybe it's juz me who is plain dumb to ppl who r always nice & dotes me!!!!! at e end of e day, do wat i deem fit n follow my heart is all I do nw!!!!


I thank all of u for ur advices n apologize if I've made u tink of ur unhappy n 痛苦's past!!!! thks ppl!!!! E world wun stop spinnin due to a lil setback

[hugs]

Actually i got attracted by the title "得不到的真的是最怀念的吗?"
For my situation, it was "得到了又不会珍惜最怀念的，最遗憾的。"

One most agonizing moment was when I just stood 2 meters away from her back while she was carrying a heavy load and I have no guts to offer to help her, just stood there and tears poured down my eyes...
5 years past and until now she still remained single and no bf after me...
I think I've ruined her life...

But i think time is still the best remedy...
Somehow human beings need to learn, either the hard way or the soft way...
I learned the hard way and my advice for those bros who always like to flirt and look around........PLEASE CHERISH THE ONE BESIDE YOU NOW!!!

altho i have no power but up u in my heart bro:o

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

珍惜眼前人肯定没错的。否则会后悔莫及

遗憾有时是伴随着后悔的情景. 失去了他,实在可惜. 他已走远, 就让内心一点点残存的残念陪着你吧! 因为后悔是比损失更大的损失, 比错误更大的错误. 调整你的视线, 生命正在驶向下一站, 不要在伤感中错失沿途的景观. ;)

Perhaps you might want to read this:
http://sammyboyforum.com/showthread.php?t=232578

[tattoofetish22]

遗憾有时是伴随着后悔的情景. 失去了他,实在可惜. 他已走远, 就让内心一点点残存的残念陪着你吧! 因为后悔是比损失更大的损失, 比错误更大的错误. 调整你的视线, 生命正在驶向下一站, 不要在伤感中错失沿途的景观. ;)

Perhaps you might want to read this:
http://sammyboyforum.com/showthread.php?t=232578


Thks!!!! I'm ok nw!!!

[tattoofetish22]

你在我心里已不存在了！！！！我已死心了！！！

当女人对你说心灰意冷时，她真的是对你没有任何留念了！！！

[jonrai]

This remind me 22 years ago till now i still miss her pretty smile. As my prode I dun want to stir into triangle love, I gave up... Later she called me, but I miss the opportunity again. End up we get married same year and month but different partner.:(

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

.....我心里已不存在了！！！！我已死心了！！！

I said the exact words to a girl 2 weeks ago. :o :rolleyes:

[DAdults]

你在我心里已不存在了！！！！我已死心了！！！

当女人对你说心灰意冷时，她真的是对你没有任何留念了！！！

I can only hope that you really gave up on him and wouldn't feel hurt. Wishing you the speediest of recoveries from your emotional scarring...

[tattoofetish22]

如果想哭我自己会找地方
你不必担心我会弄湿你肩膀
走在街上到处是寂寞的人
我想谁都不要同情的眼光
受一点伤并不是可怕的事
人就是这样才会愈来愈坚强
谁叫男人永远比女人清楚
爱情它何时该收何时该放

你走吧我不哭无论多痛苦
你走吧我不哭就算会迷路

明天一个人的我依然会微笑
虽然它或许也是伤心的开始
爱情的轮回总是一次又一次
是悲是喜终将都变成往事

明天一个人的我依然会微笑
那怕早已没有人记得我名字
别问我为何执迷不悟的尝试
女人生来就多这么一点痴

tis is hw I feel nw!!!! I wil n I muz move on!!!! thks for all e advices!!!!

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Remember how you were before this person appeared?
You are just going back to that state, let your body adjust, it'll take some time but dun fight it neither look for a fast cure.
Look forward and walk forward, do not look back, neither let the chains of the past hold you back, cos if anyone is holding you back, its only you yourself.
Keep the memories but wake up to reality.
That's the way to embrace life!

[arsenal_84]

what's yours is yours.
if is not meant to be, is never be.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

如果想哭我自己会找地方

哭了就算了, 眼前的这个男人, 千般好, 万般好, 处处是优点, 他不爱你, 这点, 你永远改变不了. 分手时, 不哭. 当然, 不是要你一点都不哭. 当着面, 别哭, 背地里, 往死里哭, 但要提醒自己,这是最后一次哭, 最后一次放肆自己去痛. 心里能装着一些时间带不走的淡淡悲伤, 爱自己多一点, 也是一种幸福! ;)

[tattoofetish22]

哭了就算了, 眼前的这个男人, 千般好, 万般好, 处处是优点, 他不爱你, 这点, 你永远改变不了. 分手时, 不哭. 当然, 不是要你一点都不哭. 当着面, 别哭, 背地里, 往死里哭, 但要提醒自己,这是最后一次哭, 最后一次放肆自己去痛. 心里能装着一些时间带不走的淡淡悲伤, 爱自己多一点, 也是一种幸福! ;)

thks so much!!!!!!!!! i gonna b fine soon!!!!!!!!!

[tattoofetish22]

Remember how you were before this person appeared?
You are just going back to that state, let your body adjust, it'll take some time but dun fight it neither look for a fast cure.
Look forward and walk forward, do not look back, neither let the chains of the past hold you back, cos if anyone is holding you back, its only you yourself.
Keep the memories but wake up to reality.
That's the way to embrace life!

what's yours is yours.
if is not meant to be, is never be.

thks!!!!!!!!!!! i'm gonna get over soon!!!!!!!!!!!

[Dickens1111]

like wat's stated in e thread.... do u agree tt be it whether is in r/s or watever tt u wanted so much to have/get but cant get/have it n e tot of it keeps running ard in ur mind???? normally u can't concentrate in doing ur daily routine s per norm cos u been pondering over it??? can sumbody pls advice???? cos I'm encountering some of tis kinda problems n I'm gg bonkers soon!!!!

Hey girl, I am going through the same shit and it has been almost 2 $% years. Consider yourself lucky that the other party isn't continually pulling your strings and prolonging the pain, yoyo-ing you around. Then it drags and drags with bouts of hope then disappointment, betrayal, dispair then hope again,.... it's like going through breakups after breakups with the same person.

You just have to ride this out. Everyone can give you logical answers and direction but your mind is never at the heart, so it is damn$% useless and sometimes down right boring and frustrating hearing the same old advice which you could very well give to someone else if you weren't in the shit pile. If you are conscious enough, you've probably given yourself that same advice in those moments of 'enuf is enuf!'. After a while, time won't heal, but you'll get used to it and there will be sufficient distractions to divert your energy. But pray he doesn't come back and rekindle that little hope that you'll carry with you forever.

Before I signoff, here's a BIG HUG from a fellow brother who is still sitting in his pile of shit similar to yours... *HUGS and MUACKS*

[Stormy]

爱情是什么？
　　小时候的爱情是蓝天，希望有白云给它做伴，
　　再大点的爱情是船，希望有海洋给它做伴，
　　再再大点的爱情是沙，希望风能给它做伴，
　　婚后的爱情是小溪，希望山涧给它做伴，
　　中年的爱情是干柴，希望烈火给它作伴
　　老年的爱情是地球，希望月亮给它做伴。
　　很多时候我们感叹自己没有真爱，得不到爱，
其实我们都爱过，被爱过，体验过，追求过，放弃过，
　　有些人看透了，有些人放不下，放不下是因为看不透，
　　看不透是因为觉悟低，觉悟低是因为追求低，
　　追求低是因为没志向，没志向是因为受挫折，
　　受挫折是因为爱错了，早知如此何必当初，
　　所以不要去抱怨哦，
　　也不要说对不起哦，
　　哈哈，反正爱情就是个神奇的圈圈，
　　别被它诅咒了，
　　人生有很多个圈圈，
　　勇敢的去被诅咒吧.

[Pilot Preceda]

altho i have no power but up u in my heart bro:o

thanks...
up you back... (in my heart of coz)

[honda81234]

Hi all,

Actually r/s thus type of thing take 2 hand to clap. And most importantly is to find someone tt love u and u love him/her. There is really no point dragging on when he/she don't love u as there won't be any happiness. Personally I have encounter a few bad experience and I learn from there.
Anyway life is short and why not we spend our life happily and cheerfully. Hope all bros/Sis here get over with it soon.
Tattoo: ur post here v emo. Hope u really 放下来了而不是欺骗ownself as I know it's not easily to say put down then put down. But moral support here for u

[babygalluv]

如果想哭我自己会找地方
你不必担心我会弄湿你肩膀
走在街上到处是寂寞的人
我想谁都不要同情的眼光
受一点伤并不是可怕的事
人就是这样才会愈来愈坚强
谁叫男人永远比女人清楚
爱情它何时该收何时该放

你走吧我不哭无论多痛苦
你走吧我不哭就算会迷路

明天一个人的我依然会微笑
虽然它或许也是伤心的开始
爱情的轮回总是一次又一次
是悲是喜终将都变成往事

明天一个人的我依然会微笑
那怕早已没有人记得我名字
别问我为何执迷不悟的尝试
女人生来就多这么一点痴

tis is hw I feel nw!!!! I wil n I muz move on!!!! thks for all e advices!!!!


bitch!!!!!!!!!!! can you like tell me what's happening????

[DAdults]

如果想哭我自己会找地方
你不必担心我会弄湿你肩膀
走在街上到处是寂寞的人
我想谁都不要同情的眼光
受一点伤并不是可怕的事
人就是这样才会愈来愈坚强
谁叫男人永远比女人清楚
爱情它何时该收何时该放

你走吧我不哭无论多痛苦
你走吧我不哭就算会迷路

明天一个人的我依然会微笑
虽然它或许也是伤心的开始
爱情的轮回总是一次又一次
是悲是喜终将都变成往事

明天一个人的我依然会微笑
那怕早已没有人记得我名字
别问我为何执迷不悟的尝试
女人生来就多这么一点痴

tis is hw I feel nw!!!! I wil n I muz move on!!!! thks for all e advices!!!!

TS, I hope that your feelings has, or will soon shift from the above song to this chorus.

走在漫漫人生路
点点滴滴都幸福
为爱勇敢付出失败从不在乎
哪怕我一生孤独
回头看看来时路
对与错我都满足
就算起起落落只要不枉此生
走在漫漫人生路

[K9696]

like wat's stated in e thread.... do u agree tt be it whether is in r/s or watever tt u wanted so much to have/get but cant get/have it n e tot of it keeps running ard in ur mind???? normally u can't concentrate in doing ur daily routine s per norm cos u been pondering over it??? can sumbody pls advice???? cos I'm encountering some of tis kinda problems n I'm gg bonkers soon!!!!

tired is e only word I can tink of nw!!!! Lost of interest in doin my daily routines!!!!! Omfg...... tis is sibei unlike me!!!!!shit!!!! I tink it's reali bothering me!!!! been a wk n been tryin 2 make myself nt tink of him but juz dunno y it's runnin ard in my mind!!!! WTF is wrong w me???

你要结束我还想要付出，能不能最后的吻，能不能幸福没有伤痕。爱你爱到恨了你，恨你让我如此爱你，我恨你， 我恨你但是我更爱你。


好好的去听这首歌吧...或许你有很多的感动..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9MQC8UjxMhE

[starz85]

like wat's stated in e thread.... do u agree tt be it whether is in r/s or watever tt u wanted so much to have/get but cant get/have it n e tot of it keeps running ard in ur mind???? normally u can't concentrate in doing ur daily routine s per norm cos u been pondering over it??? can sumbody pls advice???? cos I'm encountering some of tis kinda problems n I'm gg bonkers soon!!!!

wow amazed to see truth and honesty in SBF ..
i think memories sweeten ex relations.
while present time embitters current relations
the true one is always out there.. but u have to look within to find

[betty]

i think memories sweeten ex relations.
while present time embitters current relations
the true one is always out there.. but u have to look within to find

yes bro well said, so we need to learn to "珍惜现在拥有的“ :D

[see see only]

......... can sumbody pls advice???? .......

Hey my dear sis,

Bro IK given you a fantastic advice ... but soon our boss is going to give you another one ... :p on "the verb & noun" advice thing :D


Nevertheless, from now on, start thinking positively ... the future one will be better :) which provided you learned from the past mistakes without looking back & comparing :rolleyes:

[elcarim]

再见不如不见
相见不如怀念
占据你心中最柔软地方的那个人一定是得不到的
因为得不到所以倍加珍惜
如果换了时间
换了频率结果是不是会改变？

[LordAvernus]

3 years ago, I fell in love with a girl introduced to me by her friend. After just 3 dates, I mustered up the courage to ask her to be my girlfriend and everything came together from then onwards. I had the best times of my life with her as we travelled the world together and we stayed over at each others' places so frequently I felt like we were already married and had a family of our own. It felt so real.

And then, things went downhill from there as I knew that living in Singapore isnt cheap and so I took on other jobs to save as much money as I could so that we could one day have enough to settle down. The quarrels began as she demanded more time from me and I insisted that I have to do those jobs and I was focused on money. Even on trips overseas, I would be thinking of how to make more to give her a better future.

Then, one day, after so many fights over this issue, I finally snapped and uttered the request to end it. I went numb for months and weeks and I didn't cry until 3 years later, one day, when I was surfing the net, I came across her profile, saw her picture and broke down. The memories came rushing back and the floodgates opened. I was shocked that a thing that I thought I had buried for 3 years came back so suddenly and the impact of all our times together couldnt stop those tears from falling and the heartache sliced me apart like a thousand sharpened knives stabbing at my heart.

It was too late. Today, I would have given all my fortune to be with her again. But she had moved on. Its true what people say. That no amount of money in this world can buy you true love. And if I were to be given one more chance, I would have given up everything for her for money can be earned back. But for that special one in your heart that you truely love, that person, once gone, might never return or be found ever again. No amount of money can cover the empty void left by the other person.

Many girls tried to enter my life but all failed to make an impact because that special girl is just so irreplacable.

[Oldman66]

愛你愛到恨了你 恨你讓我如此愛
不恨你 不恨你 那是不夠愛你
最愛最恨都是你 最愛最恨都是你


then just sex can......why 恨 恨 恨 恨

[newhunter]

怀念只有痛苦，还没得到就争取，要不就放弃。
如果错了，就弥补, 如果她要离开就尽量挽回，无法弥补就该放手。
痛虽痛，谁能担保她留下来会比较开心，可能开心的是自己，她也许并不快乐。

感谢老天曾经安排那么好的女孩和你相遇，她也应该然你成长不少。可能你当时不
懂得她的好，所以她已不在你的身边。


以后在遇到好的女孩，一定要真心诚意，一心一意的对她。

爱情有三草:
好马不吃回头草
兔子不吃窝边草
天涯何处无芳草

[ZhenXin55]

I also regret not bonking her more.....

[miniskirt]

3 years ago, I fell in love with a girl introduced to me by her friend. After just 3 dates, I mustered up the courage to ask her to be my girlfriend and everything came together from then onwards. I had the best times of my life with her as we travelled the world together and we stayed over at each others' places so frequently I felt like we were already married and had a family of our own. It felt so real.

And then, things went downhill from there as I knew that living in Singapore isnt cheap and so I took on other jobs to save as much money as I could so that we could one day have enough to settle down. The quarrels began as she demanded more time from me and I insisted that I have to do those jobs and I was focused on money. Even on trips overseas, I would be thinking of how to make more to give her a better future.

Then, one day, after so many fights over this issue, I finally snapped and uttered the request to end it. I went numb for months and weeks and I didn't cry until 3 years later, one day, when I was surfing the net, I came across her profile, saw her picture and broke down. The memories came rushing back and the floodgates opened. I was shocked that a thing that I thought I had buried for 3 years came back so suddenly and the impact of all our times together couldnt stop those tears from falling and the heartache sliced me apart like a thousand sharpened knives stabbing at my heart.

It was too late. Today, I would have given all my fortune to be with her again. But she had moved on. Its true what people say. That no amount of money in this world can buy you true love. And if I were to be given one more chance, I would have given up everything for her for money can be earned back. But for that special one in your heart that you truely love, that person, once gone, might never return or be found ever again. No amount of money can cover the empty void left by the other person.

Many girls tried to enter my life but all failed to make an impact because that special girl is just so irreplacable.

She had moved on. So should you. All the best!

[Chanelfingers]

Yes... I had Ben and when we broke off... I went thru some horrible phase...
When we had the chance to patch back finally, we discovered the person we were passionately in love with was no longer there. We have changed...
Thus we broke off and had closure.

Probably the lack of closure or the hope of how things would have turned out...feed the desire to pursue the lost relationship.

Time will soothe the hurt, fade the memories n definitely heal the wounds...
Finding a new guy would keep the lonely teary times away.

[LordAvernus]

Yes... I had Ben and when we broke off... I went thru some horrible phase...
When we had the chance to patch back finally, we discovered the person we were passionately in love with was no longer there. We have changed...
Thus we broke off and had closure.

Probably the lack of closure or the hope of how things would have turned out...feed the desire to pursue the lost relationship.

Time will soothe the hurt, fade the memories n definitely heal the wounds...
Finding a new guy would keep the lonely teary times away.


This is the most frightening thing that rattles me. That a person you once so loved wholeheartedly can just suddenly change. Sometimes, I sit up in the middle of the night and think to myself, whether I can ever give 100 percent again to another person and I just can't bring myself to come to terms with this brutal fact. How can somebody just wipe another person off from your life just like this confounds me. It is like denying the existence of a close family member in your life. Can human beings really be this cruel?

[Sen5eS]

Temporary relief with the "rebound"s ... no closure means 3 yrs down the road you'll feel the same thing as the bro in the above thread experienced.

This ache you can't scratch or numb away ...

You have to find a way to make your closure happen I guess.

[Gunner999]

Sigh... I guess different people have different emotional attachments to their past relationships. Some can forget and move on fast, while its near impossible for some others to forget..

I'm the second type like some bros here... I would go near her place and stay for a while at times and even more so when i'm feeling down.. just hoping to see her from afar and know that she's alright. She remained a very important person to me..

[callnal]

if you cannot get, what are you going to miss? nothing, so you will not 怀念!

[Chanelfingers]

This is the most frightening thing that rattles me. That a person you once so loved wholeheartedly can just suddenly change. Sometimes, I sit up in the middle of the night and think to myself, whether I can ever give 100 percent again to another person and I just can't bring myself to come to terms with this brutal fact. How can somebody just wipe another person off from your life just like this confounds me. It is like denying the existence of a close family member in your life. Can human beings really be this cruel?

Sometimes being kind is a form of cruelty.
If u know eventually this relationship will break off...
marrying or being tgt just because it's the right thing to do or next step...
Or treating the person with tender loving care after the break...
Is cruel cus the love isn't there n she/he cannot move on too.

Since teenage, i've learnt no matter how much of test, testing, tests for the potential soulmate is futile, Ppl change, and u can't stop changes. U can adapt to their changes. ;)

[LordAvernus]

Sometimes being kind is a form of cruelty.
If u know eventually this relationship will break off...
marrying or being tgt just because it's the right thing to do or next step...
Or treating the person with tender loving care after the break...
Is cruel cus the love isn't there n she/he cannot move on too.

Since teenage, i've learnt no matter how much of test, testing, tests for the potential soulmate is futile, Ppl change, and u can't stop changes. U can adapt to their changes. ;)

Question is: What if you cannot be cruel?

[blohsg]

Learn, Accept and Adapt ?

It's after all - Your feet, your shoes, your own journey path.

[ATAP]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pl3vxEudif8

[MioMao]

if you cannot get, what are you going to miss? nothing, so you will not 怀念!

Clap Clap..Totally agree ;)

In this world, is not that anyone u love will love u bak! Why waste time 怀念?
might as well start hunting new love instead..or being loved by someone then to love someone..bei ai shi xing fu :cool:

[Chanelfingers]

Question is: What if you cannot be cruel?

Then u will be cruel
To yourself

[hulkster_1]

This is the most frightening thing that rattles me. That a person you once so loved wholeheartedly can just suddenly change. Sometimes, I sit up in the middle of the night and think to myself, whether I can ever give 100 percent again to another person and I just can't bring myself to come to terms with this brutal fact. How can somebody just wipe another person off from your life just like this confounds me. It is like denying the existence of a close family member in your life. Can human beings really be this cruel?

why are you afraid? You loved, that does not mean the other person loved you the same way you loved her. True love, does not expect return, delights in giving. There is also a phase that you need to go through. The ugly phase, where you will wake up to a monster, where you will discover imperfections, where the person will have character flaws, and you will fight, you will hate the person, and then after that you will decide if you can live with the person inspite of these flaws, because its these flaws that make the person unique.

True be told, you will never be able to give 100%, it will be good if you can give at least 20% of yourself to the other person. There is only One that can give 100% and live to say He can, and you are not that person. What you cannot come to terms with, is rejection. That she left you anyway.

Don't waste time dwelling in bitterness of rejection, but relish in the happy moments that the person bring to you while you are together. Live your life, as if it is your last, have no regrets because whether its your fb, your gf, you wife , irregardless of the status, there is a chance, she will not wake up tomorrow, and today will be the last day you see her. and if she is gone, if you love her, wish her well, pray that someone else is taking care of her, and if ever she needs help, you know you will help her and have no bitterness for her.

just my 2cents