Falling in love with A LCB Prc girl/

[dragontank]

Hi bros,

Just want to share this story. I am a married man with 2 kids. Marriage is nt fullfilling, both emotionally and sexually. However we still tried to maintain our marriage for the sake for the 2 kids. Seriously if u guys still ask me whelter i still love my wife.. i am unsure of the answer too. Responsibilty seem to be the only factor which keep the marriage going. Ever since 4 months ago.. i have been going to Qin Ke, new shanghai ktv lounge with my brothers.

Ever since Marriage, i have not been visiting these places. Used to be chongster since army times and especially after i come out working since i have more spending power. But since dating my wife and marriage, i have never visit these places as i have always place my fiance on my kids first as they are both very young and expenses are heavy... Visitng Qin Ke and BS is fun intially as the girls are daring, but emotionally i will feel quite void after every visit. Furthermore the feelings of guilt is very heavy whenever i reach home. would feel guilty whenever i face my wife and especially my kids.

On the 4th day CNY, that is on the 7/2 i still remember clearly... My bro jio me to LCB at Serangoon Road. He told me the girls there are more reserved nt so daring compared to at ktv. A great place if i am looking for more quiet places. i ageed to join him as i have a heated quarrel with my wife just a day ago. When we reached there at abt 8 pm with 3 other bros, 5 of us together. The place is quite run out compared to those ktv even worse than BS. but the least the girls there are more reserved. at least dun need to push them away when u want to reject them. Soon, i spot a syt and i decided to invite her over for a chat. However the feelings are not rite and when she went to another table... another syt came to sit with me.. i feel comfortable with her toking to her. All the while we are holding hands while we are chatting with each other. According to my bro, she is very new here, just 10 over days.

Chatting with her is an enjoyable thing. Cos though she is only 20, she is a very understanding her. And the very fact is, i have no lust towards towards her, nt at all. The nite soon end with bottles of beer and some nice songs. And when i reach home at abt 3am that nite, i was thinking of her. Woke up at 7 am preparing to go and work. Working halfway, i call my bros and jio them to LSB after work. When i reached, i invited her to open table for me and she was rather surprised to c me there again.

[alan0338]

TS, pls update some more .... love syts story leh :D

[dragontank]

She: I am surprised that u came again today.
Me: i miss you.

She then open up the bottles and we are chatting again.. more heart to heart toks.. She is a very understanding girl and she will ask me very sensible questions...

She: r u married? she was pointing at my wedding ring when she asked me the qustion.

Me: Yes.. i did nt wish to lie to u but i am really married with 2 kids...

[dragontank]

She: u dun seem to be comfortable coming to these places, i believed u dun
come that often.

Me: u r rite... Lcb i seldom come but rather used to ktv instead

She: y r u here tonite again?

Me: i miss u... my heart tell me to come here...

She was smiling away when she hear that... Time spent with her flies.. i
enjoy her company.. Slowly my defence system towards china girls begin to
break down... bit by bit... Pls note that i am always a careful man when it
comes to china girls. I will not fall for them as i heard too many cheating
stories abt them. So i always choose to keep a distance from them.

But towards her i acted differently... i am nt that rational whenever i tok to
her..

Through my conversations with her.. she is nt that vain compared to her
peers who have been here for quite some time... Perhaps she is still young
ba... And slowly i begin to share my inner feelings to her... realised that
she is a very gd listner who really cares to listen... The nite soon ended and
again i reach hm with a fullfilled heart but with a tired body.... I dragged
myself to work the next day... feeling very exhausted...

Vibration from Hp..

She: do buy me some fruits if u came along next time...

I was rather happy when i received this simple text from her cos i never
expect her to text me....

After work that day... again i jio my bros there again...

Joe: again u r going.... seem that u have really fallen for her... come to
these places cant be serious with yr feelings de... dun forget that u
already have a family liao.

Me: No worries... i know my limit...

Finally the time to knock off is here... i packed my stuff and rushed to that place.. Before i reached.. i managed to buy her some fruits and a bottle of cough syrup as she has been coughing....

When i reached... i asked the usher for her to open table again...

She: i never expected u to come again tonite... it have been 3 nites in a row le...

Me: Cos i want to buy u some fruits... btw i have brought u a cough syrup as u have been coughing... I then expalined to her how it shd be taken as the instrusctions is written in english...

She: thanks.... and she paused for a moment.. and suddenly... she gave me a hug...

Me: i just want u to get well soon...

Since i was the first one to reach there as my bros are nt here yet... some girls soon crowded around me... i am nt used to rejecting girls and she sensed it..

She: u have to be more firm when u reject girls.. then they wun sit with u le.. Can sense that u r quite a soft heared person...

Me: yup i will learn to be more firm...

The third nite wih her... i can really feel that things are improving... Physically i did nt get fresh with her.. i treat her more like a friend.. the most we will go is holding hands... and she will try to spent more time with me... She is a ang pai there though she has been there for only 2 to 3 weeks. For bros who frequent lsb... it is nt easy to find syt in that place as the place is mostly filled with aunities...

[thomastankuku]

Bro, good story so far and have seen before many bros like you.

But think hor this sound like got making of usual "my girl is diff from other whores" type of story which usually come to no good end one.

Bro, you got wife and kid so eat and play outside remember to wipe mouth and think wat is important hor otherwise tio trouble liao. Fake is fake one lar tsao buay siam one. Thatz why call coomercial sex. Good luck. Everything 'special' is just part of the game.

[teebs_darklord]

Camping for your story...:D

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Bro alan0338 & Bro teebs_darklord,
Got enough space in your camp site? :p
3rd camper reporting :D

[alan0338]

wa. morning got campers join liao... btw, who can enlighten me wat is LCB? :confused: did TS mean LSB ? :confused: kamsia for enlightenment :D

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

wa. morning got campers join liao... btw, who can enlighten me wat is LCB? :confused: did TS mean LSB ? :confused: kamsia for enlightenment :D

It could be:

1) Local Chinese Bar
2) Local China Bar
3) La Cha Bar (Cantonese) as like LSB (Hokkein)
4) Lao CXXe Bar (but TS mentioned SYT so quite unlikely, though LSB normally are those "has-been" SYT:D )
5) La CXXe Bar

[teebs_darklord]

wa. morning got campers join liao... btw, who can enlighten me wat is LCB? :confused: did TS mean LSB ? :confused: kamsia for enlightenment :D

He did say LCB PRC gal rite? Maybe he meant LAU CB PRC gal???

Or maybe he type wrongly...should be LSB instead...:D

[Max77]

He did say LCB PRC gal rite? Maybe he meant LAU CB PRC gal???

Or maybe he type wrongly...should be LSB instead...:D


If u r thinking Lau Ch** By* PRC gal...me too:p

Tot ganna cheated so wanna vent anger...haha

[alan0338]

It could be:

1) Local Chinese Bar
2) Local China Bar
3) La Cha Bar (Cantonese) as like LSB (Hokkein)
4) Lao CXXe Bar (but TS mentioned SYT so quite unlikely, though LSB normally are those "has-been" SYT:D )
5) La CXXe Bar

He did say LCB PRC gal rite? Maybe he meant LAU CB PRC gal???

Or maybe he type wrongly...should be LSB instead...:D

kamsia for the info... :D

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Please continue your story and how it started with a kiss but you never thought it would come to this.... ;)

[alan0338]

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[Frankiestine]

Whats a LCB PRC gal.....?? Lau Chee Bye Prc gal....:confused::confused:

Btw TS, I understand how easy it is to actually fall in love with someone who listens for once to you. Same for monster, I am now at a point of my life where divorce will be a better option but still staying on purely for the sake of my son. I know for sure if today I meet another woman who offers me her listening ears and just show me a little affection, I am all won. But I have to hit and wake myself up, so what if such a woman comes along, you have to asked yourselves, are you willing to make the ultimate sacrifice and give up everything for her? I did that once and I really regret it. Now I rather be in a unhappy marriage, where communication is practically zero, she rather faced her Iphone the entire day then engage in heart to heart talks with me. Then to actually think that things will be better with another woman.

[hoosdathu]

moi also thought LCB = lao chee bye :o

should be lar sub bar issit? :D

[makemecum]

Whats a LCB PRC gal.....?? Lau Chee Bye Prc gal....:confused::confused:

Btw TS, I understand how easy it is to actually fall in love with someone who listens for once to you. Same for monster, I am now at a point of my life where divorce will be a better option but still staying on purely for the sake of my son. I know for sure if today I meet another woman who offers me her listening ears and just show me a little affection, I am all won. But I have to hit and wake myself up, so what if such a woman comes along, you have to asked yourselves, are you willing to make the ultimate sacrifice and give up everything for her? I did that once and I really regret it. Now I rather be in a unhappy marriage, where communication is practically zero, she rather faced her Iphone the entire day then engage in heart to heart talks with me. Then to actually think that things will be better with another woman.

hurt big time huh?
i have been hurt small time many times never learn...
but there somthing in me to saver never say never....
unless its for your kid, i would say go for it again if the opportunity come...
its better to have try and lost and not try again, life is short....the next thing may be the best in life who knows, its not enticing its just living without regrets...:)

[Frankiestine]

hurt big time huh?
i have been hurt small time many times never learn...
but there somthing in me to saver never say never....
unless its for your kid, i would say go for it again if the opportunity come...
its better to have try and lost and not try again, life is short....the next thing may be the best in life who knows, its not enticing its just living without regrets...:)

Bro believe me I have been there, seen it done it....so now i tell myself always....be careful of what you wished for it might just turn out true...and I mean that in a ominous way..

[see see only]

.... I am a married man with 2 kids. Marriage is nt fullfilling, both emotionally and sexually. However we still tried to maintain our marriage for the sake for the 2 kids. Seriously if u guys still ask me whelter i still love my wife.. i am unsure of the answer too........


TS,

Before marriage is 爱情

After marriage is 感情

I guess you understand the difference .... :rolleyes: ... ;)


Anyway TS me camp here for your update, four .....after Bro alan0338 & Bro teebs_darklord & Bro Ichigo_Kurosaki :D

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

.....Anyway TS me camp here for your update, four .....after Bro alan0338 & Bro teebs_darklord & Bro Ichigo_Kurosaki :D

Bro see see only, you bring beer or not? :D

[dragontank]

After the third nite, i ceased going to that place as i am rather tired but most important of all, i run out of cash.. But we still keep in contact through sms.. Somehow she ask me to bring her around singapore as she is rather new to this place. I then told her that i will be bringing her to orchard road for shopping since payday is around the corner and we agreed to go on a sat..

I was looking forward to sat as this will be my first date with her outside the bar.. Btw, lcb refer to dirty bar... places like dalu is the best example. But the bar i went to is not as dirty as dalu where u can expect a blow or handjob on the spot.

The most unlucky thing happened to me which is nt within the expectations...

Wife: I would need yr help in cleaning the windows later..
Me: Sure i will do it 2mr as i will be free later

At that moment, my hp is ringing. A quick glance at it and i realised it is the girl who is calling me... To my horror, my wife who is usually a damn sharp person happen to see the caller who called in my line...
Discreetly, i ans the phone...

Wife: Y is a girl calling u?
Me: my collague lah..
Wife : sure or nt...
Me; yes... my face start to blush as i am a open book nt very comfortable lying, especially towards my OC as she is a very sharp peroson.
Wife: Nonese! i know that u r lying... no wonder u have been coming late last few nites!

[dragontank]

Bros.. sorry it shd be LSB... my apologies... Anyway back to the story...

Have a heated row with wife again... Issues which are kept under the carpet are being dug out and it become a really ugly scene and i have to cancel the appt as i am late already... and so i sent her a text....

Have a quarrel with wife... i am afraid that i cant pick u up from your place anymore...

Meanwhile, tension was being built in the family as this is my second quarrel with her within a week... My kids sensed the tension and was stressed too...

Wife: since you are so unhappy with this marriage... we may as well end it! i will go ahead to c a lawyer on monday and file a divorce. i will give u a day to consider the terms which u want and reply to me by 2mr. But one thing for sure.. i will fight for custody of the 2 kids!

I kept quiet when i heard this statement.. shocked... i was unable to react to this sudden outburst of divorce... does we nt tried to keep this marriage for the sake of the kids.. and i only have a day to reply to her....

That afternoon... i locked myself in the room... thinking through abt the marriage and the consequences... and my phone rang...

Joe: bro, how is yr date with her?
Me: dun tok abt it.. it is blown.. i have a heated quarrel with OC again..
Joe: tell u dun get serious le.. dun listen to me... c lah things being to happen rite...
Me: she suggest a divorce...
Joe: Dun think abt so much... me going to geylang later with ah heng for a drink and chit chat.. want to join us?.. better than u cooping up at hm...
Me: k then... c u later..

Afternoon... i managed to meet up with my bros.. for a drink and ahheng want to visit the thai chicks... and so we accompany him to walk around geylang.. combing around for targets...

Joe: bro.. i treat u to a chick.. i suggest all of us find a chick each and just bang it... especially you... shd get a shot to release yr fucking stress..

Frankly speaking i am really tempted to get a chick to fire off... but when i thought of my family and her... my dick go soft...

Me: no lah.. u shd know.. i really dun want to go back to my old ways again..
i still have family...

Joe: k we go ahead then..

Me: Me.. will wait for you at geylang 18 that coffeeshop there...

Within half an hour the deed was done.. and they came out happy men...

we then have dinner and drinks at the coffeeshop until ah heng suggested..

Ah Heng: Joe.. since he miss her so much.. after dinner we go to the bar again.. what abt that?

Joe: Siao.. today is sat... sure alot of people... she where got time to pei him.. furthernore.. she must be damn angry with him today for cancelling the appt...

Ah heng: dun care lah..we are customers.. we tell her to open table she also lan lan... have to entertain him...

Me: Forget it... it will be very awkward then...

Joe: As a matter of fact.. now the most important issue is... how to settle yr marriage first... u dun have much time to consider... bro...

Me: that is true and i am really confused of what to do... we maintain this marriage cos of the kids... want them to have a complete family...

Joe: bro listen to me.. u shd know my status.. i was divorced and i regret having divorce my ex wife.... i meant.. it takes a lot of u to be together with her... dun cos of pride... ruin this marriage.. take the humble pie and have a gd tok with her... and dun drink so much...

Me: i know.. all the while i am drinking furiously... just want to get myself drunk asap..

Ah Heng: he is nt listening.. he is drinking so fast... bro.. dun get drunk...steady yrself..

Joe: sigh.. give him some personal space... afterall it is such a sudden blow to him...

I then received a text from her...

She: i understand... spent more time with yr family then.. dun come and visit me again...

Me: i am sorry but i do have feeligs u...

She: Family is more important... who am i to u? i am just a bargirl... Forget me.

Feeling more depressed than ever.. i start to drink even more to numb my pain...

[see see only]

Ha .... :D

Nice cold beer ready, complete with mixed nuts. Btw bros, u got bring 4 chio bu female campers bo ???

Bro see see only, you bring beer or not? :D


TS,

感情 takes two to maintain :) btw more update please ....

[alan0338]

Ha .... :D

Nice cold beer ready, complete with mixed nuts. Btw bros, u got bring 4 chio bu female campers bo ???




TS,

感情 takes two to maintain :) btw more update please ....

ya ya, TS more pls, really nice writing ... :)

[Gaofar]

Thank you for narrating of your life story to us TS.

Your story runs the same outline as mine and as for the ending I could more or less guess what are the options left. I am not going to steal your limelight away from your thread but just wanted to make some personal thoughts known to all..

Some personal thoughts on these kind of issues here as everybody have a different opinion of their life-decisions, be it on how you perceived or you have even walked the road before..

I am a divorced man and I have kids. For my case here and for readers' understanding, it is not because of spur of the moment's decision to divorce but a rational, well-thought-out process over a period of one and a half years to come to that decision.. I love my kids and I place them above all in my life.. But unless you have never gotten into marriage yet, you won't know the feeling of swearing to your first love of how you both will never be apart, you won't know the feeling of joy that comes along with just the 2 of you being together, you won't know the feeling of elation of knowing your firstborn is along the way, of you getting your new house keys, of you witnessing your birth of your child, of you exclaiming of how your child is starting to walk, and so on.......

Given in that context it does appear like a fairy tale with forever happy ending.. But it is not to be.. Soon my wife does not like to have sex, most of the time says that she is tired or simply have no desire.. She starts to distance herself away from me and not go out with just the 2 of us anymore.. You think this is the turning-point for me that I made that decision? Wrong. For the next 4 years I patiently tried every trick in the book to get her interested, get her attention, buy things for her, setting up special meals for us, bring her to places, using kinky toys to arouse her, every farking thing I can think of I try but to no avail.. I was crying and asking her point-blank in her face of the problems that we have and I wanted to do something about it, but she is just not helping me.. I told her you can't do this to me since I have ever don't nothing wrong nor unfaithful to her to deserve this.. I warned her that she is to be blame if anything is to happen in our relationship in the future.. She don't give a damn..

And faith might have it, I chanced upon an SYT of 20yo and for the first time in years I got just the attention that I am yearning for.. Deep inside I know it is dangerous but at that time my mental state is weak and craving.. Long story short, my wife found out of the SYT and have a few big rows and for the next 1 year I pondered about the issue of divorce, long and hard. The breaking point is when once we have a row and just because I hold on to her bag not letting her go, she file personal protection on me. That was the last straw for me and I went ahead with the divorce.

It pains me to not able to see my kids frequently but I always told myself this thing: What do you rather to see in your future? Stay on in the marriage for the sake of your kids, yet to have a spouse who view you as air and knowing that you will lead a lonely life when you are old when your kids have grown up and have their own family? Or would you rather start anew while you are still young and appealing to females and get a new life, looking for someone who knows you better and can assist and concerns you? It's a tough decision but I for one do not want to spend my end of my life in misery...

Sorry to take up your airtime TS.. Just wanted you to know that you are not alone..

Cheers and regards.

* Oh yeah by the way, just for the curious readers out there: I am of course not with the SYT anymore.. Still "China-grade" but at least is from proper channel.. A uni-grad who knows all my past, accepts me of who I am and is able to push me beyond to achieve new goals.. God bless her and thank you for letting me to meet her in a sea of people in the midst of Shenzhen Bao An airport.. Hee hee...

Camping for your story too TS!!

[Frankiestine]

my wife does not like to have sex, most of the time says that she is tired or simply have no desire..... She don't give a damn..
And faith might have it, I chanced upon an SYT of 20yo......., my wife found out of the SYT and have a few big rows and for the next 1 year I pondered about the issue of divorce, long and hard.

That the crux of the matter, they expect us to put up with their nonchalant attitude towards marriage and sex yet when the man has enough of this and have an affair...all they know is kpkb and blame us men for been the infidelity...but don't they realize, it takes two hands to clap...its a cause and effect thing..just like the other day on the radio they happened to chat on this topic of "if intimacy and sex is no longer in a marriage, it is ok for a man to look for a prostitute?" As the Flying Dutchman elaborated "You are forcing celibacy on your partner, then what can they do?"

Then I would like a woman to answer this question, do they really expect a man to remain faithful to them under such a circumstance? Lets not even talk about sex, lets just say the intimacy level is also not there. By that I mean, hugging each other in bed, touching and feeling each other, been intimate in public, even kissing in public. What's wrong with that, aren't married couples allowed to be intimate too? Each time try to touch them they push your hands away, don't they know we too feels hurt by such things. Then what do you expect from us, we also human too. We need TLC too. Why are we always painted to be the party at fault!!:mad:

[Gaofar]

Hear, hear!!...

[sta1100]

Hi bros,

Just want to share this story. I am a married man with 2 kids. Marriage is nt fullfilling, both emotionally and sexually. However we still tried to maintain our marriage for the sake for the 2 kids. Seriously if u guys still ask me whelter i still love my wife.. i am unsure of the answer too. Responsibilty seem to be the only factor which keep the marriage going. Ever since 4 months ago.. i have been going to Qin Ke, new shanghai ktv lounge with my brothers.

Ever since Marriage, i have not been visiting these places. Used to be chongster since army times and especially after i come out working since i have more spending power. But since dating my wife and marriage, i have never visit these places as i have always place my fiance on my kids first as they are both very young and expenses are heavy... Visitng Qin Ke and BS is fun intially as the girls are daring, but emotionally i will feel quite void after every visit. Furthermore the feelings of guilt is very heavy whenever i reach home. would feel guilty whenever i face my wife and especially my kids.

On the 4th day CNY, that is on the 7/2 i still remember clearly... My bro jio me to LCB at Serangoon Road. He told me the girls there are more reserved nt so daring compared to at ktv. A great place if i am looking for more quiet places. i ageed to join him as i have a heated quarrel with my wife just a day ago. When we reached there at abt 8 pm with 3 other bros, 5 of us together. The place is quite run out compared to those ktv even worse than BS. but the least the girls there are more reserved. at least dun need to push them away when u want to reject them. Soon, i spot a syt and i decided to invite her over for a chat. However the feelings are not rite and when she went to another table... another syt came to sit with me.. i feel comfortable with her toking to her. All the while we are holding hands while we are chatting with each other. According to my bro, she is very new here, just 10 over days.

Chatting with her is an enjoyable thing. Cos though she is only 20, she is a very understanding her. And the very fact is, i have no lust towards towards her, nt at all. The nite soon end with bottles of beer and some nice songs. And when i reach home at abt 3am that nite, i was thinking of her. Woke up at 7 am preparing to go and work. Working halfway, i call my bros and jio them to LSB after work. When i reached, i invited her to open table for me and she was rather surprised to c me there again.

Hi Dragontank, please think carefully, maybe you and your half is not in good shape, please think of the kids is easy to call off but at end of the day it will hurt the kids, please make up with your wife it is not worth to go a PRC chick, she may be nice to you but ??? are you sure she the 1 for you. if you need better to eat outside wash mouth and hand. it is not the $$$ that will go to your wife, do you still love her if you still please think.

[porscheclub]

Bro alan0338 & Bro teebs_darklord,
Got enough space in your camp site? :p
3rd camper reporting :D

me too me too!

[porscheclub]

Sorry to take up your airtime TS.. Just wanted you to know that you are not alone..

Cheers and regards.

* Oh yeah by the way, just for the curious readers out there: I am of course not with the SYT anymore.. Still "China-grade" but at least is from proper channel.. A uni-grad who knows all my past, accepts me of who I am and is able to push me beyond to achieve new goals.. God bless her and thank you for letting me to meet her in a sea of people in the midst of Shenzhen Bao An airport.. Hee hee...

Camping for your story too TS!!

Good read man, 4 stars to u. *sob*

[porscheclub]

dragontank ah. Is your story for real?

Let's put that SYT aside as there are plenty for your selection later on.

Focus on your family & relationship now. We're all married men with kids & i also risk divorce once & probably still risking it now! My Syt has been with me for several years & u know what? I have more! So much that I'm actually stopping all this same old shit. U fall in love everytime, be a romeo, spend money, have a fuck buddy of your life & every single relationship is emotional. U die lah, haven't screw that Syt of yours & already lost your mind? Wait till they lust after your dick & want sex every few hours then you'll understand that your wife is actually better! :p

They're all the same while some are really understanding & u wished u married them but to me, the worst thing that can happen to a man is penniless.

Not that I'm money minded but think about it, I've hit bad times and very swell times but without money? money to have a home, money to pay bills, pay school fees, eat & even find a job? Everything falls apart, better off dead.

If your relationship with wife is really beyond future then let go. Have a good, clean talk with her. Don't get emotional & quarrel but talk about it.

It'll be better for both but please take care of your children as they are your responsibilities & they look up to you as example, mentor & lastly.....Dad.

[Gaofar]

Thanks bro porscheclub for the uppz. Will uppz you back later..

Though we might jumped to conclusion as to thinking that his is a situation that's about to explode, for all you know it could have already exploded eons ago and he is merely just wanted to share his story for us bros and to inculcate values for young samsters..

I say we wait for him to reply and clear the air while of course we still can give our 2 cents of thoughts and well-meanings.

Back to you when you mention what if a girl ends up wanted to have sex every few hours, I won't mind man!! Hahaha!! (Fantasy talk lah.. Who can deal a succubus?..)

Cheers!

[loster]

I gotta admit I was in such a scenario around 2 yrs ago. There was a PRC gal who was really close to me. Even though I am already married, I still cohabit with the PRC gal as I was living seperately with my wife as we were waiting for our new flat. Well, in the end, I almost made the decision to divorce as our marriage was already very fragile, but somehow couldn't find the reason to do it.

In the end, I had to let the PRC gal go which I really feel sad and actually cried over her (first time over a gal, not even my wife). But I guess it's the right choice currently. There are several factors to consider if TS really decide to go with the PRC gal i) how would TS family view her as? ii)are you able to support her and her debts? iii) there will bound to be quarrels and it may be square one again.

BTW, this PRC gal of mine is really considerate to understand why I made this decision and we are still close frens till today:)

[SA23]

Well said by some of the bro's,y izzit must b us guys who nv did anything end up becoming the bad guy. Also after the divorce the cha
boh have to treat us as "sha fu zhou ren". Fxxk those who come out the women law because of it every little thing nt happy the women will just complain and letter will come asking us to go court. STUPID LAWPardon me for my language but after seeing these posts just got abit emo

[Frankiestine]

Well said by some of the bro's,y izzit must b us guys who nv did anything end up becoming the bad guy. Also after the divorce the cha
boh have to treat us as "sha fu zhou ren". Fxxk those who come out the women law because of it every little thing nt happy the women will just complain and letter will come asking us to go court. STUPID LAWPardon me for my language but after seeing these posts just got abit emo

I dun blame you cos when i heard the radio topic and those comments given by those so called righteous woman, I felt emo too to the point of rage. Saying that man who engages prostitute are disgusting filthy immoral. But what do they really know, they are only looking at it from their own point of view.

[SA23]

I dun blame you cos when i heard the radio topic and those comments given by those so called righteous woman, I felt emo too to the point of rage. Saying that man who engages prostitute are disgusting filthy immoral. But what do they really know, they are only looking at it from their own point of view.

Thank bro thank for the understanding. But too bad nt everyone has the same mindset as u. After my divorce almost everyone around me including my family members think i'm in the wrong and i'm the one who causes all the trouble. But when during the time when i'm nt divorce yet and my ex wife complain abt my family members I did nt even mention anything to cause conflict between them. Nw just have to suffer in slients.

[joew2005]

be responsible ..... 2 yr family,esp the children !!

[porscheclub]

Thanks bro porscheclub for the uppz. Will uppz you back later..

Though we might jumped to conclusion as to thinking that his is a situation that's about to explode, for all you know it could have already exploded eons ago and he is merely just wanted to share his story for us bros and to inculcate values for young samsters..

I say we wait for him to reply and clear the air while of course we still can give our 2 cents of thoughts and well-meanings.

Back to you when you mention what if a girl ends up wanted to have sex every few hours, I won't mind man!! Hahaha!! (Fantasy talk lah.. Who can deal a succubus?..)

Cheers!

Yo, I need more advice from u. Will prob PM when time comes, hehehe.

About the sex part. It's true. I shall call it their "sexual awakening", explore with your lady, tease her, open her mind, try things from your fridge ;), outdoors, romance her in sex, get her into porn but when she's trained....don't regret! Two of my galfriends even fed me tonics to keep up.

One of it was a daily dose of boiled sea cucumber with nothing else :eek: Imagine having to eat a plain, black spikey 4~5" rubber rod for breakfast!

Believe me. Too much sex is bad for health!

[Gaofar]

One of it was a daily dose of boiled sea cucumber with nothing else :eek: Imagine having to eat a plain, black spikey 4~5" rubber rod for breakfast!

Believe me. Too much sex is bad for health!


Wah say.. Can't tell whether are you rubbing that into our faces or really pleading to notify us bros of sexual dangers.. Hee hee.. :D

I bet most bros here would say that you are lucky dude to ever encounter what you had!.. Must be good times for you bro! Mine? Only a quarter of your action-movie man! Hahaha..

No worries and PM me if you had any issues that needs help with.

Have a good one yar? Cheers!

[dragontank]

The next day. sunday... i bring my kid alone to my mum place... pls note: my wife and mum are not gd terms... so abt 1 mth once.. i would bring my elder son to my mum place.. i cant bring both kids as the second child is only 20 mths old... it would be very difficult to manage both of them... I would never forget that day... as i was on the bus.. i cuddle my son gently to my arms... i fear the time when i am really divorced.. i would have so little time with him...and i really cherish the time i have with him.....

Slowly.. when he is asleep on the bus... my tears start to roll down... i am a man... and i cant stop the tears from rolling down from my cheeks... Perhaps it is the Father' s love towards our children....From that moment on.. i decided to delete the girl no from my hp... decided that i will rather forget her than lost the marriage...

The next 2 weeks or so... i work very hard to save the marriage.. Things slowly get better and i ceased thinking of her.... though at times i would dread hearing news abt her...

Yori: bro, i just sms her last nite.. wishing her happy valentine day.. then she reply me that what is the pt of having valentine day when nobody love me..

Oh k... i pretend to be bo chap.. doing my own things..

Yori: i think she is referring to u...

Me: What can i do then?

Yori: bro, no worries.. dun need to waste time on a public tiolet when everyone can pay to have her.. nt worth the effort...

My heart is aching when i heard this statment...

At the third week while i am working... i received a text from her... though i deleted her no... but the text in chinese tell me it is her... she is the only china friend i have ...

She: Before i go back i will sms u cos i am thankful for yr love to me...

That text shake me up emtionally again.. cos i never expect to hear from her again... slowly... the thoughs of her slowly creep into my heart again and here comes my nightmare..........

[dragontank]

I then begin to text her again... though i never visit her again...

She: can u buy me a luaggae case for me pls?
Me: yup i am supposed to buy it for u when u mentioned it to me that time.
No worries i will buy it for u...

Usually i cant finish work on time at 6pm... as there is too much work to be
done... by the time i knocked off... the shops are already closed... no time
to shop for a luaggaue case for her.... Since i promised her to buy her the case.. i then decided to pack my work home and shop for her then....

finally i shortlisted one for her and brought it for her... Mission done.. i bring the case outside her workplace..

Me: i am outside yr office.. can u come out and collect it...
She: Thanks...

She came out... smiling... she is thrilled that i buy the case for her..

She: thanks i love it...
Me: i have to make a move now...

As a matter of fact, i am very happy to c her again... my heart is leaping.. and somehow i managed to keep my cool.. and hurried off home...

[alan0338]

arrhhhggg, hate it when interesting part coming and TO BE CONTINUED, camping for more :D

[teebs_darklord]

arrhhhggg, hate it when interesting part coming and TO BE CONTINUED, camping for more :D

Knn...why are you always the first camper??? :D

[alan0338]

Knn...why are you always the first camper??? :D

nnkc, atuomated script la :D

[Frankiestine]

Bro Dragon, once you walk away never look back. Trust me once you look back then there will forever be no turning back. Like a friend once told me...nan ren xing yau hei pi yau ho...translated means a man must have a black harden heart and skin that are thick..don't let the tears and words soften you...

[God OfSex]

TS, Once you look back, 就没完没了。

[JueShiHaoJian]

TS, i tink u already let go of the girl rite... from the way u write can guess.... by the way.. did u up her for memory sake before she left.....just a query no offence

[see see only]

TS, i tink u already let go of the girl rite... from the way u write can guess.... by the way.. did u up her for memory sake before she left.....just a query no offence


Ha ...... from the way TS put down in his beautiful way of writing ... :rolleyes:


I bet .... this is just the beginning :D

[RealEstateGuy]

Thank you for narrating of your life story to us TS.

Your story runs the same outline as mine and as for the ending I could more or less guess what are the options left. I am not going to steal your limelight away from your thread but just wanted to make some personal thoughts known to all..

Some personal thoughts on these kind of issues here as everybody have a different opinion of their life-decisions, be it on how you perceived or you have even walked the road before..

I am a divorced man and I have kids. For my case here and for readers' understanding, it is not because of spur of the moment's decision to divorce but a rational, well-thought-out process over a period of one and a half years to come to that decision.. I love my kids and I place them above all in my life.. But unless you have never gotten into marriage yet, you won't know the feeling of swearing to your first love of how you both will never be apart, you won't know the feeling of joy that comes along with just the 2 of you being together, you won't know the feeling of elation of knowing your firstborn is along the way, of you getting your new house keys, of you witnessing your birth of your child, of you exclaiming of how your child is starting to walk, and so on.......

Given in that context it does appear like a fairy tale with forever happy ending.. But it is not to be.. Soon my wife does not like to have sex, most of the time says that she is tired or simply have no desire.. She starts to distance herself away from me and not go out with just the 2 of us anymore.. You think this is the turning-point for me that I made that decision? Wrong. For the next 4 years I patiently tried every trick in the book to get her interested, get her attention, buy things for her, setting up special meals for us, bring her to places, using kinky toys to arouse her, every farking thing I can think of I try but to no avail.. I was crying and asking her point-blank in her face of the problems that we have and I wanted to do something about it, but she is just not helping me.. I told her you can't do this to me since I have ever don't nothing wrong nor unfaithful to her to deserve this.. I warned her that she is to be blame if anything is to happen in our relationship in the future.. She don't give a damn..

And faith might have it, I chanced upon an SYT of 20yo and for the first time in years I got just the attention that I am yearning for.. Deep inside I know it is dangerous but at that time my mental state is weak and craving.. Long story short, my wife found out of the SYT and have a few big rows and for the next 1 year I pondered about the issue of divorce, long and hard. The breaking point is when once we have a row and just because I hold on to her bag not letting her go, she file personal protection on me. That was the last straw for me and I went ahead with the divorce.

It pains me to not able to see my kids frequently but I always told myself this thing: What do you rather to see in your future? Stay on in the marriage for the sake of your kids, yet to have a spouse who view you as air and knowing that you will lead a lonely life when you are old when your kids have grown up and have their own family? Or would you rather start anew while you are still young and appealing to females and get a new life, looking for someone who knows you better and can assist and concerns you? It's a tough decision but I for one do not want to spend my end of my life in misery...

Sorry to take up your airtime TS.. Just wanted you to know that you are not alone..

Cheers and regards.

* Oh yeah by the way, just for the curious readers out there: I am of course not with the SYT anymore.. Still "China-grade" but at least is from proper channel.. A uni-grad who knows all my past, accepts me of who I am and is able to push me beyond to achieve new goals.. God bless her and thank you for letting me to meet her in a sea of people in the midst of Shenzhen Bao An airport.. Hee hee...

Camping for your story too TS!!

Brother, I rarely opine on domestic issues but if you are stating the facts correctly, then I have to say you did the right thing.

[cola534]

Bro ts, Family is more important!

[dragontank]

After i brought the case for her... The exchange of sms increased more
frequently.... i will always call her during lunch time...

Me: have u taken yr lunch?
She: nope..
Me: u sound that u r coughing.. r u all rite? c a doc yet?
She: nope... yeah i have been coughing lately
Me: after work i u to doc
She: cannot have to work...
Me: in that case.. i will buy cough syrup for u after work and pass it to u...
She: dun want it is very mafan de... cos u will be tired after work today..
Me: no worries.. not mafan at all

After work.. i tapo my work home and rushed off to buy the coughing syrup
for her... and as ususal i waited for her outside her workplace to pass to
her...

Me: i am outside le..
she: k... i will be out soon..
she came out... smiling happily when she saw me..

She: thanks...
Me: this coughing syrup must be taken 3 times per day.. 10 ml once.. it will
not cause drowiness... must drink plenty of water..
She: K... where are u going after this..
Me: home... still have work to do... bye take care...

Again i rush off to home... life at home is rather routine... helping with house work and looking after kids....

Wife: can u help me with the washing of the clothes 2mr as i have dinner appt with my friends...

Me: sure k... ( Actually i know who she was meeting but i keep quiet as usual... )

My wife log on to msn as usual after she have change dryers for the younger one)

i then begin my work and pondered over the marriage with my wife again...

[dragontank]

The confession and quarrel with my wife 3 years ago begin to flood my mind
again...

Wife: walau... what is this... tissue paper spread all over the clothes... to think i just wash it...

Me: sorry... i think it must be mine.... dear.. sorry.. u take a rest.. let me do the washing again...

Wife: it is nt yours... y r u always taking the blame for me.. when u r nt at fault... tears begin to flood her cheek...

Me: dear what is wrong.. hush hush... dun cry... it is just a small matter... i wll do the rest....

Suddenly... my wife hug me and she begin to cry softly....

She: i want to tell u something.... it have always been on my heart... but i will always feel very guilty if i keep it from u....

Me: what is it?....

she cried again... and i comfort her....

Me: no matter what happens... i will still love u de....

She: do u still remember last mth i was away for company retreat...

Me: yup of course... i was the one who packed the stuff for u... cos u
left out many things as usual...

She: the fact is... i did nt went for company retreat... i check in to the hotel with a guy..... hiding her face in shame....


I was stunned..... completely taken by surprise... nt even knowing how to react to this sudden confession and betrayal..... i was at a loss of words...


She: sorry dear.... i feel so guilty..... cos whenever u treat me so well...

I paused for a long while...

Me: did u love him?
She: i guess so ba.....
Me: what abt me?... do u still love me?....
She: u r a gd husband and father.... i feel secure whenever u r around....

Me: who is he?
She: dun probe anymore.... i will nt share anymore!
Me; i need to know who is he...
She: i said dun probe anymore... can u? she begin to cry again...

Me: k... dun cry anymore.....
she: can u forgive me?...
Me: yup i will.....
she: will u still love me?
Me: Yes.. i will always love u as my wife...

I remember that nite... my heart is aching very badly..... unable to sleep well.... cos i begin to reflect on myself... there must be something lacking.. that is y she begin to stray...... is it my fault?.... i begin to question myself angrily.....

[alan0338]

no offence TS, but story really getting more interesting liao...

[teebs_darklord]

no offence TS, but story really getting more interesting liao...

Ya man...very interesting...

[dragontank]

After the confession.... i begin to woo my wife back again... Lack of romance... perhaps i am nt romantic enough... being secure.... and romantic r 2 different issues... i start to court her with roses.... accompany her more to shopping.... but despite of all these constant effort.... there does nt seem to be much improvement... life goes on as per normal... as i did nt question her movements at all as i choose to trust her... i dun like to check on her... i always believed... it is always the heart that matters... if she dun love me... even if u check her moments daily... it wun work too...

There is once when we dine out... just the both of us... as my mum is taking care of my son...

Me: i feel that u dun love me.... u r just thankful to my love that is shown... but gratitude is different from love...

There is a long pause after i said that.....

She:Perhaps u r rite.... Thanks for being my husband...

My heart sank... feelings cant be forced.... what is being given has already been given.. can i ask her to take back the feelings for that guy... just to add on.... her relationship have nt ended yet... she still meet him once a week.... i knew it... but i dun want to confront her as she always to tell me more give to sort her thoughts and feelings emotionally... thus.. i dun want to force her......

[dragontank]

Sex life with my wife is getting lesser and lesser... basically i am a man who believed alot in feelings... without this element... my sex drive will be very much reduced.... at times when i thougt to myself.... how can i make love to her when she dun love me anymore... neither will she enjoy it too.... sex must be emotionally fullling but nt a routine.. Soon.. we slept in different rooms.... but the daily activities still goes on.... we will do housework together. ntuc shopping.... bringing kids out to playground... in the eyes of my parents. relatives and even friends... we are all k... a model couple ba.. cos i seldom lost my cool....

Deep inside my heart... i still love her... i know.... she is my wife... i will always hold her hand tightly whenever we cross the roads....i will protect her... this is my duty of a husband....

[dragontank]

Our marriage from that pt on... is no longer perfect ever since her betrayal and her refusal to make a complete break from that man.. we have some heated rows abt this issue... as i feel that i have given her too much time... but she always tell me to be more understanding... tears is always her best weapon aganist me.. cos i cant bear tears.. my heart will softened and will hug her again.... until the last few mths.. i begin to feel weary.... y must i do all the housework on weekend when she is meeting him for lunch... i start to feel emotionally driained.. and that is the time i begin cheonging again... qinke... bs... shanghai.... but i simple rule of engagement... i will never bed the girl... no sex... as i am married man with kids and wife.. the fear of aids stop me from crossing the border..

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Me: u sound that u r coughing.. r u all rite? c a doc yet?
She: nope... yeah i have been coughing lately
Me: after work i u to doc
She: cannot have to work...
Me: in that case.. i will buy cough syrup for u after work and pass it to u...
She: dun want it is very mafan de... cos u will be tired after work today..
Me: no worries.. not mafan at all

...................................

She: thanks...
Me: this coughing syrup must be taken 3 times per day.. 10 ml once.. it will
not cause drowiness... must drink plenty of water..

...................................




Nowadays many people having cough. These peristant coughing does not go away with off-the-shelf cough syrup or even after several visits with western doctors cos these are viral infection cough and there is no 'quick fix' for such cough. Cough syrup only treatment is to ease symptoms only. The coughing will be more aggressive during the night about 4am-5am. She need to be patient until the cough goes. ;)

[see see only]

Nowadays many people having cough. These peristant coughing does not go away with off-the-shelf cough syrup or even after several visits with western doctors cos these are viral infection cough and there is no 'quick fix' for such cough. Cough syrup only treatment is to ease symptoms only. The coughing will be more aggressive during the night about 4am-5am. She need to be patient until the cough goes.

Hey bro IK, did not know you're a doctor as well .... :D

:rolleyes: OR are you trying to bring across some trick to TS .... i kept reading between the words and sentence but cant find any lei :D ..... u want to enlighten a bit ????


I remember that nite... my heart is aching very badly..... unable to sleep well.... cos i begin to reflect on myself... there must be something lacking.. that is y she begin to stray...... is it my fault?.... i begin to question myself angrily.....


TS, somehow i do feel this way ... when woman treat the man well. The more the man will stray.

Likewise when man treat the woman well, the more the woman will stray as well.

Generally, these are cases of taking for granted ... i guess. BUT when you treat them like shit ... the more they try their best to please you .. :rolleyes: .... life as it is

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Hey bro IK, did not know you're a doctor as well .... :D

:rolleyes: OR are you trying to bring across some trick to TS .... i kept reading between the words and sentence but cant find any lei :D ..... u want to enlighten a bit ????

Dear Bro SSO, No trick atall. I just do not want to see this viral infection cough spread over to TS and in turn spreading to his "FAMILY", especially the 2 lovely innocent kids.

....... my elder son.....the second child is only 20 mths old..... I would never forget that day... as i was on the bus.. i cuddle my son gently to my arms... i fear the time when i am really divorced.. i would have so little time with him...and i really cherish the time i have with him.....

Slowly.. when he is asleep on the bus... my tears start to roll down... i am a man... and i cant stop the tears from rolling down from my cheeks... Perhaps it is the Father' s love towards our children....From that moment on.. i decided to delete the girl no from my hp... decided that i will rather forget her than lost the marriage...

The next 2 weeks or so... i work very hard to save the marriage.. Things slowly get better and i ceased thinking of her.... though at times i would dread hearing news abt her...
..............................

At the third week while i am working... i received a text from her... though i deleted her no... but the text in chinese tell me it is her... she is the only china friend i have ...

She: Before i go back i will sms u cos i am thankful for yr love to me...

That text shake me up emtionally again.. cos i never expect to hear from her again... slowly... the thoughs of her slowly creep into my heart again and here comes my nightmare..........

If this is a true story. Then.....If a text message from a Ghost was so emotionally arousing, what about those tears that you rolled down looking at the kid? What aobut those tears rolling down from your 2 kids after realising that their daddy is leaving them for a Ghost!!!! Where's the " I WOULD NEVER FORGET THAT DAY" above? Love for a Ghost is greater than a fatherly love? You want to play, you don't let a Ghost to ransack your family and life! :rolleyes:

Anyway, please continue your "story".

[teebs_darklord]

If this is a true story. Then.....If a text message from a Ghost was so emotionally arousing, what about those tears that you rolled down looking at the kid? What aobut those tears rolling down from your 2 kids after realising that their daddy is leaving them for a Ghost!!!! Where's the " I WOULD NEVER FORGET THAT DAY" above? Love for a Ghost is greater than a fatherly love? You want to play, you don't let a Ghost to ransack your family and life! :rolleyes:

Anyway, please continue your "story".

Bro IK,

Fact is that many people cannot differentiate between fantasy and reality when they fall in love with GHOSTS, VAMPIRES or PONTIANAKS...:D

They forget that we are humans and 'they' are from another dimension. Get emotionally involved with creatures from another dimension and you will live to regret it especially if you get your family involved down the road.

[Reoxy]

To TS,

If I get it right, your LSB episode happened after your wife's confession. So in fact, you are not in the wrong.

[SMGG]

.... BUT when you treat them like shit ... the more they try their best to please you .. :rolleyes: .... life as it is

Bro, well said for about 70% right cos they still have feeling for you, for the 30% no deep feeling gone case lao :D

[see see only]

Bro, well said for about 70% right cos they still have feeling for you, for the 30% no deep feeling gone case lao :D

Precisely if "no deep feeling" then how hard you try to keep ... their heart already outside :(

You keep the person physically, you dont get to keep the heart, even maybe they stay becos they pity you or becos they bored or etc ... what for :rolleyes:

[xdjpriboy]

Hi bros,

Just want to share this story. I am a married man with 2 kids. Marriage is nt fullfilling, both emotionally and sexually. However we still tried to maintain our marriage for the sake for the 2 kids. Seriously if u guys still ask me whelter i still love my wife.. i am unsure of the answer too. Responsibilty seem to be the only factor which keep the marriage going. Ever since 4 months ago.. i have been going to Qin Ke, new shanghai ktv lounge with my brothers.

Ever since Marriage, i have not been visiting these places. Used to be chongster since army times and especially after i come out working since i have more spending power. But since dating my wife and marriage, i have never visit these places as i have always place my fiance on my kids first as they are both very young and expenses are heavy... Visitng Qin Ke and BS is fun intially as the girls are daring, but emotionally i will feel quite void after every visit. Furthermore the feelings of guilt is very heavy whenever i reach home. would feel guilty whenever i face my wife and especially my kids.

On the 4th day CNY, that is on the 7/2 i still remember clearly... My bro jio me to LCB at Serangoon Road. He told me the girls there are more reserved nt so daring compared to at ktv. A great place if i am looking for more quiet places. i ageed to join him as i have a heated quarrel with my wife just a day ago. When we reached there at abt 8 pm with 3 other bros, 5 of us together. The place is quite run out compared to those ktv even worse than BS. but the least the girls there are more reserved. at least dun need to push them away when u want to reject them. Soon, i spot a syt and i decided to invite her over for a chat. However the feelings are not rite and when she went to another table... another syt came to sit with me.. i feel comfortable with her toking to her. All the while we are holding hands while we are chatting with each other. According to my bro, she is very new here, just 10 over days.

Chatting with her is an enjoyable thing. Cos though she is only 20, she is a very understanding her. And the very fact is, i have no lust towards towards her, nt at all. The nite soon end with bottles of beer and some nice songs. And when i reach home at abt 3am that nite, i was thinking of her. Woke up at 7 am preparing to go and work. Working halfway, i call my bros and jio them to LSB after work. When i reached, i invited her to open table for me and she was rather surprised to c me there again.

My buddy is in the same situation. However, knowing him and his wife well, I have asked him to think carefully before considering divorce.

[sportserj]

I salute you dragontank.... I will leave my wife in I am in the same situation as you. My situation is totally opposite from u.Anyway, I wish you all the best in the future.
明天会更好
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G7NSdSEFxTQ

[dragontank]

Back to the story of me and that LSB girl... though i did nt visit the bar any longer but she and i keep in constant contact through sms... 2 days after i finish my cough syrup.. she text me again..

She: tell u something... the coughing syrup u brought for me... i finish it already... in 1 day.. can u buy some more for me?...

Me: so fast?...

She: i finish it in one shot...

Me: My goodness... u will overdose yrself... k i will buy for u again.. but pls dun overdose yrself again...

She: Thanks for taking care of me...

Me: Tell u something... though u r nt my gf... but in my heart.. i already treat u as my gf... hope that u dun mind for telling u the truth...

She: i know... in this place... u r the one who truly care for me alone...

Me: do u think u can give me a chance to be yr bf?...

There is a long pasuse after i text her this message... my heart sank as i am mentally prepared for the worst answer....

Me: whatever yr decesion is... i will respect yr feelings and will still care for u as a friend...

She: i am willing to be yr gf as yr sincerety touch my heart...

7/3 1357 i received this confirmation from her and i am overjoyed....i remember that day... i work happily though i am as usual overloaded with work... 6pm sharp.. i knocked off and flew off to buy the coughing syrup for her and she is happy to c me too...

Me: take this coughing syrup 4 times per day.. each day 10 ml..... different brand already.... but dun finish everything in one shot..

She: thanks i know...

The next day... i took half day leave and i ask her out for lunch.... that is our first date together...

I took great care and attention to our first date together.... cos i have disappoint her the last time... i brought her a bouquet of roses before i head to her place.... and i received a text from her..

She: will u be here today... pls keep yr promise....

Me: yup i will be here... dun worry... i will nt disappoint u again...

Finally i reach there... with a bouquet of roses in my hands and she is overjoyed to c them too...

Me: do u like them?

She: yes i do... thank you so much....

she then linked her arms in mine.. and we head off to mac for lunch....it is a very enjoyable lunch and and i really enjoy my time with her.... to her.. she seldom come out... no time.. and she is really curious to c boon keng mrt so near to her place... i then explain to her how to use mrt to connect to the nearest shopping mall which is nexx....

Me: nt much time le... if nt i will bring u to nexx shopping mall... i am sure that u will like it...

She: it is k... next time then... any garden nearby...

No garden but a park ba.. we then strolled to st george road where there is a park.. all long we r holding hands tightly and finally we found a bench under a shade to sit on and chat together....

it is indeed an enjoyable afternoon with her... and i love her company.. soon i have to sent her hm as she is going to start work soon...

She: will u come and visit me later at my workplace?
Me: yes i will... wait for me....

that afternoon i visit her... this time... nt as a customer anymore but as a bf... and though she is very busy.. she would still make time for me.. and spent most of her time with me...

Shd i tip her since i am her bf... this is the question which comes to my mind often... that day... in the end.. i decided to tip her...

Before i left... i pass her 20...

me: this is nt tips... but something from my heart... xinsi....

She: k thanks... she is happy when she received that...

Our feelings slowly grow from there....

[dragontank]

Soon on the next day... i received a text from her again...

She: i feel like taking mc again... can u accompany me....

I then called her...

Me: i can accompany u after work but nt for long as i need to go hm..
she: but i want u for the whole nite...
Me: whole nite... then where shall we sleep tonite?
She: sleep on the streets loh...
Me: cannot... the only place we can go to is hotel.. but i think it is nt rite for us to check in at a hotel... nt at this moment unless our relationship is more steady...
She: hahaha dun be so tense... i am only teasing u de...

Me: then where do u want to go then...
She what time must u leave?
Me: 11 plus ba...
she: i want to go to the beach...

Me: we will go to east coast then...

that day after work... i meet her at her place and we proceed to boon keng for dinner.... she does nt seem to mind even though we dine at the coffeeshop.... and i am glad that she dun mind...

we then took a bus to east coast... the scenery is beauitful there and i really enjoy every single moment with her.....

[arsenal_84]

My heart sank... feelings cant be forced.... what is being given has already been given.. can i ask her to take back the feelings for that guy... just to add on.... her relationship have nt ended yet... she still meet him once a week.... i knew it... but i dun want to confront her as she always to tell me more give to sort her thoughts and feelings emotionally... thus.. i dun want to force her......

i feel this is a turning point for TS, once a woman have a change of heart, there's no going back no matter how much time you give her.
i'm pretty sure you have try your best in retaining that fire that is no longer around.
my guess is right now, you guys are having an open rs marriage where both parents are merely just father and mother in name sake.

[joew2005]

pls handle(feelings) with care ..... wat u see might not be wat u get(eventally)

[arsenal_84]

I dun blame you cos when i heard the radio topic and those comments given by those so called righteous woman, I felt emo too to the point of rage. Saying that man who engages prostitute are disgusting filthy immoral. But what do they really know, they are only looking at it from their own point of view.

i would say that is feminism at its very worst.
everyone have their rights including women but not fulfilling the basic duty of a wife then the point is why bother to get married in the first place ?

[Frankiestine]

i would say that is feminism at its very worst.
everyone have their rights including women but not fulfilling the basic duty of a wife then the point is why bother to get married in the first place ?

Yes I always wondered why such women would want to get married in the first place if sex to them is not part of it. Like I always said, if only marriage is a contract.....then i have the right to sue her for breaching it..anyway sorry for interrupting bro ah long thread just that discussion on sex in marriage tends to heat me up..

[afx2222]

Soon on the next day... i received a text from her again...

She: i feel like taking mc again... can u accompany me....

I then called her...

Me: i can accompany u after work but nt for long as i need to go hm..
she: but i want u for the whole nite...
Me: whole nite... then where shall we sleep tonite?
She: sleep on the streets loh...
Me: cannot... the only place we can go to is hotel.. but i think it is nt rite for us to check in at a hotel... nt at this moment unless our relationship is more steady...
She: hahaha dun be so tense... i am only teasing u de...

Me: then where do u want to go then...
She what time must u leave?
Me: 11 plus ba...
she: i want to go to the beach...

Me: we will go to east coast then...

that day after work... i meet her at her place and we proceed to boon keng for dinner.... she does nt seem to mind even though we dine at the coffeeshop.... and i am glad that she dun mind...

we then took a bus to east coast... the scenery is beauitful there and i really enjoy every single moment with her.....

I really despise a man who never take responsibility over marriage and committed to his family, wife and children. In your case, I guess you have quite a lot of dissatisfaction with your wife. Why want to marry your wife since you don't love her that much before marriage? Now you already seeing another woman, a commercial tool of every men's lust (sorry for being frank) and keep her for your own sake during your needs and hunger. However, you were saying that you would want to stabilize your relationship with this PRC then only you bed her. Hahaha....... if you do it today, you will not regret tomorrow. If really you want to wait till you and the PRC r/s is blossoming, she might reject you by the time you want to screw her:rolleyes:.. Who knows she would suck you dry some day... only time can tell.

If I were you, I would just FUCK and FORGET. Why you want to get yourself entangle in an impossible relationship with a PRC while you are a father of 2 kids. Have you never thought of the consequences before you start this relationship? Can you afford to lose if one day this PRC dumps you? Will your wife and children willing to forgive you if they realized their father is fooling with a PRC outside? Obviously, you are being lured and tempted by a PONTIANAK. You are in a state of mentally retarded and losing senses. Frankly, you need to stay away from temptation and learn to control your feeling. Do not let your mind be driven by your little brother.

By the way, do you know why this 'Matter of the Heart column exist?' This column is dedicated to any SBF monger who has upside down torrid love affair to share their experience and seek advice and guide from the rest in SBF community. Definitely not for seeking advise and guide on how should I do to make her love me, what can I do to make her BBBBJ me and sort of those silly questions. You are now telling everybody that you are about to start a relationship with this PRC and we do enjoy reading your story or agenda but, did you really read some of the experienced brother's advises and have a second thought of it. If you can't be bothered, keep your story to yourself. Need not tell the whole world you are in a relationship with a ****e:D

[arsenal_84]

I really despise a man who never take responsibility over marriage and committed to his family, wife and children. In your case, I guess you have quite a lot of dissatisfaction with your wife. Why want to marry your wife since you don't love her that much before marriage?


so far we only hear TS views only...

if TS part of the story about his wife cheating on him first is true, is a clear case where both partners are no longer interested in each other.
i pity the kids being involved in the messy rs of their parents.

TS did almost managed to make a clean break off with this pub girl but somehow his wife seems to be emotionally involved with her lover.
most milf hunters will agreed that when someone else wife open up to them, is more than just needs or sex, the likelihood of emotional attachment is also present.

[alan0338]

Before i left... i pass her 20...

me: this is nt tips... but something from my heart... xinsi....
....

OMg, $20 nia??!! :eek: Tats really cheap,if me i also kena KC by her :D

[teebs_darklord]

OMg, $20 nia??!! :eek: Tats really cheap,if me i also kena KC by her :D

Si Alan, Go and be KC by her lor....:D

[arsenal_84]

something for TS to read up on:
http://www.womensinfidelity.com/

[dragontank]

We sat on the wavebreaker.. enjoying the sea breeze and the sea waves.. the nite is beauitful.. and she lied on my shoulders.. holding her hands tightly.. i drew her close to me....

She: i noticed that u always sing sorrowful songs.. y is that so?

i paused for the moment... as i am nt gd with the expression of my feelings...

Me: perhaps i am heavily laden with my marriage issues..

She: u still love yr wife alot... i can sense it...

Me: maybe.. but i really dunno...

we then chat abt other things.. mostly abt herself...

She: i love seashells...

Me: serious? next week i will come to the beach then.. will try to source out a seashell for her...

She: very difficult de... cos unless high tide.. if nt seashells will nt appear on the beach de...

Me: i will still try....

Slowly we left the beach and we went to marine parade ntuc as i want to buy some fruits for her as she love fruits...

That is the first time we were shopping for grocies together... somehow.. at that moment.. i really feel that she is my gf/wife... but i know that it is just an illusion...

Just on the way home in a cab... i received a call from my wife...

Wife: wru?
Me: on the way home...
Wife: i just reach hm too.. hey tmr... i will nt be hm early.. have dinner with collaugues.. so tried to come home early k.. to take care of the kids.
Me: yup i will..

My face expression changed and she realised it..

She: r u k? she squeezed my hands gently...

Me: yup i am all rite...

She: yr wife called u...

Me: yes.... do u want to go hm now? or can u accompany me for a while more..

She: Sure.. i can pei ni de... but where would u like to go...

Me: to that park yesterday.. then i will sent u hm..

She: K...

We then went to the park.. sensing my moodiness... she hold my hands gently and i i am deeply touched by her gestures... thoughts...

We found a bench and sit by....the park at nite is more cooling... and i found that i am opening up to her...

Me: have u ever wondered y i love to visit these places... ktv and LSB..

She: i guess most men love these places ba... but somehow i sensed that u r different...

Me: my marriage problems... i seldom share with anyone... only 2 buddies knew abt it... but i just want to share with u...

Slowly i tell her what is going on for the past few years.. and with every word i shared... i realised that it is a slow healing process for me...

She is a gd listener... very understanding and gentle... she never interrup me halfway and she would always nod her head in approval...

She: now i fully understand y u will come to these places... btw do u know that i am testing u just now.. when i suggest u have to pei me for the whole nite..

Me: is it?

She: i just want to know whelter u r that kind of man who will never go hm. but i know that u r a caring man.. and will nt be outside for the whole nite..

Me: yup i will nt leave my family.. will always go hm daily...

She: i know....

Me: i do have feelings for u.. but i dun dare to think of other things..

She: Y

Me: unless i am sure of what i can commit... if nt i prefer our relationship to be in this way... emotional closeness is primary.....the rest is seconday...

She: u r a really rare man.. i work here and i have seen quite alot of men le.. u r the first man i came across... and i am right abt u...



She:

[joew2005]

don't deceive yourself ... by assuming tat she has develop feelings 4 u.