marrying a nite club gal..pls advise

[stillheart]

I am with this gal for 8months, she is a malaysian .
she bagan working in nite club @ the age of 17 .she is 32 now.
when i'm with her she treated me very well . i still give her tips when i go and visit her for drinks. its her job i feel.

problem is i find out i am actually her second bf.she has a bf of 4yrs already.
but she says she loves me and want me to marry her.she lied to me 8months , i found out abt her bf because i checked on her phone.she confess.

i wanted break off but she cry sadly very sad.
i went to check on her in ktv without her seeing me there .
she was still crying.

should i trust her ?

[xyman]

I am with this gal for 8months, she is a malaysian .
she bagan working in nite club @ the age of 17 .she is 32 now.
when i'm with her she treated me very well . i still give her tips when i go and visit her for drinks. its her job i feel.

problem is i find out i am actually her second bf.she has a bf of 4yrs already.
but she says she loves me and want me to marry her.she lied to me 8months , i found out abt her bf because i checked on her phone.she confess.

i wanted break off but she cry sadly very sad.
i went to check on her in ktv without her seeing me there .
she was still crying.

should i trust her ?

15 years working, very seasoned already. I out to play only few times a week, I already can fake tears to these girls.. What you think?

Also, you are the other boyfriend, not the second.

[aduobasi]

how sad is sad when you said she cried? do not be fooled. you should tell her your now in heavy debt, if she loves you, she will volunteer to pay, if she disappear, you will know the answer

[lazyguy]

bro if she love u u think she will have two time you meh??

i just want to advise u ... dun waste ur time...

for crying i also can cry when i feel like lor... no need training 1... build in our body...

[joew2005]

another prey verus predator ..... :(

[naemlo]

she lied to me 8months , i found out abt her bf because i checked on her phone.she confess.


Unless u r born with a brain in the ass, whenever u think only shit, else the above statement indicates how u should think. :rolleyes:

[oceano]

Unless u r born with a brain in the ass, whenever u think only shit, else the above statement indicates how u should think. :rolleyes:

This i strongly agree
u cannot trust such a lady much

[lawrencex]

bro honestly, no
let it go

[RealEstateGuy]

I am with this gal for 8months, she is a malaysian .
she bagan working in nite club @ the age of 17 .she is 32 now.
when i'm with her she treated me very well . i still give her tips when i go and visit her for drinks. its her job i feel.

problem is i find out i am actually her second bf.she has a bf of 4yrs already.
but she says she loves me and want me to marry her.she lied to me 8months , i found out abt her bf because i checked on her phone.she confess.

i wanted break off but she cry sadly very sad.
i went to check on her in ktv without her seeing me there .
she was still crying.

should i trust her ?

Brother, you need a reality check. I see numerous negatives you are choosing to ignore.
1) Malaysian. Is she at least Chinese? or East Asiatic?
2) 15 years of working in clubs. No desire to break out and it becomes a lifestyle?
3) You are second fiddle as you stated.

What is your ultimate goal with this gal? If you have no intent to marry her then leave her alone.

[joew2005]

hi ts,wat makes u believe u were with tis gal for 8 mths ?
fr wat u said tat she has been 2-timing, i would said tat she has been lying 2 u ... for 8 mths instead.

when she said she luvs u, u believe her ??

abt her crying incident,u could be the fool tat was con by her instead ...

no,u should not trust her becos she has lied 2 u fr the beginning.

pls do not hv the intention of marrying her.

[just_1_pohpiah]

15 years in this industry?? Friend, she can eat you alive man!

[horny03]

Trust or not is up to you. If a gal really love me she would tell me everything. For me , i won't trust her anymore and i would let her go. Cause there are still gals out there.

[arsenal_84]

if TS has not learn the skill of dissecting lies...then he is simply not ready for such a rs yet.

[sammyboyfor]

malaysian .
she bagan working in nite club @ the age of 17 .she is 32 now.
when i'm with her she treated me very well .

Why on earth would you want to marry a nite club girl???? They're part of a very poor quality gene pool.

When it comes to marriage, smart men are well aware of the fact that the girl they marry will be the mother of their kids. Surely you don't want your sons and daughters to inherit the intelligence of some nite club whore!!!:eek:

If you intend to get married and start a family, seek out an intelligent, thrifty, hardworking and honest girl to be your wife. There's a much higher chance of your kids growing up with the same sterling qualities.

Nite club girls are there simply to be fucked. Just fuck them and be done with it.

[stillheart]

thanks bros for all the advise.

she smack K
she use to gambles when young and loses hugh money 50k-100k rm
she needs to drink everyday
heavy smoker

i feel she wanted a change but we know its really hard.
i guess i shall wait and see....

[kennylee]

Better not, who knows how many other boy friends there are, u never know. Sure you really love her so much....there are many other good girls around.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

TS, don't start 2 threads with half story here and there :rolleyes:

http://www.sammyboyforum.com/showthread.php?t=241570

It's really a no-brainer. You still trust her after she lied to you for 8 months?

You are falling for a battle-harden veteran of JB Night Scene. You can just count (no need to imagine) how many men she serviced all these years from age 17 till 32. What makes you so special apart from being a refuge harbour to park herself now that she is already over the hill. :rolleyes:

Anyway, we all know that nothing will change your mind. :D

You just want our blessing - Please go marry her (You just hope that every weekend when she's back to JB, She is not fxxking with her BF dog) :rolleyes:

[sammyboyfor]

thanks bros for all the advise.



Should be "Thanks brothers for the ADVICE.".

"Advise" is a verb.


she needs to drink everyday
heavy smoker


So you want your kids to end up with a mother who's permanently drunk and smells like an ashtray???!!!:rolleyes:

I wouldn't wish this sort of misfortune on my worst enemy.

[Sam The Caterer]

i guess i shall wait and see....

Bro, wait n see what??? Find other one liaoz loh. This type ger just pay $ n happy can liaoz. Then when u leave the place, dont think of her le.

[joew2005]

hi stillheart,it's yr life ... u decide wat u 1 2 do with yr life.
but be warned tat u would hv 2 live with yr choice ...

btw,why does she need 2 drink everyday ??
she 1s 2 "numb" herself ??

why do u think tat she wanted 2 change ??
why do u still 1 2 wait & see ??

i k only say tat u r hopeless ..... hopelessly in her kc trap.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

thanks bros for all the advise.

she smack K
she use to gambles when young and loses hugh money 50k-100k rm
she needs to drink everyday
heavy smoker
Serial lier
Hidden dog

i feel she wanted a change but we know its really hard.
i guess i shall wait and see....

Things that you already knew but being told yet again :D

You forgotten to add: in purple :o

Wait and see how your whole life collapse and become a "StillLife" statue? :rolleyes:

I am not looking down on anybody cos everybody - good, bad and ugly - has a past, bad habits and deserving love, just that birds of a feather flock together. If you ain't the same type of feather. You be better off with other bird. :p

[stillheart]

She has choosen the other man..
Story over...

The breakup process is heartless
She scream , yell at me.
Say I'm not a man , ask me to f off.
Called her many times she ignore
SMS ignore .
Go find her she heartlessly f care me.
No room to talk.
Feeling sad , but I know I'm blessed.

Hope she has made the right choice.

[sammyboyfor]

She has choosen the other man..
Story over...


Why you ever got involved in a whore in the first place sure beats me.:rolleyes:

Whores are for fucking not loving. Just fuck them and be done with it.

[yangguo]

She has choosen the other man..
Story over...

The breakup process is heartless.....
Feeling sad , but I know I'm blessed.

Bro TS, it's indeed a blessing in disguise.

Move on and you will certainly find a better one. :)

[Gaofar]

Bro, I am very sure you are a sane person, one with logic and reason.

After what you have written out all those previous posts, don't you think you have actually wrote out your problems and also your solution?

I can understand you feeling for the lady is deep, and it's difficult to pull away, but upon seeing so much posts here telling you the correct direction, surely we must have been right somewhere right?

Be brave and resolute. Don't even think about going back to see her or message her after the "breakup". Don't even give her the chance to think that you still hopelessly needs her and she will just carry on playing this "tantrum-play" with you just to make you feel bad and cement your feelings for her.

Take care and heed the words Bro. I'm sure the very reason why you are here posting this initial question, your heart must have felt something is wrong somewhere.

Cheers and regards.

She has choosen the other man..
Story over...

The breakup process is heartless
She scream , yell at me.
Say I'm not a man , ask me to f off.
Called her many times she ignore
SMS ignore .
Go find her she heartlessly f care me.
No room to talk.
Feeling sad , but I know I'm blessed.

Hope she has made the right choice.

[alan0338]

She has choosen the other man..
Story over...

The breakup process is heartless

Feeling sad , but I know I'm blessed.

Hope she has made the right choice.

TS, u should go and buy 4D liao,u really sibei heng :D

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

She has choosen the other man..
Story over...
.....
Hope she has made the right choice.

One last piece of advice - In the event that she call you to borrow money, please don't be a stupid fool and heart soft even if she threaten to commit suicide or whatever sob stories like lock up in jail, load sharks after her, her dog cheated and run away with her money and need money for rehabilitation to start life afresh ((possibly with you again) this is 1 fxxking bullshit story that will get your heart go soft) and etc........ Please cut all ties with her. :cool:

[joew2005]

hi stillheart, yr r/s with tis gal so drama ....
yesterday b4 noon u posted saying "i feel she wanted a change but we know its really hard. i guess i shall wait and see...."
1 day later u posted saying she has already choosen the other man.
were u ever 1 of her man in the 1st place ?

whether the stori is indeed over or not, only u know.
all breakup process is painful, but the extend is different 4 every1.
why the sudden change in her attitude 2wards u ...

if indeed tis is true,her heartless is actually a blessing in disguise 2 u.
whether she has made the right choice,only she knows.
but her choice is definitely a break thru 4 u.
u k break thru tis ... u must break thru tis & 4get her.

[S.B.Y.1]

This is the complexity of love ..... Sigh :(

[blohsg]

well ... what a turn of event ... all for the better then.

[sfx2011]

better dont....later more trouble.

[RawIsWar]

17 years in this industry?
I do not know how many 'bf' she fucked RAW and you also as a 'bf' should beware...
get yourself tested for god sake!
your body and your brain(if it exist)!! :mad:

[stillheart]

why the sudden change in her attitude 2wards u ...

if indeed tis is true,her heartless is actually a blessing in disguise 2 u.
whether she has made the right choice,only she knows.
but her choice is definitely a break thru 4 u.

I also find a suddenly change of attitude in her
Cos every tues and weds the man is with her
I was so stupid to find out this so late
I use to ask her why she always off tues and weds
She said tues and weds not much customer so she rest.
But she always say wanted to rest and refuse to meet.

To be frank I keep asking her to leave him
I even agree to marry her , buy house in jb live together

With rm5k a month . She quit
She rejected this..

Guess the other guy is a bigger fish.
Anyway it's over.

Thanks all for the good and bad advice.

u k break thru tis ... u must break thru tis & 4get her.[/QUOTE]