Thai gf asking for too much money

[dustzee]

I just need to get this off somewhere...

My Thai girl is a normal girl in her country working as a designer. She has a decent job that pays her a little higher than average in her country. We fell in love and I have made the commitments to visit her regularly.

Everything about having a thai gf is good. Having someone who will bargain for you in the market, bringing you around like a personal tour guide, taking care of the admin for the bank and the rent. And the sex is damn good.

I have met her family and she lives with her mother, brother and sister. Her father and the rest of the family are in the north. I cannot communicate with the mother but I guess she's ok with me. Just that she doesn't like the fact that the gf always stay at my place when I'm there.

So I fell deep and hard for her, thinking that I have finally found someone I really care for. And she really make me feel the feeling is mutual because she is so attentive to me and my needs.

Here comes the thing. I do not understand why she isn't stingy with my money if she sees us as an item. Initially, she asked for help because she had some problems with the shop (she has her own business as well). I agreed to help, partial give partial loan. It wasn't clear, but she always call it a loan but with no clear intention of returning.

The good thing is she isn't lying. Every money that was sent was used to buy something visible that I can see. For example, extra tables and space in the shop. I always think not to ask her for the money as she is really trying to expand her business and upgrade her life. As a bf, I am more than happy to help.

When we go on tours, she would ask her friends along (thai couples) but seems like she always end up paying (with my money). She likes to treat her friends and I seem to be the one paying for that. I have no idea what she was doing, even though the money was not a big deal in our country.

So sometimes I wonder about the perception she has of me. I like to be treated as an equal, but she seems to be less sensitive on how my money was spent. However, she seems to be very sensitive on how her thai friends might have problems paying for this and that. Anyway, I told myself not to worry about it.

And then the money lending issue seems to get bigger. Recently I learned about how much the family is in debt and she has to shoulder everything (because parents are old and siblings are young). Again, I offered to send some money, but this time, stirred. I mean it seems like a black hole that's getting bigger and bigger. In the span of a few months, I'm already sending money in hundreds and thousands. And it seems like they (the family) have no clear idea how to get themselves out of their debt.

I have told my gf repeatedly that I'm not rich, but I would help to ease her of her stress. I'm not sure if she understood that point.

The money that I sent I'm prepared to lose. But I just dread the feeling of what kind of perception she has of our relationship, and in this case, what about her family? What is her family thinking of our relationship.

I really do not want things to go sour now. We have a great chemistry. She is really special to me and I seldom fall for anyone so hard. But I think something in this relationship needs to change.

So last week when she told me about her problem again. I send her some money, but I gave her a deadline to return it. If she needs the cash flow she can have it, but she has to maintain an effort on her part and I'm not an ATM.

Let's see how it goes. I really hope she will hold the end of her bargain. Because if she doesn't, this problem will manifest. Our long term relationship or even our marriage will be affected. I'm not a savior for her family nor her village and I hope she doesn't expect me to be one.

[Sen5eS]

Good luck bro ... hope this last transaction will show you the true colors.

You better prepare to discuss the real hard facts with her ...

[dustzee]

Good luck bro ... hope this last transaction will show you the true colors.

You better prepare to discuss the real hard facts with her ...

Thanks bro, this last one will definitely be an indication.

[sammyboyfor]

So last week when she told me about her problem again. I send her some money, but I gave her a deadline to return it. If she needs the cash flow she can have it, but she has to maintain an effort on her part and I'm not an ATM.


If you stop your funding, she'll find someone else to replace you in no time at all. :D That's what women from the 3rd world do. They're masters of this game.

Don't be an idiot. Break it off before you go broke.

[dustzee]

If you stop your funding, she'll find someone else to replace you in no time at all. :D That's what women from the 3rd world do. They're masters of this game.

Don't be an idiot. Break it off before you go broke.

I hear your advice and I know from the experience of many others about this. So in logic, I agree. However, there's this part of me hoping I have found a gem and she an exception. Haiz... gotta be an idiot at least for a little longer.

[sammyboyfor]

However, there's this part of me hoping I have found a gem and she an exception.

There's absolutely no evidence that she's anything close to being an exception.

The part of you that thinks you've found a gem is your dickhead. I suggest you use your brain instead.:rolleyes:

[shctaw]

Thanks for sharing......:cool:

Tell her you have run out of money and have to wait until 2 weeks later.

If she disappear for 2 weeks or diappear totally...... the case will be closed.

[alan0338]

pls prepare more $$$.... gd luck TS :D :D

[blur boy]

Bro Dustzee,

Only 1 advice for you.

Either you let go or you bring her here back to sillypore :rolleyes:

[naemlo]

Let's see how it goes. I really hope she will hold the end of her bargain. Because if she doesn't, this problem will manifest. Our long term relationship or even our marriage will be affected. I'm not a savior for her family nor her village and I hope she doesn't expect me to be one.

Since the first day, you agreed to pass her money without much questions, she is treating u as a shaking money tree. No money, just shake the tree and money will drop.

Try not to loan her money n see how she treated u. Try to ignore her for few days and see whether she looks for u. If she does love u, she will find something is not right and furthermore she will miss u n contact u. If days and she does not contact u, then u r someone whom she will miss when she needs money. A pair of lovebirds will try to contact each other often.

In love, I am always selfish.... I want someone who loves me more than I love her.

[williamsF1]

bro, i ask u 1 simple qn, if the girl's nationality wasnt thai, but was singaporean, and the situation is identical, will u be giving her the $?? sometimes its very weird that we like to act hero, got thailand and be santa claus, give/loan/throw $ at the girls maciam we r walking ATM.

in reality, she's just a gf, not a wife, so u dont owe her a living la. the more u give, the more she will ask for it. once it becomes a habit, the moment u stop giving, she will say u found new love liao.

if u dont believe me, u pull the plug for 4mths, and see if she will still call u her beloved.

[blur boy]

Since the first day, you agreed to pass her money without much questions, she is treating u as a shaking money tree. No money, just shake the tree and money will drop.

Try not to loan her money n see how she treated u. Try to ignore her for few days and see whether she looks for u. If she does love u, she will find something is not right and furthermore she will miss u n contact u. If days and she does not contact u, then u r someone whom she will miss when she needs money. A pair of lovebirds will try to contact each other often.

In love, I am always selfish.... I want someone who loves me more than I love her.

Your posts are still champion after all these years! :D

[naemlo]

Your posts are still champion after all these years! :D

U look me too up. :D

[blur boy]

U look me too up. :D

You are my senior loh :p

[naemlo]

You are my senior loh :p

Suddenly jumped out n suan me. nnkc.... lidat treat me goot meh.

[blur boy]

Suddenly jumped out n suan me. nnkc.... lidat treat me goot meh.

Never suan you la. Your replies are straight from others experiences and how many times we have seen too much samsters falling into the same CB hole. :D

Anyway, it is good to be back after years of hibernation. :p

[dustzee]

Thanks for all your replies. I hear it and I'm trying not to let the dickhead do the thinking right now. I'm sure you guys have seen too many cases.

Perhaps we can see what she'll say after some rejections. Most importantly, will she honour the promise to pay back.

Anyway, I'm not sure what Thai people think in terms of relationship and money. Is it really a norm for them to ask their bfs for help back home? or is this only happening to foreigner bfs. What about their family?

Yes, one of the bro here got it right. There's something about being able to "act hero" in another country that makes men feel good. I think somehow a man needs to feel he is responsible for his partner's life, and has a great deal of control over it. However in this case, I might be the one under control so that's not a fun thing to think about.

[Alkano]

Can i ask how she afford a business when her parents are in debt?
Btw what business is she in? F&B?

[sammyboyfor]

Can i ask how she afford a business when her parents are in debt?
Btw what business is she in? F&B?

90% of all Thai/Viet girls have parents who are in debt or need an operation or grandparents who have died 20 times over.

[dustzee]

Can i ask how she afford a business when her parents are in debt?
Btw what business is she in? F&B?

It's actually not that hard to open a business in Thailand. The running cost can be easily financed with a portion of her pay. But of course she does not have enough for expansion cos she was paying off her parents debt with everything the cafe earns.

[dustzee]

90% of all Thai/Viet girls have parents who are in debt or need an operation or grandparents who have died 20 times over.

Haha, bro... good one. But you seem to perceive these girls in a bad light. Is there any experience you can share?

I have met different types of thai girls and viet girls. They are usually very ok (in fact much more chatty and friendly) on surface. But I also have a fair share of surprises which I think is very very ridiculous.

For example, a syt from thai used to chased me and I was really flattered, but after a few months, I found she has a 9 years old daughter (and she was 26, how did she manage that?) that she forgot to mention nor did all our common thai friends mentioned. Everyone simply didn't think it was necessary to mention before I found out.

Haha.... that was pretty funny!

[Horlan2008]

Stop giving her money and see if she still loves you?

[sammyboyfor]

Haha, bro... good one. But you seem to perceive these girls in a bad light. Is there any experience you can share?


These con artists are famous the world over. It's one of Thailand's biggest money spinners. Do a google search. Alternatively you can read the threads in this section. It's full of naive men pouring out their sorry stories after being taken for a long and expensive ride.

[naemlo]

These con artists are famous the world over. It's one of Thailand's biggest money spinners.

No need to google, come to me and I will bring him to meet a WL who drives a brand new Honda Civic bought by her so called SG BF. :D She drove me around BKK b4.

[Joshzzz]

Here's what I would do.

Pretend to run into financial trouble.
Then tell her you cannot afford to help her for awhile or even spend on her. See how she takes it for a month, then 2 months then 3.
If your relationship survives that, you may have hope yet.
If it doesn't, then you just saved yourself thousands of dollars and should be grateful.

[RealEstateGuy]

Brother, I'm afraid you have been had. She sees you as an ATM. When their is no more money to dispense she will find the next ATM covenient to her. Your relationship to date has been based on money. You said it youself. While your losses are significant, they are finite. Finite in the sense that you will listen to the folks here especially and call an end to the madness. No need to make a big scene out of it with her. Just call it quits before you spiral down. When you lose all your money she will leave you so have the sense to make your loses finite.

BtW Thais have a reputation for being cunning and bad with personal finance and relying on "farang" to make up for their low IQ and inability to make money as well as lack of entrepreneurship. If you wnat to sink into a third would hole then keep at it. I suggest you stick to advanced SG society. If you want to date a girl to marry why not stick with a local SG girl? At least stay within East Asians (Chinese, Japanese or Korean)? What are you crazy? if you want to be immersed in Thai culture its in your own backyard at the Golden Mile Complex.

[simple2kee]

bro dustzee, drop her & MOVE ON!

[Schenker]

Your posts are still champion after all these years! :D

King in Asia leh, specialize in backdoor somemore. :D

[Schenker]

No need to google, come to me and I will bring him to meet a WL who drives a brand new Honda Civic bought by her so called SG BF. :D She drove me around BKK b4.

And ended parking in hotel garage? :D

Pity this SG guy.

[Sen5eS]

No need to google, come to me and I will bring him to meet a WL who drives a brand new Honda Civic bought by her so called SG BF. :D She drove me around BKK b4.

Power!

:D you have contacts for Thai WL who has "Huat" from shaking a SG money tree?

[dustzee]

No need to google, come to me and I will bring him to meet a WL who drives a brand new Honda Civic bought by her so called SG BF. :D She drove me around BKK b4.

Ha bro! Sure.... would love to know!

[dustzee]

Brother, I'm afraid you have been had. She sees you as an ATM. When their is no more money to dispense she will find the next ATM covenient to her. Your relationship to date has been based on money. You said it youself. While your losses are significant, they are finite. Finite in the sense that you will listen to the folks here especially and call an end to the madness. No need to make a big scene out of it with her. Just call it quits before you spiral down. When you lose all your money she will leave you so have the sense to make your loses finite.

BtW Thais have a reputation for being cunning and bad with personal finance and relying on "farang" to make up for their low IQ and inability to make money as well as lack of entrepreneurship. If you wnat to sink into a third would hole then keep at it. I suggest you stick to advanced SG society. If you want to date a girl to marry why not stick with a local SG girl? At least stay within East Asians (Chinese, Japanese or Korean)? What are you crazy? if you want to be immersed in Thai culture its in your own backyard at the Golden Mile Complex.

Bro, I also thought I would end up with a local SG girl till I met her. It's hard to say why. In the past, dating a thai would only be for the fun of it. But thai girls are so docile and attentive I eventually gave in.

Anyway, just to correct a point. The Thai culture in Golden Mile is nothing compared to Thailand itself.

[inlaw]

Here's what I would do.

Pretend to run into financial trouble.
Then tell her you cannot afford to help her for awhile or even spend on her. See how she takes it for a month, then 2 months then 3.
If your relationship survives that, you may have hope yet.
If it doesn't, then you just saved yourself thousands of dollars and should be grateful.

Good suggestion, find some excuse and stop funding her for some time and see the response, and if she cares abt you.

[Singster]

As the saying goes, No Money No Honey :D

[Linnie]

I must say that many kind-hearted bros spent their time to post advice here. Do appreciate and listen to them.

My 2 cents worth:
If you want to find a thai or viet girl that truly loves you, you have to show yourself to be street smart at the very beginning. Show that you are clever and careful with money, they will then see you as someone who understands them and their game. They will see you as someone whom they can click with instead of an ATM.

For all of the few thai and viet girls I encounter so far, none ask me for cash or anything despite us being in short or long relationships. Some are WLs, some are not. Some even treat me to meals.

Good luck ;)

[Linnie]

Is it really a norm for them to ask their bfs for help back home? or is this only happening to foreigner bfs. What about their family?



It is normal for these girls to help finance back home (NOT YOU). :mad: This is some traditional crap which I discourage thai/viet girls I know from doing but they still do. Some of those healthy bodied parents back home just do some easy light jobs and wait for their daughters to finance them.

[Ken79]

You are just another cash cow or golden rooster for her, when you are dry she'd move on to another guy, simple as that.

Always remember: when the music ends; the champagne stops flowing.

These women are just good for fucking, all you need to give them is pay for meals and drinks + some normal shopping.

[RealEstateGuy]

It is normal for these girls to help finance back home (NOT YOU). :mad: This is some traditional crap which I discourage thai/viet girls I know from doing but they still do. Some of those healthy bodied parents back home just do some easy light jobs and wait for their daughters to finance them.

Can you give me an example of an E-Z light job? Curious what an E-Z light job is. Do they know how their dauguters are financing their lifestyle?

[RealEstateGuy]

http://www.stickmanbangkok.com/reader/reader340.html

Here is a reference manual for Thailand.

[Stud00]

If you stop your funding, she'll find someone else to replace you in no time at all. :D That's what women from the 3rd world do. They're masters of this game.

Don't be an idiot. Break it off before you go broke.

Boss has said it all..
Dump her and move off bro..

[dustzee]

It is normal for these girls to help finance back home (NOT YOU). :mad: This is some traditional crap which I discourage thai/viet girls I know from doing but they still do. Some of those healthy bodied parents back home just do some easy light jobs and wait for their daughters to finance them.

Yes! I thought it was pretty ridiculous for the parents to pass their debt to the children. That's what happening in this case too. The parents are in debt cos they trusted the wrong person (a cheat), and they transferred this misfortune to the daughter. From what I see, the father is really able to make much more than he is making now. Not that I should criticize, but I think this thinking isn't practical at all. Which parents would want to see their children suffer?

[dustzee]

Can you give me an example of an E-Z light job? Curious what an E-Z light job is. Do they know how their dauguters are financing their lifestyle?

Bro, not sure what bro Linnie has in mind for ez light job but from what I know, the thai people are really relaxed in the way they work. I went to a saloon thrice and they told me 3 times that the person who can cut hair went out for massage, come back tomorrow. Haha.....

But it works for them over there. People are generally more stress free.

However, I cannot agree with this work attitude too if they are personally in debt and their children are working their ass to pay it off.

[RealEstateGuy]

Well that's why GDP per capita is higher in SG. seems like Thais don't work as hard as normal people do. anyway I hope the brother reads the reference manual to enlighten himself. Advanced SG society is different from Thai Society. I've been to Golden Mile and feel out of place. Feels foreign like not in SG society.

[wett]

It is normal for these girls to help finance back home (NOT YOU). :mad: This is some traditional crap ...

Good and bad, and that is part of asia'a tradition also, not only Thai but lot of other eastern countries.

But is is definitely bad for SG guys trying to find so called "True love" from those 3rd world countries because they can not find it from SG girl anymore, and this will happen more and more ..

[hamsapkwai]

You got to understand their culture, its no different from the Filipinos and Indonesians.

Its a SHARE culture whereby those who have are supposed to share it with those who don`t.

You will find neighbors and other freeloaders hanging around during meal times at the homes of those who have. Its an accepted practice in those areas.

Once they find somebody who has, they will leech on that person until he runs out.

In this instance they have found YOU! :eek:

[Vigilant42]

Bro, I also thought I would end up with a local SG girl till I met her. It's hard to say why. In the past, dating a thai would only be for the fun of it. But thai girls are so docile and attentive I eventually gave in.

Anyway, just to correct a point. The Thai culture in Golden Mile is nothing compared to Thailand itself.



Dear Bro,

You are right! Thai girl are very attentive and caring but beware of them. I was a victim of being a ATM to my ex thai girl, just happened to me recently only.

Love is not about money. In thai Buddhism teaching, money is not the priority, is the way to make them a better person, most importantly is to have a good character, personality and heart, but in thailand, it is reverse way.. they don't really practise the true Buddhism teaching.

If she really love you and being a good girlfriend, she will help you save money instead. My advise is drop her and find another thai girl if need to. There are so many thai girl around, not all are bad, trust me, i have met those good and honest one.

Wish you good luck.


Regards
Vigilant42

[dustzee]

Dear Bro,

You are right! Thai girl are very attentive and caring but beware of them. I was a victim of being a ATM to my ex thai girl, just happened to me recently only.

Love is not about money. In thai Buddhism teaching, money is not the priority, is the way to make them a better person, most importantly is to have a good character, personality and heart, but in thailand, it is reverse way.. they don't really practise the true Buddhism teaching.

If she really love you and being a good girlfriend, she will help you save money instead. My advise is drop her and find another thai girl if need to. There are so many thai girl around, not all are bad, trust me, i have met those good and honest one.

Wish you good luck.


Regards
Vigilant42

Hi Bro, thanks for your post. If it's not too much to ask, would you mind sharing your story?

Yes I agree not all are money minded. In fact, my thai girl is good in every aspect except for these problems. So now show hand with her liao see what happens. :)

[dustzee]

You got to understand their culture, its no different from the Filipinos and Indonesians.

Its a SHARE culture whereby those who have are supposed to share it with those who don`t.

You will find neighbors and other freeloaders hanging around during meal times at the homes of those who have. Its an accepted practice in those areas.

Once they find somebody who has, they will leech on that person until he runs out.

In this instance they have found YOU! :eek:

Exactly bro!!!!!!! I think you got it! It's their sharing culture. That's why she can be so generous with people who has less and expects me to be generous with her (and her family and friends too).

[dustzee]

Anyway, just to let every bro who has posted and advice know that your comments are really helpful.

I now have a clear idea on how to carry on with this relationship (i.e. made it clear that i'm not happy with the way she's treating my money and she seems to get it.) So far, everything is still normal but I will make it a point not to conclude too early.

[RealEstateGuy]

Exactly bro!!!!!!! I think you got it! It's their sharing culture. That's why she can be so generous with people who has less and expects me to be generous with her (and her family and friends too).

There are bugs called leeches that do the same thing.

[MitMit]

In a relationship, its either u are in control or being controlled.

as a bro here suggested, tell her u in financial crisis and needed all the money u loaned to her back asap.

ask her to sell off her business to help u.....

see what she say to u....

[dudenumber1]

I just need to get this off somewhere...

My Thai girl is a normal girl in her country working as a designer. She has a decent job that pays her a little higher than average in her country. We fell in love and I have made the commitments to visit her regularly.

Everything about having a thai gf is good. Having someone who will bargain for you in the market, bringing you around like a personal tour guide, taking care of the admin for the bank and the rent. And the sex is damn good.

I have met her family and she lives with her mother, brother and sister. Her father and the rest of the family are in the north. I cannot communicate with the mother but I guess she's ok with me. Just that she doesn't like the fact that the gf always stay at my place when I'm there.

So I fell deep and hard for her, thinking that I have finally found someone I really care for. And she really make me feel the feeling is mutual because she is so attentive to me and my needs.

Here comes the thing. I do not understand why she isn't stingy with my money if she sees us as an item. Initially, she asked for help because she had some problems with the shop (she has her own business as well). I agreed to help, partial give partial loan. It wasn't clear, but she always call it a loan but with no clear intention of returning.

The good thing is she isn't lying. Every money that was sent was used to buy something visible that I can see. For example, extra tables and space in the shop. I always think not to ask her for the money as she is really trying to expand her business and upgrade her life. As a bf, I am more than happy to help.

When we go on tours, she would ask her friends along (thai couples) but seems like she always end up paying (with my money). She likes to treat her friends and I seem to be the one paying for that. I have no idea what she was doing, even though the money was not a big deal in our country.

So sometimes I wonder about the perception she has of me. I like to be treated as an equal, but she seems to be less sensitive on how my money was spent. However, she seems to be very sensitive on how her thai friends might have problems paying for this and that. Anyway, I told myself not to worry about it.

And then the money lending issue seems to get bigger. Recently I learned about how much the family is in debt and she has to shoulder everything (because parents are old and siblings are young). Again, I offered to send some money, but this time, stirred. I mean it seems like a black hole that's getting bigger and bigger. In the span of a few months, I'm already sending money in hundreds and thousands. And it seems like they (the family) have no clear idea how to get themselves out of their debt.

I have told my gf repeatedly that I'm not rich, but I would help to ease her of her stress. I'm not sure if she understood that point.

The money that I sent I'm prepared to lose. But I just dread the feeling of what kind of perception she has of our relationship, and in this case, what about her family? What is her family thinking of our relationship.

I really do not want things to go sour now. We have a great chemistry. She is really special to me and I seldom fall for anyone so hard. But I think something in this relationship needs to change.

So last week when she told me about her problem again. I send her some money, but I gave her a deadline to return it. If she needs the cash flow she can have it, but she has to maintain an effort on her part and I'm not an ATM.

Let's see how it goes. I really hope she will hold the end of her bargain. Because if she doesn't, this problem will manifest. Our long term relationship or even our marriage will be affected. I'm not a savior for her family nor her village and I hope she doesn't expect me to be one.

Come on.. it is so clear. She is after $$ becareful bro

[Vigilant42]

Hi Bro, thanks for your post. If it's not too much to ask, would you mind sharing your story?

Yes I agree not all are money minded. In fact, my thai girl is good in every aspect except for these problems. So now show hand with her liao see what happens. :)

Dear Bros,

Some thai girl are very good in acting. But times will tell, okay. There is one chinese saying, "路遥知马力，日久见人心“。 It means you only can tell if the horse have good powerful legs after running long distance, and when the times pass, you will get to know the person heart better.

Your girl might be trying to use "delay" tactic to hold you back to squeeze more money, so watch out carefully. Nowadays, not every thai girl abide to their thai culture and religious.

Cheers
Regards
Vigilant42

[Super White]

Most guys who spend on girls are buying face for themselves as much as stuff for the girl.

The combination of love, pride(That you can provide for your woman), stupidity(when you can't tell she's taking you for a ride) and sex is a deadly head spinning drug that depletes the wallet and breaks the heart.

I was guilty of it too but have since learnt my lesson. The question is how much does it take for you to learn yours.

[cheekies]

Most guys who spend on girls are buying face for themselves as much as stuff for the girl.

The combination of love, pride(That you can provide for your woman), stupidity(when you can't tell she's taking you for a ride) and sex is a deadly head spinning drug that depletes the wallet and breaks the heart.

I was guilty of it too but have since learnt my lesson. The question is how much does it take for you to learn yours.


Well said bro. was once in the same boat too..when things are all rosy and red,it's really hard to differentiate whats real and whats not. Even when hiccups happen along the way, we'll still tend to "well, it's just a one off. it won't happen again" and give them the benefit of the doubt.:(

To TS, really, think with an open mind, i mean, as lovers,soulmates, life partners, or whatever you wanna call it. Would you be there for her in difficult times and would you think and believe without a doubt that she would really do the same for you when you are in dire straits..??

No offence but just voicing my honest thoughts.:o

[tony1982]

To dustZee,

Hey man, just like you I have a thai girlfriend. Perhaps I can share with you some of my views.

1) Generally, thai girls are very nice people. They are not scheming, and are very good tempered people.

2) Unfortunately, they have poor money sense. They dun usually plan ahead financially, they spend what they have. So to them, money is never enough.

3) Thais tend to think that all foreigners are more well off than them, and thais are very well aware that cost of living in thai is much lower than other developing countries. Thus, its very difficult for them to understand that we( singaporeans) are not as well off as they think we are.

4) Someone brought up the notion of sharing in this thread. I agree very much with it. Cos in a thai family unit, the most well-off child will naturally take on the responsibility to contribute financially to the family. My guess is that your girlfriend is the only member of her family that has a foreign boyfriend. And thus, the responsiblity falls in you.

5) Generally, thai women are very virtous, and they make very good wives. They try their best to satisfied all your needs. In return, they develop a tendency to apporach you the moment they have problems, be it money or something else. They look up to you as a source for solution, be it whether you are a thai local or a foreigner.

6) My girlfriend ask me for money as well, I'll give her what I can. Personally, I feel that it is important for us not to feel troubled over money matters. Always make sure that whatever you give her is on top of the your own financial commitments. What I meant is that surplus that you have after your usual spending and the pre-set amount that you put to savings, your loan to her should come from this surplus.

7) Be honest with her, more importantly, be honest with yourself, if you are tight on hand, just tell her you are unable to do it. And if she is understanding about it, congradulations, you found a good girlfriend. If she doesn't, good for you as well, cos you know she is not the one for you.

All the best to the 2 of you.

[wells]

Does she knows clear about your finance background or did you say ‘’any problem please let me know’’ to her initially?

Due to our brand “Singaporean” She might think highly of you. You are the person and the closest man that she will naturally depend on in times of cash issues. Who else can she seek help unless you voice out in the beginning. It became snow balls and reform to silent cries from you.

Have a talk not stating you are uncomfortable about you are her ATM. Let her know you have financial problem too and see if she can help you in any ways. I do have an ex Thai gf and it is true that their families or relatives are important to them and she will assist in whatever they could. Her families also have frequent cash flow problems in their life or business. I do not send any money over nor she request from me. Unless it’s real critical I know off.

Having long distance relationship is not easy and it’s costly to flying around. If she is the one, plan your future, make up your mind and settle down. Long distance relation, there is a due date. Good luck to you.

[RealEstateGuy]

To dustZee,

Hey man, just like you I have a thai girlfriend. Perhaps I can share with you some of my views.

1) Generally, thai girls are very nice people. They are not scheming, and are very good tempered people.

2) Unfortunately, they have poor money sense. They dun usually plan ahead financially, they spend what they have. So to them, money is never enough.

3) Thais tend to think that all foreigners are more well off than them, and thais are very well aware that cost of living in thai is much lower than other developing countries. Thus, its very difficult for them to understand that we( singaporeans) are not as well off as they think we are.

4) Someone brought up the notion of sharing in this thread. I agree very much with it. Cos in a thai family unit, the most well-off child will naturally take on the responsibility to contribute financially to the family. My guess is that your girlfriend is the only member of her family that has a foreign boyfriend. And thus, the responsiblity falls in you.

5) Generally, thai women are very virtous, and they make very good wives. They try their best to satisfied all your needs. In return, they develop a tendency to apporach you the moment they have problems, be it money or something else. They look up to you as a source for solution, be it whether you are a thai local or a foreigner.

6) My girlfriend ask me for money as well, I'll give her what I can. Personally, I feel that it is important for us not to feel troubled over money matters. Always make sure that whatever you give her is on top of the your own financial commitments. What I meant is that surplus that you have after your usual spending and the pre-set amount that you put to savings, your loan to her should come from this surplus.

7) Be honest with her, more importantly, be honest with yourself, if you are tight on hand, just tell her you are unable to do it. And if she is understanding about it, congradulations, you found a good girlfriend. If she doesn't, good for you as well, cos you know she is not the one for you.

All the best to the 2 of you.

Brother, this is a good classy post.

[joew2005]

2 many cooks spoil the soup ...

[goodpartner]

2) Unfortunately, they have poor money sense. They dun usually plan ahead financially, they spend what they have. So to them, money is never enough.

This is the KEY issue (poor money sense)
PLUS the "sharing culture" & "family comes first" & "daughter feeds the family"
EQUAL problem you're facing now.

How to solve?

Hint: Giving her financial education now is a waste of effort ;):D

Someone suggested bringing her to higher class Sg society :rolleyes:
The principle works - make her stay away from her family, pray that her family won't send her SOS for money, act bloke and stingy.

That's part of the "package" going with a thai (3rd world) gf; you get something, you have to give something. Worth it or not? To each his own.

[dustzee]

To dustZee,

Hey man, just like you I have a thai girlfriend. Perhaps I can share with you some of my views.

1) Generally, thai girls are very nice people. They are not scheming, and are very good tempered people.

2) Unfortunately, they have poor money sense. They dun usually plan ahead financially, they spend what they have. So to them, money is never enough.

3) Thais tend to think that all foreigners are more well off than them, and thais are very well aware that cost of living in thai is much lower than other developing countries. Thus, its very difficult for them to understand that we( singaporeans) are not as well off as they think we are.

4) Someone brought up the notion of sharing in this thread. I agree very much with it. Cos in a thai family unit, the most well-off child will naturally take on the responsibility to contribute financially to the family. My guess is that your girlfriend is the only member of her family that has a foreign boyfriend. And thus, the responsiblity falls in you.

5) Generally, thai women are very virtous, and they make very good wives. They try their best to satisfied all your needs. In return, they develop a tendency to apporach you the moment they have problems, be it money or something else. They look up to you as a source for solution, be it whether you are a thai local or a foreigner.

6) My girlfriend ask me for money as well, I'll give her what I can. Personally, I feel that it is important for us not to feel troubled over money matters. Always make sure that whatever you give her is on top of the your own financial commitments. What I meant is that surplus that you have after your usual spending and the pre-set amount that you put to savings, your loan to her should come from this surplus.

7) Be honest with her, more importantly, be honest with yourself, if you are tight on hand, just tell her you are unable to do it. And if she is understanding about it, congradulations, you found a good girlfriend. If she doesn't, good for you as well, cos you know she is not the one for you.

All the best to the 2 of you.

Hi Bro. It's really good to read what you have shared. Confidence booster. :)

I guess I became suspicious after reading the experiences of many others, especially in Stickman. I started to wonder if my gf is secretly scheming something, and I am deep in her trap.

Now that I have followed some good advices from the posts, I have talked with her about it and she understood why I was upset. In fact, she became very anxious and assured me she would return all the money fast.

[sammyboyfor]

p.

Now that I have followed some good advices from the posts,


"Advice" is a non countable noun; you do not add an "s" to make it plural.

"Advice" is like "Rice". You say... "Please pass me the Rice." You don't say "Please pass me the rices" because "Rice", like "Advice", is a non countable noun.

There are many other examples. To test your knowledge of non countable nouns, go to English Language Quiz - Countable or Non-countable Nouns (I-TESL-J) (http://a4esl.org/q/j/ck/ch-countnouns.html) and take the test.

[dustzee]

"Advice" is a non countable noun; you do not add an "s" to make it plural.

"Advice" is like "Rice". You say... "Please pass me the Rice." You don't say "Please pass me the rices" because "Rice", like "Advice", is a non countable noun.

There are many other examples. To test your knowledge of non countable nouns, go to English Language Quiz - Countable or Non-countable Nouns (I-TESL-J) (http://a4esl.org/q/j/ck/ch-countnouns.html) and take the test.

Thanks for the advice on "advices" too :)

[Vigilant42]

Hi Bro. It's really good to read what you have shared. Confidence booster. :)

I guess I became suspicious after reading the experiences of many others, especially in Stickman. I started to wonder if my gf is secretly scheming something, and I am deep in her trap.

Now that I have followed some good advices from the posts, I have talked with her about it and she understood why I was upset. In fact, she became very anxious and assured me she would return all the money fast.

Bro, you have to stay alert all times. Try not to fork out any more money for the time being.

Regards,
Vigilant42

[naemlo]

Sharing what your ger ger might be doing when u r not around in Thailand..... but not all gers are like this. :D


http://www.youtube.com/user/potica69#p/a/u/1/sQ5GI7-FG7E

[sibaysong4u]

Sharing what your ger ger might be doing when u r not around in Thailand..... but not all gers are like this. :D


http://www.youtube.com/user/potica69#p/a/u/1/sQ5GI7-FG7EHahaha onli 95% of the gers that i seen is like this:D

[sibaysong4u]

she became very anxious and assured me she would return all the money fast.Think you hav to wait LONG LONG for her to return all your money.

[tony1982]

to DustZee,

Hey man,

Good to know that you had a talk with your girlfriend. If she has given you her word, then I guess in time you will know if she's good on her word.

Just one more point, I seldom give loans to friends or my girlfriend. But if I do, I dun expect to take any back. Over the years, I realise the importance of being frugal, and when it comes to lending money, the lesser the expectations, the lesser the disappointment you"ll get.

Remember, whatever you channel out should only come from your surplus, such that in a event you dun get the money back, you will always be on par with your savings plans. Take care.

[Golden question]

To dustZee,

Hey man, just like you I have a thai girlfriend. Perhaps I can share with you some of my views.

1) Generally, thai girls are very nice people. They are not scheming, and are very good tempered people.

2) Unfortunately, they have poor money sense. They dun usually plan ahead financially, they spend what they have. So to them, money is never enough.

3) Thais tend to think that all foreigners are more well off than them, and thais are very well aware that cost of living in thai is much lower than other developing countries. Thus, its very difficult for them to understand that we( singaporeans) are not as well off as they think we are.

4) Someone brought up the notion of sharing in this thread. I agree very much with it. Cos in a thai family unit, the most well-off child will naturally take on the responsibility to contribute financially to the family. My guess is that your girlfriend is the only member of her family that has a foreign boyfriend. And thus, the responsiblity falls in you.

5) Generally, thai women are very virtous, and they make very good wives. They try their best to satisfied all your needs. In return, they develop a tendency to apporach you the moment they have problems, be it money or something else. They look up to you as a source for solution, be it whether you are a thai local or a foreigner.

6) My girlfriend ask me for money as well, I'll give her what I can. Personally, I feel that it is important for us not to feel troubled over money matters. Always make sure that whatever you give her is on top of the your own financial commitments. What I meant is that surplus that you have after your usual spending and the pre-set amount that you put to savings, your loan to her should come from this surplus.

7) Be honest with her, more importantly, be honest with yourself, if you are tight on hand, just tell her you are unable to do it. And if she is understanding about it, congradulations, you found a good girlfriend. If she doesn't, good for you as well, cos you know she is not the one for you.

All the best to the 2 of you.

bro,dont mind i use your post to copy to another thread about viet spouse cos i think is a very solid post to share:)

[dustzee]

to DustZee,

Hey man,

Good to know that you had a talk with your girlfriend. If she has given you her word, then I guess in time you will know if she's good on her word.

Just one more point, I seldom give loans to friends or my girlfriend. But if I do, I dun expect to take any back. Over the years, I realise the importance of being frugal, and when it comes to lending money, the lesser the expectations, the lesser the disappointment you"ll get.

Remember, whatever you channel out should only come from your surplus, such that in a event you dun get the money back, you will always be on par with your savings plans. Take care.

Hi bro, yes I'm not really concern over money itself. Just want to use this chance to test if her values and mine align. At the same time, let her know about this issue.

[dustzee]

bro,dont mind i use your post to copy to another thread about viet spouse cos i think is a very solid post to share:)

Agree man!!!

[dustzee]

Sharing what your ger ger might be doing when u r not around in Thailand..... but not all gers are like this. :D


http://www.youtube.com/user/potica69#p/a/u/1/sQ5GI7-FG7E

Certainly hope not :(

[MaMister]

Oscar best actreses also lose to them.

[MaMister]

Sharing what your ger ger might be doing when u r not around in Thailand..... but not all gers are like this. :D


http://www.youtube.com/user/potica69#p/a/u/1/sQ5GI7-FG7E

It will be perfect is he can take the video while fucking her and at the same time the other guy call and she tell him " I am not with another man"...

[sibaysong4u]

It will be perfect is he can take the video while fucking her and at the same time the other guy call and she tell him " I am not with another man"...I only Finger the ger while shes talking to the other carrots on the phone.:D

[chinacuntlover]

100s n 1000s TS quite rich hor..
Anyway
she got a shop? Should be able to generate revenue to sustain her family?
I always don't understand why must the girl in the 3rd world bear the rice bowl
What the heck are the men doing? no prick?
TS
Be open with her about your finance; if she really a gem she will care for you n understand; if not, she is not a gem n TS need to cut losses..

[sid21]

I met (and fell for) a Thai girl last month. She agreed to travel with me and I left her some money to buy the plane ticket. In the end I ended up buying the ticket and telling her to keep the money. The trouble is that she is not asking for money at all. I told her I would give her some to make travelling with me worth her while. She has to miss work to spend the week with me. She wants to start a business in a few years but can't tell me how much it will cost. I have tried many times to get her to ask me for money but she doesn't. I am confused. She either truely likes me and is not really after the money or she is a smart girl who knows I will give it to her if she doesn;t ask. The day she asks for money is the day I will end the relationship. I guess what I am wondering is whether some of these Thai girls are genuine. I know it's hard to believe but it may just be that they really are happy with a foreigner because we give them hope. We may be an escape.

[sid21]

(continued) I think as foreigners we deserve to be ripped off by these girls. They give their bodies to us and they make us feel good (loved). I know that there is no way I would have sex with a fat ugly old woman even if it was for money. These girls give a lot and to be honest they should be paid more than a few dollars. What is the real value of love - or the feeling of love. Thai girls are beautiful. They can have kind hearts if you are willing to look after the. And how is this different from any other girl anyway. Everyone wants to be looked after. And have money spent on them. By giving a (Thai) girl money we are making ourselves feel good. We are trying to be the hero. I think these girls are the victims and we should be thankful that they let us into their lives.

[dustzee]

(continued) I think as foreigners we deserve to be ripped off by these girls. They give their bodies to us and they make us feel good (loved). I know that there is no way I would have sex with a fat ugly old woman even if it was for money. These girls give a lot and to be honest they should be paid more than a few dollars. What is the real value of love - or the feeling of love. Thai girls are beautiful. They can have kind hearts if you are willing to look after the. And how is this different from any other girl anyway. Everyone wants to be looked after. And have money spent on them. By giving a (Thai) girl money we are making ourselves feel good. We are trying to be the hero. I think these girls are the victims and we should be thankful that they let us into their lives.

Hi Bro,

Good to know you are in a relationship with a thai girl too and like me, you are testing if she's real towards you.

If it was a commercial thing, yes you can value it that way. But if you are serious about the relationship, it is not healthy to base it on money. Right now, I am as confused as you are on whether the girl is really treating me as a boyfriend, but the good thing is after talking with her, I feel that she is.

Like one of the bros mentioned, thai girls tend to run to their bf for help when in trouble, but they are neither aggressive nor pushy. So whatever I do now I understand it is from my own good will.

[Yokun]

thai girls tend to run to their bf for help when in trouble ...

Not only thai girls but other country also same even SG girl, but the girl should also care about the bf's ware-fare and future not only their own families.

If they really need help as bf need to help them, but not always and not help all the families and relatives :p

[sid21]

I asked this girl last night how many boyfriends she has had. she said she had one long-term serious one when she was 18 then when he broke her heart she messed around for 2 months. Then she was "serious" with a tourist for a few months. I think during her 2 months of fooling around she let herself be picked up by foreigners and didn't ask for money. She was just a young girl who had been hurt and wanted to have some fun. this explains why some foreigners say they don;t know whether all thai girls expect money for sex. It seems to be true - some just want to have fun - just like any other girl.

I want to help this girl. I will give her money when we travel. But they reason I want to give her money is because it makes me feel good. If she was American a few thousand dollars would mean nothing to her. Giving a Thai girl a few thousand dollars is almost life changing.. It similar to be tipping in poorer countries but refusing to do it in wealthy countries. It makes me feel good when I feel wealthy.

But as someone else said, if you live in Thailand you don;t need much money. So these girls don;t really need to be rescued. They can survive on a little bit of money. I just want to help because of how it makes me feel. I want her to love me and I think she will love me more if I act wealthy. That's wrong. I know that. But it's true.

I know there is no future in this realationship and I would be smarter paying 3 girls a day for less money that I'll give this girl. But somehow this is what I want. I want to make her happy. I want to give her something that will make her life better.

Just in case you were wondering, she is not a working girl. She is just a normal girl.

I'm writing this to help myself understand what I am doing. It would have been easier not to have got involved, but now that I am i feel that maybe i am stuck. it will be easy to end if she asks for money. otherwise i have got myself a burden because i have thought with the wrong head

[RealEstateGuy]

Sid you would be the only one to discern if you are being played for a fool. Compare and contrast things for a while so you have more experience to make a discision. Are you worried about the stigma attatched to a SG/Thai or intercultural/racial union? I mean SG society got many people who will stare and make snide remarks.

[rocketscientist]

sometimes thai gai you meet ok ,some not ok ....depends ...;)

[hbk88]

I met (and fell for) a Thai girl last month. She agreed to travel with me and I left her some money to buy the plane ticket. In the end I ended up buying the ticket and telling her to keep the money. The trouble is that she is not asking for money at all. I told her I would give her some to make travelling with me worth her while. She has to miss work to spend the week with me. She wants to start a business in a few years but can't tell me how much it will cost. I have tried many times to get her to ask me for money but she doesn't. I am confused. She either truely likes me and is not really after the money or she is a smart girl who knows I will give it to her if she doesn;t ask. The day she asks for money is the day I will end the relationship. I guess what I am wondering is whether some of these Thai girls are genuine. I know it's hard to believe but it may just be that they really are happy with a foreigner because we give them hope. We may be an escape.

1 month too short to know . . .

[sammyhunk]

Come on la bro, this is not rocket science. If a girl truly loves you she won't be treating you like an ATM n using ur money freely on her friends. Use your big head to think n not ur small head!!! Sorry if I offended u or any bros here, but I think only such strong criticism can wake ur big head up!!!

[sid21]

I'm not worried abount anything. I just think she is too good to be true. If she was anything other than Thai or Chinese i would not be thinking for a second that she was after money. It's just that we have given Thai girls a bad reputation. I have become suspicious. Can anyone tell me how i can start a new thread

[qlogic]

.. other than Thai or Chinese i would not be thinking for a second that she was after money...

Then there is also Vietnam girls hehe, but why in the 1st place you fell for them, and what you want to prove ??

[Redlordjr]

sometimes thai gai you meet ok ,some not ok ....depends ...

Did you meet any thai ger ? Pse share us with us your experience.

[Johnny85]

Bros, this is the same for girls of any country. Some good, some bad but someday, you'll meet the one who will appreciate you.

No offence but i but personally, i would prefer a wife / gf whom i can communicate intelligently and not one that i would have to drag along (burden). I like to depend on my spouse at times :P

Since knowing there won't be a good end to the relationship, always take things with a pinch of salt.

Lastly, money is not everything but money can definitely solve lots of things :) Cheers bro, enjoy while it last!!

[Reservoir]

She treating you as a ATM, get off the thai "gong tao"

[MaMister]

I only Finger the ger while shes talking to the other carrots on the phone.:D

Care to share the content on what she say? Maybe i am one of the carrot...:D

[joedavid]

Yes she is taking you as a money tree. In their mind, you are rich and your action actually help to reinforce the idea.

I do not think she will return you the money. Or she might return a bit just to regain your trust. What you need to do is to give less and less and even sometime say cannot. Then you watch her reaction.

I do not know her so I cannot say with certainty. But as Snr Bro had said, they are a master in deception.

[sibaysong4u]

Care to share the content on what she say? Maybe i am one of the carrot...:D

Luv u mak mak,I no working,I miss u,phone no battery........Finally parents sick need more $$$$$$$$$$:eek:

[RealEstateGuy]

Brother you need to remove yourself from the situation immediately and regain your sanity. She is using you until the tires wear out and then she moves on to the next financial vehicle. For all you know she could have a portfolio of assets (guys) producing free cash flow in aggregagte at least 10x what you are providing her alone. What is happening to you is incredible. I hope you have the foresight and wisdom to escape before you lose everything. This is the kind of stuff you read about on SBF or in the newspapers when its after the fact. Get a grip on the situation. It's a real time crisis and you cant make a decision to save your hide.

[arsenal_84]

give only what you can afford when it becomes too much to bear then you really need to voice out to her.
or else is time to cut your losses...

[fulham]

I thought it seems pretty clear cut she doesn't see you as a long term material for her, if not she won't try so hard to suck your $$$.


When we go on tours, she would ask her friends along (thai couples) but seems like she always end up paying (with my money). She likes to treat her friends and I seem to be the one paying for that. I have no idea what she was doing, even though the money was not a big deal in our country.

So sometimes I wonder about the perception she has of me. I like to be treated as an equal, but she seems to be less sensitive on how my money was spent. However, she seems to be very sensitive on how her thai friends might have problems paying for this and that. Anyway, I told myself not to worry about it.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

TS, Wa-say! What's with your new thread below sial?

http://www.sammyboyforum.com/showthread.php?p=6237647#post6237647

Have you gone-seow liao? :confused::rolleyes:

[ThaiBeautiful]

money is a bottomless pit.......

If you keep on giving money, do you actually think you are feeding her fish, than teaching her how to fish?

very soon, your money will be gone, and she will be off to find another fishmonger feeding her fish too.
if you're really a fishmonger, be SELFISH

I have customers who are giving money to my ex-girls, just to prevent them from coming back to SG to work. It's only a matter of time, how long they can substain their relationship.... when the girl need money again, and the guy cant give, the girl will come back work. It's HARD to bao a girl, let alone a THAI girl.

Think for yourself before you think for others. You're miles apart... what do you know about her lifestyle? She might be spending your money for some other guys instead in thailand...

good luck, TS. and please don't go crazy, seeking for supermodel FBs....

[sammyboyfor]

I have customers who are giving money to my ex-girls, just to prevent them from coming back to SG to work. It's only a matter of time, how long they can substain their relationship.... when the girl need money again, and the guy cant give, the girl will come back work. It's HARD to bao a girl, let alone a THAI girl.


You should perform an IQ test on your clientele before you let them book your girls.:D

[dustzee]

money is a bottomless pit.......

If you keep on giving money, do you actually think you are feeding her fish, than teaching her how to fish?

very soon, your money will be gone, and she will be off to find another fishmonger feeding her fish too.
if you're really a fishmonger, be SELFISH

I have customers who are giving money to my ex-girls, just to prevent them from coming back to SG to work. It's only a matter of time, how long they can substain their relationship.... when the girl need money again, and the guy cant give, the girl will come back work. It's HARD to bao a girl, let alone a THAI girl.

Think for yourself before you think for others. You're miles apart... what do you know about her lifestyle? She might be spending your money for some other guys instead in thailand...

good luck, TS. and please don't go crazy, seeking for supermodel FBs....

Ah thanks for your concern bros. Apparently some bros think I gone siao cos of my other post. Hahaha.... that was just a joke

Well I guess I should be doing some updates:

1) Surprisingly, my gf took the initiative to return me a portion of the money after she sensed I was upset.

2) Of course, that might be a ruse like some bros mentioned so I'll still be careful

3) She brought me an expensive tie on my Birthday!

4) Our relationship seems sweeter than before.

At this stage, I really do not want to suspect her again in the future and to do that, I must not send her anymore money. I think it's fair if the man pays for the dinner and some shopping, but I won't be part of the solution to her family debt anymore.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

You should perform an IQ test on your clientele before you let them book your girls.:D

IMHO, It's not the girl fault atall. It's more like a question on the client's EQ than IQ ;)

[sammyboyfor]

IMHO, It's not the girl fault atall. It's more like a question on the client's EQ than IQ ;)

Nowhere did I say the fault lies with the girls. :rolleyes:

IQ and EQ are linked. A reasonable EQ score is possible only if basic IQ levels have been met.

It would also help if all clients were made to read this post and sign off that they have read and understood the contents.

http://www.sammyboyforum.com/showthread.php?t=148840

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

.....It would also help if all clients were made to read this post and sign off that they have read and understood the contents.

http://www.sammyboyforum.com/showthread.php?t=148840

Anyway when passions overwhelm reason, it is a tradegy of errors ;)
Most of us have walked this path before :)

[cheekies]

Ah thanks for your concern bros. Apparently some bros think I gone siao cos of my other post. Hahaha.... that was just a joke

Well I guess I should be doing some updates:

1) Surprisingly, my gf took the initiative to return me a portion of the money after she sensed I was upset.

2) Of course, that might be a ruse like some bros mentioned so I'll still be careful

3) She brought me an expensive tie on my Birthday!

4) Our relationship seems sweeter than before.

At this stage, I really do not want to suspect her again in the future and to do that, I must not send her anymore money. I think it's fair if the man pays for the dinner and some shopping, but I won't be part of the solution to her family debt anymore.


Here we go again..!!!:D

[Barton]

Good luck ts in your foray to the thai gf jungle :p

[sibaysong4u]

t this stage, I really do not want to suspect her again in the future and to do that, I must not send her anymore money. Talk is Easy then done. Alot of my Kam Lan friend oso said that they wont send any more $ butt in the end.............Haiz. Buffalo.

[Ecuader]

You are being treated like a ROBERT. 1st how often do you visit her? are you sg chinese or Ang Mo? you should never pay for her friends during tours. Her friends' bf should be the one paying for their gals. unless her friends let you fuck them? lol

thais like the term "gik" = fuck buddies alot. They will try to find a few robert(sponsers) to be their giks while also having their regular bf. maybe u r just 1 of her giks.

and don't be surprised. some gals got pregnant as young as 13yrs old. ie a 25yr old milf with a 12yr old kid. lol

[MaMister]

Luv u mak mak,I no working,I miss u,phone no battery........Finally parents sick need more $$$$$$$$$$:eek:

I kana once she say she is reading a book but I think I heard moaning...:eek:

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

I kana once she say she is reading a book but I think I heard moaning...:eek:

Most likely an interactive book :D;)

[csierba]

There is a great book, "Thailand Fever" (forget the authors, check amazon.com)

it's about western culture and thai culture, and having a thai girlfriend.

the easy answer is "you are being had" but the truth is not that simple, what is valued in Thai culture, money, generosity, supporting parents and family... all those things are different and a little more complicated. What can be perceived in the west as "she's taking advantage of you" can actually be her behaving according to her culture but you not understanding.

(or maybe she's taking advantage of you... :-)

I'm a romantic, there can be love and it can work, but like any cross-cultural relationship if you don't work at understanding and respecting the differences, the long-term prospects are dim.

[ThaiBeautiful]

You should perform an IQ test on your clientele before you let them book your girls.:D

No choice. This happens........

Of cos' if they ask me for advice, I will surely tell them. "FUCK and FORGET"! then come for my other girls again!!! :D

it's a win-win situation. Rather than let them lose-lose situation...when they give money to the girl, so they will not return to SG to work, thinking that they have done the "right" thing.

btw, lose-lose means, lose money and lose more money.

[luckylurker]

TS, in all honesty and humility, you should have bailed before this thread reached page 2. It is never too late though.

Good luck.

[betty]

maybe ts really hit the jackpot and found a real thai pearl :D Who knows?

Like invest the gain is in proportion to the risk involved :p

Good luck ts !

[sibaysong4u]

maybe ts really hit the jackpot and found a real thai pearl :D Who knows?

Like invest the gain is in proportion to the risk involved :p

Good luck ts !

Most likely is the girl hit the jackpot....Bingo:D

[MaMister]

Most likely is the girl hit the jackpot....Bingo:D

Ya you will also have that jackpot feeling when you call her and realised that she is fucking with another man and talking to you at the same time... :D

[sibaysong4u]

The feeling is Priceless:D:D:D

[SmokyJoe]

Most likely an interactive book :D;)

lol I also want that interactive book.

[swakoo1409]

Did you meet any thai ger ? Pse share us with us your experience.

my friend's wife. ahaha last time coyote. "courting days" will scold my friend if buy ld for her. now got day job. help my friend with his credit bills stacked from chionging too much before married. how to find sia! lol now my friend retire from chionging liao too much debt hahaha

[lenz]

my friend's wife. ahaha last time coyote. "courting days" will scold my friend if buy ld for her. now got day job. help my friend with his credit bills stacked from chionging too much before married. how to find sia! lol now my friend retire from chionging liao too much debt hahaha

so good... mine total opp. will ask mi buy to bring her out. maybe i jus a carrothead to her. someone please advice me

[Duios]

at times like this i feel singapore girl better LOL just because they more independent. but the sex factor thai girls win man

[swakoo1409]

so good... mine total opp. will ask mi buy to bring her out. maybe i jus a carrothead to her. someone please advice me

advice all the same Bro Lenz. Do not get involved with her.

Can copy and paste advice liao.

True my friend got lucky and found a good girl. But what are the chances? very slim... I hear 100 sad story only to hear 1 good story from my friend.

Advice is that you not to get involved with her anymore. If you choose to be stubborn and take that risk, do post the outcome share experience and story :D

[lenz]

totally confuse.... but i hope things will end soon. being tired mentally

[Greatking]

maybe ts really hit the jackpot and found a real thai pearl :D Who knows?

Like invest the gain is in proportion to the risk involved :p

Good luck ts !

But what are a chances to hit a jackpot? :rolleyes:

[MaMister]

Ya you will also have that jackpot feeling when you call her and realised that she is fucking with another man and talking to you at the same time... :D

But what are a chances to hit a jackpot? :rolleyes:

Many times liao....:D

[swakoo1409]

totally confuse.... but i hope things will end soon. being tired mentally

no need to be confused... take the matters lightly. dont be serious about the girl. just live your own life.

[kwayteow]

Tks for sharing. Installment never ends. And we never know whats the end of the other end.

[miklo]

agree.. when it comes to love, find one that would love you more than you love her..

[dustzee]

Hi bros,

It's surprising to see so many other bros dating thai girls and are confused as well. At least i know I'm not alone.

I guess I owe the bros here an update.

Anyway, just to clarify a few matters because thai girls have been equated to bar girls or ktv girls in many posts. So I just like to point out that my thai gf is a normal thai girl. By saying normal, it doesn't mean that she's definitely not cheating me, I should be well aware of that possibility, but she's different from the normal bar girls that I know elsewhere.

Right now, after absorbing the advices of many bros here, I became very very cautious. After a little bit more research into her culture, I realized that Thai women really take good care of their parents. The thing is that the parents expects the foreigner bf to provide for the family, hence the reason why sometimes she would ask for money.

So 2 questions came to mind:

1) Will she stick with me if I don't have any money for her?

2) Is it possible to be with her and not be a money tree for her family?

And now I'm on a trip to find out. I told her that I won't be giving her anymore money and asked if she still loves me. She said she does. So ok... let's see if this lasts. I also told her I need the money that she borrowed, and she has been paying back on installment basis. I would like to see how she honours her debt.

I know it's not fair for me to expect qualities which may not even be relevant in her culture but for us to go on, she must possess some of these qualities which I value.

[yoyo1234567]

then wads the decision you made bro?

[xxking]

Hi bros,

1) Will she stick with me if I don't have any money for her?

2) Is it possible to be with her and not be a money tree for her family?

I told her that I won't be giving her anymore money and asked if she still loves me. She said she does. So ok... let's see if this lasts. I also told her I need the money that she borrowed, and she has been paying back on installment basis. I would like to see how she honours her debt.
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bro, my opinion:

1. yes, it can if she loves you
2. Not possible, to some extent you are, and even if for other girl in other country, maybe same situation, you can not change that.
3. Not suggest you play the game of asking $$ back if you really cares abt her. with the gaming mindset, you better stop that, the lady will sense it and not good foryour future if you want the r/s :p:rolleyes: