Pls help!!! I really need to rekindle sex life w hubby

[Myvoicemail]

During e past years my sex life w my hubby dropped drastically. It's like an average of only once per year. I just had given birth some one year old and ever since then till now, we never had sex yet.

He is a very loving & great hubby & dad, except for the sex part. I'm really feeling extremely upset as time passes.

I'm very very shy to initiate sex as we didn't had it for the longest time already, and I had never done the initiating. (except once during pregnancy which he almost rejected me but still did it reluctantly) This incident really failed me to pick up my courage once again to initiate sex and it indefinitely is a great hindrance to our marriage.

Pls help me and share with me how I can rekindle our sex life naturally and mutually and turn him on (we don't French kiss so it's altogether another challenge). What should I do to make him wanna have sex with me again? I'm going away on a long trip soon together with him, so I'd like to seek opinions cos I'm nervous about initiating it.

I'm still a very attractive lady. So appearance is not a problem.

Some kind souls, please help me!!!! It will really save me. Really grateful to you all with much appreciation!

[spboy]

Hi TS, welcome to the forum, where all kinds of men are. Hornies, perverts, great lovers. U name it, we have it here. Of course there are many who are gentlemen and would be honest to give u the advice that u need. You have come to the right place.

Personally I am disturbed by your confession in that your husband has not initiated sex with you for a long time though you mentioned he is loving and great husband. I myself am like your husband. Ive not initiated sex with my wife for a long long time. But anyway that is another issue. Please talk to him about how you feel about the lack of intimacy between u. There could be something wrong at his end that he is hiding from u that is making him procrastinate. That is if as what u mentioned that you are not a couple in trouble. Hope u get it through.

[sammyboyfor]

I'm still a very attractive lady. So appearance is not a problem.

Some kind souls, please help me!!!! It will really save me. Really grateful to you all with much appreciation!

Your sex life is the least of your problems. Your husband is obviously getting his rocks off somewhere else.

[horny03]

Hi TS. You can try to ask your husband out for a romantic dinner just the 2 of you , and during dinner slowly talk to him and listen to his problems if he have any. Try to let him feel that he is needed.

[alan0338]

just open up ur legs and ask him to poke u, tell him if he dun, others will :D

[jugesam]

in the past, have you ever rejected him from sex before? and after rejection you will still continue to expect him to initiate intimacy with you.

Likewise, guys are human too, just because he rejected you once doesnt means that he dun want to be crave after.

I am losing belief in the gal are the weaker sex shit, because on one hand they are asking for equality, but on the other hand they expect the guy to do everything for them. Either you be submissive or be equal, being equal means that everything you expect from him, you will also do the same to him, including initiating sex.

So show some initiatives and also talk to him, there may be problems bothering him, which are not necessary marital, that is causing him to behave this way.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

I'm still a very attractive lady. So appearance is not a problem.

Some kind souls, please help me!!!! It will really save me. Really grateful to you all with much appreciation!

Just be direct with him: Call/text him and tell him you wanna sio-kan :rolleyes:
If he refused, please advertise in http://www.sammyboyforum.com/forumdisplay.php?f=7 :rolleyes:
Btw, how do you know of this sex forum and willing to register here whilst you are behaving like a nun with no french kisses, red faces to initiate sex and all ?

[2centsworth]

He is a very loving & great hubby & dad, except for the sex part. I'm really feeling extremely upset as time passes.

Well, a lot of ladies will die to switch positions with you. Will it be better if you get lots of sex with a husband who isn't loving and isn't a great hubby or dad? Sex is the smaller problem, I feel. Do you still cuddle with him in bed? How about surprising him by being naked in bed under the blanket? Cuddle him naked. If he responds, great. If he doesn't, don't feel insulted. Regaining physical intimacy is a series of little steps ya? And stop thinking he is satisfying himself outside. Such thoughts just kill off what's left of your self-esteem. Remember; he's a loving and great hubby/dad. He won't be cheating you outside.

[waiwaiz]

try flirting with him thru SMS.........it may work:p As less it work for me n my partner.

[wett]

Dont be shy, get you wet, get him wet, and initiate yourself, that is your right right?

If no improvement, talk to him, or get a PI to check him :D

[2centsworth]

Disturb disturb ah. Summarising your points.

Darling Darling Come Fuck Me
I Spread on Fours, You doggy
I want sex but I am shy
Hubby dear come lick me high
I am sad that it’s a year
Finger myself nowhere near
To the highs that sex give me
Let your didi fill pussy

You are such a great hubby
Plus you are a nice daddy
Am I wrong to ask for sex?
That is something I reflect
Let me be your true lover
I want you and no other
Come to Sammy seek some view
Let the samsters do review

You don’t touch me I go siao
Soon i will be someone hiao
Sammy forum many men
Each guy tell me sex they can
If I need to find sex here
You will regret, do you hear?
So you better take off pants
Fuck me hard hard till I pant

[Greendevil]

Hi TS, your sex activity has dropped drastically over the years as mentioned y you. This is a sign indicating the problem didnt start during your recent pregnancy but even before that. Before we goes thinking and making assumptions that he is getting fed elsewhere, think again when does it really start and what has changed since then?

Re-igniting your sex life take two to work. While it a positive signs that you took the initiative to seek help but remember you still need to communicate with him. Attraction is also very subjective beside been physically appealing. Lastly, shyness does not help you in this case. End of the day, we are all still beings driven by lust. Put it very crude and blunt to you, you need to work on those sex skill. Doing with a woman who just open wide her leg with sound is no much difference with a blow up doll with sound effects. So seek some help on this areas as well, this may probably be one of the reasons that cause a decline in your sex life.

[sibaysong4u]

TRy something new, like him fuck yr ASS.

[RealEstateGuy]

Get back in shape and also learn some KamaSutra. Also mail order for Victorias Secret lingerie. On KS learn to milk his dick dry each nite.

[gambofini]

TS, tell us your age and your husband's age. Maybe if your husband is too old already, he no longer interested in sex? Or maybe have some health problems?

Dwindling sex frequency is quite common in marriage as the couple gets older. Would be abnormal to be having more sex now than before right? But once a year is a bit extreme imo... again boils down to age...

[stel]

how abt a change in dressing ?

At home , wear grown , transparent grown , without dra n panties ..

sit on him on the sofa , when he watches the tv ...

massage him from the back ... give a a good massge with aromo oil ...

Just a suggestion , only ..

[sytloverr]

I'm still a very attractive lady. So appearance is not a problem.

Some kind souls, please help me!!!! It will really save me. Really grateful to you all with much appreciation!

forget the long talks, questions & dinner.

if he's a loving husband, that's heads & shoulders over many relationships already! many still have sex with their wives, but only as a robotic consequence. remember, sex is but a small portion of a good relationship.

here's what you should do.

and do it quick....
when he's sleeping in the morning.

sneak up and give him a nice blowjob.
wrap his cock in your mouth gently and pamper him.

then when he's slightly hardened.
grab the rod and mount him slowly

his loving wife going down on him in the morning.
can't be a bad thing, seriously...
but be gentle, nothing too agressive.
as you don't want to wake him up suddently/get him grumpy.

(morning's best, as sometimes the body does the hardening for you)
so no need to worry about mood.

hope this helps
:D

all the best.

[joscklee]

Obviously your husband has woman/women outside lah

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Think her husband must be sneezing non-stop today :D
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[see see only]

TRy something new, like him fuck yr ASS.

Hahahaha .... this one i like .... :D


TS,

Giving your this virgin will surely interest him ... :p

[BigBoy2]

Go see a doctor with him.... Seek professional advise!!!!!

[wells]

I have one bro who also did not have sex with his wife after she gave birth. He loves his wife, take care of family. I ask him why no sex?

He told me that after witness his wife gave birth in hospital, he got a phobia and cannot erect if see the pussy. I do not know how true izit. :(

[Ken79]

learn how to wear something sexy in the bedroom, men are visual animals

give him a BJ when he least expects and he'd rape u, men like surprises

last but not least, he is fucking someone out there!

[shctaw]

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[blur boy]

I have one bro who also did not have sex with his wife after she gave birth. He loves his wife, take care of family. I ask him why no sex?

He told me that after witness his wife gave birth in hospital, he got a phobia and cannot erect if see the pussy. I do not know how true izit. :(

I was just about to raise this question to TS, if her hubby was with her when she give birth?

If he was there, there might be a possibility that he is being affected by the "scene".

Talk to him and ask him, only through communication can change the situation.

All the best in your search for sex with your hubby

[etct88]

just open up ur legs and ask him to poke u, tell him if he dun, others will :D

...others, like you :eek::D........

[EtherC]

Just some facts to help our damsel in distress:

1) Our gonads(aka testicles) have a finite capacity hence we men need to get rid of excess sperm produced and there are several outlets- sex, masturbation or wet dreams.

So has your husband been having wet dreams or masturbating?

Yes- good for you, the issue of non -sex may be likely psychological
No- I'm sorry, but it is likely he has been using other means to rid himself of the accumulated sperm
Not sure- Then go find out

2) There are many cases of men feeling turned off by their wives after child birth:

a)It could be that he can't bring himself to fuck the Motherhood Figure you have become.

b)Traumatic visuals induced by childbirth- the blood & fluids, slimy looking newborn plus the dilating vagina can have an impact on men. Some people faint over the mere sight of blood.

3) Stress
This is a killer, not only can it reduce libido it can affect almost every other aspect of one's health

Hope this helps a bit. Relax and enjoy sex, there is nothing wrong with initiating and don't fear rejection. This is your husband. Like what another Samster said, nothing turns men on like a slow gentle morning blowjob. Good Luck!

[Penislol]

just open up ur legs and ask him to poke u, tell him if he dun, others will :D

agreed with bro alan. this the best solution.:cool:

[unsaintly]

Just some facts to help our damsel in distress:

1) Our gonads(aka testicles) have a finite capacity hence we men need to get rid of excess sperm produced and there are several outlets- sex, masturbation or wet dreams.

So has your husband been having wet dreams or masturbating?

Yes- good for you, the issue of non -sex may be likely psychological
No- I'm sorry, but it is likely he has been using other means to rid himself of the accumulated sperm
Not sure- Then go find out

2) There are many cases of men feeling turned off by their wives after child birth:

a)It could be that he can't bring himself to fuck the Motherhood Figure you have become.

b)Traumatic visuals induced by childbirth- the blood & fluids, slimy looking newborn plus the dilating vagina can have an impact on men. Some people faint over the mere sight of blood.

3) Stress
This is a killer, not only can it reduce libido it can affect almost every other aspect of one's health

Hope this helps a bit. Relax and enjoy sex, there is nothing wrong with initiating and don't fear rejection. This is your husband. Like what another Samster said, nothing turns men on like a slow gentle morning blowjob. Good Luck!

Point number 2 possible.

Went drinking with a friend during regular after work happy hour at pub and chat.

Talked about marital sex, he told me he cannot bring himself to initiate the sex because of the respect he has for his wife and he sees his wife as a companion, someone to take care of and take care of him etc etc and not a figure for sex. He just masturbates to relief. -Sad for my friend- He is happily married though. He still has the occassional sex. But wife initiate. So you really can try. The morning blowjob before he wakes up sounds interesting. might work.

Do a little fishing. Give him the blowjob and when he starts enjoying stop. Then use sms to tease him thru the day and when u get home u initiate it.

[cooldudex]

Can't think of sex when one is stress and tensed anyways. So nothing like a good massage with a good massage oil (lavender perhaps) to get the juices flowing. Some times small gestures like that will go a long way. Especially when he has been out working his arse off the whole day. Think about it.

[orneryjoe]

Goodness... almost a year without sex between you and hubby?

It's either his libido is a problem, or he is getting his thrills elsewhere.

If the libido is a problem, persuade your hubby to see a doctor.

If he is satisfying himself in some other way, don't take it hard. A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do. The best scenario here is that he's into porn. The worst is that he is having sex with someone else. You could get him to also have sex with you by asking him directly, dressing sexily, getting naked etc... If you're feeling sexually frustrated, you could also get a boyfriend or something.

You first need to find out the reason for this no-sex situation, and then you can decide what to do next.

You need to really communicate with your hubby if you care about your marriage and happiness.

[hamsapkwai]

Another way to find out is, when you got the chance, put on a dildo and give it to him .

If he moans and gives indication that he likes it , then you got the answer.

He doesn`t like women anymore .

[MaMister]

TRy something new, like him fuck yr ASS.

Ya... I cheong outside because my wife don't let me AJ her....:D

[utd4ever59]

Hi TS..have you ever think that you have not fulfill your hubby's fetish or desires during sex. What he cannot get from you ,he can get it elsewhere. Have you ever do fellatio, cim,cob,aj,ar on him or even let him lick you. Moan in ecstacy during sex will lift his ego,whispers what you like him to do and tell him how strong his cock his tonite........my fb and wife always tell me that......and it soubds great.

[Super White]

If he is not cheating, he could be suffering from low tetesterone, or some other hormonal sex problem. To fix the sexual intercourse side you need to being oral intercourse.

Talk about it first. No point bombing you with suggestions when we don't know the exact nature of the problem.

[joscklee]

Your hubby impotent lah, cannot stand even you stripped naked OR maybe your problem: why not let some of our Bros examine you. If all out didis can't stand even you beg us f**k you then problem lies with you lo

[erroneous]

I got a friend who has the same issue as you.

It only take 3 months for her to hire a PI.

Husband diagnosed with HIV.

[swakoo1409]

I got a friend who has the same issue as you.

It only take 3 months for her to hire a PI.

Husband diagnosed with HIV.

:eek::eek::eek:

[Duios]

Get back in shape and also learn some KamaSutra. Also mail order for Victorias Secret lingerie. On KS learn to milk his dick dry each nite.

nice one bro. this will definitely work for me. probably rape my gf/wife if she do that.

[BenMore]

Disturb disturb ah. Summarising your points.

Darling Darling Come Fuck Me
I Spread on Fours, You doggy
I want sex but I am shy
Hubby dear come lick me high
I am sad that it’s a year
Finger myself nowhere near
To the highs that sex give me
Let your didi fill pussy

You are such a great hubby
Plus you are a nice daddy
Am I wrong to ask for sex?
That is something I reflect
Let me be your true lover
I want you and no other
Come to Sammy seek some view
Let the samsters do review

You don’t touch me I go siao
Soon i will be someone hiao
Sammy forum many men
Each guy tell me sex they can
If I need to find sex here
You will regret, do you hear?
So you better take off pants
Fuck me hard hard till I pant

LOL best poem i've read all year!

[RealEstateGuy]

You need to
1) get a Brazilian wax (yes down there too)
2) get some lingerie (Victoria's Secret is best)
3) learn some Kama Sutra. need to learn how to drip his dick and milk it. I gurantee you any woman who can do that will have a guy wanting more and more. My high class maid FB does this for me and its addicting.