How to fight the addiction?

[King123456789]

Dear bros, need some advise on how to fight off the addiction of cheonging.

I dont do the hardcore type (no sex), but would go for those massage places that provides a hj at the end (the most I have gone for is a "body to body massage", once)

The problem is that I have a loving gf and I love her very much. I would feel terribly guilty after each session, but would fail to control my urges a few days later. To make things worse, I live in HK (for work) and my gf is in Sg and I only get to see her once in a while.

I dont return to the same massage place often and can afford all those sessions financially. But I cant afford the guilty feeling.

I'm trying to overcome the addiction and is wondering if any bros out there have some advice on how to fight it or have come across similar situation? Thanks!

[sammyboyfor]

Dear bros, need some advise on how to fight off the addiction of cheonging.



Should be "...need some ADVICE...".

"Advise" is a verb.

[datou]

Dear bros, need some advise on how to fight off the addiction of cheonging.

I dont do the hardcore type (no sex), but would go for those massage places that provides a hj at the end (the most I have gone for is a "body to body massage", once)

The problem is that I have a loving gf and I love her very much. I would feel terribly guilty after each session, but would fail to control my urges a few days later. To make things worse, I live in HK (for work) and my gf is in Sg and I only get to see her once in a while.

I dont return to the same massage place often and can afford all those sessions financially. But I cant afford the guilty feeling.

I'm trying to overcome the addiction and is wondering if any bros out there have some advice on how to fight it or have come across similar situation? Thanks!


You already hv your answer in your post --- can afford all those sessions financially.
If u hv no money then how to go massage.
Put your spare money away or use ur massage money to buy airticket to sg n spend time w ur gf be it a day or 2.

If u lack preserverance, then all this talk is useless.

[whitetiger]

Dear bros, need some advise on how to fight off the addiction of cheonging.

I dont do the hardcore type (no sex), but would go for those massage places that provides a hj at the end (the most I have gone for is a "body to body massage", once)

The problem is that I have a loving gf and I love her very much. I would feel terribly guilty after each session, but would fail to control my urges a few days later. To make things worse, I live in HK (for work) and my gf is in Sg and I only get to see her once in a while.

I dont return to the same massage place often and can afford all those sessions financially. But I cant afford the guilty feeling.

I'm trying to overcome the addiction and is wondering if any bros out there have some advice on how to fight it or have come across similar situation? Thanks!

You should think of your gf in sg then you will not do anything foolish.

[wantanabee]

i.think massage has become habitual in your life. you can start finding another habit which has stronger desire in order to kick this. money is totally in your control, if keeping them away helps, you won't be posting this at all.

[goodmassage]

Dude, I feel for u man cos I am in exactly the same situation.

If u don't stop, it wont be long before you start a BJ, progressively a BBBJ, a FJ then RAW!

Its a slippery slope. Kinda like drugs.

So you could either convince yourself to halt before it becomes full blown or get a religion.

[see see only]

Left hand or right hand could help ........ with some websites providing you, the visual Sextisfaction :p

[owl888]

Wow TS u work in HK & only go massage with HJ only? If I were u would be cheonging CP every weekend liao :D

Anyway, if u don't go massage most likely u would pcc yourself.....looking at it from another angle u were merely asking others to pcc for you & u r compensating them for helping u the work which u would have done it yourself, rite? :D

[sgjoey]

If I were you, I would not fight the addiction at all. Instead, I would fight the guilty feelings becos you are not really guilty of anything -- your sexual urges are quite normal.

Since you are not married yet, perhaps you should just tell your gf about your activities. If she dumps you as a result, so be it. Marriage is so over-rated anyways.

I understand that HK is quite a happening place as far as commercial sex is concerned. If that is the case, you should just relax and sample all the delights on offer instead of tying yourself down for life to one partner who is most likely to be sexually inhibited. Not an exciting future, I can tell you, if you select the conventional marriage option.

[RealEstateGuy]

Braddah HK, you can quit if you wanted to. Braddah HK, I think the problem is you use the whack shop as a substitute during your GF's abcense. So braddah HK, should see your GF more often. Braddah HK you should redirect your money toward air tickets for you and your GF.

[King123456789]

Thanks for pointing out my grammatical error and also for all the opinions given. Greatly appreciated.

I guess what I was trying to say with regards to finance and not going back to the same place often is that I have no problems affording it financially and I'm not KCed by any of those masseuse from PRC. (sounds quite frightening to be KCed by one after reading all the stories here)

I just feel ethically and morally wrong with doing it, but at the same time feels addicted to it. The massage is afterall, the main purpose of going there. Just feel caught between my morals and my urges. Not a nice feeling at all.

Thanks all for listening.

[see see only]

Thanks for pointing out my grammatical error and also for all the opinions given. Greatly appreciated.

I guess what I was trying to say with regards to finance and not going back to the same place often is that I have no problems affording it financially and I'm not KCed by any of those masseuse from PRC. (sounds quite frightening to be KCed by one after reading all the stories here)

I just feel ethically and morally wrong with doing it, but at the same time feels addicted to it. The massage is afterall, the main purpose of going there. Just feel caught between my morals and my urges. Not a nice feeling at all.

Thanks all for listening.

Hey TS,

Hahaha ... i believe in SBF some ladies would classified their man cheating only when their man slept with another woman with feelings ... (check out the Orgies/Swinging arrangements section if you do not believe)

So brain-wash your gf moral ..... :rolleyes: if not at least your own .... and keep this habit of yours to your own side. Especially since, is the massage that you are really going after for, after all ;)

[RealEstateGuy]

Thanks for pointing out my grammatical error and also for all the opinions given. Greatly appreciated.

I guess what I was trying to say with regards to finance and not going back to the same place often is that I have no problems affording it financially and I'm not KCed by any of those masseuse from PRC. (sounds quite frightening to be KCed by one after reading all the stories here)

I just feel ethically and morally wrong with doing it, but at the same time feels addicted to it. The massage is afterall, the main purpose of going there. Just feel caught between my morals and my urges. Not a nice feeling at all.

Thanks all for listening.

Braddah Hong Kong, then downgrade to your hand and porn.

[goodmassage]

Bro,

there is a point of no return. Good that you are feeling guilty.
U - Turn before its too late.

[S.B.Y.1]

This should help permanently :D

http://img5.uploadhouse.com/fileuploads/14916/149160153482809354226b5ddef8ebe57847a050.jpg

[SantaFairy]

There is no such things as addicted to sex, is either you have high sex drive or no drive :eek: I would say its very normal for man to cheong outside, 80 to 95 percent?? When u feel that u need it, maybe can keep yourself occupied, do some sports, out w frenz for a drink or you can even make a long distance call to your gf, mns, etc..
When you mentioned that you love your gf alot, u should do something to stop it n not just saying n feeling guilty. If your gf find out, u will break her heart n u will be sorry. So, what for?? Not worth for a moment of urge tio bo? :cool:

[kidd]

以毒攻毒, use good addiction - like exercise - to replace the bad addiction :D

[owl888]

Just saw this thread:

http://www.sammyboyforum.com/showpost.php?p=6499969&postcount=1

I think will make u feel better :)

[Mr.romance]

Dear bros, need some advise on how to fight off the addiction of cheonging.

I dont do the hardcore type (no sex), but would go for those massage places that provides a hj at the end (the most I have gone for is a "body to body massage", once)

The problem is that I have a loving gf and I love her very much. I would feel terribly guilty after each session, but would fail to control my urges a few days later. To make things worse, I live in HK (for work) and my gf is in Sg and I only get to see her once in a while.

I dont return to the same massage place often and can afford all those sessions financially. But I cant afford the guilty feeling.

I'm trying to overcome the addiction and is wondering if any bros out there have some advice on how to fight it or have come across similar situation? Thanks!
This is no big deal la bro!
U haven seen those that had many scandals even when they are married
If you seriously Wana change, still very early. Get a religion that prohibits... that is the most effective

[canola123]

think u r fine, since you try to minimize the urge, then continue to try find ways to curb it. my experience is to train for marathon, n manage to do a half marathon in 2.5hours. it helps. but urge still there. is not easy bcos rooted so deep, so just take it easy, is a long road.

[Beem]

What addition?
Every other guy is doing it
It's the norm la:D