unable to cum...

[3838438]

i think im in a weird situation

im early 20s to mid 20s... masturbate daily and is able to maintain erection for as long as 20-30mins(subjected to interest maintained or not ) and able to ejaculate..

but however, when doing the sexual intercourse, i was not able maintain erection nor ejaculate... with or without condom.

resulting handjob for finishing...

any1 can help? or shall ur views please?

sorry for the lousy english

[sammyboyfor]

any1 can help? or shall ur views please?


You're fucking the wrong girls. Try a new crop.

[ROCKERS]

"You're fucking the wrong girls. " LOL!

Maybe you're FUCKING THE WRONG WAY too bro,that's most likely to resulting on a handjob for finishing..!
Goodluck with the blowjobs.

[kaff]

you cannot cum when you fxxk a WL ?

If this also applies to your normal partner without condom, then i feel u have spend too much time masturbating.

a way to overcome this is to fxxk your partner in a jav style fullfilling you fantasy, ie fxxk in handicap toilet or with lingerie etc.

i believe you will cum that way and or when you have feeling of cumming, pls do not change position.

[KiSiaoD]

In my humble opinion, having hard on for 20-30 minutes during masterbation is considered "very lousy". I am almost 50 and I can hold my hardness for two hours when I masterbate... because I am simply lying. When come to real sex with lots of movement (panting), I probably last 15 minutes of continuous movement....

Depending on your age, I think you should stop masterbating and sex for two weeks to one month. During this time, do more exercises and more norishing food to build up your strength and endurance...

Good luck to you.

[3838438]

"You're fucking the wrong girls. " LOL!

Maybe you're FUCKING THE WRONG WAY too bro,that's most likely to resulting on a handjob for finishing..!
Goodluck with the blowjobs.

fucking the wrong way...?

i do admit im seriously inexperienced.. unable to penetrate despite with erection ( i dono how to aim the hole lol)

hmmm can u explain more?? what u mean the wrong way?

[3838438]

you cannot cum when you fxxk a WL ?

If this also applies to your normal partner without condom, then i feel u have spend too much time masturbating.

a way to overcome this is to fxxk your partner in a jav style fullfilling you fantasy, ie fxxk in handicap toilet or with lingerie etc.

i believe you will cum that way and or when you have feeling of cumming, pls do not change position.

you cannot cum when you fxxk a WL ?<<< this one... no comments (although i dono whats a WL) but currently my only partner is with another girl

If this also applies to your normal partner without condom, then i feel u have spend too much time masturbating.<<< this one.... i tried with and without... able to satisfy her... like... 15-20 mins of action but i don really "feel" the cumming for my side...

[3838438]

In my humble opinion, having hard on for 20-30 minutes during masterbation is considered "very lousy". I am almost 50 and I can hold my hardness for two hours when I masterbate... because I am simply lying. When come to real sex with lots of movement (panting), I probably last 15 minutes of continuous movement....

Depending on your age, I think you should stop masterbating and sex for two weeks to one month. During this time, do more exercises and more norishing food to build up your strength and endurance...

Good luck to you.

In my humble opinion, having hard on for 20-30 minutes during masterbation is considered "very lousy". <<< i dont get what u mean... ( sorry .. extreme lousy with sarcasm)

When come to real sex with lots of movement (panting), I probably last 15 minutes of continuous movement....<<< for this part... we change positions here and there.. within the.. 15-20mins... (not sure is it accurate) tried many things.. bbbj bj.. missionary.... but fails..

[Greendevil]

TS, being a first timer and eager to lose you virginity, you may hv missing out the fun of the whole deal. It is not abt putting a pc of meat inside and jus keep out pumping. Have some foreplay and oral sex, in fact have plentiful of it. Again, your partner may not hv been well lubricated so it also make it challenging for you. Again, I emphasis, don be anxious, enjoy the process. If all else fail, Ask yr girl out and I show you hw to get the deed done :p

[5ag1_Boar]

i think im in a weird situation

im early 20s to mid 20s... masturbate daily and is able to maintain erection for as long as 20-30mins(subjected to interest maintained or not ) and able to ejaculate..

but however, when doing the sexual intercourse, i was not able maintain erection nor ejaculate... with or without condom.

resulting handjob for finishing...

any1 can help? or shall ur views please?

sorry for the lousy english



fucking the wrong way...?

i do admit im seriously inexperienced.. unable to penetrate despite with erection ( i dono how to aim the hole lol)

hmmm can u explain more?? what u mean the wrong way?

you cannot cum when you fxxk a WL ?<<< this one... no comments (although i dono whats a WL) but currently my only partner is with another girl

If this also applies to your normal partner without condom, then i feel u have spend too much time masturbating.<<< this one.... i tried with and without... able to satisfy her... like... 15-20 mins of action but i don really "feel" the cumming for my side...

You cannot maintain erection, unable to penetrate but can satisfy her after 15 mins of action.

You are contradicting yourself! Seems like you are very confused or trying to pull a fast one on us.

Explain quick, or the "shoot first and ask question later" bros will be zapping your account.

[3838438]

You cannot maintain erection, unable to penetrate but can satisfy her after 15 mins of action.

You are contradicting yourself! Seems like you are very confused or trying to pull a fast one on us.

Explain quick, or the "shoot first and ask question later" bros will be zapping your account.

You cannot maintain erection, unable to penetrate but can satisfy her after 15 mins of action.<<<< i mean i cant maintain it for long... sorry for the misunderstanding

[5ag1_Boar]

Probably performance anxiety: Stop worrying about whether you can cum or not. Just enjoy it... and it will "cum" naturally.

Frankly, if you can penetrate and keep going for 15 mins and still not cum, its actually not bad. Some bros here probably wish they can last so long. So, take it as a good thing, not bad.

Satisfy her, rest, cuddle, start again. Repeat until you cum. She'll be begging you for mercy after that (in a good way). Some ladies will love to have a lover like you.

If you can maintain erection for 20-30 mins watching porn, than not being able to do that during sex is just performance anxiety.

More stimulation for you will also help. It all boils down to angles. In face to face positions, you need to angle your dick so that the head rubs against the bumpy area at the top of the vagina (at the top when she is lying on her back). Also try positions that make her tighter.

Another trick, is to pull out until your dick head is almost out of her, then thrust in again. You can do short or medium strokes with this, but the feeling of your head entering her repeatedly is enjoyable and stimulating for some men and women.

Some positions to try: http://www.handbag.com/archive/relationship/sex/positions/0/10/

In summary:
1. Stop worrying about not coming or not maintaining your erection.
2. Try out different positions and techniques. And make sure BOTH of you have fun doing that. If you girl is willing to try it out with you, you'll build a nice and healthy sexual relationship.

[3838438]

many thanks for the replies.. learnt some things here.

[grey82]

i have same problems too, although it has improved slighty over the year...

pls bear with me, as i am abit long winded so that i can paint a better picture of my situation...

when i first started finding FL last year, i cant even maintain erection for more than a min...resuting in frustation & stress.

then when i ask bros in this section, only then when i found out that some bros also have same problem as me.

some seniors even pointed out to me that same thing happened to them when they first started Chionging. main reason is anxious.

another main factor is PCC.

i'm used to PCC without the foreskin daily , i understand this will result in less sensation when i have sex.

also i've cut down PCC to once a week. will slowly further reduce the frequency in time to come.

i even bought sagami condom which is only 0.02 mm thick.
however the sensation is not as good as i expected.

so my questions are,

but if i cease PCCing this way, will the sensitivity to my dickhead restore?

is there any drug or cream that can increase sensitivity?

also any bros encounter erection softens abit when we change sex postions?

thanks,

[Clazziquai]

You could start by not masturbating so often.

Or it could be a psychological problem.

Either way, IMO don't hesitate to get help if you think you need it.

Good luck bro. :)

[5ag1_Boar]

i have same problems too, although it has improved slighty over the year...

pls bear with me, as i am abit long winded so that i can paint a better picture of my situation...

when i first started finding FL last year, i cant even maintain erection for more than a min...resuting in frustation & stress.

then when i ask bros in this section, only then when i found out that some bros also have same problem as me.

some seniors even pointed out to me that same thing happened to them when they first started Chionging. main reason is anxious.

another main factor is PCC.

i'm used to PCC without the foreskin daily , i understand this will result in less sensation when i have sex.

also i've cut down PCC to once a week. will slowly further reduce the frequency in time to come.

i even bought sagami condom which is only 0.02 mm thick.
however the sensation is not as good as i expected.

so my questions are,

but if i cease PCCing this way, will the sensitivity to my dickhead restore?

is there any drug or cream that can increase sensitivity?

also any bros encounter erection softens abit when we change sex postions?

thanks,

It's mainly psychological. Early days, when I occasionally visit FL, sure cum very fast... sometimes just a few strokes, cum already. Around the same time, I would mutual masturbate with my then gf almost daily. I can last quite long, until gf arms/hands tired.

Later, when I had stopped going to FL, when making love to my next gf, I can last quite long. It was not often that I got to do with her, so frequency not a factor.

From then, I realised its my state of mind. Which over the years has proven to be true.

(The following is NOT for boasting, but sharing my experience. Apologies if it sounds like boasting.)

During my third serious gf, I also play FL. Sometimes also come quite fast with FL... probably 50-50. But with her... can fuck her for about 30 minutes, give her multiple orgasms, cum. Rest 10-15 mins, fuck her some more. My record with her was 4 orgasms (mine) in 2 hours. Normal with her is I cum twice in one session... else she not satisfied. That was about 5 years ago, mid-30s.

Now, I DIY almost everyday, at least once a day. Sometimes twice or more. Make love with current gf (different then the last) about once or twice a week. Maybe FL once a month. I can last long enough and can still cum. Erection is usually strong and hard. Occasionally, if tired from work, not so strong.

Some guys say, DIY more so can last longer. Some say DIY too much will train the cock to cum too fast. So who is right?

If you are fucking, and you mind is thinking "Why so little sensation? Will I be able to cum this time? Am I too small? Is her cunt too loose? Why is this taking so long? Is she tired? Is she bored? Is she ok with me taking so long?" you will distract yourself too much. Then your erection will soften and your sensations will drop too. You might as well be doing mathematics in your head or thinking about the ugly girl who sat opposite you on the MRT this morning.

My personal practice is to focus on satisfying the girl, not on the perceived problem that you have. Your body will naturally react to perform and complete the sex act without over-charging (i.e. premature ejaculation). Maybe some guys think differently... they don't think of satisfying the girl, but think about "fuck her until she beg for mercy (in a good way)"... to me it accomplishes the same thing. Sometimes, I encounter those FLs that basically "strip, bbbj, fuck"... this type almost guarantee I will come too fast.

That said, there are some positions that will stimulate the dick more. I find it usually has to do with the angle of your dick. Found a website with animated positions here: http://www.sexinfo101.com/sexualpositions.shtml

Positions that stimulate the dick more are "Deep Stick", "Deck Chair", "Folded Deck Chair", "Deep Impact", "Mirror of Pleasure". There are a few more, but may require more active participation or flexibility from the lady. Also try doggy, but with her legs closed and between your legs.

[Sident]

Sounds like performance anxiety...

When I first started cheonging I couldn't cum when I did it with FLs too, I had alot of stuff on my mind. I think it took me at least 4-5 different FLs before I could cum with intercourse. The important thing here is to take your mind off things and just enjoy the moment.

Some practical things that you can do are to change the sex positions, try doing positions where the she can "squeeze" you more. Like the flat doggy, you can get more sensation when her vagina walls are more narrow. Maybe you have a penis that is lower in girth, which can result in feeling less sensation in certain positions.

[doomday123]

Just wondering does doing JG before sex make one easier to cum. :rolleyes:

My last few encountered with a FL who performed a good massage, followed by JG & making love make my rod so hard & strong that I shoot a lot out.

By the way, I am also a hard to cum person and I believed cumming is all lies in your mind.

Maybe tried to focus more on her & not about work or other related stuffs might work......................;)

[Maryanne]

Ejaculation does not occur at the same moment as Orgasm.Its usually very close for younger men hence the confusion.
Men can ejaculate with out orgasm, as they can orgasm with out ejaculation.

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