In Need and be in need

[88bigbang]

hi to all, had been wondering e whole SBF site for awhile... Here I m putting my 1st post to share my short thought for view of things. A short intro of me, a late 30 male, married with kids.
I believe most of our life had not been really problematic on e surface, but it had been when e doors r closed not mentioning of the activities in bed. Maybe I m in the circle that is why I feel it. Most of the time, It goes from low to none. I do believe these r happening to most of the group at my age. This may be bcos either side are concentrating on all e things around them but not the one side him/her. That is why the marriage either turns sour in silence or end with unhappiness. Usually male go for pro. or do some hunt around for that someone to either for them to speak up or in search for that special moments again. Some are too shy to search further down the forum as somethings are not meant for professionals to solve, therefore they will end up here.
I also notice frm this section, the number of pages in each topic do give an idea e gender whom post it before even taking a look at e subject. Most man don't really succeed in initiating here being the reason. Don't mistaken, I am not here to preach, I m no saints too with needs same as Everyone here. No matter how succeessful or wealthy anyone are, the need is there ( that is why I don't really blame those 40+ man being caught). I don't really think I will get a reply here, just hope a different view will be given to the he\she whom posted here. I do believe all are here becos of the need. But a respond will be the best... Cheers to all n hope all needs will be fulfilled especially for those whom are at my age group.

[RogueGTR]

Bro 88Bangbig,

Actually what you're starting abt how you're feeling & confronted with in your own life is basically the lives of most honest down to earth guys without the privilege of having a 'mountain family bank' behind them ( i know that money isn't all but it does certainly brings certain amount of comfort if not stability in one's life or at least planning).

However, the inert attributes of each varies as there's simply too many variation or premunition pertaining to each individual's upbrining & influences that help shaped each priorities in life & also how each persue them.

Pertaining to your observation that your better halve is living in her own world thus silence & so forth, maybe -just maybe, she's more focus abt the well being of your family nucleus now since you guys are with kids & bet you know how diff life is for us nowadays then multiply that by many times for your kids when they come of age. Or maybe your better halve have her own set of worries regarding day to day life & what's expected of her in own asian culture?

Actually if you ask me, just do whatsoever pleases you but make sure that it doesn't boomerang back to hurt your family- am referring to over indulging in paid or FB till you've not much moola to contribute to family or giving some STD's as present to your wifey.

If you wanna have the 'sparks' coming back into your lives again then try to reminisce how you woo her back then & maybe put what you've done in the past into practice again? Who knows, there might be fireworks bro :)

I think only hor, women (wife/GF's or Fb's) love to have a listening ear who will just listen at most times & not engage. They also like confident males but not those braggadocious types that are so full of themselves till nauseating for those around their vicinity much less being in their company.

In whatever you chooses, i wish you great success bro :) What's stated is just my personal 2 cents hence pls don't flame me nor zap me pls

[cocobun]

Bro, you need to drink and party.............:D

[Apocalypse]

TS, your english is too chim.... I cannot understand what u saying.

[sane]

Fling/fb will ended in one way or another, all boils down to nothing while some pay deeply for the short moment of thrill. Good things will come to an end eventually.
Dun be blinded by the temptations while overlook the important things, who will walk down the road with you, to stick through sickness n old age.

[88bigbang]

Yo bro, thanks for e talk thru. I had been considering e back fire effect too. I dun really hav problem with my partner. We still talk n have good time together jus that her energy are diffused into other sources. Therefore, jus plain silence.... Thanks again bro

" A man in need is a man in greed"

Bro 88Bangbig,

Actually what you're starting abt how you're feeling & confronted with in your own life is basically the lives of most honest down to earth guys without the privilege of having a 'mountain family bank' behind them ( i know that money isn't all but it does certainly brings certain amount of comfort if not stability in one's life or at least planning).

However, the inert attributes of each varies as there's simply too many variation or premunition pertaining to each individual's upbrining & influences that help shaped each priorities in life & also how each persue them.

Pertaining to your observation that your better halve is living in her own world thus silence & so forth, maybe -just maybe, she's more focus abt the well being of your family nucleus now since you guys are with kids & bet you know how diff life is for us nowadays then multiply that by many times for your kids when they come of age. Or maybe your better halve have her own set of worries regarding day to day life & what's expected of her in own asian culture?

Actually if you ask me, just do whatsoever pleases you but make sure that it doesn't boomerang back to hurt your family- am referring to over indulging in paid or FB till you've not much moola to contribute to family or giving some STD's as present to your wifey.

If you wanna have the 'sparks' coming back into your lives again then try to reminisce how you woo her back then & maybe put what you've done in the past into practice again? Who knows, there might be fireworks bro :)

I think only hor, women (wife/GF's or Fb's) love to have a listening ear who will just listen at most times & not engage. They also like confident males but not those braggadocious types that are so full of themselves till nauseating for those around their vicinity much less being in their company.

In whatever you chooses, i wish you great success bro :) What's stated is just my personal 2 cents hence pls don't flame me nor zap me pls

[88bigbang]

Thanks bro, jus kind of feel my this thread did not come to a waste in anyway. Ya, will have to agree tat this may be a thrill for e wealthy.

" When a man in greed, that is when he becomes weak"

Cheers bro

Fling/fb will ended in one way or another, all boils down to nothing while some pay deeply for the short moment of thrill. Good things will come to an end eventually.
Dun be blinded by the temptations while overlook the important things, who will walk down the road with you, to stick through sickness n old age.

[sane]

Thanks bro, jus kind of feel my this thread did not come to a waste in anyway. Ya, will have to agree tat this may be a thrill for e wealthy.

" When a man in greed, that is when he becomes weak"

Cheers bro

u do not need to be wealthy to be happy and the happiness that we are always searching for is actually beside us.

[RogueGTR]

u do not need to be wealthy to be happy and the happiness that we are always searching for is actually beside us.

Couldn't have said it better myself! Bravo ;)