Convincing my wife for 3some

[coolnette]

Dear gentlemen,
me and my wife have been married for 7 years without kids. I have the fantasy of threesome and recently managed to convince her with our friend a guy. We managed to proceed smoothly initally but when the 'critical' moment comes, she rejected.
Im not too sure if she feel hurt and talking to her again she seems to hide her feeling about this. Im quite confused when we are doing as a couple again after the 3some, she fantasize being in the threesome or gangbang. So im not too sure if i should propose to her again another session or just forget about everything. :confused: Women

[ahwee73]

Hi TS, to me I thk is the chinese moral thing incur in her mind.. U hv to loosen her out, like get her tipsy and release her tension. Partly oso have to depend your another partner has any click with her.. It important, as she might want him badly.. Mood thing..

So TS, all the best..

[Bluebullet]

Hi TS,

I think your wife is not comfortable with the guy. Either they knew each other for too long a time or there is no feel at all.

I particpated in a 3some before. It was my colleague's wife. Samething, they were childess and boring. they wanted some fun. Initially both she and I were very shy. After some soft swing and easy talking from my colleague, we started to undress, were all naked and things went on well. In fact, we met up twice after that session. Now they have 2 kids and they are vey busy and we are still friends.

[coolnette]

Hi,
thanks for the reply and yes its true that we know the friend for about 10 years. Childhood friend. Hm..maybe its a wrong partner to start with. We did have some alcohol and i did sweet talk my wife. We don't really feel shy when naked in front of each other, we did some soft swing, so I though its ok for her. She stopped when he wanted to go into her. I should be more sensitive and understand how she feels if not this will remain as a fantasy

[otamay]

Hi,
... yes its true that we know the friend for about 10 years. Childhood friend.

I think he is too close for comfort, should try some others :D

[ahwee73]

Yup.. I think it will work out well if manage slowly with her mood.. She will like it..

[trendsetter]

Dear gentlemen,
me and my wife have been married for 7 years without kids. I have the fantasy of threesome and recently managed to convince her with our friend a guy. We managed to proceed smoothly initally but when the 'critical' moment comes, she rejected.
Im not too sure if she feel hurt and talking to her again she seems to hide her feeling about this. Im quite confused when we are doing as a couple again after the 3some, she fantasize being in the threesome or gangbang. So im not too sure if i should propose to her again another session or just forget about everything. :confused: Women

She loves you and only want to give herself to you and you alone!

[freezetheDB]

TS maybe should just start with your wife giving the guy a blowjob while you doggy her? don't insist on intercourse first

see how it works from there

[xxFTOxx]

I think he is too close for comfort, should try some others :D

Lol meaning u?? :D

[slicker]

Ts, go to the swinging/gangbang thread, look for the senior swingers and ask for their advice. It will definitely be more convincing to hear from them as they have been there n done that. They even counselled quite a number of couples to start so call soft swinging. One of them u can look for will be the undertables couple... Correct me if i m wrong. Hope this helps!

[coolnette]

Tks for all the replies and I guess i will have to ask my wife to 'open' more ;) i mean to be more openly on how she feels. We watch porn on 3some,GB and been talking for quite sometime. She told me once that she likes the attention from guys in 3some /gb. Being inexperience and with the advice from you guys, im wrong to allow the first session too fast with the 'intercourse' which might make her feels uncomfortable. The smooth foreplay and soft swing with our friend gave me a wrong impression that she is comfortable until....Poor friend and till now I have not contacted him :)

[coolnette]

Ts, go to the swinging/gangbang thread, look for the senior swingers and ask for their advice. It will definitely be more convincing to hear from them as they have been there n done that. They even counselled quite a number of couples to start so call soft swinging. One of them u can look for will be the undertables couple... Correct me if i m wrong. Hope this helps!

Oh...I have seen their thread and they are professional level :)

[sta1100]

She loves you and only want to give herself to you and you alone!

yeap correct, some wife only want to make love to thier man, not other. unless she super open minded

[lustdevil]

Im not a saint I do play ard but I jus don't understand abt ppl trying to do a threesome with their wife. The emontion hurt u have scar on yr wife u would not be able to feel. Try to understand yr partner do not have it to fulfill yr personal desire. She might have agree to it but jus she love u n U wanted it.

[3someking]

try to ask ur wife wat abt asking her female colleague along.
so it will be a mff tarma :D

[OceanLi]

try to ask ur wife wat abt asking her female colleague along.
so it will be a mff tarma :D

It shall started off with MFF first esp when you as the guy make the move.
till your partner feel alright then you can go for MFFM next before the MMF
get it right dude. :eek:;)

[dreamer326]

for 3P, i suggest to get someone that you do not know or close to you.. to avoid the embrassment in the future..

[BiRd13]

Agreed with some bros... Probably your wife is not comfortable with someone whom you both have known for a period of time... Will suggest to find someone whom you both are not that close with, or perhaps some 'stranger' online... Of course, safety is still a must... :)

Soft swinging is a good start to go... When I started with my wife, she's not comfortable at all for those swing even... After some persuading, we managed to start off with this couple... However, all we did was just intimate in same room... Things start to go smoother, and we proceed into same room sex with the same couple as well (but on different occasion...) Later on, it proceed even further, whereby we switch partner... and later part, a 3some (Me, my wife and the other party's wife...) and finally, a 3some of MMF (Me, my wife, and the party's husband...)

[coolnette]

We have talked more openly and honestly now and as per some of the guys suggested, doing it with someone you know (for too long) is a little problem. Well although its not a good start but lesson learned and glad that our friend still keep in contact. She has expressed her fantasy of hers being with 2 men but its usually more when watching porn or after a few glass of wine. Penetration is a huge thing for women and i should know what to do next :)

[chnhubby71]

Hi Bro, swinging is base on mutual interest, comfort, chemistry and trust to enter with the right mood and atmosphere.

It is great to have a fantasy when both of you are open up to talk to each others but at the same times, your wife being a female will feels shy and conservative at times to talk about this subject.

When both me and my wife first enter into this topics, she feels shy and conservative but at the same times excited and horny whenever we chatted about this topic on 3some when we are making out.

And we started to talk and share whom is our interested party that we would wish to enter if there is an opportunity. But at times, she will back off when the times we arrange to meet with the people.

Inorder not to go into rush and make your wife comfortable, you should tell her that there is no harm to meet up for a drink or friendship without obligation.

Meeting people do not mean that you are going to make our with them.

To some people or couple, there is no harm to meet to chat and share till all of you are comfortable to enter into the fun with comfort and chemistry to enter.

I do meet with many people whom are new comers like you 2. But till date most of them end up happily and we had keep in touch at times whenever we are free to meet and have a drink to see how we can enjoy if the moods allow us to enter into a great fun of the night. But this is subjected to NO Force & Obligation to enter.

Just explain to your wife and let her feels comfortable and not to feel obligated or being force to enter into the fun just to please you. If she do not feels comfortable during the meet up, just treat it as a meet up for friendship will do bro.

If she really chat up during the meet, chances of she being ready and horny to enter is already shown. And you can let her make the final SAY to give you the GREEN light to proceed to book the room and proceed to another place for a great fun of the night.

Wish you good luck.

[lestubbsie]

my wife has fantasies about 3somes and has teased me about it, but she will never be able to carry it out. Like some samsters have said, get her very turned on and somewhat high/tipsy. When they are inhibited, they are at their best!

one of my ex gf's, when slightly drunk, will do *anything*....even in public, because she's turned on. good luck!

[luv2suck]

if i ever marry, i think i'll settle for a bi-sex man so we can have 3somes all the time and he can bring home different men and gets to share them with me ... just a kinky thot. once while holidaying in florida, i got to watch 2 men (room mates) making it out and i really enjoy it... i fingered myself watching them and came full blast.

[wondergal]

Dear gentlemen,
me and my wife have been married for 7 years without kids. I have the fantasy of threesome and recently managed to convince her with our friend a guy. We managed to proceed smoothly initally but when the 'critical' moment comes, she rejected.
Im not too sure if she feel hurt and talking to her again she seems to hide her feeling about this. Im quite confused when we are doing as a couple again after the 3some, she fantasize being in the threesome or gangbang. So im not too sure if i should propose to her again another session or just forget about everything. :confused: Women

If you want to have a 3some just because you want it but she has no interest then don't. Her rejection tells me that she may have agreed at first only to please you but maybe she doesn't like it or doesn't dare to. Women generally equate sex as a love act and can feel guilt when they do it with men they don't have feelings for, or when it's extra-marital. Despite all the affairs and cheating we read about, some women are like that. Talk to your wife and ask but don't push.

[bifantasy27]

Lovetosuck:: guess u r talking abt someone like me!! 29 bi male here been in bi MMF 3some. And its awesome as hell!! Have u ever done that??




if i ever marry, i think i'll settle for a bi-sex man so we can have 3somes all the time and he can bring home different men and gets to share them with me ... just a kinky thot. once while holidaying in florida, i got to watch 2 men (room mates) making it out and i really enjoy it... i fingered myself watching them and came full blast.

[bifantasy27]

Dear TS! Think u really need someone stranger to play! Its always embarassing with known people.

Can sms me on 83468190 bro!!

[coolnette]

Hi bro,
"swinging is base on mutual interest, comfort, chemistry and trust to enter with the right mood and atmosphere." Tks and will remember this. Most importanly she must not do this because of me as some of the samster suggested which i think its quite true but she must equally enjoy. We talked and she know its purely for fun and its her fantasy with another guy beside me. She suggested she will still prefer MMF (not MMFF) and we will give it a try with someone we don't know. Anyway, among our conservative friends, its difficult to find someone with the same interest. You know its difficult to bing up the topic.