A not so innocent gal.

[RipenCherry]

Sorry to start this thread but doesnt know where to start off with.Hopefully will be able to get some advise from members in here in regards to my problems.Will post more details later when I am more free.

Vanessa

[alan0338]

camp till u are free hor ... :D :D

[RipenCherry]

Like to clarify in advance.Not here for any special or free handouts so please do not be mistaken.Just that I am feeling very stressed right now with my family situation and like to look for alternative views or solution.As i am still studying part time for my private course i really dont have much time to post frequently.will try to post up my situation soonest when my mind is more clear.

[acidicavex]

Same as bro alan above camping :D

[RipenCherry]

A short intro about myself during lunch break.I am a local chinese girl standing around 1.56m height.I weigh around 48kgs.Average typical looks.Next year will be my final year of my private course which I am taking to further upgrade myself for my career in life.

Right now my family situation is really bad and my dad got into some financial problems which I wont want to go into further details.My mum is also sick and need constant medical attention and weekly treatment.

My dad has also lost his job and cant afford to support the family and also in debts.My main concern now is my family situation is giving me lot of stress and also my next year school fees.Should I drop out of the private diploma course I am taking now to get a job to support my family?

Again I stress, do not offer me any money even if you are sincere in helping.Do not want to be labelled as a scam here.

[littlepok]

waiting for next input but however, i think u might as well start a thread when u are free rather than few 1 liners. tickle appetite and waste time waiting

[Iluminati]

Welcome to the world of SBF Vanessa! ;)

[vinkway]

A short intro about myself during lunch break.I am a local chinese girl standing around 1.56m height.I weigh around 48kgs.Average typical looks.Next year will be my final year of my private course which I am taking to further upgrade myself for my career in life.

Right now my family situation is really bad and my dad got into some financial problems which I wont want to go into further details.My mum is also sick and need constant medical attention and weekly treatment.

My dad has also lost his job and cant afford to support the family and also in debts.My main concern now is my family situation is giving me lot of stress and also my next year school fees.Should I drop out of the private diploma course I am taking now to get a job to support my family?

Again I stress, do not offer me any money even if you are sincere in helping.Do not want to be labelled as a scam here.

Just my own view...
Since it is ur last year.. therefore why quit? no point really.. you paid so much to study alread.. why quit in the last year.. juz do part time and try to survive the last year than go out to work..

without any paper qualification there is really nothing much u can work as too.. i am also in last year.. but i work part time... so still manage to survive..

think of other alternatives la gal.. anything juz pm any one who is comfortable to talk to..

Talk to ur best fren all those will help you with the stress level gal..

take care.. anything pm us lor..

[ch33zy]

Push yourself through your studies first.. You are almost at the last leg of your studies.. You can seek help on the rest of the issues that you are facing.. It is not the end of the world yet..

[Enzo]

I find it very strange that TS describes her height and weight when the focus should be on her problems. What gives? :confused:

Anyway, consider whether the possibility and option of postponing your final year of your course by one year exists. You can try working for one year first and take up the final last year when your family's financial situation improves.

[TehGaDai]

Contradicting. Her title, against her plight currently.
She is awaiting advices - in a SEX FORUM? Hmmm... :rolleyes:

[onlyhuman]

Seriously Sbf is not the right place to ask for advices...
Why?
1: u will received tons of pm asking u out, they can help to solve ur problems..pls beware.
2: u will received okt pm trying to recruit u to solve your financial woes.
3: this is a sex forum and we discuss abt sex.

Anyway I wished u all the best! Pls don't drop out...try to get a part time job if time permits.

PS: Sbf is becoming like a dating website...damn!

Onlyhuman

[moodee]

I believe there should be study loans where you can take up?

[jasdude]

Questionable motives and assumptions done by all which TS is the only best person to clarify. Rather than all of us waste our brain juices speculating. TS speak your mind and your intent.

[littlepok]

just be more direct. u are not looking for advice here.

1. quote a price for FL
2. quote a price for sugar daddying
3. quote a price for used lingerie
4. quote a price for financial assistance with nothing in return

[mr_missile]

just be more direct. u are not looking for advice here.



wah, bro, u really very direct hor? :D

[RipenCherry]

Just my own view...
Since it is ur last year.. therefore why quit? no point really.. you paid so much to study alread.. why quit in the last year.. juz do part time and try to survive the last year than go out to work..

without any paper qualification there is really nothing much u can work as too.. i am also in last year.. but i work part time... so still manage to survive..

think of other alternatives la gal.. anything juz pm any one who is comfortable to talk to..

Talk to ur best fren all those will help you with the stress level gal..

take care.. anything pm us lor..
Thanks for your kind words.Will try to think more clearly about what I want to do.

[RipenCherry]

waiting for next input but however, i think u might as well start a thread when u are free rather than few 1 liners. tickle appetite and waste time waiting

I am not trying to tickle or waste your time reading as I am under moderation and my postingis limited to 1000 words only.Really sorry if it is wasting your time.

[queeniegal]

A short intro about myself during lunch break.I am a local chinese girl standing around 1.56m height.I weigh around 48kgs.Average typical looks.Next year will be my final year of my private course which I am taking to further upgrade myself for my career in life.

Right now my family situation is really bad and my dad got into some financial problems which I wont want to go into further details.My mum is also sick and need constant medical attention and weekly treatment.

My dad has also lost his job and cant afford to support the family and also in debts.My main concern now is my family situation is giving me lot of stress and also my next year school fees.Should I drop out of the private diploma course I am taking now to get a job to support my family?

Again I stress, do not offer me any money even if you are sincere in helping.Do not want to be labelled as a scam here.

I was hesitating shd I post to TS.

I roamed around for an hour aimlessly. Now settle down at a pub nearby my house for my fries and 7up.

While waiting for my mum to meet me for dinner, decided to tell you my story

TS,

14 years ago was worst then yours.

I was still in secondary school. I never work for my entire life. Remember school holidays, I will be travelling rather then working part times like other student. My dad was doing quite well in our family biz.

However, one day collapsed. Went into coma. Family biz was fights between relatives. My dad is our only sole income. My mum been tai tai since she was married, looking after 3 kids with nanny.

I don't do single housework. Food is always serve infront of me. Despite my granny will force me to learn cooking, sewing those traditional mins set..

Family went into debts hospital bill was pilling cause my dad is self employ thus we don't have medisave and saving was running low. Plus back then my dad just purchase a shophouse. Monthly just paying 8k or mortgage loans.

I did badly for my exams. I failed my O actually. My mum went into depression. Relative never lend us a helping hands but was fighting for the biz rights. End up sold off the biz and back then my mum only know that my dad said the shophouse is to collect rental.

So some peanuts amount was given to us. My mum use that to service the loans. She have to go out and work. As a cleaner cause she is not well educated.

My life turn upside down. Being the eldest, I fare badly for my O levels.
I came out to work. I'm lucky. I was being hired by

[RipenCherry]

Push yourself through your studies first.. You are almost at the last leg of your studies.. You can seek help on the rest of the issues that you are facing.. It is not the end of the world yet..

Thanks for the encouragement.It really helps to see this kinds words from you.

[RipenCherry]

I find it very strange that TS describes her height and weight when the focus should be on her problems. What gives? :confused:

Anyway, consider whether the possibility and option of postponing your final year of your course by one year exists. You can try working for one year first and take up the final last year when your family's financial situation improves.

I am also lost as to why I describe myself in here.When a person is lost,the thoughts may not be logical or sensible in sequence.

Also thanks for the kind advise.

[RipenCherry]

Contradicting. Her title, against her plight currently.
She is awaiting advices - in a SEX FORUM? Hmmm... :rolleyes:

As per my reply to another guy,I also dont understand what I put as my thread title.My friend told me this forum has alot of members who may offer good advice so I just trying my luck here.It another avenue for me to voice out my frustrations and stress so dont take it as some sort of scam or contradicting as what you feel.

i have stated clearly I am not looking for free handouts or donations so nothing to worry.

[RipenCherry]

Seriously Sbf is not the right place to ask for advices...
Why?
1: u will received tons of pm asking u out, they can help to solve ur problems..pls beware.
2: u will received okt pm trying to recruit u to solve your financial woes.
3: this is a sex forum and we discuss abt sex.

Anyway I wished u all the best! Pls don't drop out...try to get a part time job if time permits.

PS: Sbf is becoming like a dating website...damn!

Onlyhuman
Ok understand now from some of the replies in this thread.

[queeniegal]

A foreign company paying me 800 per mth but with high OT.

I slog, I do my private dip. Have to support my family and my young siblings.

But end up with no choice my parent have to declare bankrupt cause the shophouse we rent out at 8k just thinking to tide over the loan. However, We meet those nasty tenant who owe us more then 8 months of rent. We issues lawyer letter but invalid.

We start to owe the mortgage our payment went into default. No choice, my parent have to declare bankrupt.

My dad was staying in hospital for 2 yrs as he went into coma. So can imagine how much debt we have.

I just change job to earn as much as possible. I used 6 years to finish my private diploma.

Every job I change is getting tough and challenging. Because of the pay i do. Everyone ard me think I'm money face. I'm totally fine. As I don't like to tell people my problems.

As I believe things will get better one day.

When things really slowly get better, my health give way.
But I still positive. Cause I believe I will be tough enough to go thru. Despite being call by names of money face, this and that I just smile and continue work hard and forge the life I want to be.

There are much more however I don't feel like sharing ha cause I have said far too much.

TS, try resolve things one by one. There a way if there a will.
I feel for you. But u have to be strong. Once this tough period go thru you will be a better person.
Don't give up in your studies!
Can always pm me if you want to (:

Good luck.

[RipenCherry]

Questionable motives and assumptions done by all which TS is the only best person to clarify. Rather than all of us waste our brain juices speculating. TS speak your mind and your intent.

Seriously I also dont know what I want.Do I just need a forum to voice out my stress?Maybe you havent felt lost or helpless before so you cant understand what i am going through.

Never mind i did receive a few pm whereby some ideas and suggestion were given.Sorry to trouble you readers with my postings.

[RipenCherry]

just be more direct. u are not looking for advice here.

1. quote a price for FL
2. quote a price for sugar daddying
3. quote a price for used lingerie
4. quote a price for financial assistance with nothing in return

As to your reply,I really feel very hurt.I will answer to your questions.

1. (If I amlooking to be a fl,I would have posted in the fl section or look for an agent there)
2.(If I am looking for a sugar daddy,I would have posted in the orgy section and cut the crap about my family situation)
3.(Likewise if I wanted to sell my used lingerie,I will start a thread to sell that.It a good idea though by you)
4.(I have already posted in bold that I am not looking for free handouts)

It just a girl who is having some problem and feeling stressed and frustrated hoping to find an avenue to voice out and hopefully have some sound or good alternative advice.

[RipenCherry]

A foreign company paying me 800 per mth but with high OT.

I slog, I do my private dip. Have to support my family and my young siblings.


As I believe things will get better one day.


TS, try resolve things one by one. There a way if there a will.
I feel for you. But u have to be strong. Once this tough period go thru you will be a better person.
Don't give up in your studies!
Can always pm me if you want to (:

Good luck.
Thanks for the story write up and for your motivation.Right now I am just abit lost and stressed out from all the family issues.I will definitely strived to overcome it.Just that I was overcome with frustration and stress yesterday so decided to write out as a way to release my stress.

Anyway I feel better now so I will consider some of my options.

[shiokpleasure]

So how much per shot?

[1202242]

R-e-s-p-e-c-t

[Fairgame]

She is still under moderation so her postings will be delayed.Just give her chance to say her story.Let not jump the gun.

[owl888]

Indeed a not so innocent gal.

Maybe u need a sugardaddy to tide u thru'. As this a sex forum, I m sure u can find rich guy easily :D

[queeniegal]

Indeed a not so innocent gal.

Maybe u need a sugardaddy to tide u thru'. As this a sex forum, I m sure u can find rich guy easily :D

-.- she shd try overcome in nt walking shortcut IMO tho.. -.-

[devilman]

Queeniegal u r very brave ..

[Rain-Men]

Admire your spirit sis queen....:D....What can't kill us will make us stronger....

[meme]

Queeniegal tough as toughbook. Hope ur health is better now.

[Souledge]

Hi TS,
Maybe you should take a step back and see what could you have done better?
Cause right now.. Everyone in your situation would be flooded by emotion and lose focus.

Maybe based on what you say.. Here are the following options

1) if school fee is a concern.. Had you try scholarship from your private sch.. As I do know some offer scholarship.. I believe from what you wrote .. You seem to be a full time student as of now.. Maybe you could consider converting it to part time studies if that path is feasible. Or take less subject per semester... So that you still hold your place in the school... You pay lesser.. And had more time to get a full time or part time job..

Or speak to your school.. To defer your studies for like a few years? I think that should be able to be arrange .. Though this I would not recommend..

2) getting a job if you ask me... That is confirm ... You had to get a job if you want to help out..

Hope things get better...
Cheers

[Souledge]

Hi queeniegal...
Try to take care of your health..
As health is something you could not get back... In the future... And that's something that could only get worse...

[ch33zy]

Thanks for the encouragement.It really helps to see this kinds words from you.

You are welcome on this.. just want to let you know.. if u need a listening ear, we are available to do that for you.. remember you are not alone in this..

[unsung80]

Please find your local MP. I belive there are many social welfare center able to assit your problem. For sex happiness, this is the right place for sure.

[muscleboi]

she's a part time student. girl, then are you currently already holding a full time job?

[littlepok]

As to your reply,I really feel very hurt.I will answer to your questions.

1. (If I amlooking to be a fl,I would have posted in the fl section or look for an agent there)
2.(If I am looking for a sugar daddy,I would have posted in the orgy section and cut the crap about my family situation)
3.(Likewise if I wanted to sell my used lingerie,I will start a thread to sell that.It a good idea though by you)
4.(I have already posted in bold that I am not looking for free handouts)

It just a girl who is having some problem and feeling stressed and frustrated hoping to find an avenue to voice out and hopefully have some sound or good alternative advice.

hi girl, please note that i am not looking down on u or anything. need not feel hurt. i respect anyone who sacrifice ownself for family well-being. be it being FL, sugar daddy, sell bra etc, we accept it ok? by doing all these, this is not asking for free handout. it is a fair transaction, buyer deliver, seller give what he deem to be acceptable and u accept it as well. no donations or handout involved.

u might be under moderation but u can reply to so many samsters here individually, u might as well say clearly what your problem is. u need to be clear mah instead of teasers here and there since u claim advice is what u need. many experienced people (not talking about sex. is life experience) around here, more than enough good advice for u.

even if in the end u FL yourself, nobody is gotta look down on u here. in fact, with bros giving good FR here, i'm sure u can earn quite abit in shortest time possible.

[RipenCherry]

Hi TS,
Maybe you should take a step back and see what could you have done better?
Cause right now.. Everyone in your situation would be flooded by emotion and lose focus.

Maybe based on what you say.. Here are the following options

1) if school fee is a concern.. Had you try scholarship from your private sch.. As I do know some offer scholarship.. I believe from what you wrote .. You seem to be a full time student as of now.. Maybe you could consider converting it to part time studies if that path is feasible. Or take less subject per semester... So that you still hold your place in the school... You pay lesser.. And had more time to get a full time or part time job..


Cheers

Thanks for the advise.Felt better after voicing out.Did manage to get some suggestions in here so i will explore next what should I do.Thanks once again.

[RipenCherry]

hi girl, please note that i am not looking down on u or anything. need not feel hurt. i respect anyone who sacrifice ownself for family well-being. be it being FL, sugar daddy, sell bra etc, we accept it ok? by doing all these, this is not asking for free handout. it is a fair transaction, buyer deliver, seller give what he deem to be acceptable and u accept it as well. no donations or handout involved.



Thanks and I have been given some options which I will consider and hopefully also keep my dignity in place when I try to overcome my difficulties.

[Stitchboy]

Hi Girl,

I do understand what you mean. U just need a place to vent your frustration and problems...tell us more abt your problems here....hopefully we can give u useful advices...

Hi guys, give the girl a break. She is already facing so much problems...just let her be.....

[zii666]

post some photo, no show face is ok lah. :D

[rushforlust]

provided u some suggestion, hope u can go through in the best method

[bigmannow]

camping here... not so innocent thread also...hmmm

[TehGaDai]

Keen on Getting job? Administrative?

[tommyjanis]

Maybe you could just get a loan from the bank to pay for your studies. Then work part time to fed yourself and help your dad get another job.

Wonder if this helps?

[queeniegal]

Ya can have personal loan

[queeniegal]

Thanks for the story write up and for your motivation.Right now I am just abit lost and stressed out from all the family issues.I will definitely strived to overcome it.Just that I was overcome with frustration and stress yesterday so decided to write out as a way to release my stress.

Anyway I feel better now so I will consider some of my options.

Can understand the stress u facing.
Take then one by one. Jiayou

[queeniegal]

Queeniegal u r very brave ..

I don't have a choice to but a brave act lor... Just because I'm the eldest may e?

[queeniegal]

Admire your spirit sis queen....:D....What can't kill us will make us stronger....

Ya indeed make me stronger. However 太煎熬的路我可以走但是我在坚强的我也希可以拥有温柔的对代。也许我太坚强，他也忘了我要的避风港。。。嗨 ！人生是哪么无奈。。

[queeniegal]

Queeniegal tough as toughbook. Hope ur health is better now.
Thanks! Ya I will be good (:

[Rain-Men]

well....u can still seek temp refuge here...the bros here always lend you their shoulders temporarily till you find the ONE :)

[LoZH]

Allow me to give my humble opinion.

Having spend more than half the time, effort and money to get your diploma/degree, I don see how quitting now would be a better option. If u quit now, ain't it worst than slugging through another year? This final year will be a test of your resolute and determination. Even if u have to wrk part time.

I have friends who juggle studies and work at the same time. I know it is very tiring as I have asked them about it. Their replies were actually the ones that struck me.

" hard an tough, but no choice lor. Just bury my head deep and suck thumb as I move closer to the light at the end of the tunnel."

I reccomend that maybe you can
1) do part time like what some bros have said
2) take up loans from bank ( since its final year I don think it would be that expensive)
3) request for grants. I'm not sure about private institutes. But there are grants out there to help. Or maybe some financial assistant scheme.

Worse comes to worst??

Talk to your friendly neighbourhood MP. Or sell your lingerie... It's about the same.

[Max35w12v]

Again I stress, do not offer me any money even if you are sincere in helping.Do not want to be labelled as a scam here.

I dun care if I am spoiling market here or what. But I am willing to help you out with your studies. Give me your bank account details and I'd wire a token sum to you. No obligations.

Again I stress, I am sincere in helping.Do not want to be labelled as a scam here. Advice on such matters are a dime a dozen online, and this forum is NOT the right one to seek the advice u need (all due respect to all here). I am practical. If someone tells me he is hungry, I'd buy him a meal. If someone tells me he needs some money, I'd give him some. You are in financial trouble, I can't clear your debt. But I can help by contributing to lessen it.[/QUOTE]

[Yardstick]

My Advice is not to quit. I worked my way through my 3.5 years of diploma studies in a local poly.

If you are willing to scarifice some sleep, weekends and time with friends and even family, you should be able to make it though.

For your knowledge, i worked as a part time waiter back then. 5-10 dollars an hour at most, for at least 5 hours a day. I either took the bus or company transport (have to wait till 1am or 2am), which meant i slept less.

For honesty sake, the money I earned went to my studies, hp bills, insurance bills and pocket money. My family was the below average to average income type, not as bad as yours or queeniegal.

Still, I believe that if you have the will to rough it out, you will make it though in the end.

Have faith, RipenCherry. Don't give up what you have worked so hard for.

[RipenCherry]

Thank you all for the kind words and advice.Thanks also for the many pm.I will consider some of the good suggestions given and try to settle my own problem in the right way.

Some suggest that I should look for a part time job but given my time constraint in schooling,sending my mum for check up and treatment plus my night time revision,it is quite tight but I will try to find a solution.

Again I stress please do not offer me any money just to help me out.I wont accept any such offer from you kind soul out there.Thanks again.

[risingeast]

Okay, now let's hear your story..