Not attracted to my fiancee after 5 years

[s(Aint]

After 5 years of dating.. I cant honestly tell myself I'm attracted to her anymore.

She was a model and an ex-flight stewardess.. properly dolled up she turns head everywhere she goes. No doubt she put on a little weight since we've met. But im sure her market rate hasn't fallen too much since.

Compared to many FLs her figure falls short. Maybe I'm too particular..What can I say.. I take care of my body and I wish she would too. Sex wise I'm not getting what I want, maybe chiong too much my expectations have risen. Maybe its the communication.. Im not sure. I cant bring myself to initiate sex with her. And its been like that for a long time.

Emotionally we are attached and we have a great time together. Its the sex that is lacking. And we will probably tie the knot soon..

Now I rather chiong Cat150..even Cat50 or MassageParlours..I squeeze out every free time I have to visit the above, and get a good fuck..

Sigh bros.

What do I do ..:(

[Hardstick15by5]

She's not the one. Don't tie yourself to a death penalty bro.

[piggylin]

If now u already mind all the changes abt her.. After get married it will get worst.. Because if wanna start up a family having kids.. Woman body will sure have changes.. Example.. Like stretch marks, loose belly skin.. Fats.. Bigger hips? If u cannot accept as who she is.. I think I would suggest u broke up with her.. & don't get any gf anymore.. Just visit FL or go outside ONS or even find a Fb... Because u can't accept the imperfect in human body changes...

Another suggestion is u can talk it out to her... tell her to look after herself more.. Sign up a gym package for him.. or go exercise together...

[Hardstick15by5]

If she's truly the one, then no matter how fat she gets, you will always have lust for her. You chiong so much is a clear sign

[topcook1]

Guess the love and feeling has faded away...Perhaps you should tell her honestly.

[s(Aint]

i take your point brothers, but isnt lust and love 2 different things. you can love your wife/gf for who she is and how she looks like... but dont lust for her body? does that make sense?

[Alf1977]

Just tell her u have been visiting FLs, prostitute , paid sex ... Cfm she will initiate the break up with you.. If u long time never do with her, she may be doing with several other guys too...

[GGWL]

Bro most impt is to ask ur heart do u still love her. Does she care about u n have u only in her heart. I personally feel to be a gd wife she must be understanding and able to take care of u and ur family and willing to undergo hardship with u. You can buy sex but not true love. If u reli feel she is the 1 for u. What you can do is to send for her slimming session and get her to learn some tricks to fire up ur hunger for sex with her. Final decision lies wif u

[MrYoung]

Sex and love making is different.

Chionging for the physical pleasure and really getting into the passion of seeking ultimate pleasure for both is kinda different for me.

there must be something that lid your passion for her, find it back and
everything should be fine.

Don't be too hasty about your decision.

[Flagship]

Tell her u kena STD before and currently under aids medication..i sure she knows wat to do..;)

[Joe Fox]

I can't give any advise cos I m in similar situation..

Lai Lai ... jiak kopi

[Hardstick15by5]

If you only LOVE her and feel little lust, she's a wonderful can click so well female buddy friend.


If you have a lot of lust for her and don't really want to commit to her, she's a wonderful sexy figure that attracts you FL or FB.


If you love and lust for her always, then that's true love!

I've yet to find the combination..

[cunnilinguslove]

It might not be her figure or how she looked ... it could be cos of her response during sex. Is she low drive? The reason that you feel better with the other women could be that they are more spontaneous in sex. But overall, do you think she could be a good wife? Having said that, I'm a believer that sex is an important part of marriage. The lack of it could mean disaster unless both are OK with a low sex or sexless marriage.

[Hardstick15by5]

I can't give any advise cos I m in similar situation..

Lai Lai ... jiak kopi
Joe fox, still waiting for your Kathleen Kelly?

[Brainstorm]

Did you love her for her body or did you love her for who she is? Even Miss Universe will age. I think you have unrealistic expectation of a woman's body as she ages. Which lady can remain youthful forever? Even the Cat150 you go for will age. You mean the Cat150 you chose 5 years ago still look as good today?

5 years is a long time. Don't waste her youth. How old is she now? Close to 30? Mai Hiam so much. Weight can be lost. How do you regain 5 years of both yours and her youth? You know how many guys will want to be in your shoes and have an ex-model/air stewardess for a partner?

[piggylin]

Did you love her for her body or did you love her for who she is? Even Miss Universe will age. I think you have unrealistic expectation of a woman's body as she ages. Which lady can remain youthful forever? Even the Cat150 you go for will age. You mean the Cat150 you chose 5 years ago still look as good today?

5 years is a long time. Don't waste her youth. How old is she now? Close to 30? Mai Hiam so much. Weight can be lost. How do you regain 5 years of both yours and her youth? You know how many guys will want to be in your shoes and have an ex-model/air stewardess for a partner?

Well said...

[valkyrierune]

have a nice talk with her... a lot of couples have a big problem which is communication... in a peaceful way....

I had to agree love making is part and parcel to maintain a marriage r/s


I have been there and done that and now divorced...

even married both parties have the right to take care of their own health and body so they will still attract to each other besides other things you attracted to.

males or females this issue will arise when things are not well taken care of...

a lot of ppl believe marriage is the end... but marriage is just the beginning... and you should try your best to remain the dating attitude even when you are married with each other... if not things might go bad

my 2 cents...

[onegoal]

Bazi not suitable ??
Seek advice or advise from a experienced fortune teller.

[wally888]

Bro TS u have to accept change is a constant, I believe u have changed more than your fiancee. Maybe suggest not to marry now postpone until u have stabilize yourself coz now your lust have superceded your love and blinded your decision making....(rather into love making :D :D )

[Nightclub]

Come on, 5 years! Im sure you've had your fair share of good times with her be it sexual or otherwise. Sex is all about chemistry, ever think that the missing component may be on your end? :D

[paulfrank]

Lets just assume one day you break up with your current gf....and eventually you hook up a hot hot lady and 5 years down the road again her figure and looks starts to look unappealing again. And what you gonna do? Break with her again and look for another hot hot lady? A serious relationship is not built solely on looks and lust. These are just extra boosts in a r/s, if you have them or had them before u r lucky. But they dont last forever and they should not be the only reasons u look for in a life long partner. I think a person's 人格 is most important and whether is there a special bond between the two of u. :)

[JacqueMerlin]

After 5 years of dating.. I cant honestly tell myself I'm attracted to her anymore.

She was a model and an ex-flight stewardess.. properly dolled up she turns head everywhere she goes. No doubt she put on a little weight since we've met. But im sure her market rate hasn't fallen too much since.

Compared to many FLs her figure falls short. Maybe I'm too particular..What can I say.. I take care of my body and I wish she would too. Sex wise I'm not getting what I want, maybe chiong too much my expectations have risen. Maybe its the communication.. Im not sure. I cant bring myself to initiate sex with her. And its been like that for a long time.

Emotionally we are attached and we have a great time together. Its the sex that is lacking. And we will probably tie the knot soon..

Now I rather chiong Cat150..even Cat50 or MassageParlours..I squeeze out every free time I have to visit the above, and get a good fuck..

Sigh bros.

What do I do ..:( Do not marry for the women's charter will kill you in time to come. Some women are vindicative and some are even to the extend of being manipulative. And women change their strategies at caprice. Your life can be ruined. Think about those who love you like your parents and siblings, those whose love will never be replaced. End this right now if you cherish your future and your family's well being.

[sleepygordon]

TS......

If physical attraction is the only thing that matters to you, then one woman will never satisfy you.

I am not saying it cannot be the most important thing, but there has to be the non physical aspects in a relationship that will tie you to one woman. Emotionally and mentally does she stimulate you? Do you share laughter together? Do you enjoy doing things with her (other than sex of cuz).Is she emotionally a support or a drain?

Getting married wont makes things better. In fact, it will make things worse. You will be tied down to her and seeing how things go, the options dont look too good. So dun be hasty to be tied down. You have major issues that you need to fix first.

I have been there, paying the price now. I am taking the steps to undo the damage but wish I didnt make the mistake then.

[Userlim]

V day is tmr, maybe you can try to spice things up by getting her in the mood.
Relive the days when you just met her; this usually touch the girl and bring out the animal in bed :P

[swiftforce]

I think it happens to most guys be it long time Gf or wife. Regardless of what do you outside (safely of coz), Ultimate you must know how to "回家＂coz you only have one home