The Struggle within Love & Lust..

[Rub&Buah]

Hi to all bro,seniors thanks for your precious time to take a click at my post.

I have been reading this forum for abt a year before i finally join as a member recently.This is my 1st post,trully appreciated for reading.

i used to be a frequent cheonger to jb,geylang & health center.it began as early as my teenage time from 15 16yrs old.(i was already quite mature looking at that time thats y i manage to pass off).Esp during my ns time,hc became a new hunting ground to me..I continue patronising hc & geylang after my ord till about 1 & half year ago.I stop all action..(y?)The 1st & only woman in my life that manage to make me stay faithful on my own all this while..even till nw today.i guess,this is wat they call the power of love.(i had a few serious gf when im still a cheonger,of cos they didnt know i patronise those place)

our love relationship is quite a happy & romantic one,sex life's active & passionate too.She's my dream woman whos street smart,clever & well educated background(which im not)whom i already started to plan for marriage..Shes the 1st that change my life for a better perspect,motivation in work,self discepline & a healtier life style..no more clubbing,nitelife,more health conscious i even became a light smoker for her sake..she like a angel to me.our love for us is seriously deep.She even know abt my past cheonging history which i told her myself(am i a gong cb?it was abt the 1st 3 mths we just been together)i just luv her deeply & do not wish to be a pretender in front of her..of cos that hurt her deeply,but she still stay by me & says that every man have his wrong doing & past history,as long as i'll stay true to her in future,which i promise her,& to my heart..all this look so perfect isnt it?

However,as days goes by,i still feel the urge of visting hc,or tn(which i didnt get to know in the past)Still have fantasy of sex with other woman..feel like finding ons(which i haven really experience before)I know all this is what it call,LUST..i didnt do it though..Cos i just dun wan my Lust Come over Love..No matter how strong the urge its i just try to control myself,the most i will just surf porn & read up tis forum & imagine the time i had in the past & pcc off aft all this..At least aft tis i still manage to remind myself im gona stay true & faithful to my current gal..& im relieved..But i know,deep down inside i still hv much craving for other woman which im just trying to suppress it all tis while..On the other hand i feel that i should not be like tis if not i will fall back to the past..The struggle is sometime hard indeed..Duno how long will i be able to endure & supress myself esp like my urge is getting stronger now adays..Thats y i put up a posting to C whether any bro share the same struggle & doubts or experience like me..

Meanwhile i will still try to stay true for as long as i can..with the power of love..Thanks for reading frds,feel free to express ur thoughts!Hv a nice day & happy cheonging!!*_^

[machoman]

QUOTE From Post #1 by Rub&Buah

"Meanwhile i will still try to stay true for as long as i can..with the power of love..Thanks for reading frds,feel free to express ur thoughts!Hv a nice day & happy cheonging!!*_^"

It is definately a great struggle to remain faithful to your own gf/ wifey as you so rightly pointed out cos of LUST.

The raging hormones in man makes us horny and we are easily tempted to seek sexual experiences with ONS or with the WLs in HCs, TNs and brothels.

I believe that the constant exposure to the images of sexily clad women in the media also contributes to this problem.

How to control or suppress this strong sexual urge?
IMHO, religion plays an important role in this area.

[t123]

Well, no matter how I stay faithful to a girl I discover that sometimes the dickhead does the talking. I neber go GL until my breakup last year for the 1st time. In the end I kanna hooked becos I have sexual drive. Last month I tried to abstain again becos I found the love of life again but I still go back to my tirak and now after my tirak has gone back home, I look for other in her the same house. So at the end of the day, I will for moderate fuck meaning I will try and curb my urge and slow down and also focus on other aspects of life.

[MoonBlaze]

The struggle is sometime hard indeed..Duno how long will i be able to endure & supress myself esp like my urge is getting stronger now adays......Meanwhile i will still try to stay true for as long as i can..with the power of love..Thanks for reading frds,feel free to express ur thoughts!Hv a nice day & happy cheonging!!*_^I guess you are not alone. However, i would strongly suggest to you to abstrain from reading SBF as well....with so much FR...it will erode your perserverance. ;)

[mirage]

I guess you are not alone. However, i would strongly suggest to you to abstrain from reading SBF as well....with so much FR...it will erode your perserverance. ;)


Agree with you bro. You come here, read about he FR, very difficult to control your dickhead liao..... seems like he has mind of his own after reading all the FRs.... esepcially those good ones

[silk_magic]

Love and Lust. One is controlled by the heart, while the other is by the mind. I believe lust can be controlled as long as your hormone is release regularly. If you really love your gf and you know that she will mind that you patronise GL, then you will have to weigh the consequences as to whether is she worth it.

[MMM88]

Yo Bro Rub&Buah.....good n happy for u tat u make tis committment to stay FOCUS ...I had made similiar countless committments as u ..but sad to say ...the THE WILL IS STRONG BUT THE BODY IS WEAK....I sincerely hope u can achieve wat u set out for ......HAPPY BONKING...Opps ....CHEERS :p

[cumminology]

My thoughts on this is that we men are programmed in our genes to spread our seeds. Thus the lust and the sex drive that comes into play. The only thing that stops us from doing the things we want to do is our sensibility. However like the bros said, we can't help it sometimes. I figured we are meant to be polygamy rather than monogamy. It's just society behaviour which is preventing us from taking more than one female spouse, which is deemed highly unacceptable except in some religion.

[Bronco]

You got veli good will power but hor hero always cannot escape beauty wan, if u beh tahan liao want to steal eat...make sure u know when to stop n wipe ur mouth clean lor!!!... Tis is my 2 sen tots...:)

"have u ever heard b4 leopard can change the spots meh?"

[sex-no-enough]

bro, i think most men hv dis problem too. u go GL, HC, KTV, TN, mostly men are married or hv GF. even for myself, whenever i'm hv GF, i'm also will want to find other gal to screw. cut long story short, sometimes man just cannot help it, sure want to bonk more chicks, even if u got GF or no GF

[JIKED D]

"the best way to fight temptation is to yield to it " :D

hehehe some quote that i heard before ... quite true : ) at least to me :D

[airbrush]

QUOTE
How to control or suppress this strong sexual urge?
IMHO, religion plays an important role in this area.

the reason is that sex is not enough and money is also not enough...if money is enough then it is easy have sex everyday and guarantee you will suppress this strong sexual urge..after a period of time...

[Optimus_Prime]

However,as days goes by,i still feel the urge of visting hc,or tn(which i didnt get to know in the past)Still have fantasy of sex with other woman..feel like finding ons(which i haven really experience before)I know all this is what it call,LUST..i didnt do it though..Cos i just dun wan my Lust Come over Love..No matter how strong the urge its i just try to control myself,the most i will just surf porn & read up tis forum & imagine the time i had in the past & pcc off aft all this..At least aft tis i still manage to remind myself im gona stay true & faithful to my current gal..& im relieved..But i know,deep down inside i still hv much craving for other woman which im just trying to suppress it all tis while..On the other hand i feel that i should not be like tis if not i will fall back to the past..The struggle is sometime hard indeed..Duno how long will i be able to endure & supress myself esp like my urge is getting stronger now adays..Thats y i put up a posting to C whether any bro share the same struggle & doubts or experience like me..

Meanwhile i will still try to stay true for as long as i can..with the power of love..Thanks for reading frds,feel free to express ur thoughts!Hv a nice day & happy cheonging!!*_^

Bro,

You want to stop completely then the following method is BEST... but it's the COLD TURKEY type... so must have willpower.

1. Do not visit Sammyboy forum EVER again!! This is the strongest temptation u can find... just think abt it...here is where all the cheongsters gather and share info on who is a Good Fuck and some of the FRs are just too tempting man...... so u want to stay faithful, STOP reading SBF PERIOD !!

2. Avoid Geylang (most FLs and Legal WLs), Middle Rd (most HCs), Beach Rd (Most TNs)... heck avoid all the "Danger Zones" like plague....

3. Do not see anymore PORN.... throw all ur porn away in fact... and dun surf porn either... It's no subsitute esp when u have tried the REAL thing... it will just remind u of all the fun u could be having...

4. Do not PPC... if really want, do it wif ur GF. And make LOVE not have sex... there is a difference...

5. Find a hobby..sports...anything that can work off the sex urge... seriously if there is no urge u won't stray... prefer a sports that can really work ur body to exhaustion... maybe gym or tennis?

6. Tied up all ur spare cash into savings..fixed deposit... bonds etc... as they say.. got urge but no $$... then lang lang lor...heheh :D

Well hope the above can help... but after that pls dun come back to surf SBF anymore.....

[Optimus_Prime]

"the best way to fight temptation is to yield to it " :D

hehehe some quote that i heard before ... quite true : ) at least to me :D

"Fuck until you become SIANz" method... haha... a good one..


Tried this one I have.

Enjoyable Method this was.

Very Broke I am now.

[LED...]

Bro, you should really feel proud of wht you have attain so far...........so no reason to put your precious effort to waste.............Keep it up

Another great remedy of coping your lust, is to put yourself in your wife shoe.........think about how you feel when she did the things you lust to do...........and since you love her so much, i guess you wont want to hurt her as much rite..............weigh the consequence with the risk you are takin from jeopardising your relationship..........

Last but not least, its not a easy task...........thats why im still here in SBF....... :D

[Rub&Buah]

Really thankful to all the bro who share their views,advice,helps..i truly appreciate it..

although the devil in me is trying to break thru constanly,i believe my love angel will hv the ability to subside it..Love is the greatest power overall..i will keep my faith go on..

To all the bro who is share the same struggle as me,hope u will succeed someday even if u hv failed before or now..as long as theres faith,there will be hope.Cheers!