Fellow sis: ur reaction if ur fb is on this forum.....

[kittymae]

Sorry, typo on the above, should be bf...stupid autocorrect

And he is chatting with other females, sometimes in a playful manner almost like flirting or actually flirting around, and met with other samstresses without ur knowledge?

Do share. Thanks

[TempLust]

Welcome back. Hope things are well with yah.

Your typo actually is quite fitting to ur topic. FB a bit LL, BF then a little pissed lah. Especially if you found ur BF here. How would you know he is not looking for another GF here to dump you for right ?

The caveat though is, he found you the same way so you know his pattern liao. So...why you complaining now ?

[crood]

U must be really kidding if u find a bf from here :D

[Putin]

U must be really kidding if u find a bf from here :D

There are some good guys here as well, not all are bad ;)

[crood]

There are some good guys here as well, not all are bad ;)

There definitely are but good as friends only, definitely not for serious r/s. Too many baggage of the past and sad to say, trust will be an issue.

Even if is serious initially but doubt will always be there just like TS case.

Gals, if u know he always go for FL, fbs and casual sex, even he say he will change for u, can u trust his words 100%?

[prettymannequin]

I'm guessing TS knew her boyf from outside, but realised he frequents SBF.

Have a good talk with him about it. Is what he's doing here acceptable to you? If not, let him know what your concerns are.

He's also probably concerned that you're here and getting hit on...

[PPGirl]

There are some good guys here as well, not all are bad ;)

agreed. known my bf from here too n we are celebrating 1st year anniversary ;)
TS..then u got to be careful .. that is sign of betraying
But how u find out he is chatting or flirting with other samstress ?
Anyway ur topic is want to know everyone reaction or do u prefer to know what u should do? ;)

[crood]

Fellow sis: ur reaction... 17-11-2013 11:17 AM Disagree

IMO only, u do not have to agree with me. He might genuinely likes u and seriously want to be with u but at the time being.....

But on the other hand, how long can the passion and the honeymoon period last...... ?? 3 months, 1 year? 3 years? Ask yourself, where will the r/s be heading towards to?

[wittyguy]

agreed. known my bf from here too n we are celebrating 1st year anniversary ;)
TS..then u got to be careful .. that is sign of betraying
But how u find out he is chatting or flirting with other samstress ?

Good lucky baby, when will both of you plan to ROM and leave here? :D

[tuakeeteo]

Sorry, typo on the above, should be bf...stupid autocorrect

And he is chatting with other females, sometimes in a playful manner almost like flirting or actually flirting around, and met with other samstresses without ur knowledge?

Do share. Thanks

Pardon me sis.... Isn't u in this forum now?

[purepulp]

Generalizing that everyone in here is a sex pervert is as good as saying anyone with a mustache is your father.

There are many reasons why people come in here. Yes some come in to flirt, some come in to 'understand' the commercial sex scene, maybe some come in here because this is a place you can openly talk about sex without the stigma of being judged?

How many of you can honestly say that you can openly talk to your real life friends about sex, fetishes or problems?

And I though this place is meant for adults...

[crood]

If the r/s is not heading to somewhere in years to come, just take things with an open heart, u feel happier this way.

[BMW69]

There definitely are but good as friends only, definitely not for serious r/s. Too many baggage of the past and sad to say, trust will be an issue.

Even if is serious initially but doubt will always be there just like TS case.

Gals, if u know he always go for FL, fbs and casual sex, even he say he will change for u, can u trust his words 100%?

You're completely wrong you know.

1. Just because a guy is on this forum doesn't mean that he looks for fl or casual sex. Some people are here just to read and look at the picture exchange thread. Flirting doesn't mean casual sex.

2. Why won't the guy always be there for TS just because he's in this forum? Can't you be in this forum and stay faithful to your gf? If you can't, shame on you. Again, flirting doesn't mean he'll stray.

3. What if he's in the forum but has rarely posted anything in the past? What past baggage are you taking about. Maybe he's flirting in the chatroom

If you're here to start a fight, I suggest you scram

[cpcpcp91]

think its more a question of "what can/will you do?"

either problems he's keeping to himself or he simply cannot be satisfied

but im not an r/s expert don't take me too srs lol

[tcrecruit]

We're all adults here... Even if he is not on Sbf, he can be on millions other forums or apps doing same thing.. The real question is if u love him enough to trust him... Cheers

[crood]

You're completely wrong you know.

1. Just because a guy is on this forum doesn't mean that he looks for fl or casual sex. Some people are here just to read and look at the picture exchange thread. Flirting doesn't mean casual sex.

2. Why won't the guy always be there for TS just because he's in this forum? Can't you be in this forum and stay faithful to your gf? If you can't, shame on you. Again, flirting doesn't mean he'll stray.

3. What if he's in the forum but has rarely posted anything in the past? What past baggage are you taking about. Maybe he's flirting in the chatroom

If you're here to start a fight, I suggest you scram

Well, this is a open forum isnt it? ;) Everyone is entitled to their views and well, everyone is entitled to their zap, just zap openly then :)

First, please read what I wrote carefully, I never say all guys here are bad and definitely will stray. If no past, no baggage so be it. Basically i am addressing the TRUST issue!!

What i am referring to is the trust issue about knowing the other half here especially knowing about the history and the past and I am asking the gals to ask themselves, can they TRUST their bf?? Probe them to think long term and where their relationship is heading to. If the r/s is heading to nowhere, just take things easy. Enjoy the r/s then and don't think too much, if it end, let it end then.

OMG :eek: ....... are u her bf?? if yes, I will scram :p

[justanothergirl]

Generalizing that everyone in here is a sex pervert is as good as saying anyone with a mustache is your father.

There are many reasons why people come in here. Yes some come in to flirt, some come in to 'understand' the commercial sex scene, maybe some come in here because this is a place you can openly talk about sex without the stigma of being judged?

How many of you can honestly say that you can openly talk to your real life friends about sex, fetishes or problems?

And I though this place is meant for adults...

I agree with you pure pulp! I'm in this forum but just sharing experiences that I can't seem to talk about with anyone else. It's also interesting to read the threads here.

To TS, I wouldn't mind if my bf was surfing around on forums like SBF cause I'm doing the same thing BUT if he's flirting around and meeting ladies behind your back, I'd be quite concerned. Have a good talk. Ask him the reasons behind his actions etc, see if both of you are heading in the same direction.

Good luck TS! :)

[crood]

I agree with you pure pulp! I'm in this forum but just sharing experiences that I can't seem to talk about with anyone else. It's also interesting to read the threads here.

To TS, I wouldn't mind if my bf was surfing around on forums like SBF cause I'm doing the same thing BUT if he's flirting around and meeting ladies behind your back, I'd be quite concerned. Have a good talk. Ask him the reasons behind his actions etc, see if both of you are heading in the same direction.

Good luck TS! :)

Basically it's all about trust, let's say ur other half is a old time samster know countless samstresses and probably has hundreds of samstress contact in his phonelist, some might be old flings while some are probably open and rather suggestive, how much can u trust him?

Even if he really did nothing, will u let this doubt be a hinder to the relationship?

Btw if there's trust, these shouldn't be a concern.

[justanothergirl]

Basically it's all about trust, let's say ur other half is a old time samster know countless samstresses and probably has hundreds of samstress contact in his phonelist, some might be old flings while some are probably open and rather suggestive, how much can u trust him?

Even if he really did nothing, will u let this doubt be a hinder to the relationship?

Btw if there's trust, these shouldn't be a concern.

I'm just referring to the bf meeting ladies behind her back. If it's nothing then why the need to hide? :confused:

And yes, I agree it all boils down to trust. I myself wouldn't mind too much about my partner's past because that's all there is to it; past. Unless he has done something to hinder the trust while we're together, I don't see why I shouldn't trust him. :)

[justl00king]

Btw if there's trust, these shouldn't be a concern.Agreed..hmmn...wonder if I should also try to search for a gf from here? :confused::p;)

[hardpoke]

I'm just referring to the bf meeting ladies behind her back. If it's nothing then why the need to hide? :confused:

And yes, I agree it all boils down to trust. I myself wouldn't mind too much about my partner's past because that's all there is to it; past. Unless he has done something to hinder the trust while we're together, I don't see why I shouldn't trust him. :)
very subjective.. i've seen my fair shares of failed relationships because of trusts.. be it trust too much, or no trusts at all.. i think it boils down to the character of the two couples.. trust too much, got betrayed.. gave trust, but got misunderstood as not concerned.. don't trust, means no confidence.. a little don't trust, means petty..

[hardpoke]

Agreed..hmmn...wonder if I should also try to search for a gf from here? :confused::p;)
depends on your character.. if you are those who play your game and let her play her own game too, then i think it won't be a problem.. but if you play and don't let her play, problems will come..

i ever told a biz friend to close one eye when it comes to men playing outside.. end of the day, so long as he comes home to you, just let water flow.. to find a man who can resist fooling around is very difficult.. but to find a man who knows when to draw a line and prioritise his own family, i think it is most important.. ultimately, don't find a man who puts too much feelings into outside relationship, turning your family upside down inside out..

[crood]

And yes, I agree it all boils down to trust. I myself wouldn't mind too much about my partner's past because that's all there is to it; past. Unless he has done something to hinder the trust while we're together, I don't see why I shouldn't trust him.

Yup, no trust then better not find a bf from here.

Agreed..hmmn...wonder if I should also try to search for a gf from here? :confused::p;)

hehe what type u looking for? support :D

[kittymae]

This was meant to be a hypothetical question. Otherwise, this thread would be in the "matters of the heart" section or something. Didn't expect people to misconstrue it as I'm ranting or seeking advice.

Just wanted fellow samstresses input from their PoV, after all they have to be open minded to some sort of degree to be on this forum. And fellow bros can also find out from the female pov too. Sharing is caring no?

Plus, if anyone is in a similar situation, might give some insight.

So for anyone who questioned Why I'm "playing hypocrite" (to put it bluntly), hope this sets the story right. I've seen enough of others getting shot down on such questions to do the same.

And a big thanks out For those who have given their valuable comments

[kittymae]

Welcome back. Hope things are well with yah.

Your typo actually is quite fitting to ur topic. FB a bit LL, BF then a little pissed lah. Especially if you found ur BF here. How would you know he is not looking for another GF here to dump you for right ?

The caveat though is, he found you the same way so you know his pattern liao. So...why you complaining now ?

Thanks yea.
Well, it's really a discussion topic, not personal, so no, I'm not complaining. Just wondering how fellow samstresses would cope. Thought it can shed light for bros as well if they were the guy in question

I'm guessing TS knew her boyf from outside, but realised he frequents SBF.

Have a good talk with him about it. Is what he's doing here acceptable to you? If not, let him know what your concerns are.

He's also probably concerned that you're here and getting hit on...

Hmm, that's true. Given ratio of males to females, it's a valid concern..how should the gal reassure the guy then? Other than just trust alone..hmm..more for thought...

agreed. known my bf from here too n we are celebrating 1st year anniversary ;)
TS..then u got to be careful .. that is sign of betraying
But how u find out he is chatting or flirting with other samstress ?
Anyway ur topic is want to know everyone reaction or do u prefer to know what u should do? ;)

Wow! Congrats PPGirl! Wishing you both a happy anniversary and many more ahead!.
I supposing in chat rooms and some bros&sis are closer and even personal friends so might hear things? Especially if on a thread or chat room
But yeah, it's more of what should be done. Thanks for bringing that up to clarify

[kittymae]

think its more a question of "what can/will you do?"

either problems he's keeping to himself or he simply cannot be satisfied

but im not an r/s expert don't take me too srs lol

Yes! That's what I wanted to ask actually. Thanks!


I agree with you pure pulp! I'm in this forum but just sharing experiences that I can't seem to talk about with anyone else. It's also interesting to read the threads here.

To TS, I wouldn't mind if my bf was surfing around on forums like SBF cause I'm doing the same thing BUT if he's flirting around and meeting ladies behind your back, I'd be quite concerned. Have a good talk. Ask him the reasons behind his actions etc, see if both of you are heading in the same direction.

Good luck TS! :)

Thanks sis, good point. Although this is hypothetical, but yeah,There shouldn't be double standards like one party can, the other can't. But how would u broach the subject to him? Assuming u didn't know ur bf from here,and find out later he also frequents Sbf?

[kittymae]

Basically it's all about trust, let's say ur other half is a old time samster know countless samstresses and probably has hundreds of samstress contact in his phonelist, some might be old flings while some are probably open and rather suggestive, how much can u trust him?

Even if he really did nothing, will u let this doubt be a hinder to the relationship?

Btw if there's trust, these shouldn't be a concern.

Hmm, true. I suppose it's a warning to anyone who finds a bf/gf here to keep an open mind and trust if they really wanna be in a relationship together.
Might be the girl with a long list of bros contacts instead. Who knows.
Best to be upfront about it? After all being a forumer here, he/she should know about what goes on offline?
If can't trust and be open about it, then not worth it I suppose.


Agreed..hmmn...wonder if I should also try to search for a gf from here? :confused::p;)

Lol. Well if u are/decide to, then wishing u a happy ending! :)

[EnigmaofSorrow]

Without reading the amendment I was wondering where else your FB would be if not here.

Flirting online is harmless I guess. But if he met others without telling you, especially if its one-to-one meetups with samstresses, perhaps you would have cause for concern? Group meetups should be fine no?

Then again, I doubt many samstresses would actually meet a samster alone, unless it's specifically for one reason.

[crood]

Hmm, true. I suppose it's a warning to anyone who finds a bf/gf here to keep an open mind and trust if they really wanna be in a relationship together.
Might be the girl with a long list of bros contacts instead. Who knows.
Best to be upfront about it? After all being a forumer here, he/she should know about what goes on offline?
If can't trust and be open about it, then not worth it I suppose.


Lol. Well if u are/decide to, then wishing u a happy ending! :)

Yes sis, this is what i say want to say, u will never know what goes behind in the private life as well.

No trust better dont get too serious... a relationship wont last long without trust. If u really love him, trust him.

[Iluminati]

If the r/s is not heading to somewhere in years to come, just take things with an open heart, u feel happier this way.

Wah Crood, your points just sky-rocketed overnight! :D :p

[crood]

Wah Crood, your points just sky-rocketed overnight! :D :p

Really met a kind soul :):D, really must must must thank him.

[ColdBlood99]

Trust is the key word.

[justl00king]

i ever told a biz friend to close one eye when it comes to men playing outside.. end of the day, so long as he comes home to you, just let water flow...Bro, dun think got any gal will tolerate her love one fooling around outside. If have..must treasure as this type really rare breed. ;)

hehe what type u looking for? support Haha bro, I am very easy going so my criteria for gf also quite simple.

As long as looks like a movie star and bonks like a pornstar can already.:eek: if got.. intro hor :p

Lol. Well if u are/decide to, then wishing u a happy ending! haha thanks!

Wish u find happiness in whatever u r seeking too! :)

[crood]

Haha bro, I am very easy going so my criteria for gf also quite simple.

As long as looks like a movie star and bonks like a pornstar can already.:eek: if got.. intro hor :p

haha thanks!

Wish u find happiness in whatever u r seeking too! :)

Waa :eek: really good luck to u then....

[Iluminati]

There shouldn't be double standards like one party can, the other can't. But how would u broach the subject to him? Assuming u didn't know ur bf from here,and find out later he also frequents Sbf?

Hmm... if he is here to merely TCSS, harmless flirting, looks at pics or to read on some thread or stories, then I think it is harmless and fine.
But if he is here and wrote FR on those FL Dome thread, then it is certainly a cause of concern.
Like many of us here who have become SBF members, SBF has become an accessory of our life where we surf SBF almost everyday.

*I suddenly got recalled of a thread created by a female samtress who paid premium membership and create a thread about finding out her fiance frequents SBF*

[crood]

Haha bro, I am very easy going so my criteria for gf also quite simple.

As long as looks like a movie star and bonks like a pornstar can already.:eek: if got.. intro hor :p

haha thanks!

Wish u find happiness in whatever u r seeking too! :)

Waa :eek: really good luck to u then....hehe

[crood]

*I suddenly got recalled of a thread created by a female samtress who paid premium membership and create a thread about finding out her fiance frequents SBF*

how come get premium membership to create a thread :confused:

[Iluminati]

how come get premium membership to create a thread :confused:

If I recall correctly, yes she paid to be premium member so that the thread she created immediately appear. Can't find it back, but I remembered got a lot of replies until a few pages long :D

[crood]

If I recall correctly, yes she paid to be premium member so that the thread she created immediately appear. Can't find it back, but I remembered got a lot of replies until a few pages long :D

Really serious about it :eek:

[hardpoke]

Bro, dun think got any gal will tolerate her love one fooling around outside. If have..must treasure as this type really rare breed.

there sure are and there are a lot, but whether can find or not is another problem.. or whether are they "programmed" to accept it, that i not sure lar.. :p

in my line of work, we have to entertain.. be it in SG or overseas, alcohol and girls are part and parcel of our night life.. for my case, still not so regular.. there are people who entertains as frequently as 5 nights a week.. :eek: those that i know are mostly married or attached, so i always ask them how their partners take it.. some say their partners dunno :rolleyes:, some say their partners know but limit them to a certain extent of playing.. end of the day, i think the bottom line is not to have another relationship outside.. so long as you go back home and practise safe sex outside, that is good enough.. the best of course is don't stray lar.. but 10 men, how many really can? ;)

[cuntcum]

Trust is the key word.

also a most difficulty word, especially in sbf :D

[curiouslala]

wahhh.. my fave kitty made a thread sia.. let lala help abit la..
to me, chatting and flirting in ONLINE world is okay. whether he did it here or any other chat platform, i'm fine with it. maybe that's because flirt chat or even sex chat is my hobby and sometimes i did it automatically. without having any feelings to the guy or even imagine him for someone else who're too busy or not interested in spending time chatting with me, flirt or sex kind.
but, if he make a plan and meet her without me knowing (or i know it later from the third or fourth person), then i have the right to ask him (as i'm his gf ma).
to me, as long as i feel like i can trust him, then i'll continue the relationship. if i don't trust enough and keep feeling suspicious, then i'll end the relationship, as it'll really suck the goodness out of me and make me overstressed and tired.

[justl00king]

Waa..really good luck to u then....heheHahaha..found 2..but not meant to be :( good memories though.

Sigh...my search continues... :p

the best of course is don't stray lar.. but 10 men, how many really can? Haha..I feel u bro.

We are visual creatures..beauty definitely attracts. ;) Doesn't help that I like variety too! :p

[hardpoke]

We are visual creatures..beauty definitely attracts. ;) Doesn't help that I like variety too! :p

ya lar.. plus the KC skills.. they go "可以吗?" with a innocent looking face, eyes blink blink abit, tits at your eye level.. knn, everything also 可以 lar.. :D

[justl00king]

ya lar.. plus the KC skills.. they go "可以吗?" with a innocent looking face, eyes blink blink abit, tits at your eye level.. knn, everything also 可以 lar.. :DHahaha bro...I like the way u describe.

Syt put half ball, sit close close...use neh neh rub rub a bit..gone liao. :p lol :D

[crood]

Hahaha..found 2..but not meant to be :( good memories though.

Sigh...my search continues...
Haha..I feel u bro.

We are visual creatures..beauty definitely attracts. ;) Doesn't help that I like variety too! :p

Bro sure very handsome, at least got 2 here, samstresses as in not working ladies? .. I know none ... :D

[hardpoke]

Hahaha bro...I like the way u describe.

Syt put half ball, sit close close...use neh neh rub rub a bit..gone liao. :p lol
it comes with experience.. ;) everytime before i go to a ktv session, i told myself i have a budget, anything else must say NO.. never once i could do it..

i even tried bringing just enough RMB to deter myself.. end up i gave my SGD too.. :D men will always be men.. :o

[Johnbass]

agreed. known my bf from here too n we are celebrating 1st year anniversary ;)
TS..then u got to be careful .. that is sign of betraying
But how u find out he is chatting or flirting with other samstress ?
Anyway ur topic is want to know everyone reaction or do u prefer to know what u should do? ;)

Orhhhh... U attached one.... No wonder.
Paiseh paiseh.
Say sorry to your bf hor.
:D

[PPGirl]

Orhhhh... U attached one.... No wonder.
Paiseh paiseh.
Say sorry to your bf hor.
:D

say sorry for?? dun off topic

[Johnbass]

say sorry for?? dun off topic

Sorry for hihi to u in mainchat lah.
Wah Lao... 越描越黑... *Faint*

[PPGirl]

Sorry for hihi to u in mainchat lah.
Wah Lao... 越描越黑... *Faint*

hihi is ok as long dun gone too overboard

[justl00king]

Bro sure very handsome, at least got 2 here, samstresses as in not working ladies? .. I know none ...Haha bro, me just a normal dude.

Yours maybe coming soon?.. get ready and buckle up seat belt for the ride! :D


i even tried bringing just enough RMB to deter myself.. end up i gave my SGD too.. :D men will always be men.. :oHaha bro..as long as get laid and make u feel shiok all over...money well spent! ;)

[acidicavex]

Everything boil down to individual and their pov some extreme case will even deem the bf or hubby of betrayal when he masturbate to porn etc.
Flirting can be just for fun but will the bf be able to resist when the game is taken up a notch by the other gal or samstress or etc.
If he can't resist and decided to cross the line than everything will soon be haywire.
Every action have a chain reaction it will impact the next event of out life.
There is no saint for both sexes it is only a self restrain from the temptation of lust. But once the inner demon is release hmmm majority have a hard time suppressing it back.

[kittymae]

Hmm... if he is here to merely TCSS, harmless flirting, looks at pics or to read on some thread or stories, then I think it is harmless and fine.
But if he is here and wrote FR on those FL Dome thread, then it is certainly a cause of concern.
Like many of us here who have become SBF members, SBF has become an accessory of our life where we surf SBF almost everyday.

*I suddenly got recalled of a thread created by a female samtress who paid premium membership and create a thread about finding out her fiance frequents SBF*

Really?? Wah...drama...:eek:

wahhh.. my fave kitty made a thread sia.. let lala help abit la..
to me, chatting and flirting in ONLINE world is okay. whether he did it here or any other chat platform, i'm fine with it. maybe that's because flirt chat or even sex chat is my hobby and sometimes i did it automatically. without having any feelings to the guy or even imagine him for someone else who're too busy or not interested in spending time chatting with me, flirt or sex kind.
but, if he make a plan and meet her without me knowing (or i know it later from the third or fourth person), then i have the right to ask him (as i'm his gf ma).
to me, as long as i feel like i can trust him, then i'll continue the relationship. if i don't trust enough and keep feeling suspicious, then i'll end the relationship, as it'll really suck the goodness out of me and make me overstressed and tired.

Heehee, I'm a favourite kitty!!:p lubb lubb u sis~

Thanks both bro and sis for all for your input...
I do know of one or two girls who immediately "condemn" guys for just being on the page and the relationship go down hill..

But after reading the various comments, it seems that samstresses are more open / willing to give their guy the so-called trust/benefit of doubt (depending which side of fence u are on) if he is a fellow samster.
Maybe cos being part of the community, they do understand that the men are here for various reasons, like read stories, get advice or thoughts

So..WAaY TO Go SISTAs!:D:D

[bus72]

So far no one have caught me surfing here but recently I got 2 mates who caught me surfing here. They though I am looking for FL over here while actually I am looking at other bros stories or posting my pics at the other side. Life just sucks.

[BMW69]

Someone just zapped me 7 points on this thread with the message "crood". Since he only has 1 power, I just wanted to warn you guys that someone is trying to sabo him.

[hermit1313]

as a guy, i make sure that she wont know that i existed in this site period. even if she knew, she wont know my ID here as well, so I am free to flirt all i want.