Lost interest in sex wif Hubby

[chermineng]

Ladies pls come in ... If you are facing the same problem in sex life. Or share with me yr opinion. Appreciate it .

Im in early 30s, married with 1 kid and i realise i dont seem to enjoy my sex with my hubby anymore. I dont get turn on easily so no matter how he tease me i just dont feel like doing or even wet. I consider myself a person who get wet easily maybe cos maybe im a "Fei Mei" I dont know issit becos i no long love him as i married to him young n we are in our 11year marriage. He will only come to me when he need it if not he will be in hall watching his fav show till midnight so this make me feel that im just a sex toy to him. He only care abt himself, he cum easily and i like long session so sometime i feel his jus too selfish... Haha maybe im jus too good and he just cant ctrl ... Haha:D

Actually We hardly talk much except things on kid. I find he talk more to his biz partner or friend more than me. On that particular day if he need me, he will be very nice to me and i will knw his horny on that day. But nowaday i try to reject him telling him in tired etc. any excuse to turn him off.
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Few month back, i met a gal and i dont knw shes a les until 1 day she suddenly give me a kiss on my lip. I was bit shock as i had been nvr so closed to a gal. She treat me very well as in more caring toward me etc. she was jus like my big sis but infact she younger then me. I knew she like me and i did tell her im a married women but she dont mind. I trying to treat her as a friend who i can talk to. We did went out often to had dinner/shopping or even movies. She hold my hand n i rejected as i feel so awkward. But i do enjoy her company, until 1 day i realise whenever i met her i jus feel uneasy so i went to toilet to check it jus incase it menses or whatever. To my surprise, my panty is always wet n sticky when im with her, i do not know why too. We never had any other action except she will kiss my lip when i walk her home.

So i start to check is that the real course cos im with her so she make me wet. I start to monitor, and to my surprise every meet up my panty is wet. Or maybe im looking forward something ... I dont know.
But i had stop seeing her now, we do still keep contact in whatsapp but i find shes jus too young to understand my situation or maybe she lonely too. She told me i treat her well n v caring toward her.

So you guy see, a caring les can make me so wet, why cant my hubby ? Becos i no longer love him ?????

Sighz...

[xuanz]

I always think that what can make someone less interested in someone is that you are unhappy about him in certain part of your life that in turn you don't really want to have anything in contact with him.

Ask yourself lor, do you dislike anything he does in his life? If you guys can work it out, pretty sure one day you will be all wet for him again.

Can't be after 11 years of marriage than you think that you like girls more than guys? Or was it already wrong in the first place. Since you mention caring, is your hubby caring enough?

[copper]

Sex, for most people at least, is a highly emotional experience. But the context of sex is what determines whether it heightens emotional pleasure, or causes emotional distress.However, that is not what she or you found, at least not at the level of attraction. Anyway bear in mind, there are less advantages more than disadvantages of lesbian relationships. Lesbian relationship can change your life forever but it can also be changed in unexpected and drastic ways so think extremely carefully, my opinion

[B52bomber]

Ladies pls come in ... If you are facing the same problem in sex life. Or share with me yr opinion. Appreciate it .

Im in early 30s, married with 1 kid and i realise i dont seem to enjoy my sex with my hubby anymore. I dont get turn on easily so no matter how he tease me i just dont feel like doing or even wet. I consider myself a person who get wet easily maybe cos maybe im a "Fei Mei" I dont know issit becos i no long love him as i married to him young n we are in our 11year marriage. He will only come to me when he need it if not he will be in hall watching his fav show till midnight so this make me feel that im just a sex toy to him. He only care abt himself, he cum easily and i like long session so sometime i feel his jus too selfish... Haha maybe im jus too good and he just cant ctrl ... Haha:D

Actually We hardly talk much except things on kid. I find he talk more to his biz partner or friend more than me. On that particular day if he need me, he will be very nice to me and i will knw his horny on that day. But nowaday i try to reject him telling him in tired etc. any excuse to turn him off.
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Few month back, i met a gal and i dont knw shes a les until 1 day she suddenly give me a kiss on my lip. I was bit shock as i had been nvr so closed to a gal. She treat me very well as in more caring toward me etc. she was jus like my big sis but infact she younger then me. I knew she like me and i did tell her im a married women but she dont mind. I trying to treat her as a friend who i can talk to. We did went out often to had dinner/shopping or even movies. She hold my hand n i rejected as i feel so awkward. But i do enjoy her company, until 1 day i realise whenever i met her i jus feel uneasy so i went to toilet to check it jus incase it menses or whatever. To my surprise, my panty is always wet n sticky when im with her, i do not know why too. We never had any other action except she will kiss my lip when i walk her home.

So i start to check is that the real course cos im with her so she make me wet. I start to monitor, and to my surprise every meet up my panty is wet. Or maybe im looking forward something ... I dont know.
But i had stop seeing her now, we do still keep contact in whatsapp but i find shes jus too young to understand my situation or maybe she lonely too. She told me i treat her well n v caring toward her.

So you guy see, a caring les can make me so wet, why cant my hubby ? Becos i no longer love him ?????

Sighz...

You need to speak out to your hubby, let him know what you want and how you feel....some man tend to forget about pampering their wife after a few years or when after they have kids, thinking that everything is fine as long as he don't flirt outside...

[Max77]

Go ahead and make urself happy. It's very near to doom's day anyway. Kid is innocent so do weight the pros and cons good.

[chermineng]

Hi xuan,
My hubby is like a wooden log, as what his family/sibling say that. Right at the beginning of the rs, we nvr even hold hand. Even now i try to hold him when crossing the road but he shake it off saying he feel uneasy as his other hand is holding my son. He is obviously not those caring type. Is not im picking on him, i feel tired to quarrel on all these little thing. His friend did told him off sometime as when we are all out for dinner, his frd would even pick the dishes for me but my hb just be bother at all. He hardly at home also, either his alone with my son or im alone with my son.. I use to be a housewife when my son was still young but i feel tired to wait for him to come home at 11-12am eating my home cook food. So after my son is old enough to put in childcare, i came out to work again n still the same he came home same timing. I m always the one who taking care the house doing housechore ...

I feel im tired to nag or talk as i try to talk to him before often end up in quarreling... Black face 😔

I did talk to HER on my family matter so she console me alot actually. Maybe from there she feel pity in me and like me bah...

[chermineng]

You need to speak out to your hubby, let him know what you want and how you feel....some man tend to forget about pampering their wife after a few years or when after they have kids, thinking that everything is fine as long as he don't flirt outside...

Talk before, he dont even reply me, keep watching the TV. Before slp talk to him, he say his tired tmr working ...

[chermineng]

Infact i realise some of samster face the same problem, either unhappy with hubby or wife thats how we all end up here in SBF to vent vent vent/ share the information how to improve...Tio bo? Of course they are some happy family but you ask yourself why are you here ? Cannot be jus wanna widen yr friend circle mah... :cool::p

[geelang]

Hi chermineng, that's where sites like Ashleymadison sprout and thrive. For you wanting something your husband can't satisfy.

You're in luck cos a les has already picked you up so its whether you wanna advance further with her.

Also, you are in a male dominated forum. So I guess lots of vultures would like to get a taste of this "cougar", MILF.... whatever fetish name. :cool:

[chermineng]

Hi chermineng, that's where sites like Ashleymadison sprout and thrive. For you wanting something your husband can't satisfy.

You're in luck cos a les has already picked you up so its whether you wanna advance further with her.

Also, you are in a male dominated forum. So I guess lots of vultures would like to get a taste of this "cougar", MILF.... whatever fetish name. :cool:

Haha what a nice name lor 😜, but i try to be friend lah as i dont want to hurt her as she younger then me. Althought it sound interesting for me to had a les galfriend lah, nvr try before lor... Maybe im looking forward hahhaha :D see dick before but never see other gal pussy before lah... 😊😊 shy shy ...Keke😝😜✌️
At least i wont get preg hor ... Ahhhhh

[xuanz]

Hi xuan,
My hubby is like a wooden log, as what his family/sibling say that. Right at the beginning of the rs, we nvr even hold hand. Even now i try to hold him when crossing the road but he shake it off saying he feel uneasy as his other hand is holding my son. He is obviously not those caring type. Is not im picking on him, i feel tired to quarrel on all these little thing. His friend did told him off sometime as when we are all out for dinner, his frd would even pick the dishes for me but my hb just be bother at all. He hardly at home also, either his alone with my son or im alone with my son.. I use to be a housewife when my son was still young but i feel tired to wait for him to come home at 11-12am eating my home cook food. So after my son is old enough to put in childcare, i came out to work again n still the same he came home same timing. I m always the one who taking care the house doing housechore ...

I feel im tired to nag or talk as i try to talk to him before often end up in quarreling... Black face 😔

I did talk to HER on my family matter so she console me alot actually. Maybe from there she feel pity in me and like me bah...


Sounds like the problem was already there from the start. Seems like either he start doing something or you two will just end up with affairs outside no no?

It's like the same reason I don't look for FL. If you can't feel the right feeling, even if you're so damn hot. I won't get a hard on.

[chermineng]

Sounds like the problem was already there from the start. Seems like either he start doing something or you two will just end up with affairs outside no no?

It's like the same reason I don't look for FL. If you can't feel the right feeling, even if you're so damn hot. I won't get a hard on.

Xuan, ya lah... Must had Feel thats is for sure leh.. V important. Yes problem already there many years jus that it nvr been resolve. I had been patient for many years lor... I nvr flirt outside hor;)

[stillgottheblue]

What type of industry is your husband in? Why does he have to work till 11-12am? Daily?

Most guys cannot last more than 15 mins of continuous insertion. A second time maybe needed to last longer but that provided he's fit enough to withstand the tiredness. If one don't exercise enough, it's hard, unless of course, he cannot even last on the second shoot. It's too bad then but what's worse is becoming lesbians to satisfy yourself.

[clubbing]

Ladies pls come in ... If you are facing the same problem in sex life. Or share with me yr opinion. Appreciate it .

Im in early 30s, married with 1 kid and i realise i dont seem to enjoy my sex with my hubby anymore. I dont get turn on easily so no matter how he tease me i just dont feel like doing or even wet. I consider myself a person who get wet easily maybe cos maybe im a "Fei Mei" I dont know issit becos i no long love him as i married to him young n we are in our 11year marriage. He will only come to me when he need it if not he will be in hall watching his fav show till midnight so this make me feel that im just a sex toy to him. He only care abt himself, he cum easily and i like long session so sometime i feel his jus too selfish... Haha maybe im jus too good and he just cant ctrl ... Haha:D

Actually We hardly talk much except things on kid. I find he talk more to his biz partner or friend more than me. On that particular day if he need me, he will be very nice to me and i will knw his horny on that day. But nowaday i try to reject him telling him in tired etc. any excuse to turn him off.
–------------------------------

Few month back, i met a gal and i dont knw shes a les until 1 day she suddenly give me a kiss on my lip. I was bit shock as i had been nvr so closed to a gal. She treat me very well as in more caring toward me etc. she was jus like my big sis but infact she younger then me. I knew she like me and i did tell her im a married women but she dont mind. I trying to treat her as a friend who i can talk to. We did went out often to had dinner/shopping or even movies. She hold my hand n i rejected as i feel so awkward. But i do enjoy her company, until 1 day i realise whenever i met her i jus feel uneasy so i went to toilet to check it jus incase it menses or whatever. To my surprise, my panty is always wet n sticky when im with her, i do not know why too. We never had any other action except she will kiss my lip when i walk her home.

So i start to check is that the real course cos im with her so she make me wet. I start to monitor, and to my surprise every meet up my panty is wet. Or maybe im looking forward something ... I dont know.
But i had stop seeing her now, we do still keep contact in whatsapp but i find shes jus too young to understand my situation or maybe she lonely too. She told me i treat her well n v caring toward her.

So you guy see, a caring les can make me so wet, why cant my hubby ? Becos i no longer love him ?????

Sighz...

For a start, marriage is never easy to maintain and for the fact that you're into the 11th year, it's quiet amazing already.

Now, maintaining a relationship (regardless married or not) takes both hands to clap. I guess the reason why you are not getting turned on with him is because what he does is too "expected". 11 years into the marriage, what do you expect? I believe that your guy needs to take the extra effort in getting you turned on. Meaning, he will have to think out of the box rather than "the usuals", which is deemed boring to you. Can you imagine eating chicken rice with the same stuff on the rice for 11 years???? OMG!! ultra turn off at the sight of it. LOL!!

Guys sometimes will take things for granted. That is why through communication, you're able to tell him that you feel neglected and you wanna feel turned on again by him and he has to try harder. If you are afraid of hurting his feeling, try something tactful like going shopping for sex toys.....

Next, for your "new" found female friend. I think you are being turned on by her is because she's "new" and something that you have yet to try and you might have a hidden fetish of trying a female. No harm having some fun with females but do bear in mind that anything that is done too much is not healthy.

In short, I believe your guy deserves a second chance and you should talk to him. For all you know, you might get turned on again and have more fun in the bedroom.

Good luck!!

clubbing

[haonan25]

Hi sis, maybe Alot couples facing such problems as years passed. Everytime we said communication and communication, but end of day we still stucked somewhere and somehow. You love him that's how both of you ended up together, after 11years it's more of natural to have certain things drifted away.

My suggestion is how about have a talk with him first to test him out, maybe put ur kid with ur parents and get on a holiday to improve on Better relation.

I know man are selfish, when he need, he comes to you, but when you need, he turns you off. That's pretty common to some couples out there, there are 101 ways to improve this situation. No harm trying..

[clubbing]

Hi xuan,
My hubby is like a wooden log, as what his family/sibling say that. Right at the beginning of the rs, we nvr even hold hand. Even now i try to hold him when crossing the road but he shake it off saying he feel uneasy as his other hand is holding my son. He is obviously not those caring type. Is not im picking on him, i feel tired to quarrel on all these little thing. His friend did told him off sometime as when we are all out for dinner, his frd would even pick the dishes for me but my hb just be bother at all. He hardly at home also, either his alone with my son or im alone with my son.. I use to be a housewife when my son was still young but i feel tired to wait for him to come home at 11-12am eating my home cook food. So after my son is old enough to put in childcare, i came out to work again n still the same he came home same timing. I m always the one who taking care the house doing housechore ...

I feel im tired to nag or talk as i try to talk to him before often end up in quarreling... Black face 😔

I did talk to HER on my family matter so she console me alot actually. Maybe from there she feel pity in me and like me bah...

from what you have narrated above, I think your guy should be the conservative type. Is he like that when you both are dating? if yes, then this is expected already and I think you should just accept him for who he is....

If you feel that he is not expressive enough in his love for you, I think that you should talk to him, which you already had and he's been avoiding. I believe that the environment might not be right. You might want to try going out for a nice dinner first and slowly talk about it. It might help??

Good luck!!

clubbing

[t123]

So you guy see, a caring les can make me so wet, why cant my hubby ? Becos i no longer love him ?????

Sighz...

Break down in communication. My ex wife and me didn't do at all after my gal was born for 2 years. When I surf sammy to download vids, she thinks I into pros when I completely stopped before knowing her. I read football news, I was suspected of gambling. Anyway, I rest my case since no matter I explained, I am the most evil person to her. Probably her PND before and after birth, but she doesn't wanna seek treatment. Even her shrink said she is ok. Its not just being which gender at it anymore since playing field is level.

[pleasurehobby]

yes, i agree with bros who mentioned on breaking down in communication.

Communication is the key to most issues between couples. Often, each party have some pride which they can't let go completely to open up to the other party as he/she is afraid of being judged. This thinking is howeve because they still cared for the other party, thats why they are concerned what their other half will think about them.

However, for a sustaining and duldilling relationship, honest communication is very important. It takes a lot of time and effort to understand and accept each other weakness and insecurities, but it is a long and fulfilling process of love building.

my humble 2 cents,
J
Pleasurehobby

[akademon]

guess it all dependson indivdual party invo)ved. my case is we never been intimate ever since my daugther is born. i surf sammyboy but never havethe courage to find any fb fearing std.

was reading this thread was wondering what makes a women lost interests with her hubby.

[stillgottheblue]

Women lose interest in hubby because hubby don't tend to their emotional needs. Man lose interest in wife because wife don't let him have a good fuck of his life.

To reverse the situation women need to beautify herself, behave womanly again and learn to depend/help her husband in his life. The man that you love before marriage will surely come back. Communication is useless without determined actions. In fact, communication is useless.

[stillgottheblue]

guess it all dependson indivdual party invo)ved. my case is we never been intimate ever since my daugther is born. i surf sammyboy but never havethe courage to find any fb fearing std.

was reading this thread was wondering what makes a women lost interests with her hubby.

You can use a condom to prevent STD but you should be more worried about how this will affect your marriage relationship physically and mentally.

Of course if your relationship is already broken, and you need a good fuck, you can PM me. Do note I can only provide physical needs and not emotionally.

[raiders]

To thread starter,

It's now a very straightforward choice for you since you can't reignite the passion after so many years.

1. Divorce and start a new life, after all, there are still many years ahead of you. Explain to your child patiently the circumstances that leads to this. He might not understand now, but he will appreciates it when he grows up. After your divorce, date carefully and find a man who loves you and accept your child. There are still good men around. But don't be caught in a trap whereby you get picked up, then dumped by men and it becomes a cycle. You will waste your time.

2. Don't divorce and stick with him. Then continue to eat outside. Then you are asking for trouble. To seek advice in a forum that is primarily for sex, you are at the wrong place. Ultimately, one day, you will fall prey to some of the guys here and stray. This is normal. All of us are humans. But have you thought of the day that you are caught by your husband and your child knows about it. Fuck care the husband, but think of the emotional hurt the child has to contain with for the rest of his life.


Just my busybody view :o

[absolutvodkasg]

Hi Mdm, it takes 2 hands to clap as one.

Marriage life need mutual communication, trust and understanding to work in a long enduring long path till OLD age.

Along the way, we do meet with many hurdles that we need to struggle to clear with all kinds of daily problem and stress at times.

Before taking any action, why not ask your hubby to sit down and have a good chat to understand where the problem lie and see whether is there any possibility to bring back your OLD memories and touch to make your life happier rather than choose a path that you might end up in the LOST World.

I am a Married Male, age 52, both me and my wife do face alot of problem and difficulties in our life for the past 20 over years. And we are consider lucky that everytime, we manage to encourage each others to sit and chat it out and we are still together and loving as before. But it really had to put it alot of effort to make it.

Wish you all the best. Cheer!!!!

[ch18]

Better start talking..... Else, pretty soon you will be having your fun out there and he will be enjoying his.......

[MissyMystery]

But at least he still comes to you for his needs.

I ever experienced the same problem as u.
I used to stay with my ex. He always comes to me everyday for a bj.
I'm always left unsatisfied as after he cum after my bj, he nvr try to satisfy me.
and I always feel how selfish is he.
That really makes me lost interest in having sex with him. Who will always want to satisfy u, n not get satisfy in return? and subsequently, I tried hinting for it, but he will always said he's tire. maybe it's really communication breakdown, n we broke off.

[chermineng]

But at least he still comes to you for his needs.

I ever experienced the same problem as u.
I used to stay with my ex. He always comes to me everyday for a bj.
I'm always left unsatisfied as after he cum after my bj, he nvr try to satisfy me.
and I always feel how selfish is he.
That really makes me lost interest in having sex with him. Who will always want to satisfy u, n not get satisfy in return? and subsequently, I tried hinting for it, but he will always said he's tire. maybe it's really communication breakdown, n we broke off.

Sianz right, dont feel like doing with him hor... It a very natural feeling

[alec]

Break down in communication. My ex wife and me didn't do at all after my gal was born for 2 years. When I surf sammy to download vids, she thinks I into pros when I completely stopped before knowing her. I read football news, I was suspected of gambling. Anyway, I rest my case since no matter I explained, I am the most evil person to her. Probably her PND before and after birth, but she doesn't wanna seek treatment. Even her shrink said she is ok. Its not just being which gender at it anymore since playing field is level.

And mi wife thinks im a sex starved pervert into porn sites when i surf on mi hp. I feel for u too... its like no matter wat i do everything is right for her and i'm ALWAYS wrong....

[alec]

To thread starter,

It's now a very straightforward choice for you since you can't reignite the passion after so many years.

1. Divorce and start a new life, after all, there are still many years ahead of you. Explain to your child patiently the circumstances that leads to this. He might not understand now, but he will appreciates it when he grows up. After your divorce, date carefully and find a man who loves you and accept your child. There are still good men around. But don't be caught in a trap whereby you get picked up, then dumped by men and it becomes a cycle. You will waste your time.

2. Don't divorce and stick with him. Then continue to eat outside. Then you are asking for trouble. To seek advice in a forum that is primarily for sex, you are at the wrong place. Ultimately, one day, you will fall prey to some of the guys here and stray. This is normal. All of us are humans. But have you thought of the day that you are caught by your husband and your child knows about it. Fuck care the husband, but think of the emotional hurt the child has to contain with for the rest of his life.


Just my busybody view :o

I kinda agree... i had an affair once and the cycle continued like 2yrs after... so seriously no point. I can only say i was a coward to avoid my problems... nw i try to face it but still not really working out la... i stil dunno whats wrong, Nw im not really puting it on a priority list as then liao, nw i'll only go n think about solving this issue when mi mind is more free

[t123]

And mi wife thinks im a sex starved pervert into porn sites when i surf on mi hp. I feel for u too... its like no matter wat i do everything is right for her and i'm ALWAYS wrong....

so when people asked me about how I was bashed up physically? I told them it's similar to Ip Man part I where she was Ip Man and I was the Jap General.

[waiwaiz]

Infact i realise some of samster face the same problem, either unhappy with hubby or wife thats how we all end up here in SBF to vent vent vent/ share the information how to improve...Tio bo? Of course they are some happy family but you ask yourself why are you here ? Cannot be jus wanna widen yr friend circle mah... :cool::p

haha...wheres the "LIKE" button:p

[chermineng]

Break down in communication. My ex wife and me didn't do at all after my gal was born for 2 years. When I surf sammy to download vids, she thinks I into pros when I completely stopped before knowing her. I read football news, I was suspected of gambling. Anyway, I rest my case since no matter I explained, I am the most evil person to her. Probably her PND before and after birth, but she doesn't wanna seek treatment. Even her shrink said she is ok. Its not just being which gender at it anymore since playing field is level.

Hi, thanks for yr reply
I heard some ladies had that after birth.
Infact i recvd quite a few pm that their wife is not having sex after their bb is born. All sort of excuses recvd and end up quarrelling then no point lor. The mood is no longer there anymore.

Is that the readon why you are here then but i do understand your situation as it quite frustrated de.

Bro, if you wish to talk further feel free to pm me. ^^

[xiaochunzi]

Just to share my experience,

Married for 12 years,stop having sex for 3 years after my 1st bb gal was born.stress n burden was the main factor which cause this.totally no mood for romance.in the end nearly spit.
But action speak louder than words..as we both wan our children to have a complete family.we start to show some concern for each other..more..even less sex does not mean no feelings for each other. Altough I go massage sometimes, but I do not opt for sex job(if they provide).
N now my wife is pregnant again,:).my advise..try to think positive..all the best to u..

Thanks for reading...

[chnhubby71]

In a marraige, SEX is not a obligation that we can agreed but with healthy SEX life and mutual communication, our mood can be enhanced to prolong a long terms relationship to satisfy each others needs. Cheer!!!!

[lostbird]

Hi sis,

Although I m on your opposite sides ( Hubby role ).
I share the same sentiments as you. However, communication is one of the factors that need to be address and it is the only factor that keep the family intact.

Do take a step forward and talk to your hubby about this...U be surpirsed that he will wake up instantly!!!.

Once a while, we need to be reminded:(:(

Wishes you well.:)

[copper]

There are lot of reasons for loss of sexual appetite, maybe I am suggesting plan a weekend getaway at a bed and breakfast for the both of you and take the time to appreciate each other's bodies, or take a vacation in which all you need to do is lie in the sun, hope it help you. I know it’s hard when you’re all tied up in knots. But you can do this. You can. He will come to you sooner or later, and likely it will be sooner as long as you can keep your focus OFF of him. Loving and appreciating yourself above all else is enormously sexy and attractive. If your man doesn’t want to play, then someone else will.Talk to him what gets you purring. NO, this is NOT NORMAL!!!!

[diputs1269]

Hi sis,

Although I m on your opposite sides ( Hubby role ).

Do take a step forward and talk to your hubby about this...U be surpirsed that he will wake up instantly!!!.

Once a while, we need to be reminded:(:(

Wishes you well.:)

Yes very good advice here, we need to be reminded. :)

[Weiwei88]

I think very important is have to think of your kid. Before u do anything have to think of him.
Or maybe u need other guy to test out for u do I still have feeling for guys ? I can be the first in line . Haha.

[ah rat]

Sis chermineng,can I have pixs of yr wet panty :p

[Highjoys]

Sianz right, dont feel like doing with him hor... It a very natural feeling

It is very common. You know novelty just like those smart phones brings excitements to the person. Once the novelty wears off, the smart phones will seem to be an ordinary object that bring only monotonous stuffs. Sex after some year also become like a chore or obligation but no longer an adult fun anymore.

[copper]

多交朋友，交好的朋友。女人一定要有闺密。

[softtime]

Part 1

For a marriage to work well, communication is vital and by communication, we are talking about a 2 way process.

We have to sit down and be practical in the process, like listing down some of our observations of our partners, how these observations make us feel and how these feelings are threatening the relationship.

Set the platform right by sharing with your hubby how you are feeling. Ask him about how he feels about your relationship.

Part 2

If you are feeling good or great in your friendship with your les friend and excited with how she turns you on, FANTASTIC !!! !!! Your best ticket to realise some of your fantasy (mine actually, to see 2 females making out) is here.

Everyone has their fantasy and secret desire, you can cheat without cheating if you get what I mean. But in any case, always be mindful of the repercussion. Like if you are one who likes to carry guilt around with you everywhere you go, then you better leave such stuff alone.

Some people just get guilt stricken easily and that is not good.

No actions shall be driven by the thought of revenge, so don't jump into this F-F relationship as an ESCAPE or my hubby 'forced' me into it.

Jump into it cause you WANT IT!!! YEAH!!! tell us more about your F-F relationship and how it progresses. Really love to hear more.

[chermineng]

[QUOTE=ah rat;10102815]Sis chermineng,can I have pixs of yr wet panty :p

Wow so direct

[maxim24]

communication management is a must...once broken, hard to mend...but still need to fix....

[Miracle Bra]

Dear chermineng,

Your situation is very different from mine. My husband is always not with me. He travels very frequently for business and at times I don't see him for 2 weeks. Averagely I only see him like 8 to 10 days a month. Whenever he is back home, we made crazy love, at least twice a day.

There was a period when I felt so depressed, so helpless, so desperate. I went on to socialize with colleagues, friends and even chat rooms. I was very desperate at that time as I missed sex with husband so much. I am just a normal woman with normal sex drive, however I still thought astray. I couldn't control myself and I went further and engaged sex with a member here for the first time. I regretted as I felt I have betrayed my husband. I was really lost and I didn't know wat I am doing. Becos of my constant missing of husband, soon I found myself in the same situation and I did it again. The second was with a caucasian man whom I got to know in a pub.

I really regretted wat I have done and for all these will be kept deep inside my heart. I am not encouraging you to find a sex partner outside your marriage, but I just wanna share with you my story and hopefully you don't follow my footsteps. After all, your husband is your closest kin and the best person to share everything with. Though you may have lost some feelings for him now, but I still think open heart conversations can definitely improve a relationship. I wish you all the best in life.

Rgds
Cheryl :)

[Tomb]

Guess the impt part is to always to draw a line clearly between sex and love.

If you decides to stray and look for sex outside, do not mix it up with emotional attachment else it will becomes a huge burden on your side. If you have a FB, eventually, your emotions will come into entanglements.

Like most men who looks for FL or pros for sex, they don't bring their emotions when they do the deeds. Its just a transaction and basically it will end when they leave the room.

[tryherout]

Dear chermineng,

Your situation is very different from mine. My husband is always not with me. He travels very frequently for business and at times I don't see him for 2 weeks. Averagely I only see him like 8 to 10 days a month. Whenever he is back home, we made crazy love, at least twice a day.

There was a period when I felt so depressed, so helpless, so desperate. I went on to socialize with colleagues, friends and even chat rooms. I was very desperate at that time as I missed sex with husband so much. I am just a normal woman with normal sex drive, however I still thought astray. I couldn't control myself and I went further and engaged sex with a member here for the first time. I regretted as I felt I have betrayed my husband. I was really lost and I didn't know wat I am doing. Becos of my constant missing of husband, soon I found myself in the same situation and I did it again. The second was with a caucasian man whom I got to know in a pub.

I really regretted wat I have done and for all these will be kept deep inside my heart. I am not encouraging you to find a sex partner outside your marriage, but I just wanna share with you my story and hopefully you don't follow my footsteps. After all, your husband is your closest kin and the best person to share everything with. Though you may have lost some feelings for him now, but I still think open heart conversations can definitely improve a relationship. I wish you all the best in life.

Rgds
Cheryl :)

Frank and rare sharing:):)

[letsdo]

多交朋友，交好的朋友。女人一定要有闺密。

but 闺密 cannot solve sex-related problem, maybe they can discuss and exchange sex-toys, but not hubby :D

[letsdo]

Hi, thanks for yr reply
I heard some ladies had that after birth.
Infact i recvd quite a few pm that their wife is not having sex after their bb is born. All sort of excuses recvd and end up quarrelling then no point lor. The mood is no longer there anymore.

Is that the readon why you are here then but i do understand your situation as it quite frustrated de.

Bro, if you wish to talk further feel free to pm me. ^^

same here, kids 3+ and only 2 sex during the time.

today prostitute really has the reasons for existing

[hotguy2406]

Me & my wife seldom hv sex too. for the past few years we hv nothing to talk & when it comes to bed time she just slp till morning even when i touch her thr is no reaction. is it means she no longer enjoying or wanna hving sex with me. last time when we hv sex she keep asking me hv i cum it make me so sick of hving sex with her. :mad:

[birdsong]

My wife refuse to have sex now as she claim sex is a dirty act ... I am like ....wtf??:mad:

[alec]

To all bros n sis who felt that theres a communication breakdown between ur spouse n theres a chng in attitute towards the relationship let alone having sex (I'm lucky to hav it like 2x a year cos some bros had it worse....) I FEEL FOR YOU ALL!!!! For nw i jus keep mi life more fruitful n TRY not to sulk over it. Had an affair once (Sure it seemed really beautiful in the beginning...) but the cycle came back so nw i just try to solve one problem rather than facing 2 same problems...

[lynnlammy]

Hello~ I know how you are feeling. I have friends who also had the same problem with their boyfriend. but... they got married in the end! So... things can turn around! have faith in your marriage! Don't let temptation ruin it!

[BiRd13]

Dear chermineng,

Your situation is very different from mine. My husband is always not with me. He travels very frequently for business and at times I don't see him for 2 weeks. Averagely I only see him like 8 to 10 days a month. Whenever he is back home, we made crazy love, at least twice a day.

There was a period when I felt so depressed, so helpless, so desperate. I went on to socialize with colleagues, friends and even chat rooms. I was very desperate at that time as I missed sex with husband so much. I am just a normal woman with normal sex drive, however I still thought astray. I couldn't control myself and I went further and engaged sex with a member here for the first time. I regretted as I felt I have betrayed my husband. I was really lost and I didn't know wat I am doing. Becos of my constant missing of husband, soon I found myself in the same situation and I did it again. The second was with a caucasian man whom I got to know in a pub.

I really regretted wat I have done and for all these will be kept deep inside my heart. I am not encouraging you to find a sex partner outside your marriage, but I just wanna share with you my story and hopefully you don't follow my footsteps. After all, your husband is your closest kin and the best person to share everything with. Though you may have lost some feelings for him now, but I still think open heart conversations can definitely improve a relationship. I wish you all the best in life.

Rgds
Cheryl :)

Wow. You sounded like someone I know. Her hubby was always overseas most of the time. Perhaps she only managed to see him once every 2 months... And usually only about 4-5 days. And yes, usually they had crazy sex when her hubby is back.

As I knew her for quite a long time (In fact was my ex in year 2006 or so which lasted about 1yr) Hence she always confided in me as she have no other closest kin in Singapore (She's from Hongkong). In fact, we actually also lead to sex some times... She regretted though... But again, after some period of time, we started again. Perhaps a saying about having affair is quite true at times... Once you had an affair, it's very difficult to stop...




Dear TS,

I think most after marriage, and especially after having kids, sex life will drop tremendously. Sometimes one will just wonder if we hold on to the marriage cause of love? Or perhaps just due to kids? Or maybe, due to 'used to it'.

I think important is one should asked own self of what she/he really want. And think of the root cause of such, and maybe, communicate with one another & solve the issue.

For myself, me and wife have frequent sex as well. However after we have kids, our sex life dropped tremendously. Frankly speaking, we both did not have sex for the past 8 months or so already. At most, I will just diy, or at times if she's in good mood, will have some foreplay. But whenever want to penetrate her, she will say she's tired... No mood for that etc...

This is one of the reason I'm having affair outside as well. Of course I'm not asking you to find a partner and have sex with. But again, at times when one have affair, will sure have some reason behind it. A friend of mine once said this which I find it very true... 'An affair is something in which you can't find in current partner, but find in other person...' Whatever the reason it is, important is to know what you really want, which unable to find in your current partner.

[Johnbass]

Hmmm...
All the 偷吃 bros got better sexperience outside?
So good ah?
Got kena those worse than your spouse a not?

I think 偷吃 sis got more things to lose bah.
Don't say 偷吃 with Les will have lesser risks... I think just different risks.

:)

[rat967]

We're here .coz many of us facing sex issues!
Can't get satisfy With they're partner la ! Or lost interest in sex!
I know my wife seen 20year.. after our 3rd BB! She stop have sex
With me! Occasionally Only going holiday without kids!!
..than got the chance to F her!! Hahaha :p
20year ..sex with her!! She still the best!!!!
Vvv miss doing with her!! :(

[Johnbass]

No wonder got people suan us all...

Satisfied people don't have time to go on the Internet: PM Lee


:D

[suckerformassag]

I think sex is very important in a relationship. Somehow when my wife and myself is sexually active, we become very close and loving. In the period of abstinence, due to whatever reason like busy or overseas etc, we quarrel a lot and also tend to have that "not trustworthy" feeling.

I must also admit I have PE, and sometimes when that happens, I feel guilty of not being able to pleasure my wife. But there are ways to reach mutual satisfaction like longer foreplay and medication helps.

Having another partner wont solve anything. The root cause is between u and your husband. If both of you wont face it, nobody else can help. So my advice is to talk, have sex and watch the relationship grow, even though beginning phase is very hard.

Maybe the reason why u are attracted to a female is because your husband is not attending to you emotional needs, like ur les friend will talk to you abt what happened to you over a day etc... while your husband only talks to you when really required.

U maybe mixing all the signals up and end up finding a easy way out, that is blaming your husband for everything. But in reality, both parties got to manage their relationship. Good luck!!

[copper]

Hi Miracle Bra

Women more commonly find that their sexual confidence and competence blossoms when they feel loved and appreciated.

[copper]

I'm 44 she's 40, we have two kids and have been married 15 years. Early marriage sex was good and somewhat frequent After the first kid was born 10 years ago, I was lucky to have sex once a month and even then it was her just saying yes after 3 and a half weeks of saying no. It was like getting pity sex, and getting that from your wife seems somewhat pathetic to me. I still have a somewhat high sex drive but my wife does not share this at all. Now we just don't have sex at all. I've given up always asking for it and being turned down. I thought if I stopped asking maybe she would start asking, NOPE that didn't work. I love her dearly and get much pleasure in pleasing her but she just goes cold on me. I have wondered if there could there be someone else.She says that she loves me but does not want intimate contact. I feel rejected. What have I done wrong?

[lostbird]

Dear chermineng,

Your situation is very different from mine. My husband is always not with me. He travels very frequently for business and at times I don't see him for 2 weeks. Averagely I only see him like 8 to 10 days a month. Whenever he is back home, we made crazy love, at least twice a day.

There was a period when I felt so depressed, so helpless, so desperate. I went on to socialize with colleagues, friends and even chat rooms. I was very desperate at that time as I missed sex with husband so much. I am just a normal woman with normal sex drive, however I still thought astray. I couldn't control myself and I went further and engaged sex with a member here for the first time. I regretted as I felt I have betrayed my husband. I was really lost and I didn't know wat I am doing. Becos of my constant missing of husband, soon I found myself in the same situation and I did it again. The second was with a caucasian man whom I got to know in a pub.

I really regretted wat I have done and for all these will be kept deep inside my heart. I am not encouraging you to find a sex partner outside your marriage, but I just wanna share with you my story and hopefully you don't follow my footsteps. After all, your husband is your closest kin and the best person to share everything with. Though you may have lost some feelings for him now, but I still think open heart conversations can definitely improve a relationship. I wish you all the best in life.

Rgds
Cheryl :)

Hi Sis, haha, first time ,,,same ,i regretted badly, second time,,third time...never end.Slowly ,,only upon finishes the "happy " event, i feel bad but it will goes again. You are absolutely right ....DONT START:cool:

[1118]

But at least he still comes to you for his needs.

I ever experienced the same problem as u.
I used to stay with my ex. He always comes to me everyday for a bj.
I'm always left unsatisfied as after he cum after my bj, he nvr try to satisfy me.
and I always feel how selfish is he.
That really makes me lost interest in having sex with him. Who will always want to satisfy u, n not get satisfy in return? and subsequently, I tried hinting for it, but he will always said he's tire. maybe it's really communication breakdown, n we broke off.

Human beings are all like that. you should ask him to satisfy you before you service him.

I have 3 kids and my sex life is not so exciting also. I think most importantly is to spend some time together, very often after we have kids the priority will be on them. try to spend the weekend together without the little one. who knows you might be having another great sexxion after that.

[chermineng]

Dear chermineng,

Your situation is very different from mine. My husband is always not with me. He travels very frequently for business and at times I don't see him for 2 weeks. Averagely I only see him like 8 to 10 days a month. Whenever he is back home, we made crazy love, at least twice a day.

There was a period when I felt so depressed, so helpless, so desperate. I went on to socialize with colleagues, friends and even chat rooms. I was very desperate at that time as I missed sex with husband so much. I am just a normal woman with normal sex drive, however I still thought astray. I couldn't control myself and I went further and engaged sex with a member here for the first time. I regretted as I felt I have betrayed my husband. I was really lost and I didn't know wat I am doing. Becos of my constant missing of husband, soon I found myself in the same situation and I did it again. The second was with a caucasian man whom I got to know in a pub.

I really regretted wat I have done and for all these will be kept deep inside my heart. I am not encouraging you to find a sex partner outside your marriage, but I just wanna share with you my story and hopefully you don't follow my footsteps. After all, your husband is your closest kin and the best person to share everything with. Though you may have lost some feelings for him now, but I still think open heart conversations can definitely improve a relationship. I wish you all the best in life.

Rgds
Cheryl :)

Hi cheryl
Thank you for sharing, i understand what are you trying to tell.

Appreciate it, sis

[straven]

Hi xuan,
My hubby is like a wooden log, as what his family/sibling say that. Right at the beginning of the rs, we nvr even hold hand. Even now i try to hold him when crossing the road but he shake it off saying he feel uneasy as his other hand is holding my son. He is obviously not those caring type. Is not im picking on him, i feel tired to quarrel on all these little thing. His friend did told him off sometime as when we are all out for dinner, his frd would even pick the dishes for me but my hb just be bother at all. He hardly at home also, either his alone with my son or im alone with my son.. I use to be a housewife when my son was still young but i feel tired to wait for him to come home at 11-12am eating my home cook food. So after my son is old enough to put in childcare, i came out to work again n still the same he came home same timing. I m always the one who taking care the house doing housechore ...

I feel im tired to nag or talk as i try to talk to him before often end up in quarreling... Black face ��

I did talk to HER on my family matter so she console me alot actually. Maybe from there she feel pity in me and like me bah...

Wah, like that share with her. Then she like you liao? Now I also know le, I tell you I like you. U sure run away de. Right? Cos she is a female and I am a male. So u will feel safer with her. This goes without saying

[chermineng]

Ya i faster run run... She is v caring toward me when i talk to her abt family issue.

This is e good point that this special ladies are slightly more caring than the normal ladies, their thinking is slightly more different. I wouldnt say shes bad but i do appreciatet that she show her care on me whether as a gf or a normal friend so long I need to be firm on what im doing.

It seem really lot of ppl facing similar problem as mine. Thank you everyone here who had share your stories with us. At least we know we are not the odd one out there... Keep going !!

[crood]

Ya i faster run run... She is v caring toward me when i talk to her abt family issue.

This is e good point that this special ladies are slightly more caring than the normal ladies, their thinking is slightly more different. I wouldnt say shes bad but i do appreciatet that she show her care on me whether as a gf or a normal friend so long I need to be firm on what im doing.

It seem really lot of ppl facing similar problem as mine. Thank you everyone here who had share your stories with us. At least we know we are not the odd one out there... Keep going !!

Yup because it's all happy family pics all are posting nowadays, the stories behind nobody will tell ;)

[D-joker]

I think nt only u gals face this kind of problems. Guys too. I also dont feel like having sex w wife. We together 8yrs and she is nt really inyo sex no matter hw i try. Gals outside say i m good. But my wife jz like desd fish like tat. Haiz..

[Johnbass]

I think we married people (bro and sis) just want the piaking minus the nagging.
But forgot it comes in the marriage package.

:D

[ah rat]

I think we married people (bro and sis) just want the piaking minus the nagging.
But forgot it comes in the marriage package.

:D

Everyday,I want to piak piak :D

[straven]

Everyday,I want to piak piak :D

I want to piak also no girl want to do with me. :(

[sub2lady]

Everyday,I want to piak piak :D

yes bro, same here

[sub2lady]

I want to piak also no girl want to do with me. :(

that is why the gov create the Red Light District for, just bring your dick and dollar there:p

[devilchan78]

Upz you sub2lady

[sensit32]

TS from my view r emotionally love fading away for u both.

Physically which lady dun hope to c their spouse in gd shape.recently tv actor "zheng ke ping" 49 yr old he got a gd body.

Then use as sex toy when hav needs I honest to say most guys r like Tis or at least show a constant love n care rather than last min hold Buddha leg.even all the while pretend care for u rather then nothing when wan sex find u tts sad.

Women r emotional creature simple care n concern u feel great mi matter from a gal or guy as long b safe n sound when u really need to to hav fling.

Tts life n ofcos there r many happy couples too.even a pet dog when u reaches home sure happy to c u but humans not all.hav a nice day

[Bangster]

When sad, talk to your hands.

When happy, play with your hands.

Hands are our best friends!

[austin69]

that is why the gov create the Red Light District for, just bring your dick and dollar there:p

Ups you: 55 - 59 points.

Happy weekend! It's payday some more! :D

I thank you! :p:D

[chermineng]

Happy saturday
Bros can go piak piak liao....

[ah rat]

Happy saturday
Bros can go piak piak liao....

Sis,u know piak piak.U too want to go :D

[sgjoey]

To generalize....

After a few years of great sex after (and before) marriage -assuming one is lucky to have such great sex - the frequency of coitus for most couples is drastically reduced, especially after the birth of children. Research has widely shown this to be true.

However, it doesn't mean that the sex drive has disappeared. Indeed for many, the drive remains strong, but it is often frustrated when the other partner does not show interest (for whatever reason). So because the sex drive will not be denied, the result is quite predictable in many cases -- either seek a partner outside marriage, divorce or turn to the professionals.

It's a common pattern and suggests that humans are a very sexy species, naturally seeking for sexual variety. If one is not fully aware of this idea, then if one shows signs of lusting for others, one is inclined to feel guilty and even depressed. Self-acceptance is the key to sexual happiness.

[bestfucker]

Happy saturday
Bros can go piak piak liao....

Woo sis where to go, any good suggestion ? :D:D

[raiders]

I kinda agree... i had an affair once and the cycle continued like 2yrs after... so seriously no point. I can only say i was a coward to avoid my problems... nw i try to face it but still not really working out la... i stil dunno whats wrong, Nw im not really puting it on a priority list as then liao, nw i'll only go n think about solving this issue when mi mind is more free

Seriously bro, we live only once and do not know what will happen tomorrow. Just get out of your marriage and find new pastures. Your wife might be happier sexually with a new man as well. Sometimes, it is the passion that is lost. My loves becomes kinship in a marriage, the problem starts.

[chermineng]

Woo sis where to go, any good suggestion ? :D:D

Dont know wor... Bro here got more ideas and kinky suggestion. I need to ask bro for advice lor...

[Blaz31234]

Eat out. Just wipe clean before u go home. :)


Sometimes our partners drive us to take desperate measures. They remain our top choice but after so many rejections... It's only normal to feel disappointed n unwanted... Sighs.

Worse is kena rejected by the guy. Bleahx.

[needsanescape]

Dont know wor... Bro here got more ideas and kinky suggestion. I need to ask bro for advice lor...

Try roleplaying! Massage and kinky thrilling sex in public~

[pussywillo]

SIS are u clean shaven??

[oman]

Try roleplaying! Massage and kinky thrilling sex in public~

bro in public? SG police will invite u for coffee then :p

[bestfucker]

Dont know wor... Bro here got more ideas and kinky suggestion. I need to ask bro for advice lor...

sis u can ask me, i have lot of ideas :D

[Blaz31234]

bro in public? SG police will invite u for coffee then :p


ROFL I had a close call with that before! Out on a date with my ex and we ended up at tanah merah ferry terminal carpark. i was on top of him in the driver's seat and then police came! thankfully, we were done and driving out of the gate! phewwwwwwwwww!!!

[chermineng]

sis u also like kinky staff ma, and experience before?

what u want to ask? get me wet wet lao :D:D

Hey Bro,
Your nick already tell me you're wet lor..

[chermineng]

ROFL I had a close call with that before! Out on a date with my ex and we ended up at tanah merah ferry terminal carpark. i was on top of him in the driver's seat and then police came! thankfully, we were done and driving out of the gate! phewwwwwwwwww!!!

What if police caught you ? At most record your Nric and make you paiseh only right ? Will they summon you ? Sorry im a more traditional person, rather enjoy on bed then squeezing in the car, good for those who like excitement.
Njoy ...

[chermineng]

sis u can ask me, i have lot of ideas :D

Your nick oso tell me that you are ...

[chermineng]

To generalize....

After a few years of great sex after (and before) marriage -assuming one is lucky to have such great sex - the frequency of coitus for most couples is drastically reduced, especially after the birth of children. Research has widely shown this to be true.

However, it doesn't mean that the sex drive has disappeared. Indeed for many, the drive remains strong, but it is often frustrated when the other partner does not show interest (for whatever reason). So because the sex drive will not be denied, the result is quite predictable in many cases -- either seek a partner outside marriage, divorce or turn to the professionals.

It's a common pattern and suggests that humans are a very sexy species, naturally seeking for sexual variety. If one is not fully aware of this idea, then if one shows signs of lusting for others, one is inclined to feel guilty and even depressed. Self-acceptance is the key to sexual happiness.

:D:p ... Very true

[cunnilinguslove]

this would sound illogical but to me, if a woman has a female partner outside marriage, I wouldn't consider it as adultery ...

"In the 2003 New Hampshire Supreme Court case Blanchflower v. Blanchflower, it was held that female same-sex sexual relations did not constitute sexual intercourse, based on a 1961 definition from Webster's Third New International Dictionary; and thereby an accused wife in a divorce case was found not guilty of adultery."

[MassageExpert]

Try going for a holiday with only you and your husband and leave your kid to be with inlaw etc. For 2-3 days will be fun enough to spice up the relationship.

[Marlborolgt]

There is indeed so many bros n sisters out there face the same problem. For the past 4 yrs I did almost anything. Communication talk n talk, bought sex book sex video blar blar blar... tried Golden flies, very golden flies. Holidays n even suggest incentives.

Life have become so sad and I tot im only early 30s and do I have to live the rest of my life like this till I die? Changing a new life come to my thoughts but we have a young boy which make decision difficult, moreover is absent of sex a good reason for separation?

Im doing okay with my career and been socializing with many opportunities but I can't just go ahead and find a new life.

I feel Guilty when everytime I think of my child n of course no valid reason for me to divorce.

Like one of the members here Alec. His comments are really alike. Some time back I even tot of dying or met an accident to make me forget everything and start a fresh.

3 yrs ago I did hv a good talk to my OC . It started to get slightly better for a week but everything goes back normal n dead.
Employ a maid to take care of chores so she can be more free n relax but it doesnt show any improvement.

Im lost. Maybe we should explore a couples not having enough club! Lolx

Advise advise?

[Johnbass]

There is indeed so many bros n sisters out there face the same problem. For the past 4 yrs I did almost anything. Communication talk n talk, bought sex book sex video blar blar blar... tried Golden flies, very golden flies. Holidays n even suggest incentives.

Life have become so sad and I tot im only early 30s and do I have to live the rest of my life like this till I die? Changing a new life come to my thoughts but we have a young boy which make decision difficult, moreover is absent of sex a good reason for separation?

Im doing okay with my career and been socializing with many opportunities but I can't just go ahead and find a new life.

I feel Guilty when everytime I think of my child n of course no valid reason for me to divorce.

Like one of the members here Alec. His comments are really alike. Some time back I even tot of dying or met an accident to make me forget everything and start a fresh.

3 yrs ago I did hv a good talk to my OC . It started to get slightly better for a week but everything goes back normal n dead.
Employ a maid to take care of chores so she can be more free n relax but it doesnt show any improvement.

Im lost. Maybe we should explore a couples not having enough club! Lolx

Advise advise?

Dun get u... U thinking of suicide cos' not enough sex?
:eek:

[takashi2411]

Dun get u... U thinking of suicide cos' not enough sex?
:eek:

He try to suicide becoz he tired, disappointed and feel helpless to make a change in his life.

He wanted to divorce but he cant becoz he dont want his boy become the victim of unhappy marriage.

He talked to his wife about it but back to square 1 after 1 week.

Sometimes we do hope our life like a game; not happy or stuck somewhere in the stage...we just give up or quit playing. But in reality we just cant....everyday wake up from bed; we still have to face it.

[Johnbass]

He try to suicide becoz he tired, disappointed and feel helpless to make a change in his life.

He wanted to divorce but he cant becoz he dont want his boy become the victim of unhappy marriage.

He talked to his wife about it but back to square 1 after 1 week.

Sometimes we do hope our life like a game; not happy or stuck somewhere in the stage...we just give up or quit playing. But in reality we just cant....everyday wake up from bed; we still have to face it.

OIC.
Seek marriage counsel bah.
Got young kid liao dun think of divorce lah... Very chek ark.
Go outside piak piak maybe will feel better?

[Marlborolgt]

He try to suicide becoz he tired, disappointed and feel helpless to make a change in his life.

He wanted to divorce but he cant becoz he dont want his boy become the victim of unhappy marriage.

He talked to his wife about it but back to square 1 after 1 week.

Sometimes we do hope our life like a game; not happy or stuck somewhere in the stage...we just give up or quit playing. But in reality we just cant....everyday wake up from bed; we still have to face it.

well said!!!
Suicide no lar... just super sian n tire feeling!

[Johnbass]

well said!!!
Suicide no lar... just super sian n tire feeling!

I guess u married young?
If u can pull thru and have more kids, then can look forward to many grandchildren soon.
If not, you'll end up at the other side?
All the best to you.
:)

[takashi2411]

Bro Marlborolgt,

Based on what you posted previously in SBF; it seems you married on 2006, in 2008 still got some hanky panky with your colleagues.

So what the trouble? You got a sweet looking wife (what you described); at least you wont hate looking at her....just no much sex drive between you two. You can always choose to be numb about not able to make love with her....instead be a good husband & dad.

Since you already know; it is useless; after 4 years of effort making her to understand you sexual needs. Then give up and enjoy her as being a good wife who take care the family, cook food for you, be there 4 u when you are sick/sad. I think is ok mah....

Life is short....so enjoy your life while u still can. When you have sexual need, just visit FL,MP...to release/fulfill it. Your wife cant give you then you have to seek elsewhere. This is the truth you have to accept.

[Johnbass]

http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-ways-to-get-your-wife-to-have-sex-with-you.html

Try to see if it works.
Sharing the house chores part works for me.
:D

[strugglefree]

Hi, I'm33 this year, 12 years with my wife, married for 7 years with 2 kids. Sex is scarce as well, lucky if can get once a week but on average 2 times a month. My wife need to be in a totally relaxed place to enjoy the session, hence normally we have it in hotel as if we were having affair. Can't complain much here compared with the worst, but sometimes i wished i can have more like 1-2 times a week. :D

[strugglefree]

Hi all, new here, 33 this year, with my wife for 12 years, married 7 years with 2 kids. Sex is scarce for me, if i am lucky can get once a week otherwise on average 2 times a month. Wife need a totally relaxed place without kids to enjoy the session so normally we check in to at least 4 stars hotel to enjoy (u guys can try going hotels w wife) as if having an affair. Wished i can have 1-2 times a week though. But at the moment cant complain much, wife will feed me when i bug her continuously. Sometimes i wondered if she is having someone outside but from her schedule seems impossible as she is totally busy with her work n kids, she spend her lunch time n afterwork time with me so that is being ruled out. Guys, lets just hope for the best and encourage each other through these difficult times!! haha :D

[Johnbass]

TS thread tio hijacked...
:D

[strugglefree]

first post didnt realise need moderation before can post, thought something had gone wrong hence double posted. sorry for repetition. :p

[chermineng]

first post didnt realise need moderation before can post, thought something had gone wrong hence double posted. sorry for repetition. :p

No worries for double posting.
Im feel dishearted to talk abt it sometime.
Just let it be ... Life is so unpredictable
I couldnt control my life either, we couldnt even find a soulmate to talk about sometime and jus keep everything to ourselves.
But i knew so many of us facing the same problem with our spouse .
It not just abt sex, it just about everything..
It seem that you are doing your thing n im doing my own thing and it jus that we stay under 1 roof. So ....

[Marlborolgt]

No worries for double posting.
Im feel dishearted to talk abt it sometime.
Just let it be ... Life is so unpredictable
I couldnt control my life either, we couldnt even find a soulmate to talk about sometime and jus keep everything to ourselves.
But i knew so many of us facing the same problem with our spouse .
It not just abt sex, it just about everything..
It seem that you are doing your thing n im doing my own thing and it jus that we stay under 1 roof. So ....

TS your quote is so true.

[BongTimesTwo]

I am married too..

is always best to seek a way to release.. ahahah I am almost everyday here..

is not something that you can just blar it out during a conversation with friends...

[chermineng]

I am married too..

is always best to seek a way to release.. ahahah I am almost everyday here..

is not something that you can just blar it out during a conversation with friends...

Sighz ... Life is like that... Sad right

[takashi2411]

chermineng sis,

In this case, would you go outside get yourself sexual pleasured? As I c mostly men who wife dont give them sexual need; they will get elsewhere.

Do you have thought before or just never came across your mind as being a faithful wife and endure like a time bomb till it explode?

[Get1Cow]

It's real sad to see couple suffer from sex after their child is born and to place sex as the last priority in real life.

But don't give up sis, sex drive is just hidden temporary only. Do some soul searching and look into yourself, spend some time daily to think of sex, the pleasure, the enjoyment....soon you will able to unleash your hidden potential ;)

[nuclearkid]

But don't give up sis, sex drive is just hidden temporary only. Do some soul searching and look into yourself, spend some time daily to think of sex, the pleasure, the enjoyment....soon you will able to unleash your hidden potential ;)

Unleash on who? :D

[Get1Cow]

Unleash on who? :D

Ahem....The Chosen One !:p

Think of the intimate moment together, the naked body, the smoothness of the skin, the moaning of each other and the piak piak sound :D:D

[nuclearkid]

Ahem....The Chosen One !:p

Think of the intimate moment together, the naked body, the smoothness of the skin, the moaning of each other and the piak piak sound :D:D

Its quite obvious you are made for the political arena.

[chermineng]

lost interest liao lah ~:D

[lostbird]

Dear Sis, sincerely hope you could get some answer you wanted from here and " therotically" able to relase here.DONT GO PHYSICAL WITH SO CALL SOULMATE / STRANGER..Sure will regret badly.cheers

Wishes you a great weekends ahead and a brand good new year.;)

[chermineng]

Dear Sis, sincerely hope you could get some answer you wanted from here and " therotically" able to relase here.DONT GO PHYSICAL WITH SO CALL SOULMATE / STRANGER..Sure will regret badly.cheers

Wishes you a great weekends ahead and a brand good new year.;)

Thank You Bros for your advice...
You knw what is call Chim Xin anot...

[ah rat]

Thank You Bros for your advice...
You knw what is call Chim Xin anot...

Sis,u already wake Up :D

[chermineng]

Sis,u already wake Up :D

Yeah Bro....
Hows your day ?

[ah rat]

Yeah Bro....
Hows your day ?

Look fine,how yr sex life,any improve from yr husband :D

[lostbird]

Thank You Bros for your advice...
You knw what is call Chim Xin anot...

Oh dear....hope this New year will be better for you ya...
Good health and best wishes..

Regards

[freezetheDB]

gotta get the passion and chemistry back first, not just sex.
Sex will come later, especially once your heart is recharged

[clinton]

Thank You Bros for your advice...
You knw what is call Chim Xin anot...

sis hope u get more chim xin and have better life in 2014, cheers and enjoy your own life :D

[fedomme]

gotta get the passion and chemistry back first, not just sex.
Sex will come later, especially once your heart is recharged

bro feel like chicken and egg question

sex can always comes first, enjoy it while recharging the heart :p:p

[yang punk]

Many husbands complained of drought with wife after a few years of marriage. On the other hand there are also wives who complained that their husband lost interest in them.

Seems strange yah?

As we all know, there are many people with fbs, married or otherwise. So the solution is there. Just go about it with care and caution not to get caught. Problem solved!

[Asia1]

Many husbands complained of drought with wife after a few years of marriage. On the other hand there are also wives who complained that their husband lost interest in them.

Seems strange yah?

As we all know, there are many people with fbs, married or otherwise. So the solution is there. Just go about it with care and caution not to get caught. Problem solved!

bro problem solved, or more problem caused ?

[xiaozhu84]

Just widen your social circle. Take part in your favorite activity and see more people outside.

Life is short and fragile. You would be a dead person if there aren't any peak and valley in life