Disappointed...

[Blaz31234]

Need some advice frm bros n sistas...


Everytime I bring up the topic of sex w my bf, he gets angry/irritated. I know he's not cheating (I hope la huh). Just earlier, I gave him a blowjob, and he shooed me off and told me whether or not he gets one it doesn't matter to him.

So I asked if does he even like sex... Cuz our sex life has been kinda... Well, in the dumps. He said yes, and I was trying to understand what he liked so I could please him more.... And he got angry?! Like what's??? I'm still sitting here feeling confused, what did I do wrong? I asked him gently and said I hope I could do what that'll make him happy and turn him on... And he got worse. Told me to shut it and stop.

For all I know, none if my ex's ever complained abt my blowjobs and even got praised many times so I know I'm doing something right. I ain't a dead fish in bed but this guy just don't seem to want me. :(


It's getting bad cuz I'm turning into a friggin drywell. And all these things he's been saying to me like sex isn't everything, not important, blowjobs he can live without blah blah... It's beginning to turn me off. I'm afraid soon i don't even want to go near him.

Help. What shld I do?

[fictionman]

Drop him sista...He's not intrested anymore

[sammyboyfor]

Help. What shld I do?

Get yourself a new boyfriend.

[sadfa]

Need some advice frm bros n sistas...

Help. What shld I do?

If you been fucking him fine in the past, he is in his 20s n he change suddenly, its a symptom of other problems like he is secretly 2 timing you or he got ED or he is comin out of the closet n cant explain 2 u.

[Tai_zi21]

How long have u been with him already? Is he like this also last time?

My best advice would be just change a new bf! since he doesn't wanna talk abt the problem wat can u do? it takes 2 hand to clap

[sgjoey]

Be thankful he's your bf, not your husband.

The solution is obvious.

Look for a new bf.

[ah rat]

Ts,don't go near him.Leave him alone.Look for new BF that appreaciate yr blow job.Friendly specking I haven't have a good blow job in my life:D

[nextview]

dont worry TS, we have alot of brothers here will appreciate your blowjob :D


whenever you want just post in here, all will que slowly and wait

[Blaz31234]

Thanks everyone.... Some actually managed to make me laugh...

Whole night he slept w his butt facing me.. Almost wanted to kick him off the bed n pretend I was having an nightmare.

First couple of mths the sex was good then subsequently died. We've been tog 7 mths only. Now he doesn't lick me or even squeeze my boobs. (I'm not small either... A good handful w quite a nice body to boot.) my ex and I could bonk every night, loved it when he falls asleep and den I start going down on him until he gets hard and he wakes up blur faced and horny. If I do this to my bf now, he sure smack me in my head and tell me go back slp. Gah!

Yea I also feel it's quite futile now... He's a very good guy but I think this inability to talk part really unacceptable to me too.. Not only in regards to sex. In general, we have nothing to say to each other too...

Yep u are all right! He ain't the one...

[singlicious]

Get yourself a new boyfriend.

I second that.

[singlicious]

blowjobs. hmmm I love them. too bad he doesn't know how to appreciate.

[tlh2]

time to change a new bf... he doesn't know how to appreciate u. Pls find someone who will appreciate u.,

[sexdrive1]

he could be stressed at work that it's difficult for his tool to stand.

When you make sexual advances, he might feel embarrassed to show his weakness down there, hence start to find reason to avoid it.

[alanthedevil]

Did u guys had any arguments or quarrel prior to that? Some times when my partner uses sex to apologise after our quarrel I will turn her away too.. And also make claims that blowjob is no big deal etc

[ddog]

thought moody, petty guys are a total turnoff to female. This kind usually has weak characters + esteem issue

[theDarkness]

he's probably getting sex elsewhere or has a PE or ED problem.

[Big Sexy]

he has grown tired of shagging you.
time for you to look for a new boyfriend


Help. What shld I do?

[wantanabee]

ask him lor and talk it out. What is your age group?

if cant even establish a conversation to understand the problem.... then near hopeless.

he might have problem and wont share due to ego.

[aviery]

Sis, you trolling? Or maybe his utility level has gone so low that having sex with you is such a bore now. I mean no offence but just thinking that how is it possible for a guy to reject blowies from his gf, especially one with a handful of jugs and a body to boot.

Just saying.

[ah rat]

Thanks everyone.... Some actually managed to make me laugh...

Whole night he slept w his butt facing me.. Almost wanted to kick him off the bed n pretend I was having an nightmare.



Sis,U should kick him off the bed :D He stupid idiot,got neh neh to teh & pussy to lick also don't want :D

[bigbrudder]

Maybe ... the b relationship has to move to another level?

Try anal?

[hhlover]

very simple, dump yr bf n come to me... haha
again school holiday time...

[tcrecruit]

Honestly, from guy's perspective that behavior could only mean he's no longer interested in you but maybe hanging on as he got no courage to break off with u. Many reasons as to why it's like this, he's got someone new, or he's feeling too stressed out in the relation... Etc... How I know? Coz I'm in one of such situation now... :-p sure wont mind u blowing me to wake me up.... Cheers..

[pusiliker]

TS
Can you post a pic of your nude body (you can partially censor your face) showing your boobs, pussy and arse...so we can judge whether there is anything undesirable about you physically...just to be fair to your bf! :o

[Kalv]

.. he slept w his butt facing me.. ..First couple of mths the sex was good.. subsequently died. .. tog 7 mths .. Not only .. to sex. In general, we have nothing to say to each other too... .
Good advice from all - change BF. Why still sleeping with him if nothing to talk ? Many in SBF will volunteer for good BBBJ/Sex - :p take your pick.

Could be 2 timing U, got AIDs/STDs , cannot get hard-on / turn-on by U anymore or simply to tired / depressed with ED.

Luckily not married. Talk to him - last chance. Move on if refused.

All the best. :)Cheers.

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[BiRd13]

Thanks everyone.... Some actually managed to make me laugh...

Whole night he slept w his butt facing me.. Almost wanted to kick him off the bed n pretend I was having an nightmare.

First couple of mths the sex was good then subsequently died. We've been tog 7 mths only. Now he doesn't lick me or even squeeze my boobs. (I'm not small either... A good handful w quite a nice body to boot.) my ex and I could bonk every night, loved it when he falls asleep and den I start going down on him until he gets hard and he wakes up blur faced and horny. If I do this to my bf now, he sure smack me in my head and tell me go back slp. Gah!

Yea I also feel it's quite futile now... He's a very good guy but I think this inability to talk part really unacceptable to me too.. Not only in regards to sex. In general, we have nothing to say to each other too...

Yep u are all right! He ain't the one...

Perhaps he's those that can be friend... a good friend... but nothing more... I have many gal friends who's facing the same problem as you... Unable to communicate with their partner... Some meet up can talk for less than 5 sentence... And usually such is due to long time dating...

For your case, sad to say that I agree with most bros that he aren't interested in you anymore... So well... Maybe time to dump him, and find another...

[Jtore44]

Dump him,,,not worthed when not appreciate bj

[Hurricane88]

wonder what's wrong with TS...:confused:

bf should be begging you to have sex and not you trying to please him...anyway, the world has changed or gender females grown powerful...hehe...:p

TS lack of options..then plenty of options here...:p

[acidicavex]

Like all he is bored of u and most probably find sex with u routine n a chore. He is too lazy to tell u want he wants but he expect u to know him n will maybe do something abt it. He just plain lazy such guys are hard to work with on bed. Also dump him before he dump u. Go find someone else that will appreciate your art of fellatio and intercourse skill.

[loneyheart]

He either lost interest in u or cant perform ... bros here r right time to change ... u deserved someone who dot at u

[bochapsing]

ts, if u r disappointed wif ur bf, then the advice is obvious..... :D

if u r disappointed tat ur bf dunno how to appreciate ur bj, then u need not worry, there're many bros here appreciate good bj.... :p

normally only have bf complaining not getting bj, seldom see gf complaining bf dun want her bj.... :confused::o

[Botakhead]

Very obvious that this GF/BF r/s got sumthing wrong here. Sleep on same bed but no sex? Suspicious behaviour, why cannot talk and iron out any problem since together already for 7 months?

A man will be honest and not let a girl who daringly and unselfishly gives head but not appreciated, why? A misunderstanding caused this reactions?

So many ???????? why ? Answer can only be with both of you, but you've already made your 1st move to find out from him, and he does not reciprocate, made this matter getting from worst to worst.

No point in carrying on and find out the truth. Anyway, have you asked yourself why you have ex-bf's? Could the problem really lies with you? This only you know.

But end of the day, if you're looking for ppl to satisfy you sexually and don't mind to have other partners, look no further, samsters here will gladly help you with your needs.

Cheers and wish you happiness. :)

[Devil320]

I had the same experience with an ex gf as well. It is really painful when one party has a high libido while the other just doesn't. Like you, I want more sex in my life! Good luck in finding a guy that can truly appreciate your body!

[kingcon]

Its time u look for another bf or sex relief elsewhere. Also i do wish that i have a chance to verify your blowjob skill. Haha. Await your private message.

[lostbird]

Need some advice frm bros n sistas...


Everytime I bring up the topic of sex w my bf, he gets angry/irritated. I know he's not cheating (I hope la huh). Just earlier, I gave him a blowjob, and he shooed me off and told me whether or not he gets one it doesn't matter to him.

So I asked if does he even like sex... Cuz our sex life has been kinda... Well, in the dumps. He said yes, and I was trying to understand what he liked so I could please him more.... And he got angry?! Like what's??? I'm still sitting here feeling confused, what did I do wrong? I asked him gently and said I hope I could do what that'll make him happy and turn him on... And he got worse. Told me to shut it and stop.

For all I know, none if my ex's ever complained abt my blowjobs and even got praised many times so I know I'm doing something right. I ain't a dead fish in bed but this guy just don't seem to want me. :(


It's getting bad cuz I'm turning into a friggin drywell. And all these things he's been saying to me like sex isn't everything, not important, blowjobs he can live without blah blah... It's beginning to turn me off. I'm afraid soon i don't even want to go near him.

Help. What shld I do?

Sis, it seem to me that your "Love story" ended....

Look for another boy friend ya...let it be...lives still go on, dont be sad.

[Blaz31234]

thanks for all the advice.

i guess i'll wait it out for a little while and decide. after the argument, he compensated on sunday morning. at least he's making an effort.

i think the most jialat time i had with him was when we wanted to have sex, (we showered tog and all) den came out of the bathroom, he told me to wait, went to make tea den chatted with his siblings, den came to the room ask me wait summore and fiddled with his laptop to catch up on football news, facebook and i got frustrated. the heat of the moment was completely lost. i told him the and he was said super irritatedly "you cannot wait meh? we will still do it, only later what..."
OMG WAIT WHAT! i already wanna pounce and rape you, u tell me to waaaaait?!?! needless to say, he got pissed off, no action that night. things only get worse when i try to address the problem. :( this dont only happen in sex, our arguments always start when i try to address the issue and he tells me if i didn't bring it up it was never a problem with him. its taking a toll trying to make this work.

anyway, im in my late twenties and my bf is turning 40 next year.
does age mellow the sex down for guys????

do you guys/ladies still french your partners after being together for awhile? i really miss it with him.

[localguylor]

Hi sis Blaz31234,

After getting so much advice from sbf.
Are you still kicking his butt at night?

[Teo Ken]

The only conclusion maybe his into guy. Sister move on you are still young many mans and guys out willing to do as much as you wish.

[localguylor]

anyway, im in my late twenties and my bf is turning 40 next year.
does age mellow the sex down for guys????

do you guys/ladies still french your partners after being together for awhile? i really miss it with him.


For me i dun like to french but i know my partner like it. So I still french lor.
For mellow sex down for guy. Slightly lor.

[hermit1313]

think this guy trying to complicate matters... got gf trying to please him say sex is not everything... guess this guy have to look for gals who is like a dead fish in bed lar....

[alec]

Try giving him cold treatment for 1-2mths if still no reaction... then ask urself about hw u still feel about him and if u think being intimate is a v impt thing, i strongly suggest u move on... wah lau... he nt e ONLY guy on earth k... i'm sure alot of bros like mi will v appreciate what our gals will do just to please us...

[hornyhubby]

sis,

I am older than your husband and my wife is of yr age. we make love every night.

You are in to him and he is not in to you....that is it !

Or like what bros here say....he has ED or STD so has to keep you away

hope all will be well for you sis

[nobodyid]

Maybe due to his age and he is less active in sex..? Or he ald cmi anymore..?
It's always good to find someone your age for a healthier sex live..

I'm in my late twenties.. Haha..

[dellmarble]

From another female's point of view, he's just not into you anymore but he has no balls to call it quits

No matter what my ex-bfs were suffering from, be it ED or PE, they would deeply appreciate a blowjob. ANYTIME.
And no matter how staunch they are in their religious belief, if they had done it once, they'll gladly do it again.

No men that I know doesn't love sex.

So, pls drop him and find another man. There are so many out there!

[mcyeoh]

Get yourself a new boyfriend.
and you should fuck yourself

[Botakhead]

Chances are he lost interest with you, better to back out before it is too late.

[tikosiao1]

thanks for all the advice.

anyway, im in my late twenties and my bf is turning 40 next year.
does age mellow the sex down for guys????

do you guys/ladies still french your partners after being together for awhile? i really miss it with him.

Wow I will like a girl to go down on me any time, but I think yeah age could play a part or he simply finding harder to get it "on"?

If sex is not the only issue and you got problem communicating, then I say it is time to move on... it should be both side appreciating each other, wanting each other...

Relationship is not a one way traffic.

[sadfa]

thanks for all the advice.

i guess i'll wait it out for a little while and decide. after the argument, he compensated on sunday morning. at least he's making an effort.

anyway, im in my late twenties and my bf is turning 40 next year.
does age mellow the sex down for guys????

He sian of you la!

Even if he is in his 50s, if you are hot and he is attracted 2 u, he will still want 2 fuck you and not want to waste time before fucking you.

It simply means fucking you is a chore 2 him!

[SomeGuy_sg]

MMmmm..... No normal guy turns down a blowjob :P May be he is having some problems. That is why he is always so defensive when you try to bring it up. It would be really hard for a guy to bring it up to his gf/wife. You could try what Alex mention, to ignore him for a month or two. And see what his reaction is.

Any ways, try to stick it out as best you can. If it really does not work out, then maybe parting ways is better. All the best, hope it all works out.



Just Some Guy

[jemyt]

Like many have said, he sian of you already in bed, and he may be eating outside, also cannot rule out he may have lose interest in sex due to certain personal problem. If he does not seem your cup of tea anymore, just have a new one, glad to know he is not your husband, only bf. Good luck, wish your problems solved soon.

[aafucker]

Thanks everyone.... Some actually managed to make me laugh...

Whole night he slept w his butt facing me.. Almost wanted to kick him off the bed n pretend I was having an nightmare.


Yep u are all right! He ain't the one...

looks like he is gay, female site and want his butt hole to be used by u :D:D

[sounding]

He lack of confidence. As you told about his age. He might afriad of couldn't satisfy you as he know you are quite high sex drive. Relationship doesn't just on sex. Caring, concern & communication it the key to get it last long.

[funnyman9899]

Need some advice frm bros n sistas...


Everytime I bring up the topic of sex w my bf, he gets angry/irritated. I know he's not cheating (I hope la huh). Just earlier, I gave him a blowjob, and he shooed me off and told me whether or not he gets one it doesn't matter to him.

So I asked if does he even like sex... Cuz our sex life has been kinda... Well, in the dumps. He said yes, and I was trying to understand what he liked so I could please him more.... And he got angry?! Like what's??? I'm still sitting here feeling confused, what did I do wrong? I asked him gently and said I hope I could do what that'll make him happy and turn him on... And he got worse. Told me to shut it and stop.

For all I know, none if my ex's ever complained abt my blowjobs and even got praised many times so I know I'm doing something right. I ain't a dead fish in bed but this guy just don't seem to want me. :(


It's getting bad cuz I'm turning into a friggin drywell. And all these things he's been saying to me like sex isn't everything, not important, blowjobs he can live without blah blah... It's beginning to turn me off. I'm afraid soon i don't even want to go near him.

Help. What shld I do?

Confirm he doesn't love you anymore as you are not even appealing to him. Maybe he still wants to keep you but deep in him, he doesn't have any more feelings with you. That's my opinion.

[Rickey]

From another female's point of view, he's just not into you anymore but he has no balls to call it quits

No matter what my ex-bfs were suffering from, be it ED or PE, they would deeply appreciate a blowjob. ANYTIME.
And no matter how staunch they are in their religious belief, if they had done it once, they'll gladly do it again.

No men that I know doesn't love sex.
So, pls drop him and find another man. There are so many out there!
Wow, wat an emphatic n strong statement frm the sis abt men n sex...but yes, quite agree wif her, believe it is almost 100% true...however as in anything else in tis world, there is no 100% though...there could be tat 1 or 2 odd ones out (may be 0.001%) who may hv got low libido or LSD due to some problems only best known to themselves if they dun wan to share wat they are...

[angel_baby]

Seriously, don't waste anymore time on him le.
i'm sure u can find someone better.. :)

even how old the guy is, if he really is serious abt u and loves you, he won't want to do it with u meh? I don't think there will be a guy like that. the equation doesn't go, older = less sex leh. i know of older guys in their 50s still damm horny.. lolx...

[V4victory]

find some one else sis

[btblue8]

To be fair to the boyfriend, this is only one side of the story. On the surface it looks like everyone has concluded with similar opinions.
On the other hand, the fact that you are turning to a forum for advice means that you are possibly looking for a way to salvage this. That would mean that this person means something more to you. I think it is worthwhile to spend some time addressing perhaps some insecurities he may have. If I were 40 and had a beautiful highly sexed girlfriend more than a decade younger than me, I would feel pressured perhaps. I might also need to find ways to be assertive, to feel like I am the one "wearing the pants". Dig a little deeper and be patient if you care about him. If not, then you can go with what everyone is saying. My 2¢, no offense to anyone.

[DEVILOFALLDEVIL]

Ts best is to have a good talk with ur bf & try to understand is he in any form of stress or problems. Small issue may lead to big issue if never solve in time. If he keep on ignore your question or action abuse to hit u when he get annoyed then better kick him to "Holland" once & for all out of ur world. :eek:

How can a guy don't love solid BJ as it most guys favourite in terms. With a handful boobs to enjoy & love & your +++ point is hyper sex that u will bounce on ur bf anytime with surprise adventure.

From my point of view, this adventure of high sex drive of urs, I will surely link to hyper outdoor surprise sex adventure. :) surely a nap shot :p thumb up if it happens.

Don't let cooling down period take too long as once it frozen want to ice break it or melt it will be too late. Solve the issue while it still hot & warm before it dies out.

Action speaks louder then words :rolleyes:

Take care cheers

[Darky7946]

Hi,I'm a guy who just broke off with my gf of 8yrs. We enjoyed a lot intimate times before and we really did lots of kinky stuff before like in a spa couple room after treatment.The reason I got turn off by her is because I got jealous.
I was busy with work last 2yrs and she went drinking alot. Even though she din do anything to betray me, I just couldn't expressed my unhappiness with the drinking session.
I not saying that u drank or something. Perhaps you can just ask him to sit down and ask.
All the best

[lifeisshort7]

Cheer up lady, life is too short to get disappointed by this man. U know deep inside what u have to do, and so many bros here already seconded your action. Just do it before u waste more time. Like I always say, life is very short, njoy while u can. Cheers.

[Codylm]

Age is a thing. And who got high sex you or him, lastly is cannot always at the same place.room getting boring. N do you buy any sexy clothes to attract him, If you can ask to try outdoor sex , can try new things out. Remember to inform SBF bros out there which outdoor you going , sure some of them will go see. Go look look for u. Hahahahaha

[Botakhead]

Time to try dating SBF samsters. :D

[whooi]

come i teach u how to make him happy

[packardbell]

come i teach u how to make him happy

seem like oni bro here talking.......she MIA..