GF pregnant, seeking advice

[sggentleman]

Hi bros,

the test is positive. After sitting down & discussing together, we both agreed we are not ready for a child and decided for abortion/TOP. The pregnancy is still in early stage.

Main consideration as of now, she's a work permit holder & will want to continue working here. Main worries now is if going thru legal abortion in clinics or hospital in sg (found out its legal for wp to get TOP in sg) would get her reported to mom/employer or affect her work permit status in anyway.

Any bros with experiences/knowledge, or clinic recommendations care to share please?

thanks

[FBTSS]

Hi bros,

the test is positive. After sitting down & discussing together, we both agreed we are not ready for a child and decided for abortion/TOP. The pregnancy is still in early stage.

Main consideration as of now, she's a work permit holder & will want to continue working here. Main worries now is if going thru legal abortion in clinics or hospital in sg (found out its legal for wp to get TOP in sg) would get her reported to mom/employer or affect her work permit status in anyway.

Any bros with experiences/knowledge, or clinic recommendations care to share please?

thanks

TS...

No issue with garment or MOM. My previous gf also permit holder. Done it legally at a clinic.
And that was 6 years ago. permit has been renewed few times.

[SnowLeopards]

Hi bros,

the test is positive. After sitting down & discussing together, we both agreed we are not ready for a child and decided for abortion/TOP. The pregnancy is still in early stage.

It is such a irony. With a nick like yours, you got a lady pregnant. Responsibility mate. Responsibility.

Pierre.

[porscheclub]

If u r not ready for a child, why did u get her pregnant in the 1st place?
:confused:

Too late to hammer him now. If both of you can live with an abortion then do it, otherwise let her put up the baby for adoption but min 12-15months downtime before she can come back to work again. So you must support her.

Some docs refuse to do abortion because it is taking a life away akin to murder.

[Skarlett0]

Haiz... Cannot reconsider? So sad.. Another life lost due lack of condom use.

[Wintermelontea]

Which nationality is your gf?

If Malaysian, I can help you. Maybe the clinic will help with other nationalities too. No promise.

Please wear a condom next time ya? Bashing you now is useless. Educating you to the point of understanding should help.

After gf's abortion, please give her as much tonic foodstuff to get her health back. Also shower her with your undivided n endless love.

[JohnbassIII]

It is such a irony. With a nick like yours, you got a lady pregnant. Responsibility mate. Responsibility.

Pierre.

You must be an animal then .

Grow up .:)

[collin_23]

Pls think twice . A better solution is to marry her , raise your child up . After she give birth , she can still go back to work . If u go for Taoist ' guan luo yin ' , travel to underworld , there is an area where a very large amount of aborted fetuses are gathered , sorted according to months before carried to term , before being aborted . Very sad when u see them soaked to neck in blood pools . Do consider raise the child up . U can always ask your family for help , also can ask minister of parliament for help . But as she is a work permit holder , do check first whether she able to continue stay here for long , or unable to travel .

[iluvbreast]

Too late to hammer him now. If both of you can live with an abortion then do it, otherwise let her put up the baby for adoption but min 12-15months downtime before she can come back to work again. So you must support her.

Some docs refuse to do abortion because it is taking a life away akin to murder.

Agreed, support the gal.

To TS: it is your decision on this matter, but please don't walk away from her no matter how you decide, she's your gf, not some ONS or WL that you were not thinking when you bonk without protection. Abortion is very damaging to the lady's physical and mental health so please support her.

[nextview]

dumb ass.

marry her you stupid asshole

[archer69]

TS got no balls, even big head is empty.

[Skarlett0]

It is rather obvious that the girl is not whom he wants to settle down with.

[karoosel]

Here is a link that may help you:

http://sg.theasianparent.com/abortion_in_singapore/

TS, a fetus/baby is not like a stain that you can wash away and forget about. Maybe *you* can forget about it eventually once you get tired of the girl and dump her like you plan to dump the baby, but seldom does it happen that the girl ever will forget. There's a chance that this will scar her for life.

There's a mandatory counselling before abortion is performed, perhaps you can join your girl in counselling and hopefully you will learn something.

[JTSK]

TS

Would you feel bad to absorb the Baby?

[observer85]

It's alway sad to see this kinda of thing happen..
When u are enjoying urself having sex, do u think of the result after it? Now that it happen, how could u just try to shake off ur responsible ?
The child is ur own child for goodness sake!! It's a life u and ur gf created, and u 2 have the 责任to rise and protect it, no?
Pls be like a man, do what u have to do and take full responsible for it, not just find the easiest way out :(

[skaa]

Dear TS, it is not easy to raise a child if you are financially challenged now but it does not mean that the situation will not improve. Nor does it mean that you and your GF will be unhappy because of this. Even in SG, there are families on social assistance but it does not mean that they are downtrodden.

If you could use this as a motivation to work harder and strive harder, you could make a better life for your GF, baby and yourself. Abortion is just a way of running away from your responsibilities. Will you be man enough to make a tougher decision to keep the baby?