lost interest in having sex with gf

[cgfreak]

fellow samster,

I'm in a dillema here, I've been with my gf for nearly 2 years now. but recently, I seemed to have lost interest in having sex with her. I don't know why exactly, I never seemed to lost interest with doing it with my ex before, but with my current, we seems to be doing it less and less. now maybe just once or twice a month.

Is it some symptoms that I don't really love my gf anymore? she does makes advances on me, but I usually just don't have the mood for it. and she always complains I can't sextify her anyway.

any bros have a similar problem?

:(
desperately need advice here.

[asdfghjkl]

bro.. think u are upset by her remarks.. u felt threatened by her experience? :o

[Cyberspace Nerd]

maybe she always choot the same pattern , so u sianzzzz? :confused:

[cgfreak]

sigh, maybe, coz she always insist on being on top. and if I try doing other pattern, she says pain. she's always dry, I try to finger her first, but she also complain dun wan, and say I'm rough on her. so ended up always one style only. then after I come and she can't come, then complain I am not good. :mad:
really fed up sometimes, sien.

what can I do to convince her, maybe try other positions, she might like it better?

[Cyberspace Nerd]

sigh, maybe, coz she always insist on being on top. and if I try doing other pattern, she says pain. she's always dry, I try to finger her first, but she also complain dun wan, and say I'm rough on her. so ended up always one style only. then after I come and she can't come, then complain I am not good. :mad:
really fed up sometimes, sien.

what can I do to convince her, maybe try other positions, she might like it better?

bro, a dilemma indeed.
since she dont like your finger, how about try using your tongue?
when she is dry and you finger her, of course not comfortable. try applying saliva or lubricant then u finger, the feeling is different.
maybe you can try to satisfy her first before you satisfy yourself?

maybe u can try watching porn and then suggest the position to her?

[baby]

sigh, maybe, coz she always insist on being on top. and if I try doing other pattern, she says pain. she's always dry, I try to finger her first, but she also complain dun wan, and say I'm rough on her. so ended up always one style only. then after I come and she can't come, then complain I am not good. :mad:
really fed up sometimes, sien.

what can I do to convince her, maybe try other positions, she might like it better?

Well bro u can try buying some sex toy to excite ur sex life. But if not u can buy KY to put on her n try for other pattern. Next is lick her clit n finger her n some girls like tht alot. Hope this help. Cheers ;)

[sanmateo]

Maybe there is really no more excitement in your sex life anymore hence the lost of interest. You need to be more creative on bed then! :D

[metaldag]

sigh, maybe, coz she always insist on being on top. and if I try doing other pattern, she says pain. she's always dry, I try to finger her first, but she also complain dun wan, and say I'm rough on her. so ended up always one style only. then after I come and she can't come, then complain I am not good. :mad:
really fed up sometimes, sien.

what can I do to convince her, maybe try other positions, she might like it better?
Take it easy, try 2 find opportunity 2 talk 2 her n sort things out instead of jus guessing on ur part.......gd luck then :)

[crazysexycool]

brother

Its time like this when goin down to a s3x shop to get some books really
help

I am 100% sure some of the bros here have bought them

Learn some and share some wif her, dont tell her everything

The basic secret to substaining a sexual immortality to your relation is to be creative

Buying some toys or kinky stuff sometimes goes a long way for her, tho not all women feel the same way

ask her what her fantasies are and work on them NOT ard them

All girls need love b4 giving u s3x (for GFs or wifes, not professionals)

the above and maybe more from the prev posts will go a long long way to improve the quality and interest

cheers

[jjdoggie]

I think at least half of use will tend to lose interest with his gf after sometime. Seems yr gf only likes 1 style, well there are several ways doing it.

1)Get some vcds to watch, preferable different positions to entice here and make her wet.
2)if u have a computer, great, feel up yr harddisk with porns and pictures to increase her interests.
3)drinking always helps regardless of wine, cocktails or alcohol then to sex....
4)chat with her nively, compliment her, eg: i'd love to see yr expression in this and that, wqanna make u wet.etc..
5)food,fruits and desserts can more spice to yr life...
6)Sex toys always helps.....
7)like what other bro tells u, Fantasy always helps, every1 of us will have fantasies...
:D

[HorseD77]

Bro - try to make her feels good either by giving her oral, and more importantly, you need to make her wet.... if not surely it will be painful for her.

Learn to see her body language and if possible sextisfy her first b4 you release yourself. It must be hard for her not to have the sexual release & i am sure she must have consider carefully b4 telling you that you have not sextisfy her.... not easy for a gal to tell a guy, esp from gf to bf.

[tittyhawk]

fellow samster,

desperately need advice here.
Perhaps its the mindset that is playing the tricks?

[KL_boy]

If she is dry bro..Try more fore play. ELse u might wanna try this medication.

TOPAZE- If u are in Malaysia..It is a product by HOE pharmaceuticals.

[venture]

i also lost interest in my gf.....i think i hav too much chicken rice.....once awhile must eat duck rice or noddle....that the solution...i suppose.. :o

[thaivisitor]

fellow samster,

I'm in a dillema here, I've been with my gf for nearly 2 years now. but recently, I seemed to have lost interest in having sex with her.
i also lost interest in my gf.....i think i hav too much chicken rice.....once awhile must eat duck rice or noddle....that the solution...i suppose..
Lost interest in having sex with your girlfriends?

I don't think there's really any cause for concern. I'm sure your girlfriends will be able to find someone who will be interested in having sex with them lah...

Does the above statement hurts? Sure it does.

It takes 2 hands to clap, so it takes both to enjoy having sex, and when one loses interest, mind you, so does the other.

I suggest you sit down with your respective partners and have a heart to heart talk. Although there are many suggestions given by fellow bros, it still won't work if your partner don't agree to them.

thaivisitor

[tokkon1]

fellow samster,

I'm in a dillema here, I've been with my gf for nearly 2 years now. but recently, I seemed to have lost interest in having sex with her. desperately need advice here.

Read this article, may prove helpful to you (No credit to me, I just cut and paste):

Sexual Desire Disorder

Provided by Psychology Today
Definition

Lack of sexual interest.

Symptoms

Communication problems
lack of affection not associated with continuing into sexual intercourse
power struggles
lack of time alone together
A very restrictive upbringing concerning sex, or negative or traumatic sexual experiences
Physical illnesses and some medications
Psychological conditions such as depression and excessive stress may inhibit sexual interest
Fatigue
Individuals who were victims of childhood sexual abuse or rape, and persons whose marriages are lacking in emotional intimacy are particularly at risk

Causes
Factors, possibly stresses at home, work, or school, are involved in its onset.

Treatment
The majority of the time, medical evaluation and lab tests will not reveal a physical cause. However, testosterone is the hormone responsible for creating sexual desire in both men and women. It may be useful to check testosterone levels, particularly in men who have ISD. Blood for such lab tests in men should be drawn before 10:00 a.m., when male hormone levels are at their highest. Interviews with a specialist in sex therapy are more likely to reveal possible causes.

Treatment must be individualized to the factors that may be inhibiting sexual interest. Some couples will need relationship enhancement work or marital therapy prior to focusing directly on enhancing sexual activity.

Some couples will need to be taught skills in conflict resolution and be helped to work through differences in nonsexual areas.

Many couples will also need direct focus on the sexual relationship wherein through education and couple assignments they expand the variety and time devoted to sexual activity.

When problems with sexual arousal or performance are factors, these sexual dysfunctions will need to be addressed.

Prevention

One major way of preventing ISD is to reserve time for nonsexual intimacy with one's partner. Couples who reserve weekly talk time and time for a weekly date alone without the kids, will maintain a closer relationship and are more likely to feel sexual interest. Couples should also detach sex and affection, so that neither one is afraid to be affectionate on a daily basis, fearing that it will be interpreted as an invitation to proceed to intercourse.

Reading books or taking courses in couple communication, or reading books about massage may also encourage feelings of closeness. For some individuals, reading novels or viewing movies with romantic or sexual content may also serve to encourage sexual desire.

For too many couples, sex gets what is left over late at night. Regularly reserving "prime time," before exhaustion sets in, for both talking and sexual intimacy will encourage closeness and sexual desire.

When both partners have low sexual desire, the issue of sexual interest level will not be problematic in the relationship. Low sexual desire, however, may be a barometer of the emotional health of the relationship. In other cases where there is an excellent and loving relationship, low sexual desire may cause a partner to repeatedly feel hurt and rejected, leading to eventual feelings of resentment and promoting eventual emotional distance.

Sex is something that, for most couples, either bonds their relationship closer together, or something that becomes a wedge that gradually drives them apart. When one partner is significantly less interested in sex than their companion, and this has become a source of conflict and friction, it is recommended that professional help is needed before the relationship becomes further strained.

[Adam77]

Hi,

Me thinks u should stop for a while and romance her. :)
Yes. U read.
Stop for a while. Things are too routine already.

Like in sports, we have a cooling down period and a high period. We shift to hi gear when Events in a few months time. This is important as the body cannot sustain at hi level ALL year round. It will be broken.

Hope this helps u brother.
And get married lah. Maybe she is trying to tell u to commit yourself to her.

Hmmm... interesting thot actually. :D
I amaze myself soemtimes .. hmmm

[jrbecker99]

[QUOTE=cgfreak]sigh, maybe, coz she always insist on being on top. she's always dry, say I'm rough on her. so ended up always one style only. then after I come and she can't come, then complain I am not good. :mad:
really fed up QUOTE]

sounds like u are not spending enough time on foreplay. she is dry etc. hi go down on her and eat her. dont stop keep eating. u know where her clit is. use your wet soft tongue. she will love u for it. u can tell when she cums but dont stop.

take vitamin zinc supplements at least 25mg daily. if this doesnt get you horny nothing will.

if u are using your fingers to stimulate the clit make sure your nails are cut. shrap nails give her pain. no wonder hse is dry and in pain.

if this doesnt work go to geylang get a wl to show u how to turn on your gf. not joking. get her to show u how to use your fingers and mouth.

good luck

jebecker99