a just married woman's woes

[kimmykim]

my husband and i are married for less than a year and our age gap is ten nine years. i will use his phone from time to time for games and some other stuff from time to time. i have the habit of closing the apps after using.

so yesterday i saw him having the wechat app while deleting my games apps as usual and i was curious so i went to the app. i was surprised to see sexy women wearing skimpy clothes with their phone numbers and location written on their page, asking people to find them at geylang. i was very shocked and angry at the same time but i din't confront or ask him. after that i downloaded wechat and tried finding the username but i cant. did he add them on his own or?

idm my husband watching porn or viewing sexual websites because i unds men have needs and its normal. but somehow i just feel very uncomfortable and uneasy. for the record our relationship is very healthy and normal.

what should i do and what can i do? any advises? please help as i have no one else to turn to....

[ceejay]

my husband and i are married for less than a year and our age gap is ten nine years. i will use his phone from time to time for games and some other stuff from time to time. i have the habit of closing the apps after using.

so yesterday i saw him having the wechat app while deleting my games apps as usual and i was curious so i went to the app. i was surprised to see sexy women wearing skimpy clothes with their phone numbers and location written on their page, asking people to find them at geylang. i was very shocked and angry at the same time but i din't confront or ask him. after that i downloaded wechat and tried finding the username but i cant. did he add them on his own or?

idm my husband watching porn or viewing sexual websites because i unds men have needs and its normal. but somehow i just feel very uncomfortable and uneasy. for the record our relationship is very healthy and normal.

what should i do and what can i do? any advises? please help as i have no one else to turn to....

Having those in his phone does not mean much - it's just like u surfed this forum and forgot to delete history.

Unless you caught him red handed with the women, you should either have a straight talk with him or forget about what u found and move on.

My 2 cents worth.

[a2014]

idm my husband watching porn or viewing sexual websites because i unds men have needs and its normal. but somehow i just feel very uncomfortable and uneasy. for the record our relationship is very healthy and normal.

what should i do and what can i do? any advises?
What do you want to do then ? You have not see anything unusual with him right.

If a wife like you, this cannot that cannot, I think one day the marriage really cannot. Then you will post here complaining he cannot.

I can only say "If you continue to behave like this, I think your marriage really cannot make it to old age".

[Greendevil]

[QUOTE=kimmykim;12317515]my husband and i are married for less than a year and our age gap is ten nine years.

age gap is 10 nine year = 10 x 9 = 90yrs

[yang punk]

Secret for a happy marriage...give him sex every night, put him to sleep with a bj and wake him in the morning with another bj!

That would ensure he remains faithful to you. :D

[ianlim]

You may have the answer yourself, are you giving him good sex or you just making love to him as an obligation as a wife? My personal opinion is that if both of you have good sex and do it often then the other half will not or will have lower chance to look for it outside.

[demonhunter]

Dear TS , the only prevention is like how the Doctors prescribe the meds ...

3 times a day .. drain your hubby off that his balls are gona ache so bad whenever he has an erection !!!

:D

[noobie77]

i) close 1 eye
ii) go find fb and have fun. eye for an eye
iii) find PI get evidence and file for divorce and get money first

make sure he does not have a mistress. recently papers came out this man left the proceeds of the house to his brother and mistress. wife fought in court and lost.

[Calddy]

Secret for a happy marriage...give him sex every night, put him to sleep with a bj and wake him in the morning with another bj!

That would ensure he remains faithful to you. :D


I like yr suggestion... U will make the better marriage counsellor around...

[IwantbustyKim]

Secret for a happy marriage...give him sex every night, put him to sleep with a bj and wake him in the morning with another bj!

That would ensure he remains faithful to you. :D

WOW...that is an excellent plan....dun even have a gf...but if some girl do that for me... i will be sibei one pussy man...

[porscheclub]

Hey how did you know about Sammyboy then? ;)

Alright, if you're in a great relationship with him then just ask him over, open the app & review the gals with him together. Be open to him, telling him you have no problem with his porn but remember to add you along & you guys might just have better sex after this :p

[lancerlution2]

My advise is there are times where your hubby request a BJ from u, give. There r times where he wants to hug u from behind and caress u, allow it. There r times where he wants a quickie out of the blue moon, give. There r times where he's lazing ard, give him a surprise by licking his nip or even a BJ. Dun reject him saying tired la no mood la blah blah blah. Men gets turn off.
Make him happy he will know where home is.

Just my 2 cents worth.
Thks

[pussylicious12345]

my husband and i are married for less than a year and our age gap is ten nine years. i will use his phone from time to time for games and some other stuff from time to time. i have the habit of closing the apps after using.

so yesterday i saw him having the wechat app while deleting my games apps as usual and i was curious so i went to the app. i was surprised to see sexy women wearing skimpy clothes with their phone numbers and location written on their page, asking people to find them at geylang. i was very shocked and angry at the same time but i din't confront or ask him. after that i downloaded wechat and tried finding the username but i cant. did he add them on his own or?

idm my husband watching porn or viewing sexual websites because i unds men have needs and its normal. but somehow i just feel very uncomfortable and uneasy. for the record our relationship is very healthy and normal.

what should i do and what can i do? any advises? please help as i have no one else to turn to....

Cfm ur hubby is up to no good. U can learn all the dirty stuff we men do in this forum :-) welcome to the dark world.....

[FatSpider]

better go hiv check :p

[NRider]

Ts Welcome to SBF :cool:

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[kimmykim]

Thanks guys for the reply regardless of sarcastic or constructive.

Anw theres some typo errors: my husband and my age gap is nine years old and I downloaded the wechat app on my phone after he slept to try and find the girls but was unable to. Thus I was confused whether he saved the contacts on his own or not.

[4getful]

If u found out he cheats on u, then u also cheat on him la. Can msg me anytime, i am ready to be one of your fb.:D
Stick back to topic, have u ask yourself what answer u want? U want divorce, u want revenge or u want to install wechat? If u cannot handle the truth, the best solution is close one eye. If u cannot close one eye, here got many hungry sex deprive energiser who nv say die to serve you whenever u need revenge. Do come here often n u will know guys here aint bad guys except cock always itchy.:D

[tnuc]

i can confirm he has fucked those prc women. so chio, which guy can resist?

PM me if u need a dick :D i'll oblige any of ur requests

[R32wanfun]

Secret for a happy marriage...give him sex every night, put him to sleep with a bj and wake him in the morning with another bj!

That would ensure he remains faithful to you. :D

Its everyman's dream

[noobie77]

Hi TS, apologise if i apear to be impolite. What are ur vital stats, height and weight and how would you rate yourself in the looks dept?

[rtmFRs]

my husband and i are married for less than a year and our age gap is ten nine years. i will use his phone from time to time for games and some other stuff from time to time. i have the habit of closing the apps after using.

so yesterday i saw him having the wechat app while deleting my games apps as usual and i was curious so i went to the app. i was surprised to see sexy women wearing skimpy clothes with their phone numbers and location written on their page, asking people to find them at geylang. i was very shocked and angry at the same time but i din't confront or ask him. after that i downloaded wechat and tried finding the username but i cant. did he add them on his own or?

idm my husband watching porn or viewing sexual websites because i unds men have needs and its normal. but somehow i just feel very uncomfortable and uneasy. for the record our relationship is very healthy and normal.

what should i do and what can i do? any advises? please help as i have no one else to turn to....

my 5cents worth of bull

You should consider the consequences of knowing too much FIRST before getting into it
what's the use of digging if you cannot take the consequences of negative reaction

the trick is to keep him enjoying the relationship
anyway, You did not get into this relationship to scrutinize it in the first place

selected ignorance is bliss and contributes to a happy relationship

[roymkt]

Well, if he's on this forum, he's up to no good.

[Laolucas]

It takes 2 hands to clap in a relationship.

Take a step back and think if there were instances where your husband wanted a simple hug or a kiss on your cheeks yet was rejected. Or simply where there had been a lack of communication between you and him.

Or just simply, your husband previously had been finding other ladies to satisfy his inner desires before marriage and even today his most inner desires can only still be satisfied by other ladies and not yourself.

I find that many times, sg ladies fail to keep their man because they don't know how to satisfy their man in the psychological and emotional aspect, whereas ladies from other countries do.

But of course, with me saying this, you must want to repair the marriage. Else, just get a divorce if you can't accept him for who he is now.

[iron56]

hi Kim,

here's what i think:

in order to have the contacts in wechat, he probably surfed this forum, and added the contacts which he found here or from websites offering sexual services. it is very unlikely that he could find the contacts from the wechat app itself or that the contacts mysteriously appeared on his account on their own.

on the other hand, since you have only been married less than a year, he may already have added these contacts long before you got married. he may not even be contacting them at all.

in this case, do consider 'what's past, is past.' i suggest not to bring it up because he trusted you with his phone and you should trust him too. looking up his personal chats without his permission breaks that trust and as you know, trust takes years to rebuild.

i can certainly assure you that most men will not want fuck around elsewhere if their wives satisfy them. regular sex will empty him of his seed and any desire for fornication from his head. it's biology. if his dick is hard, help him soften it in the nicest way possible.

faithfully fucking him will keep him fucking you faithfully. cheers :)

[kimmykim]

To put it superficially, I am not very bad looking. Petite and according to my hubby, I am the kind of type he likes.

Anw like I'd said, idm him watching porn because i know it's very normal. I don't comdemn as well. I mean come on, who doesn't? I also don't restrict his freedom. We are generally leading a healthy and happy relationship but with this finding on his phone, I am at a lost and idk what can I do. Thus coming to this forum seems to be a good choice since there are more men here and seemingly know what a man thinks and want.

Also, for the record, he just downloaded wechat because previously he don't have this app on his phone.

[4getful]

TS, so have you found out the truth yet? What you gonna do? Divorce, seperate, close one eye, forgive n forget, install wechat n start fucking men or go duck shop? Do let us know ok.

[pussylicious12345]

To put it superficially, I am not very bad looking. Petite and according to my hubby, I am the kind of type he likes.

Anw like I'd said, idm him watching porn because i know it's very normal. I don't comdemn as well. I mean come on, who doesn't? I also don't restrict his freedom. We are generally leading a healthy and happy relationship but with this finding on his phone, I am at a lost and idk what can I do. Thus coming to this forum seems to be a good choice since there are more men here and seemingly know what a man thinks and want.

Also, for the record, he just downloaded wechat because previously he don't have this app on his phone.

I'm sure he is still in love u, but that doesn't mean he won't go ard piaking other girls :-) men can separate fcuk from love... We can fcuk ard outside, but still hope to have a happy family.

Isn't that amazing?

[noobie77]

what you deemed healthy may not be sufficient for him. maybe he has fantasies that you do not fulfill.

do you go down on him? dress a little bit more provocative like sexy nighties? flirt with him?

To put it superficially, I am not very bad looking. Petite and according to my hubby, I am the kind of type he likes.

Anw like I'd said, idm him watching porn because i know it's very normal. I don't comdemn as well. I mean come on, who doesn't? I also don't restrict his freedom. We are generally leading a healthy and happy relationship but with this finding on his phone, I am at a lost and idk what can I do. Thus coming to this forum seems to be a good choice since there are more men here and seemingly know what a man thinks and want.

Also, for the record, he just downloaded wechat because previously he don't have this app on his phone.

[4getful]

To put it superficially, I am not very bad looking. Petite and according to my hubby, I am the kind of type he likes.

Anw like I'd said, idm him watching porn because i know it's very normal. I don't comdemn as well. I mean come on, who doesn't? I also don't restrict his freedom. We are generally leading a healthy and happy relationship but with this finding on his phone, I am at a lost and idk what can I do. Thus coming to this forum seems to be a good choice since there are more men here and seemingly know what a man thinks and want.

Also, for the record, he just downloaded wechat because previously he don't have this app on his phone.

You want to know what a man think and want, so you create an account here? Frankly, i can tell you, in this world nobody will tell you the truth. Those who told the truth, are already charge for slander or libel if written in words, n are inside the jail. Ask yourself how many men you had slept with before, none or many? Will the husband mind, Yes or no? He will never tell the truth, U will never know the truth, so why bother to know.

[Laolucas]

I'm sure he is still in love u, but that doesn't mean he won't go ard piaking other girls :-) men can separate fcuk from love... We can fcuk ard outside, but still hope to have a happy family.

Isn't that amazing?

Exact words of how 95% men feel.
:D:D

[Ravenzou]

To put it superficially, I am not very bad looking. Petite and according to my hubby, I am the kind of type he likes.

Anw like I'd said, idm him watching porn because i know it's very normal. I don't comdemn as well. I mean come on, who doesn't? I also don't restrict his freedom. We are generally leading a healthy and happy relationship but with this finding on his phone, I am at a lost and idk what can I do. Thus coming to this forum seems to be a good choice since there are more men here and seemingly know what a man thinks and want.

Also, for the record, he just downloaded wechat because previously he don't have this app on his phone.

Sis Kim. Like some of the Bros here have said all men wants variety. But it does not mean that betray his love for u. Sometimes i don't understand woman can forgive man for having mistress but not men going to WL and still bring $$ back for the family.

All in all man wants a good wife that love him and be a slut in bed for him!
So every night he will be satisfied and drain off and u will not have any worries of him looking for WL.

[almera]

Sis Kim

I have them on my phone too, but it doesn't mean anything thou ..
Haha, my questions, you trust him? do you think he has the gut to go?

[StillLearning]

hi Kim,

here's what i think:

in order to have the contacts in wechat, he probably surfed this forum, and added the contacts which he found here or from websites offering sexual services. it is very unlikely that he could find the contacts from the wechat app itself or that the contacts mysteriously appeared on his account on their own.

on the other hand, since you have only been married less than a year, he may already have added these contacts long before you got married. he may not even be contacting them at all.

in this case, do consider 'what's past, is past.' i suggest not to bring it up because he trusted you with his phone and you should trust him too. looking up his personal chats without his permission breaks that trust and as you know, trust takes years to rebuild.

i can certainly assure you that most men will not want fuck around elsewhere if their wives satisfy them. regular sex will empty him of his seed and any desire for fornication from his head. it's biology. if his dick is hard, help him soften it in the nicest way possible.

faithfully fucking him will keep him fucking you faithfully. cheers :)

I agree with this individual, especially his last sentence.

[lotsfits80]

my husband and i are married for less than a year and our age gap is ten nine years. i will use his phone from time to time for games and some other stuff from time to time. i have the habit of closing the apps after using.

so yesterday i saw him having the wechat app while deleting my games apps as usual and i was curious so i went to the app. i was surprised to see sexy women wearing skimpy clothes with their phone numbers and location written on their page, asking people to find them at geylang. i was very shocked and angry at the same time but i din't confront or ask him. after that i downloaded wechat and tried finding the username but i cant. did he add them on his own or?

idm my husband watching porn or viewing sexual websites because i unds men have needs and its normal. but somehow i just feel very uncomfortable and uneasy. for the record our relationship is very healthy and normal.

what should i do and what can i do? any advises? please help as i have no one else to turn to....

As a man myself I think if my wife uses my didi well enough I will not have energy to eat outside. Man is a visual creature. See what he visits and try the looks that he is interested in. Learn his fetishes. Give him surprises (blowjob to wake him up in the morning). Make/buy his favorite food. Any man would be loyally addicted to such a wife.

[tambi8]

TS better face up to reality most men do fling around. Normal. If u think they don't fcuk around u are just like ostrich buried head in the sand.anw lucky your hubby is not gay then it is more jialat

[centaur]

Why not just ask him about it?

After all it could be a simple misunderstanding. It would be better to get the truth than to guess.

[looney83]

i don't understand.

Using WeChat = find girls?

Although i don't use, i only restrict myself using Whatsapp & Telegram.

Other application like LINE, WeChat, Skout are junk to me.

Whether the guys eat outside, very simple, just check how much juice he shoot out will roughly know whether he jiak outside or not.

If i have sex in the afternoon, night time usually my juice will be little bit only.

Probably my age catching up, can't shoot too much the 2nd time. LOL

[tambi8]

Some truth in your observation.
Does this apply to woman too? Very curious to find out.thanks:)

[clapton]

As a man myself I think if my wife uses my didi well enough I will not have energy to eat outside. Man is a visual creature. See what he visits and try the looks that he is interested in. Learn his fetishes. Give him surprises (blowjob to wake him up in the morning). Make/buy his favorite food. Any man would be loyally addicted to such a wife.

Total agree bro.

Image if my wife BJ me everynight and end up with a happy fuck. where got energy to play outside. everyday become soft leg crab liao...

[MoJoe313]

Hi Kimmykim,

The first 5 years of marriage is usually the hardest. Two people from different backgrounds are trying to find a way to live together.

Most bros here tell you about the sex part only. I think you should explore other areas as well.

How is your relationship? Do you two still communicate often. How often do you quarrel?

The quality of your relationship, not just the sex will determine whether he wants to eat outside. No point guessing whether he has intentions to cheat. Go for the root cause.

I mean, if you two always quarrel over trivial things, or seldom communicate, or you forever bittergourd face, he see you also sian 1 half. How to even do with you?

Maybe a young man won't mind such things just to get his sex. But he is 9 years older than you, no?

All the best to you in unravelling your man. We are not too difficult to understand.

[HonkyTonkyMan]

i was surprised to see sexy women wearing skimpy clothes with their phone numbers and location written on their page, asking people to find them at geylang.
Did you find these contacts in his contact list or People Nearby?

[naan1974]

TS... i think you just realized your husband is a man .
Please, if this is a problem, 90% of Singaporean women are divorce already.

[sf49ers]

what I'd suggest is for you to go with the flow and most importantly satisfy all his physical and sexual needs first. That will at least ensure that you are giving all you can into the relationship and he cannot put any blame on you later on. It does require that you be open-minded and adventurous in terms of what you're willing to do to satisfy him. So you may have to make some psychological adjustment if necessary. Good luck!

[kimmykim]

Hi Kimmykim,

The first 5 years of marriage is usually the hardest. Two people from different backgrounds are trying to find a way to live together.

Most bros here tell you about the sex part only. I think you should explore other areas as well.

How is your relationship? Do you two still communicate often. How often do you quarrel?

The quality of your relationship, not just the sex will determine whether he wants to eat outside. No point guessing whether he has intentions to cheat. Go for the root cause.

I mean, if you two always quarrel over trivial things, or seldom communicate, or you forever bittergourd face, he see you also sian 1 half. How to even do with you?

Maybe a young man won't mind such things just to get his sex. But he is 9 years older than you, no?

All the best to you in unravelling your man. We are not too difficult to understand.


Hi there, as much as I appreciate all replies from everyone, it's good to see from a different point of view such as yours.

I am in my early twenties while my hubby in his early thirties. When I first discovered the app on his phone, I was stunned beyond words and mind went blank. Many may think it's exaggerating but that's my natural and first reaction. Many thoughts went through my mind, such as me hearing many girls spilt legs while their bfs are in army or younger wives tend to cheat etc. But nope, I did nothing all the above.

We rarely quarrel, we are always together, I let him has his well deserved rest and freedom because I know how hard he is at work. I cook for him and yeah all the stuff you guys mentioned here like bj etc. Some said with the app, it meant nothing much. So it's curiosity? Or what. I just wanna understand from a man's pov. Hence I thought leaving my doubt hwre may be good since most are men here.

[kimmykim]

Hi Kimmykim,

The first 5 years of marriage is usually the hardest. Two people from different backgrounds are trying to find a way to live together.

Most bros here tell you about the sex part only. I think you should explore other areas as well.

How is your relationship? Do you two still communicate often. How often do you quarrel?

The quality of your relationship, not just the sex will determine whether he wants to eat outside. No point guessing whether he has intentions to cheat. Go for the root cause.

I mean, if you two always quarrel over trivial things, or seldom communicate, or you forever bittergourd face, he see you also sian 1 half. How to even do with you?

Maybe a young man won't mind such things just to get his sex. But he is 9 years older than you, no?

All the best to you in unravelling your man. We are not too difficult to understand.


Hi there, as much as I appreciate all replies from everyone, it's good to see from a different point of view such as yours.

I am in my early twenties while my hubby in his early thirties. When I first discovered the app on his phone, I was stunned beyond words and mind went blank. Many may think it's exaggerating but that's my natural and first reaction. Many thoughts went through my mind, such as me hearing many girls spilt legs while their bfs are in army or younger wives tend to cheat etc. But nope, I did nothing all the above.

We rarely quarrel, we are always together, I let him has his well deserved rest and freedom because I know how hard he is at work. I cook for him and yeah all the stuff you guys mentioned here like bj etc. Some said with the app, it meant nothing much. So it's curiosity? Or what. I just wanna understand from a man's pov. Hence I thought leaving my doubt hwre may be good since most are men here.

[sf49ers]

It could be curiosity, or maybe the need for variety (after all it is the spice of life), or he could just be staying in touch with acquaintances.

Tried asking him directly? If your relationship is strong and open, asking shouldn't be an issue, I think.

[Jtjan]

Hi Kimmykim

Maybe he download the contacts from SBF out of curiosity. Just look see look see to check out the kind of hookers available out there.

Just like some men will go Geylang just to see the prostitutes along the streets but didnt patronise.

Thinking abt doing something doesnt mean he will act on it. So having the contacts doesnt mean he patronise them.

On the other hand, maybe he did patronise these FLs.

I am just trying to say that there are many possibilities. I suggest if your rship is fine and he loves you then just trust him. And communicate with him.

Once you find happiness in love, make it work!

[discordpiggy]

TS you lucky! got married and can give bj!!! then should please him in all ways. both sexually and mentally!

having an app esp wechat (which i do not like to use) is nothing. wechat has many of these FL to promote their business so they will just send to many.

If you are too conscious of it, it may affect the relationship. After all he chose to marry you so don't bother with a mere app.

I want a bf or get myself a husband to put him to sleep with bj and wake him up with another bj also don't have cos not so lucky like you to get married; after some communication/chit-chat, before anything can even start, other women always "steal" the guys away from me.

hahahaha!!!

sincerely,
part-time paid dater/part-time FL :p

Edit: pls dont ask me for pic etc, a BALDING SG chinese guy in his early 30s said i am ugly/below average.

Secret for a happy marriage...give him sex every night, put him to sleep with a bj and wake him in the morning with another bj!

That would ensure he remains faithful to you. :D

YP bro, WAHAHAHA! I want also don't have! :eek::D

[tomyumgong]

Close one eye :)

my husband and i are married for less than a year and our age gap is ten nine years. i will use his phone from time to time for games and some other stuff from time to time. i have the habit of closing the apps after using.

so yesterday i saw him having the wechat app while deleting my games apps as usual and i was curious so i went to the app. i was surprised to see sexy women wearing skimpy clothes with their phone numbers and location written on their page, asking people to find them at geylang. i was very shocked and angry at the same time but i din't confront or ask him. after that i downloaded wechat and tried finding the username but i cant. did he add them on his own or?

idm my husband watching porn or viewing sexual websites because i unds men have needs and its normal. but somehow i just feel very uncomfortable and uneasy. for the record our relationship is very healthy and normal.

what should i do and what can i do? any advises? please help as i have no one else to turn to....

[newyorker88]

To put it superficially, I am not very bad looking. Petite and according to my hubby, I am the kind of type he likes.

Anw like I'd said, idm him watching porn because i know it's very normal. I don't comdemn as well. I mean come on, who doesn't? I also don't restrict his freedom. We are generally leading a healthy and happy relationship but with this finding on his phone, I am at a lost and idk what can I do. Thus coming to this forum seems to be a good choice since there are more men here and seemingly know what a man thinks and want.

Also, for the record, he just downloaded wechat because previously he don't have this app on his phone.

Everyman has his fantasies that he would not want to do to his wife. Relationships are based on trust. If things are not going out of hand, it is best to keep to what it is, for your own sake, and the marriage.

Older man wants more company and a lady with more mature mentality. What he may not make up in sex performance duration, he may make up from his experience in treating a lady well. What older man wants is company more than sex, in most cases. Listen and understand him, you will find a different personality in him.

The age difference between you n your hubby is great, obviously some gap will exist. Be more sensitive to him and you will find that an older man is gold.

Hope all is well.

[singlicious]

Ts Welcome to SBF :cool:

..

I second that :D

[yesscenter]

Hi there, as much as I appreciate all replies from everyone, it's good to see from a different point of view such as yours.

I am in my early twenties while my hubby in his early thirties. When I first discovered the app on his phone, I was stunned beyond words and mind went blank. Many may think it's exaggerating but that's my natural and first reaction. Many thoughts went through my mind, such as me hearing many girls spilt legs while their bfs are in army or younger wives tend to cheat etc. But nope, I did nothing all the above.

We rarely quarrel, we are always together, I let him has his well deserved rest and freedom because I know how hard he is at work. I cook for him and yeah all the stuff you guys mentioned here like bj etc. Some said with the app, it meant nothing much. So it's curiosity? Or what. I just wanna understand from a man's pov. Hence I thought leaving my doubt hwre may be good since most are men here.

Kimmy, its man's nature that the neighbour grass is greener, i am happily married for donkey years and have always enjoyed nasi lemak, tom yam and char siew, etc.etc. although my wife is a super woman for sex the crave for outside food is always tempting. What yo do, i gave up trying to be perfect hubby long ago

[retsmas]

Kimmy,
Think its ok for a man to eat out cos thats in the nature of all men.
Some men are discreet in their actions outside, some are not and some just simply bochap.
Have a female friend once told me that as long as her hubby brings the bread and not diseases home can liao. ;)
I was then young and tot to myself how could his hubby eat out.
But as I grow older I begin to realise I m also one or those bad hubbies...:D

[p00t]

Sometimes, it isnt abt sex. Its the thrill of doing things secretly, breaking the moral law or whatever reasons :)

[discordpiggy]

yes breaking the moral law gives that indescribable adrenaline rush. i have done that before years ago... it was a lot of fun with partners in crime. :eek::p

thinking back still gives me the strong urge to break it and its lure is very strong.:D

[shaolin_kid]

Hi there, as much as I appreciate all replies from everyone, it's good to see from a different point of view such as yours.

I am in my early twenties while my hubby in his early thirties. When I first discovered the app on his phone, I was stunned beyond words and mind went blank. Many may think it's exaggerating but that's my natural and first reaction. Many thoughts went through my mind, such as me hearing many girls spilt legs while their bfs are in army or younger wives tend to cheat etc. But nope, I did nothing all the above.

We rarely quarrel, we are always together, I let him has his well deserved rest and freedom because I know how hard he is at work. I cook for him and yeah all the stuff you guys mentioned here like bj etc. Some said with the app, it meant nothing much. So it's curiosity? Or what. I just wanna understand from a man's pov. Hence I thought leaving my doubt hwre may be good since most are men here.

In Chinese astrology, never married someone who is 3, 6 or 9 yrs younger or older than you, its a doomed relationship or marriage, its a matter of time to separate.

In today's modern world many will dispute this as superstitious etc...........but facts remain facts and I've seen many relationships/marriages that eventually parted its way becos of 3,6,9.
No matter what I say now, you will never take it seriously and will brush it off as superstitious or rubbish etc.....I can understand that becos you are only in your early twenties and haven't gone thru life yet, still young.

I believed most of the time you guys either argued or quarreled the most trivial things in life even though you said both of you rarely quarreled, constant minor arguments should occur if not the least.

Having Wechat installed in a man's phone, men ogling at women, men eating outside is normal. Men are born to be lecherous and its human nature, if your man is decent and not lecherous, then I'm very worried for you becos its abnormal :D

Also never despise women who are prostitutes, nobody likes to sleep around with different men for money, the fact is they may come from broken family, uneducated, family poor or with very complicated backgrounds etc............unless they are sluts, you are just one of those lucky ones with proper upbringing so just moves on and you will learn along the way what is the meaning of life and marriage life, good luck to you !!! :p

[newyorker88]

In Chinese astrology, never married someone who is 3, 6 or 9 yrs younger or older than you, its a doomed relationship or marriage, its a matter of time to separate.



That's very general, sometimes, the 8 characters may match. Even they are 3, 6 or 9... years apart

[shaolin_kid]

That's very general, sometimes, the 8 characters may match. Even they are 3, 6 or 9... years apart


From years of observation, i've seen many and calculated quite a handful of those actors/actresses be it from HongKong or Hollywood or businessmen or women or common friends, all ended up in divorce becos of 3,6,9, very high chances of clashing with your partner, even those born under the same Chinese zodiac sign.

I myself is one of them, I used to brush of as superstitious when I was younger, staunchly chose not believed in such a thingy as long as you work hard on the relationship, be faithful, give and take, communicate, everything will be fine but in life sadly things WILL NEVER work out the way you want it to be, its a sad fact. As you grow older, naturally you'll see more things in life, we can't live in denial.

Personally I believe in 3,6,9, 8 characters also does play a part but I strongly believe in the 12 Chinese zodiac signs, an example are Nicholas Tse & Cecilia Cheung, Jennifer Aniston & Brad Pitt, still got many more. (exclude those promiscuous actors & actresses who viewed marriages like changing clothes, no matter what sign also ended up with divorce :D)

[21MARTELL]

Secret for a happy marriage...give him sex every night, put him to sleep with a bj and wake him in the morning with another bj!

That would ensure he remains faithful to you. :D

How true is this? What if husband is just tried of her face?