Need advice on affair situation

[gary4024]

Hi all bros,

I seldom post here but i thought i would post about this since it's the first time i'm about to do something like this...

I know this female friend for about a few months. Her husband happens to be a friend of mine as well. Their marriage has been stagnant for a while now and they haven't had sex for ages (months?). From all the stories about married couples that i've heard, I think it's fairly common for a marriage to take out the romance in a couple's lives. So anyway i've been chatting with this girl for a while now and recently got alot closer to her. Then one day she confessed that she's starting to have feelings for me and i happened to start liking her as well. So about a week ago we met each other in secret and we kinda did the usual first date things... talked, held hands, and kissed a little. Obviously we got even closer after that secret date. And now we're gonna meet again in a few days time, and i'm pretty sure this time there'll be more than kissing if you bros know what i mean.

I'm feeling slightly tentative about this cos it's kinda sinful to have an affair with a married person. I hope it's just gonna be a temporary fling and she'll go back to her husband eventually, but you never know. I also don't really wanna hurt her or anything like that cos i do like her as a friend. But our attraction for each other is real...

So I guess what i wanna ask is how do u bros feel about having an affair with a married girl friend? I'm really worried things might get messy after some time, but we really like each other. Any of u have some personal experience and would like to share share and gimme some advice? :D

[Cheri_Popper]

Don't do it. Her husband is a friend of yours and if he finds out......who been screwing his wife behind his back.....

You will also be named as the third party if things gets messy like a divorce.

You reap what you sow. :rolleyes:

[sealwoon]

Bro,

I may not be a expert in affair of the heart but I know for sure is this. DO NOT mess with married or other people wife especially if you also happen to know the husband.

Every guy love to have a little fun once in a while. Its ok if you flirt with each other but getting committed into a relationship with a married gal, you just be asking for trouble.

You may not feel anything about it now, I am also not sure if you are married too but if you are married and you found out that your wife is cheating on you, how would you feel???

Mad, Sad, Jealous, Feel like killing someone??? All these feeling do not seem nice right?

Be friend, good friend but anything beyond that, to my opinion, is a NO GO.

Hope this help... Cheers

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

u want to do it,be prepared to face the consequences.but would advised u not to,not worth the trouble cos its gonna be ugly shld things dun turn out the way u want it to be.so many other gals ard,y her right?move on bro.just my 2 cents worth.

Cheers
SJG

[milo_man]

u r a bastard if u did her..i hated such ppl most:mad:

[Cocky]

Pls think with the BIG HEAD rather than the small head.

If she ended up divorce and want to marry u, will u accept the marriage?
More ever u know the husband.......

If u r marry and some friend of u want to bank u wife, how would u feel? How would u react?

If u r thinking with u BIG HEAD u should not be posting here......

[gary4024]

Thanks to all bros for the replies here.. sammyboyforum is crazy active. 20min and already got 5 replies.. madness

All the replies have made me feel humbled and a little down to be honest...

To give a little more details on the situation, i'm single. We're both still young (mid 20s) and she got married a little too early. She actually didnt' wanna get married with him at first but reluctantly agreed and now she has regretted her decision ever since. Even before i came into the picture her marriage was going downhill.

But i guess this all does not change the fact that i shouldn't have any affairs with her.

Feel free to post more advice if you guys feel like it though.. always appreciate the comments. :)

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Thanks to all bros for the replies here.. sammyboyforum is crazy active. 20min and already got 5 replies.. madness

But i guess this all does not change the fact that i shouldn't have any affairs with her.

Feel free to post more advice if you guys feel like it though.. always appreciate the comments.

20 mins 5 replies is considered slow liao,stay here longer and u knw wat i mean.u r correct,wat we say cant change the fact or change ur decision on wat u gonna do.the final decision is urs.like i said earlier on,just be prepared to face the consequences shld u choose to go for it.just dont regret and come back here to whine.that will be the last thing we wan to hear frm u.;)

[Mango]

just ask yourself, what do you want from her? For sexual satisfication? Long term relationship? Or just for temporary fun?

i think you should make your mind clear when you mess with this kind of situation. If you want her to be your wife, well, ok, just do it, with losing a "friend", and with tarnish your reputation among your friends.
If you just thinking of play play only, you better stop it, as you are not only broken a family, you are going to hurt that gal in the future as well...

[Mahalapa]

Pls refer to Longman n understand the word FRIEND 1st,b4 asking for advice :eek:

[SFLS]

My friend, relation does sore sometime and it's up to the couple to sort things out. Being label a 3rd partly is no fun. Put yourself in the husband's shoe and how will you feel if your wife is having an affair with someone you know.

Like some brothers said, what do you actually want from her? Will you marry her if she had divorce her husband? How will ppl look at you marrying someone's wife that you know??

Please think using your big head!!!

[scorpion3]

Dear friend, has it occurred to you that if she can do this to her husband behind his back, someday IF you were to marry her, she COULD do the SAME thing back to you?

[humpcheepang]

My hunch is, bro Gary is gonna bonk her, and real soon....inregardless of what we may advise, his heart is going closer and the feel is getting stronger....but don't do raw hor. So Bro Gary, have fun but do bear the consequences. If she is w/o kid, then with such cool marriage, who knows, she herself may already wanted a divorce.

[devilboy99]

I agee with bro humpcheepang that gary is confirm going to bonk his friend's wife... Just a word of advice to gary, if you do wish to listen to us........

Just DON'T Do It......

[zhivago]

threadstarter,
have u heard of a chinese phrase/proverb that says "fren's wife cannot take/eat"?

wan to have discreet relationship oso cannot tau chiak ur fren's wife mar. Not steady lor. U must talk to her and encourages her to saves the marriage instead...

[gary4024]

Bros, thanks for the advices... 100% of u gave negative feedbacks.. i guess this tells me i really shouldn't do anything with her. I just had a short talk with her and asked her if it's really what she wanted and i told her to think about it long and hard... she sounded quite upset. I'll probably just call the whole thing off.

I guess it's the right thing to do... :(

[Mahalapa]

hope u can stay firm with ur big head n call urself a man :cool:

[discreetman]

Bros, thanks for the advices... 100% of u gave negative feedbacks.. i guess this tells me i really shouldn't do anything with her. I just had a short talk with her and asked her if it's really what she wanted and i told her to think about it long and hard... she sounded quite upset. I'll probably just call the whole thing off.

I guess it's the right thing to do... :(


Congratulation....I remember an experience HK merchant told me in a far far away place: unless you are ready to commit to that relationship, otherwise don't play play, it is definitely better to pay pay for your fun....

[bigass]

just now den fierce was watching tv when my bro was talking about this problematic gal ,24 yrs old today stunned him by smsing him that she kena hospitalised cos kena whack by her husband. ltr my bro said got this fellow sent her ytd n kena saw by her husband,28/29yrs old, at the same time drunk. woo, fierce

just now just read news got this fellow kill his wife cos the wife went outside for CCA...












:rolleyes:

[siamcutey]

Bros, thanks for the advices... 100% of u gave negative feedbacks.. i guess this tells me i really shouldn't do anything with her. I just had a short talk with her and asked her if it's really what she wanted and i told her to think about it long and hard... she sounded quite upset. I'll probably just call the whole thing off.

I guess it's the right thing to do... :(
Yawnnnnnn......

If you really did do anything with her, please post up an FR for us to read.

Though u did ask her what she wanted, but I think the split up decision wasn't what you really wanted. :cool:
End of the day, you just wanted to bed her. You can try lying to us, but you cannot lie to your ownself. This is what you really wanted.


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SC

[haodaijake]

Yawnnnnnn......

If you really did do anything with her, please post up an FR for us to read.

Though u did ask her what she wanted, but I think the split up decision wasn't what you really wanted. :cool:
End of the day, you just wanted to bed her. You can try lying to us, but you cannot lie to your ownself. This is what you really wanted.


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SC

How true my man, how true.....
Truth was never that moral after all.
Do it and bear the consequences or miss it and ai wan later.


SEX! Vs MORAL!

Solution: Ask the husband for permission lor!!! :D

[eboy]

women follow their hearts

men follow a code of honour and dignity.

listen to ur conscience b4 u act

[Ah Seng]

yep..i think it's a totally no no adventure in my whole life.....though life's hard to predict......especially ur friend's wife.....if u do then will b bad.....even she's a someone wife i dun think it's advisable too.....

DUN 4GET U"LL VE A WIFE TOO!!!!:cool:

[strikeking73]

You may find excited to bonk that ger, but in the end you may be a looser . Or worst bad kama will be waiting for you. Read those newspaper stories about affair, does they have a good ending? Everything have the outcome. What if she your wife? How you feel if 3rd party f her. Be gentleman, their alot of single ger out there for you to choose. If not wait until she become single again, than you can be with her. At least you still called a Man, if not you will be called a Beast.

[Sorin^^]

So I guess what i wanna ask is how do u bros feel about having an affair with a married girl friend? I'm really worried things might get messy after some time, but we really like each other. Any of u have some personal experience and would like to share share and gimme some advice? :D

Bro, u meant u guys like each other? Prepared to commit and get married? I guess all guys would be tempted to do so. But Hope you can control from doing so. LIke the bros have said, better not to touch ur fd's wife.

Maybe you could burn pocket abit, go to gl to kill the urge.:)

Cheers

[Castrol]

I know this female friend for about a few months. Her husband happens to be a friend of mine as well. Their marriage has been stagnant for a while now and they haven't had sex for ages (months?).

knn people dont have sex for "ages" you also know, the female friend or the husband friend tell you?

i'm sure you have been helping them to release like bringing the husband friend to GL or giving him FL contacts. and as for the female friend, you are going to kar kee lai, tio bo? :D

[ANOA1]

In the first place, you must have done something to get that close to her. You gotta chose whether you should lose a friend.

Personally, I think badly of people who snatch their friend's wife or GF. There are many girls out there to choose.;)

[bart]

DON'T do it. It'll get messy. If you thinks she's upset now, what do you think she'll act if you try to break it off after you had sex? Real bad.

BUT... if you do have sex, all the juicy details here please!!

Good luck

[zhivago]

Bros, thanks for the advices... 100% of u gave negative feedbacks.. i guess this tells me i really shouldn't do anything with her. I just had a short talk with her and asked her if it's really what she wanted and i told her to think about it long and hard... she sounded quite upset. I'll probably just call the whole thing off.

I guess it's the right thing to do... :(
u wud get 50/50 if the hubby ain't ur fren...

aniwae, like wat other bro's mentioned "To screw or not to screw", it's all up to u. We just input our tots nia... "Every actions has it consequences"

Cheers
Zhivago

[ralphael]

According to the Law bro if you are found guilty of having sex with your friends wife you may have to pay for the lawyer and court fees that could come out to anything between 5 - 10K and i understand that you guys mutually like each other! but at the mean time DON'T DO IT NOW! unless if they are already DIVORCED(of course without your involvement)then you might want to think about it! but on the other hand she is your friend wife! In future you get a wife and you loose a Friend! THINK ABOUT IT!!!!

[BustLover]

To give a little more details on the situation, i'm single. We're both still young (mid 20s) and she got married a little too early. She actually didnt' wanna get married with him at first but reluctantly agreed and now she has regretted her decision ever since. Even before i came into the picture her marriage was going downhill.

But i guess this all does not change the fact that i shouldn't have any affairs with her.

Feel free to post more advice if you guys feel like it though.. always appreciate the comments. :)
If both of you really love onother, let her divorce her husband first before you develop the relationship further.

If she can regret her first marriage, what make you so sure that she has found you the Mr Right this time? Loves and Sex are 2 different things. If sex is what you are after, go for a quick fix at Geylang. Not worth to wrack another's marriage, even though most marriage don't last long these days.

[zhivago]

According to the Law bro ~~~~THINK ABOUT IT!!!![/COLOR][/FONT][/SIZE]
relax lar, brother... no need so excited de... :D

[ralphael]

Pai Seh! :P amended to a cooler one without colour :P thanks for reminder!

[blackeagle10]

Bro,

Let me offer a dissenting view. No doubt the majority of bros here are against it, she may be the one initiating to get out of a bad marriage.

If she wants to get out and play, if it is not you it will be someone else. You will come across women like these as you widen your social circle so use your brain to assess who are the ONS ones and who are truly looking for love.

Up to you to make your own choice...

[Wins88]

Hi all bros,
So I guess what i wanna ask is how do u bros feel about having an affair with a married girl friend? I'm really worried things might get messy after some time, but we really like each other. Any of u have some personal experience and would like to share share and gimme some advice? :D

All I can say is - DUN DO IT! It is wrong to touch another man's wife (really not honorable) and it is simply not right. Furthermore the husband is your friend which makes it worse. Anyway there are enough stories of people getting killed because of infidelity in the papers lately to tell you that this is not a good position to be in!

[BigGuy]

Yawnnnnnn......

If you really did do anything with her, please post up an FR for us to read.

Though u did ask her what she wanted, but I think the split up decision wasn't what you really wanted. :cool:
End of the day, you just wanted to bed her. You can try lying to us, but you cannot lie to your ownself. This is what you really wanted.


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SC

Ho ho ho....the man speaks:)

Well me gonna getting whacking here.....Anyway aside the responsibilty n moral ppl talking here.....u wanna bonk GO AHEAD.....nothing new la......ppl here can talk what cannot touch ppl's wife/gf all that still wud go when opportunity arises......to me bonking women who works as WL also the same.....here they WL back home in any country also got husband/bf/children. Juz dunno that they r doing these ma.

juz b discreet n careful......bonk w rubber n dun leave bites.

[jdi813]

... You will come across women like these as you widen your social circle so use your brain to assess who are the ONS ones and who are truly looking for love ......to me bonking women who works as WL also the same ... here they WL back home in any country also got husband/bf/children ... bonk w rubber n dun leave bitesbros this dudes situation is different simply cos he is a fren of the husband ... if he wasn't a fren of the husband i guess response might have been different ... dunno la to me whackin my frens wife is a big NO NO ... cos to me my frens will always be more important :D

But good advice from bro BigGuy though :p

[GreenHorny228]

Hey Gary,

Usually a listening and caring friend to someone who has problems ends up falling in "love" due to the initial care and concern shown over the days, weeks perhaps months. But bear in mind this might not be real love, just an alternative to actual love for her. So take it slow and continue to be a friend to her but do not develop any relationship yet till she knows what she wants. After the dust settles, and she makes a decision to divorce, then she is up for grabs.

[itsabt6x]

Hey Gary,

Usually a listening and caring friend to someone who has problems ends up falling in "love" due to the initial care and concern shown over the days, weeks perhaps months. But bear in mind this might not be real love, just an alternative to actual love for her. So take it slow and continue to be a friend to her but do not develop any relationship yet till she knows what she wants. After the dust settles, and she makes a decision to divorce, then she is up for grabs.

well said greenhorny....but most times dickhead rule over bighead.....sigh....:(

[jng1103]

Let me offer a dissenting view. No doubt the majority of bros here are against it, she may be the one initiating to get out of a bad marriage.

If she wants to get out and play, if it is not you it will be someone else. You will come across women like these as you widen your social circle so use your brain to assess who are the ONS ones and who are truly looking for love.

Up to you to make your own choice...

Well, she may be the one who initiated the 'fling' out of her bad marriage. However, this bro here is also an acquaintance of her hubby. That complicates the whole case. What if he found out? Think about the consequences...

If it's purely ONS, that's no big deal at all. Plenty of women out there for ONS. All you need is MONEY and CAR. Women will flood u for free drinks n rides. Nothing new in Sillypore. However, when we cheong, we must understand the price to pay for the consequences of playing with fire.

To threadstarter, it's not worth the risks to have flings with her. Find your flings somewhere else... good luck.

[like2bonk]

Thanks to all bros for the replies here.. sammyboyforum is crazy active. 20min and already got 5 replies.. madness

All the replies have made me feel humbled and a little down to be honest...

To give a little more details on the situation, i'm single. We're both still young (mid 20s) and she got married a little too early. She actually didnt' wanna get married with him at first but reluctantly agreed and now she has regretted her decision ever since. Even before i came into the picture her marriage was going downhill.

But i guess this all does not change the fact that i shouldn't have any affairs with her.

Feel free to post more advice if you guys feel like it though.. always appreciate the comments. :)

By starting this thread, u have already started using yr big head and the answer is obvious. Otherwise, we will all be here reading yr juicy FR instead of answering yr question. If your feelings over time turn out to be love, then you will know wat to do. At the moment, go and pcc or go to Geylang. I think the PAP gov't is very far-sighted in allowing GL to continue its existence.

[songxxx1965]

Hey bro,

Though its easy to tell u not to do it... I would be tempted to go for it as I were in ur situation today.

I might just ignore my fren's wife if the meeting is getting more tense leading to a bonk...

Most importantly, I feel that this women is "attracted" to you because you care during the times she needed you.

just keep telling her u are busy, then she would realize that u are the same as her husband and there's nothing special in you.

Maybe down the road, your fren might come and tell u his wife cheated behind him with other men. Just be glad you can still sit with your fren and have a drink with him and let him pour his sorrow to you rather than be the guy who is going to live with guilt.

[Dragon_Slayer]

Hi Gary,

Talk to her. If she really cannot live with her husband, ask her to check out www.lawsoc.org.sg on divorce matters.

It's not that simple but if both of you really love each other, it will be worth the effort.

But if she is unable to leave her husband, no point 跟她纠缠不清。You have to let her go....

[ronins]

Another thing you might want to consider before bonking her,

1. Is the husband your personnel friend? your kaki? someone that has help you out before? someone that you can shake his hand and look him in his eyes and respect? If yes, are you freaking crazy, no good bro touches a friend/bro wife/gf. If you bonk her, you will be cursed for life.

2. Has the husband done you wrong? the type that think he is king and look down on u? back stab or bad mouth you before? have u been waiting for chance to take revenge? if yes, i say what u waiting for, go book a room, buy condom, and bonk her, remember to get her to scream your name and say you better than her husband when she cum :D

[hubber26]

Think carefully... Will you regret for the rest of your if the whole situation turn out sour and bad? If you dun feel it that way, then go ahead... no comment.

One things for sure is that for samsters here, we on for sex when no string attached, ONS or paid sex. Comparing "buddy" vs "free sex"? I would prefer "buddy".

Another situation: Your affair with his wife remain a secret from your buddy. Wont you feel guilty when facing your buddy and while you had an affair with his wife? He could turn to you as good buddy if he feels sad over his wife's fling or cold shoulder. How would you feel?

Another situation: You buddy is generous (Unlikely) and dun mind getting a divorce, letting the gal and you get together. Wouldnt you think the gal would again fling behind your back if your relationship turn stagnant?

Put yourself in your buddy's shoes, think and feel what will happened if you find out that your wife had been cheating around with your close friend.

[underwearterror]

为了朋友。。。 两肋插刀！！ 为了女人。。。 插朋友两刀！！

[dna_gene]

So I guess what i wanna ask is how do u bros feel about having an affair with a married girl friend? I'm really worried things might get messy after some time, but we really like each other. Any of u have some personal experience and would like to share share and gimme some advice? :D

Hmmm... sounds like you are trying to play with fire. Alright, I hate to give advices cos I'll tend to write a long list but I'll give it to you anyway. Brudders who are thinking of getting involve with married woman should read too.

I'm not against the idea of you fucking a married gal, nor your friend's wife. After all against or not, such things are still taking place even as we speak. I had been dating a few married women before myself, just remember it always need 2 hands to clap.

However having said that, i'm still against you going for this gal, not of moral issue but aftermath of it. As we know, man and woman are very different in many ways, specially when it comes to relationship. When men seek out affair, most of the time, it's strictly for the sex and thrill, not much feeling involved. Even if there's feeling involved, we men can easily pull it back.

However it's a different case for normal gals (unless she's a player/slut) if they choose to start an affair. It's usually because they are disappointed in their marriage, like husband having affair too, husband treating her badly or/and they can't communicate anymore (lack of topics). If so, they are more likely to seek shelter outside of marriage, to re-experience the feeling of being in love.

When that happens, most probably than not, they would truly fall in love with the guy and totally give up on their husband. If everything I mentioned fall in place, the gal will DEFINITELY divorce the husband, wanting to be with the guy, thinking that the guy really loves her alot too and would die to be with her forever!!!

So if your idea is just to have a fling with her and a chance to lay her, think twice. Afterall you did mentioned that she told you that she likes you so probably she's looking for a stable relationship outside her wrecked marriage. If you just want to screw a married woman or friend's wife, venture else where.

Like I said, I had many affairs with married women before but there's always a mutual understanding. It's just for the sexual pleasure and they still want to keep their marriage. Also maybe they know i'm married and I had strongly emphasized that I would never divorce my wife on my free will.

So unless you are willing to start a fling with a married gal and slowly evolve into a stable and committed relationship, with her divorcing her husband, then by all mean! If not, STEER CLEAR!!!

わかりますたか。

[siamcutey]

Ho ho ho....the man speaks:)

Well me gonna getting whacking here.....Anyway aside the responsibilty n moral ppl talking here.....u wanna bonk GO AHEAD.....nothing new la......ppl here can talk what cannot touch ppl's wife/gf all that still wud go when opportunity arises......to me bonking women who works as WL also the same.....here they WL back home in any country also got husband/bf/children. Juz dunno that they r doing these ma.

juz b discreet n careful......bonk w rubber n dun leave bites.

Anyway, we cannot stop 1 man's lust from reaching unstoppable levels. So the next best thing I can do is actually wait here and hope the threadstarter writes a FR for us to read. :D


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[ricardo]

seriously so many ppl say dun do it but i m sure some will do it if it happen to them. i know i might at least. so i m not gonna offer anything here.

the feeling of being in love ... the first time holding hand ... the first time kissing her lips ... the first time unbuttoning her blouse and seeing that cream bra ... the first time licking on her nipple ... the first entry ....

i will kill to have that again ... how to tahan?????

[milo_man]

:D actually if u r seriously wan to marry her in later stage, i can say it has a high chance of ending in divorce cos she can ditch her husband for u..BUT if jus a flirt,by all means..if u dun fark her,someone else will..so y not??must take helmet hor..

[john99]

We can offer advice but what they do as consenting adults are their own private business.

She may be ready to pack up & leave. The husband probably know/suspect wife not happy with marriage. Up to him to fight for her or just ignore the signals. Husband could be having an affair outside and that made her seek solace elsewhere.

Should not pre-judge the situation as both of them could have a chance of making a relationship work.

Agree with Richardo that the sexual part is exciting and tempting and there are stories in this forum about bedding friend's wife etc. that lead to tragic consequences. It all depends what this will lead to. At the end he has to account for his actions.

Just my 2 cents worth...

[kuching]

u r a bastard if u did her..i hated such ppl most:mad:

wow bro Relax bro relax he asking for advise leh .....no offernce bro

[Rof|maoxz]

Hi all bros,

I seldom post here but i thought i would post about this since it's the first time i'm about to do something like this...

Don't get into this shit. You may be the victim or a culprit.

Link:
http://newpaper.asia1.com.sg/news/story/0,4136,104866,00.html?




To give a little more details on the situation, i'm single. We're both still young (mid 20s) and she got married a little too early. She actually didnt' wanna get married with him at first but reluctantly agreed and now she has regretted her decision ever since. Even before i came into the picture her marriage was going downhill.

But i guess this all does not change the fact that i shouldn't have any affairs with her.

You are right, what makes her married that guy, belongs to her decision. It doesn't necessarily you will marry her at that point. You are just filling up her loneliness & desolation. Be warned that ladies of such might backfire at you if things won't work up.

[Rof|maoxz]

knn people dont have sex for "ages" you also know, the female friend or the husband friend tell you?

i'm sure you have been helping them to release like bringing the husband friend to GL or giving him FL contacts. and as for the female friend, you are going to kar kee lai, tio bo?

You mean, middleman got comission right? :rolleyes: :D

[Ups4867]

Hi all bros,
So I guess what i wanna ask is how do u bros feel about having an affair with a married girl friend? I'm really worried things might get messy after some time, but we really like each other. Any of u have some personal experience and would like to share share and gimme some advice? :D
Bro you do her then the husband will come after you....Are you prepare the handle the husband????

UPS

[Triple_XXX]

Hi all bros,

I seldom post here but i thought i would post about this since it's the first time i'm about to do something like this...

I know this female friend for about a few months. Her husband happens to be a friend of mine as well. Their marriage has been stagnant for a while now and they haven't had sex for ages (months?). From all the stories about married couples that i've heard, I think it's fairly common for a marriage to take out the romance in a couple's lives. So anyway i've been chatting with this girl for a while now and recently got alot closer to her. Then one day she confessed that she's starting to have feelings for me and i happened to start liking her as well. So about a week ago we met each other in secret and we kinda did the usual first date things... talked, held hands, and kissed a little. Obviously we got even closer after that secret date. And now we're gonna meet again in a few days time, and i'm pretty sure this time there'll be more than kissing if you bros know what i mean.

I'm feeling slightly tentative about this cos it's kinda sinful to have an affair with a married person. I hope it's just gonna be a temporary fling and she'll go back to her husband eventually, but you never know. I also don't really wanna hurt her or anything like that cos i do like her as a friend. But our attraction for each other is real...

So I guess what i wanna ask is how do u bros feel about having an affair with a married girl friend? I'm really worried things might get messy after some time, but we really like each other. Any of u have some personal experience and would like to share share and gimme some advice? :D

I do that to yr wife u like a not ? U should be putting yrself into that poor fellas shoes. Why get stuck to only one when there are plentiful outside ?

[sealwoon]

Bro Gary,

I really hope u have reach a right decision on the matter.

All of us here do not wish to see other people getting into sticky position of any marriage between two person that you know of.

If its your small head doing the thinking now, my final advise to u is this. Simply have your fun somewhere else.

Who knows, maybe your friend just using u to get back at her hubby.

Just be careful.

[AlexWee]

U bonk at your own risk bro.Better stay away from her.The more you talk the more closer u r bonking her.U will suffer.She'll suffer.Your friend will kill u.Cut off your cock.No man can stand his wife being bonked by someone else,esp his friend.So dont do it. If you need a bonk badly, DIY or call any of the bros here for assistance.And of course some donations will go a long way.

No matter what,don't ever bonk her.You'll regret..go to gl and release lah bro..no need to think so hard. I tell u from experience, you bonk her, you're finished.

Call Nato or Win or San or John for help.

[BigGuy]

Anyway, we cannot stop 1 man's lust from reaching unstoppable levels. So the next best thing I can do is actually wait here and hope the threadstarter writes a FR for us to read. :D


SC


Then what?????............i start my FR here:rolleyes:

[OceanEleven]

To give a little more details on the situation, i'm single. We're both still young (mid 20s) and she got married a little too early. She actually didnt' wanna get married with him at first but reluctantly agreed and now she has regretted her decision ever since. Even before i came into the picture her marriage was going downhill.

:)

So you just wanna be the catalyst to make it go downhill faster? :cool:

[BustLover]

ppl here can talk what cannot touch ppl's wife/gf all that still wud go when opportunity arises......to me bonking women who works as WL also the same.....here they WL back home in any country also got husband/bf/children. Juz dunno that they r doing these ma.

juz b discreet n careful......bonk w rubber n dun leave bites.

Bonking a WL is different from bonking somebody's wife. When you bonk a WL, the intention is clear from both parties with no string attached other than the money transaction.

When you bonk somebody's wife, you are considered "CHEAP-skate" and really low-class. You are going for free-sex and whacking up somebody's marriage. That is the BIG difference.

[Ah Seng]

tat's true....agreed bro bustlover.........actually not considered "CHEAP-skate" and really low-class ya..... should b wicked heart,cunning,wily and bastard in doing that......

Anyone agreed???:confused:

[whitegals]

My advice is always whack first, talk later.... :D

[siamcutey]

Bonking a WL is different from bonking somebody's wife. When you bonk a WL, the intention is clear from both parties with no string attached other than the money transaction.

When you bonk somebody's wife, you are considered "CHEAP-skate" and really low-class. You are going for free-sex and whacking up somebody's marriage. That is the BIG difference.

If u all ask me will I bonk my friend's wife, I will only answer for myself that I will not do it, cos I treasure my friend.

So now the question comes back is that if both are willing parties and want to fuck, so?

If a marriage can be whacked up so easily by another 3rd party, so will anyone tell me is this kind of marriage strong enough then? With or without him, it is doomed for failure. Just that he appear to be the catalyst for it.

If the woman loves her husband a lot, this kind of thing will happen meh?

I just want to read FR okay. You all say don't want to see this kind of thing happening to the threadstarter, but I can sense many of you dying to read his FR, thus camping here on the pretext of telling him not to do it. Tio boh? :D

SC

[Ah Seng]

Hm..........okie.........I should say in fact it's hard to resist when a woman suddenly been throw at u...... Who wouldn't want rite?F*** and see how things goes? But if it's happened to best friend's wife I doubt I will give it a try.....

And if I happened to pick up a married woman in clubs then tat will b different story altogether....:D

[Gimmesex]

Let me say something here, i think its useless telling him anything lah...cos he most prob wont listen...the heart takes over the mind..and the cock takes over the whole body...so all he wants is some justification and for us to go ahead lah...

In all fairness...i think love...LOVE..not sex..rules..and no matter if she's your frens wife..or your wife's best fren..sometimes..this kinda thing..hard to control lah...just need to sit down..talk to her..and ask her wats the end point..if just out for some fun...fine..if there are other agendas...i think u better sort it out firtst before going thru with it...

[blackeagle10]

Up to this point, the threadstarter have indicated he is not going to do the deed. So we will trust him on his word unless of course he had done it and now his friend is now raving mad at him for screwing his wife.

Hope this will not end as badly as the other famous story on this thread..

[sealwoon]

I don't think it LOVE as one Bro has put it. More of a LUST for another man wife flesh loh.....:D

Its maybe true that some here just wish to camp here waiting for a FR on whether the thread starter indeed have sex with his best friend wife and that he be kind enough after all the "advise" that we given him and after the deed, post an interesting FR on her in bed moaning just how strong he is compare to her hubby....

Somehow I hope the thread starter has come to some sense to stop this so called relationship with his friend wife.

[songxxx1965]

I was thinking.... Maybe you can put a picture of ur fren's wife here so that we can decide better for you

[garem]

I was thinking.... Maybe you can put a picture of ur fren's wife here so that we can decide better for you

How can you better decide with his fren's wife picture? :rolleyes:

[songxxx1965]

How can you better decide with his fren's wife picture?

Well if she's a SYT or have CFM face with Vampish Figure and big Boobs... then at least bonk liao still got a good FR...:p

But if she's short & plump :eek: then I would advise him not to waste his time...

[itsabt6x]

i guess with her pic...bros here can help decide if the friendship is worth keeping.....:D

[garem]

Well if she's a SYT or have CFM face with Vampish Figure and big Boobs... then at least bonk liao still got a good FR...:p

But if she's short & plump :eek: then I would advise him not to waste his time...

Maybe threadstarter like her short & plump, than hard for us to decide for him leh..our preference does not consititue to his.

[songxxx1965]

Maybe threadstarter like her short & plump, than hard for us to decide for him leh..our preference does not consititue to his.

okie i admit.. i'm just curious how she looked like...?? :rolleyes:
but i still think its not worth to have a fling with ur frenship at stake with someone who is not worth it...

from what i analyze here... there's no LOVE involve between the 2...
The gal just want someone emotionally, the guy just want someone physically.

Cheerz!~

[BigGuy]

Bonking a WL is different from bonking somebody's wife. When you bonk a WL, the intention is clear from both parties with no string attached other than the money transaction.

When you bonk somebody's wife, you are considered "CHEAP-skate" and really low-class. You are going for free-sex and whacking up somebody's marriage. That is the BIG difference.

Agree with some of your points but i felt we are simply looking at the surface only. A WL would be married n bcoz of certain reasons do that secretly. When she tells you be it for money and no string attached would you still bonk? When we have ONS be it drunk or high, are these not considered "cheap-skate" and really low class.

To me, 2 willingly party claps their hands and it would be them to answer to their doings. IMHO, I always put right wrong and morality aside. Life is too short. If we hubbed on these then screwing by ONS or any gals/guys throwing at each other is wrong

[gary4024]

Hi all bros...

Just to clear some things up... the guy isn't my best friend. I don't know why some bros here assume he's my best friend when i just used the word "friend", but in fact he's more like an acquaintance. :confused:

And I have not bonk her yet nor am I planning to at this point... so don't bother camping here for FR... it's most likely never gonna happen. :cool:

i'll keep everyone up to date though should there be any changes.

[solidrock]

Hi all bros...
And I have not bonk her yet nor am I planning to at this point... so don't bother camping here for FR... it's most likely never gonna happen. :cool:

Good to hear that. :D

A wife is like a newspaper: Each man should have his OWN and not look at another's.

[plain]

Hi all bros,

I seldom post here but i thought i would post about this since it's the first time i'm about to do something like this...

I know this female friend for about a few months. Her husband happens to be a friend of mine as well. Their marriage has been stagnant for a while now and they haven't had sex for ages (months?). From all the stories about married couples that i've heard, I think it's fairly common for a marriage to take out the romance in a couple's lives. So anyway i've been chatting with this girl for a while now and recently got alot closer to her. Then one day she confessed that she's starting to have feelings for me and i happened to start liking her as well. So about a week ago we met each other in secret and we kinda did the usual first date things... talked, held hands, and kissed a little. Obviously we got even closer after that secret date. And now we're gonna meet again in a few days time, and i'm pretty sure this time there'll be more than kissing if you bros know what i mean.

I'm feeling slightly tentative about this cos it's kinda sinful to have an affair with a married person. I hope it's just gonna be a temporary fling and she'll go back to her husband eventually, but you never know. I also don't really wanna hurt her or anything like that cos i do like her as a friend. But our attraction for each other is real...

So I guess what i wanna ask is how do u bros feel about having an affair with a married girl friend? I'm really worried things might get messy after some time, but we really like each other. Any of u have some personal experience and would like to share share and gimme some advice? :D

Very BAD KARMA happen to people who have affairs with married men/women

Beware

[Ah Seng]

Good to hear that. :D

A wife is like a newspaper: Each man should have his OWN and not look at another's.


Bro...think u used the wrong term............newspapers can be read and touch by many ppl ah........moreover used liao can sell or give FOC to others u know?

Should say wife like a under wear, only u,yourself can wear it,worn out but if u like ,still can wear.Don't like anymore then change a new one mah.........:D

Just a joke..no hard feelings

[siamcutey]

Hi all bros...

Just to clear some things up... the guy isn't my best friend. I don't know why some bros here assume he's my best friend when i just used the word "friend", but in fact he's more like an acquaintance.

And I have not bonk her yet nor am I planning to at this point... so don't bother camping here for FR... it's most likely never gonna happen.

i'll keep everyone up to date though should there be any changes.

nb ask liao advice, listen shiok shiok, song liao, tell us dun camp here.

But luckily still haven't remove all possibility of happening.:o

*If we are not here camping for FR, then you think we come into your thread for what?

hahaha
SC

[Rof|maoxz]

nb ask liao advice, listen shiok shiok, song liao, tell us dun camp here.

But luckily still haven't remove all possibility of happening.:o

*If we are not here camping for FR, then you think we come into your thread for what?

hahaha
SC

SC, you dun know here alot of cock teasers meh? :D

[armanisexchange]

Dear threadstarter, whether your friend's marriage is doomed from the start, whether she is looking for companionship (or even sexual gratification) or whether you are the first person whom she is starting to get physically closer to and finally whether you end up having sex with her at the very last-minute, you need to know the legalities governing a broken down marriage. It's not just whether you fuck her raw or with a condom.

There is only one ground for divorce - that the marriage has irretrievably broken down. 5 factual situations which may give rise to this ground are adultery, unreasonable behaviour, desertion, separation for 3 years with consent and separation for 4 years without consent.

Your friend is married, she is dissatisfied in the marriage and she will consider the above situations to leave the marriage.

If the divorce is based on the factual situation of adultery, the 3rd-party (you lah) may be named in the divorce petition and you will be known as the Co-Respondent. So you famous already lor, people will call you an adulterer, not very nice right?

Live by the golden rule - don't screw other people's wives. You are single now so you may not realise the hurts and pain caused by these actions. When you get married, and you suspect your wife is screwing some guy outside, you will enjoy the feeling. With no malicious intent, think how your father will feel if your mother is having a bit of extra-marital affairs outside?

Not a fabulous thought right?

[solidrock]

Bro...think u used the wrong term............newspapers can be read and touch by many ppl ah........moreover used liao can sell or give FOC to others u know?

Just a joke..no hard feelings
Actually should read "a wife is like a newspaper: Each man should have his OWN and not look at another's when he is reading it.

I know it's a joke lah. Singapore such a stressed place, no joke can die er.

[solidrock]

Dear threadstarter, whether your friend's marriage is doomed from the start....
Very precise, crisp and right to the point. :)
Are you a lawyer?


Live by the golden rule - don't screw other people's wives.... With no malicious intent, think how your father will feel if your mother is having a bit of extra-marital affairs outside?

Great analogy! When characters that we are familiar with are inserted into the illustration, the situation take on a brutal perspective, and cut very close to the heart.

[armanisexchange]

Are you a lawyer?

My mother would be hopping with joy if I was a lawyer :D

No, I work in the fashion industry while drawing a lawyer's salary ;)

Oh, and I'm not gay, I love women too much, show me the pussy!!!

[jimmyccc]

friend's wife la... friend's gf la... yawn...... wanna fuck just fuck... talk also no use if ur lil head is doing all the thinking... but remember, when u kena poke in ur ass in the future bcos of this... DUN COMPLAIN... WE TOLD U SO!!!

ps... a good fr would be very much welcomed :D

[suckcock]

friend's wife la... friend's gf la... yawn...... wanna fuck just fuck... talk also no use if ur lil head is doing all the thinking... but remember, when u kena poke in ur ass in the future bcos of this... DUN COMPLAIN... WE TOLD U SO!!!

ps... a good fr would be very much welcomed :D

swee, I like your reply. threadstarter wanna fuck her please do so quickly, or ask her do BJ for you lor if u scared this scared that.:rolleyes:

[sammyboyfor]

Bros, thanks for the advices... (

Should be : "thanks for the ADVICE.".

"Advice is a non countable noun so you don't add an "s" to make it plural.

"Advice" is like "rice". You say.. "Please pass me that bowl of rice.". You don't say... "Please pass me that bowl of rices" even though there could be thousands of grains of rice in the bowl.

That's because "rice", like "advice", is a non countable noun.

There are many other examples. To test your knowledge of non countable nouns, go to http://a4esl.org/q/j/ck/ch-countnouns.html and take the test.

[sammyboyfor]

wow bro Relax bro relax he asking for advise leh .....no offernce bro

Should be... "... he is asking for ADVICE."

"Advise" is a verb.

[whitegals]

Should be... "... he is asking for ADVICE."

"Advise" is a verb.

BOSS, seems like you're posting this everywhere i go.... hahaha, I dunno why, everytime I see this post from you I laff until I peng san.... :D

[whitegals]

There are many other examples. To test your knowledge of non countable nouns, go to http://a4esl.org/q/j/ck/ch-countnouns.html and take the test.

Now I know my engrish so cocked up.... only scored 97%, 107 questions out of 110.... :mad:

[JWNY]

But i guess this all does not change the fact that i shouldn't have any affairs with her.
That's right...as long as you know that. What you pursue is up to you :)

I'll only give one advice - it's painful when someone whom you trust hurts you

JWNY

[ChinaFriends67]

My advice is always whack first, talk later.... :D

Not too nice for u to encourage another bro to whack first & talk later. If u r a gal, why not u let all samster bro's here whack u first & talk later. All we need is to give him some guidance & not encourage to do somethings that r inhuman.

[armanisexchange]

Now I know my engrish so cocked up.... only scored 97%, 107 questions out of 110.... :mad:

100% :D , but then hor this type of test not very indicative of Engrish level one lah

[whitegals]

Not too nice for u to encourage another bro to whack first & talk later. If u r a gal, why not u let all samster bro's here whack u first & talk later. All we need is to give him some guidance & not encourage to do somethings that r inhuman.

What do u mean by if I am a ger? How about if YOU were a ger? SEOW! :confused:

[SexFreak]

Should be... "... he is asking for ADVICE."

"Advise" is a verb.


This reminds me of my mentor who used to correct my verb & noun......:D


Cheers !!!

[whitegals]

This reminds me of my mentor who used to correct my verb & noun......:D


Cheers !!!

I wonder why they like to use the word 'Mentor', reminds me of Mental Torture..... :mad:

[SexFreak]

The bottom-line is, you can fxxk around with any willing party BUT stay away from your friend's spouse........己所不欲，勿施于人..................you don't like your friend to do this to you too, right??? Just my humble opinion:)


Cheers !!!

[SexFreak]

I wonder why they like to use the word 'Mentor', reminds me of Mental Torture.....


Cool it cool it..............then what should I use..........:rolleyes: ......coach, counsellor, guide, guru, instructor, teacher, trainer, tutor.......:confused:


Cheers !!!

[whitegals]

Cool it cool it..............then what should I use......... ......coach, counsellor, guide, guru, instructor, teacher, trainer, tutor.......:confused:


Cheers !!!

Coach: I feel like a bus
Counsellor: I feel like a JC student
Guide: I feel like a tourist
Guru: I feel like a sex addict
Instructor: Like macham BMT liddat
teachur: I study for my PSLE
trainer: I feel like a pair of socks
too tor: I like damn short liddat..... :confused:

[Ah Seng]

Just read an article fr the chinese paper......abt these days already a few murder cases because of Dai Lui Mao(fucking others wifey).......so be very careful to brudders whom wanna try...........chEErs................:)