Quit for the love of yr life??

[*FiReWoRkS*]

Hi fellow bros..have anyone of u quit cheonging(commercial sex) after u have found the love of yr life?will u feel guilty engaging in such activities behind her back..?

Personnally ive quit cheonging after im together with my current gf..she has stuck with me for most of my NS shortly after my BMT when i was dumped by my previous gf..at that time i was at the lowest period of my life..dumped by gf shortly after NS + shit in army everyday...

It was during that time that she came into my life and bring hope to me and we started getting closer to each other..despite the fact that she still has to wait for 1.5yrs before my ORD..she says she doesn't mind and will wait for me..glad that she's still by my side now 4months after my ORD..had promised myself to study and work hard in the future to provide for her..:)

Do have the urge to enjoy the pleasure of the flesh again but everytime when i think of my gf and how sad she will be if i were to engage in such activities..i immediately realised that she is the most precious in my life..

Curious to know does any bro come upon such junction in yr life before..?
Do share yr stories..
Cheers:)

[milo_man]

recently i noe dis wonderful ger, willing to pay for everything when we go out n buy many stuff for my family n i promise her i b faithful to her. But look, i m here to explore n taste different dish, yet i only love her. So, on one side, i m still faithful to her n the other side, i still cheong wif bros here..n dis is my life.:D

[owen10]

u have my respect bro fireworks. :)

altho i do not have such experience but i thk once u r attached or married u will thk of yr gf/wife 1st b4 u decide to go outside n look for wild grass. u r likely to spend more time with yr partners hence no time to thk which TN/HC to visit.

but if u r single, w/o any commitment sometimes u tend to b lonely, nothin to do, nowhere to go. all these TN gals n HCs will come to yr mind 1st thing.

even if u r attached/married it's still some feat to maintain straying away, esp if u r one who have been chionging all tis yrs. to ask u to quit is not easy, juz like taking drugs. u have to practise very big self-restraint. esp when u r lonely when yr gf is not ard, or if u have a gp of frens who always tempt u to visit such places.

G'luck my friend ... wish u every success in yr r-ship ... with yr gf of cos! :)

[ahpaul25]

I give my best blessing to *FiReWoRkS* bro and his gf. :D

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

me still waiting for the gal to sweep me off my feet,away frm all this alluring temptations,i am sure i will quit when she comes.:)

[Rof|maoxz]

My POV: Army breakups, or 兵变 are common to grown-ups. It doesn't mean that a girl will stay the guy indefinitely even if they have passed the 2 years stage. This is nothing to shout about actually. If a girl has voluntarily help edhis guy out when he's having great deal of financial hardship, and they prevail. Then this is quite commendable if you ask me. There are more difficult hurdle to leap over. Just cherish whatever relationship you have right now, love her with all your might. Wish you all the best.

[sir cum-a-lot]

...Curious to know does any bro come upon such junction in yr life before..? Do share yr stories.. Cheers:) There's no right or wrong answer to the situation you shared. But, is it all worth while. I too at 1 stage in my younger days also stick to this integrity, but later realise my gf was seeing another guy behind my back.

A friend of mine bears same sentiments with your thoughts, but he was taken for a fool, and was enslaved by his own promises. He's been confined at home, become the gf's duty driver every wkend, after she finish her party and clubbing. God knows who's she been with the whole night. By the time he arrives to pick her up, the boys would have already smoked out.

SAF's 8th invisible Core Value: Can do anything, but don't get caught. And the girls have mastered it alot better than us.

When they're caught holding hands or having fun with a guy, she'll say its just a friend. When she see us near a female species, she accuse the bf of having affair and she get jealous for days.:confused:

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

My POV: Army breakups, or 兵变 are common to grown-ups. It doesn't mean that a girl will stay the guy indefinitely even if they have passed the 2 years stage. There are more difficult hurdle to leap over. Just cherish whatever relationship you have right now, love her with all your might. Wish you all the best.

i agree with u bro,me n my last ex we pass thru the army stage,was together for almost 3 yrs and wat happen in the end?:(

[muachee]

muachee thinks if anyone found someone/ already have someone just think about whether you can live with the guilt if you stray...

if you can't or very hesitant, then don't do.

actually it is alot easier if you are just out of ns...cos vit m not that plentyful.

but for guys who are fairly successful it's a lot easier to pay for pleasure that could be far more physically satisfying than what they are getting with their loved ones...

and for those seeking justification, men do have physically needs beyond a single partner if we believe ourselves to be the alpha male hehehe...

[Rof|maoxz]

i agree with u bro,me n my last ex we pass thru the army stage,was together for almost 3 yrs and wat happen in the end?

I have encountered before, quite identical like yours. Somemore last time only pager & phone cards are the only few communication equipments. I'm not paranoid or posessive, just that she's just enrolled into poly at that time, and alot of school activites being organised and so forth. At that time, just wanna find a cushion level by communicating with the girl as often as possible. Barely few mths after NS, she has chosen her senior. What to do? :rolleyes: :mad:

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

I have encountered before, quite identical like yours. Somemore last time only pager & phone cards are the only few communication equipments. I'm not paranoid or posessive, just that she's just enrolled into poly at that time, and alot of school activites being organised and so forth. At that time, just wanna find a cushion level by communicating with the girl as often as possible. Barely few mths after NS, she has chosen her senior. What to do? :mad:

come to think of it,if she still together,i would had saved up all these $ i spent on cheonging and married her liao,can save me frm all those KC trap shits.:)

[Rof|maoxz]

come to think of it, if she still together,i would had saved up all these $ i spent on cheonging and married her liao, can save me frm all those KC trap shits. :)

Haiz. We can only learn from the past, but not lean upon. It may be a blissful marriage, or might turn hellish later. I guess marriage can't guarantee you to abstain from KC traps later lah.

[Cheri_Popper]

It may be a blissful marriage, or might turn hellish later. I guess marriage can't guarantee you to abstain from KC traps later lah.

Spoken like a true expert and an experience Cheongster! :p

[Rof|maoxz]

Spoken like a true expert and an experience Cheongster! :p

Oei~ How's your sheng li? Long time didn't catch up with you. :)

[sluto]

My opinion is to man, love and sex can be different. Man like to love woman that suit them, or another word, our cup of tea. Yet, they like to try out different type of ladies. Depends, i believes someday man will choose to settle down with their wife only, and with family.

[piratedking]

bro fireworks, I guess you just need to do the thing you think is right for time being. Hard to find a girl so "loyal" now a day. Make sure you take care of her. All the best into your relationship. :D

[*FiReWoRkS*]

G'luck my friend ... wish u every success in yr r-ship ... with yr gf of cos!

I give my best blessing to *FiReWoRkS* bro and his gf.

Thanks bros for yr blessings..it's really not easy to give up cheonging totally after so many years of being wild..was confused initially though..

But like wad bro milo_man said it's his life as everyone has the right to choose wad they want so i guess there's no really any right or wrong..it's totally up to the individual..wad can i do:o
perhaps im already really subdued by my girl..

Which is why i can now only surf SBF for visual satisfaction instead of out there savouring the tender flesh of the fairer sex ha..

Hopefully one day we can all find the love of our life and settle down happily ever after..

cheers:)

[Cheri_Popper]

Hopefully one day we can all find the love of our life and settle down happily ever after..


All the best to you and your partner.

Wait till you have kids.......

[zhivago]

I think I would... as stupid one may think of me but i don't mind.

I just knew a gal lately and I told her "I like her" and would wan her to be my gf badly on last Friday... Still waiting for answer actually.

Really hope she would agree to my courtship.:rolleyes:

[Cheri_Popper]

Really hope she would agree to my courtship.:rolleyes:

Asked her last friday and still no news?

All the best to you! :)

[zhivago]

Asked her last friday and still no news?

All the best to you! :)
thanx... she says she needs time to consider.

so i let her be lor... me idiot in such things one leh... so I duno wat the gal really means...

[Reaper]

Bro fireworks.....

I congratulate you on finding your "true love" and wanting to leave the "cheong" scence....just bear in mind one thing....even if you love each other...it does not mean that you are meant to live the rest of your lives together........dont mean to rain on your parade....just cherish what you have now......and give it all your best...if at the end of the day it dosent work out.......well...thats just the way the ball rolls.........

CHEERS

[SassySammy]

Personnally ive quit cheonging after im together with my current gf..

Do have the urge to enjoy the pleasure of the flesh again but everytime when i think of my gf and how sad she will be if i were to engage in such activities..i immediately realised that she is the most precious in my life..




Good work FiReWoRkS! Envy yr gf. Kinda hard to find guys who can resist the temptation of commercial sex/flings/ons these days.. it's becoming such a common thing now. Plus u guys r becoming smarter to never leave traces behind! Either LL close one eye n accept or try to understd the rationale of men having their needs (which i still can't :o )

Anyway kudos! hope she does treasure the almost extinct u. :D

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

thanx... she says she needs time to consider.

so i let her be lor... me idiot in such things one leh... so I duno wat the gal really means...

gd stuffs are worth waiting,wish u all the best bro.hard to knw wat a gal is really thinking lar.lolz:)

[poison]

Personnally ive quit cheonging after im together with my current gf..she has stuck with me for most of my NS shortly after my BMT when i was dumped by my previous gf..at that time i was at the lowest period of my life..dumped by gf shortly after NS + shit in army everyday...:)
Till u settle down or your honeymoon period over, then probably u want to give your opinion again...........

[*FiReWoRkS*]

thanks for everyone's concern..i do know the happiness im going through now is not 100% forever but i do know i must die die treasure what i have at the moment..at least for now in my heart im willing to give up cheonging for my current gf..

really can't look her in the eyes if i really go cheong behind her back..can't even imagine how sad she will be..and if that really happens not only will i ruin perhaps my true happiness and i'll also hurt the one who loves me with all her heart..

for fellow samsters who are still cheonging even though you are already happily attached do uall feel any guilt that is enough to make u wana give up cheonging?

cheers:)

[Zacxaviqer]

I'm not here to sprinkle any cold water but seriously, the 2 yrs of NS is nothing. Afterall, both of u get to meet at least once a week. A better assessment of yr relationship is when u go overseas for a yr or 2. That will be a better test for both of u. Anyway, all the best