Someone’s Hitting-On my Wife

[itsabt6x]

Hi all, this is my 2nd new thread and I hope I'm not too long winded or boring....please forgive if I am.....here it goes....:)

Got a situation recently which I hope Bros and Sistas here can offer their opinion and views.

Some background information:
A year back, we put up our flat for sale and had appointed an agent (lets call him T) to handle it. 3 months passed without success and hence, we terminated T’s services. However during the 3 months, he had gotten quite friendly with my wife (lets call her W) and as she’s a homemaker, I let her handle all the communication & coordination.

During the pass year, I know T still kept in contact with W as she will call to consult him on property pricing, etc…(she’s trying to sell our flat herself)…but recently, T had been asking W out for afternoon tea saying he’s around our place and have some time to spare….but W rejected his invites. Lately (just last month), W told me T had been smsing her daily greetings, asking how she is….etc….and with the recent newspaper report on flirtatious sms…..she posed me several very tough (in my view) questions which I have difficulty answering…..

1. Why is T smsing her daily…doesn’t he have better things to do?
2. Is he trying to get ‘friendly’ with her?
3. Doesn’t he know he’s married and he shouldn’t be doing this?
4. Do most married men does this and why?
5. Do I do such thing with other women? (I’m lost for words)

Now here’s my dilemma:
I have TOTALLY no objection to guy(s) hitting on W and possibly succeed. Fact is, W is very moralistic whereas I’m highly open-minded and liberal (with bros Peterpan & Perverse being my idol). I’ve been thinking of ways and means to get W interested (or even entertain the thought) of an alternative lifestyle without any success. So this situation could actually help my cause but I find her questions above (especially the last one) difficult to answer. As much I like to be frank and honest with my opinion, I know I’ll be STRUCK down if I do.

I have tried to side-track her questions by saying that T’s just been friendly and there’s no harm making a new friend even though the business deal did not succeed. W had somewhat taken to my reply and did not raise the questions again. But I’m now thinking how I can make use of this situation to ‘open’ W’s mind and get into the swing of things…(if you know what I’m getting at).

So Bros & Sistas here…your thoughts please…..THANKS!!!

[Toyota Honda]

Crazy, your wife may never come back once she decides to go..

[D!ckster]

u sure bro??

like wat bro Toyota Honda said...ur wife may never come back once she decides to go...also there have been other threads, started by other bros, which had discussed on this topic...maybe u wanna go read those threads 1st? :)

[blackeagle10]

Bro itsabt6ex,

Not sure what you intend to achieve by encouraging your wife to swing with your propery agent. You better ask yourself some honest questions:

1. Do you treasure your marriage??
2. She is moralistic and you are liberal?? Can she take the 'heat' when this alternative lifestyle come into full swing?
3. What happens if she prefer bonking other men after experiencing liberty of screwing other men??
4. Do you really love her? Can you still respect her as a wife after she had screwed other men and engage in all kinds of kinky sex that even she herself won't do it with you? In the heat of passion, anything goes....

You may think it is exciting to have a full swinging lifestyle but once you started it, you have to to accept all the consequences(good and bad) as well. You could be signing divorce papers very soon if things don't turn out the way you plan.

Well think carefully before wishing for forbidden fruits that are best left alone.

[dionysusex]

I sincerely ask that you think twice, thrice or even four times before you embark on this.

A third party is the last thing you need when you try and get your wife started on alternative lifestyle.

Will you like it? Are you sure you like getting your wife fcuked by another man while you watch? Are you sure it will not come back to haunt you? How will you differentiate lust from love?

What if, upon release of inhibitions, your wife turns to the extreme and becomes more liberal than you? Will you look to ways to cap or limit her "adventures" then?

What will happen to your marriage and your family?

Not that I especially approve of it but your home is a place for you to go back to at the end of the day for security (not just the physical but the mental realisation too), comfort and rest. You should not have to worry constantly in the day about who your wife has screwed with during your absence.

Just my two cents...

[zhivago]

Dun risk it.

She had not tried anything such as these and once she got the hang of it, you'll lose control of her and you'll then regret abt the decision you had now...

[Castrol]

1. Why is T smsing her daily…doesn’t he have better things to do?
2. Is he trying to get ‘friendly’ with her?
3. Doesn’t he know he’s married and he shouldn’t be doing this?
4. Do most married men does this and why?
5. Do I do such thing with other women? (I’m lost for words)

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bro this is funny la, a situation like this and you ask such questions. if a burglar breaks into your house and you see him, are you going to ask him...

1. do you break into houses everyday? dont you have better things to do like attending a ninjado class?
2. are you trying to be unfriendly to me?
etc etc... :D

[spermmann2003]

Hi all, this is my 2nd new thread and I hope I'm not too long winded or boring....please forgive if I am.....here it goes....:)

So Bros & Sistas here…your thoughts please…..THANKS!!!

What i think is why do u still waste time trying to set them up together when there are many samsters here who are most willing to fuck ur wife.

U like role playing? Just post ur requests here . I am sure ur pm box will be flooded.

[dna_gene]

I’ve been thinking of ways and means to get W interested (or even entertain the thought) of an alternative lifestyle without any success. I’m now thinking how I can make use of this situation to ‘open’ W’s mind and get into the swing of things…(if you know what I’m getting at).

So Bros & Sistas here…your thoughts please…..THANKS!!!

My advice is if she's not receptive towards such ideas, she probably never will. If you tried too hard, she might be confuse of your love for her. Bro Peverse's is open to such ideas from the start, so don't compare theirs. My gal takes nude photos etc too but not all gals can allow that. If you really succeed in making her swing and fuck with another guy, most probably you'll lose her for good.

Rather than risking your marriage turn ugly, find a gal elsewhere and try what you want with her. However if your wife learns about your little affair, given her characters, your marriage will turn ugly still...

[garem]

[QUOTE=itsabt6x]but I find her questions above (especially the last one) difficult to answer.

Why do you find the last qns difficult to answer? Are you like T that alway hunt for prey? :rolleyes:

[yanki1]

bro better dun try this. since your wife has told u about that T advancement. it means she care for u and is uncomfortable about the whole thing. if shes open to those kind of things, she will have gone ahead and do it withouth telling u. since u mentioned that shes at home during the day and can do anything behind your back and u wun know about it.

i dun think shes open for those kind of things. her forcus might be to run your family well for u, so that u can concentrate on your work and not worried about things at home. dun screw things up. u got a nice wife who is faithful to u. dun waste it.:p

[manoftheyear]

As far as i'm concern you should love your wife and respect her. Not share her with someone just to satisfied your lust.... as it will destroy your marriage in the long run. Look at US the divorce rate is damn high cos they like to play swing!!!!. Bro don't risk!!!! or you will regret it for the rest of your life!!!!

[D!ckster]

...when there are many samsters here who are most willing to fuck ur wife...Just post ur requests here. I am sure ur pm box will be flooded.
My sentiments exactly...rather than 便宜 some outsider property agent...might as well 便宜 your fellow bros here...:D ...just kidding...

[jimmyccc]

not worth it bro... once u start this alternative lifestyle... there is not turning back... it's a one way street till u reach a dead end... u might end up wanking urself for pleasure with no pussy to fuck...

[donjean]

dont play with fire bro.....
u r not burning your hand but your dick...

[itsabt6x]

Thanks bros here for all the advice and concern...I do agree that if my wife is open to ideas of alternative lifestyle, it would have been from the onset of courtship much like bros PP n Perverse.

I do also agree that since she's did not hide T's advancement from me, she's sincere about our marriage n care for the family n I should be very thankful for that (which I am).

Hence, I shall not make use of this situation to further my 'cause' and in fact shall not even try......treasure the marriage as it is now n live on....happily ever after...

As for my selfish desire for an alternative lifestyle, i guess i'll have to eat my cake elsewhere n seek a GF who share the same desire n interest....

Many thanks to all bros here....u're all a great help.....:D

[poison]

Bro, after reading your 1st post, my conclusion.
it might be a thrill to screw other ppl's wife and i think it should be also thrilling for u to see yr wife being screwed by another man too.
But if u really love her, dun ever bring up the idea to her, no healthy for marriage. ;)

[GoldenMonkey1]

Bro,

u need to think with your big head........your small head cant think......dun let yur small head take control of the situation.....

Good Luck

[plain]

u sure bro??

like wat bro Toyota Honda said...ur wife may never come back once she decides to go...also there have been other threads, started by other bros, which had discussed on this topic...maybe u wanna go read those threads 1st? :)

If she goes and never come back, then he will know that his wife was never meant to be His "Wife"

[D!ckster]

...I do also agree that since she's did not hide T's advancement from me, she's sincere about our marriage n care for the family n I should be very thankful for that (which I am).

Hence, I shall not make use of this situation to further my 'cause' and in fact shall not even try......treasure the marriage as it is now n live on....happily ever after...
...then he will know that his wife was never meant to be His "Wife"

I was reading bro itsabt6x's reply...and something negative came into my mind...i pondered for some time wondering if i should risk posting it here n endanger bro itsabt6x's marriage...well it's just what i think so it may not be true...here goes...

what if...Mrs itsabt6x had already caved in to T's advances and she came clean abt T's advances with her to bro itsabt6x, so tat she can gauge bro itsabt6x's reactions, whether he will get angry or whether he will be bo chup abt it...in order to have an idea whether she shd continue or stop wats she's doing...

just my 2-cents' worth...:o

[Toyota Honda]

what if...Mrs itsabt6x had already caved in to T's advances and she came clean abt T's advances with her to bro itsabt6x, so tat she can gauge bro itsabt6x's reactions, whether he will get angry or whether he will be bo chup abt it...in order to have an idea whether she shd continue or stop wats she's doing...

just my 2-cents' worth...:o

ya. you should ensure that she has not done it.. We guys know how to play reverse psychology, so do girls.. Thing is, if she is not comfortable, y is she still replyying to his sms?? Totally REMOVE HIM by telling him off..

[yanki1]

ya. you should ensure that she has not done it.. We guys know how to play reverse psychology, so do girls.. Thing is, if she is not comfortable, y is she still replyying to his sms?? Totally REMOVE HIM by telling him off..


hmm maybe his wife didnt reply. :confused:

[itsabt6x]

ya. you should ensure that she has not done it.. We guys know how to play reverse psychology, so do girls.. Thing is, if she is not comfortable, y is she still replyying to his sms?? Totally REMOVE HIM by telling him off..
well basically, my wife dont like2 sms s she find it troublesome (she rather call) so she didnt reply....but there's once she passed T's sms to me to repy...i did...with something notti...:D T replied similarly but i deleted it n left it at that (wife didnt know)......

[Harrier24B]

she passed T's sms to me to repy...i did...with something notti.. T replied similarly but i deleted it n left it at that (wife didnt know)......

You're an IDIOT! You created the situation yourself and probably led him on.... so do not come crying when she really goes out with him and dumps you.....

:cool:

[samasamah]

bro, in my mind, if you can do it outside, why can't your wife?
Even you are loyal to her, you can't request her like that.
So it is man's thought. feel insulted..then angry or what.

I am newbie, but from the posts i read those days, I really think it unfair for
women..

Hope not offend you.

[ct75]

Sometimes I think people like you are crazy and nuts....!

I used to fuck around, all types and all kinds. But at least its for fun and it was for pleasure. Whereelse my gf whom I love and plan to marry is for love.... not to be used like a toy to be fucked and given to other men to fuck.

Your wife will most prob be super disturbed and divorce you if she knows u wanted her to be fucked by the agent....

[blackeagle10]

Already written to bro itsabt6x about his proposal. He knows what are the consequences so we let him as the man of the house to decide what is best for him and his wife. We do not know the circumstances surrounding their marriage that prompt him to do such things.

If he can accept a "damaged wife" then that is his prerogative and as some bros here comment, don't come running back to us for advice when things go awry.....

[heatingup]

Originally Posted by itsabt6x
she passed T's sms to me to repy...i did...with something notti.. T replied similarly but i deleted it n left it at that (wife didnt know)......

You're an IDIOT! You created the situation yourself and probably led him on.... so do not come crying when she really goes out with him and dumps you.....

:cool:

He is a big fucking idiot.

The agent is led into thinking that your Mrs is somewhat responsive and he can continue his adventure, knowing that sending sms doesn't cost much while bonking a woman is a prize.

You should communicate to him, in no uncertain terms, to tell him to back off and stop harassing your wife!

[blackemperor]

another invitation of STD to your lovely home.
this one area u shld take note of... esp HIV, AIDS

unless your wife knows how to protect herself well.
we will never know what kind of disease the stranger can brought us to.

[mega117]

Call that Asshole and tell him u are very irritated by his advance toward your wife. Call his office and tell his boss that u stop this agency service becos of that asshole unprofessional attitude.

Need to do somethings to show your wife u care (even if u may not) else your wife may deem its ok and may want to try out one fine day due to her too much free and boring life style at home.

[perverse]

Hi everyone, read through the few pages and without making reference to this specific issue, i would like to address a few areas which have been brought up.

Personally i believe for me, if there is an alternate lifestyle, i would like the one to be in charge. And i do not think my girl should be seen as as any lesser. Because she and i are just enjoying sex for sex. It requires a great deal of trust. And from my experience, when it works out your relationship will grow even stronger.

Having sex is having sex, but after the thrill of experiencing other people, if she loves you, it'll still be you she enjoys most. I won't view her as a toy that other men can fuck because i do not see sex in that way.

I have posted explicit photos of my long term girlfriend in another thread and we have had threesomes and all. But we are going strong, i respect her and if all goes well, we may get married soon.

I feel being open sexually is quite a good idea also. So both sides need not resort to cheating or keep wondering how some one else may feel like.

But i do agree that must be careful of STDs and all that...

Just my opinion on things... Cheers

[itsabt6x]

hi bro perverse...what u've said was exactly how i felt about my ex (swingmate)...n i do agree it takes alot of trust....n may i add...to me...this sex thingy was for her pleasure....as oppose to her being a toy for other men....matter of fact, when she had her ons (in my presence)...she told me frankly...her ons mate felt used...after.....n she felt great! :D

anyhow, i appreciated all the feedbacks, both +ve & -ve, receive...well to each his own...as for my W....i'll let her b.....n not make her do anything against her wishes....

well, 1 thing i always believe is that if u loved some1, let her go...if she returns...she's yours...if not, it was never mean to b.....;)

[perverse]

hi bro perverse...what u've said was exactly how i felt about my ex (swingmate)...n i do agree it takes alot of trust....n may i add...to me...this sex thingy was for her pleasure....as oppose to her being a toy for other men....matter of fact, when she had her ons (in my presence)...she told me frankly...her ons mate felt used...after.....n she felt great! :D

anyhow, i appreciated all the feedbacks, both +ve & -ve, receive...well to each his own...as for my W....i'll let her b.....n not make her do anything against her wishes....

well, 1 thing i always believe is that if u loved some1, let her go...if she returns...she's yours...if not, it was never mean to b.....;)

Yah i think we share the same views more or less. Sometimes impression is that guys always fuck girls. But sometimes, the guy is the one left feeling emotionally strained or used.

And i feel, if people do not know you all and you have threesomes or foursomes with people you will not meet again in your lives, it does not matter what they think of your girl.

Most importantly, you must understand and stand by her. Then she will not feel any lesser.

[kmwalk6]

hi brudder,

your wife has clearly proven to be a respectable woman of high moral standards..while you may have your fantasies i'd very much rather you keep your marriage safe and sacred..not trying to sound like a holy man here but..think about it......she's your wife and the one you married because you loved her (i hope)...and certainly not because she would swing with you right...??

DON'T DO IT. PLEASE.

[JPimp]

1. Why is T smsing her daily…doesn’t he have better things to do?
2. Is he trying to get ‘friendly’ with her?
3. Doesn’t he know he’s married and he shouldn’t be doing this?
4. Do most married men does this and why?
5. Do I do such thing with other women? (I’m lost for words)


Hee Hee. Your woman must be quite a stunner;) You must feel quite pleased with yourself that your woman is still able to attract such attention from other men. I know I would. You might want to let your wife know that too. No wrong in doing that, only reinforces your marriage, in my opinion. That you also desire here as well. Perhaps you could tease her about it.


I’ve been thinking of ways and means to get W interested (or even entertain the thought) of an alternative lifestyle without any success.


Erm...What alternative lifestyle? Swinging? First and foremost, you have to be very convinced that you have absolutely no problem with a guy...maybe even two guys....more muscular....taller....maybe better looking....younger....taking your woman at the same time. And these guys are taking full control of the situation and woman thoroughly engrossed with this exilirating sex action.....you, meanwhile, at the sidelines sipping a can coke (or more likely regret, low-esteem and confusion!)

I have been to a wild party when I was younger. I was "lucky" enough to be in the action than just an onlooker with my girlfriend who was my partner. Thoroughly enjoyed it but I think I enjoyed it too much cos I was a constant nag to get my then girlfriend to attend the next wild party. We broke off....maybe she did not like DP!:p

[daddydick69]

bro this is funny la, a situation like this and you ask such questions. if a burglar breaks into your house and you see him, are you going to ask him...

1. do you break into houses everyday? dont you have better things to do like attending a ninjado class?
2. are you trying to be unfriendly to me?
etc etc... :D

Now THIS is FUNNY!! LOL