What I look for in a Fuck buddy

[euks]

We all know how we want our GF/Wife/FB to look like.

But little had been discussed about what personality trait/mentality/style we are looking for our GF/Wife/FBs

I will start first on my views of having a FB

After 9 fuck buddies
4 considered successful
- 1 still ongoing
- 3 still in good contact with the possibilities of continuation if mutal situation permits

5 considered unsuccessful
- 4 ended up getting sticky, possessive or emotionally attached
- 1 simply don't understand the meaning of being discreet and confused FB as just another ONS

Fuck Buddy understand that the relationship is uncommitted in a committed way.

We are in a FB relationship
-to fill the emotional void and physical needs while searching for our life partner.
-because we don't want the risk ,hazzle , time and financial investment of mutiple sex partners

Therefore, being in a FB relationship means to me
- u have to be truthful about your past and present sexual activities for the other party to access if he/she wants to start/continue this FB relationship
-you still need to put in a certain amount of effort to satisfy the other party's needs

My best FB experience is with Adeline. Adeline is a chilli padi who enjoy teasing and get teased. She filrts around but only sleep with me during the course of our FB relationship.
We enjoy each other company, have great sex together, and strictly follows our agreement.
There are times we feel jealous of each other activities, but we do not cross the line.
We had and still have genuine feelings for each other but our life aspiration are too different
We fucked, we made love, we enjoyed and when she found someone who she think she might be able to spend the rest of her life with, we stopped.

No messy rubbish, just plain good fun.

What do you look for in a FB?

[adonis]

Hi euks. How/where do u find your fuck buddies? Thanks.

[JIKED D]

got hole at the right place can already : )

[evo3]

Must get the right place, right time, right hole, and the right mood than you should be able to get a right screw of the night:)

[Mahalapa]

never a easy thing for me to juggle with feeling n lust,always get mixed emotion :o

[ace_rc]

I envy threadstarter who have so many fuck buddy in his life, as for me, i only had 3 so far. I think the worst scenario is when the the relationship gets too sticky, woman tends to be emotionally involve when time gets longer. Even though i have put it very clear to them, but sad to say all 3 of them gets way too hard to handle, they become over pocessive in the end. In my view, i think the best duration for such FB relationship is 1 year, afterwhich, we have to break it up and look for new adventures, as to keep everything under control.

[Money]

Two important factor, lookable & fuckable :D

[ken_v2]

not sticky and knows when not to call me...
looks and figure are secondary...

if got looks or figure then it is a bonus but most impt is that they are not sticky and do not call me when it is inconvenient. i always put these rules upfront, so if they can abide by these then we proceed and if they show any signs of these along the way, i will usually end it.

:D

[K123456]

do agree that women tends to be a bit more sticky as time progress as FB. I have a few too but as time goes on, the thend to be too sticky and I start to advoid them.
One even cry when I want out. and my policy is that the initial understanding is that we become FB and once it get out of hand, I would run and run really fast.

[dna_gene]

I had a few before after my marriage but don't know why some wanted long term affair, wanted to get serious. Lucky thing was there's not really any screw up in the end. The only big screw up I had is not cause by any of the gals but was betrayed by a close gay friend, so my wife came to know about my affairs.

Anyway ever since I changed job, I do not have time for any extra program and slowly i was left with my wife only. Ya, my wife had forgiven me, though not as trusting like before but guess i should be grateful le.

Dont ask me how I got my hands on the gals cos I don't really go looking for them, they came to me after we slowly got to know each other well and all did knew that I was already married. Like there's this receptionist with a customer that I frequently visited, we always had small talks when I went over to collect cheques. One day she asked me to go for a drink after work and things just happened from there. Similar case with an intern at a school I took my part time course, small talks and things just evolved from there.

So ya, if you guys really want advice, it's probably the way you treat the ladies. Treat them with respect and make jokes to make them laugh. As long they are comfortable around you, they will slowly incline towards you. Subtle flirting if you know how will be an added bonus!

[tissue]

Hi Brothers,

I am a mother of 2 now but when I was younger, I too had my FBs. I think the average lifespan of each FB was about 2 months, maximum 3 months. I agree that some people tend to get emotional and start wanting more from the relationship but in my experience, the guys get all emotional as well.

My previous FBs got jealous when I had more than 1 man and started getting more and more jealous. Questions keep getting more and tempers started flaring...I even tried to turn one FB into a relationship but he got so scary and freaky that I still have to broke off in the end.

So guys, not only the girls get sticky, the guys get sticky too! In fact, I estimated that he is likely to get stickier the 3rd time round..

A women's point of view.. :)

Cheers / Tissue

[Scrubber]

5 considered unsuccessful
- 4 ended up getting sticky, possessive or emotionally attached
- 1 simply don't understand the meaning of being discreet and confused FB as just another ONS


I haven't even got a single FB in my life, now that I'm in my mid-20s. Maybe still young, you'd say. I honestly don't mind if you refer them to me. Honestly ! :D

[rengh73]

ok guys, talking abt FB...
i had few before n u know we stick to the rules n things went on well.
recently i got a new "buddy", but seems like i am getting sticky instead of her....
duno what to do now.... :confused:

[UnderTicker]

Horniness is a must ;) Anytime Anywhere

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

I haven't even got a single FB in my life, now that I'm in my mid-20s. Maybe still young, you'd say. I honestly don't mind if you refer them to me. Honestly ! :D

i share the same plight as u bro.:o

[JOGK]

so a fuck buddy means no holds bare...
i dont mine she isnt pretty...just lookable will do
i would prefer she has a good body
because thats what i will be playing...:D

[Huo_Yuan_Jia]

so a fuck buddy means no holds bare...
i dont mine she isnt pretty...just lookable will do
i would prefer she has a good body
because thats what i will be playing...:D

i guess everyone also wants something like that.hee~

[Moon Raker]

So far no such luck on me :( wonder when will it strike

[JOGK]

I Dont Have Fuck Buddies So Far
But Got Lots Of One Or Two Night Stands :d

[LENS]

Haha. Anyone can intro me a FB?

already past 30 yr but not even a FB encounter before.

[daryl76]

this kinda thing difficult to intro... heehee must start somewhere mah, maybe as friends first den u pick up from there mah, cant i go intro, hi xxxx, this is yyyy, he is lookin for a fuck buddy... :D

[Scrubber]

These kinda things of course can cham xiong one ma. Sperm brothers of the world unite ! :D

[MMM88]

as long as can "click" (TCSS) n share the same interest (LUST) n lookout for each others' (STICK together).............:)

[euks]

You are right, guys can get emotional and sticky as well. And I also notice my past sexual partners have a tendency to start being sticky/possessive/inquistive about your private life after the third or fourth round.

However, it can be fun to have a passionate jealous aggressive FBs. I had 2 FBs relationship where we allow our jealousy/possessiveness to flow in the bed room only. The result is very hot passionate aggressive sex. The negative side is we really did end up falling in love and had to totally avoid each other for months to cool down.

I never ever said to my FBs that I want to bring it into a committed relationship. There were times I felt a strong urge to said it. But I always remind myself that the platform and foundation of the relationship was wrong to being with.

IMO, relationship that is build on lust or feelings won't last.
I am looking for someone who can win my admiration and respect first. Let my mind fall in love. Feelings and lust can come later


A women's point of view.. :)
Cheers / Tissue

[yankim3]

hmm sometime we cannot find one when we really go and look for one. must be im not gd looking enuf. then when no intention of finding. one pop right b4 u:D

[panther74_74]

i share the same plight as u bro.:o


Me 2 leh......somemore thirty plus liao.....hiazzz......:o

[euks]

mmmm this thread has develope towards "How to get a FB"

Please do not PM me asking me to share my FB contacts. FB is not the same as FL. I do not want any referal fees either.

If you do not have FBs experience, you can still try to give you objective opinion on what do you want or do not want in a FB relationship.

dna_gene is right. I don't really actively look out for Fbs. I go on dates with the purpose of finding my soul mate, the one I want to spend the rest of my life with.

I genuinely date the girl without thinking of getting into her pants, communicate with them, understand them and if either one of us come to the conclusion that we are not suitable together as life partners, we honestly let each other know my thoughts.

We share our usually very different life aspiration, fantasy, dark secrets, and eventually our loneliness and fears of not being able to find our life partner. And for a brief moment, let all our accumlated feelings and thoughts explode.

FB is very different from ONS, or serial ONS. Like I say, it is a uncommitted relationship in a committed way. FBs are very much like a couple, just that both parties have acknowledge the fact that either one will move on when the right one comes along.

[iamsodamsianz]

so i guess u guys agreed from the start verbally that the r.s is purely for sex?

[dna_gene]

Hi Brothers,

So guys, not only the girls get sticky, the guys get sticky too! In fact, I estimated that he is likely to get stickier the 3rd time round..

A women's point of view..

Cheers / Tissue

I know it's not just the gals and I'm not saying guys wouldnt get sticky or demand more but in my case, I just wanted things to be purely sexual yet some how, as time passed, more were being demanded like attention, care, and love; even when I already made known that I'm married. Hai~ Oh well, now i'm just a super dry spell guy! Haha! ^_^

Over all it's just up to individual control of the mind, regardless of the gender.

[best123]

sometime trustworthiness is a thing i look for as well... you do not want these FB to screw up yr marriage... i always have this worry as human tends to get emotional after physical.....

sometime,paid sex is preferred...get it over and done with.......

[euks]

I am not married so I am not experience in the field of having a FB after marriage.
I am curious if the players see things differently of having a FB relationship with a married person. Will the girl see themselves as a third party? Do they see it as having an affair?

My FB relationship were never purely sexual to begin with. Emotions are usually involved. Its just that I draw a clear line that this relationship will never develop into something permanent.

hmmmm.....

[Toyota Honda]

I believe the main thing about a succeefful FB is to be understanding and sompromisingf. Just like maintaining a gf/gf relationship oor marriage. Its just like a relationship where both parties are friends but love each other eanough to have sex while maintaining a friendship. So its definitely not easy. And fate does plays a part.

I personally have 1 longstanding one. She has been with me for 5 years even when I was attached. After my gf left me, she still remiained as my FB, not my gf cos there is still something lacking between us thats preventing the stsus upgarde. She is also understanding enoush to know that. Many time, we try to break from each other but end up calling each other in times of horniness...

There's once, I even brought her to the bank where a girl that I am interested in is working. Ask her to comment and apporoval somemore. After that, drive down to hotel to have a great sexxion.

[dna_gene]

I am curious if the players see things differently of having a FB relationship with a married person. Will the girl see themselves as a third party? Do they see it as having an affair?

My FB relationship were never purely sexual to begin with. Emotions are usually involved. Its just that I draw a clear line that this relationship will never develop into something permanent.

hmmmm.....
I believe it's pretty much the same. it's only when feeling grows too strong, the gal does not have the option to enter into a serious relationship. For my case, my gal wanted to get serious, even marking a date as the start of the serious relationship and became very possessive. I was not allow to date any other gals except my own wife. Though she always threatened me with my wife, she never look for my wife to find trouble.

If it's clearly FB relationship, I don't think they would see it as an affair but of cos we know that it's already an affair as long it's sex outside marriage. ^_^

My FB relationship were not purely sexual too, just that it's mainly lust and companionship. I did brought them for dinner etc, even without sex but feeling should not be out of control. That's a dangerous area to meddle with!

[dna_gene]

I personally have 1 longstanding one. She has been with me for 5 years even when I was attached.
What can I say? You are one lucky bastard! ^_^

[yankim3]

do u all try to look for a FB that is attached or married. is it less trouble that way? :confused:

[dna_gene]

do u all try to look for a FB that is attached or married. is it less trouble that way? :confused:

Finding FB that's either attached or married has its pros and cons. The good side is that it's almost for sure they will not fall in love with you, just enjoy the sex and companionship, just like good friends who have sex. The downside is that once they break off or divorce with their other half, they will be very reliant on you and in no time at all, fall in love with you. Also if the other half ever found out, you are in for a scary rollercoast ride~!

So if you really want to go for attached or married gals, make sure they are in a very stable relationship and not having quarrels every time. Also make sure the work nature of the guy is not flexible enough for him to find out anything or if the gal's work nature requires lots of entertainment and overtime. ^_^

Nevertheless, the most important thing is to let nature takes its course, don't purposely go looking for them.

[Toyota Honda]

What can I say? You are one lucky bastard! ^_^

Ya, Best thing is, when I started business and needed money, she just pass it to me and said no need to return. Just take it for all the meals I have been paying for her for the past 5 years.

[tomleo]

There's once, I even brought her to the bank where a girl that I am interested in is working. Ask her to comment and apporoval somemore. After that, drive down to hotel to have a great sexxion.


Wah Brother..U win already..bring yr FB to ask for approval for a girl u r interested in.....

[humpcheepang]

Finding FB that's either attached or married has its pros and cons....

You bet, I mean why does a attached/married lady wants to have a FB, is it becos that she is having problem with her hubby that she inclines to look for a companion? She maybe lonely and horny as hubby may have FBs too.....Just a sudden thot, don't be offended bros, what if 1 day after a sex session with FB, both of you walk out of the hotel room, and found that your wife with your FB's hubby coming out from another room next door!!!:p Seow....just like TV drama....

Hmmmmm.....a saying goes, YOU FxxK SOMEONE'S WIFE, SOMEONE FxxKS YOUR WIFE.......can you take it???

[ToxicQueen]

wat i look 4 in a fuck buddy ..... hmmmm, of course one who can sexify me lah.
few years ago, got 2 FBs. one i dump him after 3-4 weeks as i find tat he
cannot sexify me lor. then next one is good n we carry on until i found a bf.
so after tat, only stick 2 my bf lor.. but now break off already.. sad..
wanted 2 contact back tat FB, but his contact no. changed already so no contact liao. no choice lor. :cool:

[d@redevil]

wat i look 4 in a fuck buddy ..... hmmmm, of course one who can sexify me lah.
few years ago, got 2 FBs. one i dump him after 3-4 weeks as i find tat he
cannot sexify me lor. then next one is good n we carry on until i found a bf.
so after tat, only stick 2 my bf lor.. but now break off already.. sad..
wanted 2 contact back tat FB, but his contact no. changed already so no contact liao. no choice lor. :cool:


wan to b my FB den...hee...

[JIKED D]

.. but now break off already.. sad..
wanted 2 contact back tat FB, but his contact no. changed already so no contact liao. no choice lor. :cool:

I wonder how many will pm you to ask you to try them out :D

[yankim3]

Nevertheless, the most important thing is to let nature takes its course, don't purposely go looking for them.



yeah u made some very important points:D

[DTCEPL]

So guys, not only the girls get sticky, the guys get sticky too! In fact, I estimated that he is likely to get stickier the 3rd time round..

A women's point of view.. :)

Cheers / Tissue

Yeah, i fully agreed. I myself got sticky with my gal when we get closer each day. Really difficult to keep my cool and not to lose temper when she is with another man. Just cant helped getting angry and frustrated.

Cheers

[tissue]

Yeah, i fully agreed. I myself got sticky with my gal when we get closer each day. Really difficult to keep my cool and not to lose temper when she is with another man. Just cant helped getting angry and frustrated.

Cheers

Hi,

We are all human beings and it's hard to control our emotions..I mean, the reason we are different from animals is because we can control our actions..

I believe that sometimes guys tend to use the little head to think and when we are all having a good time, the little thinks that it's not too bad to be like this and would like to keep on playing in this manner...That's lust talking, not real affection..

It's hard if there is no proper communication between FB..Certain rules have to be set out..I used to forbid all FB's to hug or hold me at a particular disco that I used to patronised..I mean everybody knows who I am and I cannot have one FB talk to another right? :) Kinkier ones would start whispering into my ear (at a disco, remember?) what he is going to do to me later that night and I would be eagerly anticipating his next actions..It's fun when they do that..Now all my memories comes flooding back man..

One possessive FB started stalking me there and watching every guy that I was talking with and would start to question why was I so touchy with another guy, how come the other guy can hold the small of my back when he cannot do this..blah blah blah..

A FB must understand that this is not a boy & Gal relationship. This is merely a sexual game played by 2 consenting adults, with achieving orgasms frequently as the final goal..

Lastly, I firmly believe that no lies or false promises should be given to either party just to get the person into bed..

Cheers / Tissue

[5ag1_Boar]

...

One possessive FB started stalking me there and watching every guy that I was talking with and would start to question why was I so touchy with another guy, how come the other guy can hold the small of my back when he cannot do this..blah blah blah..

...

Cheers / Tissue

Heh, if I were him, I'll promise you a good spanking later for allowing another guy to break the rule. ;)

[yankim3]

my kissing and petting buddy, no sex yet. gets too sticky at times and wan to meet me every weekend. i took a step back and stop contacting her for 2 weeks, after that she sort of got her head clear and we meet up once in a while for some hot petting actions. but sadly, no sex yet.:(

[itguide]

Me 2 had a FB who wanted a discreet relationship and I told her the truth about my life and relationship and honestly I respect her and try to make sure she is comfortable and do not feel that I am making use of her. I mean FB also must show respect and love and make her feel good right? :)

Then she wanted to go movie, want to go dinner and lunch and said that I do not spend enough time with her. Then she started saying that she is not in a fair position. She started using abusing language and that is when I had to put a stop before things get ugly. Know when to get out is important so that your life do not get damaged. The big head must think and the heart must be able to bear the pain.

Miss her a lot and the wonderful loving time at the starting of the relation but this is the best way out.:(

[yankim3]

i think FB sometimegets out of hand is when one party cross the line. its not easy to remain clear the position each one is playing. things turn ugly when one gets too processive and wans the other for him/herself only. or when one party wans to pull out and the other dun.:eek:

[euks]

SPOT ON! You got all the important points right!
Looks like you are a good FB player too.

The reason I started this thread was because I heard or witness too many FB relationship ended up really messy. Myself included.

Feelings usually develop during a FB relationship. Follow the rules, control our emotions and let the emotion explode into a wild and passionate night.

Your last point is the holy rule of all FB relationship. There are too many examples of guys misleading or manipulating their way into the pants of the girls while the girls usually resolve to emotional blackmail for commitment.

One thing that most FB players tend to neglect is being really discreet. Keeping quiet is not enough, even your body language should not suggest to anyone else that two of your had been intimate before.


the reason we are different from animals is because we can control our actions......

That's lust talking, not real affection..

Kinkier ones would start whispering into my ear (at a disco, remember?) what he is going to do to me later that night and I would be eagerly anticipating his next actions....

This is merely a sexual game played by 2 consenting adults, with achieving orgasms frequently as the final goal..

Lastly, I firmly believe that no lies or false promises should be given to either party just to get the person into bed..

Cheers / Tissue

[tissue]

One thing that most FB players tend to neglect is being really discreet. Keeping quiet is not enough, even your body language should not suggest to anyone else that two of your had been intimate before.

Hi euks,

Thanks alot for the nice compliments.

I was pretty wild and may I say, quite a player and had about 12 FBs during the wild young days..I guessed it because I am a girl, which makes it easier for me to get more FBs..

I used to be a commitment phobic but I have HSD so being single was not an alternative for me.. Thus, I needed FB to survive.. I hated the relationship bull and rubbish so having FB was the best choice..I dun really feel good at ONS as I still need to have some basic positive feelings of a guy..I can't just screw a guy that I just knew..But, I did give out a sympathy screw to a guy who liked me for the longest time but that's another story..:)

There were times when I alo slipped and developed affection for another Fb and it still did not work out after all..

Many people cannot separate sex and emotions but to be fair, having a partner who enjoys sex as much as we do is really an added incentive..

Anyway, I needed to act and say. I love body language..Maybe because I was single and being naughty and wild, I love to let people guess what is actually going on between a guy and me...Natural born cock tease..I cannot help it..Even now, I still flirt harmlessly with men..I love it when some guy who is after me sees me talking to a FB and when they asked who is that, I will always nonchantly reply: someone I know...Maybe better then I know you....HAHAHA...That's me..

But my policy is to not kiss and tell so I guessed that's why my FB's liked me for being discreet enough and keeping everything a secret...

Nice talking to you..

Cheers / Tissue

[tk-king]

u will never know when u get 1
n u will never know when u gonna lose it

the most impt thingy is understanding n sextifaction
esp when both r attached

[tissue]

Heh, if I were him, I'll promise you a good spanking later for allowing another guy to break the rule. ;)

Hi Sagiboar,

I did get a spanking because I was talking to much to a guy but that was another FB!! :)

Cheers / Tissue

[asdfghjkl]

good to see so much contribution from sis.. please type even more! :D

[desk13]

It's getting more exciting

[Kyser Soze]

I was pretty wild and may I say, quite a player and had about 12 FBs during the wild young days..I guessed it because I am a girl, which makes it easier for me to get more FBs..

I used to be a commitment phobic but I have HSD so being single was not an alternative for me.. Thus, I needed FB to survive.. I hated the relationship bull and rubbish so having FB was the best choice..I dun really feel good at ONS as I still need to have some basic positive feelings of a guy..I can't just screw a guy that I just knew..But, I did give out a sympathy screw to a guy who liked me for the longest time but that's another story..

12FBs, sis you really beat many bros here hands down. Somehow I'm still waiting for a 'sympathy screw' from a girl.:D Just kidding. But you are right. A woman needs feelings for a man in order to screw. While a man needs good looks and body of a woman for a screw. Men and women think differently. What matter most in the game of fuxk buddies is to satisfy both parties sexual urges without emotions come into the picture.

[josperm]

Hi euks,


I used to be a commitment phobic but I have HSD so being single was not an alternative for me.. Thus, I needed FB to survive.. I hated the relationship bull

what is HSD?

[HardCock]

Hi All,

This FB thingy to me is a little foreign. I must admit I never had one. Maybe I dunno how to differentiate a GF from FB, haha...just kidding.

The notion of having a buddy for sex is pretty exciting to me. But u noe, it's not easy to identify one. For example, I have a very close female colleague (not my gf). We can chit-chat almost everything (cliche). Cut it short, I began to feel sexual tension whenever I am with her. However, I do not know how she feel. One wrong move, I could be condemned in the co. Well, dun eat and shit at the same place. Haiz, how to tell she's game for it? :o

[orangeapples]

Cut it short, I began to feel sexual tension whenever I am with her. However, I do not know how she feel. One wrong move, I could be condemned in the co. Well, dun eat and shit at the same place. Haiz, how to tell she's game for it? :o

Hmm..I do disagree with what you have said though.. Firstly, having an intimate relationship in the office is safer than you think. Well, your colleagues will never find out because if they do, both your careers will be down the drain. In that case, I guess your girlfriend/wife will never find out because of the same reason. While it is unfair, the girl always gets more flak and might risk being labeled as a slut. The guy is always forgiven, given time. Therefore, unless you are having a discreet relationship with a chick who is willing to give up everything, including her reputation, then you should be relatively safe. If you think that she might be psycho and risk everything, then I feel you should not proceed.

However, I guess that it is important to remain one or two steps ahead of the game regardless. I always remind any FB/flings/ONS that even if she told my fiancee and my engagement is annulled, I would never consider her. In fact, I would never contact her again nor want to see her face or hear her voice again. Thus if she did develop feelings for me, she would risk not seeing me again, if she wanted to further the relationship.

To answer bro hardcock, from my experience, I would advise you to take her for dinner or supper, then ask her if she would like to come to your place. One of my tactics, after the dinner,on the way of sending her home if i gauge that she might be reluctant to come by my place, I would say that I needed to go home urgently. Reasons can range from my home is nearby and I need to take a leak immediately and I would send her home soon after or I need to get my bank details to my brother urgently etc. Another tactic would be to tell her that you have some pictures/art/music/gourmet coffee etc I would like to share with her, and if she'd like to come. She will likely say "no" the first time but I will be persistent and insist, spending at least 5 minutes before giving up. After completing whatever reason I had if I had given any, I would proceed to ask her if she would like a cup of coffee, to which I would normally serve Irish coffee. If she declined, I would serve a glass of wine or something like that. Either way I would serve alcohol. After some drinks, I would let her know that I am feeling a little tipsy and I need some time to rest first if she asked about being sent home.

It is during this time when I normally make a move. Will normally start off with a few compliments, try to get the mood going. I will edge closer to her and try a little body contact and gauge her response. At this point of time, I try to engross her in the conversation. Some examples of compliments resulting in physical contact: "What color are your nails (touch her hands), do they match your feet?" and touch her legs gently, or "Wow, your skin is so smooth, and size of your fingers" and hold her hands and exclaim "Your hands, they look so small!" and proceed to compare your hand sizes. Once I can feel that there is sufficient physical contact without any negative reaction, I would try to maintain physical contact longer, by leaving my hand on her thigh or holding her fingers or playing with her hair or having my arms around her. I would then choose an opportune time to interrupt the conversation and ask her if she would like to kiss me. The thing is if she is offended or shocked or whatsoever, I will just nudge her gently and said I was joking. I would say that I found it amazing that she was so engrossed in the conversation and I just wanted to say something to shock her. If she was hesitant, it means that she is actually considering the proposition. I would ask her if she was a person who would like to try new things. If she said no, I would ask her if she was a romantic person. Then I would proceed closer to her and take my chance anyway. In the event that she forcefully tries to resist, I would stop and apologize profusely for carrying a joke too far and I hope she would not be offended and would accept my apologies and forgive me. Well if the kiss is successful, then it is time to take it up to the next level. Don't wish to elaborate further. :D

I do not worry about my approach because it involves a girl in my apartment with me alone. Just the two of us. If she were to cry foul because of anything that happened that night, it would be hard for anyone to believe her. A couple alone in an apartment. People will question her intentions more than mine. Either way, I am a gentleman at heart and I will not enforce myself upon anyone who is not willing. Do not have that kind of fetish and do not think i will acquire one in the future. I will only have sex with a willing party.

I am just sharing an example of my experiences and this should not be used as a guide. Do take my advice with a pinch of salt. I feel that every girl out there is different and as such I have catered my approach towards every girl differently. Girls like to be appreciated and treated well with respect. Treat them well and I believe you will receive equal treatment. Another to note is, I am lucky to be staying in a apartment all by myself (my fiancee is currently pursuing her studies in another state) and I have used this to my advantage. Thus, you should cater your approach accordingly to your advantage. You really do not want somebody interrupting your "private time". Another thing to keep in mind is to be confident in your approach at all times. The moment you stutter and lose your confidence, you lose your game, you lose the moment and you have lost your chance. Good Luck!

[orangeapples]

I would like to say that the above post was dedicated to Imom who has pestered me for a FR on my Taiwanese colleague. Also, to brothers out there, please do not think of it as a sure guide to lay girls! There are a lot of other factors that exist and has to be considered. I am just sharing my experience. Cheers

[dna_gene]

I used to be a commitment phobic but I have HSD so being single was not an alternative for me.. Thus, I needed FB to survive.. I hated the relationship bull and rubbish so having FB was the best choice..I dun really feel good at ONS as I still need to have some basic positive feelings of a guy..I can't just screw a guy that I just knew..But, I did give out a sympathy screw to a guy who liked me for the longest time but that's another story..:)
Just curious, since you said that you have HSD and need FB to survive. So how do survive your marriage now, still having FB or you have other tricks to survive on? Please advise! ^_^

[tissue]

Just curious, since you said that you have HSD and need FB to survive. So how do survive your marriage now, still having FB or you have other tricks to survive on? Please advise! ^_^

Hi dna_gene,

I have a.............. HUSBAND!!

I'm happily married with 2 kids now...Like I said, those happened in my wilder & younger days...My husband was my ex bf, then FB because he knew all the spots and now husband...He was the only guy which made me re-consider commitment and he knew and whole heartedly accepted my past..

I had 3 FB's which progressed into relationships and my husband was the one that managed to make me commit myself..

I still need to have sex at least twice a week and sometimes he would teasingly say: You are too hungry, gimme a break.. :)

There are times when I needed release and he's tired so what we do is to take my trusty vibrator out to play..He will then assist me in getting my orgasms then it's hug hug bed time for us..

Cheers / Tissue

[tissue]

good to see so much contribution from sis.. please type even more! :D

Hi asdfghjkl,

What else do you want to know??

I have several guy friends who uses SB..I wouldn't want them to know that I'm typing out my stories because they know all my stories.. :)

Also, not nice to hijack thread...Next time will type out all my previous adventures..

BTW, love your NICK!

Cheers / Tissue

[tissue]

12FBs, sis you really beat many bros here hands down. Somehow I'm still waiting for a 'sympathy screw' from a girl.:D Just kidding. But you are right. A woman needs feelings for a man in order to screw. While a man needs good looks and body of a woman for a screw. Men and women think differently. What matter most in the game of fuxk buddies is to satisfy both parties sexual urges without emotions come into the picture.

Hi Kyser Soze,

Like I said, I was a young and pleasant looking gal with a nice body...Which guy in his right frame of mind would reject a gal like that?? :)

But then, that was when I younger...

'Sympathy screw' was actually done because that guy really did whatever possible to be my bf..Picking up my parents, buying Barney show tickets for my younger siblings, fetching me to and fro from school and work.. (I was studying full time in the morning and working at a pub at night), being there when my gal friends had some problems..All in all, he was a very nice guy..In fact, he even sent me to met my husband (then FB) so we could screw...He always came into my room whenever he sends me home and we would just chit chat til I'm tired and he would leave when I wanna sleep (according to him, he likes to see me with no make up!?!?) But he never tried anything..So one night, I felt the urge and then we did it..Was not fantastic, was not bad..Just normal..Then he stuck around even more and when I was sleeping exclusive with my husband, I told him that I will never be his gf and I'm attached..And no more news liao...

Like I said, women needs some positive feelings..We dun need a good looking guy (although thats a bonus)..we need to have that connection and GUYS, you can create that connection by just providing a listening ear, treat a lady like a LADY and tata...she will be yours...

Emotions will definitely come into the picture...How to avoid..Like I said, we are human beings, not animals...If a woman does not have their emotions, she will not be your FB...We just have to control our actions and let go when the time is right...

My FB's were maximum 3 months long..I feel the longer it drags on, the higher the chances of having affection for the person..We should break it off while it's fresh in our minds and before we really fall for the other party..Because when affections comes into play, it's gonna be ugly..

Just my 2 cents worth.

Cheers / Tissue

[steamer]

wat do u guys and gals think...any difference between having a FB and an affair? how long b4 an ons becomes an affair?

to answer the threadstarter's question...my main criterion for an FB will be an acceptance of a no strings relationship; hence i always make my stand clearly from the beginning, to avoid complications later; and i try to avoid uncommitted parties.

[Kyser Soze]

Like I said, women needs some positive feelings..We dun need a good looking guy (although thats a bonus)..we need to have that connection and GUYS, you can create that connection by just providing a listening ear, treat a lady like a LADY and tata...she will be yours...

Yo sis, thanks for the advice. Even if fellow samsters here are not looking for a FB, it is equally applicable for those looking for a girlfriend. It's time for me to polish up my listening skills, and be caring towards the lady I want to sian.:D

[HardCock]

Hey Arronclock, yeah, mayb it's not too difficult to have a FB but I guess not everyone can have this chance. Although guys can differentiate sex from love better than gers, it is not impossible for the guys to fall in love with the gers he's having sex regularly. Humans have emotions afterall. Once you feel the emotional attachement, I guess the situation will be a little sticky.

For the close female colleague of mine, I reckon that I should not do anything silly. She's attractive but I shan't risk my reputation yet until I'm very sure. So I'm trying to decode all the signs. Well, can be wrong or right...I just have to make the correct judgement. Recently, when we went out with for tea and coffee, we started to talk about our sexual fantasies...I dunno wat that mean...I guess that she's very comfortable with me to talk about such topics. Anyway, that's this time that she rest her head on my shoulder when talking her personal problem. Well, as a gentleman, I of cos lent it willingly. I also took this opportunity and gave her a tight hug...she din resist. In case u guys misunderstood, we din do anything...hahaha...Like I said earlier, better be safe than sorry...can't make one wrong move...she let me hug doesn't mean anything right!!! :D

[HardCock]

Hi Kyser Soze,

Like I said, women needs some positive feelings..We dun need a good looking guy (although thats a bonus)..we need to have that connection and GUYS, you can create that connection by just providing a listening ear, treat a lady like a LADY and tata...she will be yours...

Cheers / Tissue

Hey Tissue,

I have to half-agree to ur statement. It over simplfying things. I concur with the "fact" that being a good listener can establish the elusive chemistry. However, that has to provide that the ger is a little fond with you. If you cannot get the 1st impression right, U will be strike out almost immediately, no 3 chances like in baseball, hahaha : ) Am I right sis Tissue? U won't give the guy a second chance if he can't impress u enough during the first meeting with u? Haha, now wat makes a good impression? Well, it's not black and white here. It's very dependent on the type of ger. In general, handsome is a big factor (u have to agree, I'm sure). Other things are how u connect to the ger lor...very chim one, I am not very sure till now myself...haha...mayb sis tissue can help us with some insights of women's mind, thanks.

[BANANASKIN]

Hey Arronclock, yeah, mayb it's not too difficult to have a FB but I guess not everyone can have this chance. Although guys can differentiate sex from love better than gers, it is not impossible for the guys to fall in love with the gers he's having sex regularly. Humans have emotions afterall. Once you feel the emotional attachement, I guess the situation will be a little sticky.

For the close female colleague of mine, I reckon that I should not do anything silly. She's attractive but I shan't risk my reputation yet until I'm very sure. So I'm trying to decode all the signs. Well, can be wrong or right...I just have to make the correct judgement. Recently, when we went out with for tea and coffee, we started to talk about our sexual fantasies...I dunno wat that mean...I guess that she's very comfortable with me to talk about such topics. Anyway, that's this time that she rest her head on my shoulder when talking her personal problem. Well, as a gentleman, I of cos lent it willingly. I also took this opportunity and gave her a tight hug...she din resist. In case u guys misunderstood, we din do anything...hahaha...Like I said earlier, better be safe than sorry...can't make one wrong move...she let me hug doesn't mean anything right!!! :D


After huggin, u should carry on with a kiss on her neck. If she still dun resist, wa la... look at her eyes, then slowli go for the lips!
then u will have a FR for us!
lol~

[BANANASKIN]

Hey Arronclock, yeah, mayb it's not too difficult to have a FB but I guess not everyone can have this chance. Although guys can differentiate sex from love better than gers, it is not impossible for the guys to fall in love with the gers he's having sex regularly. Humans have emotions afterall. Once you feel the emotional attachement, I guess the situation will be a little sticky.

For the close female colleague of mine, I reckon that I should not do anything silly. She's attractive but I shan't risk my reputation yet until I'm very sure. So I'm trying to decode all the signs. Well, can be wrong or right...I just have to make the correct judgement. Recently, when we went out with for tea and coffee, we started to talk about our sexual fantasies...I dunno wat that mean...I guess that she's very comfortable with me to talk about such topics. Anyway, that's this time that she rest her head on my shoulder when talking her personal problem. Well, as a gentleman, I of cos lent it willingly. I also took this opportunity and gave her a tight hug...she din resist. In case u guys misunderstood, we din do anything...hahaha...Like I said earlier, better be safe than sorry...can't make one wrong move...she let me hug doesn't mean anything right!!! :D


After huggin, u should carry on with a kiss on her neck. If she still dun resist, wa la... look at her eyes, then slowli go for the lips!
then u will have a FR for us!
lol~

[tissue]

Hey Tissue,

I have to half-agree to ur statement. It over simplfying things. I concur with the "fact" that being a good listener can establish the elusive chemistry. However, that has to provide that the ger is a little fond with you. If you cannot get the 1st impression right, U will be strike out almost immediately, no 3 chances like in baseball, hahaha : ) Am I right sis Tissue?

Hi HardCock,

This is where you are wrong. A gal likes basking in attention and the more you give her, the more she will enjoy it. If you are not good looking, it's true that 1st impression will not be strong but you need create opportunities for her to notice you and for her to know that you will be there for her when she falls..My husband won me over by patiently waiting by the side for me..Through the years, even though he was just a FB to me, he would never fail to ask me, sometimes bluntly, sometimes subtly, how to get exclusive rights to me? He was not a sweet talker..He just showed patience..Even when he had other FB, he would ditch them whenever I called..He had alwyas placed my in 1st priority. This is why I decided to give it a try and tried to be his gf, now wife..


U won't give the guy a second chance if he can't impress u enough during the first meeting with u? Haha, now wat makes a good impression? Well, it's not black and white here. It's very dependent on the type of ger. In general, handsome is a big factor (u have to agree, I'm sure). Other things are how u connect to the ger lor...very chim one, I am not very sure till now myself...haha...mayb sis tissue can help us with some insights of women's mind, thanks.

If the gal you like puts looks above anything else, then frankly, she does not deserve you..For gals like this, she will also mistake a FB relationship to be a BGR and will in the end bring more troubles for everyone involved..A gal like this is shallow and immature and really not worth spending all the efforts..

From my experience, the types of gals that places too much emphasis on looks are also more prone to emotional blackmails..They tend to think that they are more different than normal gals and they cannot accept that you are just treating her as a FB..If she does not get her way, she will start to do whatever funny stuff that she can think of..

People perceptives changes over time...I WILL NOT be the same 10 years from now and so is my husband..I wanted freedom when I was 17 to 19 and I craved stability when I was 20..I craved clubbings and playing billiards before, now I crave for the noise from my kids only..I used to want many sex partners so that it's exciting but now, I'm happy that my husband still finds me attractive to bonk me at least once a week :)

A real relationship is when you really have to make an effort to listen and know what the person wants and try anything within your means to change yourself to suit the enviroment..People will change and you have to change with your partner..Accepting them for what they are..I know it's lame but the lamest stuff work wonders..

Alas, not all gals are so perceptive like me.. :) So I say, find a lady who has been through many stuff so that when she settle down, she would at least know what she is looking for and she has not much expectations. Being with an innocent partner will most likely see the gal 'zao sai' (go west) due to them being inexeprienced in Society and will follow anything that catches their fancy..
LAST and very important point: DUN EXPECT A PERSON TO LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU WANT HER TO..You have to understand that every one is different and what is considered action of love to you may be some boliao stuff to your partner..Eg: My husband is very thrifty (I sometimes also kpkb call him neow) but for my bday, he bought me for dinner at some fanciful restaurant which costs about S$160++ for 2..For a person who would spend a maximum of $5 per DAY for food, that is a really nice way of saying he loves me in his method..

Hope it helps even though I also wonder if I drifted off topic..Sorry ah euks..

Cheers / Tissue

[tissue]

wat do u guys and gals think...any difference between having a FB and an affair? how long b4 an ons becomes an affair?

to answer the threadstarter's question...my main criterion for an FB will be an acceptance of a no strings relationship; hence i always make my stand clearly from the beginning, to avoid complications later; and i try to avoid uncommitted parties.

Hi Steamer,

They are the same.. The term FB was not here in the 90's so we always call ourselves having scandals and happenings..I think affair applies to married partners la..

Once the ONS partner appears at your hotel room again, it's not an ONS again..

Yeah man, must lay down the rules and make sure that people will abide because if not, there will be hell to pay, especially if you are married!

Cheers / Tissue

[tissue]

For the close female colleague of mine, I reckon that I should not do anything silly. She's attractive but I shan't risk my reputation yet until I'm very sure. So I'm trying to decode all the signs. Well, can be wrong or right...I just have to make the correct judgement. Recently, when we went out with for tea and coffee, we started to talk about our sexual fantasies...I dunno wat that mean...I guess that she's very comfortable with me to talk about such topics. Anyway, that's this time that she rest her head on my shoulder when talking her personal problem. Well, as a gentleman, I of cos lent it willingly. I also took this opportunity and gave her a tight hug...she din resist. In case u guys misunderstood, we din do anything...hahaha...Like I said earlier, better be safe than sorry...can't make one wrong move...she let me hug doesn't mean anything right!!! :D

Hey Hardcock,

From what I see, she is hinting you..A woman who talks about topics like this normally knows what they want..Maybe you can try to take things abit further but please please make sure that is what you want..Do you want her as a FB or a gf? They are both different and if you are looking at a FB, then the rules should be set BEFORE you sleep with her..

Never try, never know..If you kena rejected, just say sorry, I did wat I did because I really really liked you..Sorry for behaving like an idiot....work wonders..Save all the guessing..

Cheers / Tissue

[tissue]

For the close female colleague of mine, I reckon that I should not do anything silly. She's attractive but I shan't risk my reputation yet until I'm very sure. So I'm trying to decode all the signs. Well, can be wrong or right...I just have to make the correct judgement. Recently, when we went out with for tea and coffee, we started to talk about our sexual fantasies...I dunno wat that mean...I guess that she's very comfortable with me to talk about such topics. Anyway, that's this time that she rest her head on my shoulder when talking her personal problem. Well, as a gentleman, I of cos lent it willingly. I also took this opportunity and gave her a tight hug...she din resist. In case u guys misunderstood, we din do anything...hahaha...Like I said earlier, better be safe than sorry...can't make one wrong move...she let me hug doesn't mean anything right!!! :D

Hey Hardcock,

From what I see, she is hinting you..A woman who talks about topics like this normally knows what they want..Maybe you can try to take things abit further but please please make sure that is what you want..Do you want her as a FB or a gf? They are both different and if you are looking at a FB, then the rules should be set BEFORE you sleep with her..

Never try, never know..If you kena rejected, just say sorry, I did wat I did because I really really liked you..Sorry for behaving like an idiot....work wonders..Save all the guessing..

Cheers / Tissue

[beingunknown200]

wow it is nice to hear about a nice (and on-going) relationship, esp from a sis. Tissue, think you and your husband r very blessed to have found each other, and a match of expectations at it! haha hope you can continue to satisfy your high sexual needs! *think you have to boil more herbal soup for him to bu bu a but*

Back to the topic of this thread, after listening and observing from my buddies' experience (I personally think FB is a messy concept, too much emotional buggage), I sometimes think it is better to NOT find someone that you know as your FB, i.e. from workplace or among your friends circle. One of buddies used to up this mutual friend of ours during his "down" days...and he shared with us about his F experience with this friend of ours. Man, from then on, I cannot see this lady friend in the same light anymore.

Guess it is ok to find within own circle of friends, but if you do, really please dont kiss and tell. It will create too much buggage.

Just my 2 cent's worth :)

[bootybonker]

i look for milf
big boobs, perky round butt

on the outside is a career woman
on the bed is a wild pussy begging for cock

:o

[tissue]

wow it is nice to hear about a nice (and on-going) relationship, esp from a sis. Tissue, think you and your husband r very blessed to have found each other, and a match of expectations at it! haha hope you can continue to satisfy your high sexual needs! *think you have to boil more herbal soup for him to bu bu a but*

Hi bro,

Yes, I did la..I always buy tonic soup for him and sometimes I forget to buy chicken meat, I will just add anything that is in the fridge..He will kpkb says its not nice but I will force him drink down saying that I cooked whole day for him and bitter medicine is good medicine and he lan lan must drink.. :)

Back to the topic of this thread, after listening and observing from my buddies' experience (I personally think FB is a messy concept, too much emotional buggage), I sometimes think it is better to NOT find someone that you know as your FB, i.e. from workplace or among your friends circle. One of buddies used to up this mutual friend of ours during his "down" days...and he shared with us about his F experience with this friend of ours. Man, from then on, I cannot see this lady friend in the same light anymore.


To me, only current boyfriends of good friends and guys that my good gal frens have feelings for are off limits..Some may call me a slut but I think that guys are fair game once they do not belong to the above 2 categories..No guy is worth breaking up a friendship..Golden rule of being a FB: DO NOT KISS & TELL..


Guess it is ok to find within own circle of friends, but if you do, really please dont kiss and tell. It will create too much buggage.
Just my 2 cent's worth :)

I fully agree...I slept with a good guy friend of mine who is also a good friend of my husband and we are still very good friends now..We still meet regularly at gatherings, not to screw though..It was a one off thing just to cheer him up as he had just broke off with his gf..We decided that it will be a one off as he has enough FB and it is and because he is a very good friend of my husband (then FB who really liked me)..Talk about complications ah..

Cheers / Tissue

[tissue]

Hi All,

** Drift abit from topic**

Some brothers here have been giving me points for my postings in this thread..

Some are given by people who has been chatting and exchanging pointers and some are just people I dunno..

Nevertheless, I would like to say thanks alot for those who gave me the points (even though I dun see any use for it)..

Unless the guy you people cal BOSS allows me to trade in for . . . . ;)

Anyway, thanks alot guys..

Cheers / Tissue

[shrek]

Hi HardCock,




If the gal you like puts looks above anything else, then frankly, she does not deserve you..For gals like this, she will also mistake a FB relationship to be a BGR and will in the end bring more troubles for everyone involved..A gal like this is shallow and immature and really not worth spending all the efforts..

From my experience, the types of gals that places too much emphasis on looks are also more prone to emotional blackmails..They tend to think that they are more different than normal gals and they cannot accept that you are just treating her as a FB..If she does not get her way, she will start to do whatever funny stuff that she can think of..

Cheers / Tissue

ya right sister, but i ever met a girl who is maybe materialist or should i say more realistic?
she choose someone who is much older like 36 ten us. btw i'm 23 she's 22. reason behind is simple he's more finanical stable than me.. well, my age, i'm already earning 3k+ while i think for that guy as a well known local company manager earn maybe close to 4+...
this really cold my heart..

[tissue]

ya right sister, but i ever met a girl who is maybe materialist or should i say more realistic?
she choose someone who is much older like 36 ten us. btw i'm 23 she's 22. reason behind is simple he's more finanical stable than me.. well, my age, i'm already earning 3k+ while i think for that guy as a well known local company manager earn maybe close to 4+...
this really cold my heart..

Hi Shrek,

I'm sorry to hear that but sometimes money may not be the only deciding factor. Have you considered other factors that may have made her move towards him?

For example, older guys may be more attentive to her wants and needs (in ALL aspects), they may be more comfortable with her and will be more patient towards her..There are tons of factors..

I had past lovers who were many years older then me and I admit that money is also an attractive factor..But then again, with older men, they really take very good care of younger gals, have more patience with me (then) and the sex was good.. :D

Hope it helped!

Cheers / Tissue

[justwanadoit]

If only SBF have a section where many samster and samstress come looking for FB will be great. :) But will only work if there are samstresses really looking into it

[steamer]

If only SBF have a section where many samster and samstress come looking for FB will be great. But will only work if there are samstresses really looking into it

the samsters will probably hv to draw lots or participate in some reality show type exercise to be chosen..given the great nos of samsters here.:) or maybe like the subaru car challenge...see who can stay hard longest :D

[asdfghjkl]

got real FB here.. giving tips also.. sammyboyforum siao liao ah! :D

[yankim3]

If only SBF have a section where many samster and samstress come looking for FB will be great. :) But will only work if there are samstresses really looking into it


yeah. it would be great if we can held gathering and see who can click with who. then work it out from there. but thats not easy as the girls might be afraid to be seen by someone that knew them or her husband/bf.;)

[SharkMan]

....I had past lovers who were many years older then me and I admit that money is also an attractive factor..But then again, with older men, they really take very good care of younger gals, have more patience with me (then) and the sex was good.. :D

Hope it helped!

Cheers / Tissue
Hi Tissue, just to say I've enjoyed reading your comments. :)

[EyeLevel]

Recently, when we went out with for tea and coffee, we started to talk about our sexual fantasies...I dunno wat that mean...I guess that she's very comfortable with me to talk about such topics. Anyway, that's this time that she rest her head on my shoulder when talking her personal problem. Well, as a gentleman, I of cos lent it willingly. I also took this opportunity and gave her a tight hug...she din resist. In case u guys misunderstood, we din do anything...hahaha...Like I said earlier, better be safe than sorry...can't make one wrong move...she let me hug doesn't mean anything right!!! :D

Bro HC,
The signs are all there as wat the rest of bros and sis says... especially sis Tissue.. usually if the gal even bothers to sit close to you and rub shoulders with you, she is very comfortable with you.

If I were in your scenario, after the hug.. the safest is a lingering kiss to the forehead.... she might give you a questioning look .. if you interpret it as anger, then goes " sorry, I thought that kiss might help a little", if its a smiling questioning look .. then I say go for the lips liao.

I just went through a bazaar period ... someone I ject recently know, supposedly "couselling" me about my problems ... and after 1 week of counselling.... errr.. we are FBs now.... I'm still trying to figure how did it become so .. ha ha ha ha..

Cheers!

[shawn_mib]

sob sob, till now i haven even able to find a fuck buddy, guess i'm reali hopeless in this area... sad

[bennzi]

guys..not sure if the phrase 'fuck buddy' applies for this instances...for my case..would call it my lover w/o string attached....

how do we keep a discreet r/s purely sexual??....no sure how many of u are married here....dont u all find being discreet is kinder hard?? say..no holding hands in public....or behaving too intimately....or worried of bumping ppl u know on the streets...be it even in hotels..... i guess the adrenaline beats the stress to many of u here..

as for me...more like avoiding crowded places...ony goes out in the nite...goes to hotel that is very discreet....or the safest place is ur lover's place....or in ur car....i beilieve all guys will have sex in their very head..as for the ladies..its the attention...the company that makes them cling on u..rather then being horny...

but is it possible..that all the conditions are met b4 we ever consider to hve lovers outside our marriage???? or rather...married ppl better dont lite the fire unnessarily???

I like to have that thrill once a while...in terms of company..sex...conversations...dont we all swear we all love our wife..will never leave her no matter what we do outside...at the end of the day..how many of us are so clear headed that it is only a short term sexual adventures we crave for...but knowingly it wont last till end of our life....or are we having guilt as time goes by.......

[itguide]

Hey no worries. FB is indeed hard to find. Keep trying... and remember... you must respect them and take good care of them so that you do not hurt them. ;)

I take care of mine and treasure her so much and did not even dare to CIM because I am afraid she can't take it. No regret now even though she is not with me any more :o maybe she thinks I do not like her enough to feed her with my semen.

Just keep trying and have fun.

[shawn_mib]

Hey no worries. FB is indeed hard to find. Keep trying... and remember... you must respect them and take good care of them so that you do not hurt them. ;)


Just keep trying and have fun.

totally agree, but where the best place to start searching?

[HardCock]

Hey Sis Tissue,

Thanks for your commentaries. I really find them useful. Really appreciate!

For that close female colleague of mine, I guess I am still not sure how I find about her. Like I said earlier, I neber had a FB before. The gers that I had sex all had some feelings involved. You can said that I will only have sex with the ger if I feel the emotional attachment. I guess I might begin to fall in love with her. She has a bf and that's the reason I neber go in and attack. And why the idea of FB surfaces, haha. Well, I guess I might really have to try once to hint at her...if successful, good...else, hahaha, just laugh it off and hope to be still friends.

[boyboy88]

come to think of it, i like the name of FB and find it clever.

can we find one from blind date ?

it's like FB at first sight instead of loe at first sight.

hahaha;)

[Marco Lee]

Some FR to share with bros...

Had had 3 FBs. two were married in their late 20s and one was an 18 yr old sales gal. Knew them in Friendsters and ICQ. Didn't expect much but they turned out alright. Out of the 3, 2 have excellent bods, 1 was abit fleshy. All looked average but all were extremely horny.

For me, FBs are strictly FBs. We f..ked more than we talked. If memory serves me right, we didn't even consider one another "buddies" in the strict sense of the word. We text one another, met up, f..ked, smoked, and checked out.

Once, one of the FBs asked me to meet her in a club. When I arrived, she was dancing with her friends. She asked me to wait. I did. But after 20 minutes, I f..ked off. I told her that I was not there to wait, watch her dance, drink and then f..k. It was either we f..k or nothing. I reminded her that we were f..k buddies not drink buddies.

Needless to say, that was the last time we met. In total, we f..ked 4 times over 2 weeks.

Another incident: after one session, the 18 year old FB said she wanted another round. I said "great, look for another lad cos I am done." I lighted my fag and checked out. That was the last I heard of her. In total, we f..ked 6 times in 3 weeks.

The last FB i had was longer. It lasted 1 month. We f..ked a total of 9 times. I text her one evening and she said she was going through a divorce. That was the end of our FB relationship. But 3 months later, she asked me to pick her up at a pub. I thought we could re-start our FB relationship. I thought her divorce was over.

We met and she introduced a gal to me. She pulled me aside and said that this gal was her friend and that she would be my new FB. I looked at the new gal. She was extremely attractive. I thought, what the heck, f..k first, talk later. My old FB bidded me goodbye. I asked the gal if she wanted to get frisky. She said yes. The rest is history. In all honesty, we probably talked less than 10 minutes.

I didn't last long with this new gal. After 2 sessions over a week, she told me that she had confessed to her lesbian bf. The butch slapped the crap out of her. I told her to take good care and that was the end of the sms.

Moral of the story is: don't complicate things. Many times, you can control how the FB relationships will turn out. For me, I prefer to keep things simple and clinical. I find it tiring to TCSS. I don't need any gf feeling from my FBs, which, in fact, is paradoxical.

This way, I also find it easier to move on, to find new FBs rather than sticking to the same old veg. :D

[yankim3]

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This way, I also find it easier to move on, to find new FBs rather than sticking to the same old veg. :D


respect u for that. sometime its not easy to do that. unless we get bored with that girl:o

[tissue]

Hi Tissue, just to say I've enjoyed reading your comments. :)

Hey Sharkman,

Thanks alot!

Cheers / Tissue

[tissue]

guys..not sure if the phrase 'fuck buddy' applies for this instances...for my case..would call it my lover w/o string attached....

It's the same, dude..FB is just a modern description..


how do we keep a discreet r/s purely sexual??....no sure how many of u are married here....dont u all find being discreet is kinder hard?? say..no holding hands in public....or behaving too intimately....or worried of bumping ppl u know on the streets...be it even in hotels..... i guess the adrenaline beats the stress to many of u here..

I was single and free at that time when I had my FB's..Behaving discreetly is fun..U end up guessing every move and inside cinemas, whoa..u can start being what ever you wanna be..We may even be out with a group of friends and none of them has any idea that we are FB..We will then pretend that we cannot stand each other and will act like we really hated each other guts..

To add on to the excitement, we wld sms each other when people would tell us to break it up and say things like: you have been very naughty, will take my revenge later tonight..Stuff like this gives me the adrenaline that you have mentioned and the thrill of doing something illicit makes me hornier..LOL..


as for me...more like avoiding crowded places...ony goes out in the nite...goes to hotel that is very discreet....or the safest place is ur lover's place....or in ur car....

You may be married but I was single just now..I met a friend when we just finished screwing at 81 at Geylang and was having frog leg's porridge (you guys shld know which stall)..when my friend came over and as usual, talked about the usual bullshit..why u here ah, came with who and blah blah blah..In front of my FB, I just told my friend that we had just made love and is now having our supper and my friend said: 'Ya right! AS IF that's true..' And my FB was shocked!! lol..


i beilieve all guys will have sex in their very head..as for the ladies..its the attention...the company that makes them cling on u..rather then being horny...

I agree that guys sometimes do think with their dickies..Actually women do too but due to the disapproving eye by society here in Singapore, they have to be discreet..It's double standards but that's life..All women are very simple..Our one need: Being taken care of by our loved ones..So some women are materialistic..I find it acceptable as they are securing their future and ensuring that their kids will have a better headstart in life..We women always fall in love with the guy that would touch our heart in some special way and it will NEVER be some expensive item..Trust me..I've seen my fair share of rich / old / young / poor guys..


but is it possible..that all the conditions are met b4 we ever consider to hve lovers outside our marriage???? or rather...married ppl better dont lite the fire unnessarily???

I like to have that thrill once a while...in terms of company..sex...conversations...dont we all swear we all love our wife..will never leave her no matter what we do outside...at the end of the day..how many of us are so clear headed that it is only a short term sexual adventures we crave for...but knowingly it wont last till end of our life....or are we having guilt as time goes by.......

This maybe a bit boring but I am an advocate of believing in my wedding vows..I sincerely believe that crap about through better or worse or in sickness and health etc..I believe the breakdown of a marriage is not done in one single step or done in a day..It's a series of progressions that would lead to marriage failure..Why should we get to divorce?

Would you people really want to give up a happy family for the wet cunt which will dry up, for that tight SYT body that will go fat or for that bouncy tits that will droop, all in due time..? Sorry, but I'm drifting off the topic..All in all, I will respect others for their choice in life but I will not support it..

Cheers / Tissue

[tissue]

Hey Sis Tissue,

Thanks for your commentaries. I really find them useful. Really appreciate!

No problem. Just hoped it helped..


For that close female colleague of mine, I guess I am still not sure how I find about her. Like I said earlier, I neber had a FB before.

Then now is the bets time to start?? :D


The gers that I had sex all had some feelings involved. You can said that I will only have sex with the ger if I feel the emotional attachment. I guess I might begin to fall in love with her. She has a bf and that's the reason I neber go in and attack. And why the idea of FB surfaces, haha. Well, I guess I might really have to try once to hint at her...if successful, good...else, hahaha, just laugh it off and hope to be still friends.

We women are very shy about approaching guys, even me after all these years, still get embarassed sometimes when I ask my hubby for sex or when he teases me about being so wet or being so loud..And I'm supposed to be very 'open minded'..

She may like to try you out on bed before deciding if you can be BGR..Maybe..I did things like that too..

I suggest you can try it out..I had guys who tried but very subtly and I reject them subtly..They get the hint and we are still friends until today..There was this ex neighbour of mine, we were talking about sex and I was busy complaining that young guys are not very good at licking..he started asking me if I wanna try his skills in a joking manner..But when I looked at him, I could tell that he really would want to do it to me..So I just told him: 'I would love to but what if it gets too good and I wet your entire bed...I'm not gonna mop anything..I'm a princess hor..I dun do housework..' and we drifted off topic and eased the awkwardness then...

Good luck!

Cheers / Tissue

[nuclearkid]

You may be married but I was single just now..I met a friend when we just finished screwing at 81 at Geylang and was having frog leg's porridge (you guys shld know which stall)..when my friend came over and as usual, talked about the usual bullshit..why u here ah, came with who and blah blah blah..In front of my FB, I just told my friend that we had just made love and is now having our supper and my friend said: 'Ya right! AS IF that's true..' And my FB was shocked!! lol..

Cheers / Tissue

I suppose if your friend surfs this forum, he or she may have to believe you now! :D

[tissue]

:I suppose if your friend surfs this forum, he or she may have to believe you now! :D

It's a she so I'm prett safe now..:p

Cheers / Tissue

[MaMister]

I used to have many sex partners before and it won't last long....

First few times was good, then you get a little bored....

Then you want to try all sort of things....

1. Come in mouth.... Then ask her whether want to sallow it or not...

Then after a few times....

2. Tit fuck or shot on the tits and rub it or shot on the face....

Then after a few times....

3. Anal sex... only manage to do it twice out of many attemps...maybe my dick too big.... :D

Then thats it... no more fresh feelings liao....

Anyone has similar encounter....?

[hoosdathu]

didn't know friendster's so good :)

[Vectra]

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[angie II]

Was following this thread when the connection was not really well. Help to push this thread to the front page so that it can continue...

yes sir.. ok sir.. no problem sir.. i look for a fcuk fm my buddy.. :rolleyes:

[geckoSG]

I used to have a FB, we were together for about a Year, til she initiated broke up when she finds that I am not committing enough.

I guess its good to break up than to break up the family... Too
much emotional commitment in a FB relationship is bad.

Til now, I am still looking around for FB Number 2... Some one whom I can
talk to and not get too stressed up to commit much. :D

[Rof|maoxz]

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Bro.... I realised I have upped you before. Nice Greetings. ;)

[waahaa]

I used to have a FB, we were together for about a Year, til she initiated broke up when she finds that I am not committing enough.


:eek: how much commitment would a FB want?

[Onyx2Rock]

Just sharing my experiences in this matter...

Of the many FBs i have, most of them are/were good FBs... never gotten too close or sticky... but do have 1 sticky situation where things gotten a bit out of hand and also ended my serious relationship. I guess we are all humans afterall. I seek out FBs becos of high sex drive and cheeky nature. And some of my FBs were looking for relationships or someone to pamper them...

so nowsaday, i go for FL... Fu*k, pay and forget... simple and clean... RTF if they are good.

of course a part of me still fancy those FB encounters, especially from co-workers... siok but must be extra careful lor

[JChoo]

If only I have FB, I will be more than happy. Sigh.....

[geckoSG]

:eek: how much commitment would a FB want?

She felt that I didn't shower her with enuff attention and love, she cannot felt love in me...

[kingcopa]

She felt that I didn't shower her with enuff attention and love, she cannot felt love in me...

well that is not a FB liao. Getting too sticky

[BatistaSG]

FB should not have such strings attached lah

[xshadowx]

I believe it's pretty much the same. it's only when feeling grows too strong, the gal does not have the option to enter into a serious relationship. For my case, my gal wanted to get serious, even marking a date as the start of the serious relationship and became very possessive. I was not allow to date any other gals except my own wife. Though she always threatened me with my wife, she never look for my wife to find trouble.

If it's clearly FB relationship, I don't think they would see it as an affair but of cos we know that it's already an affair as long it's sex outside marriage. ^_^

My FB relationship were not purely sexual too, just that it's mainly lust and companionship. I did brought them for dinner etc, even without sex but feeling should not be out of control. That's a dangerous area to meddle with!

Agreed with you bro. This is where the main danger lies. Though I donot have one FB (as yet), I couldn't imagine what will happen if wife is used to threaten us.

By the way, Advise needed. Had a married girl in company now flirting like hell with me (I also married) also hinting on going out for drinks etc. Not agreed so far yet due to tight schedule for my current project. In bros opinions, is it safer if the ther party is also married?

[poison]

Had a married girl in company now flirting like hell with me (I also married) also hinting on going out for drinks etc. Not agreed so far yet due to tight schedule for my current project. In bros opinions, is it safer if the ther party is also married?

maybe she is seeking satisfaction outside her marriage, maybe she needs an additional companion. If u really want to sleep w her, make sure there no strings attached later.

[DenmarkDoll]

Fuck buddy is fuck buddy... Remember please dun mislead the girl... Later she think u really like her then u jia liat...

State everything clear first is better... Remember not to misused the trust of ur fuck buddy worr... Girls are still girls... :)

[Presto6969]

I used to have 3 FBs, 3 of them were on-going at the same time + having a long steady r/s for a long time.

One of the 2 didn't know I was attached and she had emotions for me as time progresses. I had to tell her stuffs like 'i am not ready to commit', blah blah kindof crap to avoid and stop her from asking. We did the usuals like hanging out for coffee, catching a show....very much like a couple. She's not a looker, just a wild beast in bed with a forte in BJ. :D

The remaing 2 one knew I was attached. One even shaved and waited for me to leave my then-gf's place just to shag her. Oh well....what else can I ask for right?
But she's looking for someone to 'please' her rather than a mutual session. I ended up doing all the work and she's jz there enjoying herself, reluctant to return the favours when I ask for. Kindof sick over a period of time....

The other posed for some photos during our many sexcapes in H81. She was attached, so ours was purely a physical r/s with no-strings attached.

Well, I had FBs coz' I'm seeking some1 to fill the physical gap that my ex had failed to fill. Being brought up in a strict religious background, sex b4 marriage as a no-no for her. I guess she did it coz' of love and I didn't appreciate it coz' my sex-drive as sky-high.

Looking back, those were in my younger days, when a few rounds a night doesn't raise an eyebrow for me. The 2nd FB still sms me rather often for shag, but I declined politely. I just wanna stay committed to someone. :p

[yankim3]

hmm i think must be na de qi fang de xia. not those xiang bu kai type.:eek:

[Kyser Soze]

By the way, Advise needed. Had a married girl in company now flirting like hell with me (I also married) also hinting on going out for drinks etc. Not agreed so far yet due to tight schedule for my current project. In bros opinions, is it safer if the ther party is also married?
If I were you, I would not 'eat' within my own compound, in this case within the company. Words will linger among the colleagues. Moreover, both of them are married personnel. It will definitely damage your reputation. Do more harm than good. My friendly advice: Stay away.:)

[Reverend]

Definition of a Fuck Buddy is that someone to meet only in a need to meet basis, whom is just to meet up to fulfill each other sexual lust. No emotional attachment, no strings attached, just purely physical. Total discreet and secrecy.

My FD and I are both married, we just meet up for sex and nothing else. We both know that we got a lot to lose if this things blows up. We just wanna fuck each other not fuck up each other’s life.

[Qimonda]

It depends on how you manage your free time lah....trust me, it can still works but how long?

[MaMister]

Many places to find FB nowadays, friendster is one of them....