A girl whom i owe alot... an unforgetable love....

[dragontank]

I was alone us usual.. bringing the kids out to the playground.. while they r playing.. i start installing wechat and begin my hunting..

Stroll through the list.. avoiding all china and young girls.. i then narrow down the scope and send a couple of hi greetings to several girls...

Bros.. this story is true. Happen about 2 years and 9 months ago. Of course names have been changed to protect the people in the story...

[CoolDaze]

Good start. Camping for more.

[dragontank]

Finally.. there r several reponses from few girls..

But i kick out a few of them as they turn out to be Fl or massage girls.

I am nt here for them. Anyway sbf offered tons of them..

I am here to seek MIlF..

With that in mind.. i focus on my search..

Kicking out those who r nt my target audience..

I narrow my scope... and finally.. there is a hi greeting that caught my attention..

[dragontank]

I took a quick check on her posts on wechat..

Seem to me a local chinese.. cos the posts r in eng writing..

There is a pict of a bouquet of blue roses given by her hubby in the later end of the posts.. but the recent ones reflected her dining exp alone...

No more happy posts.. but some sad songs was posted.. seem that she is unhappy and lonely..

Of course i manage to c her pict. Taken with her daughter..
Well of course her looks attract me..

Now.. target appear..
What is the gameplay?

So i send a reponse hi to her and we begin the small talk..

She: What r u doing?
Me: With my kids at the playground.

I have decided to be upfront abt my marital status since she is married too..

She: huh.. is yr wife with u? Is it conv to chat?
Me: Nope.. i am alone.. my wife at hm watching korean drama..
She: She did nt pei ni
Me: Nope.. i am always alone.. bringing the kids out for tution and games..
She: Ic..

That is the end of phrase 1 communication

Bros.. indeed my marriage went abit stale after 10 years of marriage.. things went routine.. wife will rather stay at hm warching drama after drama.. and i am always alone..

[gjlow]

Camping for more

[Summerhillt]

Lol, a man and woman both felt left out and decied to makan

[dragontank]

The next few days.. we begin to chat alot.. esp ar nite..
All decent chats.. in fact i look forward to her chats and even stop hunting for other wechat targets..

More was shared on her life...
She have an unhappy marriage..
Her hubby is a gambler and owe alot of money..
She even have to cash advance from banks to settle loans for him..

Eventually her debts increased...

[L0stInL0ve]

Support.
Support.

[a2014]

Therefore she need to transfer her debts to someone else.

As for him can continue to gamble as someone else will food the bill.

:eek:

[boycott]

Don't give her your money.

[*FiReWoRkS*]

Nice start to a potentially good story.

Pls continue.

Cheers.

[dragontank]

It does nt take long for the loansharks to splash paint on their house.. btw, ever since marriage, the husband have been staying at the wife place. They have no flat as her hubby cant afford to apply for flat yet.

Thus.. she have to face intense stress when she faced all these issues... esp towards her parents.. when the loansharks came up to cause a scene...

[a2014]

So what can you do. Trying to appease her, but how, you have the sum of money to intervene ?

Well maybe one day she may offer herself to you, which I guess this is what most guys will be looking for but when come to money I guess all will chicken out unless free sex.:D

[dragontank]

Bros.. please bear with me... this is a painful story..
Recalling it can be damn painful.. this start to be a game but end of it... it is hurting to both parties...

[dragontank]

Debts increased and her parents begin to feel very disgusted when the loansharks came up... More stress was being added as her hubby carry on with his gambling habits..

it was then she start to play wechat...

hoping to seek some emotional comfort here... but alas... looking for love in the wrong places..

She went for dates... dates eventually turned into sex and men left her after getting wat they wanted...

It was then at this point of time when my heart goes soft.. this is not just a target anymore... nor a trophy.. but a woman who is really helpless..

Not just a slut when i can just bed her... I begin to respect her and listen to her more... during this period of time.. i make no attempt to ask her out as i intend to take things at a slow pace.. i dun even mind just treating her as a online friend without meeting up.

A week pass by and she eventually ask me out for a movie..

Shd i agreed to the movie date?.. I debated with myself that moment when the question was posed to me?

What if things go out of hand. Knowing very well myself, i am not in a position to commit myself to any relationship as i am a married man.

However i was eventually overruled by my emotions as i decided to meet her for the movie date.

31/12/2013 New year Eve.. still remember that day well.

Cook up some excuses to OC to meet her. ( Managed to sneak out that nite to meet her)

Brought the movie tickets and proceed to the cinema booth to meet her.

Gosh.. she was late for the appt... in fact quite late as the movie was about to begin..

Was looking all around for her when i suddenly spot a lady looking at me...

She was smiling... and i was too nervous to respond.. believe it or not.. bros it have been ages since i go for a blind date..

First impression.. looks almost like the wechat pict...

I smiled at her and approached her.. as we walk towards the cinema...

Our hands brushed towards each other and soon i was holding her hands tightly.. she did not resist at all...

I really enjoy the movie with her.. she was a caring girl and she soon wrapped her black cardigan in my arms.. as she can feel my coldness in my hands.. and soon i cuddled her in my arms..

The feelings is there.. the movie eventually end and i begin to walk her home... her place is nt far away from the cinema...

it is a nite walk home.. breezy and quiet... we hold hands tightly and she begin to share about her life even more.. me too begin to tell her abt my work and family life...

Soon we reach her house nearby.. there is a garden nearby and we sat on the bench... i was looking at her gently and soon stroking her hair and it does not take long for us to be frenching.. it is a slow but intense kiss... feelings are more intense as i have to stop myself from touching her boobs.. nope not at this moment... have to show respect for her as a lady...

However she was sharp enough to know my struggles and she put my hands on her boobs...

[JuicyBlanket]

Good story looking forward for the next installment thanks

[blastit]

Camping for more

Really interesting event of yours

[EatPrayLove]

People are here listening to story but I don't know why I could feel the pain TS is feeling while writing this down..... :(

[papam]

camping for more...

[dragontank]

It was at this moment when i cant resist the it anymore and begin to touch her boobs gently..

After a few moments i whisper the gently in her ears;

Me: Can i bring you to the hotel? ( Prepared to be rejected)
She: Ok..

I then hold her hands happily and proceed to the main road to hail a cab.

She: Haiz.. all men are like this. ( As the cab is approaching us)
Me: Shd we not go? (This statement from her make me feel uneasy and i really dun feel like going then)
She: It is ok.. (She open the door of the cab and i followed her in)

Along the way.. somehow i feel abit awkward but she managed to break the ice by chatting about other stuff)

Me: Was it too fast to go into this stage now? Will she just think it is a ONS?.. I have no intention to treat this as a ONS?.. somehow the feelings for her is different.

Still remember the cab bring us to 81 Kovan.

It was not long before we check in. Before that i managed to get some condoms from the nearby 7/11.

We french like crazy when we entered the room just like long time lovers.

Still remember that nite.. My hands r actually shivering when i tried to remove her bra. ( It have been ages since i last make love to my wife, other than marriage, i seldom have flings or affairs outside)

She: Giggling away.. confirmed you long time never touch woman le.
Me: My face blushed abit and soon we are engaged in the love making.

I took quite some time to cum as i am not used to wearing rubber.

As i took off the rubber, the sperms begin to drip on her tighs and i quickily rushed to take tissue and wipe off the stains for her.

She: No man have bothered to do that for me.. u r the only one who bother to do that.

I was shocked when i heard that. Not knowing that these small details would actually caught her attention.

i then cuddled her gently in my arms and stroked her hair gently..

We spend 2 hours in the room... having 2 rounds together.

After which i begin to send her home and i remember whapps her once she is home..

Me: Dear r u home?
She: Yup you leh?
Me Still in the cab..
She: Text me when you r home ba
Me: Ok..
Me: Dear...
She: Yes
Me: Thanks for tonite... just want to tell you that i am serious about you ( Just want to make my stand clear as i do not want her to feel that it is just a casual affair)
She: A smiling icon was given..
She: I know...

That is our first date.. a movie and sex in the hotel...

This is the beginning of our rs and it will eventually bring heartaches to both of us... stay tuned for the next installment...

[dragontank]

The second date took place the next day... Actually it is not advisable to meet u again the next day as my first date with her ended up abit late. Wife suspect somerhing .. But i still choose to meet her as i dun want her to feel that i will dump her once i get close to her..

After work... I rushed down to her ofc to knock off..

Was sitting at the coffeeshop when i received a text from her

She: dear sorry... Pls wait for me.. My new system facing issues and i have to finish my payroll by today...
Me: No worries abt me.. Work is more important.. I will wait for u...
She: i am unsure wat time can i get it done... U sure that u want to wait for me?..
Me: Yes i am willing to wait for u... Focus on yr work.

And so i carry on waiting for her... Cos she shared with me the new system issues she was facing... I am prepared to wait till midnite...

Time passed slowly.... And i am slowly drinking my third coke when my mobile beeps.

Dear: i am almost done... Can u wait for me outside my ofc bus stop.

Me: ok... Take yr time... I will wait for u... It is about 9pm then..

I then make my quickily to the bus stop and waited for another 20 mins before she appeared...

She look tired from her work and i offer to carry her bag..

Dear: U sure u dun mind carrying my bag..
Me: Why not... Nothing wrong with carrying my gf bag.. Right?..

She smiled as i took the bus to nex shopping mall for dinner...

I really enjoy the bus journey with her.. It is our first time taking bus...... I hold her hands and she rest her head on my shoulder...

Brought her to the foodcourt as she want to eat ban mian... Meanwhile my wife begin to call me on the mobile..

She: Do u need to go home now?
Me: Nope... Let me send u home first...
She: Will it be too rush for u?..
Me: Nope as i really cant bear to part with u...

She then smiled sweetly as she linked her arms in me...

Somehow i can sense that our rs is getting closer.. As in emotionally.... It is not just sex alone but the feelings is somehow special.. Perhaps it have been ages since i feel loved ba esp in the later years of marriage.....

[sandy6979]

Nice built up
Camping
:cool:

[dragontank]

People are here listening to story but I don't know why I could feel the pain TS is feeling while writing this down..... :(

Yes sis u r right.. U r indeed a very sensitive person...

I was writing with pain as i am slowing penning down the story.. The thoughts of her always lingered in my mind and heart... Nt knowing that my rs with her will actually affect me so much...

[one5stand]

really true story?

[dragontank]

really true story?

Yes a true story.

[dragontank]

She then bring me to the bus stop and soon we r on the bus.. Sending her home..

Note: bros i dun drive... Cant afford to drive anymore after my second boy is born. Luckily she dun mind all these and is willing to take public transport with me...

As usual she will lie on my shoulder as she is tired after such a long day of work...

Time seem to pass quickily with her around... And soon we reach her home... Holding her hands tightly.. I dun bear to part with her again..

She: R u in a rush to go home now?
Me: Nope....
She: Want to go to the garden bench?
Me: Sure...

Holding her closely to me... We head towards the bench..

Me: Let sit on the same bench.. Hao ma?
She: U still remember where we sat?.. She smiled sweetly..
Me: Of course... This is where i first kissed you...

There is a short pause and we hugged each other tightly..

One thing soon lead to another...

A intense frenching and feelings arise once again and we head off to the hotel again...

This time round.. We went raw.

Of course i shoot out... And we spend the 3 hours cuddling her...

This is our second date..

[hungrybro]

Camping for more....interested in how the story dwells, the outcome and how you deal with it.

[Soltt]

Camping for more . Waiting to up u .

[sadsky18]

nice story ( i mean nice encounter )

i hope you didnt do anything silly out of this ( pointless relationship )

:")

cheers

[Marlborolgt]

Support Support.. Please carry on... :confused:

[elitez]

bro, keep up the good work and thanks for contribution:cool:

[dragontank]

Our third date soon took place.. Just 2 days after our second date. It was on a sat nite.

As usual i was out with my kids in the playground when i received a whapps from her.

She: Feeling like going for a drink at ktv pub. Would u like to pei me?
Me: Not very conv.. As sat is family day for me.
She: Huh.. Really cant meet?
Me: Yes abit difficult unless i tell my wife that i have last min bbq with my buddies.

Note: i always went for bbq with a few of my brothers during weekend at times.

She: Well.. That will be gd if u can use this excuse to meet me..
Me: But...i wun be able to dress up decently if i meet u as i will always dress casual if i meet my buddies.. Just my usual berms and t shirt.
She: It is ok.. I dun mind. I love u.. Nt your dressing. No worries.. I wun dress up too..
Me: ok then.

Deep inside my heart.. I can sense trouble is along the way if i meet her but i still go ahead with my plans.

[Rickey]

Just happen to bump into tis thread...It's been some time TS...welcome back wif the continuation of yr romantic story :)...looks like tis wechat gal is a gem & hard to find ;)....but the worrying thing now is it seems like there's trouble ahead for u :(...sad...Pls continue yr story asap, bro

[dragontank]

Having decided on that, i brought the kids home from the playground. Told my wife abt the bbq and went out to meet her at the shopping mall nearby my place...

She was there waiting for me already...
We hugged each other when we met.
Come to think of it.. I should be more discreet as i could be spotted by my neighbours easily as i hugged her at the shopping mall near my place. However feelings cannot be deceived as i really miss her...

She: Why r u still wearing jeans?.. I thought that u will be in your berms..
Me: it wun look so gd as we r heading to ktv pub.. Berms r too floppy le..
She: Silly boy.. Would yr wife suspect anything if u overdress..
Me: I cant afford to think that much already.. Taken yr dinner yet?
She: Nope.
Me: Let go to Sweden then...

The dinner with her at sweden was enjoyable... We hold each other hands tightly as we walked to the restuarant.

After which we took a bus to the nearby pubs along sembawang road.....

Took a bus.. Cross the overhead bridge.
Gosh.. The pubs r overcrowded and we decided to go others pubs at upper thomson.

Me: Let take a cab there.. Easier...
She: No.. Dun waste money... Yr commitments r heavy... We will take a bus there.. It is nt very far..
Me: huh..

She smiled sweetly and linked her arms happily in me..
My feelings for her deepen at that moment cos her thoughtfullness and gentleness touched me... Here is a girl who really spare a thought for her loved ones and she is nt those kind of vain girls.

So we crossed the overhead bridge and was soon on the bus to the ktv pub.

It have been donkey years since i bring a girl to the ktv pub... I would always went to my buddies to the ktv pub. My wife dun like singing so she do not really like ktv pubs.

She sang well and we have duets together...

The singing session.. Though is just a few hours but it remain in my memory...it is beauitful... We hold hands and i cuddled her gently in the pub.. As usual.. We would kissed and french each other in the pub... Feelings arised and soon we r in a hotel... It is a 4 hours session... And that nite we make love and i shoot in her as she tell me to do so as it is a safe period for her.

We cuddled each other and chat with each.. Understanding each other more... We have 3 rounds that nite and we have breakfast at a nearby hawker centre after checking out. A traditional breakfast of toasted bread and coffee.. But we r happy to have each other..

She: I would like to brought u a present..
Me: dun waste money.. Save it for yrself....
She: Ah i dun mind..
Me: Just buy me a 手巾 ba...
She: Men seldom use that le.. I was suprised when i saw u using that on our first date..
Me: huh.. Wat is so different abt it?
She: Men who use 手巾 always give me the impression that they r sentimental men..
Me: Oh really?. I am taken back at her reponse...

Soon i sent her home and i went home. My goodness.. The so called bbq lasted till morning.. Trouble was brewing... OC will sure suspect something..

[Iwanboomboom]

Camping for more

[Iwanboomboom]

Bro dragontank, no update?

Btw thanks to the bro who up my points...if I am supposed to do something in return please pm me. New bird here la..

[dragontank]

Bro sorry for the late updates..

OC was suspicious... Cos i am seldom overnite outside..
In fact rarely...

And she was cold to me..
Perfect calmness before a huge storm..
Cold words was exchanged but somehow i was not paying attention to her words.. My thoughts always drifted to the wechat gf....

Somehow the rs with her was too fast... But yet so real...
And deep in my heart... I do cherish this rs with her..

Needless to say... I went out with her 2 times more.. Just dating without going to the hotel..

But even so.. We really enjoy every single moment together...She will always share to me her most inner thoughts and pains.. I would always listen to her and do my best to comfort her and cuddle her..

The outburst with OC soon raged when OC did a spot check in my bag.. She found the nicely wrapped handerchiefs and confronted me abt it!

Hidden issues was brought out.. Issues which remain unresolved was laid on the table again.
More anger was released as we unwilling to lay down our rights...

Finally she laid down her terms.
Break off with her if not divorce.
And OC will surely fight for the custody of the boys in the event of divorce...

CNY is approaching and yet i have no mood to celebrate CNY!

[dragontank]

A decision have to be make soon and time is running out.. Kids still matter the most to me and i finally come to a decision...

Finally plucked up enough courage to call my wechat gf..
Me: OC found out abt us and things turn really messy..
She: So how?.. Her voice seem cold and calm but i can sense the anger in her...
Me: Give me some time
She: Go and sort out yr own issues ba..

With that i end the phone call..
Emotionally prepared that she will end the rs with me soon..

[Iwanboomboom]

Thanks for update bro! Waiting for next installment!

[PrincessPris]

People are here listening to story but I don't know why I could feel the pain TS is feeling while writing this down..... :(

You're not the only one. My heart pained as i read.

Probably because I know how it feels to be in a fruitless relationship.

[dragontank]

For the next 7 days.. I keep a low profile.. Devoting my time and attention to work.. Doing my best to forget her...

But something in me have died... Though i remain cheerful on the eternal.. My heart is like a zombie...
I miss her alot...

Oc noticed that i am sad and she keep quiet. At least i jave already given up my gf for this family. I still remember while we r shopping for CNY goodies.. There is no joy in my heart at all... Nothing.. Just a dead zombie going through the motions....

Then the unexpected happened... Something which turned the tide of the course of the rs...

It was an afternoon just 2 days before the cny when i received a text from the wechat girl..

Wechat girl: How have u been?

I was shocked when i received this text from her..
Debating with myself whether i should reply her.. I finally give in to my feelings and replied her...

Me: Nt that good... Sorry... But i really miss u alot...
She: i miss u too

My heart leap for joy when i saw her reply.. At least.. She is not that angry now...

She: Do u know how to use the app tango?..
Me: nt really..
She: Tango is the app where we can c each other when we tok over the phone..
Quickily she explain to me on how to download the app and it does not took long for us to tango chat with each other..

Having seen each other again on the phone screen drove tears to my eyes.. I really miss her so much..

Me: So happy to c u again..
She: Me too.. Miss u too.. R u on leave today?
Me: Yes on mc..
She: R u ok.. Seen the doc yet..
Me: Yes nothing serious just fever..

Soon we r catching up with each other...
Indeed.. Feelings cant be deceived and we still feel for each other...

She: R u working on cny eve..
Me: Yes..
She: huh.. I am thinking of meeting u in the morning..
Me: ok... I will take urgent leave..
She: just want to tell u.. I know that u r committed to yr marriage.....but... I dun expect u to give me anything cos i am married too..
Me: But it will be very unfair to you as we have to remain discreet..
She: i have no regrets in loving u...

That day... I am overjoyed and yet worried too.. How would things turn out to be?...

Is it a wise decesion to make..

A million thoughts rushed through my mind but there is no answers to them..

[dragontank]

And so we carry on with our rs.. Discreetly..

She was very understanding and will nt text or call me whenever i reach home..

Cny eve soon came and i was looking forward to meeting her in the morning...

As usual.. I was early for the appt...
2014 cny eve... A day to remember..

I strained my eyes for the images of her...
Moments passed by and my heart was pumping fast as each single moment passed by....

Finally i saw her on the overhead bridge..
Rushing up the stairs.. I ran up to meet her...

Our eyes met each other and we hugged each other tightly on the bridge....

This action attracted the sight of many people.. But we couldnt care less.. No words was exhanged but a tight hug was an clear expression of our longing for each other....

Moments of eternity passed by and soon we was heading off to Mac for breakfast..

She linked her arms happily in me...

It was a wonderful breakfast with her by my side.. Even the coffee taste sweet...

We did alot of catching up...

She: i am going malaysia tonite to have renioun dinner..
Will only be back in a few days time.
Note: her hubby is a Malaysian..
Me: Ok...
She: i will text u once i reach there..
Me: Enjoy yrself...
She: i will miss u...

With this statement from her.. I cuddle her gently at the garden bench and i kiss her gently on her forehead..
Soon we found ourselves frenching again. As the kissing get more intense.. She whisper in my ears..

She: Do u want me now?..
Me: Yes and no..

She withdraw from her kisses..

She: huh....
Me: Dear i love u... But i dun want to get the wrong idea that i only treat u as my FB..
There is a short pause and l am wondering whether my words have offended her...
To my suprise.. She leaned closer to me...
She: Thanks dear for not loving my body alone...

We cuddled each other... Feelings deepen.
Time passed very fast and we have to part.
Each having their own commitments to fullfill...

[Petruk]

Could relate with ts, life is messy - but when can got away scot free it is worth it - the hugging in the public please is tempting the fate And so we carry on with our rs.. Discreetly..

She was very understanding and will nt text or call me whenever i reach home..

Cny eve soon came and i was looking forward to meeting her in the morning...

As usual.. I was early for the appt...
2014 cny eve... A day to remember..

I strained my eyes for the images of her...
Moments passed by and my heart was pumping fast as each single moment passed by....

Finally i saw her on the overhead bridge..
Rushing up the stairs.. I ran up to meet her...

Our eyes met each other and we hugged each other tightly on the bridge....

This action attracted the sight of many people.. But we couldnt care less.. No words was exhanged but a tight hug was an clear expression of our longing for each other....

Moments of eternity passed by and soon we was heading off to Mac for breakfast..

She linked her arms happily in me...

It was a wonderful breakfast with her by my side.. Even the coffee taste sweet...

We did alot of catching up...

She: i am going malaysia tonite to have renioun dinner..
Will only be back in a few days time.
Note: her hubby is a Malaysian..
Me: Ok...
She: i will text u once i reach there..
Me: Enjoy yrself...
She: i will miss u...

With this statement from her.. I cuddle her gently at the garden bench and i kiss her gently on her forehead..
Soon we found ourselves frenching again. As the kissing get more intense.. She whisper in my ears..

She: Do u want me now?..
Me: Yes and no..

She withdraw from her kisses..

She: huh....
Me: Dear i love u... But i dun want to get the wrong idea that i only treat u as my FB..
There is a short pause and l am wondering whether my words have offended her...
To my suprise.. She leaned closer to me...
She: Thanks dear for not loving my body alone...

We cuddled each other... Feelings deepen.
Time passed very fast and we have to part.
Each having their own commitments to fullfill...

[ramon]

Dear TS, have you given thoughts about how your wife feels? It seems like she knows your level of happiness has nothing to do with her and your kids as a family unit anymore, except with your wechat girl....

[dragontank]

Dear TS, have you given thoughts about how your wife feels? It seems like she knows your level of happiness has nothing to do with her and your kids as a family unit anymore, except with your wechat girl....

Bro u r right.. Indeed...this is unfair to both my wife and the wechat girl.. Cos end of the day.. I cant commit to her... After 2 years and 8 months of the rs with the wechat gf... The rs eventually come to an end.. Cos family still matters the most to me... I will not abandon my kids and wife for her... Towards the wechat girl.. Other than feeling indebted to her.. There is nothing much i can do...

[Barracuda]

Bro u r right.. Indeed...this is unfair to both my wife and the wechat girl.. Cos end of the day.. I cant commit to her... After 2 years and 8 months of the rs with the wechat gf... The rs eventually come to an end.. Cos family still matters the most to me... I will not abandon my kids and wife for her... Towards the wechat girl.. Other than feeling indebted to her.. There is nothing much i can do...

Please carry on with your story bro, am very interested in cont reading yours.

[RTTO]

Bro, my heart is with you. I just ended an affair of 10 years. My life was empty until we started dating. Got caught by my wife, laid low profile for awhile, and we started again. Loving each other even more. we could chat for hours and whenever we meet, our conversation never ends. We have almost everything in common and sex life was heavenly even until now when we part. We still keep in touch but would restrain from meeting each other as we know once we meet, the fire will ignite once again.

Very painful letting her go. But i am just not ready to go with my happiness at the expense of my family. After we parted, i still think of her everyday. So many times i wanted to text her and tell her I miss her, i love her.... but i know doing this will hurt her even more. How nice if i can be selfish and only care for my own feelings since life is short. But i remembered the vow i made in ROM with my wife.

Found my soulmate and yet cannot be together.... painful. Just painful.

[dragontank]

Bro, my heart is with you. I just ended an affair of 10 years. My life was empty until we started dating. Got caught by my wife, laid low profile for awhile, and we started again. Loving each other even more. we could chat for hours and whenever we meet, our conversation is endless. We have almost everything in common and sex life was heavenly even until now when we part. We still keep in touch but would restrain from meeting each other as we know once we meet, the fire will ignite once again.

Very painful letting her go. But i am just not ready to go with my happiness at the expense of my family. After we parted, i still think of her everyday. So many times i wanted to text her and tell her I miss her, i love her.... but i know doing this will hurt her even more. How nice if i can be selfish and only care for my own feelings since life is short. But i remembered the vow i made in ROC with my wife.

Found my soulmate and yet cannot be together.... painful. Just painful.

Bro.. I went through the same struggles as u...
But i choose to remain rational..

The thoughts of divorce ever crossed my mind.. But i did not do it.. Something stopped me .

Areas of concerns stepped in..

Even if i am together with her... Will the happiness be everlasting... Or will she find another man once things have settled down...

If she can be unfaithful to her hubby.. She can be unfaithful to me to.. This is the doubt and fear which i have. A wife would nt be so ruthless to me.. After all we have been together for years..

This risk is not worth taking considered the fact that i still have 2 kids....

That is why i choose to end it.... It is fair to her too as she need not waste time on a fruitless rs...

Yes.. Sadness crept in after the break up.. Esp no more sex... Nope i dun like commerical sex as i hate putting on the rubber and there is no feelings involed... Hated this kind of voidness after the deed...

No more emotional comfort to seek whenever i have quatrels with OC... It is a hard time to cope and i took more than a year to ease out the pains...

The ache is still there but i choose to remain postive...
At least i have nothing to hide from my wife.. After work.m go home... I can sleep with a peaceful mind...

My family is still complete and i can spend more time witj the kids... Guess.. End of the day.. We have to know the importance of family... Family come first above everything else.

[dragontank]

Bros to carry on with the story ..

Soon Cny is over and she is back to town again..
We continue meeting up after work.. Lied to OC that i have to work ot but will meet her for dinner after work. She will stop texting me once i reach home. I seldom meet her at weekend since it is family day for me and she will nt text me on weekend too...

From the beginning.. I laid down my terms..

No matter what happens.. I will not leave my family for her. This is the game rules...

Though we seldom have lots of time together but we cherish every moment we have... We will always meet for less than 2 hours and i have to rush home le..

[RTTO]

Bro.. I went through the same struggles as u...
But i choose to remain rational..

The thoughts of divorce ever crossed my mind.. But i did not do it.. Something stopped me .

Areas of concerns stepped in..

Even if i am together with her... Will the happiness be everlasting... Or will she find another man once things have settled down...

If she can be unfaithful to her hubby.. She can be unfaithful to me to.. This is the doubt and fear which i have. A wife would nt be so ruthless to me.. After all we have been together for years..

This risk is not worth taking considered the fact that i still have 2 kids....

That is why i choose to end it.... It is fair to her too as she need not waste time on a fruitless rs...

Yes.. Sadness crept in after the break up.. Esp no more sex... Nope i dun like commerical sex as i hate putting on the rubber and there is no feelings involed... Hated this kind of voidness after the deed...

No more emotional comfort to seek whenever i have quatrels with OC... It is a hard time to cope and i took more than a year to ease out the pains...

The ache is still there but i choose to remain postive...
At least i have nothing to hide from my wife.. After work.m go home... I can sleep with a peaceful mind...

My family is still complete and i can spend more time witj the kids... Guess.. End of the day.. We have to know the importance of family... Family come first above everything else.

Yes bro... you hit the nail! I imagined if i leaves my family for her, i think i will look back and start to think of OC and kids. OC is not that nasty all the time... sometimes she is ok. Just mood swing like yoyo. She actually sung into depression after finding out about my affair previously and was struggling whether to leave me. But i guess she stayed becos of the kids and the vow/love we had. Sometimes i see her and really can't tell if she has any feelings for me or she just taking me as her kids' father and for the sake of the kids to have a complete family, so just move on. Even she no longer loves me.

So i told myself no matter how much i love my gf, soulmate or not, i cannot leave my family for her cos no matter what, she is still the 3rd party. She have to accept the fact that most men chooses their family instead of the outside woman when a decision has to be made.

[dragontank]

Bro.. Wise decesion. Trust me.. Yr wife still love u de..

A woman will nt choose to entrust her happiness unto yr jands if she dun love u. Furthermore.. She even bore u kids.. But having said that.. It does not meant we can take our wife for granted. Cos once the woman heart is dead.. There is no turning back.

Took effort to rebuild this marriage. Started off by doing simple things.. I am sure that she will notice the difference.. The effort u have put in.. Bro jiayou.. U can do it...




QUOTE=RTTO;16534670]Yes bro... you hit the nail! I imagined if i leaves my family for her, i think i will look back and start to think of OC and kids. OC is not that nasty all the time... sometimes she is ok. Just mood swing like yoyo. She actually sung into depression after finding out about my affair previously and was struggling whether to leave me. But i guess she stayed becos of the kids and the vow/love we had. Sometimes i see her and really can't tell if she has any feelings for me or she just taking me as her kids' father and for the sake of the kids to have a complete family, so just move on. Even she no longer loves me.

So i told myself no matter how much i love my gf, soulmate or not, i cannot leave my family for her cos no matter what, she is still the 3rd party. She have to accept the fact that most men chooses their family instead of the outside woman when a decision has to be made.[/QUOTE]

[RTTO]

Bro.. Wise decesion. Trust me.. Yr wife still love u de..

A woman will nt choose to entrust her happiness unto yr jands if she dun love u. Furthermore.. She even bore u kids.. But having said that.. It does not meant we can take our wife for granted. Cos once the woman heart is dead.. There is no turning back.

Took effort to rebuild this marriage. Started off by doing simple things.. I am sure that she will notice the difference.. The effort u have put in.. Bro jiayou.. U can do it...

Yeah bro. Let's jiayou together for a better tmr!

[MarlboroKen]

Yeah bro. Let's jiayou together for a better tmr!

Jiayou bros. Just report +39 to you.

[RTTO]

Jiayou bros. Just report +39 to you.

gum xia gum xia

[dragontank]

Days and months went on and soon we celebrate our One year annivesary... Though we seldom have lots of time together.. But we will squeeze whatever time we hab have together..

I still remember that we will meet at train platform and travel to work together as we work along the same train track.... Though it is just a few stops... And just a short 15 mins ride... We will hug each other tightly... Then after work.. We will meet for dinner again...

I get bolder and even tried to date her on sat since i have to work half day on alt sat.. Then i will tell Oc that i will attend church svc on sat evening before i go home... Those r the moments when we can have longer time together... Usually we will spend short hours at the hotel.. Have meals together.. Doing window shopping.. Going to ktv pubs together.. This is the day for bonding purposes... Cos we really spend time together...

She is a very understanding girl and will nt text me when i am home... Thus i am able to cover my tracks well..

Her new flat soon came but she have no money for renovation.... Haiz... Usually she will be cash strapped every month.. But she never want to take money frombme either.. For my part.. Whenever we go out out.. I will pay for everything and help her to top up her ezlink card... She brought me to the new flat as she got the keys and her excitment on her face shows her longing for the new flat... Too bad.. I cant move in now straight away.... She sighed... But we can make this place our weekend retreat.. Then we dun need to waste money on hotel anymore...

[Sexythang]

Days and months went on and soon we celebrate our One year annivesary... Though we seldom have lots of time together.. But we will squeeze whatever time we hab have together..

I still remember that we will meet at train platform and travel to work together as we work along the same train track.... Though it is just a few stops... And just a short 15 mins ride... We will hug each other tightly... Then after work.. We will meet for dinner again...

I get bolder and even tried to date her on sat since i have to work half day on alt sat.. Then i will tell Oc that i will attend church svc on sat evening before i go home... Those r the moments when we can have longer time together... Usually we will spend short hours at the hotel.. Have meals together.. Doing window shopping.. Going to ktv pubs together.. This is the day for bonding purposes... Cos we really spend time together...

She is a very understanding girl and will nt text me when i am home... Thus i am able to cover my tracks well..

Her new flat soon came but she have no money for renovation.... Haiz... Usually she will be cash strapped every month.. But she never want to take money frombme either.. For my part.. Whenever we go out out.. I will pay for everything and help her to top up her ezlink card... She brought me to the new flat as she got the keys and her excitment on her face shows her longing for the new flat... Too bad.. I cant move in now straight away.... She sighed... But we can make this place our weekend retreat.. Then we dun need to waste money on hotel anymore...

She still married? I think feel a bit of what you going through, except mine is online phone and never met. She excitement of getting a text or call. But less now since she had a bf. Been weeks apart since each text. Calls even less. Very depressing.