Relationship problem that require advice from all the expert here

[deathsyct]

Hi everyone,

curently i'm in a wierd situation and i require advice from all the expert here. hope everyone can share their views.

currently my EX and i are still single. we still remain as frens after the break up. but the prob is that she still calls me up on my mobile & talk to me on e phone. so me being e gentleman juz have to accompany & +++ cok wif her. oso there are times whereby she still ask me out. but this is still quite norm as frens do go out tog.

e prob comes when she keeps sticking very close to me. i dont mind carrying her bag 4 her as it is our task to hlp gals carry em. but seems like she is nt shy abt it & takes it as though as i'm her bf. when out to shop her stuff, she will still try out e clothes and ask me to look whether its nice or nt. even when eating, she insist tat i sit beside her. so its naturally norm for me to start to hold her hands but she will pull her hands away.

anyway i tried asking her directly and she say its juz being norm frens. bros frm SBF i need ur advice. isit me tat is being too sensitive and got e wrong idea of is it her. all her body language & action juz lead me to think tat she wans to patch back but when being too close she starts to runaway again. bros do u really think she juz simple treat me as a norm fren? or am i over-reacting?

can everyone give me their suggestion or views to this incident? ty in advance.

[patpat]

does she still allow you to bonk her??

[patpat]

does she still allow you to bonk her??

[jimmyccc]

u really do need help.. look at all the duplicate threads u did... :mad:

[@Wendy@]

yeah keep on repeating the threat, really irritating... :mad:

[stephan]

Dear Threadstarter,
u better pm Ah Sam to delete repeated threads. So far u r number 1 already (so many)... once u have posted, please check first before refresh n refresh .....

[big dick]

dun blame him now for starting up to 9 duplicate threads.. guess he too kan cheong about his problems.. :p


maybe the ger wan to be a close frenz but not your partner.. sometime it is hard to adjust in the transition period..

[cdr_bly]

SBF a little crazy these days. Keeps on seeing repeat posts. Anyways word of advice, she taking you for granted, all the bf perks without the gf payments. A big no no in my books.

[carnivore33]

Brother Deathsyct,

From your question, I do gather that you must be really young.. the answer to your question can be found in an instance.

As fellow samster patpat said, does she allow you to have a sexual relationship?

Try to invite her to a nice seculded spot and intitiate sex, then if she does not reject you, it can only mean a few things:

1. You did not break up afterall
2. She want you to be her fuck buddy

If she turns you down, then it all depends if you are willing to be the "Robert" a.k.a the "carrot top". If you are ok being her Mr Belvedere then by all means carry on with the usual boyfriend thing without the boyfriend perks (Ref: Cdr_bly)

Easy as 1-2-3
Cheerios!

[ace7788]

so me being e gentleman juz have to accompany & +++ cok wif her. oso there are times whereby she still ask me out.
-> Are you acting just as a gentleman or have other intention? What is your real intention of holding on to this? When a relationship ends, it is good to have a clean cut. To me, it is difficult to draw a clear line.

e prob comes when she keeps sticking very close to me. i dont mind carrying her bag 4 her as it is our task to hlp gals carry em. but seems like she is nt shy abt it & takes it as though as i'm her bf. when out to shop her stuff, she will still try out e clothes and ask me to look whether its nice or nt. even when eating, she insist tat i sit beside her. so its naturally norm for me to start to hold her hands but she will pull her hands away.
-> Ask yourself, do you wish that she continue to act in this manner?? If you don't want, then don't join her lah. When she is able to cope or you are able to cope the agony a failed relationship, then leave quietly.

can everyone give me their suggestion or views to this incident? ty in advance.
-> Lastly, you can decide on your own. Don't throw the ball to your ex-gf or us... We can advise, but can't decide for you.

[cheong_man]

Bro deathsyct,

Who is the one who initiated the break up, was it you.

If it is you, probably she wants you to feel her presence and yet pulling away from you when you are close to tell you that you have to make back.

If she is the one to say break off, probably she is just treating you as friend so when you draw near she pull away creating a gap to differentiate normal relationship from BGR.

As for you you better search yourself whether you want her back before it is too late. Or if you don't want to go on dragging, make up your mind and get to the point.

[klzombie]

I believe your ex-gf is using you to try to ease the breakup for her. She still need the attention of a man beside her, hence you are useful. If you have sex with her before, she probably wont refuse you if you make some advances in some secluded safe place. The next question is: Do you really love her? If you do, you may still have a chance to win her heart back during this period. If you don't love her anymore, my advice is to avoid her for both of your sake :)

Hope the baove helps.

[analog539]

Bro Death:

Your ex is trying to have it both ways:
1. Dumping/breaking up with you,
2. No being lonely.

She can't have it both ways. I'm afraid if you allow yourself to me used, you'll get used.....life is like that. Unless she is still giving you bjs, which you don't mention so i assume it is not the case, then this will have to end. Just tell you you can't talk, you're deep into a computer game or something.
The sure fire way to end it is to have your ex find you with a new squeeze and your tongue deep you your new project's mouth right in front of your ex....she won't call you anymore after that.

Having said all that, maybe deep down inside you LIKE the fact that she still calls you.

Anyhow, there it is.

:)
Jim

[randyboy73]

bro death..

wait till you get a new girl friend and when your ex keeps calling you, then u will be in trouble man!

Better make your status clear rite now... are u split or are u together.

As bro hornivore33 (oops carnivore) said, she may still want you for the emotional thingee.. get it clear once and for all.. I am telling you this from experience...

Best if you spend less time together if you both want to break cleanly, revisit the friendship issue only after u are sure both of u have gotten over the whole thing and are now embarking on your seperate lives.

just my 5c worth of opinion

[prince_81]

For me, Its the same. Clean cut. No such things as friends after breaking up. Even when they called, I wun entertain them.

Have to be fair to them and to me. Clean Cut. Only then you wun have such problems.

Maybe you should just consider rejecting her calls and outings; Just live on with your life. I am sure you got other friends or other things to do.

Thats just my opinion

[carnivore33]

bro death..

wait till you get a new girl friend and when your ex keeps calling you, then u will be in trouble man!

Better make your status clear rite now... are u split or are u together.

As bro hornivore33 (oops carnivore) said, she may still want you for the emotional thingee.. get it clear once and for all.. I am telling you this from experience...

Best if you spend less time together if you both want to break cleanly, revisit the friendship issue only after u are sure both of u have gotten over the whole thing and are now embarking on your seperate lives.

just my 5c worth of opinion

Brother Randyboy73

I will take up your suggestion and petition to change my nick to hornivore (just kidding).. seems very appropriate isn't it, old boy.

Brother deathsyct, i believe it that you chinese chaps call it "ye chang meng duo". I hope I had the spelling right. The purpose of ending a relationship is to lead seperate lives, with the emphasis on the word seperate.

There is nothing prohibiting ex-lovers from being friends, but it usually involves a cooling off period and a removal of emotional dependency.

As the brothers here have said, do clarify the status. Force the issue out into the open for discussion, at least you know what the perimeters are in this case.

Good luck brother.

[dc_31]

My advise is don't be stupid. Sorry for the mean word. She is simply making use of you. When she finds a new bf, she will ask you to f off. I had been through this before...

[dc_31]

My advise is don't be stupid. Sorry for the mean word. She is simply making use of you. When she finds a new bf, she will ask you to f off. I had been through this before...

[Castrol]

bros do u really think she juz simple treat me as a norm fren? or am i over-reacting?

bro dont need to think so much, if cannot bonk her then change your handphone number and FO la. :D

[covenn]

e prob comes when she keeps sticking very close to me. i dont mind carrying her bag 4 her as it is our task to hlp gals carry em. but seems like she is nt shy abt it & takes it as though as i'm her bf. when out to shop her stuff, she will still try out e clothes and ask me to look whether its nice or nt. even when eating, she insist tat i sit beside her. so its naturally norm for me to start to hold her hands but she will pull her hands away.



simple. juz carry on stickin ur bodies close tgt lor. since she only has issues with holding hands. for me, sticking bodies close is a better option anytime.:p

[Lsize]

ridiculous gal..just making use of you for companionship..

have a clear cut and think no further

[5stars]

Don't be so mean mah.. But, this is the way - i think. No harm to continue being friend - with FOC bonk... :p

bro dont need to think so much, if cannot bonk her then change your handphone number and FO la. :D

[superman]

bro,

my advise to u is to makes things clear with her. Ask her wat is yr current relationship with her now. If friends u have to draw a line, do only things tat friends are doing. If she is unclear, I suggest u better keep a distance from her or else both will get hurt someday.

Juz my 2 cents worth of advise. Good luck ;)

[no_faith]

if got FOC bonks, no doubts u gonna stay as fren
but nothing gain, dun get mislead by her and dun ever tink of patching up coz "hao ma bu chi hui dou cao"
she making use of u as she is boring, lonely at d moment and she need a companion
be cool, reject her sumtimes when she ask u out or call u chat bullshit on the phone, dun spend $ on her even u still love her in ur heart
dun ask her anyting or hope she will be back in ur hug,
u got to let her noe she is juz a passer-by in ur life, u will move on for a better life and get urself 1000000.....times better den her

tis juz my 2 cents (personal view n no offence)

[suteerak1099]

男人不坏，女人不爱。 just do as your heart tells you. if you think it wasnt a clean break.... 2 options:
1. have a good heart to heart talk to clear up the mess, and go seperate ways, so you no need to look back
2. rekindle the flame & start afresh, make sure you don't repeat the same mistakes as before.

maybe she still waiting for a new guy to come sweep her off her feet. so she bobian, still keeping you within reach, incase no new hope comes along.

[Deep Blue]

Answer this question:

Do you still feel for her? If yes then take action, if no then laid back and let nature take its course. In this world, other than "yes" and "ok", there is still "no" and "I can't". ;)

[klbt]

seems like she just wana have the best of both worlds...
you pay she gain, in watever sense

[Red_Baron]

Just friends? Who is she kidding? Anyways if it does not bother you just leave it as it is (unless you want to get together again). If it does time to push her away.

It could be just you feeling werid about it since you 2 were once lovers. I strongly recommend you get a girl to give you feedback on this one for a better view.

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

she is like just making use.sit down and talk over it.ask what she wants and settle it once and for all.

[onion_rings]

No harm to continue being friend - with FOC bonk... :p
But threadstarter EX GAL, won't even let him hold her hand leh. How to have the FOC bonk kekek:D

[S|eep|ess]

dun tell me her name is kimberly???!!!!

[deathsyct]

hi bros.
firstly sry for the multiple threads i've caused due to laggness

anyway thank you so much bros for giving me advice.

anyway its her who wanted e breakup. i did try to win her back but she say no use. i guess i'm juz too soft hearted. though i wanna end it clean, everytime she call & tell me her prob, i'll hlp her out.

really hate to guess wat gals r thinking. mind games r always so tiring. dont u think so?

[Deztruct]

My advice is tat you hv a good talk with her..be prepared to lose her for gd for the moment...my exp is tat gers sometimes can be more heartless than guys..when u 2 broke off..it is weird that she wld still wan to keep contact with u in the short term..in the long term yes..but in the short term..its weird

from my past exp..last time somethin similar happen to me and my ex also...i was the one who broke off with her but we still keep in contact even after then...i did tried to hold her hand then but she pulled away also..to cut a long story short..after we patch back then..i found out tat she still like me then..juz tat bcoz we are not officially together again..she dun let me hold her hand :confused:

[surfer888]

I'm in exactly the same situation with my ex-gf. Honestly, she is just using you as a spare tyre and also for companionship until the next guy comes along.

It's very difficult to be in your position especially if you still have feelings for her. Nevertheless, it's easier if you face up to the truth of the situation.

My ex-gf is the woman that I truely love till today (almost 10 yrs already). Unfortunately I married someone else. I try to forget her everyday and not to think too deep. Somehow I have conditioned myself to cherish every single moment that I have with her even though I'm the spare tyre and have conditioned myself not to be too heartbroken by her.

It's weird. I meet her every now and then and we behave like couples... bonking and all. But after the short period, it's over and to be repeated again in a few months. The closest I can liken the situation is like falling in love with a Fuck Buddy.

The most important thing is for yourself to take a step back everynow and then to put things into perspective and not get drowned by your own emotions. Try to commoditize everything and perhaps tell yourself that since you're spending time and money with her, better to enjoy it to the fullest but not get involved emotionally... and even if you do, keep in your mind constantly that it is just a fleeting moment and only temporary.

It's a cruel and harsh world and we have to be conditioned and adaptable to the situation.

[bunny]

U probably have to decide and know and understand yrself what u see in her and what u appreciate about her. When u truly know ...
Next step decide if it is worth yr while to pursue this relationship ... i.e. bfgf till marriage.

If not as a wife, then OK to stick as frens (not so much bfgf)

If u think is wife, then
reality very often we do not understand our own feelings.
Very often we only apprecaite what we have until we loose it!!!

Hopefully sooner or later she understands herself and knows what she wants.

It will be difficult, but it may be worth your while to help her find this out ... and u too. In the process if u both find it finally but realise that u r not hubby-wife kind, then i think u will both remain good frens.

Hope this littel bit may be of some help.
Cheers.

[Dicky88]

hmmm, come to think of it, yr situation might be like this:

1. She is bored cos her mr right not appearing yet, so taking you like a float (so that to kill her time)
2. during these times, she got advantages from you than u getting from her (am i rite?)
3. but once her mr right appears, she will disappear in yr world, might even change her hp (or scold u upside down) if u try to contact her continuously

bro, this may happen ... anyway how much do u spend on her while u meeting her? and does she hints or expect u shld do the paying?

[deathsyct]

ya i know she is definately taking advantage of me
but i'm wondering if she was like wat e other bro had said. she didnt wan to hold my hand cos we r nt officially tog.

well i'm afraid i might miss e chance of getting a sexy buddy opps i mean gf
aiya i'm in a dilemna rite nw.

shld i juz ignore her calls frm nw on????

[Dazedreamers]

well, the brothers here have given you kind advices here.
the rest it is all up to you to handle it properly and not to risk hurt to either of u...for the time being just do your work/stuff and preferably keep her out of ur activities/life for a while..."out of sight...out of mind"
good luck! cheers! :)

[V3IK]

Hi bro deathsyct,

Can't help myself to put up FR in here after reading about your relatinship with your ex.... I do have to agree with some bros frm SBF that your Ex may take you for granted.
But whatever it is.... once a relatinship is no longer there, don't expect too much to rekindle. No matter there's a barrier btw at both sides even as normal friends.
Not many guys may like you to have the chances to be friends with yr Ex...
after break up.
Cheers!

[buzzing]

I'm in exactly the same situation with my ex-gf. Honestly, she is just using you as a spare tyre and also for companionship until the next guy comes along.

It's very difficult to be in your position especially if you still have feelings for her. Nevertheless, it's easier if you face up to the truth of the situation.

My ex-gf is the woman that I truely love till today (almost 10 yrs already). Unfortunately I married someone else. I try to forget her everyday and not to think too deep. Somehow I have conditioned myself to cherish every single moment that I have with her even though I'm the spare tyre and have conditioned myself not to be too heartbroken by her.

It's weird. I meet her every now and then and we behave like couples... bonking and all. But after the short period, it's over and to be repeated again in a few months. The closest I can liken the situation is like falling in love with a Fuck Buddy.

The most important thing is for yourself to take a step back everynow and then to put things into perspective and not get drowned by your own emotions. Try to commoditize everything and perhaps tell yourself that since you're spending time and money with her, better to enjoy it to the fullest but not get involved emotionally... and even if you do, keep in your mind constantly that it is just a fleeting moment and only temporary.

It's a cruel and harsh world and we have to be conditioned and adaptable to the situation.


Brother, i take my hat off to u.. most man are the same... but taking the emotional part of it is tough.. same story .. we r married to different person.. nv meet after that.. somethings do think back, at least on my part-.. part of memories... :) but she probably hates me :( haha..

cheers!!

[randyboy73]

I'm in exactly the same situation with my ex-gf. Honestly, she is just using you as a spare tyre and also for companionship until the next guy comes along...................It's weird. I meet her every now and then and we behave like couples... bonking and all. But after the short period, it's over and to be repeated again in a few months. The closest I can liken the situation is like falling in love with a Fuck Buddy...The most important thing is for yourself to take a step back everynow and then to put things into perspective and not get drowned by your own emotions.....It's a cruel and harsh world and we have to be conditioned and adaptable to the situation.


bro surfer.. looks like we have similar opinions and experiences too... my ex-gf is now my FB.. we met when i was having a crisis in my marriage. for 1 yr my ex-gf and i were together and i fell deeply in love... we eventually split becoz we realize that we lived in different worlds and that there was no way we could be together (personal issues). I patched up with my wife and managed to stay away from my ex-gf for a grand total of 3 months before I received a phone call from her late one night telling me that her friend had passed away.. all i could think of was how much i wanted to comfort her then.. i went to her house the next day and ended up sleeping with her again.. since then we have been having regular sessions of sex.. FB is a term which she used on me ("pao you" is the exact word), but when we are making love, everything seems so right.. I know she still loves me, but she refuses to admit it.. it is in the way she holds me and kisses me.. the feeling of longingess in her embrace...

Threadstarter, in my case, its about 2 grown and mature adults who love each other but know that we can never be together.. Time will put things in perspective. We may say that we control our own destiny but in reality, fate sometimes denies us the opportunity to be with the person that we truly love and cherish.. Make no mistake, i love my wife, but my ex will always hold a special place in my heart (a soft spot if you will call it). I am not proud of it, but I am man enough to admit I know what I am doing is wrong.I know that one day, I will come clean and tell my wife about it.

Talk to your ex-gf.. bring up your exact thoughts about how you feel. If you still love her, then it is the right thing to do. But if you do not love her anymore and are not keen to reconcile, tell her to move on.. you can always be friends again in the future.... then get on with your life without her.

[deathsyct]

i finally got my courage to talk things out with her 2day.
her ans is tat she is juz treating me as a fren.
after hearing this, though my heart sank to rock bottom, i'm oso happy tat i finally know e ans.

i told her tat bcos of her body language tats y i tot she was juz waiting 4 me to patch back or watever. and her ans is tat cos she is too used to it when being wif me.

anyway after e talk she said tat she got my idea & will keep a distance frm nw on. mayb its gd 4 both of us mayb.

and i totally agree wif some bro's cos i know she is juz making use of me to keep her accompany. juz tat i'm juz too stupid to avoid it even knowing her motive. haha.

well for nw i'll juz keep my finger cross tat she will call me up someday & mayb bcome sex buddy like other bros. haha

[randyboy73]

i finally got my courage to talk things out with her 2day.
her ans is tat she is juz treating me as a fren.
after hearing this, though my heart sank to rock bottom, i'm oso happy tat i finally know e ans.

i told her tat bcos of her body language tats y i tot she was juz waiting 4 me to patch back or watever. and her ans is tat cos she is too used to it when being wif me.

anyway after e talk she said tat she got my idea & will keep a distance frm nw on. mayb its gd 4 both of us mayb.

and i totally agree wif some bro's cos i know she is juz making use of me to keep her accompany. juz tat i'm juz too stupid to avoid it even knowing her motive. haha.

well for nw i'll juz keep my finger cross tat she will call me up someday & mayb bcome sex buddy like other bros. haha

Congrats on ironing out your issues wif her.. speaking out your mind wasn't that difficult wasnt it...

It is good that she keeps her distance from you from now on.. don't go around trying to be her FB.. if it happens it happens... u may also not be mature enuf to handle the emotional baggage that comes with your FB being your ex-gf... so give each other time to get over past feelings...

As they say hindsight is always 20/20.. when u look back on this relationship in a couple of months when u are happily involved in a new relationship, you will say.. life does indeed go on..

happy cheonging...

[surfer888]

bro surfer.. looks like we have similar opinions and experiences too... my ex-gf is now my FB.. we met when i was having a crisis in my marriage. for 1 yr my ex-gf and i were together and i fell deeply in love... we eventually split becoz we realize that we lived in different worlds and that there was no way we could be together (personal issues)..

I keep quite a number of my ex-gfs as FBs. But these are the GFs whom while going out with them, we have come to a realization that we enjoy each other's company and sex only without love. We still date off and on and I still shower them the attention like real couples but we know that there is no love involved... just real close friendship.

The only ex that I have had problems doing this with is with the one I truely love. I tend to forget myself and fall in love with her all over again and hurt myself in the process. We're contacting less of each other now (intentionally on my end) in case I get hurt again.

So, to the threadstarter. If you like her and not love her, keep her as a FB and a close friend but keep your mind, heart and eyes open. If you cannot do that, steer clear or you will hurt yourself. Its difficult to control the heart so make sure all your thoughts come from your head (both Big and Small Heads).

[surfer888]

Brother, i take my hat off to u.. most man are the same... but taking the emotional part of it is tough.. same story .. we r married to different person.. nv meet after that.. somethings do think back, at least on my part-.. part of memories... :) but she probably hates me :( haha..

cheers!!

Yup, the emotional part is tricky. That's why we have to think with both our heads... at least they don't get caught up with emotions.

[Malefikus]

Yup, the emotional part is tricky. That's why we have to think with both our heads... at least they don't get caught up with emotions.

Hehehe.... 'both of our heads', I like that one!:D

[deathsyct]

seems like she's starting to msg me again.
haiz. well this time its abt her goin shopping & buying some stuffs.
well she is v excited to show me wat she bought & so i suggest to her to take e few pics of it & send it to me thru MSN.
but once she is on MSN i said hi n nothing else cos i'm waiting for her to send.
n there she goes, she's angry tat i'm showing no interest cos i only say hi.
she say i shldnt have make her feel tat i wan to c it & etc. she says i'm rude cos when talkin to her i'm doin my things.
arhghghg. hw can she expect e same kind of attention frm me as b4. i mean as frens, i must oso spend time wif some other frens rite (mainly gals) haha.
i really dont understand wat she is thinking.
wat do u guys think?

[onion_rings]

i really dont understand wat she is thinking.
wat do u guys think?

I do feel that she's nuts!!!!!! Why dun u pass her msn to one of the bro here to taste oops im to test her???(example me lah) kekek:D bro joking nia!!!!

[surfer888]

seems like she's starting to msg me again.
haiz. well this time its abt her goin shopping & buying some stuffs.
well she is v excited to show me wat she bought & so i suggest to her to take e few pics of it & send it to me thru MSN.
but once she is on MSN i said hi n nothing else cos i'm waiting for her to send.
n there she goes, she's angry tat i'm showing no interest cos i only say hi.
she say i shldnt have make her feel tat i wan to c it & etc. she says i'm rude cos when talkin to her i'm doin my things.
arhghghg. hw can she expect e same kind of attention frm me as b4. i mean as frens, i must oso spend time wif some other frens rite (mainly gals) haha.
i really dont understand wat she is thinking.
wat do u guys think?

If she keeps playing around with you like this, one option would be to treat her real well and start going out with dates with her. Woo her like crazy, shower her with attention and gifts. Go to the extreme and put in lots of effort. When she falls for you again, fuck her and dump her after that.

You need to be devoid of emotion to take this step. Focus and go for the kill. Treat it like the stock market and cut your losses when you get ahead.

Some bros may find this cruel but she started it by toying with you. Anyway, its just a suggestion and you may not necessarily concur.

[carnivore33]

If she keeps playing around with you like this, one option would be to treat her real well and start going out with dates with her. Woo her like crazy, shower her with attention and gifts. Go to the extreme and put in lots of effort. When she falls for you again, fuck her and dump her after that.

You need to be devoid of emotion to take this step. Focus and go for the kill. Treat it like the stock market and cut your losses when you get ahead.

Some bros may find this cruel but she started it by toying with you. Anyway, its just a suggestion and you may not necessarily concur.


This is the classic Fuck and Dump.. I had a friend who pulled such a manuever and the lady was distraught after being dumped.. It was fairgame for during their first bout of romance he was the most attentive and loving boyfriend she could ever find, but she left him for another man...

[deathsyct]

If she keeps playing around with you like this, one option would be to treat her real well and start going out with dates with her. Woo her like crazy, shower her with attention and gifts. Go to the extreme and put in lots of effort. When she falls for you again, fuck her and dump her after that.

You need to be devoid of emotion to take this step. Focus and go for the kill. Treat it like the stock market and cut your losses when you get ahead.

Some bros may find this cruel but she started it by toying with you. Anyway, its just a suggestion and you may not necessarily concur.

u r rite. its time to go 4 e kill.
she called me again but this time askin me something regarding her computer.
i told her i'll pass her e CD to install e programs but she insist tat she doesnt know hw to use it.
so no choice i'll have to go down her hse & hlp her fix her pc. haha...
wait it seems like she is e 1 who is setting up this trap to kill me. haha...
hmm... must take precaution....

[surfer888]

u r rite. its time to go 4 e kill.
she called me again but this time askin me something regarding her computer.
i told her i'll pass her e CD to install e programs but she insist tat she doesnt know hw to use it.
so no choice i'll have to go down her hse & hlp her fix her pc. haha...
wait it seems like she is e 1 who is setting up this trap to kill me. haha...
hmm... must take precaution....

Pretend to be a mouse going into the lioness's den. Let the lioness nibble on you while you slowly transform into a dragon.

You need to get her to fall in deep, then bonk the living daylights out of her. Make her beg for for it. Once she does that, do all the perverse things that you dreamt of... CIM, Bukkakke, Anal, Watersports, etc. The main thing is to go where no man has gone before with her. Just when she is loving it all... dump her.

[randyboy73]

Pretend to be a mouse going into the lioness's den. Let the lioness nibble on you while you slowly transform into a dragon...... Once she does that, do all the perverse things that you dreamt of... CIM, Bukkakke, Anal, Watersports, etc. The main thing is to go where no man has gone before with her. Just when she is loving it all... dump her.

I give u one poem to remember......(hanyupinyin so bear with me)

xi yang xi xia yi dian hong (the evening sun is setting)
qing ge qing mei zai cao cong (lover boy & lover girl amongst the tall grass)
qing ge ba chu yi tiao long(lover boy whips out his dragon)
gan dao qing mei lian hong hong (screws the hell out of lover girl till her face is flushed)

somehow the hanyupinyin versions sounds nicer but the translation is just to give u a better idea... show her who's the boss...

[surfer888]

I give u one poem to remember......(hanyupinyin so bear with me)

xi yang xi xia ...

For a moment, I thought you were giving me the lyrics to the "Pulau Tekong", one of the 1st few dramas that RTS (now TCS) did in the 80s.

[sleaguepunter]

seems like she's starting to msg me again.
haiz. well this time its abt her goin shopping & buying some stuffs.
well she is v excited to show me wat she bought & so i suggest to her to take e few pics of it & send it to me thru MSN.
but once she is on MSN i said hi n nothing else cos i'm waiting for her to send.
n there she goes, she's angry tat i'm showing no interest cos i only say hi.
she say i shldnt have make her feel tat i wan to c it & etc. she says i'm rude cos when talkin to her i'm doin my things.
arhghghg. hw can she expect e same kind of attention frm me as b4. i mean as frens, i must oso spend time wif some other frens rite (mainly gals) haha.
i really dont understand wat she is thinking.
wat do u guys think?

bro deathsyct,

what u r going through had happen to me, of course unlike bro surfer888, my ex-gf did not become my FB. Like yours, my ex-gf make it very clear she not interested to patch up but yet expect me to be like last time to be at her peck & call.

after she broke up with me, she sms to me everyday, sometime even call me to tcss. But most of the time hear her voice i heart pain, so didnt talk much and she get angry when i kept quiet over the phone and slammed the phone down. (she call using housephone so can slam) For a few time, she would call me to buy things for her and expect me to deliever to her house. First few time i do them lah but she didnt even paid me the money that the stuffs cost.

Four months after the breakup, she again wanted me to buy some medicne for her. For me enough is enough, i am not going to be roberto anymore so sms her back that i expect the money to be paid back to me. Upon she recd my sms, she called me and make a fuss, saying last time i not like that one, had never ask money from her. I reply in a straight tone last time i am her bf, now i am not and i want back all those money she owned me for the last 4 mths. She scream, yes screamed into the phone she will return the money back down to the last cents.

Of course i had to go down to her house to collect the money, quite a bit as those medicine not cheap. Anyway i make it clear to her that i not interested to be her friend anymore as she getting the best out of our relationship. Instead of having a cooling off period after break up, she spoiled the chance of remaining friend by smsing and calling everyday. Everyday is a torture to me. So i just walk off after tell her so. ( of course money in my pocket liao :D ) She still got call and sms after that but i controlled my heart and ignore her calls and dun reply her sms. after a couple of mths, she stop contacting me. Anyway i didnt give her my new hp number when i got a new phone now lost contact liao as now i also dun remember her hp number liao.

Now i married liao but i had to admit my ex-gf affect me the most. Saw her a couple of time in public but didnt call her. I am still avoiding those places we used to go when we were together. Sometime it piss off my wife when i die die dun want to go bishan central and give excuses to avoid going there. Till now my wife still dunno why.

Bro deathsyct, make it a clean break as your exgf is behaving like my ex. No point getting hurt, dun even think of getting her back as once a woman heart is gone, it will never come back. There no guarantee she wont do it again, to them break up is a piece of cake. i not asking u to totally forget her, u will never forget but give yourself space and time to put those memories of her into deepest corner of your mind and keep them there. Go for a holiday with friends or backpack alone, it will do wonders. ( It really did wonders for me as i got myself a FB in taiwan while i was there but that another story :D )

[pig33]

Yup I understand that kind of feeling, what is over is over unless you still got intention to bonk her if not better keep a distance away from her to avoid getting hurt again, anyway good luck on whatever decision u make, cheer pal.

[RedJacket]

For me, i think it is best to close this chapter as soon as possible. I suggest to threadstarter to tell her straight off that break is break and let us not be freinds anymore. To "con" her into giving u more or plotting more and more evil ideas are not good for her and for u.

Just my 2 cents opinion on this issue.

[deathsyct]

Hi to all bros.

i receive a bomb call frm her yday though still havent go her hse fix her pc. she called & ask me y am i so cold when talking to her already. so i told her say bcos i'm nt her bf alr mah so wat she expect.

den e killer bomb comes. she said she miss my accompany. but i told her said tats nt possible as we r nw in a state of juz being norm frens. and so there ways no sound on e other side. i keep calling her but still no reply. until finally she said so i've lost a fren? den i quickly added to say tat nt lost a fren la. juz tat we shld draw e line clearly. and den e phone went silent even numerous times to call her. so i juz hang up e phone.

and yes bro RedJacket has a pt tat it is nt gd 4 me to her.

well i was plannin to go to her hse & den grab a chance to kiss & french her. u know gals always starting push back say dont wan but after awhile they juz simply give in. actually wanted to take this chance to test water if can bcome FB but den i must say i will oso feel guilty after doin tat to her.

alamak i'm back in a dilemna again.

bro sleaguepunter i'm in e same situation as u in e past rite nw. :(

[Deztruct]

For me, i think it is best to close this chapter as soon as possible. I suggest to threadstarter to tell her straight off that break is break and let us not be freinds anymore. To "con" her into giving u more or plotting more and more evil ideas are not good for her and for u.

Just my 2 cents opinion on this issue.

I agree with you. An eye for an eye only makes the world go blind

[Deztruct]

There are only 2 choices here. Is she worth it (as in your love for her and not abt being FB with her) or is she not

If she is worth it then give it everything u got..at least if u failed..u tried your best

If she is not worth it..dun contact her again. Del her msn, dun ans her sms or calls for the time being..you 2 just need tat bit of time

[deathsyct]

wah damn angry wif her nw sia.

being kind enough i decided to give her a christmas card & put it inside her locker. in e end she started to qns me y dont i send it to her hse address.
i told her cos i wanna save 22cents & oso bcos she can go open her locker & retrieve it.

den she start to qns me again y cant i spend 22cents to make her happy.
so i asked her. so tat means i have to send out all my christmas cards to all my frens even though i can pass them directly???

damn. she is testing my patience.

[evo3]

In normal cases, majority of the ladies will like flowers, any problem you have woth your g/f try to send flowers to her home or office (dont send it yourself get the florist to send it for you) than write a small little card and send together with the flowers, i believe this will really give her some surprises and at least she will think of having a better relationship with her b/f. i always use this ti do it.
Especially like xmas, b/day, anniversary day etc

[randyboy73]

wah damn angry wif her nw sia.

being kind enough i decided to give her a christmas card...........den she start to qns me again y cant i spend 22cents to make her happy.
so i asked her. so tat means i have to send out all my christmas cards to all my frens even though i can pass them directly???

damn. she is testing my patience.

why u bother so much about her.. just screw it and get on with your life.. girls like her will only give u endless grief... make a clean break now and harden ur heart and ignore her entirely.. if need be go change ur mobile no.. at least it gives u some form of peace on earth

[sleaguepunter]

well i was plannin to go to her hse & den grab a chance to kiss & french her. u know gals always starting push back say dont wan but after awhile they juz simply give in. actually wanted to take this chance to test water if can bcome FB but den i must say i will oso feel guilty after doin tat to her.

alamak i'm back in a dilemna again.

bro sleaguepunter i'm in e same situation as u in e past rite nw. :(

yo, dont do that, wait she cry rape then u die cock stand.

[Rof|maoxz]

Anyway its her who wanted e breakup. i did try to win her back but she say no use. i guess i'm juz too soft hearted. though i wanna end it clean, everytime she call & tell me her prob, i'll hlp her out.

really hate to guess wat gals r thinking. mind games r always so tiring. dont u think so?

Why bother to patch up or win her back, since both of you have already broke-up? :confused:

Can't understand why most local men reluctantly to give up, after their broke-up?



Well i was plannin to go to her hse & den grab a chance to kiss & french her. u know gals always starting push back say dont wan but after awhile they juz simply give in. actually wanted to take this chance to test water if can bcome FB but den i must say i will oso feel guilty after doin tat to her.

Don't let your inner evil self overcome you, be rational. No use doing all these, you will make her hate you even further.

[noname123]

Rolf Rolf,

We are not them and likewise they are not us.

There are just to many "maybes".....only ownself know what has had happend.

Advise...everyone also can say the same thing...but when apply to ownself...

U know what i saying...:D

[Rof|maoxz]

Rolf Rolf,

We are not them and likewise they are not us.

There are just to many "maybes".....only ownself know what has had happend.

Advise...everyone also can say the same thing...but when apply to ownself...

U know what i saying... :D

NNKC.... that means what I type is of no use lor. :D

My first time posting today, and you follow me so close behind? KeKe....

[Shiokday]

We are not them and likewise they are not us.

Advise...everyone also can say the same thing...but when apply to ownself...



NONAME123 became a preacher?:eek:

[Rof|maoxz]

NONAME123 became a preacher? :eek:

Not preacher, buddy, but a predator in closet. :D

[noname123]

NNKC.... that means what I type is of no use lor. :D

My first time posting today, and you follow me so close behind? KeKe....

U trying to say u famous lah....say i follow u here and there lah ....

:cool:

[noname123]

NONAME123 became a preacher?:eek:

Pianz!! Got yr problem meh...go and beo your TNN leh...

Chap 1 leg wait tio Zapppppppppppppp :D

[Rof|maoxz]

U trying to say u famous lah....say i follow u here and there lah ....

:cool:

Nope... I'm just a downright nobody. Sounds familiar? :D

[noname123]

Nope... I'm just a downright nobody. Sounds familiar? :D

u nobody...i noname leh :D

[Rof|maoxz]

Pianz!! Got yr problem meh...go and beo your TNN leh...

Chap 1 leg wait tio Zapppppppppppppp

See lah... post comments in here and kana fuck liao. :D

21-12-2006 04:22 PM fuck u

[noname123]

See lah... post comments in here and kana fuck liao. :D

21-12-2006 04:22 PM fuck u

HAHA!!! U must hve offen alot of ppl hor...

Go and PM AH Sam lah...ask for help

[Shiokday]

Not preacher, buddy, but a predator in closet. :D
haha...i fully agree...he hunts only SYTssss....:D

[Shiokday]

Pianz!! Got yr problem meh...go and beo your TNN leh...

Chap 1 leg wait tio Zapppppppppppppp :D

already tio zap 1 pt liao leh...sibei song...got some more anot...:rolleyes:

[Shiokday]

I'm just a downright nobody. Sounds familiar? :D
Paging for candi man....:D

[Rof|maoxz]

Paging for candi man.... :D

Mai hijack this BGR thread liao, If kana 1194 not bery nice, in chinese terms. :D

[noname123]

haha...i fully agree...he hunts only SYTssss....:D

i qualify meh....me old man already leh:o

[noname123]

Mai hijack this BGR thread liao, If kana 1194 not bery nice, in chinese terms. :D

Ah Sam ZAP you where got 1 point want...wait long long hor :D

[Shiokday]

See lah... post comments in here and kana fuck liao. :D

21-12-2006 04:22 PM fuck u

funny...i also had the some comment at the same time...21-12-2006 04:22 PM fuck u ....Sam has already expose the idiot to me...hiak hiak...:D

[sammyboyfor]

bro,

my advise to u is to makes things clear with her.

Juz my 2 cents worth of advise. Good luck ;)

Should be "My ADVICE to you is to make things clear..."

& "Just my 2 cents worth of ADVICE.".

"Advise" is a verb.

[noname123]

funny...i also had the some comment at the same time...21-12-2006 04:22 PM fuck u ....Sam has already expose the idiot to me...hiak hiak...:D

You really No 1 in Por-ing

Who Who Who har...:D

[noname123]

Should be "My ADVICE to you is to make things clear..."

& "Just my 2 cents worth of ADVICE.".

"Advise" is a verb.

Ah Sam come already...

Rolf..quick quick complain to him...sure will help you...:D

[Rof|maoxz]

funny...i also had the some comment at the same time...21-12-2006 04:22 PM fuck u ....Sam has already expose the idiot to me...hiak hiak... :D

Why that nick -159 still can zap har? Something wrong with the system?

[Shiokday]

You really No 1 in Por-ing

Who Who Who har...:D

ask for favor must be nice to ppl...ur teacher nvr teach u meh...

[ken2005]

hey bro jus fuck care her la... she break off with u already.... obviously cos she single now... feeling lonely.... once she got new bf.... you think she will fuck care u?

[evo3]

In normal cases, majority of the ladies will like flowers, any problem you have woth your g/f try to send flowers to her home or office (dont send it yourself get the florist to send it for you) than write a small little card and send together with the flowers, i believe this will really give her some surprises and at least she will think of having a better relationship with her b/f. i always use this ti do it.
Especially like xmas, b/day, anniversary day etc


Bros in SBF can I know is there anything wrong with my above post.
I wonder who is the person who are so unprofessional and give me this
"21-12-2006 04:20 PM fuck u" - this person had deducted my point, I dont what had happened to him. Why not be man enough to admit it rather than just write "fuck u". Did I offend you, my guess this person is new to SBF.
Come out and admit it if you are man

[surfer888]

Bros in SBF can I know is there anything wrong with my above post.
I wonder who is the person who are so unprofessional and give me this
"21-12-2006 04:20 PM fuck u" - this person had deducted my point, I dont what had happened to him. Why not be man enough to admit it rather than just write "fuck u". Did I offend you, my guess this person is new to SBF.
Come out and admit it if you are man

Bro,

Don't get so worked up. I got zapped myself and I believe quitre a few of us got zapped by the same person (a 1 pointer). I have my suspicions on who that is... not from this thread.

Anyway, Points can't buy us anything. Nevertheless, if its any consolation, I've upped you 4 pts.

[surfer888]

wah damn angry wif her nw sia.

being kind enough i decided to give her a christmas card & put it inside her locker. in e end she started to qns me y dont i send it to her hse address.
i told her cos i wanna save 22cents & oso bcos she can go open her locker & retrieve it.

den she start to qns me again y cant i spend 22cents to make her happy.
so i asked her. so tat means i have to send out all my christmas cards to all my frens even though i can pass them directly???

damn. she is testing my patience.

Better to give up on her. She has the makings of a troublemaker. That is especially what you want to avoid in a FB.

[evo3]

Bro surf888, thks for ur pts.
I am not angry, is only bcos I dont know why I was zapped for nothing. This guy I think is only a one pointer person. Want to zap must hv a good reason to do so, not just zap for the fun of zapping lah

[surfer888]

Bro surf888, thks for ur pts.
I am not angry, is only bcos I dont know why I was zapped for nothing. This guy I think is only a one pointer person. Want to zap must hv a good reason to do so, not just zap for the fun of zapping lah

Hopefully, these things will go away after the school holidays.