How to network and not feel awkward?

[yangyang77]

Hi gais!

Wondering how do I meet new people from places like bars, clubs, meetup places, events, etc and not feel awkward or feel like people are judging the way you stand/speak/act?

Be it guys or girls,

For guys it's easier, but for girls it's more of a awkwardness or weirdness feeling inside me.

Any ideas or tips?

Would love to know and understand more in different perspective!

[ItsEsther]

Good thread! Would love to know too! I'm always too shy and nervous to take initiative

[yangyang77]

Good thread! Would love to know too! I'm always too shy and nervous to take initiative

I hope this thread can help those who have troubles getting confident to get through it and makes it easier for us to communicate or to express ourselves!

[SiGinna]

I think it is easier for girls to take the initiative and not be rejected :)

[yangyang77]

I think it is easier for girls to take the initiative and not be rejected :)

I think it depends also, like how straight forward is the girl, how 'beating around the bush' is the girl, or how 'attitude' is the girl plays a part as a factor. So it makes it sooo confusing what you/they want without 'insulting' the other party..

[SgKaki]

always take 2 hands to claps....
but there are always nothing to lose to ask... but to me always encounter gals with "dog" around =.="

[yangyang77]

always take 2 hands to claps....
but there are always nothing to lose to ask... but to me always encounter gals with "dog" around =.="

"dog" meaning?

[Alibaba23]

Be sincere, it's the key. If you are sincere in knowing more, the other party will more likely to share more with you. this is how I got my FB's haha

[yangyang77]

Be sincere, it's the key. If you are sincere in knowing more, the other party will more likely to share more with you. this is how I got my FB's haha

But question is, how can you be sincere if you don't know about the other party objective of talking to you/reply to you (or is it i think too much? hahaha)
Be it FB or normal networking. I think it's best if you talk to someone with zero intention, but that would be meaningless because I believe everyone has an intention to do something, be it business, friends, fb, sales etc (i suppose?)

[cornelius]

Hi gais!

Wondering how do I meet new people from places like bars, clubs, meetup places, events, etc and not feel awkward or feel like people are judging the way you stand/speak/act?

Be it guys or girls,

For guys it's easier, but for girls it's more of a awkwardness or weirdness feeling inside me.

Any ideas or tips?

Would love to know and understand more in different perspective!

Not to be afraid of rejection

[conquer]

Hi gais!

Wondering how do I meet new people from places like bars, clubs, meetup places, events, etc and not feel awkward or feel like people are judging the way you stand/speak/act?

Be it guys or girls,

For guys it's easier, but for girls it's more of a awkwardness or weirdness feeling inside me.

Any ideas or tips?

Would love to know and understand more in different perspective!

Rule #1: Thick face
Rule #2: Thick face
Rule #3: Thick face

:D

[yangyang77]

Not to be afraid of rejection

That insecure feeling... Hahaha, but will learn to do that as time pass!

[yangyang77]

Rule #1: Thick face
Rule #2: Thick face
Rule #3: Thick face

:D

I like your answer :D:D But somehow it's true

[Alibaba23]

But question is, how can you be sincere if you don't know about the other party objective of talking to you/reply to you (or is it i think too much? hahaha)
Be it FB or normal networking. I think it's best if you talk to someone with zero intention, but that would be meaningless because I believe everyone has an intention to do something, be it business, friends, fb, sales etc (i suppose?)

You are starting to get the idea. The idea is just sincere about knowing that person. And like you said everyone has the intention, then the true intention should be to know the person. I mean I didn't have the intention on my mind to say that "oh this one must be FB, this one my close sales". For me, it's more of I want to know you, who are you, what you do and etc. With sufficient information, then I make the decision to get my intention.

[cornelius]

That insecure feeling... Hahaha, but will learn to do that as time pass!

Remember. No partner like their partner to be 婆婆妈妈 type. As other well said, thick skin. Rejection will make you a better person and soon success will fall upon u

[yangyang77]

You are starting to get the idea. The idea is just sincere about knowing that person. And like you said everyone has the intention, then the true intention should be to know the person. I mean I didn't have the intention on my mind to say that "oh this one must be FB, this one my close sales". For me, it's more of I want to know you, who are you, what you do and etc. With sufficient information, then I make the decision to get my intention.

Because I believe as long as you know the person you will know whether is he/she heading the same direction(intention) as you. And that will build a better bond than compared to not knowing and just do what you want and not care about the other party's actual intention. I think I roughly got your idea.. correct me if me wrong :p

[yangyang77]

Remember. No partner like their partner to be 婆婆妈妈 type. As other well said, thick skin. Rejection will make you a better person and soon success will fall upon u

True enough.. #lyfe hahahaaa

[ralliart]

Why do we always hear stories about married man have fling while single man suck thumb?

It all boils down to 1 simple reason... When a married man meets a lady, he has no other intention coz he knows he has a wife back at home. He knows he has no pressure to impress the lady and be at ease with himself.

That's the killer most ladies are looking for... Ladies will feel at ease with these guys and ultimately fall in love with them...

Believe me or not, it's not about looks or money :cool:

[yangyang77]

Why do we always hear stories about married man have fling while single man suck thumb?

It all boils down to 1 simple reason... When a married man meets a lady, he has no other intention coz he knows he has a wife back at home. He knows he has no pressure to impress the lady and be at ease with himself.

That's the killer most ladies are looking for... Ladies will feel at ease with these guys and ultimately fall in love with them...

Believe me or not, it's not about looks or money :cool:

Well said.. Will keep that in mind bro :D

[Alibaba23]

Because I believe as long as you know the person you will know whether is he/she heading the same direction(intention) as you. And that will build a better bond than compared to not knowing and just do what you want and not care about the other party's actual intention. I think I roughly got your idea.. correct me if me wrong :p

You got it Yang Yang!

[Alfang]

Network via wechat or apps first. Chit chat to get familiar first before meet up.

If comfortable, meet up. if not just delete or block him/her. Happy networking gals.

[yangyang77]

You got it Yang Yang!

Thank you millionss! :D:D

[yangyang77]

Network via wechat or apps first. Chit chat to get familiar first before meet up.

If comfortable, meet up. if not just delete or block him/her. Happy networking gals.

It's kinda broad, and what I meant is when out there knowing someone. That feeling..

[Alibaba23]

Thank you millionss! :D:D

Don't mention it! So want to network with me? Hahaha

[yangyang77]

Don't mention it! So want to network with me? Hahaha

I'm a guy bro, dun misunderstand..

[Alibaba23]

I'm a guy bro, dun misunderstand..

Network do sales! Network Chiong together!

[diputs1269]

Rule #1: Thick face
Rule #2: Thick face
Rule #3: Thick face

:D


Agreed, this is the first hurdle to overcome before anything else.

[yangyang77]

Network do sales! Network Chiong together!

If you don't mind, sure! :D
What kind of sales?

[yangyang77]

Agreed, this is the first hurdle to overcome before anything else.

Just couldn't overcome this...
Easier said than done......:(

[MoeLanYong]

Go with zero expectation. Be yourself. The more you expect a good outcome, the more you try to behave a certain way, the more stressful it becomes.

[randyrockhard]

TS here is what you need to do

1. Be a knowledgeable man. This would help you greatly in discussing many topics with people.
2. If you are in your 20s go improve your career and life. Confidence is really a chick magnet.
3. Practice listening and observe what people said in order to get them to feel comfortable in talking with you.
4. Ask questions and only speak about yourself when the person asked about you.
5. Have a huge mirror so you could have a look at yourself everyday and see if you like what you saw there. If not, improve it any way you can. Read up and find out to find your most suitable style.

Hope that helps.

[sadfa]

TS here is what you need to do

1. Be a knowledgeable man. This would help you greatly in discussing many topics with people.
2. If you are in your 20s go improve your career and life. Confidence is really a chick magnet.
3. Practice listening and observe what people said in order to get them to feel comfortable in talking with you.
4. Ask questions and only speak about yourself when the person asked about you.
5. Have a huge mirror so you could have a look at yourself everyday and see if you like what you saw there. If not, improve it any way you can. Read up and find out to find your most suitable style.

Hope that helps.

Looking at yr suggestions ,its obvious why sporeans fail in networking since they abjectly fail every single category.

Who finds a brain dead boot licker who religiously believe n repeats the garbagement party line rubbish interesting to talk to.

Thats like having an intelligent discussion with a north Korean on the evils of Kim's empire
______
Exchange points interesting ma

[christjk34]

Interesting discussion .... keep going

[yangyang77]

Go with zero expectation. Be yourself. The more you expect a good outcome, the more you try to behave a certain way, the more stressful it becomes.

This is very true, but 90% of the time there tend to be expectation as what is happening in the realistic world..

[yangyang77]

TS here is what you need to do

1. Be a knowledgeable man. This would help you greatly in discussing many topics with people.
2. If you are in your 20s go improve your career and life. Confidence is really a chick magnet.
3. Practice listening and observe what people said in order to get them to feel comfortable in talking with you.
4. Ask questions and only speak about yourself when the person asked about you.
5. Have a huge mirror so you could have a look at yourself everyday and see if you like what you saw there. If not, improve it any way you can. Read up and find out to find your most suitable style.

Hope that helps.

Thank you bro for the tips, I think I do need to practice this often

[Devil320]

Good thread! Would love to know too! I'm always too shy and nervous to take initiative

Sure or not sis. The guy nervous then spread to u ah :p

[yangyang77]

Sure or not sis. The guy nervous then spread to u ah :p

Hahaha! I tink so too