Tipping point

[c0cktailov3r]

Please share your stories. How much do u tolerate , before you decide to end a relationship?

[sammyboyfor]

I don't tolerate anything. If it's not working I call it a day and walk away. There's no point prolonging the suffering.

[Triple70]

Please share your stories. How much do u tolerate , before you decide to end a relationship?

Easier if u give us your scenario then we can apply the relevant template.

[magical]

Easier if u give us your scenario then we can apply the relevant template.

Should renamed this thread Aunt Agony.

[maxsee]

I used to tolerate when i am young and green. That is until i realized that you must love yourself first before you love others. So i no longer tolerate nonsense or shit and learn to walk away. I have been a much happier person since then. :p:D:p

[c0cktailov3r]

Im not sure how to share... Too many things happened... and i have just been crying way too much, till i am numb and choose to close both eyes.... I think it is very unhealthy for myself , mentally and emotionally.... So just wondering when and what is the situation to call it a day...

[Triple70]

Companionship shd be abt adding value to each other's lives. It must never be abt misery. Take a 2 week cooling off period and keep yourself busy meeting others. Once u hv regained your self worth, can u hv an objective assemnent

[c0cktailov3r]

Ya , will try the cooling period.... quite sure its not a good idea to meet new people...

[Xyberduke]

Please share your stories. How much do u tolerate , before you decide to end a relationship?

When you know that hormones have nothing to do with the misery and there is no commitment (i.e. Children) to hold you back; that is the time to walk away

[MoeLanYong]

Im not sure how to share... Too many things happened... and i have just been crying way too much, till i am numb and choose to close both eyes.... I think it is very unhealthy for myself , mentally and emotionally.... So just wondering when and what is the situation to call it a day...

I recommend you walk off. I cry for nobody except my mom, and you should too.

[c0cktailov3r]

@Xyberduke What do u mean? The hormones and misery part....

[c0cktailov3r]

It's sad when the person who shares ur bed, suddenly feels like a stranger.... we don't even talk anymore....

[MoeLanYong]

We get sick of talking to you too. One month in and despite several requests to find out whats wrong, you choose to reply without replying. No prize for guessing who is at fault.

[Ember]

It's sad when the person who shares ur bed, suddenly feels like a stranger.... we don't even talk anymore....

if you have to cry/emo so much, then it's better to cut off contact completely and stay single for a while till you learn to self-respect

[unsung80]

It's sad when the person who shares ur bed, suddenly feels like a stranger.... we don't even talk anymore....

require courage to cut it off, dun let emotion choke your neck, end of the day you are in the losing end in this situation. Since you can't change the situation, is up to you to choose a positive outcome for yourself.. various paths are always lay out, choose wisely.

[c0cktailov3r]

I just really need someone to talk to and listen to me.

[DR_DANGER]

go get some therapy dude. Best decision I made in my life. It really helps a lot if our guy is good. You sound like you have codependency issues.

[Marineguy888]

I just really need someone to talk to and listen to me.

Different people have different threshold . You will need to tell us the full story before we can comment .

[c0cktailov3r]

I am glad it's over.

[makeyouhappy]

I am glad it's over.

I’m glad you’re glad.

But a little more context would be useful.

If you rather not, can just pm whatever is convenient.

[c0cktailov3r]

I am in a troubled relationship with a troubled man. But those troubles have since passed. And I am glad because things kind of settled down and were sorted out, so his problems are not mine anymore.

I guess, it is always good to be an independent lady in this time and age. People are simply not dependable, for any reason.....

[c0cktailov3r]

When you know that hormones have nothing to do with the misery and there is no commitment (i.e. Children) to hold you back; that is the time to walk away

I believe, children does not equate commitment.... Actions always speak for itself. If a person (A) truly loves another person (B), there is no way for A to hurt B.

It could be my one-sided ideal world imagination, or it could be real.

[larue]

I'm happy for you.

People will always let you down, in big things or little things.

We really only can count on ourselves.

[c0cktailov3r]

I'm happy for you.

People will always let you down, in big things or little things.

We really only can count on ourselves.

Ya!! Hard to find trustworthy and reliable people around....

[ibanezjem555]

No wonder so secretive. TS is a Sis.
Well, happy that you are glad Sis be too much complications.

Troubled man who can only trouble you. Not worth it. Time to burn the bridge and move on.

[c0cktailov3r]

No wonder so secretive. TS is a Sis.
Well, happy that you are glad Sis be too much complications.

Troubled man who can only trouble you. Not worth it. Time to burn the bridge and move on.

I am not secretive la... but just sometimes, in the middle of all the troubles, nothing seems clear....

So it was difficult to post anything at all...

[lazyguy]

I am in a troubled relationship with a troubled man. But those troubles have since passed. And I am glad because things kind of settled down and were sorted out, so his problems are not mine anymore.

I guess, it is always good to be an independent lady in this time and age. People are simply not dependable, for any reason.....

jia you... If u never walk out u never know there is other better world out there

[labbityeo]

Fresh start is best with new activity

[c0cktailov3r]

Fresh start is best with new activity

Your nick is very familiar...

[c0cktailov3r]

Fresh start is best with new activity

Agreed... but still not sure what activities I can join...

[Shadow_warrior]

Agreed... but still not sure what activities I can join...

there are so many activities, gardening, contributing to the lesser like dog shelters, old folks home etc...
you can take up a new sport, or hobby, dancing. the skies the limit.

the truth is sometimes we make ourselves miserable because we expect people to not disappoint us, or people to be fair, think about us before they do something that messes us up.

well if we think the world outside is perfect, and will stay that way, that's probably the attachment that is causing us pain.

manage your expectations is what a wise man said to me. If I start my day thinking people are not going to be angry, get pissed, yell at me, screw me over, if I think today is going to be peaceful, happy, blissful, then I think I am setting myself up for pain

I ramble on, but in my line of work, I handle all kinds of interesting things, and I have not had a day where it is the same as before. But I think that's life, each day is going to be different, and moving forward(as time can only do), it will be different.

so embrace the new day ahead, forget the past(meaning don't live in it), and live in the present.

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[Hungry2222]

i guess different people different threshold..depends on how much one can take. its like if you pour water into a cup..eventually it will be full, and water will spill out.

[c0cktailov3r]

Using back my old thread... not necessary to start a new thread and flood the forums...

Just kind of looking for weekends activities people to hang out with... preferably positive-minded people who can encourage each other to be better versions of themselves :)

Anybody who stays around Central Sg?

[flcult]

Please share your stories. How much do u tolerate , before you decide to end a relationship?

better miss the boat than to be on a wrong boat. how will you know? you won't...remember this: not only you choose her but she is already evaluating you. nowadays social media fck everything up...everyone give advice but all keyboard warriors

[c0cktailov3r]

better miss the boat than to be on a wrong boat. how will you know? you won't...remember this: not only you choose her but she is already evaluating you. nowadays social media fck everything up...everyone give advice but all keyboard warriors

I am the female... i understand what u have said... and i have decided to break it off... but somehow, we are still entangled...

As for social media, yes agreed... no point to dwell too much on it...

[JinHoAlready]

Suspect that you like him as a potential partner and he treats you like a fwb (or does not care enough), resulting in you being emotionally attached to him, and giving in to his requests for sex even though you have chosen to break off.

If really want a clean break, best is to block every platform. Unless you are colleagues then a bit difficult

Just my thoughts, don't have the full story so can't really get an objective view :p

Maybe more facts will help. Not sure if you are seeking advice or just people to rant to

[c0cktailov3r]

Suspect that you like him as a potential partner and he treats you like a fwb (or does not care enough), resulting in you being emotionally attached to him, and giving in to his requests for sex even though you have chosen to break off.

If really want a clean break, best is to block every platform. Unless you are colleagues then a bit difficult

Just my thoughts, don't have the full story so can't really get an objective view :p

Maybe more facts will help. Not sure if you are seeking advice or just people to rant to

Need an outlet to rant, for sure...

Not sure how to give facts since it is a really long story...

[Lil'Tempt]

Hello babe,

We have all been through that. Life goes on as usual.
We have a group of 5-6 girls that hang out weekly for chilling, partying and giving moral support when needed.

If u need a listening ear, pm me then. XOXO

[c0cktailov3r]

Hello babe,

We have all been through that. Life goes on as usual.
We have a group of 5-6 girls that hang out weekly for chilling, partying and giving moral support when needed.

If u need a listening ear, pm me then. XOXO

Wow thanks.

Not sure if I will add further burden to you and the other ladies, who are already troubled enough ??

[Ryan12345]

Sports and Hiking will improve the mood significantly =)

[c0cktailov3r]

Sports and Hiking will improve the mood significantly =)

Yes. Probably alot better than drinking and clubbing.

[flcult]

Uncle apologize in advance if example used here is inappropriate. IF one tio cancer, better to surgically remove breast completely or undergo unlimited chemo then hope for best?

For your case, are children involved? If little angels involved then you LLST, suck it up and move on. Life has to go on. If it's other issues, you hv to decide whether to harden yr heart n chop off the entanglement. Time will heal all wounds. Just make sure you wear proper protective gear before you fall AGAIN. enjoy the anticipation of sex, not the act itself... At least that's what I do... 🤭

You will survive BUT only if you are willing to...

[flcult]

Please share your stories. How much do u tolerate , before you decide to end a relationship?

Think you beh tahan yr man left you for another MAN right?!

[Pictionary]

IF one tio cancer, better to surgically remove breast completely or undergo unlimited chemo
Go for unlimited chemo. But her job will definitely be affected. To go for chemo, need to take frequent leave. Need to explain to her boss why need to freqently chemo. It's a very private affair but the boss is very cruel, just care about his business only. And since it's her own illness, if sack, not sure whether compensation will be given. Complain to mom might be no use bec it's not work illness.

She need to make plans to switch to a part time job if want to be private and can go chemo.

Maybe funboi can advise further.

[fallen11]

cheating = end of relationship for me.
I can cheat but she cant.

Actually is because i like fuck many different girls. Being in a serious relationship comes with certain restrictions. Though i still fuck other girls but it'll be harder and less often. So if she cheats, my chance to say bye and move on. :D

u can say its like i'm waiting for it la as i dont break up with loyal girls. my heart damn soft

[c0cktailov3r]

cheating = end of relationship for me.
I can cheat but she cant.

Actually is because i like fuck many different girls. Being in a serious relationship comes with certain restrictions. Though i still fuck other girls but it'll be harder and less often. So if she cheats, my chance to say bye and move on. :D

u can say its like i'm waiting for it la as i dont break up with loyal girls. my heart damn soft

Wow...

So if a lady does that to guys instead, is it acceptable?

[flcult]

cheating = end of relationship for me.
I can cheat but she cant.

Actually is because i like fuck many different girls. Being in a serious relationship comes with certain restrictions. Though i still fuck other girls but it'll be harder and less often. So if she cheats, my chance to say bye and move on. :D

u can say its like i'm waiting for it la as i dont break up with loyal girls. my heart damn soft

You truly live up to yr nick... Please stay as fallen. I don't think you have adequate respect for yr partner but to each his own.