Married To Someone Rather Boring Sexlife

[sandymich]

How many of you are long-time married folks and wish your spouse was more sexually adventurous and playful?

[qissyalynne]

How many of you are long-time married folks and wish your spouse was more sexually adventurous and playful?
what happened with yours?

[cavemao]

11 years, first 3-4 years waas pretty good sex life, but baby come out only, sex life drop by 80%, then 2 years ago, tio caught by wife. remaining 20% also gone. now is live like a dog and zero sex.... just nice also, last 18 months or so, due to covid 19, sex industry is dead also (or at least half dead, and the remaining alive ones chop carrot or too dangerous to go), can only depend on the ever reliable mr left hand

[loveacer]

Sammy becomes sandy? :confused:

[rototime]

What do you mean by tio caught? you had an affair? and you're still married? Then still can salvage lah.

Likely, you use left hand, and she will be eating out. Otherwise, she will be using her fingers as well.

For me. over 20 years.. first 10 years was good till I felt boring. Then after introducing new members to the family, she started slowing down and rejecting sex, and can go dry for months, and some years. zero throughout the entire year.

Reach mid 40's. I gave myself an ultimatum. try to revive our sex or I go look somewhere else.. It worked. Hence, I have neve had a single paid sex in my entire adult life.

Try revive lah.. help out at home, be home on time, show concern (must be genuine). start slight body contact, but not hug etc..

For me. easy as I didn't tio caught for anything. just use my hands to do the magic.. Massage, and essential oil.. this seems to work like WD40 on rusted hinge..

11 years, first 3-4 years waas pretty good sex life, but baby come out only, sex life drop by 80%, then 2 years ago, tio caught by wife. remaining 20% also gone. now is live like a dog and zero sex.... just nice also, last 18 months or so, due to covid 19, sex industry is dead also (or at least half dead, and the remaining alive ones chop carrot or too dangerous to go), can only depend on the ever reliable mr left hand

[Assman69]

12 years , before have kids still quite regularly. After 2 kids getting lesser. Now once a week or once every 2 weeks :(

[Continental]

11 years, first 3-4 years waas pretty good sex life, but baby come out only, sex life drop by 80%, then 2 years ago, tio caught by wife. remaining 20% also gone. now is live like a dog and zero sex.... just nice also, last 18 months or so, due to covid 19, sex industry is dead also (or at least half dead, and the remaining alive ones chop carrot or too dangerous to go), can only depend on the ever reliable mr left hand
For me, i have to use my right hand because i am right-handed. So i am mr right hand

[acidicavex]

Hmm TS are you doing QNA your past post is weird with the gender changing suddenly female suddenly male :eek::confused:

[sammyboyfor]

How many of you are long-time married folks and wish your spouse was more sexually adventurous and playful?

NEVER get married for sex. You'll be doomed to disappointment.

Marriage is for companionship and procreation. If you want to enjoy sex then please support my advertisers. :D

[Clarets]

Hmm TS are you doing QNA your past post is weird with the gender changing suddenly female suddenly male :eek::confused:

Check his/her IC and see what it states :D

[cavemao]

For me, i have to use my right hand because i am right-handed. So i am mr right hand

right hand need to click the mouse leh :D

[cavemao]

What do you mean by tio caught? you had an affair? and you're still married? Then still can salvage lah.

Likely, you use left hand, and she will be eating out. Otherwise, she will be using her fingers as well.

For me. over 20 years.. first 10 years was good till I felt boring. Then after introducing new members to the family, she started slowing down and rejecting sex, and can go dry for months, and some years. zero throughout the entire year.

Reach mid 40's. I gave myself an ultimatum. try to revive our sex or I go look somewhere else.. It worked. Hence, I have neve had a single paid sex in my entire adult life.

Try revive lah.. help out at home, be home on time, show concern (must be genuine). start slight body contact, but not hug etc..

For me. easy as I didn't tio caught for anything. just use my hands to do the magic.. Massage, and essential oil.. this seems to work like WD40 on rusted hinge..

mine is tio caught watching porn, tio caught going siam diu, tio caught for FL..... :o

so over the years dwindle.... nowadays slight body contact only she will angry, on surface with kid and outside is like normal family lah got chit chat, got joke, but underlying current is strong.... oh well.....

[momotea]

it's really challenge to maintain the nice sex drive , after such a long marriage .

[skihon]

Mine after 1 yr already sexless. Wife like no sex drive. Most of the time i ask for it, then soon i tired of asking so end up i ask mr. Right to help sometime mr. Left help when times Mr. Right injure.

[sexcision]

mine is tio caught watching porn, tio caught going siam diu, tio caught for FL..... :o

so over the years dwindle.... nowadays slight body contact only she will angry, on surface with kid and outside is like normal family lah got chit chat, got joke, but underlying current is strong.... oh well.....

got caught with FL, or go Siam tiu mabe understand that she get angry. but watching porn?? whats wrong with watching porn? lol

[cavemao]

got caught with FL, or go Siam tiu mabe understand that she get angry. but watching porn?? whats wrong with watching porn? lol

some woman happen to feel watching porn is another form of betrayal my wife happen to be one of those

siam diu actually i abit 冤枉, cos went with a group of friends including female friends and was a clean outing, but the stupid female friend go and tell my wife i went siam diu fucking bitch!

FL not caught red handed, but she saw the FL contacts and some of the chat history luckily i clear chat regularly, all she saw was "today you free? come find me for massage!" those type of messages......

[skihon]

some woman happen to feel watching porn is another form of betrayal my wife happen to be one of those

siam diu actually i abit 冤枉, cos went with a group of friends including female friends and was a clean outing, but the stupid female friend go and tell my wife i went siam diu fucking bitch!

FL not caught red handed, but she saw the FL contacts and some of the chat history luckily i clear chat regularly, all she saw was "today you free? come find me for massage!" those type of messages......

Even you pcc, some women will think that you side track.

[twinresist2]

Before marriage, whenever i need, sex is on the menu ..
After having kids, sex went down significantly..
Took on regional job & 50% overseas. Absence make the heart fonder. She gives in when Im back in town.
During covid, more interaction and around to support the family thus things warm up. Took the opportunity to shower more care n concern with gifts during special occasion. Sex is more passionate now and frequency is once in a week :D

Once women have children, their nurturing instinct kick in and they move on to a new state while us men remains the same.
If your wife need to constantly oversee your kids in their lives, i dont think she will able to focus on you.
The key is to create opportunity for your wife to detach herself from the kids. Thats the window for you to warm her up and focus on you.

[Continental]

got caught with FL, or go Siam tiu mabe understand that she get angry. but watching porn?? whats wrong with watching porn? lol
Some women are pure, innocent and clean. Sex to them is dirty and a taboo. So porn is also not allowed. They expect you to be a monk or a priest living a life of celibacy. Totally no sex at all

[cavemao]

Some women are pure, innocent and clean. Sex to them is dirty and a taboo. So porn is also not allowed. They expect you to be a monk or a priest living a life of celibacy. Totally no sex at all

for my wife that is her expectation, siao one lol.....

sua lah i already accept that i'll live like a dog for the rest of my days, just eat scraps and then go out and eat better stuff lol

[skihon]

for my wife that is her expectation, siao one lol.....

sua lah i already accept that i'll live like a dog for the rest of my days, just eat scraps and then go out and eat better stuff lol

I understand how you feel

[Assman69]

for my wife that is her expectation, siao one lol.....

sua lah i already accept that i'll live like a dog for the rest of my days, just eat scraps and then go out and eat better stuff lol

:eek: wah bro shag :(

[keano]

for my wife that is her expectation, siao one lol.....

sua lah i already accept that i'll live like a dog for the rest of my days, just eat scraps and then go out and eat better stuff lol

Mind sharing what's ur wife expectations and how old are ur kids?

[stoicism]

got caught with FL, or go Siam tiu mabe understand that she get angry. but watching porn?? whats wrong with watching porn? lol

Many women view porn as mental cheating.
Like even when fapping not supposed to think of other women.

[Xgenre]

FL not caught red handed, but she saw the FL contacts and some of the chat history luckily i clear chat regularly, all she saw was "today you free? come find me for massage!" those type of messages......

Such FL/ML need to educate. Can sabo many marriages. Last time ML tell me they will not even say hi if they see their customers on the streets.. just in case their customer is with his family.

[afterburn]

Once women have children, their nurturing instinct kick in and they move on to a new state while us men remains the same.
If your wife need to constantly oversee your kids in their lives, i dont think she will able to focus on you.
The key is to create opportunity for your wife to detach herself from the kids. Thats the window for you to warm her up and focus on you.

This is true. We guys may not realize it but spouse takes care almost all aspect of the kids even the small details and even when the kids become teens. Arrange calendars, plan, organize. And some moms do this while having full time job.

How much time left for anything else?

[dunkendon]

my uncle, a retiree guy, stays at home boring and has no gandchild yet, currently only surf sugarbook and facebook to relieve boredom

[dunkendon]

when getting old, hard to have the urge to do as compared to young people

[dunkendon]

:eek: wah bro shag :(

haha easy easy life

[dunkendon]

12 years , before have kids still quite regularly. After 2 kids getting lesser. Now once a week or once every 2 weeks :(

many couple like this, after have kid even worse, when have sex scared kids come in

[dunkendon]

everyone hope to have playful sex but not everyone is satisfied with the result

[Zemcome]

everyone hope to have playful sex but not everyone is satisfied with the result

Different level of playfulness :D

[twinresist2]

This is true. We guys may not realize it but spouse takes care almost all aspect of the kids even the small details and even when the kids become teens. Arrange calendars, plan, organize. And some moms do this while having full time job.

How much time left for anything else?

Yes bro. Recognising this is the first step. I have friends who failed to realise things have change because they are stuck in their own point of view.
Once that perception is corrected and they step in to help either by doing it themselves or hiring help, the relationship with the wife became better.
Similarly for men, if we are too stress out at work, our sex drive may decline too.

[georgie1994]

long time married, exciting not there, that y i mingle in sugarbook.com, search for another spike of fire

[georgie1994]

Different level of playfulness :D

perhaps some weird weird fun

[georgie1994]

when getting old, hard to have the urge to do as compared to young people

need to see some sexy girl photo in porntube or sugarbook, make your dick aroused and your sponse wet first, then easy to fuck

[georgie1994]

everyone hope to have playful sex but not everyone is satisfied with the result

how was your expectation? too high?

[georgie1994]

it's really challenge to maintain the nice sex drive , after such a long marriage .

yes in chinese we have 7 years itchy

[georgie1994]

if ts feels boring, need to refer to what youngster do then can refer

[BushTracker]

long time married, exciting not there, that y i mingle in sugarbook.com, search for another spike of fire

Usually on Youtube, they will annouce when Ad is playing. You should too.
:D:D

[sexcision]

Usually on Youtube, they will annouce when Ad is playing. You should too.
:D:D

They are too cheap to pay for advertising. In fact their advertising have reverse effects.

[zeusfist]

got caught with FL, or go Siam tiu mabe understand that she get angry. but watching porn?? whats wrong with watching porn? lol

mine used to complain about porn. told her, I have needs. when u say no, because i respect you, i don't force myself on you. instead i watch porn and get off. usually the 2 respond she gives, either turn a blind eye or that night she initiate a session

[hownow]

before marriage no entry. she wanna keep till married. after married realise she low drive. once a month if lucky. after 1st kid, maybe twice a year, less than 4 sch holidays per year. after 2nd kid, 3 years plus never enter.

married over 10 years, entered less than 10 times. last time with ex 1 month also more than 10 times...

[Xgenre]

married over 10 years, entered less than 10 times. last time with ex 1 month also more than 10 times...

She is very fertile. Less than 10 times can be a mother of 2.

I have friends who are trying for children. Keep banging away for years with no end results. Have to see TCM, Gynae etc and still no results

[unsung80]

Just eat out will do, is the trend nowadays. No such thing as L O Y A L T Y

[Rickey]

She is very fertile. Less than 10 times can be a mother of 2.

I have friends who are trying for children. Keep banging away for years with no end results. Have to see TCM, Gynae etc and still no results
Yes, agree with bro Xgenre....majority of wives r fertile :) n they will get pregnant v. fast with just the 1st few rounds of raw sex with their husbands if newly wed...or the moment they let their husbands bang them raw in bed when both r v horny for those already married for yrs who hv 1 or 2 kids already...:):o;)

On the contrary there r a few who tried as hard as they can for many yrs but still can't succeed n need the help of IVF etc, etc...sympathize with them :(

[junmin95]

11 years, first 3-4 years waas pretty good sex life, but baby come out only, sex life drop by 80%, then 2 years ago, tio caught by wife. remaining 20% also gone. now is live like a dog and zero sex.... just nice also, last 18 months or so, due to covid 19, sex industry is dead also (or at least half dead, and the remaining alive ones chop carrot or too dangerous to go), can only depend on the ever reliable mr left hand

she caught you doing what? PCC? piak fl? piak xiao 3?

i thought usually wife if caught hubby do piak outside sure divorce?

[junmin95]

She is very fertile. Less than 10 times can be a mother of 2.

I have friends who are trying for children. Keep banging away for years with no end results. Have to see TCM, Gynae etc and still no results

I know a guy who haven't married time piak countless girls and none got pregnant but he piak his wife on wedding night straight got kids. Somemore that couple don't want kids so he told me they already abort 3 times liao. :eek:

[bighead111]

She is very fertile. Less than 10 times can be a mother of 2.

I have friends who are trying for children. Keep banging away for years with no end results. Have to see TCM, Gynae etc and still no results

After birth of 1st child, still have sex with cd on.
Then we decide to have 2nd child so the first time didn't wear cd and raw and cip, my wife got pregnant.

I am thinking so fast, damn! Means no more sex for duration of pregnancy as per 1st child.

But 2nd child , maybe wife less stressful, so managed to have lots of raw sex (some bjs in between too) with her during 2nd and 3rd term which is wonderful until 2nd child come out, it went down hill LOL.

[Rickey]

After birth of 1st child, still have sex with cd on.
Then we decide to have 2nd child so the first time didn't wear cd and raw and cip, my wife got pregnant.

I am thinking so fast, damn! Means no more sex for duration of pregnancy as per 1st child.

But 2nd child , maybe wife less stressful, so managed to have lots of raw sex (some bjs in between too) with her during 2nd and 3rd term which is wonderful until 2nd child come out, it went down hill LOL.
That's why must treasure those few horny wives who still don't hv enough sex with their husbands even after 1st, 2nd, 3rd child n still want to continue to hv more :);):o

[cavemao]

she caught you doing what? PCC? piak fl? piak xiao 3?

i thought usually wife if caught hubby do piak outside sure divorce?

PCC caught before, thankfully never catch me piak FL or piak xiao 3, but after checking my phone chat history, she just piece two and two together and concluded i surely got go out and play although i just simply reject cos no hard evidence.... anyway these 2 years of covid pandemic has indeed help to clean up my reputation slightly lol due to never even go out and chiong or play (scared of tio raid and also scared tio covid)

[Xgenre]

On the contrary there r a few who tried as hard as they can for many yrs but still can't succeed n need the help of IVF etc, etc...sympathize with them :(

Ya. Sad for such couples. I learn the hard way. Never ask a couple when they will have their baby or never ask young parents when they will have their 2nd child.

Sometimes it trigger sad memories like a miscarriage and then there you are.. standing like an idiot not knowing what to say after triggering their sad memories. My guy friend told me he has to have an operation on his penis to clear some blockage. Hear already my cock also scared. :rolleyes:

but he piak his wife on wedding night straight got kids.

Face saving measure lah. Who will say the wife is pregnant before wedding night? Plus few say the wife is pregnant in the first or second week after wedding night.. must purposely say pregnant on wedding night itself. Having attended many wedding dinners, not so common for guys to make love on wedding night. Most guys I know are so drunk they are holding the toilet bowl to sleep. :p

until 2nd child come out, it went down hill LOL.

I noticed for many ladies, after the 1st child, half can get back figure. After 2nd child, I think only 10% can get back pre-pregnancy figure. Should encourage her to pick up yoga. Helps her destress in a class full of other ladies. Plus yoga ladies tend to wear yoga clothes. Those tight tight type. She already will do self comparison and be motivated to slim down and look good.

You try to build up her self-confidence with praises lah. Women like to be re-assured and praised regardless of age. Sometimes I think ladies seemed to be born with a self-confidence deficiency. If dunno what to say, just stare at her body. She will know you are admiring her.

[SammyLee88]

boring try to log in sugarbook.live, will chit chat and give you some tips on sex

[SammyLee88]

After birth of 1st child, still have sex with cd on.
Then we decide to have 2nd child so the first time didn't wear cd and raw and cip, my wife got pregnant.

I am thinking so fast, damn! Means no more sex for duration of pregnancy as per 1st child.

But 2nd child , maybe wife less stressful, so managed to have lots of raw sex (some bjs in between too) with her during 2nd and 3rd term which is wonderful until 2nd child come out, it went down hill LOL.

not wear condom really has a high risk

[SammyLee88]

Just eat out will do, is the trend nowadays. No such thing as L O Y A L T Y

married and divorced, trend nowadays

[SammyLee88]

when there is age, getting older, need some time to get arousal perhaps some tools

[tabtab]

She is very fertile. Less than 10 times can be a mother of 2.

I have friends who are trying for children. Keep banging away for years with no end results. Have to see TCM, Gynae etc and still no results

Must give credit to bro hownow’s sperm also lah… all power swimmers! Haha.

[georgie1994]

if feel boring, can go chat sugarbook.live, many people online chatting, make a group of friends

[georgie1994]

Must give credit to bro hownow’s sperm also lah… all power swimmers! Haha.

quality sperm can fertilise an egg

[georgie1994]

viewing porn same effect as in sugarbook, porn is all clothes out while sb is sexy lingeries on

[georgie1994]

That's why must treasure those few horny wives who still don't hv enough sex with their husbands even after 1st, 2nd, 3rd child n still want to continue to hv more :);):o

the horny wives your friend's wife too?

[bighead111]

I noticed for many ladies, after the 1st child, half can get back figure. After 2nd child, I think only 10% can get back pre-pregnancy figure. Should encourage her to pick up yoga. Helps her destress in a class full of other ladies. Plus yoga ladies tend to wear yoga clothes. Those tight tight type. She already will do self comparison and be motivated to slim down and look good.

You try to build up her self-confidence with praises lah. Women like to be re-assured and praised regardless of age. Sometimes I think ladies seemed to be born with a self-confidence deficiency. If dunno what to say, just stare at her body. She will know you are admiring her.

You sounds like an experienced guy. Thanks for the advice.

I did notice recently weeks she slowly start to take supplement etc to slim down. Just the other day I asked for sex and surprised she agreed. Maybe what you say is true, more open as she views her body differently. Best part, her boobs didn't slim down but her waist slim down.

[Rickey]

the horny wives your friend's wife too?
Nope, they r not...just know them from bros who write stories abt their notti wives here ;):o

[Xgenre]

I did notice recently weeks she slowly start to take supplement etc to slim down. Just the other day I asked for sex and surprised she agreed. Maybe what you say is true, more open as she views her body differently. Best part, her boobs didn't slim down but her waist slim down.

Once she notices that you are beginning to notice her more, the battle is halfway won. The boost to her ego/self esteem is there. Keep complimenting her though. That is your lifelong mission really. Sweet talk.Buy her a weighing machine and be part of her weight loss process. Stand by her while she measures her weight. The daily numbers will either be up or down right? So have a set of nice responses prepared in your mind regardless of result.

Weighing machine needs accuracy right? Most accurate method is to be totally naked ah. So maybe from weighing in the room can proceed to the bed soon after. Join in the weight measurement and make it a couple event.

If the weight goes up, say something like (maybe water retention due to menstrual cycle, your boobs look bigger maybe that's why. If the weight goes down, weighing machine spoil lah!). If weight goes down, no need to teach right..? You know what sweet things to say right?

Happy wife, happy family life, happy sex life...hopefully. Last time people say Men give love to get sex while woman give sex to get love. That saying is for single people or old ladies here to look for FB/FWB lah. :D For married people, the saying should be Married Men give love hoping to get sex while Married women must receive love then consider if they want to give sex.

Another idea is to have paktor nights. Whether it is a fixed day weekly or once in a while is up to you but she will really appreciate the effort. Makes her feel special too. Ladies sure ask you why suddenly have paktor nights. You can reply must continue to find the romance (some ladies will think you have guilty conscience) or you can say you want to set a good example to the children so that they will grow up with this paktor night idea and be loving spouses like us in future (sure score points when you bring in the children I feel). I think slowly slowly sexlife will improve when there is more romance in the marriage.

If your wife ever ask you if you learn these ideas from Xgenre... then paiseh ah, in my defence I didn't know then that she was your wife. :D:D:D

[zeusfist]

Once she notices that you are beginning to notice her more, the battle is halfway won. The boost to her ego/self esteem is there. Keep complimenting her though. That is your lifelong mission really. Sweet talk.Buy her a weighing machine and be part of her weight loss process. Stand by her while she measures her weight. The daily numbers will either be up or down right? So have a set of nice responses prepared in your mind regardless of result.

Weighing machine needs accuracy right? Most accurate method is to be totally naked ah. So maybe from weighing in the room can proceed to the bed soon after. Join in the weight measurement and make it a couple event.

If the weight goes up, say something like (maybe water retention due to menstrual cycle, your boobs look bigger maybe that's why. If the weight goes down, weighing machine spoil lah!). If weight goes down, no need to teach right..? You know what sweet things to say right?

Happy wife, happy family life, happy sex life...hopefully. Last time people say Men give love to get sex while woman give sex to get love. That saying is for single people or old ladies here to look for FB/FWB lah. :D For married people, the saying should be Married Men give love hoping to get sex while Married women must receive love then consider if they want to give sex.

Another idea is to have paktor nights. Whether it is a fixed day weekly or once in a while is up to you but she will really appreciate the effort. Makes her feel special too. Ladies sure ask you why suddenly have paktor nights. You can reply must continue to find the romance (some ladies will think you have guilty conscience) or you can say you want to set a good example to the children so that they will grow up with this paktor night idea and be loving spouses like us in future (sure score points when you bring in the children I feel). I think slowly slowly sexlife will improve when there is more romance in the marriage.

If your wife ever ask you if you learn these ideas from Xgenre... then paiseh ah, in my defence I didn't know then that she was your wife. :D:D:D

THis is gold.

[bighead111]

Once she notices that you are beginning to notice her more, the battle is halfway won. The boost to her ego/self esteem is there. Keep complimenting her though. That is your lifelong mission really. Sweet talk.Buy her a weighing machine and be part of her weight loss process. Stand by her while she measures her weight. The daily numbers will either be up or down right? So have a set of nice responses prepared in your mind regardless of result.

Weighing machine needs accuracy right? Most accurate method is to be totally naked ah. So maybe from weighing in the room can proceed to the bed soon after. Join in the weight measurement and make it a couple event.

If the weight goes up, say something like (maybe water retention due to menstrual cycle, your boobs look bigger maybe that's why. If the weight goes down, weighing machine spoil lah!). If weight goes down, no need to teach right..? You know what sweet things to say right?

Happy wife, happy family life, happy sex life...hopefully. Last time people say Men give love to get sex while woman give sex to get love. That saying is for single people or old ladies here to look for FB/FWB lah. :D For married people, the saying should be Married Men give love hoping to get sex while Married women must receive love then consider if they want to give sex.

Another idea is to have paktor nights. Whether it is a fixed day weekly or once in a while is up to you but she will really appreciate the effort. Makes her feel special too. Ladies sure ask you why suddenly have paktor nights. You can reply must continue to find the romance (some ladies will think you have guilty conscience) or you can say you want to set a good example to the children so that they will grow up with this paktor night idea and be loving spouses like us in future (sure score points when you bring in the children I feel). I think slowly slowly sexlife will improve when there is more romance in the marriage.

If your wife ever ask you if you learn these ideas from Xgenre... then paiseh ah, in my defence I didn't know then that she was your wife. :D:D:D

Good stuff !!!!

[georgie1994]

is normal that human love fresh and beautiful things
can go sugarbook.live tackle tackle a bit so not that boring

[georgie1994]

Nope, they r not...just know them from bros who write stories abt their notti wives here ;):o

yes here many horny wife and girlfriend, the partner

[georgie1994]

Different level of playfulness :D

do you know or experienced how many levels?

[georgie1994]

Just eat out will do, is the trend nowadays. No such thing as L O Y A L T Y

yes but need to sek do when eating out, let it clean