Is she the RIGHT one for me??

[jinrenhe]

Been with my gf for nearly 6 months ... basically, she should be the ideal gf of any guy's dream.
She is very commited to me. Whenever she finishes work earlier than me, she would travel over to wait near my workplc for me.
Every weekend, she would be waiting to spend the entire day with me.
When i was busy preparing for my exams earlier on, she would even drive over my plc to buy me supper.
And despite having quite a number of guys (both colleagues as well as some guy customers) trying to ask her out, she would always turn them down flat.
She even told me she's quite ready to settle down with me now.

She should be the ideal gf, the person i've been searching for so long...

However, strangely, unlike my previous gfs, i jus dun feel the same intense feeling for her.

And what's making me rely losing feelings for her is how she's extremely sticky and emotional. For example, when i wanted to spend one sat nite with my guy frens, she would literally break down crying and lamenting how sad her life is...
Basically she can't spend a single day without me accompanying her. When we jus started, she used to call me like every hour.

Even thou we have had many quarrels and talks , we jus can't seem to settle our differences.
She is someone who needs attention every moment whilst I'm someone who values some private time for myself.

What should i do??

[fishingman]

Been with my gf for nearly 6 months ... basically, she should be the ideal gf of any guy's dream.
She is very commited to me. Whenever she finishes work earlier than me, she would travel over to wait near my workplc for me.
Every weekend, she would be waiting to spend the entire day with me.
When i was busy preparing for my exams earlier on, she would even drive over my plc to buy me supper.
And despite having quite a number of guys (both colleagues as well as some guy customers) trying to ask her out, she would always turn them down flat.
She even told me she's quite ready to settle down with me now.

She should be the ideal gf, the person i've been searching for so long...

However, strangely, unlike my previous gfs, i jus dun feel the same intense feeling for her.

And what's making me rely losing feelings for her is how she's extremely sticky and emotional. For example, when i wanted to spend one sat nite with my guy frens, she would literally break down crying and lamenting how sad her life is...
Basically she can't spend a single day without me accompanying her. When we jus started, she used to call me like every hour.

Even thou we have had many quarrels and talks , we jus can't seem to settle our differences.
She is someone who needs attention every moment whilst I'm someone who values some private time for myself.

What should i do??

Wow, bro, we're in exact same suituation... But I just broke up with her a few weeks ago. I can't stand the part where she expects me to devote all my free time to her even though she's devoting every single minute to me....

I tried persuading her to spend more time with her friends, but plan failed...

[annoy-you-must]

If you still want to be with her, I guess you'll really need to talk to her about what you think first, if you haven't, that is.

Ultimately, I guess nobody can tell you whether or not a girl is the right one for you. It's entirely up to you, whether or not you have feelings for the girl, whether or not you feel comfortable with her, whether or not you even want to stay with her in the first place.

If your gf's attitude remains unchange even after repeatedly talking to her, then I guess you do need to seriously consider if being with her is worth the inconvinience she is bringing to your life.

If the answer is no, then just do what you know you have to do.

[jinrenhe]

She's a veri emotionally unstable person - every small incident (e.g. like if i'm not free that day to meet her for dinner) can cause her to be terribly upset and cry.

I also need time to concentrate other other areas of my life , example my career since i jus started out, but this is somethk she simply can't understand.

Jus some example of our differences: When i told her i needed to spend some time with my family or to meet my own friends, she would say jus take her along wherever i go.
When i say i'm not feeling well and needed to stay at home to rest, she would insist on coming over to take care of me (i dun need any care, i jus need my sleep!!)

I know she meant well... but i'm rely not looking forward to the prospect of seeing her every single waking hour of my life...I've never felt so stressed out by a relationship like this.

[~|@|~]

And what's making me rely losing feelings for her is how she's extremely sticky and emotional. For example, when i wanted to spend one sat nite with my guy frens, she would literally break down crying and lamenting how sad her life is...
...
What should i do??

sometimes you got to be cruel to be kind so just explain to her that you need your personal time and if she wants a future with you, she has to accept it. its best to be firm from the start to avoid problems in the long term. otherwise, i doubt you will be happy if you stick with her. but i could be wrong. all the best. cheers! ;)

[longwinter]

l tink TS does not really love her that much bah, tis is how l tink la. But the answer lies in urself. ;)

And with the gal being so sticky and emotional, u feel that u had no room for privacy and feel very tight, right?

Seriously l will ask TS to tink again over tis r/s again. if u are not feeling happy in a r/s, there is really sumtinz wrong.

[darkafac]

communication is the key to every relationship.. talk to her and tell her how u feel... good luck bro :D

[pepsilight]

Broke up with one such gal before. No matter how chio or good she is, there will cum a point in time when U need some breathing space and she not willing to give. Trust me, it is very frustrating to have such a partner. Sometimes, we just need a break from each other not because we dun like somebody but more like a little space would make you appreciate her more.

Bro, I understand how u feel and unless yr the super sticky type too, let her go..

[XboxSG]

In any relationship, certain understanding got to be there for it to work. I believed since she's willing to do lots of things for you, she'll have the same expectation from you.

[bradpitt968]

From what you said .... I supposed you are early to mid 20s.

I must say that if you are the kind that has little or no social life, she would be great for you.

But if you are the kind that has alot of friends outside, then it may be tough.

You didn't tell us anything about the sex part tho ... *grin*

[GrieGzEters]

Its great that she is willing to enjoy wat u are doing. I believe not all gers are willing to enjoy or rather make the effort to hang out with their bfs and his friends in what they do.

Unless you are telling me that you cheong FLs etc etc together with ur buddies.. than that a no no for her to tag along.. :D

U should still tell her that everyone need their personal time and space, minus sleeping time... from wat i read.. she a wife material.. not a gf material.

I wouldm't mind a gf like her actually, but that would mean I will have to lie alot to get my personal space and time which is not very nice..

[GrieGzEters]

She's a veri emotionally unstable person - every small incident (e.g. like if i'm not free that day to meet her for dinner) can cause her to be terribly upset and cry.

I also need time to concentrate other other areas of my life , example my career since i jus started out, but this is somethk she simply can't understand.

Jus some example of our differences: When i told her i needed to spend some time with my family or to meet my own friends, she would say jus take her along wherever i go.
When i say i'm not feeling well and needed to stay at home to rest, she would insist on coming over to take care of me (i dun need any care, i jus need my sleep!!)

I know she meant well... but i'm rely not looking forward to the prospect of seeing her every single waking hour of my life...I've never felt so stressed out by a relationship like this.

She just need more time to understand la.. so there no such thing call perfect gf at all.. positive on 1 side.. negative on another

[Konsortium]

Maybe you both need more time to really understand each other.

[aakumu]

Hi Bros,
This is different from the past few posting, I hope you all do not mind.
I went to Jakarta for a sex tour and the guide brought us to KTV, night clubs, spas and brothels.
Getting to the point, at the KTV's we had a PRC girls, I took for myself.
She had big breast, which was nice.
But what got to me was that she call me up and told me that she want to meet up with me and so on and on......
I told her I not a rich person, but she still want to meet up with me.
I said how much I have to pay her to have dinner with me, she said nothing.
My question is could a KTV's girls moreover a PRC KTV's girls who is working overseas could have feelings for little old me or is it a trick to get my money.
My humble two cents.

[dap26]

Last time used to have this type of sticky gf...Have to make many lies in order to carry on wif the relationship...Nt much freedom...In the end break up cos cannot tahan anymore...Some of us may accept sticky gf but some might nt..

[Freman]

Hi Bros,
This is different from the past few posting, I hope you all do not mind.
I went to Jakarta for a sex tour and the guide brought us to KTV, night clubs, spas and brothels.
Getting to the point, at the KTV's we had a PRC girls, I took for myself.
She had big breast, which was nice.
But what got to me was that she call me up and told me that she want to meet up with me and so on and on......
I told her I not a rich person, but she still want to meet up with me.
I said how much I have to pay her to have dinner with me, she said nothing.
My question is could a KTV's girls moreover a PRC KTV's girls who is working overseas could have feelings for little old me or is it a trick to get my money.
My humble two cents.

hi,

confirm KC trap lah brother....unless you really quite good looking... I think in KTV... how much opportunity for you to show your 'caring side' ?

sorry to be rude... wake up wake up !!!!

[Fuckster]

Some of us may accept sticky gf but some might nt..

I am willing to accept but so far even a non sticky one also bo :(

[SDMM]

GF dont care about you and dont spend time with you complain
The opposite also complain
If have to choose between the two,m I go with the sticky one
Better to have her love me more than the other way around

[cheongsan]

Hi Bros,
This is different from the past few posting, I hope you all do not mind.
I went to Jakarta for a sex tour and the guide brought us to KTV, night clubs, spas and brothels.
Getting to the point, at the KTV's we had a PRC girls, I took for myself.
She had big breast, which was nice.
But what got to me was that she call me up and told me that she want to meet up with me and so on and on......
I told her I not a rich person, but she still want to meet up with me.
I said how much I have to pay her to have dinner with me, she said nothing.
My question is could a KTV's girls moreover a PRC KTV's girls who is working overseas could have feelings for little old me or is it a trick to get my money.
My humble two cents.

Of course she is going only for your money.

[cheongsan]

Been with my gf for nearly 6 months ... basically, she should be the ideal gf of any guy's dream.
She is very commited to me. Whenever she finishes work earlier than me, she would travel over to wait near my workplc for me.
Every weekend, she would be waiting to spend the entire day with me.
When i was busy preparing for my exams earlier on, she would even drive over my plc to buy me supper.
And despite having quite a number of guys (both colleagues as well as some guy customers) trying to ask her out, she would always turn them down flat.
She even told me she's quite ready to settle down with me now.

She should be the ideal gf, the person i've been searching for so long...

However, strangely, unlike my previous gfs, i jus dun feel the same intense feeling for her.

And what's making me rely losing feelings for her is how she's extremely sticky and emotional. For example, when i wanted to spend one sat nite with my guy frens, she would literally break down crying and lamenting how sad her life is...
Basically she can't spend a single day without me accompanying her. When we jus started, she used to call me like every hour.

Even thou we have had many quarrels and talks , we jus can't seem to settle our differences.
She is someone who needs attention every moment whilst I'm someone who values some private time for myself.

What should i do??

I have a different opinion from most of you here. I think you are one hell of a lucky guy to have such a devoted and faithful girlfriend. Treasure her and don't make her feel that she is encroaching too much into your private space because her philosophy of love is somewhat different from yours. But handle your "frustration" very carefully so that you don't hurt her.

But it is not fair to only formulate my opinion from your side of the story. Both of your background such as age, educational background, etc will help me to make a more accurate assessment of the relationship.

[fuse35]

GF dont care about you and dont spend time with you complain
The opposite also complain
If have to choose between the two,m I go with the sticky one
Better to have her love me more than the other way around

I like wat you say bro:p but now i rather not to have any....:cool:

[elth]

hmm... this is how i felt

when a girl is sticky and faithful to a guy, the guy felt this kind of girl is easy to get so they take it for granted and will not treasure the girl more
BUT when a girl play hard to get and like to spend time with her own friends, the guy will put more effort and attention on the girl.
I think everyone situation is different but for me i will love the girl to be sticky and faithful to me. this just my personal view i know everyone think different.

Cheers

[ekemono]

Not to be offensive to TS, but i feel your gf is lacking self confidence, and she feels very insecure. Its not the problem with you, its just her.
While you may have pamper and good time with her now, but once you settle down with her there it will be a bigger ball game and more complicated. She may not be up to the task.
Paiseh I have to say them out. There's not much you can do except to wait for her to grow up spiritually and mentally.

[vein1234]

I guess 6 months might be still in honeymoon period where gf might think that you are her everything. That wat i experience when i was with my gf but i do understand that personal time and space is important else you go nuts without any personal time. My advice is you try to explain to her that you too need some private moment and i believe as time goes by she might not be so sticky toward you and try to hang up with her friend more often instead. Trust me a year or so she cannot even bother to call you:D:D:D
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[smellycat]

in general, if you feel your gf is too sticky its a clue that both of you have different expectations. sorry to say this but speaking from my personal experience you need to evaluate the situation seriously before its too late to turn back :o

[asdfghjkl]

happened to me before also.. hard to solve ler.. :o

[code01]

Hi TS my situation is also same as yours!!! Sometimes i also cannot take it.. we same boat man... i can totally understand hw u feel my i tried breaking off before.. she wanted to commti sucide lor.. i damn scared... h k i think i tio tiao liao :(

[easybaby]

What you need to do is to assure her. She's feeling insecured. Communication is the key. Hmm.. how do i explain this

Personal space is something that guys need every now and then in a relationship. I guess you may have (unknowingly to yourself) treated her coldly the last time you seeked out your personal space. From your point of view you're just rediscovering the things that you used to enjoy (like hanging out with your friends or so) but she may take it personally, because from her point of view, if she starts treating you coldly, there's a high chance that you've done something that upset her. She may misinterpret that she has done something wrong... and afraid to lose you so she reacts by being even more sticky to you, wanting to find out what went wrong, wanting to reconcil. So... there's sort of a difference in perception.

I guess the lacking in sense of security is because she feels that she's putting a lot of effort in this relationship but she doesnt see as much of devotion from you. Maybe you are as committed as her but she doesnt feel it that way. The problem is that we may gauge how much someone loves us by using our own standards: like how much we can/will do when we love someone. This is very wrong... because everyone is different and so the way they express their love. She may be using her own standards to gauge how much you love her, so when you're not up to her "expectation", she feels unloved, and so... insecurity.

What you need to do is to sit down and talk it out nicely with her. You have to assure your love for her. You must let her understand that you need your personal space (and it's not because you're angry or unsatisfied with her that you're asking her to "leave you alone"). It takes time... I dont recommend that you do it the cruel way (as in totally ignore her or scold her off) because she'd be more hurt this way.

Personally, I think she's a nice girl and you should treasure her. I guess you'd rather have a girl who stays faithful to you than a girl who flirts around ba?

[cluboxed]

Hi TS I dun think it's a lack of self-confidence on her part, but rather she deems you as the center of attention in her life.
I believe you should treasure her because if ever she starts to change her behaviour, probably that will be the time you start to ponder whether and how much she love and care about you.
But needless to say, it is still a very delicate situation and you should assess it carefully.
All said and done, good luck to you!

[aakumu]

hi,

confirm KC trap lah brother....unless you really quite good looking... I think in KTV... how much opportunity for you to show your 'caring side' ?

sorry to be rude... wake up wake up !!!!

Hi Bro,
Thanks for the advice, but I am a season player, that is why it send chill down my when a PRC girl do not money up front.
The one that ask for money is easier to see through. But one that wanted to stay with you without asking for anything is going to be hard to break off.
I do not consider myself good looking, but had quite a few ladies pinch my butt in night clubs and bars; does that count?
Because I am not new to this, it came as a shock when I saw this girl acting like clinging and soft toward me.
Please help me, I do not want to hurt the girl, but at the same time I do not want to caught up like this.
My humble two cents.

[easybaby]

Hi Bros,
This is different from the past few posting, I hope you all do not mind.
I went to Jakarta for a sex tour and the guide brought us to KTV, night clubs, spas and brothels.
Getting to the point, at the KTV's we had a PRC girls, I took for myself.
She had big breast, which was nice.
But what got to me was that she call me up and told me that she want to meet up with me and so on and on......
I told her I not a rich person, but she still want to meet up with me.
I said how much I have to pay her to have dinner with me, she said nothing.
My question is could a KTV's girls moreover a PRC KTV's girls who is working overseas could have feelings for little old me or is it a trick to get my money.
My humble two cents.

I'm sorry to say this.. but if it's that easy for her to fall in love with you, then it'll probably be easy as well for her to fall in love with any guy. When you start feeling emotionally attached to her, you might end up giving her your money willingly. :(

[Freman]

Hi Bro,
Thanks for the advice, but I am a season player, that is why it send chill down my when a PRC girl do not money up front.
The one that ask for money is easier to see through. But one that wanted to stay with you without asking for anything is going to be hard to break off.
I do not consider myself good looking, but had quite a few ladies pinch my butt in night clubs and bars; does that count?
Because I am not new to this, it came as a shock when I saw this girl acting like clinging and soft toward me.
Please help me, I do not want to hurt the girl, but at the same time I do not want to caught up like this.
My humble two cents.

hi bro,

from what we see, the 'seasoned players' will also fall for it... and when they fail, it's usually the very painful type.

help you... very simple.... just portray that you are very poor type..... even got problem coming out and pay for simple dates.... sooner or later... she will auto disappear for other bigger fish...

as they say, put long line, is to hook big fish..... the smart ones, will give you free a few times.... then, will start coming up with story..... mother sick, hospital, brother kena caught by police, need to bride... all sorts...

[天龙八步]

In the beginning, they dont need money ... they still can tahan not asking. But once you are more into the relationship then, you sure have to gif liao ... else how, see her starve to death .... money is everything to them ultimately.

[slyer]

threadstarter from my point of view i find u very lucky to have such a devoted gf. maybe its becos my ex gf is not that devoted to me and very independent girl which make me feel she dun really love me as much as i loved her. tat's y due to the difference i n her broke up

if my gf is sticky to me i think the r/s will last long tat's for me. its better to be loved than to love someone more

but then if gf too sticky ur personal space n time will be like disappear. it all depends on ur personality n preference. if u are one who likes to spend time alone every wk which i do, then perhaps too sticky gf may nt be gd for the r/s.

if u have told ur gf lots of times ur feelings n she still insist on her actions then perhaps the difference betw u n her is too great n r/s like this may nt last long.

bro if i were u i will be evry touched if my gf buy breakfast for me n deliver to my house on sun morning.. come to my house to accompany me when i'm sick or studyin for exams etc.. sad to say my ex gf is not like this at all.

find one day lets meet up n u can share with me abt ur stuff :D all the best

[ddog]

Not all perfect gals would be the type the guy would like. I personally luv those sticky type, because I luv to dote gals.
But if there's a doubt in you, then it's not a good sign. If she's not your type, then don't make her life miserable. There's a match for her or you somewhere. I have some friends who leave their gf's because they're just too clingy. It's ok to be yourself, but if she doesn't make your heart flutter and longing, then it's better to let her go, bro.

[honybro]

Hi bro this is my advise to u...u only been with the gal for a short time..maybe is the honeymoon period or ending soon..so if u in 2 minds..time will help u to find out..there will always be a solution for most things..so bro give yrself a time frame to see if u both work out..then decide that the best for both of u..been through that buddy..been wif my gal for 6 yrs..she still sticky smtime..but i use to it.. cheer man :)

[sammyboyfor]

Hi bro this is my advise to u...

Should be "..this is my ADVICE to you...".

"Advise" is a verb.

[dollarnsense]

Bro,

maybe u tired of her liao..

[为情所困]

爱人或被爱都是痛苦的, 两者之间, 我会选择被爱。 ;)

[Thom07]

I dont understand. Sorry but to be blunt. Why would you want to be in a relationship which you are not happy and yet suffering?

[sleaguepunter]

So TS love her gf. if not, then dont bother to continue liao as both will be wasting their time. If TS really value his freedom more than the relationship, he shd just break off.

Within my bunch of friends, there one guy had this problem too. His gf, now wife, follow him whenever we had gathering. Most of the time we go dinner first b4 heading to more exotic establishments. Because of her sticking to him, many a times we had to change our plans and head to pubs instead. What more, we had to mind our behaviour too. Slowly, nobody invite him to gatherings anymore. Even now as we scale down on our "operations" and just drink coffee at neighbourhood coffeeshops, he is still not invited as most cannot tahan his wife presence.:o

[mmhunter]

Just noticed that you are based in Shanghai. If I were you, I will just move on. So many fishes there. Why stick to one??

If you are in Spore. den I suggest you talk to her. Took my wife a really long time to give me space but aft much communication, she gave me a little bit more space.

[Frankiestine]

I believed since she's willing to do lots of things for you, she'll have the same expectation from you.

expectation!! this is what's killing most relationship...and marriages:mad:

[Frankiestine]

My question is could a KTV's girls moreover a PRC KTV's girls who is working overseas could have feelings for little old me or is it a trick to get my money.
My humble two cents.

throw long line to hook big fish...:p

[Frankiestine]

I do not consider myself good looking, but had quite a few ladies pinch my butt in night clubs and bars; does that count?.

you may not have great looks but obviously you have a pair of buns of steel that ladies can't resist pinching....:p:p

[aduadu]

you may not have great looks but obviously you have a pair of buns of steel that ladies can't resist pinching....:p:p

Hi bro,
What should this old dog do?
Do not just want to walk away before testing out if she is out for my money. I like it when she is out for my money, makes the nego much3 easier.
My humble two cents.

[_AXL_]

Been with my gf for nearly 6 months ... basically, she should be the ideal gf of any guy's dream.

...........

Even thou we have had many quarrels and talks , we jus can't seem to settle our differences.
She is someone who needs attention every moment whilst I'm someone who values some private time for myself.

What should i do??

hi bro, long time no chat...

my 2 cents here...

1. the keyword is "SHOULD"... u r using "should" too much. ask yourself why. u r not only wasting your own time but her time as well. she got other men to traumatise, u know? either accept it or leave.

2. however, there is always a "compromise", meaning both wont get what they want in the end but it is a truce. communicate with her when she is calm and not crying her eyes out. tell her u need time on your own, just to breathe alone but assure her that u r not out trying to get lucky with other ladies. however, what she dont know wont hurt her, ya?;) but that would also mean that other than your own time, u have to commit all your other free time for her.

3. question for u - u really love her ah??? or just a free supper delivery girl with car and maybe good sex? i dont really buy it when u said u dont love her that much bcos of the fact that she is like a superglue, i think the reason is much more ingrained and something else. but only u would know.

4. does the girl have issues or what? she seemed a tad too emotional for a normal person! or is she a master manipulator to get what she wants??? either way, u r fucked!!! :( let's just hope that she is just loving u too much while u r just not as committed as her. u should talk to her to find out whether it was her past relationships that is causing her to behave thus or the fact that it is her behaviour that caused her past relationships to end.

hope u dont mind me being kaypoh and insensitive... cos i felt u need solutions rather than condolences. but i also know u do know what u need to do in the first place. keep your chin up, ya? :D

[Frankiestine]

Hi bro,
What should this old dog do?
Do not just want to walk away before testing out if she is out for my money. I like it when she is out for my money, makes the nego much3 easier.
My humble two cents.

honestly i am more afraid of those that do not ask for money and willing to provide you the sex with no obligation.....initially...cos obviously there is something they want more then this..maybe you can bed her a few rounds and see what she wants from there...if she starts mentioning about status etc then better bail out..

[nakamara]

It's more blessed to be love than to love :)



I'm in the same situation too bro, minus the crying part. But end of the day, I feel that my gf's action can justify my confident that she'll be there for me thru thick and thin in the future.

Although still quite hard to ask for nights out la... :p

[jinrenhe]

Hey, first of all, would rely like to express my heartfelt appreciation to all the bros who have taken the time and effort to give me advices...

Some bros have indeed raised some very valid points worth pondering...

JUs to add on to my story: One of the main reason pushing me to the brink of ending it is her incessant demand for me to be with her all the time. For example, we have to meet for dinner every single day of the week ... basically as long as i'm not working, every single hour of my time must like spend with her. And she simply does not allow me any opportunity to even take a breather... if i say i'm working OT, she will say she would wait for me no matter how late i end; if i say i'm going back to eat with my parents, she would insist on coming my plc; and if i say i'm meeting friends, even jus only guys, she would kick up a big fuss and be all melodrama ...

And I feel it's also rather unhealthy for 2 persons to be sticking to each other all the time like this...

[jinrenhe]

3. question for u - u really love her ah??? or just a free supper delivery girl with car and maybe good sex? i dont really buy it when u said u dont love her that much bcos of the fact that she is like a superglue, i think the reason is much more ingrained and something else. but only u would know.



Bro, u're right to point this out.. Probably the fundamental issue here is also how much do i rely love her.

I can't quantify my love for her, but as a comparison, I would admit the feeling is certaintly not as strong as i had for the gal of my dream , the one whom i briefly dated years ago, but still can't ever forget..

But her dominant personality is definitely making things worse..

I guess Life rely has its irony... after 4 years of loneliness, it was indeed my dream to find a devoted gf whom i can spend my days with. But when it rely happened (like now), my feelings is one of anguish instead of happiness...

[leader]

I can't quantify my love for her, but as a comparison, I would admit the feeling is certaintly not as strong as i had for the gal of my dream , the one whom i briefly dated years ago, but still can't ever forget...
The truth is out, I believe the only reason is that you cant forget your-ex.
Am I right to say that? ;)

[Xese]

Bro, u're right to point this out.. Probably the fundamental issue here is also how much do i rely love her.

I can't quantify my love for her, but as a comparison, I would admit the feeling is certaintly not as strong as i had for the gal of my dream , the one whom i briefly dated years ago, but still can't ever forget..

But her dominant personality is definitely making things worse..

I guess Life rely has its irony... after 4 years of loneliness, it was indeed my dream to find a devoted gf whom i can spend my days with. But when it rely happened (like now), my feelings is one of anguish instead of happiness...

Bro, not advicing you to break up with her. But she is simply tooo sticky. Remember, there are hundreds of millions of oysters out there.

[TheGreatOne]

yo TS, just to share my experience with such sticky girl.

I had an ex who is also the same as yours. Meet almost everyday and sad to say, there are also never a day which we didn't quarrel even over the slightest issue. However it usually get solved after round(s) of good old banging. Usually after the bang she would return to her lovey dovey self. But whatever it is, she always blow her top when I don't return straight home after sending her back or just simply meeting my kakis for a round of supper or kopi. She will call me 10mins after she reached home just to ask if I reached home. Imagine my friends always end up watching my phone war with her while I am the one actually asking them to accompany me.

Sticky and unreasonable, I heard. Yes it is and this freaky relationship last 1.5yrs. Some may ask how come can tahan so long, the key is GREAT SEX. She was that time 18yrs old, FIRM pointy natural C cupper, in my opinion pretty, and a fully trained (by me) sex machine. Shall not hijack this thread and elaborate further about our almost daily tryst.

But what I wanted to highlight is: Great sex do play an important part in a relationship. So TS, if you grade her sexual performace as Tip Top then maybe got to live with the NIL freedom... :o

[medicheng]

your situation sound totally opposite from me. I think is your feelings for her is still not that deep. You feel like a king, but you dun feel her like a queen.

[sinless]

TS... i feel u man... mine is also very emotional and will CRY over the slightest thing... hence... i felt that i cant communicate with her... i was thinking of changing my job (we're colleagues la... :p) and wanted to hear her opinion... she cried cos shes sad... i was :eek: and i stopped the conversation then... now... i am stuck wif my job which i am not happy with and with my girl whom i cannot talk major things to... OMG.

IS SHE THE RIGHT ONE FOR ME?

[926work]

Hi TS and all brothers suffering from the same situation,

My first gf was also a very sticky lady. I tried to accommodated her sticky pattern, but i realised I am not used to this "king" treatment. I had told her that sometimes we both need our own private moments and lifestyle. I also wanted her to have a mind of her own, to make decision for herself, rather than to ask me to make decision for her. After more than 1 years, I decided not to waste her time as I felt that I cannot live up to her expectation.

It was indeed very heartbroken to tell her that the relationship is over, but I really cannot imagine what will happen to both of us, if we really get married. So short pain is better than long pain. As some brothers pointed out, she need to mature and see things from a different perspective.

For those of you currently in this shoe, ask yourself this question:" Can you live WITHOUT her?" . If you think you cannot live without her, then she must the right one for you.

Please do not change the question to "Can you live with her?". Most people can, but why make yourself suffer for the next 30 to 50 years, living with someone you can live without now.



Cheers
darry

[aakumu]

honestly i am more afraid of those that do not ask for money and willing to provide you the sex with no obligation.....initially...cos obviously there is something they want more then this..maybe you can bed her a few rounds and see what she wants from there...if she starts mentioning about status etc then better bail out..
Hi Bro,
I am too old to play these kind of games, as far as I am concern, these girls for the matter any girls would only want to be with me for the money, the question is, am I or the money is her first target.
I wish you bros out could help me with this problem, show me a way to find out if she is out for my money or maybe she also like me a bit.
My humble two cents.

[Mrxhub]

$$ make the world go round...u tell me which pretty babe don like it....:)

[old_yet_horny]

Nobody is perfectly right for each other... I never believed in perfect match in any relationship.

I have ever heard of a butcher marrying Unigrad out of love for each other, a waitress can be married to an accountant etc etc.. It is more about the willingness to give and take in any relationship.

Out of curiousity, I just strike up a topic with OC before tug into our bed...


Me: Baby...What do you want me to improve on to enhance our relationship.

OC: Honey, u are what you are and I am with you as who you are. No changes needed. I accept your flaws and shortcoming as your woman. I hope you bear the same attitude towards me as well.

OC: Just spend more time with me and I'll be contented... Oh..one reminder however, pls snore softer later..

Yes, she had her flaws and I have mine... Its the way she made it sound so simple and nice but yet... the last sentence had made me sigh... :rolleyes: