Bros who has successful relationship with WLs pls share

[casannova03]

bro casannova03, i must say, there's really very few n far between that have threaded your path without encountering paramount obstacles & tests of faiths. i suppose many who run into the wall, tend to back off with tail tucked between the legs. i think your courage & decisiveness has gotten u where u're at today, and thumbs up to u for sticking to your guts.




yeah, thanks!! It takes effort really....instead of looking at the problems between u and you Vn wife on the surface, you have to understand where she is coming from...its different from marriage to local gals...this is where you have to understand their culture, their traditional family values and their mindset when doing or saying certain things...

anyway this will be covered in my other thread...;)

[ParaParaSakura]

the truth is, the gals have met/encountered myriads of men, in all shapes/size & wallet capacity. she knows pretty well, her chances of any possible endings with whoever she fancy meeting with. i suppose, they're not all that gullible & ignorant to dream about settling with any knight in shining armor. most of them tend to be pragmatic, n seek stability for pragmatic reasons.

gals that thread the less celebrated path, also come with myriads of character & mentality. among them, some wouldnt mind being the shadowed mistress, some rather slog till kingdom come, others seek to find that '1' with whom she connects best, over & beyond the rest with whom she fakes her smile, whisper the sweet nothings the paying customer subscribes to.





I have been through an exact situation; so I understand it quite well. I agree with that you should start enjoying sex and fun, It is important to any normal healthy relationship. Also, though you must treat her like a normal lady. you must remember two things:


A) as she may have emotional & our psychological issues so take it slow, so that you can assess here "State of Mind"

B) Trust is an issue, and trust must be earned. Many of these women Have "clients:.. Basically, Men who are called Friends or Boyfriends, but pay them monthly, some amount of money for spending time with them. And Yes! this often includes sex.

Do not lie to yourself! She is/was a prostitute. She willingly, most probably, has the ability to have sex with hundreds/thousands of men. Like as I know an ex-prostitute, I know that they are some of the most fun girls in the world! Great sex, of course! But marriage is a whole different ball game; divorce is expensive, child support sucks, and you better be sure she is not still seeing "Friends" ( paying clients) while you are at work.
To be honest, date her, have fun! Of course , But go fing yourself a real wife at church or something. You will sleep more peacfully, not get distracted about "watch she is doing" while at office, and potentially save yourself from an adulterous wife. :p



generally, if you are able to convince a vn gal that you do not treat her as a WL, but as a friend or sister or lover, they will tend to be more caring... i think its just natural. Once they remove the mentality that you are a paying customer, then you will start to see the softer side of them...which i think is nice!!!

[suteerak1099]

where relationship is concerned, we men sometimes r guilty of dbl standards ourselves. on 1 hand, we forbid the lady from any contact with another being of the opposite gender, while we ourselves go round like bees pollenating flowers. much as i've seen n heard, most asian women, especially those who've threaded the less celebrated path knows the meaning of honor & respect to the spouse.

ironic it may seem, but though it seem promiscuous that they lay with almost any man who pays, but once the knot is tied, slowly bt surely the lady refrains from contact with any of the past memories. (notice how some of them change their contact numbers frequent as changing undies?)

reason being; they never really had a decent life for a start, they venture in to the trade for obvious bt untold reasons, they long for a real life (many actually long to be given a life-line, bail out of the situation) resume life of normalcy.
(of cos, there'd be some who get so used to the income that decide to do it for life)

[ekemono]

where relationship is concerned, we men sometimes r guilty of dbl standards ourselves. on 1 hand, we forbid the lady from any contact with another being of the opposite gender, while we ourselves go round like bees pollenating flowers.
ironic it may seem, but though it seem promiscuous that they lay with almost any man who pays, but once the knot is tied, slowly bt surely the lady refrains from contact with any of the past memories.

reason being; they never really had a decent life for a start, they venture in to the trade for obvious bt untold reasons, they long for a real life (many actually long to be given a life-line, bail out of the situation) resume life of normalcy.


Well said bro.
If we practice double standard, it will be difficult to set good example and maintain that discipline as expected of oneself and his spouse. If we allow ourself to be promiscuous, it is as good as telling our wife that she can be too. In a marriage relationship, you reap what you sow.
Some guys tend to cultivate the tots that "eating out" once or twice is okay, what the wife doesn't know, won't hurt. But the problem starts when the guy deriving thrills from it, keep repeating the same act to fuel this thrills and sweet pleasure of lust. Then one fine day, he will be caught.

As you have correctly mentioned, the gals who had threaded the less celebrated path in life knows the meaning of honour and respect to their husband, but what honour and respect do I show her by having affairs and eating out outside the marriage? It will be the main recipe for a marriage to break down.

Thru out my realtionship with my gal and those of my friends too whom all of our women are previously working gal, I learned and observed that faithfulness is the foundation and fundamental for such relationship to worked and achieve progress, cos faithfulness will bring about trust, and trust brings about confidents, and confidents brings about moltivation to commit and seek further together. It is a repeated cycle.

And you have also correctly mentioned that once the knot is tied, slowly but surely the lady refrains from contact with any of the past memories.
It won't be an overnight thingy, it will take some time, and it is at this period the most critical that the guy should starts being a good boy. This doesn't only applies to being married but also couples who have chosen to be together. They have seen so many men, heart broken so many times that even though they have chosen us to "bail out", still they will for a start be observant and weary of us, so as to constantly review their decision.
One typical infamous example is gauging our sperm load during sex, or what time we reached home after sending them home. Eventually, all these of their reviewing and checking will ceased. And because of the "cycle" of Faithfulness>Trust>Confidents>Motivation, each party will give the other more freedom bit by bit, more tolerance. However, if the cycle is broken, she will back out and/or move on. If these reaction applies for us men, I am sure it will be the same for them to us.

Disclaimer: I am in no position to teach any bros about how to manage their life/relationship/marriage, this theory is solely my opinion applied to myself.
Cheers :D

[BUOYANTLESS]

One typical infamous example is gauging our sperm load during sex

wah,tats rather extreme,any instruments to gauge the weight as well lol.

[suteerak1099]

Well said bro... This doesn't only applies to being married but also couples who have chosen to be together. They have seen so many men, heart broken so many times that even though they have chosen us to "bail out", still they will for a start be observant and weary of us, so as to constantly review their decision.
One typical infamous example is gauging our sperm load during sex, or what time we reached home after sending them home. Eventually, all these of their reviewing and checking will ceased. And because of the "cycle" of Faithfulness>Trust>Confidents>Motivation, each party will give the other more freedom bit by bit, more tolerance. However, if the cycle is broken, she will back out and/or move on. If these reaction applies for us men, I am sure it will be the same for them to us... thanks for the compliments. basically, there's just no end to the education factor of love/relationships. the algorithms & permutations of 2 beings uniting as a couple takes a whole lot of effort, adjustments, compromise... etc.

whether or not she chose to drop the anchor at your dock is 1 thing, whether or not she chose u to be the 1 to bail her is also another. if its 1 thing that i learnt about the myriads of nightstalkers, their characters vary as much as the array of vital stats they carry.... call me crazy bt i do admire their courage to face the world, no matter how desolute hope may present itself. some take goodwil gifts (cash) with delight, others refuse goodwill gifts (cash) unless it is a transaction.

whatever the case may be, a little bit of magnanimosity/ generosity/ benevolence brings forth better chapters ahead...