Did I make the right choice?

[koetaro]

My gf cheated on me and begged for forgiveness and a 2nd chance. i gave. this happened just last week.

i gave the chance coz i still love her and i believe people can change for the better as I have. i used to fuck around but now if i am faithful when i am in a relationship.

however, past trauma of a failed second chance making me think too much and worry too much and suspect every little detail.

on the positive side, her attitude to me now is trying to make the relationship better.

on my side thinking too much, is it to make me lower my guard and cheat on me again.

hope bros can share some opinions / experience.

now this past week relationship is actually good. we spend alot of time together. my friend did mention that now i may be thinking too much on my part. i should just let the relationship flow normally and see how it goes since i already made the decision to give it another chance. dont tire myself out by self suspecting etc when she may actually be remorseful and sincerely want to make it work.

[Zetyalpha]

My gf cheated on me and begged for forgiveness and a 2nd chance. i gave. this happened just last week.

i gave the chance coz i still love her and i believe people can change for the better as I have. i used to fuck around but now if i am faithful when i am in a relationship.

however, past trauma of a failed second chance making me think too much and worry too much and suspect every little detail.

on the positive side, her attitude to me now is trying to make the relationship better.

on my side thinking too much, is it to make me lower my guard and cheat on me again.

hope bros can share some opinions / experience.

now this past week relationship is actually good. we spend alot of time together. my friend did mention that now i may be thinking too much on my part. i should just let the relationship flow normally and see how it goes since i already made the decision to give it another chance. dont tire myself out by self suspecting etc when she may actually be remorseful and sincerely want to make it work.

Need to tell us your backgrd. age grp, working or studying, previously divorced, etc.

Might have a 2nd time. Just beware

[albertlimCC]

My gf cheated on me and begged for forgiveness and a 2nd chance. i gave. this happened just last week.

i gave the chance coz i still love her and i believe people can change for the better as I have. i used to fuck around but now if i am faithful when i am in a relationship.

however, past trauma of a failed second chance making me think too much and worry too much and suspect every little detail.

on the positive side, her attitude to me now is trying to make the relationship better.

on my side thinking too much, is it to make me lower my guard and cheat on me again.

hope bros can share some opinions / experience.

now this past week relationship is actually good. we spend alot of time together. my friend did mention that now i may be thinking too much on my part. i should just let the relationship flow normally and see how it goes since i already made the decision to give it another chance. dont tire myself out by self suspecting etc when she may actually be remorseful and sincerely want to make it work.

Your friend is right. It is your call. If you decided to give her a 2nd chance, let it flow. There is no need to stress yourself. If you have doubts, speak to her directly or someone you are close to. Be positive and look forward.

[Udonit]

If I was you, I would have asked her for revenge, to make her feel what you feel. Fuck a girl with her knowing, maybe even with her watching (can be FL to ensure there are no emotions). After that it's balanced again, otherwise there will be always an unbalanced feeling in the relationship and long term trust issues.
Cheating always means there is a lack of something, be it unpleasing sex or lack of emotions. You gotta find out what made her cheat to satisfy her. At the same time you should clearly tell your needs and maybe unfulfilled desires as she will be more willing to satisfy you.

[MrKopiO]

Once a cheater, always a cheater.:)

[monstadick]

I'm not that type of person who give a 2nd chance to cheater. Most of the time, it will happen again.

[Sweettooth]

I'm not that type of person who give a 2nd chance to cheater. Most of the time, it will happen again.

Totally agree with you bro

[Out2fk]

how did she cheated on your or what lead up to it. i think that's the bigger question. trust and blind faith not too far away

[partyfriend]

My gf cheated on me and begged for forgiveness and a 2nd chance. i gave. this happened just last week.

i gave the chance coz i still love her and i believe people can change for the better as I have. i used to fuck around but now if i am faithful when i am in a relationship.

however, past trauma of a failed second chance making me think too much and worry too much and suspect every little detail.

on the positive side, her attitude to me now is trying to make the relationship better.

on my side thinking too much, is it to make me lower my guard and cheat on me again.

hope bros can share some opinions / experience.

now this past week relationship is actually good. we spend alot of time together. my friend did mention that now i may be thinking too much on my part. i should just let the relationship flow normally and see how it goes since i already made the decision to give it another chance. dont tire myself out by self suspecting etc when she may actually be remorseful and sincerely want to make it work.

For me this is red flag already. But u given the second chance, chances of repairing the relationship is low.

[lalachiongster]

Every person personality and mind set not same. If you choose to accept her then just go on. See whats going on in the future lol

[Banaber]

so what was the cheating on a scale from 1 to 100?:(

[berzerky]

I have no doubt that your partner sincerely regretted her indiscretion and that she's sincere about repairing your relationship, then we still have to deal with your broken-heart which has led you to doubting and possibly being suspicious of her every move. That's not a good place to be in.

As men, one of the reasons we hold on is that we want back what's ours. Often, this is self-defeating in that we get to keep our ego because we didn't lose her to another man but we are reminded of the humiliation everyday, thus, the anger. It's not a good place to be in.

It's also not a good place for her to be in. She's trying, we're still unsure, still suspicious and the behaviors of uncertainly and distrust around her just serve to hurt and possibly also humiliate her. Does she deserve that? Some say yes, many will say no, too.

Maybe you and her can agree to separate. And if time has healed all wounds, when you get back together again in the future, the reminders of bad memories and humiliation are hopefully foggy, if not disappeared, by then.

[Rizwano28]

Just try and see how things goes in coming weeks. If she can't change for the better, then better let her go.

[fallen11]

Just treat her as free sex object, while you go out there and find someone more suitable for yourself.

If you suspect, you cant trust.
If you trust, you cannot suspect.

[BushTracker]

so what was the cheating on a scale from 1 to 100?:(

Cheating also got scale one meh? :confused:do elaborate.

Scale Activities
1 flirty messages
.
.
5 making out, fully clothed
.
.
7 making out, full nude
.
.
15 oral sex
.
.
20 penetrative sex, with condom
21 raw penetrative sex, COB
22 raw penetrative sex, COF
23 raw penetrative sex, CIM
24 raw penetrative sex, CIP
.
.
35 raw penetrative sex, anal
.
.
100 Discuss about getting married

:D

[Banaber]

that's what i was atalking about. lol :D

[Zetyalpha]

Cheating also got scale one meh? :confused:do elaborate.

Scale Activities
1 flirty messages
.
.
5 making out, fully clothed
.
.
7 making out, full nude
.
.
15 oral sex
.
.
20 penetrative sex, with condom
21 raw penetrative sex, COB
22 raw penetrative sex, COF
23 raw penetrative sex, CIM
24 raw penetrative sex, CIP
.
.
35 raw penetrative sex, anal
.
.
100 Discuss about getting married

:D

:D:D:D:D:D:D

+100 more If they're civil servants?

[raw1]

Cheating also got scale one meh? :confused:do elaborate.

Scale Activities
1 flirty messages
.
.
5 making out, fully clothed
.
.
7 making out, full nude
.
.
15 oral sex
.
.
20 penetrative sex, with condom
21 raw penetrative sex, COB
22 raw penetrative sex, COF
23 raw penetrative sex, CIM
24 raw penetrative sex, CIP
.
.
35 raw penetrative sex, anal
.
.
100 Discuss about getting married

:D

wahahhaa interesting scale hahaha

[raw1]

:D:D:D:D:D:D

+100 more If they're civil servants?

+200 more if they are teachers very kinky lol

[Garage1]

dun wanna burst yr bubble

my ex wife cheated twice....
so finally divorce years back

forgave her once and really.. once a cheater always a cheater

[Justwannahvfun]

dun wanna burst yr bubble

my ex wife cheated twice....
so finally divorce years back

forgave her once and really.. once a cheater always a cheater

usually cheater is men, but women now also can.

[Blueflowerhorn]

usually cheater is men, but women now also can.

Modern world, woman get more educated and more independent.. gone were the day where woman depend heavily on man, where the woman have to suck it up altho the man is lousy quality..
Now with education, woman have better job and have good salary.. fuck care their husband.. lol..

[Garage1]

Modern world, woman get more educated and more independent.. gone were the day where woman depend heavily on man, where the woman have to suck it up altho the man is lousy quality..
Now with education, woman have better job and have good salary.. fuck care their husband.. lol..

wrong...
all so wrong.....

what happ to years of paktor, vows etc

lousy quality is excuse to find better?

[Blueflowerhorn]

wrong...
all so wrong.....

what happ to years of paktor, vows etc

lousy quality is excuse to find better?

yes bro, years of paktor but true colour can only be seen after you stay together..
Anyway it is my personal opinin after i observed what my friend gone through la.. sigh..

[Greenfrog]

Let's put it this way. if she really want to cheat on you again, there is no way you can know right.

Unless u can tail her for 24 hours...

[Garage1]

Let's put it this way. if she really want to cheat on you again, there is no way you can know right.

Unless u can tail her for 24 hours...

years of paktor, if u cant tell she cheat..
then u deserve to be cheated

THE PHONE IS THE MOST DIRTY THING EVER

[Garage1]

yes bro, years of paktor but true colour can only be seen after you stay together..
Anyway it is my personal opinin after i observed what my friend gone through la.. sigh..

yup.. have friend kena also

[JonnyFunnny]

It's understandable that past trauma can make you feel worried and suspicious in this situation. It's essential to communicate openly with your girlfriend about your feelings and concerns. Trust is crucial in any relationship, and if you decide to give her a second chance, it's important to work on rebuilding it together.

Try to focus on the positive changes you've noticed in her attitude and actions. If you find it challenging to let go of the suspicion, consider seeking professional guidance or talking to a counselor to process your emotions and thoughts.

Ultimately, trust your instincts but also give the relationship a chance to grow. Letting it flow naturally while being open and honest with each other can help you understand if this second chance is genuinely leading to a healthier and stronger relationship. Sharing experiences and opinions with friends can provide support, but remember that the decision is ultimately yours to make based on your feelings and experiences with your girlfriend.