Does massage with HJ consider cheating your wife?

[takahashi]

Hi fellow bros

Recently been caught by wife going massage with GQ (HJ only)
Is this consider cheating ?

Pls advise how to explain to your partner?

[Durategra]

I would think so. Female touching a male, getting sexual satisfaction. How on earth did you get caught?

[Durategra]

Just say you were caught off guard. Seemed like a regular massage, like with proper pressure at the right areas and you dozed off while she started jerking you off. Didn’t realise till midway and you were caught out surprised/ shocked.

[DehOne]

It’s an easy question to answer. If your wife told you a male masseuse fingered her until orgasm, would you feel she had cheated on you?

[junior_cannibal]

Hi fellow bros

Recently been caught by wife going massage with GQ (HJ only)
Is this consider cheating ?

Pls advise how to explain to your partner?it depends, if you went to a dodgy place, guess there's no need to explain, just admit it. However, she might ask you how many times have you been. Think most if not all women will find it disgusting if they know their bf or hubby goes to such places. Worst, if not just HJ but FJ.
If it's a normal massage place but being offered and accepted a HJ, can still try to explain.
You need to differentiate what you should tell and should not. Not telling the full truth versus tell a lousy lie can have big difference, especially if your wife knows you well and know when you are telling a lie.

[DTCEPL]

TS probably went massage with wifey together and in different room or separated by certain, then while ML performed her speciality, kena caught by wifey when she walked pass or pull open the certain:eek:, just my guessing!

Cant imagine how one can get caught for HJ if wifey didnt go massage together! But sibey jialet hor, kena caught for whatever reason, in hot soup!

[sammyboyfor]

Hi fellow bros

Recently been caught by wife going massage with GQ (HJ only)
Is this consider cheating ?

Pls advise how to explain to your partner?

A hand job is not sex. It's just a massage of your organ. :D

Just explain to your partner that a hand job is just a job.. nothing more, nothing less. :p

[Stezo]

You are being sexually pleasured by another woman.

Of course most women will see this as cheating, even if it just a HJ.

[LeonardMessi]

wondering how u get caught in the first place? haha
u seek pleasure with other women ya cheat la bro.

[asdfkie]

Hi fellow bros

Recently been caught by wife going massage with GQ (HJ only)
Is this consider cheating ?

Pls advise how to explain to your partner?

Ok bro, you have asked and sbf has answered. Now is your turn to contribute. How did you get caught? Pls share the full juicy story with description of said HJ

[Durategra]

Ok bro, you have asked and sbf has answered. Now is your turn to contribute. How did you get caught? Pls share the full juicy story with description of said HJ

Lol! Yea! I’m keen to know too!

[BerryAirlearn]

If your wife give another man HJ and nothing else, do you consider that cheating? That'll be your ans.

[haikim999]

Ur wife give HJ/BJ to another guy, u think its cheating? U ok with it ? ;)

[Chua Soi Lek]

Hi fellow bros

Recently been caught by wife going massage with GQ (HJ only)
Is this consider cheating ?

Pls advise how to explain to your partner?

Sure or not your wife caught having massage with GQ ?

Not possible for you to catch you being HJ by the lady lah ... u mean your wife was hiding in the room when the lady asked you the GQ ?

[denshachikan]

Tell her you used a condom? :D:D
Just kidding.

[Joe.A]

my 0.02 cents. To a woman, it is considered cheating. Even looking at other ladies also consider cheating :rolleyes:

Since already consider cheating, might as well go for FJ & tell her it was just a massage on your member :cool:

[HiFive]

For a woman to catch you, means it is cheating to them. Most importantly, how come will get caught ah?

[IamGood]

Tell her is a massage of one of your limbs. If kena caught fh, just tell her it also a massage of the limb. Just that this time u have to diy the massage by thrusting

[sky_liner2]

Bro TS, where were your hands when caught red-handed? On the ML boobs and trying the touching moments below, or probably maybe your mouth was busy doing the sucking too? Then died cock stand, cannot explain.

[Big2]

You think leh? For many of these charbohs, even chatting or flirting on the phone with other girls also considered cheating..

[Laopizhui]

to TS, u can only quit massage scene n ensure ur wife u wont go massage alone unless she come along, ur marriage more important la

not worth for a hj lose a marriage. just LLST ba

[Karlman]

Women are emotional and they tend to attach emotions to many things. So if you look from her point of view, it would consider cheating.

[smittenbyml]

Lol! Yea! I’m keen to know too!

One possible explanation is phone call then he go pick up. Dear the surrounding got calming music one. Then dunno how to explain on the spot..

I ever had a phone call though is just a fellow male friend. Knew im doing massage almost immediately. Lol

[naan1974]

Deny all the way.
said masseur suddenly went down and suck your kkj
during massage and asked for money. you are victim
it really happened 30 yrs ago during ns time at great eastern hotel Macpherson
while massage, the msian massuer started to tickle my balls, when i look over
she was licking my balls. the rest is history. :D

[Peacekeeping]

One possible explanation is phone call then he go pick up. Dear the surrounding got calming music one. Then dunno how to explain on the spot..

I ever had a phone call though is just a fellow male friend. Knew im doing massage almost immediately. Lol

Haha embarrassing moments :p

[junior_cannibal]

TS probably went massage with wifey together and in different room or separated by certain, then while ML performed her speciality, kena caught by wifey when she walked pass or pull open the certain:eek:, just my guessing!

Cant imagine how one can get caught for HJ if wifey didnt go massage together! But sibey jialet hor, kena caught for whatever reason, in hot soup!
Why bother to guess? Just let him speak if he wants. It can also be he had a HJ in the day then at night can't perform, then wife interrogated and he told the truth?
Why would a couple go to massage in separate room, not couple room? Why would the wife go and check on the husband's room?

[junior_cannibal]

A hand job is not sex. It's just a massage of your organ. :D

Just explain to your partner that a hand job is just a job.. nothing more, nothing less. :p

If everyone's wife so easy to get over such matter, then life will be a breeze. How about the table is turned, wife goes for a massage and receives extra services by a handsome male masseuse then tells the husband it's just part of the package or job?

[sammyboyfor]

If everyone's wife so easy to get over such matter, then life will be a breeze. How about the table is turned, wife goes for a massage and receives extra services by a handsome male masseuse then tells the husband it's just part of the package or job?

Sounds like a fair deal to me.

[timeliness]

One possible explanation is phone call then he go pick up. Dear the surrounding got calming music one. Then dunno how to explain on the spot..

I ever had a phone call though is just a fellow male friend. Knew im doing massage almost immediately. Lol


But why would one have phone calls during massage? I usually leave it in my pants pocket and if anything happen, I just say that I'm having meeting lol.

[Durategra]

One possible explanation is phone call then he go pick up. Dear the surrounding got calming music one. Then dunno how to explain on the spot..

I ever had a phone call though is just a fellow male friend. Knew im doing massage almost immediately. Lol

Oh yea that’s one way. Or delayed response to text or find my phone feature and the wife figured it out.. I’m just making a wild assumption

[WOOHOO]

But why would one have phone calls during massage? I usually leave it in my pants pocket and if anything happen, I just say that I'm having meeting lol.

WOO UPZ 👍 👍 👍

[Hurricane88]

If everyone's wife so easy to get over such matter, then life will be a breeze. How about the table is turned, wife goes for a massage and receives extra services by a handsome male masseuse then tells the husband it's just part of the package or job?

Simple answer - if wife said cheating then cheating and nothing to argue...becos woman always right...:)

[TheDriverGuy]

Maybe got location app, wife checked and found out unusual blah blah....

Let's wait for TS to enlighten... :o

[titts82002]

I think it is cheating..

Even thinking in the mind,
mind-fucking is also a form of spiritual cheating..
:)

[SammyKing]

Manhood massage or HJ is just a therapy. Don’t think it consider as cheating.

[BushTracker]

A hand job is not sex. It's just a massage of your organ. :D

Just explain to your partner that a hand job is just a job.. nothing more, nothing less. :p

In the same vein, FJ is just a job too! :D I like that.

[junior_cannibal]

Sounds like a fair deal to me.

Life ain't fairy tale unfortunately, so, no such thing as fair lah. It's always sexciting to see, read about other guy's gf/wife story, when it happens to ourselves, unless you have a different fetish, no man will be glad and happy.

[junior_cannibal]

But why would one have phone calls during massage? I usually leave it in my pants pocket and if anything happen, I just say that I'm having meeting lol.

This reminds me of those ktv days. In the midst of fun when somebody's wife called, the fella would ask the hostess to silent the my and the rest would keep silent. Until the call was taken and done, then the party resumed. Lol.

[asdfkie]

Maybe got location app, wife checked and found out unusual blah blah....

Let's wait for TS to enlighten... :o

Bro prob left sbf website open then the wife check and found post history trying to book ML lol

[Lakalakasheit]

Bro prob left sbf website open then the wife check and found post history trying to book ML lol

hahaha then now get locked in at home

[Asakura]

reverse the role
if your wife goes for a message get touched by a man and finger her
what's your take?
Hi fellow bros

Recently been caught by wife going massage with GQ (HJ only)
Is this consider cheating ?

Pls advise how to explain to your partner?

[Peacekeeping]

reverse the role
if your wife goes for a message get touched by a man and finger her
what's your take?

Man and woman cannot compare lah. When ml give us handjob, she is only doing a job. When man give woman massage, he really want to fuck her!

[SirLance]

Man and woman cannot compare lah. When ml give us handjob, she is only doing a job. When man give woman massage, he really want to fuck her!

Very well said and I agreed.

[junior_cannibal]

Man and woman cannot compare lah. When ml give us handjob, she is only doing a job. When man give woman massage, he really want to fuck her!

Please lah, don't be double standards. If you are a decent looking client with an average or above average dick, the ML is human too, especially if you guys can click on conversation, plus all stars aligned, she will also be open to have a romp.
On the other hand, if the woman as client is a baby elephant or hippo, unless the male masseuse is desperate to make extra income, he will no do more than just massage.

[naan1974]

Man and woman cannot compare lah. When ml give us handjob, she is only doing a job. When man give woman massage, he really want to fuck her!

Really depends, if massage HC also like this meh ? dont bluff me hor

[JustLooking84]

Just say they provide 前列腺保养，then the girl told u massage already tonight will be very strong for wife to use.:D

[naan1974]

reverse the role
if your wife goes for a message get touched by a man and finger her
what's your take?

Suddenly I through of this.
What if a female massuer serve yr wife and extra service her.
Now it's sound kinky or cheating?

[BushTracker]

Why TS disappeared after posting first post?

[sky_liner2]

Why TS disappeared after posting first post?

He is grounded by OC.

[Asakura]

u say that to justify and make yourself feel better? lol
Man and woman cannot compare lah. When ml give us handjob, she is only doing a job. When man give woman massage, he really want to fuck her!

[Peacekeeping]

u say that to justify and make yourself feel better? lol

Believe me it’s easier to believe that the masseuse like me when she give me a little bit extra. Peck on my cheeks, even my dick. But I know this was not the case. I only got 1 free fuck out of so many fl. 2 legit ml let me bed them and I gave them more tips. 99% of them just want to make more money and fuck off. Maybe some looking for rich husband to support them for life but i too commoner so they only see me as a potential regular customer. That’s why it’s difficult to cheat my money :p

Just put yourself in the shoes of a male masseur. Got free fuck you want or not? You still think can compare?

[MaraGuru]

Hi fellow bros

Recently been caught by wife going massage with GQ (HJ only)
Is this consider cheating ?

Pls advise how to explain to your partner?

How to get caught? If u don't use condom, basically no condom smell from the cock.

[asdfkie]

Why TS disappeared after posting first post?

A moment of silence for our fallen brother.

[arl127]

A hand job is not sex. It's just a massage of your organ. :D

Just explain to your partner that a hand job is just a job.. nothing more, nothing less. :p

Exactly this what I wanna say too

[junior_cannibal]

How to get caught? If u don't use condom, basically no condom smell from the cock.

You are hilarious, what has the condom or no condom smell to let TS get caught by the wife? You meant she went to smell his cock then noticed there's condom smell?
If TS ever resurfaces and willing to share more, then we will get to know and learn from his 'mistake', otherwise, just let this thread die an natural death and move on.

[Banaber]

Why TS disappeared after posting first post?

maybe backfired using one of the advices here. 😐

[Vanda]

Many women are very emotional creatures..
It is dependent on what level of acceptance they can take in and their logic level?
Talking to your ex or ex fwb can infuriate them and spun them into cold war..
If she expect you to use her pussy and hand job on normal basic and you are overlooking their trust not to touch other women. You are in for trouble.
Reasons being that they are hurt in their feelings by your thoughtless and selfish actions.
Because they love you and they have sole ownership to you and sharing you with other women pain their hearts.

[Afaga]

If go pub drink but never tell wife, it is also consider cheating.

No need to engage in sex to consider as cheating

So long as you dont tell your wife what you do already considered as cheating

[titts82002]

No model answers for right or wrong.
It is in the own definition and everyone are right in the different aspects

If i am asked to take a side,
my narrow opinion is a cheating based on a marriage vow.

:)

[junior_cannibal]

No model answers for right or wrong.
It is in the own definition and everyone are right in the different aspects

If i am asked to take a side,
my narrow opinion is a cheating based on a marriage vow.

:)
Really? The marriage vow one takes says the spouse now supposed to go to massage that has happy ending? 🤔

[titts82002]

Really? The marriage vow one takes says the spouse now supposed to go to massage that has happy ending? 🤔

It is just my opinion, not saying I am right.
Either emotional or physical, or both, for the intention of “ happy journey or ending” , I think it is cheating.

[Voorhees]

HJ for health well being purposes maybe no....but during the act if you deh her neh neh than how?

the you cannot cum then she lick and suck your nipples.... if this one not consider cheating then our threshold for cheating sibey high.

[Naka_Timo]

If go pub drink but never tell wife, it is also consider cheating.

No need to engage in sex to consider as cheating

So long as you dont tell your wife what you do already considered as cheating

Thanks for upping. Please do make post again so i can return points

[Vanda]

Hi fellow bros

Recently been caught by wife going massage with GQ (HJ only)
Is this consider cheating ?

Pls advise how to explain to your partner?

@TS,
Ask the same logic, if other men were to touch and rubbed your wife's pussy and make her high high until squirting? What will be your reactions? Will you slam her for cheating???Unless you no love your love then u dun mind??

[JasonJG]

You are being sexually pleasured by another woman.

Of course most women will see this as cheating, even if it just a HJ.

Could've been worse if the HJ was done by a male masseuse, if you unwittingly walk into a joint full of male masseuse. Tell her this is why you went to a joint which only had female masseuse, not knowing that they provide HJ as an add-on.

[Naka_Timo]

If go pub drink but never tell wife, it is also consider cheating.

No need to engage in sex to consider as cheating

So long as you dont tell your wife what you do already considered as cheating

Thanks for upping. Do make post so i can return

[mixmasternrv]

This is a good read if you want to know what SG men think on the subject.

https://sg.theasianparent.com/your-husband-gets-a-happy-ending-massage-cheating-or-not

Food for thought.

IMHO - you get a vanilla massage = therapeutic (and its OK EVEN in U are nude and co cumming involved).

you get a so-so massage with GQ + HJ roaming etc = cheating :p

U can rationalise it anyway U want but a happy ending massage is a sexual transgression.

I started late in the ML game - mostly after kids were teens and wife slowly switched off the tap. I rationalise it as an activity to keep the "balance".
Talking about cheating, right, wrong are conversations that are moot. Again my 2 cents worth.

[Freshguy]

Aiyo the fact that you hid it from her is cheating already lor. If she was ok with it you would have talked to her about it and it wouldnt be cheating.

[sexcision]

Reverse the situation, will you think it's cheating if she's getting orgasms by fingering from a handsome prc or Thai guy?

Your answer is probably her answer multiply by 10 times.

[superkk]

Hi fellow bros

Recently been caught by wife going massage with GQ (HJ only)
Is this consider cheating ?

Pls advise how to explain to your partner?

how you want to explain also no use. she will not believe nor ever forgive you either way. in fact, it will give her a reason to cheat on you.

i think it be better for you to start planning your exit strategy so the eventual divorce will not be an all loss for you.

[hakone]

I know a woman who after found out her husband went for a massage with happy ending, she stops loving him and went out to look for fun herself.

Once you have cheated and get caught, be prepared that your wife does the same to you, and in some cases she enjoys it so much that she is more adventurous than you.

[Chu Liu Siang]

Hi fellow bros

Recently been caught by wife going massage with GQ (HJ only)
Is this consider cheating ?

Pls advise how to explain to your partner?

different ppl different opinions lol bro

[bendadick]

This one is hard to answer, very grey area. But if your wife seems not happy then ya don't do it liao