Divorce to be with Gf

[rainmaker1]

If you can afford it financially, would you divorce your wife to be with Gf?

Know that it is not morally right. Should not be falling in love with someone else when married.

Basically, the wife done nothing wrong. Just no more love. Even after trying. The marriage would just continue loveless, if there is no Gf.

Even when there is no more love with wife, it still feel wrong to divorce to be with Gf.

Would anyone do it, if money is not an issue?

[Northern]

When married or with a person a long time, and it seems the passion is gone and it has become a dredge, it is sometimes inevitable.

However, a kinship has developed in place.
And this kinship has become the foundation of a home.
It becomes familiar, so much so we expect that it is the norm.

Its not, its just us taking things for granted.

Introduce a new element into your lives, joint participation in recreational courses, maybe dancing, painting, learning music instruments.
Maybe a pet, a beagle, basset hound, labrador/golden retriever, parrot.

When everyone is operating within the confines of a familiar consistent surroundings, you will just see more of the same.

You know your situation best, decide in haste, repent in leisure.

So, no, I would not.

[rainmaker1]

When married or with a person a long time, and it seems the passion is gone and it has become a dredge, it is sometimes inevitable.

However, a kinship has developed in place.
And this kinship has become the foundation of a home.
It becomes familiar, so much so we expect that it is the norm.

Its not, its just us taking things for granted.

Introduce a new element into your lives, joint participation in recreational courses, maybe dancing, painting, learning music instruments.
Maybe a pet, a beagle, basset hound, labrador/golden retriever, parrot.

When everyone is operating within the confines of a familiar consistent surroundings, you will just see more of the same.

You know your situation best, decide in haste, repent in leisure.

So, no, I would not.

Note taken.

This type of things cannot be decided quickly.

[Rainier]

If you divorce, be with gf, maybe marry gf, then later also no feeling, how ?

[maxsee]

It is like jumping from the frying pan into the fire. :o

[fallen11]

you divorce someone to end a marriage
you be with someone to start a relationship

these are not the same thing
so its best not to mix both parts together which more often than not would result in making the wrong decision.

if you're supposed to end the marriage, end it first. Not because you found someone new. That is going to cloud your judgement.
would you end the marriage if you cant find a gf outside? if so, go for divorce. else no.

[loneyheart]

Falling in love or just lust is different .... Freshness n Boredom is another .... Then why divorce n marry again ? .... Eventually living together n seeing the full colour of each other will end up to the same situation .... Hopefully as a dear one beside :)

[chubbybastard]

If you can afford it financially, would you divorce your wife to be with Gf?

Know that it is not morally right. Should not be falling in love with someone else when married.

Basically, the wife done nothing wrong. Just no more love. Even after trying. The marriage would just continue loveless, if there is no Gf.

Even when there is no more love with wife, it still feel wrong to divorce to be with Gf.

Would anyone do it, if money is not an issue?
That's why I don't believe in marriage and stayed single for all thrse times.

Once you get married, you not only marry her but her and your entire family + relatives + friends. Now that you want to divorce her both side family members + relatives + friends are going to ask you a shitload of the same questions i.e. why.

You really want to tell them coz you have no love for your wife anymore? Think of how that would put you?

[CookCrew]

Life is short and precious, just divorce and get with the new gf but dont remarry your gf or the whole thing will repeat. Just stay single but live together etc. This avoids all sorts of legal complications.

[benjm85]

If you can afford it financially, would you divorce your wife to be with Gf?

Know that it is not morally right. Should not be falling in love with someone else when married.

Basically, the wife done nothing wrong. Just no more love. Even after trying. The marriage would just continue loveless, if there is no Gf.

Even when there is no more love with wife, it still feel wrong to divorce to be with Gf.

Would anyone do it, if money is not an issue?

Hi bro, same situation as you. In dilemma too, got kids so not so straightforward for me.
I ask myself if I do not have a gf, would i still divorce? The answer is no.
But i also feel let down for my gf, who has been by my side all these while.

[oxeso]

Aiyo.. u kena 2 much poison liao.. think it's fairy tales, true luv neber dies ah? Marriage is to start a family, have kids, companionship etc etc.. Tiagong it's wiser to choose the 1 u can live wif instead of the 1 u can't live w/out. U r welcome..:D

[fallen11]

But i also feel let down for my gf, who has been by my side all these while.

nothing to let down on
its 2 mutual parties involved. you and her willing.

[BushTracker]

If you can afford it financially, would you divorce your wife to be with Gf?

Know that it is not morally right. Should not be falling in love with someone else when married.

Basically, the wife done nothing wrong. Just no more love. Even after trying. The marriage would just continue loveless, if there is no Gf.

Even when there is no more love with wife, it still feel wrong to divorce to be with Gf.

Would anyone do it, if money is not an issue?

How old are you? Do you guys have any kids? How does your wife feel about you?

Don't make any hasty decision that cannot be undone.

[rainmaker1]

How old are you? Do you guys have any kids? How does your wife feel about you?

Don't make any hasty decision that cannot be undone.

Nearing 40 with kids. Wife no longer loves me.

[Rainier]

Wife no longer loves me.

I don't know why, but that statement made me profoundly sad.
Not so much if she still loves you but that you believe she doesn't anymore.
Are you both too busy, tired, maybe jaded ?

Is it still possible for you 2 to make a simple trip together, just the 2 of you ?
Does she not have any reactions when she sees that you are dejected or tired ?
How do you feel when you see that she is dejected or tired ?

A bro said it right, the gf is not a factor to be considered regarding if you should remain married.
We don't know what your daily life is like, but is it bad ?

[rainmaker1]

I don't know why, but that statement made me profoundly sad.
Not so much if she still loves you but that you believe she doesn't anymore.
Are you both too busy, tired, maybe jaded ?

Is it still possible for you 2 to make a simple trip together, just the 2 of you ?
Does she not have any reactions when she sees that you are dejected or tired ?
How do you feel when you see that she is dejected or tired ?

A bro said it right, the gf is not a factor to be considered regarding if you should remain married.
We don't know what your daily life is like, but is it bad ?


She said so herself. Asked to try to make it work, she says not possible to go back to the past.

I would say married in name only.

Cannot say life is bad. It is just living day to day.
If contented to live like this for the rest of your life, there will be no push factor to divorce.

[rainmaker1]

Hi bro, same situation as you. In dilemma too, got kids so not so straightforward for me.
I ask myself if I do not have a gf, would i still divorce? The answer is no.
But i also feel let down for my gf, who has been by my side all these while.

I am sure the gf feels let down. Just that she does not say. If anything happens, she does not want to be the one that caused it. She definitely wishes to be the wife. Just that she appeared too late.

[Rainier]

She said so herself. Asked to try to make it work, she says not possible to go back to the past.



So, something happened then, not a over time jaded, drifted apart thing.

Depends if you want to give it a shot and try, regardless of what she says.
Only you know your circumstance/situation well enough.

[BushTracker]

Have you tried marriage counseling. At least give it a try. If after that still cannot find common ground, at least with the help of the councillor, you can find a solution forward that is best for the kids.

I have not seen a well adjusted kid from divorce family, despite what TV portrait, my own included. And I divorced when he was in his early 20s.

[Marmots]

Altho both issues are not related, you have to choose to split with one.

Either the wife or gf.
The gf is being strung along, with unknown potential of knowing what will happen.

But, don't do the split with wife to marry gf.
At least 2-3 years if split with wife, then consider marriage.

imho.