Is it normal for married man keep looking for other girls?

[jamelim88]

I am married with my wife with since 23 years old, and I am 35 now. As for me,I start cheong since I had kids, until now still haven able stop,before that never cheong/cheated. Time to time I had been wondering is it normal for married guy to cheong/cheating?

Hope all Sifu here can share some of your thoughts, Thanks in advance

[realrandomguy]

I am married with my wife with since 23 years old, and I am 35 now. As for me,I start cheong since I had kids, until now still haven able stop,before that never cheong/cheated. Time to time I had been wondering is it normal for married guy to cheong/cheating?

Hope all Sifu here can share some of your thoughts, Thanks in advance

if you ask a saint they will say it is not normal 😅 but if I were to answer, it could be normal because there are things we no get enough from our wife , but we dont want to hurt her by saying it.right bro?

[lornjourney]

I think there are a lot of faithful and consistent men. But I wasn't born to be one of them. Plenty of my type in this world. So, it is normal.

[Notanot]

I think there are a lot of faithful and consistent men. But I wasn't born to be one of them. Plenty of my type in this world. So, it is normal.

only a few hahaha it's natural for men to have the talent to cheat

[jamelim88]

i thought once age older the battle of lust can be win, now at mid 30's seems the battle only lesser compared to 20's but still lose to lust.

But I limit myself to only go for fast food, no long term outside food.

[dman19]

i thought once age older the battle of lust can be win, now at mid 30's seems the battle only lesser compared to 20's but still lose to lust.

But I limit myself to only go for fast food, no long term outside food.

Keep it up. But there will be times you find yourself keep going back to eat the same delicious burger. That’s where you need to exercise your mental strength.

[wahbiang123]

i thought once age older the battle of lust can be win, now at mid 30's seems the battle only lesser compared to 20's but still lose to lust.

But I limit myself to only go for fast food, no long term outside food.

Thinking to stop play play lah . At age 30 more thinking about wife . Because we sill spend our life with her

[blahzzz]

There are many threads addressing to this topic. Many valuable wise words shared before. So do browse around…

[jamelim88]

thanks for the suggestion. I am going through Group for divorced/sexless marriage/singles. Saw some good points mention by sifu there.

[Hunkydunky]

thanks for the suggestion. I am going through Group for divorced/sexless marriage/singles. Saw some good points mention by sifu there.

What points? Can share here bo?

[lornjourney]

Keep it up. But there will be times you find yourself keep going back to eat the same delicious burger. That’s where you need to exercise your mental strength.

I need that Will Power too. I keep looking at helpers, neighbours and even flirt using online dating without revealing my true status. But I really enjoy that affair especially the other side though I’m a suitable candidate. It surely going to be a very expensive lessons. But I still play

[jamelim88]

I need that Will Power too. I keep looking at helpers, neighbours and even flirt using online dating without revealing my true status. But I really enjoy that affair especially the other side though I’m a suitable candidate. It surely going to be a very expensive lessons. But I still play


seems u need look deep in yourself what you looking for actually. For me I notice myself looking for intimacy which cant no longer obtain enough from wife. therefore looking outside. Some guys are always keep looking for the kick of new experiences, so with same women long term also will boring. So probably can start identify your what u really want. i hope can strengthen my will power also, dont really wanna hurt my whole family

[Sakai11]

It's very normal

[fallen11]

looking for other girls also have different categories.

Are you looking for sex only?
Or something more, like a relationship outside of marriage? Maybe for the thrill of it? or just wanna re-live pre marriage love life again?

These 2 are actually very different things. :)

Got 1 more: have you always been intending to divorce your spouse, but dont have the courage to brave into post-divorce life uncharted territory? Waiting for a 3rd party to come along to help you pick up that courage to go ahead with divorce. This also very different from the 2 above.

[ghostcow]

seems u need look deep in yourself what you looking for actually. For me I notice myself looking for intimacy which cant no longer obtain enough from wife. therefore looking outside. Some guys are always keep looking for the kick of new experiences, so with same women long term also will boring. So probably can start identify your what u really want. i hope can strengthen my will power also, dont really wanna hurt my whole family

What you highlighted in red is why i dread getting married because if sex starved in marriage of course need to settle outside. If caught then women charter come in full force.

[AUDIFANSG]

Thinking to stop play play lah . At age 30 more thinking about wife . Because we sill spend our life with her
Me also.... before married fk like rabbits. after marriage and esp after first kid, wife sex drive goes down like 90%.......whereas my sex drive more or less the same. How to tahan lol....

[Domio67]

Yes , very normal dude

[Wtf6969]

varies from person to person. perhaps some men cheat cause they lose the intimacy with their wives or are not getting any or are not enjoying sex with their wives. Perhaps some men find it thrilling.

[Wavecc]

Very normal , up till 60 also

[BrotherG]

Me also.... before married fk like rabbits. after marriage and esp after first kid, wife sex drive goes down like 90%.......whereas my sex drive more or less the same. How to tahan lol....

quite common also after married then sex drive go down coz sex drive also depends on mental. if we stress over family and earning money, sex drive will drop.

[Rubbaking]

Sometimes i feel got nothing to do with men’s sex drive unless above 60 but more of who is the partner.

[AUDIFANSG]

quite common also after married then sex drive go down coz sex drive also depends on mental. if we stress over family and earning money, sex drive will drop.

I am the sole breadwinner and our family zero financial issues. Her low sexual drive is from injury sustained dduring childbirth( i heard this is quite common).

[BrotherG]

I am the sole breadwinner and our family zero financial issues. Her low sexual drive is from injury sustained dduring childbirth( i heard this is quite common).

i also think its quite common for women sex drive drop after child birth

[libra27]

Same here. I feel you bro

[Greenfrog]

i always got this theory, most people marry for the sake of marriage, not because they love their wives or husband.

[fxty1989]

I’m not there yet, so I won’t say anything from my view. But from what I see for the friends/colleagues around me, at least 40% of men got this issue.

[Nekofear]

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[sensationkorean]

I am married with my wife with since 23 years old, and I am 35 now. As for me,I start cheong since I had kids, until now still haven able stop,before that never cheong/cheated. Time to time I had been wondering is it normal for married guy to cheong/cheating?

Hope all Sifu here can share some of your thoughts, Thanks in advance

It is normal to cheong as for cheating i reckon most guys have the urge to do it but few has the guts to go head with the thoughts.

As long as you keep it a transactional deal and you take good care of your family. I reckon it is all good.

[littlehorsebro]

same situation here bro. anyone felt guilty or bad sometimes after doing it?

[suningreece]

look is normal , dont look then not normal :D:D:D

[sane]

U ask yourself first

1) Why u get married ? Marry to get divorce? If u cannot stick to a single person, y need to marry to 锁死自己？

Y u choose your spouse in the first place ?

2) Can you afford to lose your family?
Are you prepared to lose your kids ? Your home ?

3) U ever put in effort to strengthen your marriage?

4) You got self reflect in your own attitude?
If not , find 100 different person also end up the same.

I always find such type of person very selfish. They don’t really love anyone except for themselves. Want to play then shouldn’t get married in the first place.