Old flame wants to patch back. Need Advice...
 

Anyone has such experience where an old flame wants to come back after heated quarrel?

My mistress of many years is bugging me with a lot of threats and bitter words. Had forgiven her many many times. Always want to forgive and forget but she kept making the same mistakes over and over again! Kept threatening to break up my family and kill my family members and so on.

How would you settle it once and for all?

Had stopped seeing her for a month. Decide to continue her monthly allowance of S$1300 but do not want to carry on the relationship anymore.

Anyone has similar experience to share how you settle your case?:mad:

Re: Old flame wants to patch back. Need Advice...
 

Be faithful to yours wife and the answer will be out. :)

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all she wants.. is your $$$...
she left u so many times.. because each time she found new chai tao.. but not enough...

if i was you...

break up... then... find another 1.

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1. DO NOT follow what Abdul Razak Baginda did. The bastard was acquitted of ordering the murder of the mongolian model, where is the justice? :mad:

2. If you want to settle it once and for all, tell your wife the truth and seek her forgiveness before she get to find from your mistress. This is the most hardest and most painful thing to do but once u get it out of the way, the rest is easy to solve.

Remember that most women forgive and stand by their men if he is a good father to her children.

For examples, all of these men's wives stood by them.
Former US president Bill Clinton - Lewinsky & his cigar
Malaysian ex-minister Wong Sek Hin - caught with his pants down on video
IMF chief Strauss Kahn - had a relationship with his employee Piroska Nagy
David Beckham - has a relationship with his former PA Rebecca Loos
Wayne Rooney - Admitted to visitind FL
Ex-governor Eliot Spitzer - had relationship with a model cum high end FL Ashley Alexandra Duprey

So good luck bro and hope that things will work out well for u and your wife !


I always think that it is wiser to pay on demand than to keep a mistress.
I could be wrong but I think those guys that want to keep a mistress is because they selfishly want her exclusively for themselves and that's the price and consequences they have to face if thing doesn't work out.

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And most of the cases the mistress also cheats on the man who 'bao' her. One month $1300 like what TS says, you think it's enough for the mistress to survive?

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To whoever zapped me and left this message without identifying urself.

01-11-2008 05:03 PM boss say dont quote the whole post. zap

Please la, you could have drop me message and tell not to quote the whole post (beside the whole is not that long anyway) and I could have edit my posting and remove the quoted post. Simple as that !! Why need to resort to zapping? :)

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to protect yourself, try to record her threatening words/actions, in phone conversation or in sms, or use cam to record it. dont let her know, just use this evidence in case if something serious happen in future.

I have a friend, he was sent to jail because of this type of sour relationship. the problem is he said some life threatening words to her in person and in phone. she record it and report to police. in the end, he was being charge and sentenced to 9 months jail. she did some worst things to him, but he got no envidence. so LAN LAN... cannot fight the case .. sad story.

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in the end, you should stay faithful to your wife...

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I have different mistress everyday when i looked into FL Dome........:D
Leave her and join me........:)

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I had an almost similar experience as you, only that I'm not married. With my ex, I paid her 1.6k monthly. Each time we argue or neglect her, she'd threaten to sell herself.

Now that she's with a bald, ugly man who is around 23 years older than her, and she'd almost wasted his savings (he's only a coolie), she begins to tell me I can date her back or have part of her (which I'm sure, I need to pay).

No thanks.

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By continuing to give mthly allowance, you have not completely cut the string.
Also, this gal is a bit mental already.
If i were you, i will sort her once once and for all nice and proper.
But i'll still confess to my wife 1st, so i will have a back door to maneuver shud that woman go crazy.

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Thanks for all the different opinion but it's of not much help.. I give her monthly allowance to shut her mouth, hoping that she will stay away.

She ask to meet tomorrow. I have been ignoring her sms and phone calls for one month now.

I am thinking of changing my mobile no. and shift house. What do you guys think of?

Do I really need to confess to my wife? It's so hard to do that.... :(

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Bro, dont give in to her threat, i suggest u secretly record all the conversation whenever she threaten u, i am sure u can turn the table against her if u hav all the evidence.

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Simple, I tried this before and it works....

Tell her u got some form of STD, no need to say HIV, but choose one that states its long term...like Hep C...ask her if she mind, cause u still want to be together with her....dun sms her this information, speak to her over the phone or face-to-face so that she cannot keep what u said as evidence to blackmail u.

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tell her a lie about u having STD and cannot satisfy her. Also that bad things happened at the same time that you have lost a lot of $ in the SGX and NYSE.

Once the con job is done then you make sure you stay good to your family lor.

Satisfying her mental state of being rejected is better than you suffering mentally.