Question for married man
 

I have been lurking around without posting. I have a question for married man.

I have 2 kids and a beautiful wife. However, i feel like nothing but just a husand to my wife, father to my kids, and employee to my boss.

I have no hobbies, no interest and rarely feel joy in life. Sometime i feel like crying for no reason.

Going for massage is my form my weekly happiness. The small talk with ML. I make it a point to not repeat ML so not to develop feeling.

Any married man facing same issue?

Re: Question for married man
 

welcome to the club bro.

lots of bros here in the same situation. lucky ones have managed to divorce and find new love. unlucky ones are just stuck in the hole for their kids.

since u have kids to raise and any drama with the wife will not be good for them, take the hit and continue to be a good father and head of the house hold.

treat your weekly " massage" as your " mental health break". u are investing in your mental health so that you can be a better father to your children.

Wives are suppose to assist men with their male energy, but sadly most local women dont know this and just give us shit.

just go for your weekly release, be happy mentally, go home with empty balls and be a good father to your kids!

Do people switch ML or simply go back to the usual few?

Re: Question for married man
 

If the ML is good, stay until sian then switch.

but there are some MLs which know how to give good massages.

Re: Question for married man
 

Going through the motions is a terrible way to live. You must get away from your family for a while to find your purpose in life.

Go take a walk around a volcano by yourself.

I have been making it a point to switch ML so to not get emotionally attached. However, recently, i met a ML who is good with massage and also know how to give me warmth despite not talking much. So unsure if should continue to go to this ML.

Re: Question for married man
 

its ok to stick to the same old ML if there is a connection and her massage actually helps your body.



i have this ML ( PDMM), old auntie liao, daughter is in poly here, does incredible massage! but dunno where she go liao ( maybe return to china).

after about 2 sessions, i rejected her HJ or ZJ , and told her to extend the massage ( i still paid full price).

talking with her was nice but her massage was good.

If you don't poke your wife. Someone else will.

For now cannot poke due to child birth. When i had my first kid, only poke again after the breastfeeding stopped. So probably still need 6 months.

Re: Question for married man
 

Stay faithful to your wife bah. She is carrying your child.

Re: Question for married man
 

Common pls. Even after bf still no interest to have sex.

why the fk would you stick to one ML? they r only in it for the $$$ while you r in it for the sex or hj or whatever.

go once n move on. there is no feelings or love that the ML will have for you. it’s strictly transactional - you don’t go back to the same cai fan auntie daily do you cause she call shuai ge?

Re: Question for married man
 

I do somewhat feel the same. Then I started to look for some fun. Found 2 fb, one at work and one at my gym. Now regret because too much hassle and hard to break off. So I think just stick to your weekly massage and enjoy the peace u found at home.

I guess that is the danger of having emotion involved

Re: Question for married man
 

I try to change up MLs to ensure I don’t get attached, I don’t know if you happen to travel for work but I find that is the best for trying new things, new ladies and knowing it can all stay overseas, no risks of it coming back to bite