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I got to know this vietnamese girl at a KTV, we hit it off pretty well. Contacted each other everyday ever since we first met.

After we got real attached to each other, (well, i was. cant say bout her), I got real attracted to her when she showed signs that she was tgt with me not for my money. I would occasionally give her larger amounts when i visit her at the KTV and she would say that it is too much. When i hang out with her, and offer to pay for her cab/stuff, she would refuse to take the money.
That was 1+ month ago.

A few weeks ago, she told me that she was going back to vietnam and she would like me to come back to visit her and her family.

Few days back, she suddenly asked me to top up 200$ for a laptop she wanted to get. I can jolly well afford 200$, but i'm afraid it'll lead to more gold digging. But she didnt seem like that sort as like i said, she didnt even take money from me to pay for her cabs.

Anway, i told her business was bad and i would not be able to top up for that laptop. She sms-ed me "ok, nvm" and nvr contacted me since then. Should i get it for her?
And is it a wise choice to go with her to vietnam?

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Bro everyone is going to tell you to drop her. I will say the opposite. If you got some money and don't mind spending it on a girl and a holiday then go for it. You will have a guided tour of a Vietnam that ordinary tourists and sex tourists will never see. The chance to travel like a local and be brought to a VN home and see how they live. Even better if she is not from a big city. If the girl has any cow sense she will be very protective of your money and not let you get chopped by taxi drivers and shopkeepers because the less money you spend means the more you have left to give her at the end of your trip. What you give her as a gift at the end is up to you. I did this years ago and wish I have the chance again.

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It all up to u what u wanna do. what gold digging when u urself already keep offering her money... u already implant to her that u have money....

when she said 200 u said can. do u think she believe it :rolleyes:

anyway it already over since she stop calling u then fark it.... just remember it a cat n mouse game. u win some u lose some... if u put ur heart into it too much u will sure fall into the pit...

want frank view stop giving. since u said u dont have means dont have. there so many pussies ard. so many cute n pretty ones to play with so dont bcos she stop calling u n u start giving....

also dont go soft on her when she start calling u again... so good luck

as what abjua said... if u just wanna play play abit of money to give her and cont. the game it alright but if u really wanna go into a relationship n start providing. i advice u better not... cos u dont know where u are heading from there...hard to tell u even if u really wanna start one real relationship...

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You're attracted to a WHORE???? :eek:

You must be nuts!

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You are indeed a confused man although the facts and answers are all right in front of you!

1) One moment you said you 2 are attached to each other but you are unsure the next second

2) Next you said she is not targetting your money but are concerned of being KC over the $200 the next second

3) Now you want to follow her back to Vietnam?

4) Future Moment- Must remember bro, When in Vietnam, it is no longer a $200 issue, please add 1 more zero and once the plane take off, cannot change your mind liao, the plane will not divert back to Changi Airport :D

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Hi bro,
I only have a simple advice, take it as a vacation or going to a casino to gamble.
As long as you do not intend to gain or get anything back in return, it should be find.
Like gambling, you will never win. same with these girls, you will never win so don't put your heart in.
As long as you keep that is mind, go and spend the money and enjoy yourself to the fullest.

My humble two cents.

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I am guessing TS isn't confused betwen sincerity or motive, but rather the lust factor if she is not around anymore.

Yes, there are many pussy that can equally squeeze his dick oh so well. But addiction to a habitual companionship and sex compatibility is the downfall of men in this game. Hence, TS still ponders on it.

TS, it is not the gold digging you are fearful of. You mentioned giving her some larger amount while in KTV, shouldn't that be valid enough to promote gold digging motive in her? Why only the $200 for laptop is?

Your refusal to give was because you do not see yourself being with her all the way anymore. So you found no reason to spend this money, for you may not get back what you usually get. But now you miss the pleasure with her and you are pondering if the $200 can buy you another shot of it.

In short, you dun really need her. You need some prettier babe and a cold beer to made you more sober :p

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Actually all you needed to know you already answered yourself in the last statement!
So, since you need advise, my advise for you is to reciprocate!
Dun waste time......
As for those who told you that they'll go for it, let them take the leap of "FAITH!"
This leap, my advise is dun take.
Go there anytime you'll be flocked with so many willing guides for tours and companion till you dunno which one to pick liao........so.....next better target

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Yes, it is a superb wise choice to go Vietnam without informing her. :D

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I think anyone has freedom to go anywhere visit anyone. That is your right, your choice, no right no wrong. But I guess in your context, just stay away from her la. To be frank, for 2 persons to be really close to each other, and you thinking that she is with you not for money, she won't just disappear becos you refuse to give her 200. It may be nothing to you, it can also be nothing to her, but it shows a lot lo. To me, it shows that she is not really that close to you, at least not emotionally attached. And it also shows that you still got some defence mechanism, which is good. Dun waver in your choice if you have decided not to help her financially, one day when you calm down a little, you know this is probably the only part saving your butt from a KC trap. ;)

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I seriously agree with brother collin ... i just started being a smart samster nowdays .. don`t fall into kc of wl / fls .. will do u harm den u think ... the gfe feelings and whatever she said came with doubts ..

Think properly , consolidate ur tots and play her back la.. if u need sex den go find her , if feelings go find gal frens la ... i rather spend my money asking a date out den spend money testing a wl`s feeling for me ..

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Wow, u grew up liao.... Congrad to u :D

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$200??? come on.. wat's $200... eat a meal and it's gone.
Even for friendship's sake it's not too much money la...
Da Fang a bit and go, nobody ask u to fall in love there...:D

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Dear TS....

chinese there is a saying....."put long string catch big fish"

if she is smart enuff...she will get u emotionally involved...then later when she ask for marni...its easier....coz its more difficult to say no when u get emotionally involved....

just my 2 cents....i might be wrong....just for ur reference...

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The invincible 'King Kong' died in the hands of a woman, so are heroes.

So bro u want to be 'King Kong' or a 'hero'?

BTW, if u had followed her back to Vietnam and she had gotten some ppl to kidnap u and ask for ransom then how?

She stopped calling u just because u didnt give her $200 to buy a laptop. What kind of relationship is this?