Need some advice maybe
 

Dear Bros here,

In my previous and previous post, I have stated that I am happily married to a KTV PRC. Initially was so sweet but after some issues, she caught me steal makan and some other issues, we fell far apart. After being caught, I withdraw the relationship immediately. We dun stay together. She is in PRC and me in sillypore. Initially she say she will come over but now she say she wan to stay in china forever.
Applied PR for her already but this thing is of no use to her. She doesn;t bother about this as she wants to stay in china.
Recently I knew she got a bf(Married) and also initiate for a divorce. No money involved in that relationship.
I have suffer for more than a year now and feel so hurt everytime I think of it. I want to take care of her. That is what I thought.

Recently make a trip to vietnam and must say it is a eye opener.
Ppl there are friendly, dunno is it bcos of money involved. The ktv gal told me that he knew a sporean before and waited for him to return but he neber return and she does not regret it. I am neutral to her. No feeling for her. Just thought that is the ladies over there so sentimental?

Er... but I knew another lady who really resemble my wifey and is a little KKDD. Maybe she told me her parents is just 19 yrs older than her. Married so young? Feel a little tempted but still able to control a bit. I told myself not to bed other women again when I am still a married person. But when I think of what my wife did to me, I damn dulan liao.
Infact, why I did not want to divorce is also the shame of dovorcing a PRC when all ppl will say some PRC is not someone who can stay with you for long, blah blah blah. My ex is a local teacher and I gave up my many years relationship to be with wife.

What should I do???

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Instead of messing around with girls, you should concentrate on your career and finances.:rolleyes:

You'll have enough time and money to screw around once you've achieved financial independence.

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Braddah, you tango with PRC twice and self-destructed twice. Lost your ex and then PRC. Why do you not want to concentrate on yourself and improve yourself then go for sweet local SG gal? Don't worry about what SG society might think of you. They already take behind your back anyway for your past actions with the PRC gal. That's the past. If you can't learn from the past you will have trouble with your future gal.

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just repeat the cycle la, u already seasoned and think its fun in a way since u always steal makan ma ...:D

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Only once lah. Now bo liao. :mad:

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to be able to let go of a many years r/s and marry a ktv lady and u only tao jiak once :confused: :eek:

salute u man :D

but seriously jus let go ma, she found her guy and u still cling on can only find heart ache for urself tio bo ...

no offence ....

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Tks bro,

I know what you mean but she found a married man and this guy will not divorce. I think I will not let the woman I love to get hurt. I got to plan her future also. At least if she really found someone who will take care of her, I will let go.

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You are just consoling yourself in the blind hope that you will never have to face the music of getting a divorce.

You may love her but she definitely do not love you anymore. If you really love her, pls let her go quietly.

You married her but do not stay together. Not only that, both of you stay in 2 different COUNTRIES. This is not a healthy married life.

I am sure you like this kind of arrangement because you can have your fair share of fun going to KTVs in Singapore, Penang or China or Vietnam and bang around while at the same time chalking up large unpaid credit card bills.

Pls do not act noble and say you will let her go if she found someone who can take care of her. You have NOT taken care of her. I am sure the married guy has taken care of her in more ways than you have.

So pls do not continue to be a burden to her and just go through the divorce procedure.

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I think you hit me right there suddenly. Now thinking back, I really did not take care of her till now.
The CC bills are for some gambling debts which was chalked up before I know her. Already behind me on this gambling issue. Quit liao.
Surely I wish her to stay beside me but cos there is some issues over at her country which she cannot move to singapore at the moment.
I will use the next few days to think about what you have say.
Think most probably I have to let her know that I did not take care of her all along and if she really have to go thru the procedure, I will follow her wishes.
Thank you so much for your advise. I think its time I move on, not to find a new relationship but to make a successful career out. Really appreciate your advise if not, I will still cling to my wife, thinking that she owe me something.

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A successful and happy relationship is not based on a weighing scale of who owes who but on mutual love and respect.

If the woman loves you, she will uproot herself if necessary to be with you. If you love the woman, you will uproot yourself if necessary to be with her. It is apparent both of you do not love the other. So since there is no love, there might as well be no marriage.

You must get past this feeling of "Buay Gam Wan" or "不甘愿" or "not willing to admit defeat" and move on. Find someone who truely loves and respect you and whom you love and respect back. If not, it is better to remain single than to have a lifetime of problems.

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Boss,i agree with u

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Good advise from u bro,Ts i think bro here really wake u up cos seriously u need it which u might not know

concentrate on your career and your own family and put this past behind cos sometime some of the things must really let go:)

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Bro Golden,

yes, I agree that bro Roxey really woke me up. I am just being selfish.
Din even took care of her and just simply say love her. Action speaks louder than words. I just called her and told her that I realised I did not took care of you. Just as I want to tell her that if she wants a divorce, she can proceed but her hairdresser ask her to go wash hair liao. Will continue our conversation to9.
Thank you for all your encouragement and advice. I am now thinking of starting a small business which will not have me taking charge in 3 years and still able to generate around 5k to 8k. By that time I will think of other things. Wish me good luck.

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Glad that u listen to bro roxey.Wow your small business can generate 5k to 8k,can share share with me haha:D Good luck to u

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Yes, I will seek her advise on this and follow her wish (Divorce). If we have fate, we can still get married again right?
On the small business, it requires quite alot of capital and 1 of my friend got to quit his job to be the main sales person. I can get the goods (Legal) He got to promote it. And I hope to be a sleeping partner in 3 years time. If that is ok, then I will retire liao, spent my time to look for someone I love and she love me. lol. Below are the salary + bonus he can get in the next 5 years. Already very conservative sales figures to get this sum. Rest assure not direct sales. More to mechanical products. Now I need to work hard to get the products. Infact currently in spore, only 1 guy getting this product and he driving a merz, staying in landed. If not enough money, still can ask supporter to back up, I dun wan to use only words now. I want to achieve it in 6 months time.

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Bro Golden,
you based in singapore?