Newbie Burnt !!! :(
 

Hi all

Just relating my experience as now sitting alone at my home with a tinge of regrets. ( I stay alone and am not married )

recently started the KTV scene (never in my life) through job requirements. Went to Grand Century just to bring my suppliers to enjoy themselves on company expenditure.

Sat with a girl called xiao xi, pretty lass from Hunan. Gave me the GFE feeling, but told myself that all they are after are $$$. anyway to cut the long story short, she butterfly in and out of the room only spending about 10 mins per hr. exchange phone numbers and tip her $50 after settling the bill and thought that it would be the end.

reached home at 3am and the phone rang, she said she wanted to see me and asked whether she could come to my place??.

went to pick her up and headed straight for my place, she stayed from 4am till about 3pm and we enjoyed 2 bonks in the process. told me she's here only for 30days and would be going back on 4th dec. told me she's here for her parents and brother back home (yah....rite).

Anyway, at the end (my mistake, i did not ask for the rate), she asked for $500, SHIT !! me do not earn alot, just a salaryman... anyway, i liked the feeling being with her and she assured me next time it would be "free" as she said i am the only one she bonked with and wanted to see whether there is a future for us (????), she even asked me to spend christmas in shanghai with her.

anyway, me paid up (yah....still banging the head on the wall). though painful to my wallet, me liked her and although people warned not to get involved with KTV girls, but the heart rules.. (maybe i am at the stage of looking for a wife or long term relatoinship, and its been a while since i have been single, 33yrsold this year)

anyway, couldn;t get my mind off her after that and she called me again on friday saying to meet her after her "work". said "OK" and again went back to my place and bonked. Kept on telling myself that if she asks for $$$, its the end.... again bonked twice and she stayed till 5pm. to my surprise she did not ask for $$$ when i was sending her off, then i decided to send her back. BIG MISTAKE

along the way, her sob story came again on how she paid too much to come over (about$10000) and she's here to earn as much as possible. then she asked for $400. I was dumfounded !!! got very angry, but being a gentleman, did not show it, assured me that when i am in shanghai, she would not be asking $$$ from me...... anyway, passed her $300, told her i have no more $$$ and told her that i am sincere, and if it is $$$ she is after, please go elsewhere. She said she is not after my $$$ but she needs to make the most of the time spent here...... again sweet nothings came out like..... "we might have a future together but now i need to take care of my family etc etc"

after dropping her off, me just felt emotionally drained......its not the $$$ (though painful) it was the feeling of being taken for a ride on the first cheong.

comforted my self that it was $800 for 4 bonks, though overpaid, it was a week of education to the world of PRC girls.

Brothers, now me thinking whether when i am in shanghai to call her up again ?? me now even worried to see her before she leaves on next sat for shanghai as she might ask for $$$ again

i do not mind her past and wanted to give her a chance but......was hurt in the process.... or SHOULD I BE HURT AT ALL ???


EMOTIONALLY DRAINED NEWBIE !!

Re: Newbie Burnt !!! :(
 

If you contact her again, you're an even bigger idiot than I first thought.

The primary rule of commercial sex is to "fuck and forget". That's what commercial sex is for... pleasure minus the emotional baggage.

However, it would seem that there are tons of Samsters here that don't know how to play the game! :confused:

all those threads about.. "how to marry your tirak"...."settling down with an ex Hooker".... blah blah simply amaze me. I mean... if someone is looking for a girlfriend or wife, why the hell would they even consider someone who has been fucked by thousands of men????? It's simply mind blowing
:eek:

The beauty of commercial sex is that there are no obligations beyond the time that you've paid for and it adds spice to life with a good dose of sexual variety. However, those who start exchanging contacts with WHORES with the hope of starting a RELATIONSHIP with these disease ridden ladies are just plain morons in my books.

Re: Newbie Burnt !!! :(
 

Dun waste your effort on her anymore...dun need to be a gentleman...you try throwing temper at her and you will see her true color...

Brother, for $800 you could fly yourself to China and pick up some nice gals at SGD200 per night, and there are tons and tons of them in China...all will gives you GF feelings...and if you wanna look for a wife...there's another tons and tons of decent gals for you to get to know in China...

So brother, straighten your tots, dun even need to gives her a chances...give yourself a chance....The Label of 'Sillyporean' is powerful in China...

:D

Re: Newbie Burnt !!! :(
 

as one of my bros said..
its ok to marry a whore to b a wife..
but dun make ur wife work as a whore...
its ur pick... when the emotion thing cums... anithing can b rite or wrong..
even if its wrong.. u can cum up with a 1000 excuses to prove its rite..
frm experience..
its best to set ur objective.. wat do u wan in the end?
relationship? FF? if ur after sex in the 1st place, dun complicate things..
if u wan relationship, this gal is too lao jiao 4 u.. unless u hav tons of money to convince her to stay with u...

Re: Newbie Burnt !!! :(
 

Frankly speaking, (I don't mean to rub salt on your wounds, but salt got amazing healing power though) before I read you thread, I can roughly guess the contents. Anyway i read to confirm my guess. Yah, I am right. Another silly act where the heart overrule the toxicated brain. Look at it this way.
1. What makes you think you and her got a future together?
2.What makes you think you make a better husband as compared to a PRC chinese man ?
3. What makes you think she is single in the first place? I'm not married today literally. But in fact, I am married 8 years already.

Okay, at least you did not indulge into this "relationship?" Maybe, I can volunteer to entertain your suppliers on your behalf on your company's expenses next time. :D

Cheers.

Re: Newbie Burnt !!! :(
 

bro,

1. 1st mistake: never bring her to your home!
2. 2nd mistake: never pay her the 1st amount she asks for! if u go to prc, u will know everyone there "lion open big mouth" and they are willing to settle for half of their 1st asking price!
3. 3rd mistake: dont believe her words. she sat with u for 5 min n willing to bonk u to 'try' it out? she never bonk other men? she will spend xmas with u in shanghai? she wont ask u for money?

Re: Newbie Burnt !!! :(
 

Price is still ok if you'd enjoyed all 4 bonks ...
More priceless is the lesson that came with it ... but seems like you're still not learning thoroughly yet leh. ;)

Re: Newbie Burnt !!! :(
 

Perhaps they just needed iterative reaffirmative that their woman is very wanted?? :D

Re: Newbie Burnt !!! :(
 

from wat i hear from ur story.. i tink this chabor is very 'jing'... kind of scheming. neber easily give in to her, i guess she find tat u r very gentleman sort of person , theerfore she engaged in such plan to dig money out of u.

my advise is to cut the tie wif her and dun tink abt goin to shanghai to look for her. if u really into looking for a long term r/ship wif such gals, there r plenty of PRC gals in singapore, who r sincere in looking for someone to take care of them and giving them better life, rather than resort to such tatics to conceive others.

Re: Newbie Burnt !!! :(
 

Bro,
I think u r too " Gan Qing Yong Shi" i.e. yr heart over-rule yr mind. For all u know, she might be married or divorced with a kid in China. The way she claims abt spending S$10k to come Sin is confirm bull-shit! If that's a year back then it's possible, right now they ( PRC gals) all know that the fee is not so high ( Maybe jus 5k RMB= S$1k ) even if they ask the tour agency in China to do it for them. I personally even hear this from a PRC that they will complain to their CASE in China if they come across such con agents & the penalty is quite severe, therefore do judge for yrself.
Like yrself, I'm juz a salaried man. It's yr HARD-EARNED $$!!! Bro!!!! Cheong & 4get! dun get yrself duped by this PRCs. She keep saying abt wanting to have a future with u right? Do this to test her.....
Call her & tell her u r having trouble with the law & will need 1k cash to settle the problem immediately or else will face jail. Tell her to "lend" u 1st & u'll return her before she goes back. Then u'll see her true colours!!!!!!!!
I'm not trying to discourage u or wash u down, but i've seen too many sad & stupid con-tales by these gals to my frens & i hope u dun add in to the no. Just like wat SB says " Fuck & Forget"
Take Care Dude!!!!!!!

Re: Newbie Burnt !!! :(
 

aiayh, he spend $800 for 4 bonks, at least make it 5 or 6 then more worthwhile.

visit her in SH and get free bonk, if she want money, say got no money n look for the thousands of meimei in SH.

Newbie Burnt !!! :(
 

If the gal really gives the $ how? :(
(pls dont tell me take and run away with it hor,- I cant do it.)

I m not flaming, never underestimate these gals.
Their ability to read yr mind is amazing.

Re: Newbie Burnt !!! :(
 

actually $200 per bonk is slightly exp, esp if same partner, should hv diminishing value.

vist her at SH, is not equivalent in getting free bonk, she can come out wif another story to get more money.

Re: Newbie Burnt !!! :(
 

Bro, let this be a lesson to you then. You may feel the pain now but better late than never, at least you got 4 very expensive bonk. It is not that we must be heartless creatures towards them but we must have a clear mindset when dealing with them especially when it comes to money, pay her as per the market rate and nothing more. If she is pitiful, then where does those from NKF or some cancer society stands? There is no reason for her to cry foul for she cannot turn to police and we are not expoliting her in anyway as well.

Bottomline, we Singaporean men are suckers for that GF feeling, anyone who treat us a little better than usual, we're smittened. :o

Re: Newbie Burnt !!! :(
 

well like i said, stick to his guns n say no money. the purpose of this is to test how genuine she is. if she is money face, she will break up, but at least axcel will get his bonks before that.

when there's no gam cheng left, at least get some bonks 1st.