Changing trend: from friend to FB
 

Hi, I am a new comer here. I observed there are some trends that may or may no reflect the society at large.

FB
There seems to be a lot of ppl here with FB. I based this observation on the stories and interaction with fellow samsters. My old conservative and un lightened view before I joined SBF is couple usually started as friends. Then if can bed usually become an item or boy/girl friends and if they survived the bgr stage then husband and wife. So technically, boy/girl are FB before they become husband and wife. The relationship is in series and linear. If after marriage extra marital partners are referred to as lovers or mistress if the third party involved is a woman.

But I can see the relationship of a married couple is no more linear or straight forward anymore. We have FB r/s existing in tandem with a marriage. Single friends who are having FB but in a stunted r/s, as there is no further development beside the sexual linkage. Attitudes are more casual and relax now for both the gals and guys even for those who are married. There is more than one branches of r/s and some of these are more than friends. Again, this is formed from my short exposure here. I am not being judgmental here but just my observation.

Liberated char bo
Judging from the numerous threads in the orgies section of ladies seeking FB and mmf/ffm, I can see the ladies are taking things into their own hands. It is good luck that I manage to meet some of these ladies. It surprises me that they look so normal and serene outside. FB seekers, nah. Girls next door, YES!! It was my myopic view that these ladies should have a certain look but obviously i am wrong. Well, it seems there is a lot of unfulfilled sexual desire out there. SBF is a great liberator giving everyone a level playing field where we can be who we are without the label. Membership sure has its privilege :D

In the same conversation above, I find very enlightened and non-biased view of us guys. The ladies seem to understand that "guys are like that. Come here look for flings etc but they are ok" although not a very sophisticated description of us but it connotes acceptance and understanding. För the first time being hum sup and upfront about it is not a hindrance to friendship with the opposite sex. Just hope I can meet more of these liberated ladies in real life.

Sorry this is not a sexual post, just some sharing of my experiences here in SBF. I am a slow developer and thanks to SBF, my learning curve has been shortened. Hope others can share their experience, comment and even alternative view to the above.

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Its quite a simple equation actually...

U need it, the girl needs it, both of u have this sexual attraction = Fuck Buddies :D

At the end of the day its jus satisfying the need..be it both parties are single, or their own partners aren't meeting their wants and desires. Doesn't really take rocket science to figure it out actually. Unless either one is a sex addict :eek:

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TS, I do agree with you. I did meet women whom are in a relationshop or married with kids that are started off as friend and later become FB. Their reasons are generally

1) Lack of passion with their spouse
2) Try something for a change - Like you have to much Macdonalds and want to try KFC
3) I am discreet, tell no one about it and will not msg them on family timing
4) I told them I am "wolf" right from the beginning and never pretend to be gentleman
5) Definitely no looking into destroying their family/relationship as I am married myself. I make it clear to them that I will not divorce right from the beginning too.

Shit, wife coming.. post more later :P

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IMAX, support but may not be majority view.

Re: Changing trend: from friend to FB
 

Whatever flings, FB, swings etc have being happening all the while. It only under wraps cause its still a taboo issue in Singapore. TS welcome to the liberated world, open your eyes wider.

Re: Changing trend: from friend to FB
 

Hi Andy bro. Thanks for dropping by. Any view on the topic?

Sexual needs are hidden desire. Although not rocket science but without this forum none the wiser and we maybe forever live in the dark ages.

Bro thanking you for taking "great risk" to hammer out the above post. :D Yöu are fortunate to have a family and a FB existing in equilibrium. Set your boundary condition right and you will have a rewarding experience with your FB without upsetting your family life balance.

Look forward to hear from you.

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Bro option69, care to elaborate which view of the two is not majority? I am sure whatever going on here from my observation is not the mainstream. However, my gut feel is it is more prevalent now than say ten years ago.

Hope to see yöu around.

Hahaha ya this this website makes me feel like a frog in a well. Membership had provided an access for this poor froggie to step out. There's a whole new world out there without boundary :D.

Re: Changing trend: from friend to FB
 

camping here:D

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Bros, anyone can tell me how a girl can become your fb? You can't make moves towards girls you're close to in case they reject you and think you're some sick psychopath. That way, the friendship will be ruined too

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Bro KaChngLi
Thread a bit cold. Don't catch cold hahaha. Seriously, this is one of those two way thread where contribution will enhance it. Some warm words from you to chase away the cold :D

Bro BMW69
Thanks for your post. I don't know whether you are referring to SBF or society at large. In SBF, being a sex forum, if you ask and get rejected then there is no hard feeling. Out there u have to trust your feeling. Let me elaborate.

SBF
This is a sex forum and all of us is just an electronic blip. It is through our writing and posting we build a profile. Post more and spend some thought on each post will sure enhance your profile. Secondly build a network of friends of both sexes. From these activities samsters will know you and what you stand for. Those interested will present themselves. You should be able to identify the samster that want you as fb and take it from there.

Society
If you have being around probably you will have a group of friends of both sexes. You can convert some of these friends into your FB. High chance group is those you have close connection with, both physically (past) or emotionally. Since fb r/s is sex related, sexual or r/s topic can be discussed, via email and face to face contact. If she is receptive, you wait for the right moment to pop the question.

The above are my sharing of limited experience. Hope it answer your question, bro BMW69.

Andy
I share your concern of being slapped or zapped here. You just have have to post more and share more to build your profile. The only skill if you can call it that way is "honesty" and "thick skin". Too risk averse, better don't go chiongg especially if u r married.

Thanks för coming back to support.

Re: Changing trend: from friend to FB
 

let me share...... is from wat i think la.

many of us in tis forum (including me), s derived from an action, tat i deemed it as 'bo-liao' in e first place. after finishing our work, our family commitments, etc.... then we ll log in to read or post.

next, we r in here cos we r at a point of life where we feel stagnanted. like loss of feeling for e old wives/hubby, long time gf/bf, etc.... tat we r looking for some spice, somewhere in tis forum.

so watever happens here after logging out, got FBs anot, etc.... we shd feel tat life s wonderful, rather than harp on many 'bo-liao' issues....

hope everyone s enjoying their writing flair n enjoy reading.

but for a minority who's looking to steal some quick bucks here, beware! samsters here r too smart to let u con our well-deserved $$$.

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Hi Bro

Hope u don't mind me participating in ur thread. Read it, & found it interesting due to its psycho-socio analysis properties, & will b upping u in due course once I have my powers...

I can't share much tho, but I never believed in classifying human r/s into marriage, flings, FWBs, FBs, friends, e.t.c. Makes Life simpler, the way Life was supposed to be, I guess...

Re: Changing trend: from friend to FB
 

Yeah I agree. I myself initially thought that I am having more FBs due to the fact that I was older and every lady around me grew older and more daring/desperate. But I was wrong. Even the younger girls are in it as well. I think nature is taking over our so called socially built morales. Nothing beats nature in the long run.

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We have lost the moral battle that is why our generation and the next are behaving like the inhabitants of Sodom and Gomorah.

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so if yr gf or wife is fucking ard? u guys are okay?