the 3 that changed me
 

was encouraged by a few bros to share my story here...and much of it is still fresh, it took me awhile to decide to pen it down.
Disclaimer: If ure expecting a sexciting start, well, that probably doesn't come till much later and isnt going to be as exciting as some stories Ive read...s, if you would, thanks for reading...
[names changed to protect privacy of individuals]
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I was a late bloomer. My first real date was when i was 25; and my first time at any form of any sexual relations even later. But I'll get there in time.
3 guys changed my life in different ways, to become the person i am today..

Numero Uno: K
K and I met while we were working at one of the banks. He was 4 years older at 29 when we met, tall (ard 1.8m) and well-groomed, probably due to his job as a banker, which required him to face his clients at any time. From exchanging mails, to phone calls, makan sessions, we soon got together but it wasn't met with approval. Because K had a reputation of being abit of a playboy. Being in the honeymoon period, I brushed it aside and didnt think too much about it. Time would tell. And indeed it did.

For awhile, K was the perfect bf. Which girl wouldn't appreciate gentlemanly like gestures like opening doors, accompanying on shopping trips, during dinner cutting up the meats/de-boning the fish etc for me; delivering lunch over when i was too busy to get my own (from Orchard to Raffles Place) and when i seemed under the weather, got me herbal tea...
Then his old habits kicked in, and I saw it with my own eyes as it all slowly unfolded before me...

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share freely sis. first camper reporting!

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Keep going sista!!!! Here to support :D

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wah 2nd camper here! :D

nice to hear stories from a different perspective.

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Chalet finally built!

Camp fire: checked
BBQ pit: checked
Food: checked
Refreshment: checked
Camera: checked
Pajamas: checked

Ready and waiting

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Even before that, I was already becoming aware of some of K's less than desirable traits.
His drinking- lost count of how many times he got alcohol poisoning
The speed demon in him- he loved to drive at high speeds of at least 120km/h. It wasn't that much of a worry for me until he upgraded from a cute japanese sedan to a Mercedes SLK XXX series (he of cos did some 'upgrades' ard to the suspensions, tyres/rims & i 4got what else that he mentioned t me)
Clubbing- at least 4/7 days a week (there's where I later learnt, he had met many of the girls he hooked u with).

Back to the main story.
I first saw for myself the potential that the rumours being a playboy during a rare occasion when I decided to join him and his colleagues for drinks after work when some work issues cropped up.

Me (texting K): Dardar, work got prob. Maybe cannot join u all liaoz :(
K: huh? how come? i already order food for my princess cos u said u hungry.
Me: sry sry!! u eat lorz. See hw, if i can make it down, i'll text u again k? *muacks*
K: okie. <333

incredibly, the problem was resolved more easily than I thought. Maybe I should go give K a surprise.

Me (texting K): drunk yet? or still got round 2 at[name of his fav club]?
K: haha. see me no up! we waiting for PL then go over there. fella just called say he going pick up gf now then come down.

reading that, i calculated. it would take me 15 mins to reach where K was, while PL would take at least 40 mins from his gf's place. decided to proceed with plan. texted K to enjoy himself but don't get too drunk blah blah...the usual things lahz

I was smiling to myself as I walked into the pub, imaging the surprise on K's face. He would be surprised. but not the way I imagined it to be.
For what I saw, made my smile fade from my face...

The bunch of them were seated in the corner seat which had a few stools and a sofa that could accommodate about 3. A couple XY & M were seated on one end, and on the other, I saw K...and this girl A, seated (but imo, it was really squeezed in) beside him, he was saying something to her, and she was smiling, blushing abit- i couldnt tell properly due to the lighting. His arm was pressed against her boob (about a large C-cup, making me feel inferior already) and one of her hand was on his lap, her finger stroking his thigh.
Perhaps it was shock that kept me rooted to the spot. Perhaps i was unconsciously waiting to see him push her hand away.
But all i saw was her hand snaking higher up and towards his inner thigh and then I suddenly found myself walking over and slapping her hand away.

Me: WTF do you think you are doing?
(i generally do not use swear words. unless severely provoked. This was such a case)
A: I.. erh (at obvious loss of words)
K: Relax princess, A was just sharing with me a story about her bf. U know D right?
Me: And the story involved demonstrations? like this? (as i said this, I repeated the same actions A did a few moments ago)
A: (recovering abit and play along with K) Erh yah, was telling K how ticklish D is when I do that

(to myself: yea right. like I believe)
but since I couldn't prove anything else, I had to let it rest. for now.
spent the night ignoring K and A, but hung around just to keep an eye on them. It was from hereon, an uneasiness was born in me...

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thank u all for ur support. pls be patient with me though as i'm typing this as i dig out those memories i buried long ago :)

welcome! well, i aim to please & i keep my word :)

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It isn't easy digging up memories that was buried deep down. I m doing that too. I know the uneasiness and unwillingness, but there is a sweet sting to that. If you are not uncomfortable with this, better dun let it surface.

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K spent the next day trying to coax me back to my usual good mood. it was the first time he'd seen me that worked up.
Knowing my weakness for ice-cream, he bought pints of B&Js to appease me.
I'm not the type to stay angry long so after a pint of B&Js, I was back to my usual cheery mood.

The uneasiness however, did not go away completely.
I began hearing more 'rumours' about K, and gradually even the name of the girls he had been involved with before.
(those who work in the bank would know, the industry gossip grapevine is notorious, and i had close friends in the know who would share with me, plus i would also grow to learn that it wasn't uncommon for any of them to sleep around, yes, even those who were married)

one night, we were supposed to go clubbing with our colleagues again. I wasn't too happy to hear A was going too. But i had no reason to object to her going. plus, doing so would only portray me as petty and narrow-minded? The upside was, my colleagues who were coming along were among my closest friends and i felt comforted by their presence, if the situation would require it.

As luck would have it, I had a severe case of diarrhea so headed home to rest. However, I persuaded my colleagues to go ahead anyway as i didn't want to deprive them of their fun and also, i wanted them to help me observe K and A.

*beep beep*
I was awoken from my light sleep by the sound of an incoming message.
it was 11.40pm

SH (my male colleague who went clubbing): Eh, we're at [name] club, and K is dancing with A now, damn hot la. i think really got something between them.

(if u wonder why SH will spill the beans on another guy, well, SH was a longtime friend of mine from JC times, and was like a younger brother to me. I had also recommended him for his current job when i heard the company had a vacancy & he was looking for a position in a bank)

me: (trying to find excuses-loopholes) u sure? maybe just stand very close?
SH: eh, hello sis, u see urself.

SH had sent me a rather grainy video, but it wasn't too hard to spot K & A given his height, and then as I recalled, A's preference to wear white as much as she could.
As far as I could tell, it wasn't just dancing. it was dirty dancing- with them both grinding against each other, K's hands roving on A's body- her waist, tummy and further up...[end of video]
I felt sick at that point. the uneasiness multiplied in me as i seeked excuses to explain the scene.

me: SH, please tell me that is all they did

in answer to my question, *beep*
i received a second mms video from SH

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this part though painful in its own way, wast the worst actually as u will find out.

i have to admit though, there was a trigger today that made me make up my mind to do this....

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Fond memories or otherwise:confused: waiting for further development :)

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at times it is good to let out your own feelings.

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i opened the MMS with much apprehensiveness
i did contemplate erasing without looking but, could I really stand not knowing the truth?

I played the mms video
K and A were still on the dance floor, but A was now facing K and despite the grainy video, I could see that they were unmistakeably making out.
Those same hands that held me, that caressed me, were now doing the same to another woman.
It hurt.
but even more when i realized, they should be aware that my colleagues, my friends were there, and yet they were doing this openly, without and regard for me?

*beep*
my phone signaled a third message coming through

SH: they leaving. just the 2 of them only i think. do u want me help u follow them?
me: (without much consideration) yes. please. if u can. I have to know. thank you
SH: ok. keep u updated. and sis, hey, hang in there ok? whatever it is, u still got us, ur friends supporting u yeah?

I read SH's text numbly. I had only felt anger, a sense of betrayal till then, that i didn't notice the tears rolling down.
As I sat there, all kinds of thoughts flew through my mind.
I even contemplated calling K up, but stopped myself in time, before i hit the 'dial' button. This was my best chance to find out the truth.

*beep*
SH: Followed them in cab, but lost track of them. K drive too fast. Did u ever tell him that btw? They were heading westwards... K stay at west side right?

my heart sank. K indeed lived at the west side. A on the other hand, had always boasted about living near enough to ECP to enjoy the seaview from her flat.

me: SH, i give u K's address, can u do me a huge favour. just confirm if his car [car licence plate no] is parked there. get taxi driver to drive past and see.
SH: ok. eh, sis, u ok or not? im worried. ure too calm
me: pls, just help me confirm this now.

after putting down the phone, i quickly got dressed.
it would take me 35 mins to get to K's place.
I grabbed my phone, my purse, a bunch of keys and headed out.

perhaps i was being rash.
but i just hated not knowing the truth
even if the truth hurt.
being kept in the dark, not knowing, like a fool, hurt more

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Toasting marshmallows :)

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waiting for more..:D