Close friends between man n woman
 

Normal opposite sex friendship seems manageable, close friends just impossible. Like what its like in movie "When Harry met Sally", sex always gets in the way.

Guys, is sex always on your agenda with your close female friends u are attracted to? Would u hold back or forgo the sex part if u value the friendship?

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Sex is always on a guy's mind, thinking of all the wonderful possibilities...but that does not mean a close relationship cannot develop without the sexual tensions. Depends a lot on both parties.

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I forgo several chance in the past..

I value friendship more than sex.. Still having them as close friends

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well done +1 for you

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Yes, sis edyta, i tink it is possible for some guys to do so, at least i do...

but i concede tat it is really not going to be easy for guys to do tat as most of us are horny by nature...however, i believe if a guy really likes or loves a gal n value the friendship wif her tat much, he would seek her overall happiness and well being 1st in day-to-day life matters which we are all faced wif by extending to her all the necessary help she needs within his capability like in a brother/sister r/s...and if ever sex does come into the picture n develops mutually at the end of it all, it shows the relationship has been growing healthily n is blooming into a real love r/s which would make the r/s tat much sweeter as it goes along happily wif passing time...jus my 4 cents worth of tots for u, sis...

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Sex isn't always on my mind. I have a really close friend that I tell everything to whom I treat as a younger sister. When she Zaogeng I told her, when she nip slip or if her bra is exposed, I tell her. Never once did I get a hard on looking at her when that happened and mind you she's a really hot syt. Before we became so close, I admit that I lusted for her. But now, our friendship trumps everything else.

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It may be a matter of time. What if you see her 5 times a week and for more than 10 years?

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I guess it has to be mutual? some girls can be pure friends where else some other girls will think they are not attractive enough for you to want to woo them so will try to push the limit and seduce you.

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Bullshit.. :rolleyes:

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Eh I seriously got female gd frds...even if she strips and offers me I won't take too...
Why spoil the friendship...where I can go fl or geylang...

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I value friendships as much as sex. If sex is always start on one's mind, the chances of blowing up a platonic friendship is there.

I have several chances but I do not know how to 'test' water hence its better for me to stay on the shore. However there are also times girls wanna test water on me and thats where the challenge comes. So far I have not succeeded and vice versa, it will drag for a long long time.

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You said:" even if.." so this is just your assumption.

I guess if she is attractive and she strip in front of you in real life, I think you will not resist.

That's why we say :"small head ruled over big head!". :cool:

Well.. how do you know that it will spoil the frienship as a result?

Maybe your and her can become more than just friends, who knows, right?

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Weird....for me it had always been the other way round. I had close female friends and we hit the zone where it's either we remain as friends or a relationship. We stayed as friends. Mutually agreed that the chemistry was just not there to take it to the next level. WAS regarded like their BFF until they find themselves a bf and I was dumped like a rock in the deep ocean.

The level of intimacy was just like with any buddies. Never crossed the line of sticking my dicky in them.

Maybe it's just me....I just treat them like any other guy friend and while there are fleeting moments of horny tots. It had never translated to any real action.

Failed on too many such platonic relationships that I've given up.

They're all pretty girls. So much so that their other guy friends are so jealous of how close we are. Think that might have been the issue too when they actually find themselves a bf.

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Yes. I treasure friendship than just sex too...
I do have several close friend (opposite sex) which very close till now...

One was an ex of mine, whom we maintain as very good friend till now. Never had sex after we broke up... Sometimes it's better to maintain as friend than lover...

Another one whom she think I'm 'gay'... Reason being that there's several occasion that we had high chance ending up having sex, but we never... We used to went for short trip together... Sleep on same bed... Even went to spa together, and get naked together in the jacuzzi... But nothing happened between us...

The last 'friend' is one whom we never have sex... But do admit that we did heavy petting before... But no sex.. If sex is penetration :)

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Well they are attractive enough to turn heads.
we talk abt it on the sex thing and we too agreed the sex will spoil our friendship..we went on hols together with 3 of us sharing a single queen bed.

There are some thing friends value each other more than sex.

And I am not those person that small head rules over or what la...
There is a word called self- discipline. Which over the years had become a gd habit of mine. :)