Lost interest in sex wif Hubby
 

Ladies pls come in ... If you are facing the same problem in sex life. Or share with me yr opinion. Appreciate it .

Im in early 30s, married with 1 kid and i realise i dont seem to enjoy my sex with my hubby anymore. I dont get turn on easily so no matter how he tease me i just dont feel like doing or even wet. I consider myself a person who get wet easily maybe cos maybe im a "Fei Mei" I dont know issit becos i no long love him as i married to him young n we are in our 11year marriage. He will only come to me when he need it if not he will be in hall watching his fav show till midnight so this make me feel that im just a sex toy to him. He only care abt himself, he cum easily and i like long session so sometime i feel his jus too selfish... Haha maybe im jus too good and he just cant ctrl ... Haha:D

Actually We hardly talk much except things on kid. I find he talk more to his biz partner or friend more than me. On that particular day if he need me, he will be very nice to me and i will knw his horny on that day. But nowaday i try to reject him telling him in tired etc. any excuse to turn him off.
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Few month back, i met a gal and i dont knw shes a les until 1 day she suddenly give me a kiss on my lip. I was bit shock as i had been nvr so closed to a gal. She treat me very well as in more caring toward me etc. she was jus like my big sis but infact she younger then me. I knew she like me and i did tell her im a married women but she dont mind. I trying to treat her as a friend who i can talk to. We did went out often to had dinner/shopping or even movies. She hold my hand n i rejected as i feel so awkward. But i do enjoy her company, until 1 day i realise whenever i met her i jus feel uneasy so i went to toilet to check it jus incase it menses or whatever. To my surprise, my panty is always wet n sticky when im with her, i do not know why too. We never had any other action except she will kiss my lip when i walk her home.

So i start to check is that the real course cos im with her so she make me wet. I start to monitor, and to my surprise every meet up my panty is wet. Or maybe im looking forward something ... I dont know.
But i had stop seeing her now, we do still keep contact in whatsapp but i find shes jus too young to understand my situation or maybe she lonely too. She told me i treat her well n v caring toward her.

So you guy see, a caring les can make me so wet, why cant my hubby ? Becos i no longer love him ?????

Sighz...

Re: Lost interest in sex wif Hubby
 

I always think that what can make someone less interested in someone is that you are unhappy about him in certain part of your life that in turn you don't really want to have anything in contact with him.

Ask yourself lor, do you dislike anything he does in his life? If you guys can work it out, pretty sure one day you will be all wet for him again.

Can't be after 11 years of marriage than you think that you like girls more than guys? Or was it already wrong in the first place. Since you mention caring, is your hubby caring enough?

Re: Lost interest in sex wif Hubby
 

Sex, for most people at least, is a highly emotional experience. But the context of sex is what determines whether it heightens emotional pleasure, or causes emotional distress.However, that is not what she or you found, at least not at the level of attraction. Anyway bear in mind, there are less advantages more than disadvantages of lesbian relationships. Lesbian relationship can change your life forever but it can also be changed in unexpected and drastic ways so think extremely carefully, my opinion

Re: Lost interest in sex wif Hubby
 

You need to speak out to your hubby, let him know what you want and how you feel....some man tend to forget about pampering their wife after a few years or when after they have kids, thinking that everything is fine as long as he don't flirt outside...

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Go ahead and make urself happy. It's very near to doom's day anyway. Kid is innocent so do weight the pros and cons good.

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Hi xuan,
My hubby is like a wooden log, as what his family/sibling say that. Right at the beginning of the rs, we nvr even hold hand. Even now i try to hold him when crossing the road but he shake it off saying he feel uneasy as his other hand is holding my son. He is obviously not those caring type. Is not im picking on him, i feel tired to quarrel on all these little thing. His friend did told him off sometime as when we are all out for dinner, his frd would even pick the dishes for me but my hb just be bother at all. He hardly at home also, either his alone with my son or im alone with my son.. I use to be a housewife when my son was still young but i feel tired to wait for him to come home at 11-12am eating my home cook food. So after my son is old enough to put in childcare, i came out to work again n still the same he came home same timing. I m always the one who taking care the house doing housechore ...

I feel im tired to nag or talk as i try to talk to him before often end up in quarreling... Black face 😔

I did talk to HER on my family matter so she console me alot actually. Maybe from there she feel pity in me and like me bah...

Re: Lost interest in sex wif Hubby
 

Talk before, he dont even reply me, keep watching the TV. Before slp talk to him, he say his tired tmr working ...

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Infact i realise some of samster face the same problem, either unhappy with hubby or wife thats how we all end up here in SBF to vent vent vent/ share the information how to improve...Tio bo? Of course they are some happy family but you ask yourself why are you here ? Cannot be jus wanna widen yr friend circle mah... :cool::p

Re: Lost interest in sex wif Hubby
 

Hi chermineng, that's where sites like Ashleymadison sprout and thrive. For you wanting something your husband can't satisfy.

You're in luck cos a les has already picked you up so its whether you wanna advance further with her.

Also, you are in a male dominated forum. So I guess lots of vultures would like to get a taste of this "cougar", MILF.... whatever fetish name. :cool:

Re: Lost interest in sex wif Hubby
 

Haha what a nice name lor 😜, but i try to be friend lah as i dont want to hurt her as she younger then me. Althought it sound interesting for me to had a les galfriend lah, nvr try before lor... Maybe im looking forward hahhaha :D see dick before but never see other gal pussy before lah... 😊😊 shy shy ...Keke😝😜✌️
At least i wont get preg hor ... Ahhhhh

Re: Lost interest in sex wif Hubby
 

Sounds like the problem was already there from the start. Seems like either he start doing something or you two will just end up with affairs outside no no?

It's like the same reason I don't look for FL. If you can't feel the right feeling, even if you're so damn hot. I won't get a hard on.

Re: Lost interest in sex wif Hubby
 

Xuan, ya lah... Must had Feel thats is for sure leh.. V important. Yes problem already there many years jus that it nvr been resolve. I had been patient for many years lor... I nvr flirt outside hor;)

Re: Lost interest in sex wif Hubby
 

What type of industry is your husband in? Why does he have to work till 11-12am? Daily?

Most guys cannot last more than 15 mins of continuous insertion. A second time maybe needed to last longer but that provided he's fit enough to withstand the tiredness. If one don't exercise enough, it's hard, unless of course, he cannot even last on the second shoot. It's too bad then but what's worse is becoming lesbians to satisfy yourself.

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For a start, marriage is never easy to maintain and for the fact that you're into the 11th year, it's quiet amazing already.

Now, maintaining a relationship (regardless married or not) takes both hands to clap. I guess the reason why you are not getting turned on with him is because what he does is too "expected". 11 years into the marriage, what do you expect? I believe that your guy needs to take the extra effort in getting you turned on. Meaning, he will have to think out of the box rather than "the usuals", which is deemed boring to you. Can you imagine eating chicken rice with the same stuff on the rice for 11 years???? OMG!! ultra turn off at the sight of it. LOL!!

Guys sometimes will take things for granted. That is why through communication, you're able to tell him that you feel neglected and you wanna feel turned on again by him and he has to try harder. If you are afraid of hurting his feeling, try something tactful like going shopping for sex toys.....

Next, for your "new" found female friend. I think you are being turned on by her is because she's "new" and something that you have yet to try and you might have a hidden fetish of trying a female. No harm having some fun with females but do bear in mind that anything that is done too much is not healthy.

In short, I believe your guy deserves a second chance and you should talk to him. For all you know, you might get turned on again and have more fun in the bedroom.

Good luck!!

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Re: Lost interest in sex wif Hubby
 

Hi sis, maybe Alot couples facing such problems as years passed. Everytime we said communication and communication, but end of day we still stucked somewhere and somehow. You love him that's how both of you ended up together, after 11years it's more of natural to have certain things drifted away.

My suggestion is how about have a talk with him first to test him out, maybe put ur kid with ur parents and get on a holiday to improve on Better relation.

I know man are selfish, when he need, he comes to you, but when you need, he turns you off. That's pretty common to some couples out there, there are 101 ways to improve this situation. No harm trying..