Overcoming Traumatic Sex & Enjoying
 

This’s my personal account of my unusual & true experience.

Before marriage, I’m a virgin & have never read anything on sexual topics. After my 1st intercourse, the mild pain on my genitals lasted 7 days & mild bleeding for 4 days. Due to my genital not been strong to withstand orgasm, I have constipation for 2 days, harden nipples / clitoris for 1 day & tighten virginal/ anus wall for 1 day. I need to drink orange juice to clear constipation. My body & cardio muscle is not fit for intense sex. I have muscle ach, feeling restless / tired & keep coughing out phlegm for 1 day.

The after effect of intense orgasm makes me feel uneasy to put undergarment & walk in public. All I want is to be naked, hug & cuddle my spouse on the bed all day long.

I suffer the same discomfort on the 2nd~5th session. The only difference is my vagina no longer bleeds from the 5th session onwards. Wanting to stop this problem, I decide to read up on sexual topic & this eventually turns on my interest on sex.

I find out that the usual penis size is around 13~14 cm long and 2 finger thick. For most instance, sexual intercourse only last 5~15 minutes. Anal sex is never part of sexual intercourse. Kegel method can’t be applied because his penis is overly huge for my weak vagina to cope.

(Part 1 of 3)

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The below are my experience with huge penis.

My spouse’s penis is 20cm long and 4 finger thick. Our sexual intercourse session lasted 8 hours each for both vagina and anal. Since this is his natural thing, I can/ have to accept my spouse’s unusually huge genitals that lead to his astonishing level of performance.

During foreplay, I notice that his penis is very tiny initially. After BBBJ his penis, it get harden and larger/ thicker monumentally. Then it turned soft slightly. When I continue BBBJ, it gets harder. But it’s larger/thicker than before. This cycle repeat several times. When it goes to 20cm long and 4 fingers thick, there is no way my month can accommodate. His scrotum is unusually large for my month to take too.

We examine each other’s genital and find the urinal canal and anal canal can be penetrated. Urinal canal is able to accommodate 1 finger. Anal canal can accommodate a penis. That is what leads us to anal intercourse.

We don’t use condom during sex. We adopted the safety period after menstruation because we do not intend to have kids yet. During sex, intense orgasm makes my heart beat racing and I can feel breathless at times because the unusually huge penis is able to fill all area of my vagina. It is like doing a run or taking a roller coaster ride. I can feel my mind spinning. This spinning effect is pleasurable and excites me most. My stomach was tumbling. My nipples / clitoris feel hard and sensitive. My butt feels numb.

When his penis is in my vagina, I can feel that it grows in size and shrink back a little. The start of orgasm has the hardest erection. When orgasm ends, it softens a bit. This cycle keep repeating. Clitoris orgasm is good for foreplay. Urethane/ g-spot stimulation is good for vagina orgasm & cervix (requires a long penis to reach) stimulation is good for full body orgasm. This cycle again, must repeat for max pleasure.

We have toilet/ snack/ water break in between for the entire 8 hours session. After 8 hours of vagina penetration throughout the Friday night, we took a nag. Thereafter it is Saturday early morning; we continue another 8 hours of anal penetration. Anal is similar to vagina & provide similar pleasure. Except vagina don’t require elmering.

The final set is having me using a strap-on to penetrate his anal. But my body is weak & can only do this for 15 minutes. When the session ended, we slept.

(Part 2 of 3)

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The below is how I train myself to take on huge penis; & the new me.

I go to gym & have run regularly to train my body & cardio muscle. Before sleep, I insert dido to my 3 holes to leave it overnight. I progressively increase the thickness of the dido.

Recently, I have my 6th session. There’s no longer genital after pain. During orgasm, I feel myself been in a trace that’s far more pleasurable than before. It’s kind like tantric sex. I feel fresh. My spouse can feel my vagina providing stronger grip on his penis which in-turn give him a better pleasure.

During female dominatrix with strap-on, I last very much longer. He can feel his prostate been massage. As previously agreed, I cross-dress him. During intense male anal orgasm, he moans like a lady. This really excites me. I can see steam of white milky juice flowing out from his un-erected penis.

Now, I don’t feel uneasy with sex anyone & I always look forward to my next session with my spouse.

In conclusion, I do think that proper education on sex move is important prior to marriage. For the gentlemen, never enlarge your penis due to ego. Also couple must be frank to each other on sexual issue to avoid the guessing game that creates distrust.

(Part 3 of 3)

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HI TS, I came across this product http://www.toymakerproject.com/hammer/

The toy will light up pending the strength you use. Great for training, I'm not sure if the product will be commercialized.

Cheers on your training program. Have fun!

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If its good, i am sure it will in the future ;)

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4 finger thick?????!!!!

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Definitely agree on this, this is one of the best advice i have seen around lately.

Appreciate the sharing of your experience. It fills the world with hope when there we find ladies who are open to experiement and improve the couple overall sexual lives.

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Too huge is a problem:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n3qd5wmuRvU

Please up my points & I’ll up you back. Thk!
Milestone of Kim Jio Kah: http://sammyboyforum.nl/showthread.php?t=427518
H57 Far Kor Sun Monkey God Temple 花果山福廣宫: http://sammyboyforum.nl/showthread.php?t=427313
My ex significant other H7R4L2 WL: http://sammyboyforum.nl/showthread.php?t=17758 & http://sammyboyforum.nl/showthread.php?t=409402

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Very true also :o

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Wow, your partner is really thick.
Exercise is good, but don't think it is a good idea to insert the didos overnight.
increase the duration slowly. you are guys really into marathon lol:)

my wife did complain at the beginning of our marriage about mine too, we both went for regular exercise and cut down the duration of penetrative sex, and spend more time on oral - both parties. ;)

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Thank you! Here’s another dido for FTM (female to male) transgender: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rBza8BukUo8

This was a problem I used to have.

Actually, I have stopped inserting dido overnight after able to sexually perform. I only have penetrative sex with my hubby once a month because we are doing bareback, we agree not to have frequent sex to prevent addiction & he has reveal to me that gentlemen can become fatigue from frequently losing sperm. Usually, we only have foreplay & no masturbation etc.

Overcoming Traumatic Sex & Enjoying: http://www.sammyboyforum.com/showthr...9#post12672529

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Hey Sis, you have forgotten to tell everyone that you need to put on an ultra-tight shape wear type undies to prevent the didos from coming off by itself if leaving it overnight. Also, in double penetration dido act, no foreplay is to be done. If vagina is wet the anal closed up. If the anal is stimulated, the vagina closed up. Therefore, can only use KY to insert both didos in one go.

Thanks a million for upping my points!
Milestone of Kim Jio Kah: http://sammyboyforum.nl/showthread.php?t=427518
H57 Far Kor Sun Monkey God Temple 花果山福廣宫: http://sammyboyforum.nl/showthread.php?t=427313
My ex significant other H7R4L2 WL: http://sammyboyforum.nl/showthread.php?t=17758 & http://sammyboyforum.nl/showthread.php?t=409402

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You are right. Tanks for the reminder! In addition, during vagina orgasm, the anal tightening sensation makes me wanting to have an anal sex. When my anal orgasm; my vagina tightens. While the penis is stimulating the g-sport & cervix through the tighten vagina wall, I feel like heaven. I do find that anal alone is enough & has no risk of pregnancy.

Also, I like to sleep nude. That’s why I stopped wearing ultra-tight shapewear undies to prevent didos from slipping off. It’s difficult to do this in the day because it’s difficult to pee with dido inside.

Overcoming Traumatic Sex & Enjoying: http://www.sammyboyforum.com/showthr...9#post12672529

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Thanks for sharing your experience.

No many people are sexually adventurous to engage and enjoy dual stimulation. For many of my friends and associates who enjoys, they say that it is like a whole new heaven of pleasure and orgasm.

From the experiences of many, the anus, like the vagina is a muscle. It has to be stretch progressively over a period for the muscle to gain its flexibility, which otherwise it might tear too.

Using a smooth dildo or anal plug, and increase its size progessively is helpful. For safety, i always recommend to lube up. ;)

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What I Learned When I Lost My Virginity On My Wedding Night

Adopted from Cosmopolitan Philippines: http://www.cosmo.ph/sex-relationship...urce=hootsuite

'Mark my words: It really takes two selfless people to have the most fulfilling and satisfying sex life.'
by Selah

My husband and I lie on our bed and stare at each other for a long time after making love. That's one of my most favorite moments in the whole "sexperience": that moment after the climax that causes us to become absolutely satisfied and incredibly relaxed. We just stay still and hold each other, and feel our heartbeats slow down.

Sometimes we fall into the sweetest sleep, naked in each other's arms. Other times, we dive into the deepest, most honest conversations and express our love and appreciation for each other. I particularly love the latter. One time, after a long period of peaceful silence, I asked, curious as always, "What are you thinking?" I'll never forget what he said. He smiled at me and without blinking an eye, replied "I am so happy we waited." Those words ring more and more true to me every day.

My husband and I dated for three years before getting married, and believe it or not we had our first kiss on the altar, just after he lifted my veil. I remember my friend's comment the morning after the historic wedding night, "First kiss and devirginized in one night?! ZERO to HERO!"
I really did feel like a hero—actually, even more so when my experience was zero. Anyone can have sex. But to wait for the right time? It's seriously hard! The constant denial of the desire, the teamwork it took to push each other to stay committed in remaining pure, the discipline, self-control, and integrity we had to uphold—I can honestly say, by the time we met in the aisle, we were completely different people. We had built a set of values, a singular mindset, and a lifestyle of honoring and respecting each other above ourselves and staying true to our word. Call me old-fashioned but it is these values that make pure marital sex unlike any sex out there, I believe. There is nothing like giving your body to your spouse without any hint of fear or doubt because you know your future's secure and you've proven your faithfulness to each other.

People often asked, "How will you enjoy sex if you never practiced? How will you know if you're even sexually compatible?" That always made me laugh. I believe the greatest preparation and foundation for the most pleasurable marital sex is not experimentation and experience but of building a solid trust and commitment with each other and maturing together to the point of being selfless. Mark my words: It really takes two selfless people to have the most fulfilling and satisfying sex life.

My husband and I have been married for exactly 11 days. We've been having sex every day, and ever since the third time we did it, we've both been having simultaneous orgasms—as he ejaculates, I ALWAYS squirt (a lot).

If you're experienced, you know that climaxing with your partner is difficult in itself. It is, after all, what every couple strives to achieve in sex. So coming together all the time is pretty excellent. What more, squirting is even more rare. And squirting a lot (I mean probably 1.5 cups of fluid)? That's much more rare.
We may have only begun, but already we've experienced things couples who've been having sex for years have only fantasized about. And I truly believe it's a result of the principles we learned while we waited. Waiting doesn't have to make you feel deprived of sex. In fact, it actually prepares you for the best kind of sex there is.

Below is a list of things my husband and I learned during the wait, and those things are making our sex life exceedingly pleasurable and meaningful. If you've already had sex, no worries! You can always recommit to waiting and look forward to the pleasures and rewards that follow when you do. Or you can also just go ahead and apply the tips below to ensure a more satisfying sex life:

1. Good sex takes humility.

One of the most shocking things I learned about sex prior to having sex is that it's not an instinct you just follow; it's a skill to be learned. You may be extremely horny but that doesn't in any way mean you know how to deliver. Let's face the facts. One in three women have never even experienced an orgasm in their marriage. A much greater percentage of women don't get to experience it often or all the time.

My husband and I didn't panic about that figure since we took the liberty of reading books before our wedding night to learn the common mistakes couples make and the right way to make love. Orgasms don't just happen; it's not just about the hormones. You prepare for it. The better informed you are, the better you'll be in bed.

Unfortunately, men overestimate their ability to satisfy their wives, and wives are sometimes too nice to tell the truth or ignorant of it. Learn about clitoral stimulation, the science behind orgasms. I read The Act of Marriage by Tim and Beverly LaHaye.

Also, learn to communicate openly about whether or not you feel good so that your partner can adjust to you. It's actually rather exciting to learn different ways to pleasure each other and to guide your partner through them instead of assuming you both know what you're doing based on your pride or instinct. You must be interested in being better in bed for your spouse. Challenge yourself.

2. Sex needs patience.

Guys can do without the foreplay because they're literally a lot more straightforward than us females and inherently more immediately stimulated enough to have intercourse without warming up. But for the ladies, foreplay is equally important as the actual sex because it usually won't be as great without the sexy music, dim lighting, and scented candles. Men, don't rush through the foreplay.

On our wedding night we took it slow and I told him how deep he could go depending on how much pain I could take. Little by little I let him go deeper. There was little blood, about half a teaspoon.

If sex turns out to be quite disappointing, BE PATIENT. Try and try again, always with love and tenderness. It gets better if you apply the things you read. Always take your time to enjoy each other and not rush through the process. I promise both partners will experience better sex.

3. Sex requires self-control and selflessness.

One of the worst things that can happen in sex is when he ejaculates too soon. I appreciate how my husband would ask me if I'm coming when he feels like he's about to. He's really made it a habit to check up on me. While it's easy to get lost in the moment and let lose, he's never forgotten or left me behind. Whenever I say not yet, he adjusts by taking a moment to pause to control his urges. When I say he can come cause I'm about to, he allows himself to release and we orgasm together. This is what I mean when I said it takes two selfless people to enjoy sex fully. Your focus cannot be only to be pleasured but to satisfy your partner and your partner in turn should make it his goal to satisfy you. Some people are more in it for themselves than they are for the other person. That's when one party is usually left unfulfilled. The best sex happens when a person is focused on fulfilling his partner's needs before his. It's a team effort.

4. Sex thrives in an affectionate environment.

Someone once told me that if sex is the event, affection is the environment. Sex may be a one time big time thing for a guy but to a woman, it is holistic. Everything should come full circle. I happen to be blessed by a very affectionate husband who loves to hold my hand, caress my hair, and hugs me from behind several times throughout the day. Those light touches and words of affirmation culminate in the bedroom at night.

Your sex life is linked to all aspects of your marriage, and likewise your sex life affects your entire marriage. Husbands and wives should be loving to one another, and sex is one of the ways to express that love. And I learned that in marriage, you are meant to be pursued: No one should be able to just make you come; you must continuously be valued by your husband.