Need advice on affair situation
 

Hi all bros,

I seldom post here but i thought i would post about this since it's the first time i'm about to do something like this...

I know this female friend for about a few months. Her husband happens to be a friend of mine as well. Their marriage has been stagnant for a while now and they haven't had sex for ages (months?). From all the stories about married couples that i've heard, I think it's fairly common for a marriage to take out the romance in a couple's lives. So anyway i've been chatting with this girl for a while now and recently got alot closer to her. Then one day she confessed that she's starting to have feelings for me and i happened to start liking her as well. So about a week ago we met each other in secret and we kinda did the usual first date things... talked, held hands, and kissed a little. Obviously we got even closer after that secret date. And now we're gonna meet again in a few days time, and i'm pretty sure this time there'll be more than kissing if you bros know what i mean.

I'm feeling slightly tentative about this cos it's kinda sinful to have an affair with a married person. I hope it's just gonna be a temporary fling and she'll go back to her husband eventually, but you never know. I also don't really wanna hurt her or anything like that cos i do like her as a friend. But our attraction for each other is real...

So I guess what i wanna ask is how do u bros feel about having an affair with a married girl friend? I'm really worried things might get messy after some time, but we really like each other. Any of u have some personal experience and would like to share share and gimme some advice? :D

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Don't do it. Her husband is a friend of yours and if he finds out......who been screwing his wife behind his back.....

You will also be named as the third party if things gets messy like a divorce.

You reap what you sow. :rolleyes:

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Bro,

I may not be a expert in affair of the heart but I know for sure is this. DO NOT mess with married or other people wife especially if you also happen to know the husband.

Every guy love to have a little fun once in a while. Its ok if you flirt with each other but getting committed into a relationship with a married gal, you just be asking for trouble.

You may not feel anything about it now, I am also not sure if you are married too but if you are married and you found out that your wife is cheating on you, how would you feel???

Mad, Sad, Jealous, Feel like killing someone??? All these feeling do not seem nice right?

Be friend, good friend but anything beyond that, to my opinion, is a NO GO.

Hope this help... Cheers

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u want to do it,be prepared to face the consequences.but would advised u not to,not worth the trouble cos its gonna be ugly shld things dun turn out the way u want it to be.so many other gals ard,y her right?move on bro.just my 2 cents worth.

Cheers
SJG

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u r a bastard if u did her..i hated such ppl most:mad:

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Pls think with the BIG HEAD rather than the small head.

If she ended up divorce and want to marry u, will u accept the marriage?
More ever u know the husband.......

If u r marry and some friend of u want to bank u wife, how would u feel? How would u react?

If u r thinking with u BIG HEAD u should not be posting here......

Re: Need advice on affair situation
 

Thanks to all bros for the replies here.. sammyboyforum is crazy active. 20min and already got 5 replies.. madness

All the replies have made me feel humbled and a little down to be honest...

To give a little more details on the situation, i'm single. We're both still young (mid 20s) and she got married a little too early. She actually didnt' wanna get married with him at first but reluctantly agreed and now she has regretted her decision ever since. Even before i came into the picture her marriage was going downhill.

But i guess this all does not change the fact that i shouldn't have any affairs with her.

Feel free to post more advice if you guys feel like it though.. always appreciate the comments. :)

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20 mins 5 replies is considered slow liao,stay here longer and u knw wat i mean.u r correct,wat we say cant change the fact or change ur decision on wat u gonna do.the final decision is urs.like i said earlier on,just be prepared to face the consequences shld u choose to go for it.just dont regret and come back here to whine.that will be the last thing we wan to hear frm u.;)

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just ask yourself, what do you want from her? For sexual satisfication? Long term relationship? Or just for temporary fun?

i think you should make your mind clear when you mess with this kind of situation. If you want her to be your wife, well, ok, just do it, with losing a "friend", and with tarnish your reputation among your friends.
If you just thinking of play play only, you better stop it, as you are not only broken a family, you are going to hurt that gal in the future as well...

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Pls refer to Longman n understand the word FRIEND 1st,b4 asking for advice :eek:

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My friend, relation does sore sometime and it's up to the couple to sort things out. Being label a 3rd partly is no fun. Put yourself in the husband's shoe and how will you feel if your wife is having an affair with someone you know.

Like some brothers said, what do you actually want from her? Will you marry her if she had divorce her husband? How will ppl look at you marrying someone's wife that you know??

Please think using your big head!!!

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Dear friend, has it occurred to you that if she can do this to her husband behind his back, someday IF you were to marry her, she COULD do the SAME thing back to you?

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My hunch is, bro Gary is gonna bonk her, and real soon....inregardless of what we may advise, his heart is going closer and the feel is getting stronger....but don't do raw hor. So Bro Gary, have fun but do bear the consequences. If she is w/o kid, then with such cool marriage, who knows, she herself may already wanted a divorce.

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I agee with bro humpcheepang that gary is confirm going to bonk his friend's wife... Just a word of advice to gary, if you do wish to listen to us........

Just DON'T Do It......

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threadstarter,
have u heard of a chinese phrase/proverb that says "fren's wife cannot take/eat"?

wan to have discreet relationship oso cannot tau chiak ur fren's wife mar. Not steady lor. U must talk to her and encourages her to saves the marriage instead...